When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan…

Not even Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk have everything go their way all the time. Setbacks, obstacles, mistakes and failures are inevitable for anyone daring to achieve anything. That is just part of being alive in this spectacular and unpredictable world we live in.
Inevitably, we will feel regret. But when we dwell on regret, and when it prevents us from moving on and living our lives, then are a few things we can do in order to reframe our failures so we see them as lessons. We can see obstacles as opportunities. And we can turn past failures into the building blocks of our dreams. In today's KZbin video, I share how to do exactly that.
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[@mettacine]

Thank you, Todd. I needed this today. I feel such pain about the way my life has gone. I seek to observe the pain, but some things run deep. Your messages help. Namaste.

[@audbod4140]

Funny lol, I was just thinking exactly the same.

[@seanmclaren8829]

The worst overarching regret is realizing how much of one's life one lived in distraction, illusion and unconsciousness. Why didn't one wake up sooner, decades ago, before messing so much up and piling on so much grief and remorse?

[@jewel2022now]

Just be thankful if it happened now, most lived and died without

[@jewel2022now]

And forgive and love yourself. You deserve it

[@matthewjogden]

You are saving lives with your work. ❤️

[@doc2590]

Today I saw a title of a song called "You ruined my life" I immediately thought, it's not your life, it's just a situation, experience or circumstance. It's not your life. I hope more and more people realise that they are using the word life incorrectly all the time. They are usually talking about an experience, situation or circumstance. They are usually never talking about their actual life.

[@jewel2022now]

Yes, because life is your aliveness❤

[@PaulaWilson444]

I forgive myself i forgive them all. I resonate to this more than the Hopono pray. Love your channel it truly has come as the perfect time for me. I was having a serious panic attack when i woke up, I've been listening to loads of your videos this morning. Amazingly helpful & beautiful. Much Love & many thanks🧡🙏😊

[@debbietodd8547]

Thank you Todd.......this was the medicine I needed, felt as though you were speaking directly to me. Fear and regret have left me without a home and roots in my 60's and that is hard to believe it will not be forever, especially now with the ever rising cost of even a modest home. This will definitely be one I listen to over and over, a balm for my soul. 🙏💜

[@inathomson7730]

Thank you for sharing.. I resonate with you... being 60 has brought a dark night of the soul.. feeling the only one is part of it.. good to hear there are others and there's a way of dealing with it

[@RenneCR]

I know this is difficult...know that you are on your path

[@philipfoley982]

This is totally where I am in my life at the minute my mind is torturing me at the minute it has totally sucked the life out of me and left me empty and these around me. I feel useless please god I will be ok I am so fear full

[@ChristineAlexandria-vv3qr]

When you are going through the dark night of the soul it can be very difficult. I think I’m coming out of mine, but I’m also very aware of what is about to happen on earth, you would have to be completely emotionally void to not feel fear over it. God help us all

[@traceyomalley3797]

Sending peace and love ❤️ everything happens for a reason be kind to yourself remember we are not our thoughts🙏forgive those who hurt you you only have to say ot in your heart God bless ❤️

[@Ks-di3xs]

What would you say to a young person if they told you those words? Acknowledge the inner pain. Pick up the inner child, hold them. Tell them everything is going to be ok. Tell them, right now, you are ok. Tell them you love them. Then just hold the child compassionately with tender love. Sit there until the heavy feelings leave. They will leave. The child who is afraid is you. God is with you and will walk through this ever changing period of time in your life. Be gentle and kind to yourself. You need love. No judgement, not a condemning, but pure acceptance and love, where you are. Perhaps, listen to 'Its Ok" by Lauren Ostrowski Fenton. 🙏

[@jewel2022now]

​@Ks-di3xs yes, very too. Give your pain love.

[@jewel2022now]

Go out daily and do something you love, you need this

[@sianjones1056]

I can’t forgive myself for not going to see a loved one more often .and it was his funeral on Monday .I love and miss him so much . I regret not going and feel so guilty .It is the final word as I can’t change it now it’s too late and now I have to live without him .

[@Ks-di3xs]

It's very difficult I know. In the moment you made decisions based on what you felt and knew. Now, you have new thinking and feelings. So, today's decisions are not based on yesterday's feelings and knowing. We all would choose differently if we got the chance to do it again. But based on today, how will you live and choose so you can know that every turn, you thought it through, and made the best decision(s). 🤔 I believe everything is as it is. We choose how to go through the experience. So, maybe, you weren't to see him what you call the last time. The last time, was before that. It's ok. Let it be ok. You chose what was right for you in that moment. No 2 moments are ever the same. 🙏

[@jewel2022now]

You can talk to him now as well. He can hear you. And you will see him on the other side. Just remember you did the best you could at that time, you cannot expect more. Give yourself more love. And just pray and talk to this person now❤❤❤

[@vindyasachithry2381]

💙💙💙

[@morganhughes6035]

Many blessing Todd for sharing your teachings in such an simplistic manner. You have transformed ancient history into our modern world 🙏

[@user-lw5kt2tt7k]

Every time I listen to this it just gets better. In a social media world filled with spiritual judgement and anger fueled shorts here covered over with a trending song, finding your channel only as recent as this year has been one of the best things to happen. Your messages are so beautifully thought provoking, and delivered in such a way that any one who takes the time to listen and absorb can only ever improve themselves, be kind to ALL and find peace. Words are so powerful and you put them together in a way that is so inspiring ❤

[@TonyBMW]

Some things are just so hard to let go of

[@klanderkal]

Im 62, Made a foolish mistake that lost my career job. I have incredible regret that cannot be reframed., or forgiven. I stressed so bad, im experiencing anxiety, insomnia,... and severe depression. It's paralyzing, with no desires, no love for life at all. I don't like living., and see no future for me. Ive called 988 numerous times, because .... i hate myself. My thoughts are negative, regret, apathy, guilt,... and ruminate the coulda shouda wouldas. .... You are such a beautiful and peaceful person. I envy your perspectives and viewpoint of life. 🙏 4:45 - 5:30 is just not true ✌️😔

[@nildarivera9660]

Hi Todd Once again given us something amazing to feed our soul. How timely is this message at a point in my life when I was ready to hear it. Regrets that I wasn't good enough Mom by someone else's standards. Regrets that I could have done more to change their mind set. And the Regrets, that I put on myself that if I stayed, I could have changed their mind. All the wouldn't couldn't , shouldn't Thank you for allowing me to see now( 3 1/2 years) later that at the time, It wouldn't haved ended any differently. Because the circumstances was already decided. I was just fighting too hard to not let go so that I wouldn't have regret. And to hear you validate that I don't need to allow myself to be consumed by all of it, is truly starting to help me be in such a much better place. Bless your heart Todd. 💜🫶

[@raegomez8323]

Thank you 🙏 I feel that in 30 minutes you taught me the true key to living life RIGHT NOW with no more regrets. 🌞♥️💫 🏝

[@jewel2022now]

Start to forgive yourself too.

[@andreadahan6813]

Thank you Todd. The clarity in your words and your voice is so compelling. I love your talks, so much wisdom and love for oneself. Blessings 📿💜📿

[@Emma-of1oe]

Best channel on KZbin.

[@mariaapisa1993]

Thank you.

[@krishnapartha]

Beautiful lesson and wisdom here. Thank you for this sharing. It’s helping millions of people I guarantee it.

[@jewel2022now]

Yes, if it helps you, then you will pass it on

[@mariaelbasotillo871]

Thanks for this, Todd, last week I experienced something with my ex and you help me to clarify my mind, and identify emotions, frustrations, expectations that sank me in dispair…

[@SusieQ1987]

Thank you! This is so helpful to bring us back to the here and now. How peaceful could the world be if everyone practiced this?

[@Nauman1986]

Beautifully explained. Thank you

[@paultkc]

Thank you

[@ichbinich1602]

thank you. very true. i only wonder why i was and still i am here and why i had to experience all these sad happenings and this poor and sad life. we don't know what comes after that. no one knows or can know.

[@Ks-di3xs]

Because, when you finally get through it, you actually have something to give to others. Encouragement, hope and compassion. This is how we develop compassion. This is how we rid ourselves of old baggage . But, it will all be useful. It will help others. There is no greater feeling experience than to help a brother, because you know exactly what they are going through. 🙏

[@jewel2022now]

Yes, so true. Now you can also spend time looking at the beauty of nature. Appreciate

[@michaelperry8177]

Todd was wondering where 🤔 you are filming from great wisdom thank you 😊

[@ToddPerelmuter]

I think it's Nepal

[@ingadastikiene67]

Very grateful to hear your calm voice it gives soft feeling to my heart, which always been seeking for this ❤

[@lisaandreas5028]

Thanks for all you do!

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thanks so much for your generosity 🙏

[@hemar7543]

Truly amazing👌👏💛

[@av26]

Invaluable advice 🙏❤️

[@ettecram]

Thank you so much ❤ Perfect timing after crushing break up/betrayal of what I thought was THE great love and final chapter 😢 Learnt a few great lessons and on the path. Your little giggle and the smile in your voice is comforting and sweet ❤

[@awakeningstories1560]

Love your insights! Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@sadie4587]

Thank you ❤

[@krystalwirth9646]

How do you let go of a past mistake? Life continues to fwd a mistake and taint my new life chapters. It's out of my control, when a past boss continues to Slander your name! Destroy thy reputation. Ive tried to let go, yet it continues to haunt me, how to move on n let go?

[@ToddPerelmuter]

It really takes trusting the universe that the universe has bigger plans in store for you, even if we can't see them right now. Instead of trying to do something, let the universe do it for you

[@Ks-di3xs]

Yes that is hard to let go of. One time I was being slandered so severely. It was hard for me to believe that the people I helped were the ones who were doing it. I prayed over the situation. The Lord told me not to touch it. That meant for me to just leave it alone, and not try to justify myself or rectify the situation with any of the people. That He alone was going to take care of it for me. It was very hard, but I trusted God. Within 6 months, every single person who heard slander against me came to me and told me how they did not believe the lies. It actually had a reverse effect. One person even said they listened to me on the radio weekly program so that they could see for themselves the bad things that were being said. They called to tell me, that instead of finding how bad I was, they got healed of old very deep wounds. Now that is exciting. And this really built my faith and trust that God will handle it, and will turn it around. It also gives us a chance to inquire of ourselves if any of the slander is true. That gives us an opportunity to make changes privately on ourselves. God bless you and may you let go. You know who you are. That's all that matters.

[@440SPN]

Ho oh pono pono❤. I forgive the a...holes and I forgive myself.

[@johnmcintyre6687]

Hi Todd thanks for this what kind of camera do you use?

[@ruthkummer2654]

Thank you!

[@D_Isness]

TY, Todd❤

[@shabbos-goy9407]

This essay really helped me. I’ve been in a “regret doom loop” for too long. Hopefully I can get out of it..😊

[@jewel2022now]

You bet, if its in the past....then dont worry, its gone. Nothing will bring it back. So let it go. Try spend more time in the now. Be quiet snd present now

[@oldforestroad]

This was so helpful, many thanks Todd! @todd I think you should write a book.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Ha, thank you so much. I took your advice and I have written 5 books ;) You can find them on Amazon

[@8no1likeme-infinitestar65]

❤❤❤

[@TreyKindlinger]

How does this work while under current violence that no one will fix?

[@litalbachar368]

Does anybody know where is Todd walking in the end? Is that north of Thailand?

[@vsi4cs703]

I believe you because you look like Jesus

[@lisaandreas5028]

😂

[@SandraHernandez-cn5nj]

Life sucks

[@palstuart6891]

I forgive them all ‘ most ‘ 💙💯🥃 25:30

[@cady3997]

❤

[@Light_Worker]

Not all choices we make is our fault. Some people have circumstances where they involved with legal business who lied even in legal documents to take advantage of others who are suffering today. Are you saying it’s my fault that I trusted someone who provided me with the true legal documentation ? And now I have let go allowing them to strive in exchange of my life on earth ? Only weak people letting go there dreams and that’s not healthy either.

[@filmsr4ever_andever863]

The google part is not true. Here in Sydney sadly they work as a heriarchy. Like a feudalist pyramid. Some employers of lower cast can’t mix with the lesser important ones. Is actually forbidden for the guys of the kitchen for example to speak to the people from the office except to serve them

[@BATgirl57]

Wise, helpful words from a lovely kindhearted soul. Thank you Todd 🙏. ❤️. ☮️

[@kekasarkar7846]

Thank you.