When You're Tested // Season 2 Episode 4 | Honest Tea Talk

In this episode, we talk about a topic that affects absolutely everyone: the tests, trials and difficulties of life. Everyone has been tested, is being tested, or will be tested.
What tools have helped you cope with the most trying tests of your life?
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About Honest Tea Talk
with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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[@katrinamackenzie8789]

I was in the dark and Allah showed me the light 🙏

[@2manyusernamestaken548]

Al hamdu lillah

[@beshiryunus4279]

Katrina Mackenzie الحمد لله، May Allah increase you in graduate

[@omerdahir973]

Alhamdullilah

[@carolynwillingham9744]

@@2manyusernamestaken548pi

[@carolynwillingham9744]

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[@khadijafulan8308]

I was shown this at the right moment, subhanaAllah.

[@The1Kamila]

I feel the same way sis SubhanaAllah

[@mazmaj3014]

Sumaya M same wallah

[@bubbleminho9092]

I just needed this ,I’m a college student in China 🇨🇳 and situation here is really terrifying Subhanallah I’m trying my best to be positive but the fear is too much Subhanallah and sometimes I kind question my faith why can’t I just trust Allah,truly I do but I’m also scared 😟 Let’s hope for the best

[@UmmTaha]

Bubble Minho DUA for protection from Corona Virus اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْبَرَصِ، وَالْجُنُونِ، وَالْجُذَامِ، وَمِنْ سَيِّئِ الأَسْقَامِ ALLAHUMMA INNI AUDHUBIKA MINAL BARSI, WAL JUNOONI, WALJUZAAMI, WA SAYYIL ASQAAM Oh ALLAH I seek Your refuge from leprosy, Insanity, mutilation and from all serious illness. Do share with your loved ones ❤

[@bubbleminho9092]

ام طه باعلوي Shukran 🙏🏻

[@ummzahra9196]

May Allah protect you

[@bayniakate9580]

Amine may Allah protect us all

[@whisperingwhiskerss4877]

May Allah make it easy for you sis Ameen! Stay strong!

[@muizatoiza2819]

When you put your trust in Allah s.w.t , he makes a way out of every difficulties. Jazakallahu khairan sisters. This made my day

[@tinimini1904]

People's addiction nowadays :Netflix My addiction :Honest 🍵 Talk

[@fatimabah1538]

The beautiful thing about being tested is how you run back to ALLAH giving Him your all and letting Him control everything ❤️ this love but it requires patience!

[@bayniakate9580]

❤💗💓so true

[@doseofshams]

The way you sisters spoke about it was so authentic and relatable. There’s so many sisters and brothers struggling and sometimes we need to get past the “is this a punishment for me” and change it to what is this test gonna teach me.

[@nimo1155]

'free falling in tawakkul' This!

[@mozajadeed7991]

I love how Leyinka reminds us that every difficult comes with easy, not after - but with it. Amazing, alhamdulillah.

[@XawaStudys]

I’ve realized that sometimes very painful tests actually make me run back to Allah. And as painful as the experience can be, I am grateful for it because my fear, love and trust in Allah has grown through the experiences.

[@Layla6793]

Sisters I have been going through difficult time for a year and a half please make Dua for me that Allah makes easy for me and umma

[@Moon_2024]

May Allah make easy on you. Say innalilahi waina ilahi ragiwn. 🙂

[@bushrab105]

may Allah swt grant you ease and comfort.

[@calansidacabdi5334]

May Allah give you the strength to go through and bless you with better life Aamiin

[@ummulkulthumabdulkareem2981]

Me too sister ... May almighty Allah ease all our affairs.

[@Layla6793]

@@ummulkulthumabdulkareem2981 Amiin ya Allah Sister

[@nadiahabilaassia8906]

It is so true when we can’t handle it anymore, and we accept the Kadar and leave it to Allah swt We feel so relieved.

[@aminakoroma3044]

This was a beautiful episode and so fitting. Only thing I have to say is we need longer epidoes. I'd be more than happy to listen to 45min to 1 hour episodes. May Allah increase you all in goodness and success of this podcast

[@sdomain7018]

I am going through a particular test right now. I was resisting the qadar like you guys said and ohhhhh my.... it really gave me a hard time. Allah (S.W) does whatever he wants, whatever is best for us. I can’t explain the relief I got the moment I gave it all to him, trusting whatever he is planning to give me. Subhanallah. Thank you sisters for this beautiful reminder.

[@katrinamackenzie8789]

S M Alhamdullilah ❤️

[@esalisa1618]

Such a company 💜 I really really need friends like this where I can share my thoughts fearlessly about god and courage me to get closer to him everyday..it is a very good time to know you ladies because I feel lost these days and your convo. actually make it clear 💜 jazakom allah kairaa

[@sabrinauddin1495]

Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, well said sister

[@sarahschwarz9972]

It takes a lot of maturity and wisdom to deal with the test in the way that Umm Raiyaan described; asking ourselves why this is happening to me the way that it is right now. Husn a Dhan billah; the best of thoughts of Allah. If there is one thing that each of us works on today....

[@katrinamackenzie8789]

Tests are a blessing

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Crying my eyes out ♥️the words The moment you give it up to Allah the relief comes

[@demitriagomez123]

MashaAllaah, my dear sisters. That was really something I needed to hear and I'm sure many others needed it as well. I am loving the topics of season 2! The sneak peek for next week's episode already had me in tears. Cannot wait, inshaAllaah! Allaah yubaarik feekum. ❤️

[@aisharaven2892]

As salamu alaikum sisters. Thank you for the insight. I have the test of difficulty getting married. it sounds so simple but it has been so hard for me 😢. This is helping me feel more encouraged that Allah has the best timing.

[@ayeshamurshid4282]

In the midst of listening to this talk, I paused the video and just bawled my eyes out thinking about all the times I held on to things in the hopes that this very thing would bring me ease only to learn that my ease was coming from another source! SubhanAllah! How Great is Allah? He does what He pleases and when He pleases and our job should be to simply say to Allah 'Same3na wa Ata3na' We hear and we obey! JazakhAllah khair for this beautiful and insightful talk. May Allah bless you all abundantly for your service to this Ummah. Ameen

[@patioali2653]

Subhanala allah what a beautiful episode! Thank you sisters you are doing hard work to show world the exact meaning of a Muslim Women and how can they do such big analysis

[@athaar.a]

25:39 What Sister Layinka said about the thing that solves the problem sometimes being as simple as "I'm sorry"is so true! Especially when we complicate it so much in our minds, it can be so relieving when we do that simple but hard thing and then feel that tension melt into ease

[@fassie99]

Unlearning the negative perceptions of AllahSWT is difficult especially if you have been raised being told that 'Allah is going to punish you' for every mistake that you made. SubhanAllah I'm in tears just thinking of this. I'm sure if we were taught to love Allah and strive to not disappoint him bc of the love he has for us, many of us wouldn't have lost our faith during our tests.

[@tomjerry207]

You also have to realise that during the test u make that connection with Allah straight away but it waivers really bad sometimes. So in a way u r going up n down during the test, it's not always at the same level.

[@dedicatedbeingil2671]

I second to that

[@ItzHstxr]

My heart needed this so much ❤

[@Onajourney519]

I really needed to hear this.

[@maridhiasaid8071]

Can't wait for the episode!

[@mycottagecorner4759]

I genuinely appreciate your efforts with this channel Allahuma barek Lakum ❤️

[@teabooksandallthingscoffee7570]

This is gold. Jazaakumullahu Khayr HTT!!!

[@sharifahassan976]

Jazzakumulah Kheir for always speaking to our hearts.

[@jazmincervantes2092]

"All along the solution was with us".. indeed very true! We complicate things further when WE believe we know better then Allah.

[@CoffeeKrayzee]

Thank you so much for yet another beautiful episode. May Allah reward you all. JazakumAllahu khair. So excited for the next episode. Already got teary from the preview. What a great idea for an episode!

[@halimaalisadiallo8292]

I am so happy I heard about you Sisters. I always feel like I am being tested in all areas of my life mentally, spiritually and with those who I interact with whether it be family members or those I work with. In Shaa Allah this will give me some clarity on my purpose in life.

[@suziejms]

Beautiful and timely once again. Jazakum Allah kheir sisters

[@AM24796]

I loved this episode so much. Can’t wait for the next one!!!!!

[@idrissasow4700]

Thank you for your experiences sisters!!!

[@ruthtruthinireland]

Everything you guys said today was - in my opinion - divinely inspired, Alhamdulillah.

[@aminanoor6337]

Such useful insight, I love the way these lovely ladies openly and honestly share their advice. Really feels reassuring

[@lifealtaring]

SubhanaAllah. This work is impactful. I am here for this .

[@katrinamackenzie8789]

Yes your right some people can’t understand, prophet Muhammad (saw) wanted to die because he hadn’t had a revelation for a long time and he was the closest to Allah and he’s had doubts, and his bond with Allah was never ending

[@Megaprettygreen]

You were all just talking but it so so resonated with me because I kept counting timesss when I just let go and trusted Allah in all of my difficult times and He ALWAYS Came Through. At the RIGHT time. I’m evening tearing up. Allah Bless you three. I wish to meet you one day:-)

[@irened8457]

Jazakallah I Am so glad I Am watching you guys. My world fell apart two years ago and it has been a long hard road but I learnt the true sweetness of trust in Allah. It wasn't that I wasn't praying salat. It wasn't that I wasn't a good Muslim. It waS that Allah wanted me to turn to him not the person who had been hurting me for a long time whilst I was in denial. And yes family was no help

[@kmiss786]

Shukran for being real and raw! ❤️You are all beautiful inside n out Alham’dulillah .🌹❤️🌹

[@azeezatibrahim3493]

JazakAllah Khair Sisters, May Allah keep reward you for each Gems episode..♥️

[@zmomo6352]

I don't usually comment, but this was a profound reminder, may Allah reward you immensely for sharing your thoughts and solutions. Jzk

[@SheCanSmile]

So powerful alhamdullilah

[@Rawoonah2cool]

Such a beautiful conversation❤

[@ikrammohamed4618]

Great talk about patience, mashAllah!

[@user-qe1mk6xk1z]

Jazakallah so much 4 this helped me accept my storm allhamdullah need to enjoy the test b4 it's over..

[@aminaaden5046]

Thank u sisters❤❤❤

[@rashidamhsaibu6959]

Subhanna LLAH sisters you spoke my mind. Exactly, the solution is right there, the ease is within the storm we’re in. May ALLAH grants us deep understanding, Ameen

[@MissLightuponlight]

Ma'shaa'Allah, this was absolutely beautiful!

[@abibatogunrinde8498]

So in time Jazaakumullohu khayran

[@mariakothari16]

Can you guys talk about contraception please. JazakAllah

[@shirazz9043]

MashaAllah TabarakAllah full of wisdom.

[@bravenour528]

Love you so much keep doing this bz its touching our souls 😘😘😘♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@Hannalibra]

I LOVE your discussions, I LOVE the topics, I LOVE everything about the show. The ladies, their friendship, their openness, their honesty.... is so refreshing to watch. I wish I had a circle of girlfriends like this. Keep up the wonderful work ladies. I want to see you go to Season 50 :) Please do not STOP!

[@Sakinalee143]

💜💜THANK YOU SISTERS!!!!💜💜

[@peacelover8686]

JazakaALLAH Qayr.

[@username99171]

Mind blowing 😭

[@kendah111]

You have no idea how helpful your discussion and realness have been 💗💗💗 I only wish the discussion were a little longer

[@lemmonejaganas2213]

Watching this video feels like someone listening to me someone understand what I what wanted to say... I feel sad and regretful now... I open yt just to look for your video honestly talk that can relate to my situation now... I felt comfort... Thank you

[@katrinamackenzie8789]

We are so impatient

[@haneenalmersal6151]

what an amazing talk

[@boringunoriginalname]

I absolutely loved this episode SubhanAllah ❤️ Wise words and a wonderful conversation

[@aminaibrahim2031]

Jazak Allah Khayr Sisters❤️❤️ May Allah bless the work you are doing and keep you.... Ameen. Just wanted to add... as sister Layinka mentioned “with every difficult comes ease” that our trials in life are never all bad completely. In your trial, if you look at your situation and try to focus and count your other blessings from Allah aside the trial , you will realize that you are still blessed and if you look to those below you (ie people who have worst situations) then it makes you grateful to Allah for testing you in that way and it strengthens your trust in Him knowing He will provide a solution to the test (even though this may take a longtime). So even as you go through the difficult times, remember to look for the ease that comes with it and it may be as simple as having a shoulder to lean on at that moment. May Allah give us the tawwaqul we need to go through the trials of life. Ameen.

[@nerishaib7810]

Exactly what is said in this video I felt and I partially did. The moment you submit to Allah and you leave it to his will. You will feel more at ease. We just have to trust the process as hard as it maybe.

[@maheartabdi9852]

MashaAllah..good work watching you all the way from South Africa.

[@TheShyRae]

May Allah bless you sisters and all who have made this possible, ameen. This discussion serves so many benefical reminders, and it's a video I will be referring back to whenever I have a spiritual dip.

[@NadiaYusra]

this is beautiful. ma shaa Allah keep going.

[@tihutm-mine9463]

I learn to let go all my anxiety and drop it all in the feet to Allah May he have mercy to all human beings.

[@muftiyahmirah]

Do difficulties or tests always have to have a "solution"? What about life-long disabilities, having a child with a life-long disability, lethal or chronic illness? Of course, Allah gives strength and with hardship comes ease. But people have to understand that people with disabilities will not just "grow out of it" and people with deadly diseases will not just be miraculously healed in most cases (not negating miracles to happen). And the verse "with hardship comes ease" can be easily used in a judgemental way.

[@muftiyahmirah]

@@LaYinkaSanni I am a mother of four. One has severe CP, another one has autism, and yet another one is right now at the hospital fighting for her life... what I wanted to make people aware of is that there may not be any solution in this life. We need the akhira to find justice, peace, freedom of pain and death, and solutions to some problems. May Allah grant your child and you ease and may Allah grant life to my daughter and ease for all my children. Ameen

[@moenatiefrydie188]

@@muftiyahmirah aslm sister may Allah Swt grant ur family shifaa e kaamielah ease their pain and suffering and make it easy for you and your family ameen thumma ameen Yaa Rabbal Aalameen when a person think about all the suffering Nabie Yakoeb went through it brings u some kind of relief slm

[@maimounabathily6374]

May Allah bless you guys this is so profound and powerful

[@khabose2948]

Very beautiful talk! I love how one of the sister’s dig deeper about how people might judge others going through things they can’t understand. It’s true. I’ve been in both sides of that coin. With each test Insha’Allah we become more wise and get closer to Allah. Insha’Allah we slow down and tap into our inner selves and hear what Allah is teaching us and showing us. It is a bear of a task but never stop asking for help and clarity. Even if you feel like the worst of servants or what you’re going through is because of something you did. Don’t dwell on that. Focus on the fact that Allah has you there making du’a so He still loves you and wants to hear from you. That this hardship, He ALONE knows how deeply painful and difficult it is and He designed it just for you because that pain and difficulty is the exact pressure needed to take you to the next place. Next step. Deeper relationship with Him.

[@mazmaj3014]

Wallahi this episode gave me hope. You guys touched on so many good points that are v relatable. Alhamdullilah I feel much better about my situation may allah bless you sisters Ameen

[@nadiahabilaassia8906]

Amazing MashaAllah.

[@Angieta230]

perception management..i like that

[@ikramikram7205]

SubhanAllah, this comes on a right time for me. Have some problems right now. Thank you for perspetiev and knowledge. So much needed right now. Djzakallah ou ghairan🤲🏼

[@sweetiepie3617]

SubhanAllah Amazing Discussion in this.episode and.of course as.alway beneficial reminder 💕 This is so true almost every one of us can relate to this discussion We all are one point another going through May Allah swt grant ease to all of our brothers and sisters ease from all form of difficulty that they may go Sisters Aliya , sumaya & Layinka jazakh Allah Khairun for this Productive show may Allah bless you all, lots of love to you sisters... May Allah bless you sisters 💕💕💕 Assalamu Alikom

[@Risanaification]

Masha Allah great talk

[@sarahlee7198]

Mash Allah absolutely

[@cshashasha6662]

How can I volunteered to translate this video to my language? MasyaaAllah I felt very much inspired and understood when I watched this. Barakallah sisters, thank you very much for sharing. 😭

[@raxmacail]

JazaakiAllahu khayran xabiibti MaanshaAllah I am so happy that of your mindset

[@HonestTeaTalk]

Wa alaikum salaam sister, definitely get in touch with us via email. We look forward to hearing from you.

[@cshashasha6662]

@@HonestTeaTalk mashaaAllah, yes please, do. What is your e-mail address?

[@infinit3light]

MashAllah really appreciate these episodes! Fave episode so far, much needed reminder

[@katrinamackenzie8789]

Amazing 👌

[@yaseminyorganci1256]

My personal experience: He makes you confront with challenges if he wants you to get be closer to him. As a result you seek for more forgiveness, apply for more mercy and knock and knock and knock on his door until He's opening. And he makes you acting right way - hamdA

[@fatimahridriguez6916]

This is a great topic Subhannallaah. One of he first thing we need to say at a time of hardship is Inna lillahi wa Inna ilayhi raji’oon And truly accept Allaah’s decree. Remember that, Almighty Allaah will not burden us with something greater than what we can handle Subhannallaah. May Allaah make it easy for all of us and protect us from all harm. Ameen ya Rabb

[@anisahkhatun7709]

Beauty emerges from the broken

[@Etaruhd]

Tgis is very true and beautiful. And the holding space and leaving one to deal with it in the beginning is so accurate. The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by a woman who was crying over a grave and said, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” The woman was later told that it was the Prophet (ﷺ) (who had advised her). She came to his door where she found no doorkeeper. She said, “(I am sorry) I did not know you.” Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Patience is (becoming) only at the first (stroke) of grief”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Yes he sis advice when he saw her crying at the grave. But then let her be. He gave her the opportunity to see for herself.

[@halimatoudiallo1029]

beautiful and balanced ❤︎already emotional watching next episode's clip..Mashaa Allah,great-job,beautiful sisters:)❤︎

[@dedicatedbeingil2671]

Same thoughts

[@Layla6793]

Ma Sha Alla sisters may Allah bless you all

[@abdullaalansari8061]

Something I like reminding myself and my friends is the 2 P's or the 2 ص mentioned in Surah Al Baqarah verse 153 يٰٓاَيُّهَا الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوا اسۡتَعِيۡنُوۡا بِالصَّبۡرِ وَالصَّلٰوةِ ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ مَعَ الصّٰبِرِيۡنَ "O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient." Patience and Prayer صبر و صلاة :D

[@zaainsaeed7486]

10:28 maybe they haven't really had the proper knowledge of how to deal with it and sometimes someone just needs to tell them how after things fall apart everything gets better eventually.

[@tah-hh1km]

And than you went to that stage that you would become comfortable with that thoughts that uneasiness and do nothing about it jzt go along........and become "still" like a rockkkkkkkk.a helpless hopeless situation

[@amala1874]

God bless you.

[@ummzahra9196]

Verily with hardship comes ease

[@lovelyyano]

I am in a new country though its my 'home' country, I didn't quite grow up here and I'm not finding things so different. I don't know if Allah's punishing me or testing or redirecting me. So I've been frustrated with studies and the new environment I feel like nobody understands.

[@dferg6339]

What is the opening song? It is so beautiful.

[@CB-kt6bu]

MashaAllah I just love these discussions. May Allah reward you ladies and continue to make it easy for you to continue.

[@flawlessjay8847]

Mashaa Allah

[@gganderson9991]

Can somebody please tell me the name of the nasheed in the beginning? It's so touching