Breaking the Silence: Why Men Need to Talk About Their Mental Health | Henry Nelson Case

Breaking the Silence: Why Men Need to Talk About Their Mental Health | Henry Nelson Case | TEDxAUBG

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@mentalhealthcareus Жыл бұрын

Breaking the stigma, supporting men's mental health

@AGlazDonut Жыл бұрын

Every day I want to unalive myself because of stress and depression, one day I will, but at least people are talking about it

@ThePonyd Жыл бұрын

Keep fighting mate. Never give in x

@robertalonso3797 Жыл бұрын

It doesn't have to go down like that for you. You're valued, you haven't developed all your potential, there’s a lot more for you in store. Take the plunge and talk to someone and then keep talking. God bless you

@voyager2135 Жыл бұрын

Hope you are doing better.

@ga_destroyer4343 Жыл бұрын

Do not give in mate, do not give up please man. Please dont

@Koroar Жыл бұрын

@@robertalonso3797 Most average men aren't valued whatsoever.

@robert-hh2ft Жыл бұрын

im a 53 year old man and i agree with what this man has said

@chunwong1807 4 ай бұрын

The more I feel depressed the more I want to stay alone; I simply do not want to see any people

@alementary Жыл бұрын

Great talk

@martinwassenius5725 7 ай бұрын

I tried to talk to a friend once. She told me to seek professional help and ghosted me after that. I believe we are able to reach out and talk but at this stage we have to be really cautious about who we choose to talk to

@malangcamara6276 6 ай бұрын

Im sorry to hear that, i hope that your doing okay? 😊

@liamlynch2115 Жыл бұрын

It’s hard to work a busy job, keep up with the house, parent multiple children, keep up with your health/fitness, all on top of your own personal traumas, guilts, regrets, etc.

@DylanArmstrong07 10 ай бұрын

I'm with you, Brother. The key is balance. But we can't do it alone.

@AndreeaCe 7 ай бұрын

Said every woman, mother. Neadless to add some of them bearly have the time to go to a saloon to have a pedicure or a proper haircut.

@rahuldahoob 5 ай бұрын

@@AndreeaCemore militant faminism

@anonamus9677 2 ай бұрын

It's alot of work I'm sure. Taking care of yourself is hard enough. Bit family is such a blessing. I don't have a family but I always tell fathers or mothers that it is hard ro raise a family and make it nowadays but don't give up because some people Dont realize how precious family is. It's everything. As a man that doesn't have a family and I don't necessarily know why that is I suppose the fact times have changed and people have changed and I've had girlfriends with kids and all but it always doesn't work out. So when I see some man with a family I think of how good he has it whether he knows it or not. Never take it for granted because finding that especially in this day and age is really something special and something to take pride in. I envy men who have family's I admit it because it's wrong to envy but I sure hope they love and appreciate it and don't take it for granted because there's guys out there like me who would love to work there fingers to the bone for there family or folk. I've worked my fingers to the bone for years just for myself and it is what you have to do but it's also joyless to do without family or a wife. So all you men out there cherish it as Im sure most do. I loved my family like my mom and dad and grandpa so much it hurts and hopefully I'll be blessed with a family not just because family is awesome and amazing but I also in a way want to see my dad mom and grandpa and grandma through my children that way they can live on. Cherish your family, cherish your folk and cherish your ancestors their blood sweat and tears are why we are here!

@ByteSizeParodies Жыл бұрын

Fantastic talk Henry!! It's so inspiring to see men taking action to assist with male mental health in our communities! It's just crazy that we are taught to suppress our feelings, so putting this message out there for other men to hear that they are not alone, and that it's healthy...even imperative that we are there for one another when we need support. There is nothing weak about discussing how we feel...in fact it takes a great deal of strength!! Way to get the conversation started Henry!! Someone absolutely needed to hear this message today!

@GBONESLY 3 ай бұрын

Sadly no one care really. Just a few. I appreciate the words

@christophercorson4002 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this. Thank you 🙌🏻💯

@jimmywarner7559 11 ай бұрын

I recently saw a Twitter/X post with 70k likes saying Male Mental Heath shouldn’t be cared about. All the replies were “Only women’s mental heath matters”, “they should join the rates”, and “why should we care”? Yes, I know I shouldn’t care about anyone’s opinions on that godforsaken app, but the sheer amount of likes got to me. I’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts, self harm, and other mental health related issues and got little to no help. I’m not blaming women for the mental health issues of men, but I would like to point out that BOTH genders contribute almost nothing to help. I’m going to therapy and getting better, but I would like to point out that I come from a wealthier family who can actually afford help. As of now, there are very little resources available to some men to afford help. Please donate to any Male mental health organizations or help your male friends and family afford therapy.

@jezreeldaveeraya2951 3 ай бұрын

It's hard to keep up on everything now. It's stressful and there is no one to talk to.

@SSJfraz 11 ай бұрын

Society: "Men need to talk about their mental health". Also society when men try to open up about their mental health: "Man up beta!"

@redeem5858 8 ай бұрын

Notice how feminine men are the most happiest type of men and masculine men aren’t. I think men need to embrace their feminine side.

@lycanfx 7 ай бұрын

@Keaton42this is indeed what needs to be done. I'm trying to work on a podcast to do and tackle breaking the stigma and the importance of Brotherhood

@RealTalkRyan Ай бұрын

@@lycanfxHow’s that going man? I looked at your channel. Very awesome goal in wanting to break the stigma around men’s mental health💪🏻

@peterreed9566 3 ай бұрын

I wish men would talk including me but frankly I don't think it will ever happen. Unfortunately society sees men as being toxic by default and that all the ills of the world are their fault, so when men do open up it very, very rarely goes well...sadly I've learnt this the hard way. Even when I'm at my most down I never ever feel lonely. I always prefer my own company and that's why I always decline invites to social events and that includes my son's wedding next year. Thankfully he's very understanding and we've agreed that we will celebrate separately from the main event.

@HypnotizinDetailz Ай бұрын

Thank you Henry! 😊🙏🏻

@chanchalpandey7633 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the reminder sir❤

@helenkornilova9849 7 ай бұрын

Very great and valuable insight! Unfortunately this video was released a couple of weeks too late.....

@KlimentStamenkov Жыл бұрын

Brilliant talk Henry!! Such an important topic you’re shedding light on!

@JodieHill Жыл бұрын

So proud!! ❤❤

@adayinthelife89 Жыл бұрын

Been going though a crisis myself. It is so hard to find support, even when you do it is the same man up laced talk. Support groups are non existent. And for what ever reason getting mental health support has to be blocked with unnecessary hurdles to even receive help.

@namrataraitani4509 Жыл бұрын

one of the best talks I have ever heard, thank you so much for this!!

@dizzylee7215 10 ай бұрын

Thanks man. This subject has become more and more relevant. It seems like men are looked upon by society at large, as unfavourable and made to feel worthless. 😊

@Rubberyball Ай бұрын

in a year this have gained only 50k views ONLY 50k views let that sink in

@hughmungus1501 Жыл бұрын

As a male, the only way i'v survived without ending my own life is by taking a complete embrace to a nihilistic and synical point of view on the world. This way i can avoid feeling my true emotion, only holding on to the materialistic things like money to keep myself alive.

@Lemeilleurdetaillant 9 ай бұрын

Me too,i so difficult but money help a lot

@matty8272 5 ай бұрын

Mens mental health sumed up in two words. "Im fine". End of conversation.

@ThatCorporateLawyer Жыл бұрын

Lets go!!

@desert_druid_xD Жыл бұрын

I'm an engineer who wants to become a lawyer, you are an inspiration

@foodchainer2722 5 ай бұрын

A close friend of mine reached out, we also happened to be close friends 😂 jokes aside, lots of love to you man for getting up there

@iliketofish6966 Жыл бұрын

I need someone to talk to I don’t think I can take it anymore I tried to commit suicide twice and failed. I don’t want to feel lonely and worthless anymore I lost everyone I loved in my life and I’m lost.

@charanms5877 11 ай бұрын

Hey you alright buddy??? You're not alone ok. I can listen. I'm here

@renterianathaniel3980 7 ай бұрын

Survival above all else, guys. At the end of day you just gotta survive..

@ricedonut6567 2 ай бұрын

Women: “You have no idea what’s like to feel alone and have no one to talk to” 🙂

@peterreed9566 3 ай бұрын

Men definitely need to talk about their mental health but forget it because for the vast majority men it's never go to happen. I wouldn't do it and not one guy in my male friendship group would. A number of us have learnt from bitter experience that this is a luxury we can't afford because when we've tried it has been turned against us. Once bitten twice shy. In our group we've realised there is only one person you can trust 100% and that is yourself.

@Koroar Жыл бұрын

And then what? What happens when I talk about how unbearable my life is and how I have no choice but to end it myself soon? What changes? Literally nothing. Maybe people laugh at me and mock me for it, use it against me. That's it. This whole "talking" thing is just one huge distraction from the reality that most of us are living horrible lives. Talking won't solve money problems, it won't solve health problems, it won't make me more attractive or give me a chance to ever experience love, it won't give me a second chance. So why would anyone even bother.

@ThrivingQuietly Жыл бұрын

You have to find the right person to talk to, not everyone will laugh and mock.

@caramelflavor_94 6 ай бұрын

I'm sorry you feel that way. But also I'm sure there are people out there or even around you caring about you and loving you. If you feel not, there are plenty of emergency numbers for mental health support. Just type that in in Google and you'll find it. Also, I don't feel like talking is useless or doesn't change a thing. It can make you feel relieved to let off steam or less alone talking to a confidant. Friends and family may can give you financial support. But more importantly, in my opinion, emotional one. Maybe you'll consider the things I said. Anyway, I hope you know you're worth it and deserve to be happy and that you will make better soon. 💞

@EbanGeorge 5 ай бұрын

I’m a new KZbinr and THIS is what my channel is about. I’d love to create a community because honestly I want to help others and also my life severely lacks likeminded people to talk about this stuff with 😢

@icingcake 7 ай бұрын

Let’s be real - in professions like the military, law, medicine etc., ruthless competitors will use any admission of vulnerability like this to get ahead of you - he can talk about it now that he’s out but good luck otherwise

@yai837 Жыл бұрын

4k views? If was the title ”womens mental health” What you think would the views be?

@BloodFangedWolfie Жыл бұрын

Viral.

@jaysouthmusic8230 Жыл бұрын

Way over a million

@JohnDoe-id5ih 10 ай бұрын

Million

@kethan8222 4 ай бұрын

Here are 20 important points from Henry Nelson's TEDxAUBG talk on why men need to discuss their mental health: 1. **Breaking Stigma**: Societal expectations pressure men to stay silent about emotions. 2. **Healthy Coping**: Talking prevents negative coping mechanisms like substance abuse. 3. **Emotional Strength**: Expressing emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness. 4. **Reducing Isolation**: Speaking up reduces feelings of loneliness. 5. **Mental Health Crisis**: Male suicide rates are higher due to repressed emotions. 6. **Challenging Masculinity Norms**: Men are conditioned to prioritize toughness over vulnerability. 7. **Building Empathy**: Talking about struggles fosters understanding and compassion. 8. **Improving Relationships**: Open communication enhances personal and professional relationships. 9. **Role Models**: Men who talk about their mental health become positive examples for others. 10. **Addressing Trauma**: Discussing emotional pain helps men process trauma healthily. 11. **Preventing Violence**: Bottled-up anger can lead to aggression or violence. 12. **Mental Health Awareness**: Raises awareness that men are equally vulnerable to mental health challenges. 13. **Creating Safe Spaces**: Men need environments where they feel safe to share their emotions. 14. **Self-Compassion**: Encouraging men to be kind to themselves when they experience mental health struggles. 15. **Resilience Building**: Vulnerability strengthens emotional resilience. 16. **Overcoming Shame**: Talking helps men overcome the shame associated with mental health issues. 17. **Therapeutic Benefits**: Conversations can be a form of therapy. 18. **Cultural Change**: Normalizing emotional openness in men leads to broader cultural shifts. 19. **Accountability**: Men who talk about their mental health hold each other accountable for self-care. 20. **Saving Lives**: Encouraging men to talk can reduce the number of male suicides and improve overall well-being.

@kennybegeske8824 Жыл бұрын

All Mental Case People Needs Help From The States

@anonamus9677 2 ай бұрын

It's hard to talk about but I've been very open with it but what is there to do? It won't just go away by talking about it's way deeper than that. I have a doctor who's not a primary care but does see me every month and they do deal somewhat with mental illness, I literally cried for help to her because I just do know what to do anymore my brain and spirit is just totally broken and the best she could do was tell me to go to the emergency room. It was so demoralizing and made my despair even deeper. I want to get well I can't go on like this. There's been days I've woken up to voices in my head begging me to end it. Like a totally different entity in my brain not voluntary at all just begging to do it because it hurts so bad to be this sick my brain wanted release on its own. But I'm trying to get better but realize I can't do it on my own especially with no family whatsoever. If anyone can point me in the right direction for help I would be greatful. Just go to the emergency room is not the answer any doctor should give. It seemed really lazy and apathetic which wasn't what I needed at all. I've had male doctor who would always be way more compassionate and comforting and would actually try. They were good men and good doctors not just script writers. Sorry for the rant just for once in my life I really want to find some help and answers because this quality of life I've had the last year has hardly worth sticking around for. I do not write this for sympathy because I'm just an anonymous poster on the internet. I get the i'm sorry and hope you get well stuff all the time and although i appreciate it, it does nothing. reaching out for advise so I can change and be a better man to myself and friends and the world in general and be able to life with a little joy and peace because I have none because this sickness or whatever it is. I'm a strong man physically and have heart and guts and that's got me this far but it's not enough anymore. I appreciate any feedback and I know youtube is a weird place to ask and vent but i have to give it a shot and others who feel this way do whatever you can, ask as many questions to people in your life doctors or anybody. You have to try to give it all you got to get as well as you can. Anybody who read this thank you and people going through this I'm with you and I feel your pain and don't make the same mistake I did. Please find a way because this doesn't stop and you have fight as hard as you can against it. Not a big religious person especially these days but God bless you my brothers and sisters who struggle. Anyone struggling You're all my brothers and sisters in sorrow but I want you to be my brothers and sisters in healing and hope and finding peace and we have to take a stand with everything you got. The fact I'm able to even say all this says alot. Months ago I wasn't sure I'd be around anymore and ive fought so hard to be here know every single day and it's all clear to me. Give every chance you can and everything you got to do battle against this despair. Just coming to this realization tonight and no longer will I just take it or deal with because it's consumed almost every bit of me and and don't want it to take anymore of me or you who suffer. Peace to you all!

@bishrambinodkhanal4282 2 ай бұрын

What to do when someone just bangs in with more and more responsibility without thinking about their well-being? Even if they ask, and don't mean it?

@pinakiswain8129 Жыл бұрын

No one is there to listen.

@jimbeam257 7 ай бұрын

I'm a Irish queer silver daddy, I love him so ❤

@kennybegeske8824 Жыл бұрын

People With Mental Behavior Issue Needs Help From The States

@Regretamine 9 ай бұрын

I wish I had a network. I couldn’t burden my wife with how I feel. Ironic I guess

@xr763 7 ай бұрын

I don't have any friends, I'm extremely introverted and have social anxiety. This coupled with the fact that I don't like sports and I don't drink or smoke makes it very hard to connect with other men. When I get comfortable, I overshare and I feel people distancing themselves. So I put my walls up again. It's not easy making friends as a man. Most men have friends from childhood and keep those friends as they get older. I was home-schooled for my seconday years and no one kept in contact after college and there were no men in my classes in university, (Journalism isn't very popular I guess). I have 5 brothers but 2 are younger and 3 are married. I have two sisters but it's not the same as having a male connection. The only person I can talk to is God.

@jarvissirhaun4273 9 ай бұрын

Any attorneys in here deal with men's mental health in the workplace. The ECOC is doing an investigation and i wish I could talk to some legal representation. Before anyone says any suggestions remember I'm a single father who's gf contracted ovarian tumors. So she isn't working. So I'm broke. I'm barely hanging on. I go days without eating because I feel my child and gf should eat first. I know everyone has their problems. I'm just praying an attorney reads this and remembers how hard life can be and will help me pro Bono. There still has to be decent people left in this world. This is me, asking for help.

@andrewh9284 Жыл бұрын

Impossible to take a person seriously who uses the term "toxic masculinity". You can not in good conscious be talking about wanting to help men's mental health while unironically using that term.

@BulldogBoxing Жыл бұрын

Toxic masculinity and ended it with safe space. I agree there.

@trumpchicken4937 Жыл бұрын

Ok??? Explain what's wrong with it. Genuinely curious.

@andrewh9284 Жыл бұрын

@@trumpchicken4937 The term Toxic masculinity is anti-man. It is a term made up to describe negative traits that some men have and its used to describe all men in that way. Even the way this guy used the term was in a negative context. He used it to describe the fact that men do not talk about their feelings. instead of coming at it from a lens of positivity he came at it from the lens of negativity..

@trumpchicken4937 Жыл бұрын

@@andrewh9284 Huh, I have not heard the term used in that context. Toxic masculinity (at least the definition I learned) refers to disparaging men seen as lacking the qualities of being "real men," labeling them as lesser than. IMO, you can't address men's mental health without tackling this issue, but I have no qualms discussing otherwise.

@andrewh9284 Жыл бұрын

@@trumpchicken4937 That might have been true for when the term was first used. However it is definitely used much more broadly now. I do not think how its used, is even the issue though. The issue is entirely with the phrase itself. I lack the vocabulary to properly articulate this point but ill try my best. If we are trying to change the perspective on what a "real man" is it should be taken from a positive lens not a negative one. The most common example I would think of is "Men don't cry". If we are tying to educate someone on why that saying is problematic what is the best way to go about it? Is it to say that comment is toxic? or that's a perfect example of toxic masculinity? Or is it to ask why they feel that way? ask why they view crying as bad. There has been a lot of research into the topic. When men are asked why they view crying negatively, overwhelmingly its similar responses. Most men feel like they need to be the strong one to support others. When they cry it shows signs of weakness and they do not want the people around them to see that. They also respond saying when they cry they view themselves as burdens and they don't want to burden people. There are other responses as well but the large majority are like that. Men being the complex creatures that we are vocalize this in a simpler way "Men don't cry" it lacks the nuance but it gets the point across. I personally think that is actually a positive trait the fact that men don't want to burden other people with there troubles. Its not toxic masculinity, if anything its positive masculinity. Now trying getting that man to feel like he can open up about his feeling and its not a burden after you call his trait of hiding them toxic. Calling the behavior toxic does the exact opposite of what its supposed to achieve. Hopefully that makes enough sense, I am a trades person not a literary.

@336mexico 9 ай бұрын

Mens health is hardly talked about

@make.America.great.again. 6 ай бұрын

It's always women who complain and whine about nothing🤢

@michaelkibble740 4 ай бұрын

I feel like unaliveing myself but no one cares aboute

@Top_CaBin117 Жыл бұрын

It’s Tough out here, Check in on your loved ones they may have something totally Different going on, and it may give you a different perspective.VENT!

@kennybegeske8824 Жыл бұрын

What About Abnormal Behaviors

@shahrukhmalik3988 Жыл бұрын

I am sorry but we are the ones who have created the stigma because I have seen men neglecting to talk about anxiety issues or depression just because they will be seen as a weak person and then they call themselves as the so called real alpha men lmao, real mean are those who look out for other men amd hear them out.

@lowfatlatte0 11 ай бұрын

Nope women heavily drive that expectation of men as well. It was our job to project stability and reliability.

@SSJfraz 11 ай бұрын

But they will be seen as a "weak person" and will subsequently be told to "man up". That's the problem.

@ladyjdejesus9392 Жыл бұрын

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@Ap-sy5nt 11 ай бұрын

Being stressed and finding life hard is not the same as mental health issues. Yes, be open and talk but let’s not make it ok to just be big babies. Men have always struggled with life but they haven’t always gone to bathrooms to be sick when they are stressed. Just want for less and live in gratitude. Look for the good and you will find it. Life is hard, no diagnosis required. We are just too soft these days. Too soft and too whiny

@daodangquang15 Жыл бұрын

the first comment by me...🤣🤣🤣

@silvius6416 10 ай бұрын

My experience is that men tend more to take this stuff seriously if u tell them. Almost non of them ever tried to make fun. But if u try to talk to girls about it, they feel entitled to that they live the more complicated life. Thing is, i dont want to challenge that. i just want to talk about things and often they say that u dont need to act like a cry baby. Not all of them, but significantly more than male friends and i am still ab bit shocked by this.

@susanreed4777 25 күн бұрын

It will take me time to sort through all of the variations and consequences of male mental health and ultimately overall wellness & happiness in relationships with themselves & others, including women and all of their potential uniqueness including their issues with mental/emotional health. I’ll try. I will think/feel/recall/research and apply what I already know & feel, as well; but I will TRY rather than generalizing or intellectualizing. I commit to this SEARCH into the Realities presented here, by many; thusly applying such to my own subjective and objective experience. It’s going to take me awhile to process this in perspective and understanding, empathy and compassion but also in practical yet objective application to being in such a complex relationship. (FIRST REACTION: No I didn’t know. In relationships I’m all heart, this will require my head, too; and at a level of astute attention to a multitude of questions, answers & variables. ) I can only promise to try, at this stage of awareness and understanding.