when they don't like you back.

[@HelloKatyxo]

a much needed pep talk for all of us! call me dramatic or cheesy or whatever you want, but I don't care. It needed to be said! xo K

[@implussed]

did you delete comments? all of them are glowing lol

[@implussed]

@Samantha I think it's fair for her to delete comments on her own video, it just seems weird to pin a comment saying "say what you want I don't care" but there are no negative comments anyway bc they were all wiped out lol

[@implussed]

Also I agree with the whole "no one owes you a third date" kind of thing, Brooke Miccio has also been having public breakdowns over a dude who hit it and quit it

[@HelloKatyxo]

Hi there! I deleted 2 comments in total that weren't constructive and were just mean. Your comment here is constructive and offers insight so I will not delete it (for example). We can agree to disagree on the concept of my video and that is fine! True, there is far worse happening in the world and I can agree with that point completely.

[@HelloKatyxo]

2 mean comments were deleted. They weren't constructive, they were just mean. I will not delete constructive criticism!

[@TheresaDelHaze]

She is literally the type of friend I always wanted but never had in my life.

[@neilaata9933]

Me too.

[@HelloKatyxo]

we can be friends!! :)

[@briannabarholm1673]

Theresa del Haze she’s the friend I still don’t have in my life, and I’m 28 😩😂

[@cckk1357]

For sure

[@mg-ti6eb]

You tubers who quit their 9-5 to “””work on other things””” need to watch your videos. YOU ARE KILLING THE GAME. Your videos are so motivating, entertaining, and inspiring. Keep doing you.

[@HelloKatyxo]

I'm so happy to hear this! Thank you :)

[@veerle3]

When you stop searching for them and fully immerse yourself in living in your passion and living from the heart, the love of your life will find you. All divine timing

[@veerle3]

And you have to love and accept yourself fully first.

[@HelloKatyxo]

Love this so so much

[@Kruemmel97]

Veerle W yes yes yes

[@maurakane3917]

People hate hearing this but it is so true

[@Foreverizzy5]

I’m almost 25, and in one year I met someone dated, moved in and engaged. Before this person I avoided dating until I was 23 because I always felt I was never good enough; I have acne scars, chunky, cellulite which I’m insecure about. But at 23 I chose to put myself out there but only because I was ready. I told myself I will only be with someone who makes me comfortable with my insecurities and not insecure. Love is out there, I was ghosted and led on by someone who left me with no closure. But I didn’t give up.

[@melaniesmyth3599]

Foreverizzy5 I’m currently going through the ghosting process. My now ex ghosted me yesterday by blocking me everywhere. I was blindsided and we dated for 9 months. How did you get over it?

[@HelloKatyxo]

This is so, so so sooooo important. You are so RARE. We should never think of ourselves as anything less. We must give ourselves a chance to shine and see what's out there!! XO

[@Foreverizzy5]

HelloKaty thank you Katy! It’s been so amazing following you throughout all of this. I’ve been watching your videos since you were in high school ❤️

[@Foreverizzy5]

Melanie Smyth Hi, thank you for replying to my comment. I think what helped me was that I knew my worth and I wasn’t going to let any man challenge that. So when he told me one night he wanted to be with me and then, weeks later he would avoid me and when I asked him what he wanted he basically just wanted me for my body. That showed me that he wasn’t the one. So I literally took that and put energy into myself, my family and my job. I blocked him, deleted anything to do with him and distracted myself. It’s not easy at first but once you take your energy and put it towards other things he’ll just become a faint memory and nothing more. Number 1 thing= you are not the problem and it’s his loss!!

[@inthepinkvlogs]

Thank you for sharing this! I’m 23 and never had a serious relationship, so this gives me hope! 💕

[@TaylorBurke96]

For me, it has a lot to do with my ego being hurt. I could be totally uninterested in a guy, but the second he becomes uninterested in me, the questions like "why am I not good enough" start entering my thoughts. It's such a vicious cycle, and I'm still trying to learn everyday that you aren't going to be liked by every person that walks through the door, but that doesn't mean there's something inherently wrong with you.

[@sashajolie8995]

U just described me

[@cndbear97]

To your food analogy: you’re probably not eating from your own fridge because you’re bored with what you have. Love yourself in new ways. Do new things for YOU and not in hopes of turning a corner and finding the one. So in the way that you would find new recipes and fail a few times, you should find the best recipes!

[@HelloKatyxo]

I just love everything about this comment!!!!

[@stagestar99]

I relate to this so much, I'm 25 and still feel like I haven't really found someone that "likes me back." What helps me is remembering that my journey is not the same as anyone else's. Just because I feel like I've gotten my heart broken over and over and others haven't doesn't mean I am any less valuable.

[@JemimasOutcome]

Slow Fade is the worst, honestly when I can feel someone pulling away I either over compensate and get too eager because I am anxious or I try to pretend I don't care. I think I did something wrong when really that person is not in the mindset or ready to handle a relationship and obviously sometimes they are just not that into you. What has been helping me is to remind myself to play tennis with the person, I send the ball over and wait to receive it back then repeat. It's too draining to be the only person trying to make something work!

[@MarcellaAboyoun]

i watched this after seeing your instagram story about the negative comments calling you "over dramatic" and with 1000% honesty, after watching the video fully, i do not think you were over dramatic! in fact, i think you were just saying what a lot of people are afraid to admit. i'm positive that a lot of people in their 20s in the dating scene can relate to what you're going through, myself included! as i was watching i didn't think you were being overly dramatic or immature. i think you spoke about what you went through and your thoughts about it in a very mature, honest & real way; all while not disrespecting the guy who slow burned you (lol love that phrase by the way!) and realizing it happened for the best. it made me so so sad to hear about your insecurities, especially because i completely relate and know that many other people probably relate as well. at the end of the day, you have so many people supporting you, a loving family and group of friends, and your health. just think about how many people you impact with your videos and podcast! confidence is such a hard thing to work on but it was so brave of you to admit these feelings you're having and how you were looking in the wrong ways to solve them. you do not need a man to feel beautiful!! once you find beauty within yourself, it will be so much easier to find someone who will support this feeling and not feel the pressure to have them create this feeling for you. much love xoxo

[@MarcellaAboyoun]

ALSO there's no way that these people who are commenting about you being overdramatic or "that there are worse things in the world" haven't found themselves feeling upset or hopeless over a failed relationship. it's human nature to crave love and to be upset when it doesn't work out!! girl live your life

[@filipasofia9529]

wow. this was literally all i needed to hear right now, I'm going through the exact same situation right now. I'm so tired of going on dates, or just simply talking to guys and creating all this hope and then eventually being let down. It's like this vicious cycle that never ends. anyways thank you Katy :)

[@broganmartin6792]

same

[@PedroCarinhas]

Keep pushing Sofia! Vais encontrá-lo eventualmente aha

[@filipasofia9529]

@@PedroCarinhas ahahah ayyy tuga

[@PedroCarinhas]

@@filipasofia9529 tuga está em todo o lado

[@miriamtouc]

Katy! In the last 2 months that I've been following you I have liked every single one of your videos, but these kind are the best! With all of these people in social media pretending to have perfect lives, it's amazing to hear someone being so vulnerable and choosing to empower themselves as well as empower others. You are gold! Thank you so much for all of this!

[@veronica.theswamphag]

WHAT PEOPLE NEED TO REALIZE IS JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE DOESN'T LIKE YOU DOESN'T MEAN YOU AREN'T LOVABLE IT JUST MEANS YOU AREN'T A MATCH WITH THEM!!! WHICH IS MOST PEOPLE!!! YOU ARE RARE AND THE PERSON FOR YOU IS ALSO RARE!!! UNDERSTAND THIS!!!

[@saarahmukaddam6103]

I’m 21, I’ll be 22 in March. I’ve never been in a relationship with any guy till date. And I’m perfectly contented with that. I’m a really emotional person who gives it all to people who come into my life. It was almost never reciprocated back and I used to be the one always getting hurt. The past year healed me in way I didn’t think I needed to heal. I let go of guys who only wanted me for my body and not my heart and mind. I’ve learned a lot about myself and how I perceive myself I’m going to stay single till my intuition tells me he’s meant to stay for the long run♥️♥️

[@gracep1370]

I know this is an old video, but I'm so grateful I found it! I've also been pretty heartbroken from being friend-zoned, and like you I found it extremely helpful to write my thoughts and process how I feel about the whole encounter! Thank you for bringing so much hope and encouragement around this topic. I love what you said about keeping our hearts soft and how the world needs us still. Can't wait to watch the rest of your videos!

[@jennatoth4574]

Katy, I've been watching you since middle school and I'm about to start my last semester of college. Your videos have helped me through some of the toughest times in my life & I feel like I need to thank you for being the older sister I never had. You make the Internet a better place!

[@azurevalleys]

Feel this so much as someone who’s never been on a date or gone further than “talking” whatever the heck that is. It feels like everyone I know has found someone to live life with and that’s never been me. So I’ve definitely been working on being intentional with building friendships and relationships all while that negative voice in my head asks why anyone would event want to spend time with me...so I’m working on improving myself into someone *I* would want to spend time with, which a lot of the time I honestly would.

[@graceroberts7336]

Amelia Rose i relate so much to this

[@DreaLinh]

It’s insane how this comes at the right time. Girls, it’s really all about self-esteem. Since I’ve been bipolar my entire life I avoided dating, cause every time I did I would fall back into a hole of depression. I took a break for 3 years to work on myself, learn to love myself and tried again. It was another disappointment, he did like me back but it wasn’t enough. But this time I stopped blaming myself. I healed a lot quicker cause I knew I’d be fine, and I’m definitely not scared anymore and ready to feel any pain to get to the right one.

[@arwen_m7786]

I needed this! I love a guy, he's 2 years older, stunning with the best jawline, saffire blue eyes and a smile that melts my heart. But he doesn't even know me. It hurts everytime I see him. I needed this. My self esteem hasn't been the same and Im trying to pick myself back up again. Thank you so much xxxx

[@fashionsgirl97]

Katy, I love your vulnerability and rawness on this topic. I completely agree that the feeling of being left alone with no explanation whatsoever, in a room full of expectations, is the absolute worst. It’s definitely a really admirable quality to have hope for something, but I too feel like sometimes we get too carried away with imagining scenarios, thinking about the possibility of a future with someone, etc. that we lose touch with reality. Additionally, I read a few of the comments and I also agree that you shouldn’t immerse yourself in passion projects to silence out your insecurities. I feel like it’s kind of giving in to the hustle culture lifestyle in a way- that as long as your work is making you proud, it’ll help you love yourself. I’ve definitely started to learn (the hard way lol) that no one, nothing else except facing insecurities head on, will help you change your mindset. If you think about it, our insecurities are rooted from our thoughts- thoughts that we’ve been holding on to for years, and can you imagine how long it’ll take for us to reverse a negative thought that’s been embedded in us for so long? I highly recommend therapy for this. Therapy is really helpful in helping hold you accountable to make the positive mindset shift that you were speaking about. I think it’s worth looking into! I’ve only done it for a year, but it really helped give me the tools to reinforce positive thoughts about my insecurities. Also- as a fellow New Yorker, I completelyyyyy get how frustrating the dating scene is. I listened to your podcast episode on it and it was straight on. I would really recommend having fun with dating and not taking it too seriously, and the moment you find yourself overanalyzing situations, to just take a break from it. It helps you recharge and find the energy to put yourself out there again. I wouldn’t recommend dating when you’re in a headspace of insecurities and seeking external validation, because all of that would just come back to you and slap you in the face. Have faith that the right person is out there for you, and honestly they’ll come around when you’re so busy working on yourself that you won’t even realize it lol! Overall, I really loved and admired your vulnerability in this video. I apologize for all of the rambling and random tidbits of advice I attempted to give, but I hope it helps you feel better in some way. 🖤 sending love!

[@chahatc721]

In your date video you tried so hard to sound like you didn’t care and weren’t overthinking when you obviously did. Not saying you shouldn’t be vulnerable and emotional because I am too. But sometimes we also cause our own suffering. Its not always completely the other party. As someone that totally relates with what you’re saying, I’ll just say that it also helps to stop investing so much of your mind and heart early on.

[@DreaLinh]

ckc721 especially since they feel the pressure on the other side. You start pulling away once you realize someone is into you too much before you are ready to give it back. I know all girls would be like “he has to know immediately whether he’s into you”. But it just doesn’t always work that way. I mean yes there are assholes that would lead you on, but I know it from myself that sometimes I just need some time. But if someone keeps coming at me before I realize i want to invest into that person myself...you just start to get lazy once someone else does everything for you and pull away if there’s too much pressure too soon

[@ericahallman7237]

"cook your own food instead of eating out" "my postmates just arrived" hahahaha. it was a really good metaphor but the irony was also fantastic (:

[@erinbrady8844]

been watching since I was 14 and related to you so much now I'm almost 21 and relate to you even more. seriously feel like we are the same person. thank you for this!

[@deadcatvsbanana]

Other people are allowed to not like you, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Getting your hopes up after two dates sounds more like you're not really interested in the guy himself anyway, but more into the idea of dating and him potentially being "your person" - that kind of projection stops you from really allowing yourself to feel the chemistry or lack thereof

[@Fatoomatoma]

That is so true and makes so much sense!!

[@user-yp7yv4ok4t]

These types of videos are what I love for. Everytime I am not feeling good about myself or something going on in my life I always watch your videos and they never stop making me happier and better. Thank you so much, I love you and your videos ❤️

[@djyayis]

as someone who also has felt like “the fat friend” I find it refreshing to feel that I’m not alone in thinking like that. I feel like I’ve been better at doing little things to help my body and I’m here cheering you on Katy! rooting for more success and happiness to come your way 💕

[@rachellgraciee]

The slow fade.... dang didnt know there was a term for what just recently happened to me. It sucks knowing someone lost interest in you, but it sucks even more to blame yourself for it. Gotta keep it pushing and focus on ourselves.💖

[@ohmyrainingducks]

it seems like part of the issue is that since you have all these insecurities about yourself you look for other people to value you instead of you valuing yourself which is why it hits you hard when someone doesn’t give you that. in your work you spoke about receiving criticism and not taking it well because you have insecurity in yourself so it hurt you harder. this whole video was a pep talk to yourself and i hope you do finally find that confidence in yourself because that ironically is when you’ll find a partner because others can see that uncertainty you have.

[@HelloKatyxo]

Melissa - thank you so much for this comment and making me realize this about myself. I need to learn to choose myself, value myself and validate myself. Thank you thank you thank you!

[@ohmyrainingducks]

HelloKaty Katy, Im glad to hear it. I’m glad you took this in a positive way because i realize that being so blunt can be a bit scary, as a longtime viewer and podcast listener it’s been a pleasure seeing your progression as a human. I only hope you see how bright you are too!

[@zairaxpunk]

Boy do I need this video right now oof. Thank you Katy!

[@ilovepalmtrees08]

Wait was this “guy” the one from the “I went on a date” vlog from vlogmas??

[@melrose1999]

june alexander yes

[@amsteichelmann]

Yesss

[@cookiesarelikecream]

scx_22 yeah maybe she shouldn’t have talked too much about the date and the guy in the first date vlog. Probably scared him off

[@yega3k]

scx_22 She didn’t say one date. She also mentioned it happened over a month. That said, you don’t know her story (except for the little you see on KZbin) so take it easy on the language.

[@realdealhannah]

Loved the part where you said you look to someone else to make you feel better about yourself!!! It’s too relatable. I feel that this becomes the root of many toxic relationships.

[@jessejames6688]

I've sooooo been there. I've never been ghosted, but I have had the slow fade. It's tricky because there isn't really room for closure or confrontation or that big conversation. It happens slowly. And because it's a gradual decline, it would be weird to initiate that type of dialogue. So all you can do is move forward. Also-- one thing that's helped me with negative self talk is journaling about it! Make yourself write the positive things. When you receive a genuine compliment write it. Make yourself look in the mirror and then write what you see. Choose to see the good and reiterate it.

[@ajlakovacevic14]

Just wanted to say THANK YOU for this video. Please do not apologise for talking about this. People rarely talk about it. It is so easy to write just do you and the love will come. Sometimes we need to be talking about the ugly things, that will possibly lead to love one day.

[@micaela_c]

You rock Katy, don't stop making these kinds of videos and voicing your opinion because you are changing and inspiring the hearts of so many young women by just being you!

[@kitkatkc9]

My boyfriend of almost two years dumped me out of the blue and blocked me on everything. I needed this video thank you ❤️ the metaphor about cooking your own food instead of eating out helped

[@TheWhisperTexan]

My Fiancee just did that to me last Tuesday and I'm blindsided so yeah I get it.

[@melaniesmyth3599]

Also going through something similar w my ex of 9 months. Happened yesterday.

[@hannahhh..]

Kc here for you all & sending my love because that is so tough ❤️

[@taylorstrickland1222]

My live-in boyfriend of six years broke up with me in November. It’s a HARRRDDD road but I promise it does get better. I’m feeling stronger already, and I can’t wait to see how great we’re all doing by this time next year.

[@jillianmccarthy494]

Katy, you are a GEM. You have the ability to show your vulnerability and that is a skill not all can say they possess. Sending all my

[@HelloKatyxo]

Thank you so much Jillian! This means so much to me. XO

[@bvdkstyle25]

Katy, I feel the same way as you. Especially in my insecurities on how I look and being on the curvier side. First of all, I think you’re absolutely gorgeous and I love your curves! I hope you learn to embrace them and not let silly boys or whatever make you feel bad about your body. Second, you have so many things going for you. You’re intelligent, charismatic, beautiful, and have a soon to be successful freelance career. The right guy will recognize that and love you for all you are! These guys who ghost or disappear do so out of their own insecurities and personal reasons, it’s rarely because of you. Sending you love!

[@PoemsfromParis]

Your videos alway come at exactly the right time in my life and this is exactly what I’ve been going through at the moment. Still getting over someone that slow faded me and this year is really going to be my year. A year of spending time with myself and learning to love myself. Your words are so powerful, please keep making videos like this one ❤️

[@maurakane3917]

Just want to say you look gorgeous in this video, I have experience fizzling out over and over for about 3 years post college. Each one was a bigger blow to your self esteem and really messes with you head! I was just speaking with my friend the other day about how we are so conditioned with dating for it to go wrong in some way and it really hurts us mentally, hang in there, NYC dating is hard(I’ve been there) but as annoying as it sounds everything is part of your journey!

[@CamilleRing-xv3jq]

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for this video. I went through a somewhat similar situation last year. The way we met just felt so magical to me, and we went out on maybe 6 or 7 dates in a little over a month. Then out of the blue he called me and ended things, and I was SO confused. All of the time we spent together went so well. I naturally asked why and he said he had met someone else. But he “hAd FuN”. I’m sure the other circumstances I was in at the time was already trashing my mental health, but this just made me so sad for months. When I reflect back on it though, I could see the signs of him pulling away. But I really thank you for making this and I SO wish this had been made sooner, because when I talked to my friends about what happened they just didn’t get why I was so devastated. I would be rich if I got a dollar every time someone told me “You only went out for a month!” But like you, I’ve always been insecure about myself. It didn’t feel like it had only been a month. I had only dated one other person before him, and never had anyone be interested in me throughout high school and college. I felt like I had given it my all and I was hopeful. I was happy, and that special feeling you have when someone shows interest in you is unlike anything. I truly felt like no one understood me, so thank you for understanding me.

[@TheMakeupwithmarina]

Your videos are seriously so well made and unique!! I love seeing how much work you put into them and how to talk about things other people are too scared to talk about. You’re awesome, thank you!

[@Sophie-ce3xx]

Thank you for sharing this it really is what so many people need to hear !! It’s so hard being vulnerable like that in the internet thank you so much, keep doing you

[@avaraines8669]

Every single time I struggle with something, Katy posts a video verbatim for what I need to hear

[@annac2862]

you've been doing this for over 10 years and have gained a following because you are relatable. STOP apologizing for talking about boys, love, heartbreak etc. it's one inevitable some relationships won't work out. You are someone who people come to listen to because you are so vulnerable. Stop apologizing, because majority of us are HERE FOR IT.

[@chelseaposterli9022]

THIS IS EVERYTHING I NEEDED TO HEAR OMG 🥰 you aren’t alone, I’m literally feeling all of this right now.

[@kimberlyvaquerano4587]

Just bought the temp tattoos! Starting a solo trip next month in Europe and I am so excited to wear them during the trip. Your videos truly inspire me to be my authentic self. I love watching you be YOURSELF. It makes ME want to be MYSELF. Love love love your channel! P.S. you WILL succeed. you are (so, so) BEAUTIFUL!

[@HelloKatyxo]

YAY!!!! You will rock them. Thanks for these sweet words and have a great trip!

[@helenarampersaud]

Your vulnerability has always been inspiring 💛

[@cassiesmith1182]

i love this katy. all of your videos come up at exactly the right time in my life. just started college this past fall and let me tell ya, college guys have repeatedly brought down my self confidence and made me wonder where i went wrong. you are amazing no matter what you may think :)

[@dnkbbst]

I feel your pain. I had to go through this so many times and everytime I said I don‘t have the energy to do this anymore. So I took time for myself for a while.. I listened to my feelings, I meditated and I started to manifest the life I wanted to live. A few months later I found the guy that I always dreamed about and now his my boyfriend. Love is out there and it will happen at the right time. Don‘t lose hope.

[@MrBiebersbabyy]

needed this!! also your hair dark is EVERYTHING. wish i could give you a hug

[@abby1201]

I’ve been watching you since about 2016 and I’m so proud of everything you’re doing. 🥺 I loved this video and I think it’s a really powerful message. You articulate your thoughts so well. Literally everything you say resonates with me. Imo, you’re one of the few influencers who is down to earth & actually creates quality content. As cheesy as it sounds, your videos have really helped me through a lot of growing pains and I’m so appreciative. Sending u soooo much love 💛

[@Coffeeandchill20]

I always come back to this video on my low days, it always hits home. :(

[@jemimaawesomebieber]

Hey katy just wanted to let you know that Jesus loves you so much and you’re so valuable in His eyes xx

[@HelloKatyxo]

This warmed my heart, thank you for this comment.

[@BeautyFashionandMe]

wow this video came at such a great time. I just turned 22 and went on my very first date a few days ago with what seems like a great guy who I got along really well with. he even told me the next day that he wanted to kiss me goodbye but felt like it was too early and I wasn’t expecting him to say that but I’ve been thinking about it ever since, and even though I’m trying to take it easy and not create fake scenarios in my head (good or bad) I can’t help it. we’re planning on seeing each other again this weekend and even mentioned the possibility of a third date and I can’t wait but no matter how hard I try not to get my hopes up too early I feel like I’m already getting attached and don’t want to get hurt if things don’t end up working out. but on the other hand I’m also like "this is too good to be true there’s no way it’ll work out" basically I’m constantly overthinking things and having very conflicting emotions lol I wish we could discuss this in person cause there’s so much I want to express and I’m having trouble writing it down but basically I very much relate to what you said even though I’m at an earlier stage haha thank you for this x

[@focusdopis]

I admire you so much. You are very strong and brave. You allow yourself to be open and raw. It's incredible. You haven't met your match because you're a rare one. But he's out there

[@briannabarholm1673]

your videos are actual ART. I appreciate you & your vibe SO MUCH. & I’m married, but felt so much value in this video even about friendships 👏🏼🖤

[@Ninalatina98]

you are my favorite and most relatable youtuber!!! we struggle with a lot of the same things so you’re most definitely not alone. love you so much katy xoxo

[@lindsiemcnair5368]

i needed this today. so grateful for these 17 minutes. wish it was hours long. ⭐️

[@lorenarienzi2119]

i absolutely love your videos! beautiful intros and so soothing and inspiring to watch

[@sobiyau]

Thank you Katy ❤️Just remember you’re not alone, so so many of us are on that same boat fighting the same tides right along you.

[@kristenelise]

You ARE beautiful and you ARE capable ♥️ your Instagram stories alone give me motivation and inspiration everyday to be a better person, let alone your videos are just SUCH amazing quality in content and in aesthetic. I admire your work so much, and I hope you find that within yourself ♥️ I also completely relate to everything you said in this video. It’s hard to not find validation in other people. But once we find that worth in ourselves, it’s an amazing feeling!

[@kanahsmith7861]

Girl I seriously needed this exact video specifically today, I was so sad last night because of a situation like this and I absolutely needed your positive words 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@CutePinkPearl]

I've recently been disrespected by a guy I was seeing since September and this made me overly anxious when I happened to find myself around him again. I'm trying to get rid of his hold on me and on my emotions because it is destroying me. He keeps coming back and I pushed him away for the first time this week and I'm so proud of myself getting away from this toxic relationship. We need to speak up for ourselves in any situations, I'm done silencing myself.

[@yongbokbinnie752]

I went into the same situation and it almost broke me and my whole confidence and intelligence went away like a bubble. But I've learned to see things in a different perspective and a friend of mine suddenly told me that that person who slowly ghosted me has a lot of troubles within himself and his finances and his family. Then I discovered that it's not about me who is looking for attention and acceptance but that person who couldn't commit 'coz he just wasn't ready

[@kouytrelj]

Every single video you make hits home and is beautifully worded

[@HelloKatyxo]

Thank you so much!

[@pattisglazer]

Thank you for being the most relatable youtuber ever

[@muskanrkhattar3091]

Your videos make me so calm and happy. I absolutely love watching you. Please make more videos like these ❤️

[@ryenschleicher6267]

I really needed to hear every word you said. thank you so much for making this, it helped me so much!

[@kerrigarcia7873]

I really appreciate your vulnerability here, Katy. I do agree with some of the comments expressing concern that your passion projects are still serving as reasons to validate yourself from an external source rather than from within. With that said, no does that well and being your own cheerleader is still a great thing. I’m not trying to be critical just think it’s an important realization. This struggle made me think of a quote I love : "It was when I realized I didn't have to move one inch to the left or the right to be loved by God. That I didn't have to be successful in the worlds eyes, nor powerful, nor eloquent, nor intelligent nor any other thing, that I was simply loved. Deeply, eternally and perfectly loved."

[@cozyfeji]

Literally went through the same thing but he was the one who wanted and pushed for the relationship and we dated for only a month before he ghosted me. Really sucked and went through all though emotions and anxiety you did but with time, journaling, family and friends I was able to move on. This whole situation taught me that no one in this world dictates my self worth except for me☺️

[@hnostudios16]

I feel so blessed and lucky to be a subscriber of yours and to get to listen to all of your wisdom.

[@puntasticpaige]

I really needed this right now Katy thank you so much

[@basketballgirl023]

Girl relate so muchhhh dating is exhausting 22 in nyc trying

[@claireb5521]

Thank you for this!!! Truly see you as an older sister and needed this video in my life

[@kiranr.7223]

KATY YOU LOOK BOMB IN THIS VIDEO!!! You should honestly grow your hair long! Love the makeup too (& the tats LOL)

[@todayischange97]

This video and the comment section made me feel a lot less alone in my feels lol... so thanks everyone 😊

[@TheIsabellV]

What I realize is...When someone likes you, you WILL know. This guy I'm talking to now... makes it easy! He makes dating, talking, hanging out - EASY! and thank goodness. I never question myself on my actions or what I should say when I'm with him. The right guy will make things easy. If he doesn't reply, forget him. You gave him hints, initiated a conversation and he's not picking them up so forget him. Whatever he thinks of you, is HIS problem. His loss anyway!

[@shannongeisler141]

yes yes yes!!!! This has been my life for so long, longing for validation and being rejected in return. As an enneagram 2 who loves relationships with others and affirming words spoken over me, it is so easy to base my worth on what others think or say toward me!! I’m learning so much to love who I am and embrace the life I have in front of me instead of getting frustrated when a guy friendzones me... again 😊

[@emilykulhanek2280]

Loved this! Feel like I can even apply it to making new friends and needing validation in the work place as well. Go girl keep on keeping on. Also please make sweatshirt merch ASAP. Thanks!

[@dreamylove4196]

Thank you for continuing to be honest and vulnerable beaut!

[@bo87rezz]

Hi. I’ve been watching your videos for a long time. And I’ve been watching gurus for a long time. You are an amazing babe. You are an amazing film maker. You are so articulate and such a soothing voice. You are the best beauty filmmaker out there. Some guys are just shy. Any would be so lucky to have you.

[@martinaaa8851]

When you like them but they like your friend and you must suppor them; I swear it’s the worst feeling. I mean they give u attention and the day after they only talk to her, and you don’t want to cry in front of them.

[@jollyranchergirlmem]

Gosh I needed to hear this. This was a huge weight lifted off my chest

[@gabibo4823]

Really needed to hear this. Thank you for always open your heart and sharing your great thoughts with us! Have a beutiful 2020 ✨❤

[@lauradenicee]

This video came as called for! Thank you for sharing both your story, ideas and thoughts - It helps!

[@thisisvan4358]

This happend to me last year and i really needed a video like this. Thank you so much katy ❤

[@AJ-kx3xv]

Everything you say speaks to my soul

[@FallenAngelFallenAngel]

I love your videos gf. 💗 inspiring me all of the time!

[@jenniferg.9017]

Thank you so much for this video Katy. I think girls don’t talk about rejection as much, since it’s typically associated with guys. The fear of rejection from guys has stopped me from numerous times to take chances.

[@nicolaamore9415]

i love this so much! I'm currently not dating because i feel like i have to be my own cheerleader first before anyone else can come behind me. my entire friend group are all in relationships and i am THE ONLY one who isn't haha. and some people make fun of me for it, but i'm teaching myself to not rush into things that I'm not ready for and just be okay with myself for a while. eventually, someone's gonna come around! lol

[@ladana02]

« My postmates arrived » Says Katy right after she rambled about eating out. Love it 😂

[@katielynn3674]

You are like the bigger sister I've always needed! I love this kind of content (as I can relate)! You are awesome!

[@TRUMPmyOSHI]

That term is fits this particular phenomenon well. 👌🏽 In my case, it’s in developing friendships - I will have good chemistry and develop such good rapport with someone and believe I made a good friend. But then they will start distancing themselves more and more even though we initially hit it off so well! I would question why because I know I did not do anything wrong. Then I confided in a chaplain who said I’m autistic? 🙃 .....well apparently it’s a weird phenomenon and I’m not alone. It’s sad to even think you are the “fat friend” you are not even fat or even close to that. 😳 Well glad you are sharing this info! 💕

[@haterslovemeist]

its so crazy how we really are ourselves worse critic. I look at you and ask myself how are you so perfect.

[@ayana1717]

Dear Katy, as a fellow scorpio I understand. The way you had your hopes up, the way you had an urge to share your feelings with everyone (here, on intagram or your podcast). I understand because the lows are so dark that any glimpse of hapiness has to be shared ! But next time, try to protect your hapiness. Maybe he way scared to see how passionate you were about sharing all of this. You can be, but maybe only with him ? I learned the hard way too that the idea of love is sometimes more appealing than the person itself...take care

[@MargaretPG]

Katy and the comment section make me feel less alone. ❤️

[@amsteichelmann]

I wish it was from another perspective like me knowing he is a good guy, but i just dont like him, not enough to try it at all, not enough to even give it a chance..i felt a click once, and after that it was like.. Nothing really moved me, and i know that we cant compare relationships, but i guess you never truly forget the ones that made you want everything.

[@sarabeth]

ummmmmm how did you know that I NEEDED to hear this TODAY? Keep doing what you do...

[@Sophielha]

I find it so inspiring how open & honest you are. It’s so refreshing. Also this couldn’t have come at a better time, I just got slow faded too. For a lack of better words: FUCK THEM :) have a nice day

[@Sophielha]

Also the dark hair is fierce I love it

[@hallieshenton6730]

I’ve tried to listen to her podcast but all the ones from this year say temporarily unavailable when I click on it. Anyone else have this problem??