When You're Offended || Do's & Don'ts for When He Offends You || Fascinating Womanhood

[@itskylanotkayla]

I really appreciate this video. I grew up in a home where I saw domestic violence. I became so used to extreme offense and I really struggle with understanding how to manage more day to day, basic “conflict” - I either avoid confrontation or overreact. I am so glad you all are creating this content, there needs to be a space for women to learn about navigating life as a feminine, married, multi-dimensional woman ❤️

[@DixieandBob]

I’m so sorry you went through that. Sending you love and support ❤️

[@itskylanotkayla]

@@cynnnz thank you! We got this ❤️❤️❤️

[@perasperaadastra3737]

It is the same with me. I think it relates to impulsivity and the guard dog growing hypersensible in such environments. ♥️

[@yabe1496]

Im divorcing and my still husband is diagnosed with borderline pd and some sociopathic traits. Though I practiced all of the behaviours you mentioned by intuition it never worked. He needed fuel and the only way to get it was with drama and me having outbursts, tantrums. I learnt to be collected no matter what he did and I accepted his shadows, literally I went to hell, saw his and my demons. But then he noticed that the only way to desestabilize me emotionally was by putting our kids in danger, real danger, and he did so over and over. I had enough, im divorcing. We are separated now, my home is finally a peaceful place, my kids and I feel safe first time in 15 years of marriage. Im in the process of rediscovering my femenine energy and behaving very femenine with my soon ex husband helps me to have a very diplomatic relationship. Some people behave better from the distance. Your book and these videos help me to see that I was right living in my femeninity and that only emotionally disturbed people see femeninity as weakness and a target for abuse. Thanks!

[@CharityNicoleXOXO]

I wish someone had replied to you. I resonate much with this. 💖 Sending you a massive hug. There’s nothing you can do to change abusers. I’m glad you understood that and got out. Enabling them by staying only empowers them more. 😔 Sad truth.

[@melaniexoxo]

My father is an abusive narcissist and my heart hurts for what my mom put up with and couldn’t escape. I care for him with my sister. These people never change he’s as abusive as ever. I’m so glad you feel safe now.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

@@melaniexoxoSadly, we walk amongst demons. 😢

[@nataliearkus7539]

Thank God for Fascinating Womanhood 🙏🏻 I never learnt how to cultivate my emotions into something positive when growing up and being offended... this video explains how some women are more emotional than others and I am one of them! Just had a baby to make things more intense! My partner is working so hard looking after the toddlers while I nurse and am up all night, am so grateful to him, and theres me crying at the drop of a hat! This video is really helpful to me for navigating these situations when I feel like the world is about to come crashing down

[@nataliearkus7539]

@@cynnnz thank you! ❤

[@yudithcole8935]

Thank you for what you're doing. I wish nore women would be open minded enough to listen and learn, but I'm so thankful that I have found this powerful resource that I can use to strengthen and deepen my relationship with my husband. I wish we could reach more people. I've gotten quite passionate about this way of life, and want to share it with my fellow ladies, but because it's such a controversial subject, and quite misunderstood, it's hard to approach the topic. I see marriages failing, but it's not always my place to give unwarranted advice. Anyways, thank you😊

[@DixieandBob]

Thank you - this means a lot. 💋

[@user-ko2tu3ss3o]

I'm 55 and when I grow up I want to be just like our beautiful Miss Dixie. And..........please forgive me, I do not comment on ladies appearance, but will take a chance and hope not to cause offence. I would love to see Miss Dixie with her hair straightened just once. She is such a gorgeous lady and I admire her feminine dress, makeup and hair. I too am growing my hair and allowing my silver to shine through. It is working out very well with shoulder length hair which is growing in cream colored blonde. 40 years of coloring and finally nature is doing it for me. Free. A small blessing which is much appreciated. Love this video, and I extend my grateful thanks to my two favorite KZbin ladies for more helpful and supportive guidance. Thank you.

[@DixieandBob]

You are too kind! I have tried it straight and I don't like the way it looks on me! I used to wear it straight when I was in my 20's. ☺️

[@user-ko2tu3ss3o]

@@DixieandBob And even now in your 40s you are still beautiful.

[@perasperaadastra3737]

This is amazing advice also for setting borders without making it seem like a rejection or accusation. I struggled a lot with saying no to something because I would actually rather like to say yes, it is just that the circumstances have a really unhealthy effect on me and then also on him. Yesterday I did not know how I could create for myself the freedom to not give a definite "yes" without needing to explain how much I like him nevertheless which would then also feel suffocating to him and we have a history with respect to that which should not repeat. I am glad that we are actually still talking and having positive mood with each other. So it is really difficult for me to learn to steer things into a different direction in a feminine not negative feelings causing kind of way. In the end I put it like "I am not sure if we should go on with this, although you are actually still almost unbelievably sexy" So this way also seems perfect to create distance in a time which makes distance needed because things are complicated. I struggle with being too compromising and forgiving and this then always leads to me tolerating more than is actually healthy in the long term. I never found a good way to communicate this without having to explain or justify too much and it always became complicated just because I didn't know a charming way to say no and was fearful. Thank you so much for all of your really helpful advice. In the books, in the videos, on Facebook. Thank you!

[@memyselfmariah35]

Cherry I relate to you so much! Me and my husband are both South American but he was raised in Brazil and I was raised in the United States. I constantly used to be offended at things he said (perfectionist), even though we are from the same culture it was still a shock to me! This year going on 7 years married and applying fascinating womanhood has brought wonderful changes! it's amusing to me now when he is grumpy lol

[@arieallewis1]

This video saved me from having an argument I am so grateful for you ladies and your insight and your perceptions!

[@WoodlandPoetry]

I wish you would do a series on how to handle specific character flaws in a man. We have to accept them, but how do we handle them at the time? For instance, my husband has the temper from the pit. He just explodes out of nowhere & will say the most hurtful things. Then 30 minutes later he's forgotten all about it! Since none of us married perfect husbands, I think we all would appreciate advice on how to handle these different types of fellows. In my case, I'm from the Deep South and he's from New York. He's also the most lovable thing ever. But when you're dealing with a different culture - wow!

[@DixieandBob]

Great idea on character flaws and how to respond. I think that’s the key here, how to respond vs how to handle him. Even thinking about it in that way changes things. Have you by chance watched our video on Girlishness?

[@WoodlandPoetry]

@@DixieandBob I'll watch it right now. I read your mom's book chapters on it but every time I tried it he just got madder. I'll see what's in the video. Thanks so much! Hugs!

[@angelaskipper8177]

Thank you 👍

[@sweetmlee6068]

Just ordered the book from Amazon ! Can’t wait !

[@DixieandBob]

Yay! Thank you!

[@gaby5546]

19:13 That's not silly, I love walking the cart back to the store after! Lol I find it peaceful too. Just walking and breathing the (kinda) fresh air and feeling the breeze on you lol.

[@preciouswilliams7007]

I’ve been really enjoying the content. Thank you.

[@janetlattimore7850]

🦋🦋 Good evening Ladies & "Happy New Year" 🦋🦋

[@DixieandBob]

Happy New Year!!

[@heathersole7125]

I have a tendency to react rather than respond, this video is great!

[@manonvernon8646]

Wonderful advice as always.

[@DixieandBob]

Glad it was helpful!

[@cleanandorganised]

I really enjoyed today’s video. Thank you 😄

[@DixieandBob]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@princessblockianna7341]

My husband tends to do silent treatment towards me and not speak or look at me then leaves without saying anything. I be ready to blow up 😔😡

[@DixieandBob]

Oh we should definitely do a video on the silent treatment - you're not the first to ask! Adding this to our list. 😘

[@takilove3566]

@@DixieandBob yes please do a video

[@SoulTooBeautiful]

Wow! I needed this video today

[@MamasaraousSteph]

Cherry Lynn- your so cute with the whole “walking the shopping cart to the stall” example! I totally understand that 🤗

[@bre4659]

this was a very good topic to touch on, thanks ladies!!

[@DixieandBob]

Thanks for your support! 🙏🏻

[@rachelsmith5643]

Love your videos! Would you consider doing a video on remaining feminine while discussing politics? I usually try to avoid it entirely if someone has different views from me, but people want to debate politics more than ever.

[@davidb7989]

The problem then Cherry is when you are returning the grocery cart (18:50), with the kids driving off with your car and then you really will be alone. LOL! You better get one of your kids to return the cart from now on. I know it has happened to parents, with one on the peddles and one on the steering. Haha!!

[@cherrylynn7763]

Lol! You know what’s hilarious to me about your comment? I actually put my moms car into reverse when I was 5 or 6 when I was alone in the car and backed into crazy traffic and caused a horrible accident! My poor mom had to go to traffic court - poor thing was just dropping off some dry cleaning! She had no idea I would move the gear shift (this was back in the day before care seats!) luckily I have 1 child in a car seat plus I have a car with key detection so when I walk away I have the keys in my pocket! 😂 I think about my horrible mistake every time I leave my kids in the car for even a second so I am VERY aware! 😂😂

[@DixieandBob]

@@cherrylynn7763 - you were so little! 🙂 Thank goodness for those new cars with the key detection! 🙏🏻

[@davidb7989]

@@cherrylynn7763 Thanks for sharing the great story of your childhood that we all do to our parents as naive children!

[@kerrykatz2853]

Thank you ladies :) Can anyone point me in the direction of the series of Fascinating Womanhood, can I purchase these ebooks online, I can't seem to find them:)

[@DixieandBob]

Hello! All of our books are attached to this video! Look in the description box!

[@sweetmlee6068]

Great video thank you ! I wish you can cover a topic for me - my husband have kids from previous marriage and I would love to hear your advice on how I can be better stepmother and wife !make my relationship with my husband better by practicing fascinating womanhood in this situation ( his kids) ...

[@DixieandBob]

Great suggestion!

[@RachelAnnHarris-Sparks-h8y]

I’ve found that my man knows what things “offend” me and he does these things when he wants to fight, or get even, or let out some sort f his own anger. I actually even see him smile when he does it. It’s a problem. It’s very passive aggressive.

[@mrsr9838]

Great video as Always girls 💕

[@DixieandBob]

Thank you 🤗

[@ethergnosis]

timely!! i just got offended by my male neighbor and now i feel .... my forehead got tight

[@DixieandBob]

Oh no! Geeze getting offended by neighbors could be it’s own video! 😕

[@funanddance1]

Where can I learn more about the art of girlishness mentioned here and in the book? Thank you in advance!

[@DixieandBob]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/iJKrZaqCqcpmqLM

[@DixieandBob]

This is our video on Girlishness

[@milliemcdonald2004]

I'm a "worst case scenario" person. It's so hard to stop that! Help!

[@DixieandBob]

We all have our areas of opportunity! I just released my 12 lesson Master Classes if you need more help! They're on my membership only channel here on KZbin!

[@tholangplaatjies4705]

Thank you ladies. What's the name of the TV show that you usually use it's scenes in the videos? It seems interesting and hilarious 🤭

[@DixieandBob]

The main movie in this video is called, "Forever Darling". I must admit it has just as many bad examples as it has good ones! But it's fun either way to watch☺️ We also used, "Romance on the High Seas" and "Its a Wonderful Life" briefly.

[@angelinewoodard8499]

I thought I was the only one with the slow grocery cart!!

[@milliemcdonald2004]

The only time you can change someone else is if they are wearing a diaper.

[@mariebrown5681]

Usually, I agree with your advice, but this time, I srongly disagree with you. To tell a woman she should passively put up with a man's verbal abuse is sick.