WHEN & WHERE IS THE WEDDING? BRIDESMAIDS? COLOUR SCHEME?

[@Mintfaery]

I looooove your hair and I absolutely love when people try new hair styles. I think its so therapeutic. You can literally do anything,life is so fluid and ever changing.

[@gracet2063]

I love her hair too. Especially now its settled in. Its so nice. So fresh :D

[@TheNocturnalpheonix]

The only constant is change. ✌🏼💜 Vibe appreciation in the form of sub 399.😘

[@SpamfromAmsterdam]

Yeah! I couldn´t have said it better myself but that´s exactly what I was thinking. I think it´s kinda rude to just throw your oppinion towards somebody on the street like that person did. Let people do their thing! I think any hair would look good on Taylor and I love this length and colour too!

[@indiarossington-smith8545]

To be honest you have to do what right for you as a couple, weather thats financially or just based on your taste. For example my husband and I had a bigger wedding because we enjoy getting everyone together and watching all our friends have a good time, but one of my best friends eloped. 15 of us flew out to Rome and didnt tell anyone that we were going and they planned the whole thing in 5 weeks. I would say that both weddings were equaly special and we have amazing memories of each one. You just have to listen to your heart and do what is best for you. Its okay to be a little selfish on your wedding day.

[@catbarnard2833]

India Lawrence so true

[@ranoutofeyeballs]

that's not eloping though.

[@sara-to-photography]

Hey Taylor, i just wanted to say i understand what you mean when you say the wedding isn't the main thing you're thinking of, you're thinking of your future together, i think when you are as in love as you both are, you want a marriage not just a wedding day and i love that you expressed that.

[@Megan9689]

I agree! More people need to realize you're getting married for your life and future together and not just the one big day. People 1) spend CRAZY amounts of money (avg American wedding is $33,000!!!!! And a lot of times on credit cards!), 2) spend so much time planning and 3) stress so much all for one day that literally zips by so fast. Better to spend within your means and focus on your many years together and come out of the wedding day fiscally responsible and less stressed about paying for wedding stuff. #1 reason for divorce is finances/money. Might as well have a good start to your marriage. Of course these are my opinions lol.

[@butterflymuse2707]

I agree! The marriage is more important than the wedding. Not many people understand that though.

[@momof2plusotaku657]

My husband and I just went to the courthouse. I wore w cute white sundress. We had a nice dinner with close family then stayed a night on the beach at a hotel :) we said we could have a wedding later but honestly it just wasnt important 8 years now and i dont regret it

[@Mika.Summer]

I am only married for three years now, but it was the same for me. Without dress and beach. Maybe someday we will have a great ceremony to celebrate somewhere outside with everyone but I will never get a loan for a wedding and there are more essentiel things in life than this one day.

[@rosethorn0232]

Are you me? I have the same story and it's also been 8 years. :) IMO it's not worth it to start off a marriage on the wrong foot by putting yourselves in debt just to have a fancy ceremony. Money is the most common thing couples argue over, so why make it worse? Plus it's something you can still do in the future if you want. If you are really in love with your fiance, then doing whatever feels right to you now will still feel right years later.

[@darcy325]

MomOf2 PlusOtaku I think statistically it’s proven that couples who spent less on their weddings stay together longer

[@enviivne]

Not married and feeling exactly what you are feeling. Wanting a huge wedding when i was a kid. Now i just want to sign the papers, buy a nice watch, have a vacation and not deal with the stress.

[@teamsalvation]

Nice watch? Which brands are on your list? VC, JLC, Patek, Breguet? The ubiquitous Rolex?

[@enviivne]

@@teamsalvation No idea at the moment 🙏

[@teamsalvation]

May I recommend a Jaeger LeCoultre - Patek Quality at a Rolex price ;-) The one I will be buying is the Master Geographic for about $11,000.00 USD. I am sure that if you buy two at once, you can get a very nice discount from any authorized retailer. If you want a daily wearer that will withstand a "don't care" type of use, definitely go with a Rolex.

[@bruntbrunette5440]

bruh she 30. She looks 17-18.

[@honorable4374]

Makeup and skincare

[@helleena19]

Ok I know it's still very early to talk about, but when you started to talk about kids I just started to imagine your mama vlogs 😭 one of my favourite things on youtube is family vlogs and I just want to see you raise a happy family!

[@CuteAnimeGirlsAreTheBest]

I'm really happy to hear Taylor talking about kids. She is going to be the best mom.

[@alyssamae8548]

I'm a wedding photographer, and let me tell you. Most of my couples liked their wedding day. Not loved, just liked. It was a nice day, a bit stressful but also fun and nice. That being said, I personally think that a nice day that you will like is not worth the price of a wedding. I plan to elope, and throw a fancy fun party with friends and family later (so I can still where a nice dress lol). Use the money for a fun trip or save for a house or some other useful investment. Hope you have an easy time deciding. Whatever you decide, make sure it makes you and your fiancé happy :3 that's the priority

[@sellinalin4409]

AlyssaMae I

[@nabilalsadi382]

i agree ⁦^_^⁩

[@KittenM]

Why not do both? My aunt and uncle went to the court house and they did a huge reception. Also, you can always have a wedding later. The skies the limits. Woohoo!!!! Congratulations!!!

[@catbarnard2833]

Vern Milliken my parents did the same. Unassuming small registry office ceremony, then a big informal party after

[@nienkefrederique]

I just want to point out that LONG HAIR IS NOT MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN SHORT HAIR. I don't know where that is coming from but it sounds really stupid. You look much more fresh with this cut and colour! I love the colour on you, it's more ashy rather then gold blond. The cut makes you look young and very very fresh, the long hair is nice as well but made your face drown a bit. I think your subscribers like you with long hair cause it is how we know you.. little bit like zoella with long hair and when she cut it everyone was like omg it's a new zoella I don't know if i can adjust lol.. now she has short hair for years and everyone loves it! I just wanted to let you know that do whatever you want to do!

[@Dancerstar852]

I agree! I love Taylor's new hair!!

[@leakwkw]

Definitely agree! Eventhough she does what she want with her hair, I think this length looks better for her :)

[@maevefearne]

its coming from other people having opinions on certain people with different lengths of hair. personally i think taylor looks better with her more caramel hair, but also i think her hair os very bright and blinding. thats not to say she cant do that it was her choice. but to me its very bright. another example, when a very beautiful fair skinned dark haired celebrity gave herself a pixie cut i also didnt like that. i prefered her hair long. but that also isnt to say some people dont look gorgeous with pixie cuts. another famous actress, blonde and very pretty, got a pixie cut and i loved it. also evelina forsell here on youtube chopped off her hair and i think her hair is gorgeous bob length. ive given myself a bob before. i think hair is hair and its okay to chanfe it but people have their own opinions. maybe they shouldnt express them in a negative way but i don't think saying its a preference to see taylor with long hair is saying only long hair is beautiful. of course short hair is too. but just because emerald green is a beautiful color doesn't mean I wear emerald green, ya know?

[@idkifimokay_7817]

@@maevefearne It's ironic how you're pushing your opinions on her. Leave her.

[@maevefearne]

@@idkifimokay_7817 its ironic how you say that completely overlooking the point

[@shishtershnapped3969]

I’ve been subscribed to you for about 3 years now and it’s crazy how much you’ve evolved and grown as a person and channel,I’m so excited for the wedding!❤️love from Germany🇩🇪

[@ghostwriter6455]

uhh, ein anderer treuer deutscher Abonent :D

[@SandraLakshmi]

Same :)

[@CoDeOfD3aTh]

Yey :D Dachte schon ich bin allein :D

[@ShadowLynx516]

Plan for your Marriage not the Wedding. Your right its just for 1 day.

[@itsNikitachan]

i can’t believe how many people are asking weird questions. that you have to size down your ring or that your hair was better before.. why do people care so much or have an opinion on everything ? i really think it’s rude. doesn’t matter that you are a public figure, you’re entitled to have your own opinion and i’m really really proud of you that you stand by your own choice. i think you’ve grown so much by seeing how you say that you don’t really care that much right now and if you change your mind then you change it and do it differently. i’m 100% with you on that. love you xoxo

[@lisawastaken]

This!

[@LetsStopThisSong]

blows my mind too, i was just sitting there thinking “who ASKS THAT?!?!?!?”

[@LxstinNeverland]

I liked her hair before too. I'm not being rude, it's just a preference. She has to know that some people have different opinions and she had to expect we all would give our thoughts. You can still be nice about saying that your preferred the longer and more golden hair.

[@itsNikitachan]

Monica Shantel i don’t feel like she was really asking. i understand what you mean, really i do. whether you like something that’s happening on my head or not, i don’t think it’s important. sure if you say it really respectfully then it might be okay but i personally don’t feel like it’s a nice thing to do to say your opinion about my looks when i didn’t actively ask for it.

[@LxstinNeverland]

@@itsNikitachan so, everyone else was saying she should change her hair, and that it looks really good... yet I can't say my opinion just like they do? That's not fair is it? It's not rude. People need to stop being so offended. It's an opinion. I'm not telling you what to do. I'm just giving my opinion like everyone else. It is on topic too.

[@calebrocks]

I got married in my husband’s backyard. Im from the states and he lives in Canada and some of his family lives in Singapore and Malaysia so we just did a small wedding, now we live in Canada. His sister is getting married in Muskoka at the end of the month and she is spending so much damn money on a three day wedding soirée and my husband and I are just like “jeez so glad we only spent $300 on our wedding.” Because to us it doesn’t matter, we’re happy together. Also hair is just hair. It grows back. I just gave myself a side shave because who cares, it’s just hair.

[@6w6jacqueriko65]

Wtf Taylor I like the hair you have now! Do what you want!!! There are tons of brides with short hair, what's even with the stigma of brides have to have long hair

[@draganamilosavljevic6420]

Yes, you will look beautiful no matter what length your hair is at. Have fun with it, it is just hair, it will grow back. It is the only part of the body that allows for experimentation and frequent change, so enjoy it. I just died my hair green/blue a few weeks ago and it makes me smile every morning...:)

[@LetsStopThisSong]

right? she could do an updo, or just curl it like she usually does it looks lovely, and if she really wants long hair she can get extensions just for that day

[@mitangy]

Hi Taylor!! A few weeks ago I got engaged. We also bought a house together, and I’m pregnant. We’re apparently doing everything at once and getting it all out of the way. 😂 I am in the same boat as you, I used to want a lavish wedding ceremony, but now that I’m older I would rather put the money towards our future. Also, I haven’t brought it up to my fiancé yet, but I kind of want to put that money towards a wedding for his parents. They have eight kids total and have been together forever, but they never had the money to have a ceremony. If they would be interested, I’d rather give that experience to them than to us, if that makes sense!

[@Mys482]

That would be cute and sad at the same time.

[@maevefearne]

Thats the sweetest wedding idea ive ever heard of!

[@nabilalsadi382]

such a kind soul you are(TT💗

[@Mintfaery]

Oh girl you can definitely do both!!! My husband and I were handfasted under a huge tree in a lovely forest in Florida. Everything was so simple and beautiful. Since my family is from Philadelphia, not many were able to attend but our parents were there so that was nice. It was really just all about the two of us 🌸

[@jamesfry8983]

A handfasting so your both pagans then

[@Megan9689]

I just got married in May and my husband and I decided something very similar. We got married on his grandfathers property, under a big tree, next to a pond with 60 of our closest friends and family. We also had handfasting part of our ceremony. We had been to a friends wedding several years ago that was small and intimate and cemented in both of our minds how much we liked that. So we had a smaller wedding, which also meant cheaper and all turned out perfect and I wouldn't change a thing on how it all happened!!

[@Megan9689]

Handfasting was traditionally from Pagans, but now its being included in all sorts of ceremonies from all denominations/religions/unreligious. More and more weddings are becoming less "religious" and more inclusive of several different traditions from different cultures and religions, i.e. walking down the aisle with both parents(Jewish), etc.

[@jamesfry8983]

I did a handfasting ceremony last year in a place called the new forrest in the west country (england) it was great i made 10 gallons of mead and we had a hog roast

[@Mintfaery]

@@jamesfry8983 yes 🌸

[@noeinroad7294]

What about a small ceremony in Canada and then celebratory receptions in Paris and Hong Kong? They don't have to be too elaborate but you'd give most of your family a chance to share your happy moment. I think your Nana would love to see you in a wedding dress.

[@claireavent70]

I think your attitude is very wise Taylor. I had everything planned out when I was young , when I was going to marry when I would have kids and how many etc.. but life didn’t work out that way for me and I wasn’t blessed with children and I had to find a new way in life. It’s best to focus on the love you have for each other and see where that path takes you. I enjoy being part of that journey xx

[@jocelyn9421]

i think you're the only youtuber i've watched for years consistently and have never gotten sick of

[@YESSHaley753]

Taylor if you want your ring to sit up right without sizing it you can always get two little balls on the inside of the shank of the ring. It will be a little snug over the knuckle but it will help the diamond sit up. I work at a jewelry store and we do it for people all the time when they don’t want a ring sized and they are removable.

[@Taylor_R]

Oh thank you! I’m gonna look into that!

[@YESSHaley753]

Taylor R no problem!

[@erinevans3452]

www.professionaljeweler.com/archives/articles/1998/nov98/1198fys1.html. Here is a link to an article showing this and a few other examples.

[@christinasiew3707]

I love this! I’m 30 now, and my frame of mind now is different from when I was in my early 20s. I’m rethinking the big wedding stuff because no matter what, it’s one day, and I would like a house eventually which last obviously much longer, and houses in southern California are starting at like 500K. Nothing wrong with thinking about your own future.

[@laurakinney8538]

I got married with medium hair, and it was fine! My hair was perfect! There are millions of wedding hair styles for every length, so go with hair length that makes you happy!

[@SarahTypes]

I went to Las Vegas with my immediate family (I'm from Toronto) and very close friends.. there was only about 27 of us in total. It was really budget friendly and the people at the venue coordinate everything for you. It was the best wedding ever, I had the time of my life and wouldn't have changed a thing. Keeping the guest list small was nice because it kept the costs down and allowed us to invite only those that mattered most. I also had Elvis as an officiant which was the best thing ever.

[@mackenziewright9495]

Thanks for giving that shout out to people on different paths!! You and another KZbinr I love are having big marriage/baby moments and I can’t help but compare myself sometimes. Thank you for the reassurance 💕

[@erynelizabeths]

I relate to this so much (got married less than a month ago). My husband and I ended up having a smaller wedding (85 people so not super small) but everyone had meaning to us. It was perfect. Do what is best for you and your fiancé both financially and that you know you will enjoy. It was more important for us to have our dream honeymoon, which we are taking in Disney World this coming January! The wedding day goes by so fast!!! Even if you elope I highly suggest hiring a professional photographer. It’s so worth it!!! Good luck girl and take your time!!!! You will be the most beautiful bride and your day will be perfect for you, no matter what you decide to do!!! ❤️ Thank you for sharing your life with us!

[@claudiam.5487]

I'm planning my wedding party right now, too! I am already married, but we never celebrated, because of time and money. Now we said, if we don't do it now, we will never do it. I'm planning a party just for our family and us on a pretty castle, it won't be cheap, but we won't be that many people so it won't be crazy expensive either! At first I just had no interest in planning, I just thought it would stress me out too much. But I tackled it the last couple of weeks, and have almost everything ready now!(The wedding will be next september.) Glad I did it, because now I can relax and look forward the whole year long to a nice party with my loved ones :)

[@Taylor_R]

Just getting married and celebrating later when things are more settled sounds really nice! 😊 your venue sounds gorgeous! Have an amazing wedding! ✨👰

[@momomary1720]

I am so so happy for you!!! I wish you the best...☺️

[@claudiam.5487]

Thank you, Taylor! I hope your plans will get more clear for you soon so you can enjoy it to the fullest! :)

[@claudiam.5487]

Thank you, Rose! :)

[@momomary1720]

No problem...🤗

[@ashsnapem]

Girl, I get where you're coming from. I had thought about all of the different things I wanted at my wedding while dating my now husband. But then once he actually popped the question, I wasn't so focused on the wedding itself but more about the new changes in my life that were about to come. We had a pretty simple but lovely wedding with no more than 100 of our close family & friends. 90% of that being family. We definitely went all out on the honeymoon rather than the wedding. And if it wasn't for the videos and photos, I honestly wouldn't remember much of it because it went by so fast, and I knew that would happen because I am a wedding photographer myself. So if there is any advice I would give as a former bride and a photographer who has been with many brides throughout their special day, at least have some kind of small celebration with close family & friends. You won't ever regret at least doing that, if you end up eloping. Either way, congrats on the engagement and super excited for you and this new chapter in your life :)

[@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405]

you have 100 people as close friends and family? wow you are rich I envy you. I have 2 close friends and 7 family members that count as close.

[@ashsnapem]

I have a lot of family in the state, my mom comes from a family of 9 kids so there was a lot of family who were coming no matter what lol. I only had like 4 friends there haha.

[@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405]

@@ashsnapem ah I see 😊 your wedding sounds beautiful I wish I had a big family 🌻

[@saishusho4924]

Me and my husband eloped, just a cheeky little registry office thing. We didn't want the expense of a wedding or the logistics of arranging it, and for us the wedding itself wasn't particularly important. We were getting married for us, because we love each other and want to spend our lives together (and honestly because there are legal benefits in our country)! Neither of us cared about having a big day, but I do think our parents were disappointed to a certain extent because they wanted us to do something more grand. Weddings are so expensive, and it's just one day! I'd rather use the money to make purchases that will make our normal life more comfortable or our future more secure.

[@Mari-hb5do]

saishūshō also, nowadays weddings are expensive, take long enough to make us roll our heads at times, and for the ones attending it/are invited to it it’s more of an entertainment most times. like taylor said here, I used to want a wedding with all the stuff that comes with it too and now i’ve grown up, seen tons of situations too and don’t even care. for me getting married is not even needed if we like each other. unless it has to do with like marrying through the registry office or something due to benefits we can both have, then I don’t really care.

[@colorspace5774]

Hi Taylor. Congrats on your engagement. I'm from Toronto and I have some tips on a Canadian wedding (I have worked in events here) if that is what you want to choose. Summer weddings in the city typically need to be booked months in advance and generally more expensive. Everyone is fighting for Saturdays. Weekday or Sunday weddings generally cost less. If you want to have a smaller more intimate wedding (50-70 guests or less) avoid large popular venues since they are priced for larger groups. If you want something outdoors (with indoor seating) make sure the venue has AC and make rain plans. Some unique indoor/outdoor ideas: Toronto island, a barn up north(very fun), a gallery space, Kleinberg, a boutique hotel. Have fun planning!

[@YattusProd]

Between you and Marzia getting married, I’m both so excited and so emotional 😭 I’ve been following you for about 3 years, it likes my baby is getting married omg MY FEELS

[@bailesofhay2258]

It is so nice to watch someone who is level headed. The whole hair change comment didn't affect her, she was confident in her choice. The whole wedding decision change and not obsessing over it. Like. She is honestly a role model. She's going to "let herself go" after the wedding lol you go girl!!

[@Mys482]

Okay I'm just three minutes in but Taylor, I like the way you think. I'm guessing you could easily get a big fancy wedding, but you think that it could be spend for other things that last longer and it's kinda nice to hear since I came to the exact thought some weeks ago, so it's good to hear it from someone else too. :) So I'll continue watching now lol. Btw I'm so happy you uploaded 💕

[@anonymousetrap]

I love this video! You're so honest and upfront, it's delightful and refreshing. I've been involved in a few weddings now, and it's not worth putting the pressure of planning the "perfect" wedding on yourself and your relationship. The more relaxed and organic your decisionmaking, the happier you'll be with your day in the end, celebrating your love together, which is the most important thing

[@kaylanozawa4798]

Hey Taylor!😊 Just wanted to congratulate you again on your engagement! Me and my fiancé got engaged a few days before you guys, and I thought that was so awesome! Its nice to see other people going through the same stages as I am/we are. I also always wanted a big wedding, but me and my fiancé are actually going to elope next week! We want to plan a wedding with all of our family members in a few years since his family is scatteried all over the world like you guys

[@Taylor_R]

Congrats! Where are you living? Is eloping a difficult process for you?

[@kaylanozawa4798]

@@Taylor_R thank you! I'm living in America right now (which is where we will elope). We may be moving to Denmark after we marry, but that's a whole other topic! The eloping process is actually extremely easy. Here, all you need is to fill out a application, have an government issued I.D or passport, and pay the fee for a marriage license which is $78 USD. 😊

[@BlackBerryTrees]

This is so exciting! I love hearing stories like this because my close circle of friends are juuust starting to get engaged and maried! I've been looking forward to this process since I was younger too, and what I love most is the same things I love about Halloween and Christmas: Special memories with family and friends. So I know my wedding won't be about money or the party, but it will be about creating a memorable and fun experience for us to celebrate together. It feels like you guys are a part of an online version of my friend group and it feels so cool to grow up together!

[@Lethalin]

Taylor - I recently cut and dyed my hair after a really long time of having it super long and super dark. I hope these comments of people liking your old hair better on you aren’t making you feel bad. You look fantastic and it’s *your* hair and you should always do what makes you happy. Have fun with it! You look amazing

[@serena7710]

MY mom recently eloped and they saved the money they would've used for a wedding to go on a honeymoon. Honestly if you want a wedding Tay, you could honestly have a later one, 'cause some people get remarried/renew their vows. It's something that you all can do once you're financially stable and it's something if you have kids they can experience with you both!

[@Japomania]

I don't understand, you would be gorgeous even with pixie hair. Your hair being shorter doesn't change anything. You are beautiful like this too, no more no less :*.

[@karterstanley7460]

A trick: you can watch series on flixzone. I've been using it for watching a lot of movies during the lockdown.

[@harleymarco1077]

@Karter Stanley Definitely, been watching on flixzone} for months myself :)

[@mellisandes]

I'm not married but i was reading that in the UK the average wedding now costs 32k that's 53,400 Canadian dollars that's a lot of money for 1 day when it can be invested and split into your two apartments in Hong Kong and Toronto or saving for future children. Not saying you shouldn't have a wedding if that's what you want but i would invest it elope then have a small intimate ceremony for family and friends and if you have to do 2 due to people being on opposite sides of the world so be it and neither party has to cost the earth apart from the dress that is. But you have to do what makes both yourself and Elbowsan happy that's the main thing here :)

[@deniseleighann2]

£32,000?! That must be some wedding. I went to a super fancy wedding a couple of years ago in Scotland and that was £20,000..was definitely above average it was in a castle and everything was really expensive

[@mellisandes]

Yeah Castles in Scotland are expensive as hell we both know it, but i guess certain places would be higher than that depending on who you hire, who designs the dress etc...etc. Also I'm guessing that depending on how many guests you have the costs multiply as well. If i had the money and it was no problem to spend it would i do it...I'm not sure tbh. I would much rather invest in the future than put myself into debt over something that lasts a day. Yes you'll have memories and pictures to cherish but overall it's your future that's more important.

[@ladyliddie7721]

Don't tighten the ring. I also have small fingers with bigger knuckles.. But the heat expands your fingers a lot too and also like you said, possible weight gain. But if you plan to have a wedding band attached it makes the ring slip around less and ends up being a little tighter too

[@quesokisses]

I'm American and my husband is German and we had a very small courthouse wedding in Germany and we wouldn't change a thing. We had a nice dinner after, took photos, and had our honeymoon at Disneyland Paris. I'm the same age as you, so I also felt that saving money for our future felt more important than a big wedding. I'm just happy to be married to the man I adore. I know you'll make the best decision for you and your beau! Just wanted to share that courthouse weddings can be romantic and wonderful.

[@nadiacarrim4820]

I've always loved how kind and patient you are towards your fans. I feel like you've gotten some really unwarranted feedback from people, and your response is to be generous and patiently explain your thinking, even though it's none of our business. Thank you so much for how well you treat other people! And to us fans out there, I hope we can be more mindful of what we say and do to others. Her hair, ring, choice of wedding, etc. are all her business, and she's being kind enough to let us tag along on her journey!

[@jessicakim7704]

So I just got married a couple months ago and originally we were planning to have something small and casual but because we wanted to honor our parents, we had a normal 110 size wedding here in Chicago. To be honest, having the big normal wedding celebration was definetly worth it- the amount of love you feel on that day is insane and having ALL the people that have been significant in your life in one room is something that happens just once and that feeling was awesome. BUT if I had to do it again, I would still consider doing something smaller and more intimate and save the money. Especially on my dress & the way I looked. I think what's most important is- whether you have something small, intimate or big and super celebratory.. the key is to make it feel special regardless of the size. Get dressed up regardless, have some level of decor and just make sure you guys make it a really special day for you & elbow-san and the people you really want to thank that you end up inviting. Whether or not there are 20 or 150 or 200 people there with you- just make it feel special. It's the people you surround yourself and your love with Elbow san that will determine how beautiful your wedding day will feel. Oh and regarding your dress and the way you look- girl, just look like yourself. You are already beautiful as is. Don't focus too hard on trying to look "bridal" because "bridal" can mean so many different things. My make-up artist & hair stylist were awesome. I loved my dress.. but the one thing I wish I could re-do about my wedding is ..I wish I tried to look look more like myself? Pick a dress that you love that's you. Pick a look that you feel comfortable in. Like you said, follow your own path! I wrote down a vision statement when I started the whole wedding planning process and whenever I felt the pressure to do something I didn't feel 100% comfortable about- I kept going back to that statement. It helped keep me grounded. Congrats!! Can't wait to see how things turn out =) -Jkim instagram.com/thejkim

[@kitkat3287]

Hey Taylor! I totally understand your dilemma! I felt the same and I am really not into a lot of attention so we did a blend! We had a small wedding with family only (20 ppl where we actually traveled to Ireland! I live in the US) and then months later we had a big reception party! It was a really good blend. It's really hard because people always tell you to do what you want for your wedding, that it's your special day, which it is! But I think it's hard for family (even though I know it is well intentioned) to step back and remain neutral about the things you want when you plan a big, fancy wedding. I felt like the way we did it allowed us to take a lot of pressure off ourselves AND our family, and the reception was much more casual but also allowed everyone to celebrate together, which is really the most important! I still wore my wedding dress, and we had delicious food and drink, but it just made everything easier. And I think we did save a lot of money that way too! I know I'm just a viewer, but I'm happy to give you more details about how we managed the whole process if you ever want to know! :) Good luck, best wishes, and I know whatever you two decide to do, you will have a happy life together!!

[@WhereTheBeaversLive]

Your hair the other day when it was parted down the centre and curled, and you were wearing the red lipstick...that’s the perfect hair for you ❤️❤️❤️

[@gabbievillarreal8905]

Your talk after the wedding questions made me tear up a bit. Two years ago I wanted to be married by 25 and then I got my first heartbreak, I felt like my world came down but that gave me the opportunity to meet someone new that has been everything I want and expect and now I don't look forward to a wedding, I look forward to traveling the world with him ❤️ I love watching your videos, makes me feel like I'm never alone! Thank you Taylor

[@aanaceci]

Personally, I’ve never wanted a wedding. Since I was little, I knew I just wanted to sign the paperwork and that’s it. I don’t have anything against weddings, they’re beautiful, just not for me. I feel like I would just spend all this money for others and not me. For others to have a good time and then still judge me for small details that don’t even matter. We just got married at the court. We were engaged for years because we knew we wanted to spend our lives together and we were happy just like that. I rather put a down payment for a house, but that’s just me. Also, you don’t have to go all out either, you can go in the middle and have a small wedding.

[@Mys482]

That comment was basically my fear... My boyfriend and his family have problems since years, even before I knew him and now they act like I'm the reason they are fighting... I think I could do what I want there, they'd judge me for every small thing that I do. His family is also 4 times bigger than mine and they don't want to help but basically celebrate on our money even tho we'll move out soon to another "state", I'm just unhappy the way it is, just the difference that I always at least wanted a cute, small wedding.

[@OnneaLasi]

I worked in a bridal salon for a while and I think the biggest thing is for you and your fiance to be happy because no one from your family is going to say "wow that was terrible". As far as dresses go, I don't know how it works in Hong Kong or Canada but I would suggest you find a designer you really enjoy (I looooove Pronovias) and try to attend a trunk show for them. They usually do like 15% off and they have everything from the most current collection for you to try on. Make sure to take wonderful photos regardless of your choices because they're going to be something timeless. Good luck Taylor!

[@hi.yeonni]

Hey Taylor! I got married in August this year, and long story short I was the type of girl who never really dreamed of a big wedding and ended up having one in the end! My husband and I also have family and friends scattered all over the world and two things decided on us ending up with a big wedding (1) we have Korean parents and they wanted the traditional big shebang so they could invite their friends. Although my husband and I definitely we're more bent on a small small wedding, we wanted to also make our parents happy since this was also a big day for them! (2) because our family and friends were traveling from far away, we wanted to spoil them and make the event big and luxurious for them. Yes, financially it was A LOT. Man I can't imagine how much that money could have helped us now post-wedding haha!! But seeing everyone together and happy and spoiling them with a luxurious venue and food and also looking back at our wedding album, it was completely worth it I think :) best of luck with the planning, you are going to be an absolutely stunning bride...!!!💕

[@hi.yeonni]

I could share my wedding album with you if you'd like! Anything to help brides plan because GIRL I died planning my own! But the day of you're surrounded by loved ones and it was "perfect" because everyone is there to celebrate you two as a couple. The little things that I was dying over to get "perfect" didn't matter at all!!✨

[@earthamiya4391]

Currently planning my wedding and it does make you feel like you want to elope sometimes with the stress and the cost of it all. It's nice to bring all of your family and friends together to celebrate but get as much help an favours as you can along the way and give yourself enough time. I really enjoy picking up bits from thrift stores and crafting my own signs etc you'll be great at that.

[@anniskelsey]

It’s so exciting to see all these fun things happen in your life. You’re definitely someone I look up to not only as a role model but as a person. I’m glad my indecisiveness will get me far

[@momomary1720]

Taylor it truly is hard to make a decision on something like this...But please you guys take your time on your wedding... Make this something that you are going to remember forever....☺️💕Don't rush it!!!! At least this is just my opinion...🙃

[@PeonyBee222]

Hi Taylor! My boyfriend/fiancé proposed last year and I feel the same way you do. We’ve been together for 8 years, have a 5 (almost 6 year old 😳) and the details are the last thing we think about. Saving for our house is major priority and when it happens it happens. And it’s refreshing to hear you feel the same. I feel so out of the loop with other friends/people on social media with the way that I feel about the wedding. Anyways, do you lol sending you lots of love! 💖✨

[@katkristar6197]

As far as your ring goes, why not try a "spring ring guard", which is self adjusting and can be removed later. It will easily be able to slide over your knuckle.

[@amrishasinha1919]

The fact that the wedding, your hair and all the technical details are NOT your primary concern shows that your love is much bigger than all these small material things (not that they are bad). But this is good and so important! Sometimes planning a wedding can emotionally strain couples. and its perfectly fine for you to feel like it's more important to focus on the future for now. dont feel bad about it. You're an amazing human.

[@Thefashiongoddessnyc]

I was so sick I had my wedding in my apartment and never regretted it but I don’t have much family.since u have so much family maybe just a small intimate one would be great for u and u can still save money for ur amazing future with ur loving future husband..my marriage lasted 21 years and we divorced but are now together again and planning another wedding lol

[@kt0218]

I’ve always pictured having a big wedding, but after going to 2 small weddings this summer, I realized that having a small wedding is not so bad! Since you want to have your family at your wedding, I recommend having at least a small wedding with your family and a few close friends. It doesn’t have to be super fancy and super expensive, just something that you and everyone there will enjoy, even if it’s only for one night. Of course, ultimately, it’s up to you and your fiancé to decide what you both want to do, but that’s just what I think! Also, thank you for showing us clips of the mid-autumn festival. This club I’m in at my uni is partnering with other Asian clubs to throw a small mid-autumn festival, so it’s nice to see what a real one looks like!

[@GodoyGabie]

Hi Taytay ♡ I've been watching you for 3 years now and I've pretty much converted all of my friends to your channel ✨ (I mean, a girl's gotta have someone gurlfriends to talk about her favoritè youtubers, amrite?) but this is my first time commenting here, so nice to meet you! I just wanted to say that sure, everyone's entitled to their own opinion, but that lady had the opportunity of meeting someone she likes and the ONLY thing she has to say, the thing she decides to point out is a negative thing, I think that's kind of petty. As a Libra with Sagittarius rising I completely understand us wanting to experiment with our visuals and aesthetics and simply wanting to be free in the way we express ourselves, I watched you all Lolita Style going more fashionista and finding your own voice, when you stopped wearing contact lenses and the amount of times you are simply comfortable with no make up and with your normal hair, without brushing (and how many noisy people still take their time to come and comment negative things), gurl, you're awesome, that hair is ON POINT, you're all Hollywood glamour and that haircut and hair color makes you look stronger and even more mature, each time you go through a change (and this is my opinion) you've become a better version of yourself, as if in every time you find out a new aspect about you that you already had it within you. And if anyone can turn a small and private wedding into something instAMAZING on a budget; that person is you ♡ I'm all for you and Elbow-san using that insane amount of money for you guy's and your future children's future, follow your heart and your intuition, it has gotten you to the best places in your life! Much love ♡♡♡♡♡♡

[@lauren-akajay1958]

This wedding is about you two celebrating your love for each other so do what makes you happy. My friends eloped to get married and then had a small relaxed 'family' wedding where they just repeated their vows and a small party afterwards.. i love your hair as it is, gives very classy vibes with red lipstick 🖤 do what makes you happy tay

[@mjgrande3603]

Tay you‘re saving my day as always and yay a wedding video❤️❤️❤️

[@deirdredelarosa4496]

I got married young at 21 and we just celebrated our 4 year wedding anniversary. We had a super small wedding, I only invited my super close family and friends. I had a simple short white dress and simple cake and just simple non expensive decorations as well. So I got to share that happy moment with my close family and friends and I loved it. I don’t regret and I have pictures of that moment :). And I didn’t spend much at all!

[@enviivne]

Natalie : *"What The Fuc...😨"* HAHAHA!

[@nice2meetUWenDoWeEat]

My husband and I eloped and then had a quaint, English cottage wedding in the countryside. Of the two, personally, the wedding ceremony at the cottage was the happiest day of my life. I know it was because all of my family and friends were there. I had a dress that was very “Grace Kelly” and the tiny steeple chapel was next to the cottage where we had the reception. The reception itself was absolutely picturesque with charming white Christmas lights twinkling everywhere and peonies. The music we picked out was music that made my heart skip a beat because it had special meaning to us. Things I still see as vividly in my mind as they were 15 years ago on that day are: the lighting in the evening shining through the bubbles in the champagne glasses and the smiles and laughter of everyone I love...the way I felt when I danced with my dad...the way my husband looked at me when I walked down the isle to meet him...even the soft pink color of the rose petals in the isle along the way. I didn’t really think I would mind just eloping, but now I’m so very glad I had that English cottage in the countryside.

[@megano6612]

In regards to your hair. Most people like what they are familiar with. People recognize you with long hair. I think for some people it is hard to let that go. Just remember that after some time people will come to recognize this hair as your "normal" hair. Also I am notorious for growing my hair for years only to suddenly chop it off... and then want long hair again soon after. So it is usually a cycle. Grow hair out -> Want something "new" -> Chop it off -> suddenly miss long hair -> repeat.

[@emilycgordon]

I'm so glad that encounter didn't change your opinion about your hair because I love the new hair so much. Also, I'm 30 myself and I completely agree with all your sentiments about weddings. As I've gotten older I've become more and more uncomfortable with the narcissism of throwing myself such a large and expensive party. And now I'm even further from it because I'm newly single! It's funny how different our lives are than how we fantasized about as kids. We thought 25 was so old haha!

[@WhereTheBeaversLive]

Elope with a live video stream that your family can watch!!!!

[@armitaazad1222]

I love your hair this way taylor, both look great on you, and a change always makes things a lot more fresh and nice

[@englisheveryday1521]

I'm getting married by the courthouse on Oct. 31st. Then next year my fiance and I are flying immediate family to Hawaii to have a small beach ceremony and reception. I'm not a huge wedding person, and wanted something easy but beautiful! I would actually be totally fine with just the courthouse but my family wanted a celebration.

[@tabithafortier5519]

Yes!!!!! I totally agree with how you feel about the wedding. Our wedding was "small" and intimate with our closest friends and family and we had a wonderful day with no debt afterwards. It was the perfect way to start our lives together.

[@MarkandMarie]

We had a beautiful outdoor wedding with a small group of our family and friends. We did that for $3,000. The most expensive part was the food and alcohol. People were SUPPOSED to donate to the "Honeymoon fund" to drink, but everyone essentially just took whatever they wanted. We also had a huge problem with people we didn't even know showing up to the wedding, and a lot of our wedding gifts and money went missing. In all honesty we didn't super enjoy our wedding. We actually do plan to "redo" our wedding on our 10 year anniversary as a sort of renewal of vows thing, to have it closer to something we both wanted. I have to say if I could do it all over I would have done a more private type of venue because being out doors seemed to essentially advertise to whoever drove by that they could stop in and eat our food and drink our alcohol.

[@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405]

security is key. outdoor weddings are great but you realy need professional security.

[@MarkandMarie]

@@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405 Yeah we had it at a friend's farm and assigned people to security. The think the extra key in our case was not letting the people in charge of security also drink. Haha

[@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405]

@@MarkandMarie yeah drunk security is only medium good 😁 I am happy that your "redo" wedding 10 years later was bomb!

[@MarkandMarie]

@@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405 It hasn't happened yet! Lol. It hopefully will be bomb, but it will be in 2025. XD

[@katelynw4099]

Hi Taylor! I just got married this past July and my husband and I went through the same thing. We decided to get married at our city hall, it was a short and sweet ceremony with our closest family members attending, we had a photographer to capture the moment and we were so happy with it. It's easy to feel the pressure of throwing a big traditional wedding, but what's important is celebrating your love first and foremost! If that means a big wedding, or something short and private, then so be it! Do what best celebrates you two

[@cnicolejc]

Absolutely love you & sincerely hope everything in your life goes well! xx

[@audrey.c1]

Glad you made this video! I didn't want a large wedding at first, but I got a planner who helped me with everything. It wasn't too stressful since she was there to help and I had an idea of what I wanted and who I wanted to go with. The planner did everything day of and it was really stress free

[@evilhellokittie]

LUV U TAYTAY IDONT BELIVE IN THE CONCEPT ON MARRIAGE ESPECIALLY IN THIS DAY AND AGE BUT I AM STILL SO EXCITED FOR YOU ❤️

[@evilhellokittie]

*of

[@evilhellokittie]

*believe Lol jesus

[@fei9566]

Have a nice wedding Taylor! You'll have nice memories and photos to look back to and that's something I think you'll really like. It's stressful, time consuming and expensive to plan weddings, but it's worth it if it's with the people you love :) I'm so happy for you and wish you the best! ❤️

[@hellolala]

I always thought myself as weird because I never imagined myself getting married. and I'll think who would want me? I cant do jack shit. and I know marriage is hard work, and most of the time people expect so much out of women. idk about you guys, but I do feel pressured. and I hate that I feel less about myself and always pressuring myself to better myself so that I can be "wife material"

[@0Flow0]

I'm not going to get married. It's okay if you don't want to that! Of course I dont know where you live but at least here in Finland its not such a big deal. Of course a lot of people expect you to get married but it's not necessary. Many young people see it as old-fashioned and every other marriage ends in divorce etc.

[@kristahoelscher8895]

Hey Taylor, I got married about 3 months ago. I had a big wedding, with family and friends from all over. It was a special evening, but all the planning leading to it was extremely stressful and involved all kinds of drama. My biggest advice is to do what makes you and your fiancé happy. It is not possible to cater to everyone else’s demands of what your wedding should be. You’re the best, best of luck to you!

[@jjjjj127]

Your hair looks amazing, especially since the roots have grown in a little

[@HereIGoAJen]

I had a middle size wedding 150 guests. I originally said the same thing as you - I could have eloped and been happy to have a party after with family but my husband really wanted the day of celebrating with our families. I am SO glad that I listened to him had the big-ish wedding. It was worth every penny and I will always have the memories of the grand parents and family members who are no longer with us. You won’t regret having it or spending the money but you may regret not having that day with everyone you love. I’ve never once looked back and said we should have saved money for one thing or another. It was very expensive (we lived in NYC then) but worth it.

[@allapankratova2162]

Well, i'm in love with your hair :)

[@hannalayne2963]

Tay i think i know how you are feeling! Since i've been with my boyfriend, i've realized what actually matters in life. Not how perfect your life looks or even how perfect you look in general. i don't feel the need to have all these THINGS that don't actually matter in my life. i used to dream of a big fairytale wedding, but my bf does not believe in marriage. i am very very happy to just live my life in love with him and a wedding does not mean more than that

[@enviivne]

Lightning speed click!

[@mienladycigot7]

found your youtube yesterday and already had binge watched all of your engagement/ proposal videos. You are so relatable. I was like you, before i got married i wanted a big wedding ingrained by media and family/culture. I am the oldest daughter and the only one to get marry. Before I got married we have this dream of being a princess and a timeline for everything. Just like you I eloped and had my closest friends with me. simple city hall wedding, with a delicious dinner and to the club we went. I turned 30 last year and we began to start talking about kids, where to live and etc. but it will be another two years until we will start trying It will be my husband also a Tom :D and I 7 years wedding anniversary on feb 10th. I want to congratulate you and your husband to many more years of happiness. Just enjoy your marriage, enjoy the travel and adventure because things does change when you have kids. love from california, bay area

[@Anoukvs91]

I wish I could help.. But I’m 27 single and never been married. 😅

[@Geli_Roll]

Coming up to our one year before our wedding I had a lot of feelings about having a big wedding. The hardest thing for sure is the guest list that makes/determines a wedding expensive just because venue, catering, and the prices of the vendors (photographers, djs, bartenders) per hour. I was originally planning ny wedding myself, and it was going okay. Then with a budget involved, it got stressful and I just wanted to elope and do a big party after. But, I decided to stick with our plan and just hired a planner at a good price and it made everything so much easier and happier. If you want to have a big wedding, get a planner! Definitely worth it and will lessen the stress and is always willing to talk and work with you even before the sign off with suggestions! If anymore questions just ask! I got your back! Love you!💕💕💕

[@danna-k9501]

I am so happy for you❤️❤️❤️

[@kittiecat123]

I’m trying to plan a wedding too. Possibly September/October 2019. I have the same problems. Growing up I wanted to have a huge wedding and invite all my family. Now realizing that my friends are closer than my actual extended family, I want a small nice wedding. There’s nothing wrong with a small wedding, as long as you’re happy that’s all that matters. Don’t listen to others too much.

[@IANULA]

WHAT IF you do a hong-kong style wedding in HK or some nice event in Paris and than make a dreamy - cosy - white dress wedding in Canada?

[@IANULA]

because in your family you kind of merge two cultures :) and it will be fun to have two small, unique weddings !

[@zorauzumaki6907]

I just want to say that I love your new hair and that I admire you for being brave and dare change things up when it feels right. You're going to look amazing at the wedding regardless, since true beauty comes for the inside and you have a beautiful soul!

[@Raymondshchan]

I believe a proper wedding is not necessarily expensive. You may regret it if you don't do so. Letting more people to celebrate your love will definitely make a wonderful memory in your life. Or you may feel missing something in your life.

[@palmtreehero]

Taylor!! I rarely ever comment (this might actually be my first time commenting on your video) but I am always lurking and watching your content :) I just want to let you know that what you're feeling seems pretty normal to me! I've had friends and family think just like you, and you're right, most of the time I hear that they wish they'd just used the money they spent on the wedding to travel and such haha (but I don't think they fully regretted a flashy wedding!) I admire that you're so real and practical, I like that you prioritize your future and happiness over traditional norms. I love seeing your outlook on life and how it matches with some of my own thoughts too! No matter what choice you make I want you to make sure that it's something you'd be happy with. I'll support you no matter what choice you make, and I'm sure any choice you make will be special in its own way. ps. I think your hair is so pretty, it's nice to see a fresh new look on you! What you decide to do with your appearance is all up to you and it if makes you happy to change up and helps you move forward then please by all means do it! I think change is very necessary to prevent being stagnant and from watching you over the years I feel you're someone who constantly grows. Thanks so much for being you and I'm looking forward to all your future videos

[@Justme94]

I do think you will regret not having your family there. Especially because your family seems to really want to be there

[@sunnyskies4628]

No matter what you decide it will be a wedding day that you form from love. Big is costly, stressful and time consuming. Moderate weddings are less costly, stressful and time consuming. You are a perfectionist, so whatever you choose to do it will be lovely.I really don’t see you not having a wedding. It’s what do you both want to spend on a wedding and stick to the budget. The wedding photos you shared (to me) where stunning...not just the decor but the color palette. I’m looking forward to your choices and you changing your mind a million times. Your hair looks great both ways. Different. No bad choices with your hair just different!!! Some peeps just don’t like change. You and my daughter are a lot alike...I call her giraffe sometimes. She is a beautiful woman as well as long legged. Your puppy is totally adorable!!! Blessings to you and your fiancé.

[@shypotatoo]

please please, do vlog's or videos of you planning your wedding!!

[@marhara1]

Taylor, I really like that you focus more and more on the real values and less on the shell! (I think you look equally great with the new hair and without makeup as well)

[@oliviamaria3692]

Tay, in my opinion I think you should do a fancy wedding because you might regret not having a fancy wedding in the future, it could feel like a missed opportunity. On the other hand getting married is not as meaningful as it is for other people do a small one x. Do what makes you happyyyy.

[@kaitlinsimpson6]

I liked the way my husband and I did things. We had a small wedding in the winter with JUST our immediate family and our best friends. Later, in the summer, we had a huge outdoor party with all of our friends. We had a byob and it was a lot of fun. I got to wear my dress twice, and we were able to save enough money that we could go live in Korea the following Fall.

[@CadisEtramaDiRaizelHexion]

In my opinion it’s better to spend all that money in your home and traveling and just have a simple small wedding with the closest people in your life :3

[@francesm6884]

I love your new hair! I can’t get over it, I love it more and more by the day!! It was the best decision and I think it was smart to do it know, before the wedding, so you can experiment different styles

[@shishtershnapped3969]

First!!