When We Cry: Mental Health, Masculinity, and Male Identity | James Wilkerson | TEDxLSSU

Every day, millions of men live with mental trauma due to toxic masculinity factors taught at a young age and sustained through life, and are unequipped to deal with it. Left unchecked, this trauma can manifest itself into crimes such as domestic violence, sexual misconduct, and murder. It is important that men understand how the masculinity identity can act as a barrier on the path to mental health, and apply healthy masculinity methods in order to (1) bypass these barriers, (2) break the toxic cycle for future generations of young boys, and (3) help their fellow men remove toxic stigmas in approaching their own trauma, thus creating a healthy male identity. Dr. James Wilkerson is an author, advocate, professor, and two time TEDx speaker in the areas of sexual assault prevention and gender issues. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@DIY3DSkills]

True that... All of that... Just one other thing.... Mental health need constant evaluation and maintenance

[@quentinramecourt6628]

I remember once trying to get out of my bed. At that time i felt like i had a huge weight on my shoulders. Couldn't get up. Honestly i will never miss it. Just beczuse i broke my ankle a few prior to this event. Turns out i was depressed, and with an undiagnosed ADHD. Still am in therapy. Made me understand 2 quintessential things: - a man can cry and still be strong. Accepting your feelings is proof of strength. "Man up" is okay ..... But not by bottling up your emotions. - you matter. As much as your Friends, and your loves ones.

[@independentmusicguy]

Fantastic work, Joey! You nailed it in so many ways! Vulnerability is a key. Tremendous presentation! It takes a helluva man to talk about these issues.

[@johncalhoun9335]

We need more people willing to help others other than just thinking of yourselfs being selfish

[@Hewhois82]

I don't have bros to talk to or to check on me. What do I do then?

[@iim4xii129]

You sit in silence and suffer. Don't worry, you get used to it, and you become somewhat desensitised to various kinds of pain.

[@rogashon1787]

@@iim4xii129 bro did not watch the video at all

[@rogashon1787]

find someone you trust to talk to, assuming you got a lil group of friends find a way to just let them know stuff has been bothering you. itll be surprising if you speak up and see how much people care about you. if your friends are real friends theyll for sure pay attention and support you through it, chin up you got this Godbless o7

[@olive-yello]

Be there for yourself

[@couttsie]

i’m a woman, but i don’t have any friends either. just can’t keep up with anyone because i don’t have the energy, i have too much in my own mind all the time, i find everything overwhelming. so i make sure to be there for myself. do nice things for myself, make myself laugh, be kind to myself when i’m upset. you have to learn to be your own best friend, and to actually care about yourself. i still feel lonely sometimes, but it’s 100x easier when you do love yourself. i wish you the best x

[@D-Will2k]

Growth requires work and patience

[@nabiha969]

i'm going to do my english project on this video!

[@j56783]

same!

[@johnnydiaz1284]

Thank you i needed this. cuz i am the one who checks on the bro's/sisters and family

[@UserName1234]

This was nice.

[@withthisipost3383]

No. I support mental health awareness, especially for men. I do everything I can to destigmatize mental health issue, but I cannot in any way excuse what Will Smith did. I was probably one of his greatest admirers, amazed by his talent, his intelligence, and his success, but I was heartbroken by his conduct on this occasion and cannot ignore this was not the first time he slapped another man (the last one was just not famous). I'm DONE with Will Smith.

[@MysteriousGuy0001]

Everyone trying to help men’s mental health no one will care I Wish that they did but the reality is that no one cares do I want to die no but I don’t want to live so I am just existing for the rest of my life before I die

[@johncalhoun9335]

I can take 10 pills and nobody gon bat an eye ,just gonna ask are u alright like clearly im not they ask that because they dont know what else to ask cuz of no recollection of mental health ,some of us are just better at embracing our problems

[@johncalhoun9335]

Yeah me either, we men are more alone than ever ,family dysfunctional they enslaved by the system dont wanna talk to eachother, only God has are back now ,i lost faith in humanity

[@franciscorios7255]

God made hummanity my brother. His kindness lies within us all. The trick is you must show it to all first for it to be reflected upon you.

[@nuraii123]

first🎉

[@missimorones9859]

Not true DONT play in people persons & things.