When the avoidant IMMEDIATELY jumps into a new relationship

[@SSJavenger]

My FA ex called from an unkown number yesterday at the middle of the night. Her friend was talking, i was of course trolling them and they tried to figure out if i have a new girl. Told them yeah, i appreciate this but it's too late. Felt so freaking good, it seems the breadcrumbing has begun, i don't know if ill get more, but that was so good.

[@3lg3r4ld6]

People who dated avoidants should be granted front seat row to watch how karma gets them

[@corafinney353]

Yep. I didn't matter. Moved right on

[@Ahicksaf]

well yes its not your responsibility to deal with it. But it doesn't mean they didn't care if u care enough to be factual. Its their attachment style that triggers them to change partners.

[@Flufero23]

Or, the tell you they have "reverted to their old independent self", and monkey branch to another. Lol.

[@Flufero23]

They will dump you like a pile of s*** by the side of the road. After time passes, I am happy to be FREE!!!

[@renicantabille]

Yes.. at first they said they dont want to make any connection , yet as time goes by, u know that they already had another situationship with another... it feels like u really are nothing, like u never even exist in their life... it hurts a lot but i understand that if they cant see ur value, then u shouldnt see their value as urs... u too deserve to get as much love as u gave to them...

[@3lg3r4ld6]

12:12 Genuine Curiosity: how can she be a good person and at the same time have jumped into a new relationship shortly after we brokeup?

[@shanicehunt9548]

He's been with her for 3 months im cooked 😢

[@taylorbee4010]

Or they hide it for a minute

[@feelnice33]

Is monkey branching and triangulation the same thing? When a partner keeps talking about a type of person they are attracted to even if you are in a relationship and flirting with others in front of you, what kind of behaviour is this? Please coach I really need answers

[@Sidera17]

No, this is actually more like boundary-testing or manipulation. Boundary testing in that they're seeing what kind of behavior you'll tolerate, or trying to push the boundaries of what you'll tolerate so you'll let them behave more in these microcheating ways. Manipulation in the sense that they could be trying to make you jealous, undermine you and make you feel insecure so you won't leave THEM, inflate their appearance of desirability, again, so that you won't leave THEM, punish you somehow, or even what I call "false vulnerability.". "False vulnerability" is when they don't try to hide the flirting and openly talk about people they feel attracted to because "our relationship is so strong.". What it actually is IS a form of gaslighting reassurance: telling you and showing you transparently so that you feel reassured they WON'T act on it and you let your guard down.

[@كونستانسكورميير-فاكر]

What if they do it as revenge as well? Do they normally call the ex at some point when there was actually love at one point? Does arrogance play any part in this or is it a fake arrogance?

[@olzzon]

I love you channel coach ❤️ but when these types of behavior are in place , like monkey branching and instant in a new relationship or already had behind your back , and on all the apps instantly or behind the back we you were together , please don't give the narcissist's the " pretty" word avoidant, gotta keep these aside of what is what and this behavior is the act of an narcissist....been there , and these people narcs are demons , caling them avoidants is sugarcoating the most horrible experience you ever have to go through. Lot of the Content are often pure narcissism and needs to be addressed like it is to protect and educate people against them because they are what they are and calling them avoidants is unfair they don't deserve that term because what they are and the damage they do to people is something no one can grasp , understand if you have not gone through it ourself ....words cant describe it enough .

[@annewoodcock-rr8zv]

Yes. I'm stuck on the part where Coach Ryan says "they aren't doing this TO hurt you". If my ex said he needed to be alone and then went straight back to his other ex (so he lied) AND is now flaunting this relationship on social media... I struggle to believe that he doesn't want me to hurt. This is more than 'avoidance'.

[@كونستانسكورميير-فاكر]

@@annewoodcock-rr8zvI’m going through this exact thing now … went no contact for a bit but then I said something on the gf brothers Facebook page …. People that are just straight a$$holes and no morals just irritate me so much - people have no respect for marriage - including my husband or ex or whatever he is ..

[@ana-91-11]

Agree, i was and I'm still traumatized even after two years. It's not narcistic behavior but it is emotional abuse so it is emotinal abuser. No one can understanding, only if they were in that situation, that's true.

[@taylorbee4010]

#ramonaflowers

[@frootypie]

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