When You Ignore The Red Flags (And Why You Did It)

This video is going to help you understand why you overlook a potential partners destructive, selfish or immature behavior.
It is very easy to overlook red flags from people we just started dating. Once we start to become intimate with them our brain releases all kinds of chemicals that makes us feel good and bond with them. That feeling of being in love is a high that causes us to ignore warning signs.
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[@movingforward743]

I sure will give you time , there is no rush. I have been implementing the no contact strategy! Whenever I feel the need to contact I watch one of your videos for guidance. Thanks coach

[@madlen3015]

Steve harvey once said dont get into the habit of collecting red flags...

[@CristinaDavalos1127]

I grew up as a JW (Jehovah's Witness) I married at 20...my first husband was also a Witness and he was extremely abusive in every way possible. I'm not saying all JWs are this way, but, I will agree that there is a lot of repression and lack of knowledge about relationships and the reality of what to expect. Almost a'Pollyanna' type of approach and and expectation of how the wife (in my case) should be submissive...what a nightmare that relationship was...I know better now. Thank you so much for these videos...they are so validating what some of us have been through and and helpful with future relationships!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I'm glad to hear that my videos are helping :)

[@DreamBeatsBakery]

Cristina Davalos Enterline when you decide to marry a religious person you choose to embark on a journey of madness I'm sad you didn't have the guidance back then to lead you to a happy and healthy relationship

[@BarrettRupp]

Cults are scary.

[@rwentfordable]

Religion poisons everything.

[@marinaaing5467]

I didn’t know I was ignoring red flags, now I’m observing my recent comeback ex and somehow my attraction to him is getting low low low Thank you super coach

[@justynaa5993]

Thank you so much for this video Craig. I can see that i have done exactly the things the mentioned girl did and all the guys i ever dated were avoidant! This changed my life. I signed up to therapy thanks to your videos. I always thought (and was told) that i just have bad luck in love.. Now i can finally see that its not like that and i am able to heal! Thank you so much to you and coach Margareth ❤️

[@nanunivedita6101]

Sir u r changing lives

[@clairesanders1742]

I wish I just stuck with the no contact and continued to move on, my life was getting better, but he had the audacity to contact me and at the time I had to move and his place was my ONLY best option. Craig you are so right on this stuff. I should have just ignored his ass like he did me and RUN. Living in regret Right now. Looking for an apartment! Thanks Craig though, I'm almost finished with the workbook!

[@clairesanders1742]

I have finally moved out, now with my mom..had to start over. Me and ex had some contact only by email. It is definitely over now and I'm back on my sobriety again..so happy with that. I'm looking for another apartment. I relapsed when I got back with him which truly hurt me inside, he did not support me. Now at this point I lost all respect for him because those three months living with him was true BS and I can see clearly now exactly what he is.. it's no good. My advice is NEVER ignore your gut, read ALL red flags, and keep following Craig. Now I'm back in no contact for good. Almost four year's of a toxic relationship has taken it's tole on both of us. I'm DONE!!

[@kursengamer4699]

This is eye- opening and I will be writing down some of this advice so I don’t lose my way, sometimes there’s no fixing it. 😢

[@robertmclean6222]

Hey coach Craig thank you for those red flags tips a few of them fits my ex all her relationship only last 2 to 3 months her last relationship she said he was perfect so I said why did you break it off she said because he wanted to get married after 2 months me personally I think it's more to the story than that but no one will never know.

[@michellepalmer42]

Would you be interested in doing a video regarding avoidants deactivating strategies, such as hurtful comments and cold/callous behavior?

[@lilianaortner9104]

Thank you dear Graig for this topic 👍🏻I love it

[@dmitryisaev5955]

I don’t think much about red flags. Why? In my love story with a severe avoidant woman I (having no clue about attachment styles and other potential problems) did walk away after the first date. I felt that something was not right. Gut feeling worked, not red flag awareness. But… in 6 months a chain of events and I found myself in a relationship with her. You cannot escape what is for you.

[@sunjungwoo]

Hmm.. another amazing video as always. Your videos has helped me a lot. Thank You for sharing the knowledge!! Also, thumbnail did changed, after all... ;P . It looks awesome!!! ☺☺☺

[@user-ke3vx9ub4b]

Hahaa, at "A Complete Mess To Be With" should have been the title of this vid'.. Love when you crack yourself up!!

[@adrij4961]

I want to chat with you soon coach. Next paycheck hopefully! I’ve been saving up aha. My ex has had similar behaviours and as the days of no contact go by, I question more and more if I should even give the relationship another shot. If she doesn’t come back, problem solved aha! But if she reaches out again… I don’t even know what I’d want

[@darrylyusko8615]

Ignored all colored flags. Was gaslighted-blindsided and reacted very badly. Yelling. Called her every name in the swear book. Got me pfa’d and evicted by police 2 weeks ago. I need help...

[@aeb1492]

After all the other videos I've watched here this making me look at my behaviour in an entirely different light. I acted alot of these ways (granted to less of an extreme). I wish I could go back in time with the knowledge I've learned

[@clairesanders1742]

We moved in together and thing's ONLY got worse...I ignored the red flags, our personalities conflict. Losing Love daily and it sucks...

[@earthman0x]

Coach Craig I want to sign up for coaching. I hope to talk to you soon.

[@lenazoni1]

Holy fu&!...that vid describes my ex and I to a T. Me anxious...Her avoidant. Broke my heart.

[@gregoryjwhite7]

Another great vid! Thank you!

[@eddiesantiago7971]

Another excellent video

[@Esstan1]

I just wanted to clarify what happened in the events that made "Stockholm syndrome". None of the women married any of the men. However, one of the women, Kristin, became friends with one of the robbers, and they fell in love while he was in prison after the event. She got pregnant and lost the child, but they are still friends today. She wrote a book about it all. She calls him their savior because the first robber Janne demanded that Clark, who was already in prison, needed to join him in the drama. So the police took Clark out of prison and sent him to the bank. Apparently, he was very calm, according to the hostages. The hostages have also said that they thought the police weren't doing a good enough job and that's why they started cooperating with the robbers. They also claim they weren't scared of the robbers. But who knows really what happened.

[@cindyg3396]

Thank God for you Coach Craig.

[@jojanda907]

Thank you for the advice in your videos, I really need this now as i am going through a breakup that happened two weeks ago. Unfortunately, no contact rule is impossible as me and my ex still live in the same flat and it's not going to change soon for financial reasons. How am I supposed to behave then? Another thing about no contact rule.. if we all follow this.. who would ever reach out? Confused me.

[@TheStrangelys]

Whenever he says "bizarre" replace it with "borderline personality disorder behavior"

[@N1976DL]

Hi Coach Craig! I absolutely love your videos, and they've helped me through a painful breakup with my ex-fiancée. However, I have a question. It seems you dress up in a nice jacket and shirt, for each video. But, do you wear pants?! LOL (I know you appreciate humor) Thank you!

[@hgtsts]

Don't ever stop being funny!🌼🌼🌼🙏🙏🙏

[@danaaya1856]

Is there a difference between blaming/manipulative behavior and gaslighting?

[@abelpei4368]

My gf dumped me on a trip that I planned for her on her bday. The 2nd day in the trip. We didn't even talked about any issues. We barely even started dated. Her reasons for ending it kept changing every time I asked. It went from things were moving too fast to having too many pets to I'm not assertive enough for her. She's very dismissive and cold and distant, but this is an on going issue; not just after the break up. Is she avoidant?

[@DANFLIX98]

Abel P yes

[@jenny01317]

No sh*t sherlock

[@mandyallgood]

Not saying I'm beautiful but we do attract bad guys. It's not that we like bad boys we just see "potential ". But with work we change it because it gets old.

[@HuskyMoving]

Mandy Allgood not saying im beautiful but im saying im beautiful. Haha

[@movingforward743]

Coach my ex told me in the beginning he was into the threesome life style( which was a red flag) and I was never into his lifestyle when we were just friends . I tired to change him to be better for the better. However changed his behavior just to be with me so we dated seriously. Since we broke up in September is it possible he has went back to that lifestyle???? Oh cant wait to sign up for coaching next week.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Sure it's possible that he was policing himself just to make you happy. I look forward to working with you too. Once you sign up just give me a few hours to get back with you. Depending on what you sign up for I will send you a form to fill out. Sometimes people get anxious and email me right away. I have a very specific form with questions that I ask to give you the best help.

[@movingforward743]

Coach Craig Kenneth thanks coach sure thing.. It will be next Friday when I sign up for coaching!!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I'll look out for ya! Are u doing Skype or email?

[@movingforward743]

Awesome!! I am interested in the email coaching!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Once you sign up just give me a few hours. I will send you an email. Wait for that and fill it out, when you're done, just email it back to me :)

[@shaunmcknight7354]

Coach Craig if you want a relationship story you have never heard before. I got a good one for you.

[@tracydyson7528]

How much is your skype coaching please, I’m struggling to get over my ex and move on x

[@lenazoni1]

Thank you.

[@CorporateQueen]

LOL! You crack me up too.

[@brego12317]

A lobotomy! 😂

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

Stockholm Syndrome Patty Hurst.