When You’re NOT Invited!

[@jenjaxskye]

“Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated.” “Sometimes, even if you are invited, you are not welcome.” I’ll remember that… Thanks. 🙏🏼💕👍🏼

[@annalanzotti-venrick3989]

So true! Invited but not welcome just tolerated 😢

[@mollielambert9501]

Yes if this happens and it did I cheerfully said "later"

[@MsRozWag]

Right!

[@brendalg4]

Guess I won't be going anywhere.

[@melaniemiller4567]

me too👍🏻

[@SpiritAscending]

It’s like that for me. So I cook for myself and I am grateful for my peace.

[@mimis105dobbins3]

God bless you ❤

[@Mshep64]

Alone time with Jesus is always the best time. I hope you know Him.

[@mimis105dobbins3]

@@Mshep64 ,I sure do,He is my everything.Hallelujah Praise The Lord

[@Mshep64]

@@mimis105dobbins3 yes! 🤗✝️⬆️

[@EssenceC.]

🤗

[@alishak4061]

I told myself yesterday. The only way I'm going to have a family is to create my own...not necessarily in the sense of having kids but to ask God to show me or better yet reveal to me my tribe.

[@sharronstreeter8751]

When you live in a town without relatives, make yourself A few new friends. Of course, seek Jesus' advice first. Just because they go to church doesn't make them Christian. Besides we aren't all on the same spiritual maturity level.

[@SheilaD111]

Same here.

[@alishak4061]

@sharronstreeter8751 the sad part is my family lives where I live. They're just not nice people.

[@LittleFuzzball333]

And those friends, that tribe will mean so much more because they want you in their lives and welcome you.

[@alishak4061]

@LittleFuzzball333 I sure hope so 😊

[@deborahgarland5618]

She's speaking the absolute truth

[@fruitsofspirit6903]

When we are walking in CHRIST, we learn how to truly love/enjoy the company of the LORD, therfore love/value ourselves!!!! As we walk with our HEAVELY father, we learn how to be alone in CHRIST, never lonley!!!!!!! Happy holidays, GOD Bless!!!!!!

[@pattieverett5306]

Amen to that! Celebrated, not tolerated. Sometimes it's a celebration to not be there. No more stress

[@nikkim788]

@@pattieverett5306 You got that right. I dreaded holidays and family gatherings, because of the people I would have to deal with. It was exhausting to have to interact with them. I'm much better off in the company of one or two than to have to deal with forced socializing in family gatherings.

[@tatie7604]

So sick of creepy "friends" and family.

[@tatie7604]

Right. Stay home, relaxation, self-care and prayer. Or: Go and end up getting sick exposed to germs and eating other people's nasty food.

[@RM-ee9zk]

I'm childless and a widow for 2.5 years. It's just me and my pup this year and honestly, I'm perfectly happy with that. I need the quiet time this year. Still thankful ❤

[@mimis105dobbins3]

God bless you my friend ❤

[@RM-ee9zk]

@mimis105dobbins3 thank you, and you too

[@star22let1]

Yes!!!! The most disrespectful thing I've ever heard was "you can come if you want". If you hear that, do not go.

[@tricieb.5921]

wow, how rude of them!

[@deliawright8626]

😂 lol. I went to a new to me church. I stayed for the newcomers breakfast. Met a woman outside who invited me to sit at her table. We went in and up to her table and she said to woman sitting there "she wants to join us" pointing at me. Trust me I didn't. I believe I said, "well I don't now" and left. Oddly rude experience.

[@debc7341]

@@deliawright8626 I’m sorry you had that experience 🙁

[@kasniquesariawn4694]

Yes, correct!

[@brendalg4]

​@@deliawright8626what's wrong with that? What is she supposed to say?

[@SandraMajors-q1e]

I agree Pam, I have been to invites that I didn't feel welcome

[@annalanzotti-venrick3989]

Same here. Talk about feeling awkward and unloved.

[@cynthiaanglin6258]

Yeah, I know how that feels.

[@Hope-ot1xy]

Yup! Me too. 😢

[@AurahLove]

You're absolutely right. Indeed, getting an invitation does not mean you are invited. Wow..... so true 👍

[@_.A..J._0708]

"Love them from a distance." "Forget about them the way they forgot about you and keep it moving."

[@sheneyquamercan1699]

Well said!

[@susanwells6237]

When I was uninvited and unwelcome everywhere, Jesus invited me to get to know Him, best invitation I ever had 🙏❤️ He invites each one of us

[@nelsonmajor2079]

Also if that happens or you think that then rethink about what you do or how you treat or talk to people, not everyone can be wrong 😢😅

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

❤❤❤

[@ForestConfetti]

❤🎉❤

[@JesusisKing222]

Amen!

[@Es_Elle]

Amen! Sometimes celebrations can be just between you and He alone. Sometimes you can use that time to serve others in greater need. Jesus loves you! ❤

[@pattaylor4881]

That is so true beautiful. My daddy always said, "Everyone that smile in your face don't like you."

[@naeowens9119]

Amen folks ain't right 🙌🏾 Hoildays are tough for me missing the real ones that are No longer here any more 😢the family I have is not right

[@godsgirl3254]

Praying for you. ❤ Yes, I have felt this also.

[@hotdrumchick]

I got you on that, lol.

[@catalinawoody6954]

Absolutely! There have times I have been invited and didn't really want to go but went out of obligation and should have stayed home or gone somewhere else. As you get older, it becomes easier and a lot more enjoyable to be just you and not worry about everyone else.

[@ginab7982]

TRUTH!! I couldn't wait to get older so I could be unapologetically BOLD like my older female relatives I admire(d). Tactful, yet BOLD...I've made it!!😊

[@IrmaPayne-sf3qy]

Thank You Ms. Pam, That Is So True.

[@MadpiePerfect]

You are the most beautiful person on KZbin. When I try to tell people about you I cannot absolutely define you because you are so diverse. And your outlook is so very positive that you just bring up my spirits whenever I watch one of your videos. Please don’t change. You are amazing.

[@candicedemas8223]

This was so sweet and perfectly stated I agree ❤

[@em286]

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I'm worthy. Even if they don't think so 🙏❤️✨️

[@vickiehenry1650]

Yes! You are worthy. If they don't realize that, then they are missing out. 🙏🏻

[@margaretmobley9548]

Amen you are! Ppl still shock me with how horrible their tact and manners are just pretty much non existent. I'm glad I was raised to have simple down to earth manners for others.

[@janicestevenson-r4q]

This is a powerful message!

[@nemaro100]

THANK YOU PAM!!! That message is for me.

[@jswilliams-waldron7602]

Family dynamics. Thanks Pam. For me

[@MsTexas73]

Girl!!!!! This is THEE message and a word!!! You better say that! 🤌🏾🎯‼️

[@ReigningGlory9083]

Thanks for the confirmation ! I support this message!!!

[@MARCIARIBEIRO-yt7ko]

Thanks, Pam. I’ve been in that situation. Wise words.

[@kasniquesariawn4694]

Your voice is so soothing 😊Yes, you are correct on this one! Some people’s intentions just aren’t right.

[@bettyboop7738]

Wow Pam ..so introspective ! This is just total wisdom from a loving heart ❤️ thank you 🙂

[@arwenhardy1995]

That message was for me!!! I'm a single mother of a disabled son. My only living relative, my sister, has shunned us for Thanksgiving and I've been sick since January and am unable to cook this year. My son and I will be eating at Golden Corral. I'm with you, I'd rather not be invited and simply tolerated. However, it does hurt. I'm praying for God to send us friends. Maybe, if I get my health back, we can find a church. Happy Thanksgiving, Pam, from a new subscriber.🙏

[@debc7341]

God bless you. You and your son are worthy🙏🏻❤️✝️

[@charlenecastaldo3602]

Wishing you and your son a wonderful Thanksgiving.🦃 God loves you always. 🤗🤗

[@g.racquel3532]

Be Encouraged, I'm a mother with a special needs son also .. The Lord has always made a way and given peace to stay strong in the power of his might

[@teresa28ist]

God heal my sister in the name of Jesus and bring her genuine friends. Happy Thanksgiving! You will get your health back. Make sure there is no unforgiveness in you.

[@Eagle-l9c]

Hello, as I write this to you, I pray "by His stripes you are healed". I pray God cover and heal you & your son, and you have a Safe, Warm and Enjoyable Thanksgiving. Also, I pray open doors for you and your son to get to church and become one of God's chosen. My sister, just Believe. Those who shun you, will celebrate you. Blessings to you and your son❤🙏

[@bluewater4]

Even when...you are not invited. Thank you for stating that. Perfect way to describe a number of situations.

[@meganh4011]

Pam, your POV is always invited! Have a blessed holiday season and thanks for all your tips💞

[@joy-boblindskog6798]

Yup! She's got some good stuff

[@stitchingmatters6184]

This was meant for me this year! Thanks for putting things into perspective for me. There’s always another year and more friendships to make!

[@Queen-Of-Hearts144]

Just me and my son, and my fur babies, we're good; God bless everyone ❤

[@KeweenawPatriot]

Nice. In my 4+ decades of life I've never been invited. And when I invite, no one answers. Always been that way. Don't know why. You get over it eventually.

[@teresawaterkuetter8760]

In my 61 years I am the same way

[@debc7341]

❤

[@deliawright8626]

Got you beat Puddin😊 6 decades plus, and yes you do get used to it. You are a light bearer and a good soul. We sadly, reflect to people what they don't like about themselves, hence they don't like to be near us. Happy Thanksgiving.

[@annalanzotti-venrick3989]

I'm sorry honey. Sounds like you need new friends ❤❤❤

[@annalanzotti-venrick3989]

I've always been a misfit.

[@queentee6830]

Beautiful and well said. Wisdom and kindness is in your heart

[@lynnern57]

How did you know I needed to hear this?!

[@marleneweiss5325]

Sad but true. There have been times I have been invited..went and couldn't wait to get out of there. Thank you Pam,. Have a happy Thanksgiving!

[@10beachbum22]

Wise words! There are also plenty of places that are handing out meals to the less fortunate and you will meet some of the most grateful people that you are there to serve them a plate with a smile on your face.

[@jemrawc]

Absolute true words of wisdom!

[@amyludwig8685]

We love and thank you, Pam! ❤️

[@SephoraJohn]

Pam, you are so right !!! You know your own worth !!!

[@janiceirby7594]

You better PREACH! Ms. Pam!❤

[@Crazychickenlady448]

Thank you, Pam! It's me, I'm the one that needed to hear this. ❤

[@Indypendy]

Ms. Pam is so correct, as usual. I’ve noticed that even before I show up, someone else has an agenda. And as soon as I see that, I leave

[@KiKiQuiQuiKiKi]

❤Aunt Pam, you said the quiet part out loud for those who NEED to HEAR it❣️❣️❣️ HAPPY THANKSGIVING to you and yours. ❤

[@donnawheeler6283]

Being tolerated is worse than no invitation. This time of year is very stressful. I wish everyone a happy holiday season. Taking a break from family or friends that aren't your favorites is sometimes best for your sanity.❤

[@i-chelevisionmusicalove5123]

Pams Wisdom is priceless💗

[@platinummary]

You are a sweetheart, Pam. I appreciate you and your lovely heartwarming smile! Happy holidays

[@marywikstrom3756]

Thank you Pam for all your encouraging and inspiring videos ❤

[@chanamillard5965]

Thank you Pam for your wisdom. You are a blessing.❤

[@Jennifer-x3i]

AMEN! Thank you, Pam

[@realist2785]

I look back and absolutely agree. Especially after realizing some of my so-called fam & frnd hated me long before I knew it. You guess it, political and religious differences.

[@G.F.B.T.M]

Well said Mrs. Pam 🙏🏻 Well said ✝️ 👑🕊❤️

[@debc7341]

Good healthy message❤

[@Darshie-c9b]

Thank you Pam ❤ words from the wise ❤

[@DeniseJimenez-d4e]

Excellent point!!❤

[@deniserobinson2019]

This needs to be on a shirt a poster ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️Go where your celebrated not where your tolerated! Love absolutely love this ❤

[@desiraeduncan2201]

Perfectly said ❤

[@mimis105dobbins3]

God bless you Miss Pam ❤

[@deniselittles4160]

Yes I love it say it miss Pam please make more videos 😮😅

[@watcher235711]

This is so, so lovely! And yes, you can invite someone else, too and make them feel celebrated. LOVE U PAM!!!!!

[@MadAudi]

Good message for people to hear. Well stated.

[@elizabethlasseigne5361]

Wonderful advice!

[@brendaframe9661]

That is life in a nutshell. So many of us do not realize that we are simply tolerated. No really cared about or cherished. There are multitudes of people in this world who would love to get to know you and your strengths, weaknesses, and love you just for what you ARE. Thank you Pam!

[@margaretmobley9548]

Amen . Wonderful words of encouragement ❤️

[@katepeterson7544]

I feel like I need Mrs Pam to make me a play list of positive affirmations and advice!

[@ruthking2070]

You are a gift to everyone that comes across you!

[@lucycannon7277]

Amen! 🙏🏼

[@NatachaKemp]

Wonderful wisdom. ❤

[@teresasturgeon9857]

I would celebrate you ❤ thank you for Pam 🤗

[@Butterfly-ez2ko]

You nailed it, Pam! So true ❤

[@carolynklestinec8589]

Who would not " celebrate " Pam ??? . Seems like the best lady ever . Happy holidays

[@vx5468]

Wisdom ❤!

[@katheestreeter9120]

I have said that for years. Be where you are celebrated, not tolerated. Also, celebrate others.

[@onerainiday]

Bless you, Pam! Celebrated not tolerated! Spot on!❤

[@beayates6228]

Thank you ❤

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

Amen Pam❤ Have a blessed holiday😊

[@deliawright8626]

Thank you good Mom, Friend, Sister, Aunt, all around good woman. I'll enjoy friends and true family when I go home. This place is just a carnival. Thank you for sharing your kind good sense. Happy Thanksgiving Pam🎉🎉🎉

[@lewarrenjackson8424]

Thank you for that I go through this every year but I have the Lord at all times

[@joycepottinger4453]

My Sister, this just makes so much sense! Thank you, and enjoy your holiday! Blessings! 🙏🏽🙏🏽💞💞🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@tinastanley4444]

You are a precious lil angel. I use several of your helpful tips and just think the world of you Miss Pam. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours! ❤ always giving solid advice, making the world a better place. God bless you 😊

[@texan3821]

Pam, what a wonderful, insightful and tender message. I am not invited so I have planned a lovely meal at home.

[@Erika-uh5tc]

You are just the best! Ty! ❤ And thankful for you on our lives! Happy Thanksgiving!!

[@Pepper34]

That was for me. Thanks Ms Pam

[@rodman1914]

AMEN 💯, Love ya, and keep doing what you do

[@Eagle-l9c]

Pam, you have a SAFE, WARM ABS BLESSED THANKSGIVING. Your tips always inspire and educate me. God bless you ❤🙏

[@Bangel911]

Love your advice, tips and tricks and little messages here and there! Even when it doesn't apply to whatever I'm currently doing, your positive vibes are uplifting ❤❤ Happy Thanksgiving! 🦃🦃

[@KMMK2371]

Perfect timing for these wise words! 🎄

[@kennethstuckey7823]

Excellent advice, Pam, aka, Miss Brilliance! Most often, not being invited to something is a true blessing in disguise! While for some it might feel hurtful at first to not be included in social events hosted by others, for many its actually a positive thing in the long run, allowing you to focus on your own pursuits, prioritize quality relationships with genuine, like minded, unconditional people, and avoid unnecessary drama or obligations associated with pretentious people in social circles that come with conditions. When you're not relying on others to entertain you, you become more confident and comfortable with your own company and can develop hobbies and interests independently that often inspire people who are observing you from a distance to want to know how you found such peace and joyfulness in the things that you do.

[@lamartz11]

"Make sure you are going where you are celebrated and not tolerated" ain't that the truth

[@levmoses742]

So wonderful!! I do this work of teaching and guiding others in ways to practice self compassion. Thank you!! I’ll be sure to name you when I share some of your words in a class tonight. ❤

[@SheilaTrinity]

Dang Pam. I wish I had a friend like you in this world. You just made me feel so much better. I loved what you said at the end, that sometimes even when we get an invitation, we are not invited. You are now my new friend ❤❤ Happy Thanksgiving.

[@gavinogarcia1590]

AMEN 👏👏👏👏 I AGREE 👍 THANK U 🤗 MISS PAM , U R SO SWEET 😘👌.....God bless you !! Sister 🌴👌😁👌🌴.... STAY BLESS 🙏

[@craftyt333]

Ouch, caught it! So true.

[@purgatory-rv2vc]

You are so right. Thank you for understanding.

[@MarieFord-v7m]

Amen 🙏 Pam you just said a mouth 👄 full

[@dalehunt4428]

I agree! ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@judyhazell316]

Thank you so much You just answered my question. You are so right. God Bless 🙏❤️

[@marymartinez1125]

Tk u Pam 😊 i needed to be reminded that you really dont need to be so available. Tx Librarian 🇺🇸

[@juliahaymer]

I totally agree. Sometimes we may get invited to help out, not just because they enjoy our company but they know we don't mind getting our hands dirty, nothing wrong with offering a helping hand but there is more to a person than lending a helping hand all the time. If you have had a misunderstanding with the person and they never gave an apology in the right way, then you're invited to a party of theirs, it's about enjoying being around you. Some people need a maid than a friend.

[@MsRozWag]

Lorrrrrd Jesus!!!! You preached a Word! Yesss Mam! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@mizzyoung9836]

Exactly 👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾 Happy Holidays Everyone!!

[@isamar4073]

Wonderful message ! Love ya ! 💝