Bouncing Back from the Lows // Season 3 Episode 12 | Honest Tea Talk

We're all sinners sinning differently. We all make mistakes. We are human as well as being Muslim.
In this episode we talk about how to bounce back from sin, mistakes and despair.
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About Honest Tea Talk
with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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[@minan9179]

Took my shahada in California on Friday May 21, 2021. 21st day of the month - 21st week of the 21st year in the 21st century. Felt the mercy of Allah upon me, my heart feels full. I’m grateful to have found your channel. Three sisters who are articulately helping the ‘modern’ ummah. It’s been 18 months of my inner child healing journey, I appreciate the knowledge and wisdom you all share. May Allah bless you in this life and the hereafter.

[@bashirali318]

Welcome sis

[@anid1430]

Congratulations Masha'Allah

[@Sarah-to7oj]

مشاء الله My Allah guide us to right bath

[@efk8919]

MashaAllah Tabarakallah, the way you put it ..indeed Allah guides..may He protect you continue to guide us and bless u.

[@naimowarsame3953]

May Allah protect you from all evil, and welcome to the family my sister.

[@MadinaAhmed90]

I hope and pray that honest tea talk continues for a long time. You are helping a lot of us and and your truth is making so many realize what’s truly important. And to finally have a true and sincere conversation about unspoken things that’s happening within the Muslim community. جزاك اللهُ خيرًا sisters.

[@hennathehorse]

Hate the sin, not the sinner and leave the judgement to Allah. ❤

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Too many holy judgers 💕

[@eishaturrazia6719]

i rarely comments but ive been dealing with an addiction ive never told anyone about and.. the lows.. seem too low to bounce back from sometimes. This has really helped me. And i love you

[@kristalkhadija7692]

May Allah continue to strengthen and guide you! May ar-Rahman grant you His Forgiveness and Mercy in this life and in the next, and build for yoy a home in Jannah for your sincerity in wanting to chamge for His Pleasure. Allahumma amin

[@SF-pm1ov]

May He make it easy for you. Ameen

[@eishaturrazia6719]

@@kristalkhadija7692 ameen sumameen ya rabb

[@hannaomer4072]

May Allah make it easy for you. Don’t despair on the mercy of Allah. Try to recognize and heal from the emotions that bring you to want to numb the feeling with whatever addiction. May Allah heal you sis

[@shein672]

I hope Allah helps you with your addiction, if its still there don't give up, keep asking allah!

[@theg8rl8ei24]

I can't forget how someone kept talking bad about me, because I had a financial trial and would tell people not to help me,. I cried so much from the pain because I have been trying to rely alone on ALlah to the point that my mother cries from sleep from the shame I got from this sister spreading bad about me. I try not to make dua against her because I know its Allah not her. But it amazes me how 1 person can be so mean to bring me down because of a mistake. Allahul musta'an. I can relate to this

[@theg8rl8ei24]

@Yasmine Ameeen sister

[@deemichele6851]

Subhan’Allah, Powerful Segment ‼️

[@CharlyPS3]

Watching you beloveds sisters from the city of prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)

[@gigimonrose157]

Omg you nearly have 100,000 subscribers! What a success you’ve all achieved!!! It’s making me quite emotional actually being someone who followed you from the very beginning. Shin bright ladies! You deserve all the success coming your way! 🌈🌈🌈 X

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Seeking forgiveness from the Creator of foregiveness

[@lamizaemandien7287]

Assalaamu alaikom wa Ragmatoellaahie wa barakaatoe my beloved sisters. Love this show. From Cape Town South Africa

[@y1s1a2]

May Allah unite the ummah Ameen!

[@sanajarrar6993]

Masha'Allah...Aliyah blew me away in this episode with her insights. Barak'Allah feekum my sisters, thank you for this essential digital space you've created for us.

[@LoveCisse]

Ladies, please come back we are missing you guy's 🥺

[@aliay2743]

Layyinka is so correct. compassion, sit down, and backstory

[@noornesanoor-un-nesaazam6367]

Jazakallahkhair sisters, such a great reminder for us....we are human and everyone sins differently so may Allah give us the tawfeeq to turn back to Him.

[@ysRilLLeX]

My dear sisters, may Allah bless with abundance of guidance inside your hearts

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

آمين جزاك الله خيرا

[@yvonnehorhager1238]

If season 3 is the desert.. please don’t stop doing this sister wallahi 😭 what about the side dishes, the salat, the aperitif, the drinks ?!... 🥺 and don’t forget.. there is ALWAYS room for ice cream.. ☹️

[@rjml1749]

Hahahha ooh yes!

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Allahumma barik

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Prayer never lose hope

[@sialao849]

AssalamuAlaikum, thanks for talking about this. People should not talk about another person sin if they had already repented and rec' Allah's forgiveness.

[@agbajelatifat9862]

Jazakumullah khayran always every episode has been speaking to me personally to my personal life trials.... “Allah hates the sin not you the sinner and he loves a repentant soul” we all need to have compassion for one another May Allah keep blessing u sisters and thank you for Honest Tea Talk! It’s been life changing for me and every week I learn something new and my heart is closer to Allah each time....I love Islam and I love you ladies for the sake of Allah...

[@GrayzoneGab]

Each of you offers such valuable insight. You guys are the voice for muslim young women. ❤️ I wish there were sheikhs who also held such inviting and relevant conversations for young women.

[@aaminam1630]

This episode was so beautiful, I can’t wait for the next one. I pray that Allah SWT gives you guys the best in this life and the hereafter! Ameen!

[@maria7694]

Thank you sisters for making these video

[@Maryoomti]

This is such an amazing session JAK for everything y’all do

[@liamanah]

Absolutely love the honest tea talk. Thanks for creating a space to talk about the most important things.

[@IMKaraama]

this is my first time I watched your videos and it brings peace in my heart. mashallah, we love to see these kind of conversations. keep it

[@naimamohamed5932]

Ma sha Allah this is such a wonderful episode thanks sisters.

[@Faisal-tx9ii]

Honestly, i'm glad to watch this.

[@MzSonyaLuv]

This touched me to my soul! Thank you

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

JazakAllahu khair for sharing some of your beneficial tips and advice sisters in Islam

[@Aliyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh]

Aliyahs advice was my favourite jzkla khr

[@quasmasaeed7026]

Asalamualaykum dear sisters Jazakallahkhairan for these wonderful talks. They have been very beneficial for myself and inside for so many others. I am so gladnthstbyou spoke about this topic. It is a very very pertinent issue that affects or has affected or will affect us at some point in our lives. To anyone reading this; we must do our best to the commands of Allah to the best of our ability but know that when we fall into a sin or sins, the doors of Allah's mercy are always open.

[@efk8919]

It's kinda true ,some pple dont feel others ,they just like to pass judgement any how they feel. Until they are tested then they realise it wasn't just bout them cz they used to feel so 'holier'.

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Always sooo holier... geeze ikr

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all our mistakes, accept our good deeds and grant us a beautiful entry to Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

[@imeshe1884]

My Sisters Are Back ♥️

[@jocelynburrell5079]

The Teachers say to give up one the Mercy is worst then the Sin

[@ghaniyyahmaleeq7530]

Jazakumullahu khair for this. Just what I needed now

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Ikr.... totally agreed 👌🏼

[@sofiaperez3322]

I found this chaannel, it's very good! I'm watching you from Argentina

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Jazakumullahu khayran

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Actually some people will come on the day of Judgement laughing, when they will be asked why are you laughing, they would say we have sinned but we have repented, to the point that, as I heard once: when the believer would see his minor sins (sayyiāt) being replaced with hasanāt on that day, they would say: Where are the big ones hhh Yet we should always humble ourselves before Allah and know that He is worthy of being obeyed and we should honor our bond with Him Al Quddoos by not disobeying Him Subhanahu wa Taăla 🖤

[@arqi123]

Thank you because there aren’t enough videos on how to bounce back from a sin

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Omg ♥️sisters did you read my mind ? Masha Allah takarakAllah Allah has sent you

[@ThePetit1989]

Man I miss this channel

[@mohammedlawan1012]

Allahhumma Barik ❤️

[@habibaabdirahman3172]

Where are you guys. We waiting Season 4 🥺❤️❤️

[@jaboubaa928]

I love ❤️ you guys and love your trio MashaAllah 😘

[@aphelelesibali2474]

Hey sister's 🌷. Thank you so much for the video🙏❤️. Can you please make a video on how to move forward and get over someone you have never dated but loved

[@HonestTeaTalk]

We spoke about heartbreak in Season 2. We hope that episode helps. 💛

[@aphelelesibali2474]

@@HonestTeaTalk Not sure how I missed that one when i watch all of your videos. I will definetly check it out asap. Thanks ❤️

[@user-gi5bt8qq4s]

I'm very bad in english so l can't understand the conservations by hearing but by reading.l hope to learn english soon insha'Allah

[@walinongsari.5927]

We Still Have This Time..💚

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Some others finding out not what they did you sure that's what they down about

[@shaziasoroya5061]

Love your insight, beautifully said! Can this be available on Netflix!? I think So!

[@halimaalisadiallo8292]

Mash Allah

[@IMKaraama]

mashaAllah

[@zahra_37]

ALHAMDULILLAH I have found the honest tea talk channel in KZbin This really helpful to me...And SHEIK brother Mufti Menk channel as well🤲💖That was I do I put my obligation to ALLAH first before anything else I commit major sin but I turn to ALLAH as human beings I'm not perfect but this is ALLAH favour to me as a Muslimah because I avoided happening I still haven't survived.But I am grateful because I was able to change myself n then there was a fear n my heart to commit sin....ALHAMDULILLAH🤲🤲💖

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Please never mention or hint to any of your sins to anyone It is so much hated by ALLAH أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم و كفى بربك بذنوب عباده خبيرا بصيرا

[@beingpali]

The way I see it, I don’t really care for that person’s personal sins, whether they cheat, use drugs, whatever, it’s more about their platform and if they are abusing others (domestic violence, or abuse of other women/children, abuse of vulnerable people). I think sometimes faith leaders gravitate to that role for a Cloak of immunity - people just won’t believe they sin and would doubt the victims words. I also think they are attracted to that role because it brings people to them, and they can prey on people easily. So if I were to see that, I would 💯 want accountability and for us as a community to stand up and say NO to that behaviour. It’s more about the stance the community is taking about abuse. I’m not here to gossip about what so and so did, because frankly, as an adult, I’ve seen way to many people sin to be shocked or surprised. It’s old news. I am here to make sure people are held accountable when they abuse others so we don’t contribute to a culture of abuse, victim blaming, and the normalization of this behaviour. At the same time, I am open to people making a “come back” but I want to see this being done in a proper manner, and I think this the most important discussion we should be having. What sorts of things do we want to see from someone who sinned in abusive ways, what do we want them to do and say so that we can trust them again. At the end of the day, if they’re a faith leader, I expect them to practice what they preach, or at least, I expect them to not harm others. Sure they might have specialized knowledge that is hard to replace, but if their actions speak a different story, it fuels a lot of doubts and makes people much more distrustful - and it does more harm to the community than good.

[@jocelynburrell5079]

And depend on what the issue some not looking to be fore given just want respite

[@ahmedosman1713]

I like your show sisters.

[@jocelynburrell5079]

It's usually blind followers who don't realize those who know are not like those who know not when Lawless you on own like fasting you after puberty own angles

[@kishwarjabeen3592]

Aasalamualikum warahmatulhi wabarkatuhu ...sisters

[@SkikdaTwentyOne]

Am SUBSCRIBED here

[@yasminmohammed5327]

Please turn on the download function for those of us who dont have wifi. Thank you

[@mohammedosama8480]

Whenever I come across a topic like this, balancing back (repentance) I remember what Abu Nwas has said when he repented to Allah : رَبِّ إِن عَظُمَت ذُنوبي كَثرَةً فَلَقَد عَلِمتُ بِأَنَّ عَفوَكَ أَعظَمُ إِن كانَ لا يَرجوكَ إِلّا مُحسِنٌ فَبِمَن يَلوذُ وَيَستَجيرُ المُجرِمُ Could anyone translate it

[@mohammedosama8480]

@@khalidasgarden5281 جزاك الله خيرا

[@hanoush101]

My sisters in islam i love you so much for the sake of allah❤❤❤

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

I hope you can Inn-sha-Allah discuss a topic about the differences between having healthy self-esteem and narcissism or arrogance? Do you think there are many narcissists among some Muslim communities, specially those who are obsessed with taking selfies and personal vlogs?

[@got4645]

This is more about slandering and gossip. I thought you would speak about how to get back on track from the lows.

[@intercontinentaltimes]

❤❤❤❤

[@majoraxv]

❤️

[@idilqalanjo2035]

Asalama aleykum sisters. I have a request! Could you please start the video when you are all sitting? or take turns in who comes last? and waves instead of Aliyah doing that all the time!. I want to feel more of sisterhood than 3 ladies sharing talk… I hope you read my comment and do that!! I love you all equally and I would continue watching if I would see you all equally….

[@LaYinkaSanni]

Wa alaikum salaam. If you watch from Season 1, you'll see that the intro changes in each season, and this is the intro for Season 3, which has now ended.

[@sadafahmed9563]

Mash Allah. Good video, do need motivation much needed for sure after coming back from the lows dumps /rock bottom. As recently dumped a emotionally unstable '50 year old man' an indian /gujrati (and they tend to be the worse yeah!) as he was placing me in a 'garden shed' after marriage! So I broke off the marriage for good - and good riddance to rubbish. Allah willing this time I'll marry the right man me for sure, INSHALLAH :)

[@SF-pm1ov]

Ahh La Yinka... your compassion 😭💖

[@SF-pm1ov]

Masha’Allah

[@LaYinkaSanni]

😘 😘

[@sumayahzadran7587]

Where can I find the beautiful background Nasheed?

[@Slavic_Queen]

It's called Yawood from brother Wardi

[@sumayahzadran7587]

@@Slavic_Queen jazakallahu khairan sister!

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Many none claimers of Prophets do it all the time publicly

[@jocelynburrell5079]

May the Illnessof pain of mistake ? Or pressured to say it was a mistake?

[@reciterrahma3276]

May Allah forgive and protect all Muslims dead or alive and grant us jannah by His mercy Aameen yaa Rabb Let’s share the reward together few seconds great reward in sha Allah:) Al-Qur’an is the greatest dhikr🌳❤️🥰 Subhan’Allah🌳❤️ Alhamdu lillah🌳❤️ Laa ilaaha illaa Allah🌳❤️ Allahu Akbar🌳❤️ Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illaa billah🌳❤️ Astagfirullah wa atuubu ilaihi🌳❤️ Subhan’Allahi wa bihamdihi Subhan’Allahil Azweem🌳❤️ May peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet his companions and entire household🌳❤️ Yaa Allah whoever read these Azkar guide and grant them jannah without judgment or punishment Allahumma Aameen🤲🏼❤️

[@adilahbilal4471]

Ameen!

[@jocelynburrell5079]

If the Connunty deal as Iman Jamil did they would take what was do and Marry

[@nimao_ayaan]

Kindly why did you close the downloads coz there is alot of times I didn't get Wi-Fi so I download the video's 💔

[@LaYinkaSanni]

We haven't closed anything, so we're unsure what you're referring to, but we're sorry that whatever was working for you is not working now. I assure you, it's nothing on our end.

[@charla712]

@@LaYinkaSanni I love you girls you are so warming mashaAllah. She's speaking about the option that allowed us to download the videos on youtube, so that we are able to watch them without internet. Now for your videos ever since you came back from Ramadan it has been closed. It was very practical for me because I use to listen to the videos again and again for days without having to have internet, I live in africa I don't have illimited internet so I can't rewatch your videos again now it's expensive for me I don't earn money. But thank you for your response and your clarification. I love you and please make dua for me so I can have a job and finally help my mum financially 😊

[@qwr742]

The set, lighting etc. was alot more aesthetically pleasing and intimate which fit the tone/ mood better in the first series. In this one it's distracting, too busy and cold.

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Bismi Allah I'm seeking work title description title a Perhaps Counselor (

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Did a person or group do such in such ? Did they have knowledge it was a sin? Did ever fast those reject to hear ? A Crime

[@sarahissa2109]

Can someone tell me the intro Nashid? Thank you in advance

[@adilahbilal4471]

I love it! Yarwood by Alaa Wardi

[@sarahissa2109]

@@adilahbilal4471 jzk

[@mariamsmoments]

Salaam alaykum sis, I got married recently allhamdullilah and I changed my surname to that of my husband. I feel really bad about it, because I feel like I acted rashly without putting much thought into it. Now I feel like my husband doesn't deserve me bearing his name and I feel ungrateful to my parents for abandoning their name just because I got married. The funny thing is my husband doesn't share my view. Sisters help me I'm in a quagmire

[@mariamsmoments]

@@botladola yes he does

[@sscott8543]

Waalaykum assalaam wa rahmatullah sister. Taking on your husband's name is not about him deserving it, this a matter of whether as Muslim women this is something that we do. In Islam, a woman should not take her husband's name. If you look at the Prophet-salallahu alayhi wasalaam wives-radiallahu anhum, they surnames were never His. Now, I know that there may be times when having your husband's name is a legal requirement, these are a matter to discuss on an individual case basis. All the best sister.

[@mariamsmoments]

@@sscott8543 thank u very much, jazakallah khair

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Only can talk about it publicly who have been wronged

[@siapaajaaa2011]

Is it okay when we say Allah be a “he” ?

[@rheeAlhamdullilah]

Sooo judgmental yes... hearts are extremely hard

[@rasheeda1303]

Most of what you're speaking is connected to slandering and gossip. I've known many who committed major sins his/her choice negatively didnt impact my life. Be kind be careful not to judge✌

[@GokuBlack-sn5dr]

no.

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Mistake or bullied to have to lie and say something said meant yet bullied to publicly say I'm sorry when you in heart and know the Creator know what I that person is doing not regret at all injjoy yet bullied not looking for forgiveness yet have to pretend what about that grew being bullied

[@saraabdelmageed4611]

Where r u sisters?🥺

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Perhaps the issue is not why self explain free to use to love and do as indival even fornication not kicked out

[@jocelynburrell5079]

And if fill bad ( say sex act ) and so down are that person asking for lashes ? ASK THEM IN PRIVATE AND SEE RESPONSE TELL ALOT SAY JUST A FEW CLOSE WILL WITNESS NOTHING HARSE SEE AND SHARE WITH US THE RESPONSE

[@jocelynburrell5079]

We who have the Quran seem to have more to be concern with and the later who know and except that none but the CreTor is the forgiven and none will be of Beefit and when we work on self you can be with Pharaoh that don't show up until after marrige that when what is the purpose of like begin its emotion yes yet the fact each time a not good feeling you turn more to after death loss of wealth health Children grow up that space of Prayer even lying down inside greatest Jihad and from Our Creator we come and to him we will return trying sleep on right side regardless of battle if ever flown in a Plane remember that In the Sky so high only the Merciful allow that how could let whisper put us in such fear on the ground or desire to get to where we wanted to go

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Yet those who have the book fast and do what they chose because that person realize no Repercussions ( like Pharaoh wife you think she was not aware of him hating her yet nothing I'm aware of about Fornication Adultery they seem to have been Prophet Phobics so no guilt

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Islamic Law It being Claimed wating for someone to come so young people no accountability

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Repentance that's what shahada. Born again a chanceto except Scriptures and when our right 2 man Marry killing babies

[@jocelynburrell5079]

DONT TELL OTHERS TAKE IT TO ALLAH READ THE QURAN

[@jocelynburrell5079]

What publicl eyeA person who are Leader not asked to be worshipped Imformation giver,