Where Are The Good Men?

[@DiscoFever1970]

There are plenty of "good men"....that aren't 6 ft tall, don't have six-pack abs, and work jobs for less than six figures that they don't like. I'm glad I'm old, have grand kids, and don't have to deal with "Tik Tok" girl nonsense. I feel bad for young men today.

[@acraze2287]

666

[@jandy1128]

Thanks

[@Pikawarps]

I’m about to turn 30 and have wanted a family my whole life, but the juice ain’t worth the squeeze

[@stevenbaker5099]

So true

[@andrewhoward5528]

She needs help women don't appreciate us anymore I put my life at risk everyday to put food on the table

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

They always ask ‘where are the good men?’ and never ‘Does a good man want me to begin with?’

[@SteveJonesOwnsDSP]

It's always the most entitled and vocal women, like the one in the tiktok video, that demand top quality when they themselves aren't up to par. They show that they are the ones to avoid.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Truly, if you have to ask, you're not qualified for outside the bedroom. No ifs ands or buts

[@Jacktherippler1]

maybe 1 out of 100 will think critical about their behaviour. they think they are perfect. hypocrits

[@SanVic]

Excellent post.

[@LatimusChadimus]

@Jumpyman_thegamerYT if you have to ask, you're not qualified. Plain&simple

[@real_fjcalabrese]

At 56, I'm older than most of the people in the comments. My satisfaction comes from other sources than my job. Careers often go away.

[@MrTJMaddox]

@@real_fjcalabrese Congratulations! You're 12 years older than me. I know more than you think I do

[@mikeklein1779]

I can relate. There's a reason my job has to pay me well. My part-time job, on the other hand, barely pays me at all. I love it and I get fulfillment from it, so the money's not important.

[@DDD11239]

Exactly. Made some sacrifices in early 20s, to land a good job by 26. Focus on passions outside work (and manage your time).

[@Jason.Brayshaw]

52 year old guy here. I hear you, bro. Well said.

[@vluis217]

Also, turning your passion into a career could ruin it for some people. Attaching schedules, meetings, bosses and objectives to something you love doing can kill it real quick.

[@V0ltron]

Every woman says she "wants a good man," until she meets one who requires her to be a better woman.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

DING DING DING!

[@LeeEverett1]

Or she meets one and she gets bored and leaves anyway because she's too used to dating toxic men.

[@RetroBigCat75]

Don't forget they don't want to change for an good man.

[@CaptainWillard830]

@@LeeEverett1key word, unfortunately, is “used.” Most Women subconsciously want to be “used.”

[@gordongekko2781]

@@LeeEverett1 Story of my love life. I'm pretty much zero maintenance and zero drama. They fall in love with me for a year or two, then ditch me when the infatuation wears off.

[@Shawn-oh5yq]

Loving your job is a luxury, and is largely outside of your control (boss, coworkers, work assignments are all not within your control). I had a girl reject me partly because I "wasn't passionate about my job". Like, sorry. I live in the real world, not a disney movie. Work is not always going to be something you love, especially when the expectation is that the man will make good money. High paying jobs are often stressful, require long hours, have mundane tasks, or you have a sociopathic manager. But if a guy loves his job putting fries in the bag, then they won't want him because he's broke.

[@plugsocket9432]

I have only met only a few people in my life that really loved their jobs. Most people honestly just want their job to pay them money so that they can live and enjoy other things. I find it silly in interviews when the employer wants to know why you want that particular job in their company. When the honest answer is you want money.

[@dontokoi30]

The working class dude trying to feed his kids can't really be assed to feel like he's living out the job of his dreams. That being said, my under-employed and unemployed friends really get up their own asses with aimless fecklessness and terminally online nonsense. They rot from within.

[@DDD11239]

Exactly. Focus on passions outside of work.

[@mathewgibson1125]

This is why the world is so messed up. Women who put there expectations in men in dating. They should go out and find the job they love and then maybe they will solve their own issues go work for your money honey ain’t no man gonna be your sugar daddy

[@FadeintotheShadows]

I'm glad that said girl rejected you. A woman finding a man with a job he's not passionate about an "ick"(dumb word), is a toxic lady who should never get married.

[@Man_of_Renaissance]

Meanwhile a successful lawyer friend of mine gets turned down all the time by his dates telling him he works too much. You just can’t win. 😂

[@alfredoamaya2689]

Yeah, you really can’t

[@Ahmadaly7777]

Cause you can’t out work ugly, it’s all genetic selectiom

[@balor325]

They want a man with a lawyer’s salary but don’t realize the time he has to dedicate to make that money

[@Kashban]

Actually, you can. Stay away from those women.

[@DarthKastos]

Don’t try to apply logic where there is none.

[@TCR2025]

Lots of them are around. They’re either not tall enough, not wealthy enough, or too nice for you. Never satisfied.

[@JackDeLad]

Big fedora energy here ⬆️ I would bet my life savings you you regularly post on Reddit

[@TCR2025]

@@JackDeLadyou you? You might want to learn to spell check before trying to insult someone. 😂

[@Jacktherippler1]

and guess what you as a man can never make them satisfied. doomed relationship

[@brettstarks1846]

@@JackDeLad*Yawn* the whole fedora/incel insult has been abused to the point of meaninglessness.

[@reanschwarzer2187]

@@brettstarks1846yeah it’s just like leftists calling everything racist it’s a joke

[@stargazer3828]

I asked the women I worked with to define what their definition of a "good man" is and they all said a man that treats them right, doesn't lie to them, takes care of his appearance, isn't conceded and respects women. I then asked them was their last boyfriend a good man and they all said no! So they chose the "bad boy" over the good man! Women will say what they want, but then respond to the opposite of what they say!

[@gabeguzman9478]

It's not hard to take care of your appearance yet we do and still nothing 😂

[@AuratusCricetus]

been that way for decades...ignore what women say, and watch what they actually do

[@MrCjchamp2001]

It’s ironic that you seem to be attracted to these type of women. It has clearly skewed your entire view of women. It works both ways dude. Or do you truly believe that every woman is attracted to toxic men? Or just the ones you’re attracted to ?

[@Chris-oz9ju]

As a 56 year old blue collar man, divorced and been told decent looking lol. My experience of most of my dates is being a blue collar man is a non starter for sooooo many women which leaves me concluding that they want a meal ticket and not a man.

[@RobertTaylor-gz2fu]

Many women will accept high-paid, skilled, blue-collar guys.

[@dick-vn3yv]

Most women today want prestige, money and luxury. If a man can't provide it or loses his ability to provide it she will leave him.

[@MrCjchamp2001]

Sounds like you’re attracted to toxic women

[@dylancooper3690]

She should probably be asking herself, "How come the men I am attracted to are not good men?"

[@OneFreeMan17]

💯👏🏻👍🏻

[@evan12697]

thats "accountability" and they're allergic

[@brad3201]

This is 100% it. So glad I found a woman that appreciates me for who I am.

[@edheldude]

"Why do I s"xually reward traits other than what I say I want? Why am I a hypocrite?"

[@j.davila4523]

@@edheldude facts

[@kudzuvines]

I find it interesting that there's so much emphasis on this ambition toward career. I'm not happy with where my career is at 39 years old. I probably do complain too much about my career but there is nothing I can do about it until my daughter graduates high school. My wife passed away when my daughter was 6 years old and I've had to work with clients that pay more to free up more time to be available for raising my kid. I'd rather be a good father that's miserable for 3-6 hours a day than one who loves his career and is a terrible father for even one second. I work hard enough to be able to put food on the table, and the rest of my time, energy and attention go to raising a teenage girl, 9 years later. She's well-adjusted, shows respect, and is a 4.0 student ... so I'd say I made the right choice. I can focus on my career again at 42 when she graduates. Thanks again Courtney for correcting these extreme views, and introducing some subtlety into the value of men and women.

[@Totsy30]

Yeah to be completely honest, I don’t expect to ever love my career. I’m not delusional enough to believe my passions could ever pay the bills either. So long as I don’t hate my job and it pays enough for me to afford my actual passions, then I’m happy. Good on you for prioritizing being a father. Your daughter will appreciate it I’m sure.

[@lorenzor7993]

God bless you and your daughter. 🙏🏾 I respect men who work for their ass off for their families.

[@jonpendleton6472]

As a single dad, I applaud you doing the right thing for your child. It's really hard being a single parent. Especially a single dad cause the world doesn't want to give your breaks the way single Moms seem to get.

[@RMelo263]

Career is not that important. Don't worry. Live your life

[@supernotnatural]

They are with the good women.

[@wanderer5200]

Beat me to it.

[@taras3702]

Not all of them, unfortunately.

[@justins4274]

So we’re supposed to work 24/7? Most people change jobs at least once during their lifetime, it doesn’t mean that we’re “evil”. Also what are women doing? Complaining 24/7?

[@handsomebarber424]

You literally just did the same thing you claim the women are doing Complaining online

[@justins4274]

@@handsomebarber424I was being sarcastic to make a point of how dumb they sound.

[@XaloGunner]

My dad had the same job for 31 years - some days he liked it, some days he hated it. And sometimes he told us that, sometimes he kept it between him and our mom haha. What mattered most was being there for his family. He worked to go home. His sweat equity kept us going to school and kept our tummies full. There is an unbelievable amount of honor in that and probably 80-90% of the world is made up those kinds of people; they make the world spin.

[@ronfesta771]

Me thinketh exactly and lot of this type of., talk from these inexperienced girls live in the Cinderella warm bath of Love world instead of the Man's everyday decision of Commitment to your.......Family World!@!?😉🤪😁

[@ragmer6415]

This video reminded me of something a friend of mine once told me. Women don’t want to deal with the struggle. They wait at the finish line for the winners. They do not stand beside you for all the years of struggle it takes to become one. After seeing many men I know lose their relationships due to chronic illness, unexpected unemployment, major injury etc I find it hard to fault his logic. Also “not all women” for those typing angry replies. But the only girl in my life that has stood by me as I developed a chronic illness/disability is my cat. She’s a sweet heart.

[@GregOrCreg]

Look at all the 'chick flicks' and romance novels that are popular. They're always about an aggressive super-rich alpha-male, often born into money (i.e. either an heir or even a prince), who a woman has the emotional intelligence to bring the best out of. Poor and working-class men need not apply for such fantasies. It's an extremely retrograde fantasy, as toxic as many a man's misogynist fantasy, because it forces men to be trapped in the most toxic roles. It's also fundamentally classist (which is a form of bigotry I find a lot of upwardly mobile, supposedly 'progressive' women hate to talk about, and is one of the few forms of bigotry the whole 'woke' movement seems to have ignored, which is why we see so many working-class/blue-collar men voting for Trump etc). Just as men need to stop indulging in porn, I'd argue that women need to stop engaging in these fundamentally problematic, and (whisper it) anti-feminist Cinderella/Pretty Woman/50 Shades of Grey/The Prince and Me type fantasies.

[@EmmaT-v1e]

Yes, most women don't stay committed in sickness and in health. Some men feel honor-bound to white knight by actually taking their vows literally when the woman wouldn't. Maybe we're best to all just acknowledge that the only place for unconditional love is a relationship between parent and child. Romantic relationships last only as long as both partners keep the other happy. That isn't a failing of women. It's more that it's a fair standard for both sexes. The marriage vows were there for social and economic stability when women couldn't get paid employment due to patriarchy & acute discrimination. That is no longer current. I don't fault women for leaving when the man becomes financially dependent on them if he isn't a primary caregiver for their or her children. If it's due to health problems that are temporary you should probably stay and try to make things work, but only for so long.

[@joelpenigar]

Women that are actually good women know where the good men are, they recognize good men when they see them, and (most importantly) THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO GOOD MEN. If someone is having a hard time finding good people, that's usually a "them" issue, not the fault of the people they're looking for.

[@uninvited5417]

Under no circumstances does career fulfillment have anything to do with a man's character - which you also say in different words. However, a non-fulfilling career can have a negative impact on a relationship. In a "good" man, it can bring him down, and the whole relationship vibe can be brought down with that. In an "evil" man, it can make him behave in an unacceptable, even downright criminal in extreme cases, manner towards his partner. In any case, if a woman wants to see if a man is "good" or "evil", career fulfillment is definitely not the place to check...

[@a.p.o.w.1411]

This sounds like "first world" dating advice. Every job my dad ever worked was blue - collar and dangerous, but he did so to provide for his family. My mom always stood by him. Also, a man can excel in a job without actually liking the job.

[@Jowanji]

That's true the thing that helps me maintain my focus and sanity at my job is knowing I can provide for my family and still get enough free time to spend with them

[@wanyelewis9667]

When failure isn't an option....don't.

[@michaelashmead581]

Exactly! If a man's passion is his family, he'll endure any job necessary to provide for them.

[@MrTJMaddox]

No you CAN NOT excel at a job you don't like. Jesus Christ!! @ Courtney Ryan do you see why as a man, I can't get along or support other Men just like me? It's because of stupid crap that Man just said.

[@BelieveInJMH]

​@@MrTJMaddoxInstead of reacting angrily, that's if you're interested in dialogue and not a fight, I would suggest offering your perspective in detail. Otherwise, of course nobody should stay at a job they don't like. BUT, that's where men are the difference. We do what we have to do, however long it takes, however much it takes. We should still be doing the required work of a good life, but if temporary circumstances warrant staying at your job - then men just do it, like Nike said.

[@neutechnica]

As a guy in his 40's I've never had a 'fulfilling' job. But I have had ones that pay the bills and allow me to live the lifestyle I want and care for people around me that I care about. It's just no part of my identity. Alternatively, it's actually a good relationship test to see how a person, guy or girl, navigates through life's challenges including the loss of a job.

[@michaelashmead581]

Gonna be blunt here. If I'm focused on my career and happy with where I'm at, why the hell would I invite someone else into my life to screw that up? When I'm focused on my career or my passion, I don't leave my house. I don't talk to anybody. I just focus on that. If you want a guy who is passionate in his career, you're only setting yourself up for neglect in the future.

[@ohjay7612]

Women used to love a man and support him even in down times. Now she's defining a good man as someone who already has everything figured out and she can just come in at the end. Also, your job wont matter if she isnt attracted to you at all to begin with.

[@dick-vn3yv]

Or if you lose your job and the money and benefits that go with it.

[@ricovargas9775]

Even if a man is having a rough time at work, the reassurance from his woman that no matter what his work experience is like, he is appreciated at home for providing for his loved ones will carry him a long way.

[@jdarnellsix]

True. Seems rare these days tho

[@506thparatrooper]

A man should expect gratitude from his woman.

[@patricktoland2694]

Appreciation, what's that?

[@kevinbradshaw6127]

Good men are often humble and that doesn't always stand to them in the dating world

[@j.davila4523]

niceness isn't attractive, so those guys end up being invisible

[@reanschwarzer2187]

@@j.davila4523true but is also why I have zero sympathy when they pick poorly.

[@bluSPECTRE]

8:55 yes we are, but no we aren't projecting how we feel about ourselves onto other people. What happened was we treated others the way we wanted to be treated and got walked on as a result, so now we're treating others the way they treated us instead. My guard wasn't up before but it is now.

[@AngelofJustice412]

Yep. Women will say “that’s not fair because women are experiencing the same thing!” Well, maybe if you didn’t only choose the top 2.5% of guys, then we wouldn’t be in this predicament. Those guys treat the majority of women the way the majoriy of women treat the majority of men. Guess it sucks to be on the other end huh

[@RevanKnight56]

I think courtney doesn’t understand that at this point, many good men are just tired of being abused and hurt by women to the point of not caring about women anymore. If she had to say what she just said in the video at your time code, then she has no empathy for men at all.

[@jayantdrummer]

As a guy, Courney lost me when she compared her own experience of not being happy with her job. It's definitely not the same for women. A more apt comparison would be a woman suddenly having lot of acne on their face. Women typically derive their self-esteem form their appearances, men from their jobs/career.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

Courtney doesn’t realize that she NEVER would’ve dated a guy in the same career situation she was in during her 20s.

[@brad3201]

@@AlexanderSkinnerVidsDING DING DING 🤭

[@brad3201]

@@AlexanderSkinnerVidsAnd then they ask “where are all the good men?”

[@Mac_Kymera]

Good men are EVERYWHERE! Unfortunately, it’s all about looks and money instead of personality, there’s no pushback to that. Most women today overinflate their worth/level by only wanting to date the same 1% of men. Therefore they overlook the 99% whom many are good and BETTER men, even though they don't want to show it off like the 1% do. Dating is completely all over the place.

[@kenrickbautista6141]

I love your perspective on good men. And it's true what you said. Personally, I never like being someone who's in the position to be cruel to people, regardless. Being mean is not cool. Really wish people were more nicer.

[@Totsy30]

Being in that position is a challenge. Unfortunately it’s easier for people in positions of power to lead through threats of firing and fear. Leading by example and through inspiration of others requires actual work, so many would rather take the easier route of being a dictator.

[@reanschwarzer2187]

Yeah but speaking from watching friends and myself women respond way better when you’re a jerk sorry it’s just how it is.

[@huhhuhhuh4069]

WTF is she talking about. The majority of people who have ever lived hates their job or will grow to hate it. But a man will get up every morning and endure it for the good of his family and himself. If you love your job, you're one of the lucky few or you're living in self-delusion (very common in corporate offices). To say men that dislike their jobs are evil is just projection. She got mistreated by some dude.

[@robertbrunner1234]

She is basically saying you can't complain about your job because it shows weakness. These women are comical because they want communication from their man but only if it is good stuff or something they can use against them later on.

[@edheldude]

So you're saying most people will _choose_ to be hateful? A weird perspective but it might be true. People do what they love, and most people love being overweight, poor, and frustrated.

[@patricktoland2694]

Exactly!

[@Bart848]

All the good men are just done playing your games

[@EmmaT-v1e]

That's not true of Courtney nor of a number of other women. Please don't lump a whole gender into a category like that.

[@3400grandam]

And then she's going to complain that he's always at work and never has time to spend with her.

[@Mark_The_Mayven]

Winner WInner Chicken Dinner Never happy, no matter what😮

[@balor325]

Not really related to this video but I regularly go for walks at the park by my house. There was this girl I’d see there on a near daily basis. We were always friendly towards each other and I got the impression she was showing interest in me. I’m not the type of guy to approach women in public unless I have a good feeling it will go well. Last Thursday I finally struck up a conversation with her. We didn’t talk for long because she had to get back to work but I got her name and number and said I look forward to seeing her again soon. I thought everything was great. Fast forward to this past Monday and I text her to see if she’ll be around the park. Her response is no because her husband is taking her out to lunch. That’ll be the last time I attempt something like that

[@LinkinVerbz44]

When I see a woman I'd like to date, I always assume she's either in a relationship already, has no interest in me, and/or is playing me to boost her ego. So far it's had a 100% success rate.

[@balor325]

@ I usually think the same way but allowed myself to believe otherwise this time. It’s very shallow on the woman’s part to do that but I can at least understand it. In my case, I don’t understand why she gave me her name and number before telling me she was married

[@syl192]

It happens to me all the time. I’m a lawyer and I had to work really hard compared with average people. That’s something I accepted because I love my job, but people usually don’t accept that and make you feel weird. At the end, focusing on my career made me sacrifice many aspects of my social life, specially love

[@fandasubacraig]

I was made redundant from a job I was overworked in and hated earlier this year. I'm not not earning at the moment and instead doing a course on my savings.I feel way more intellectually satisfied, motivated and generally more health focused than ever. Sure I'm kinda broke but at least I have the drive, passion and ambition back in me.

[@MrTJMaddox]

I love my Welding career. She sounds like a Gold Digger.

[@denislafreniere-qc8wx]

At the end of the day they all are.

[@MrTJMaddox]

@@denislafreniere-qc8wx I don't believe I said all of them were. Just her.

[@swirekster]

@@MrTJMaddox same here, i was video game graphic designer at uni but figured out welding and metalwork made me much happier overall. The fact u can make actual things that will serve you and others and that power of melting metal with a power of a sun under your fingertips. Also stickwelding smells nice lol.

[@GalyeArt]

@@swirekster Isn't welding bad for your health?

[@kendanielson7204]

@@GalyeArt Used to be but there is effective personal protective equipment to deal with that now.

[@LenMiles]

No one can love their job all the time. You might be conscientious and hard working, but still get laid off or passed over for promotion. Life just isn't fair at times.

[@Kashban]

Well, to a degree I agree. Just switched jobs and improved my job life tenfold. Of course also there are tasks and situations in my new company which are not easy to tackle, so I try the "Hurray, a problem!" mood. In essence, without problems my job would be futile.

[@jaredscott9441]

Advice to women: It’s ok if the man doesn’t euphorically love his job all the time, that’s part of life and every job out there but look for the man who can be in a tough job and still find parts of it that he does enjoy and he’s grateful for that job he has and what that job has provided for him.

[@Japanadianboy]

There's more to life than your job. Sometimes you need to stick with your job to pay the bills. For most people, a job is just a means to make money in order to pay bills. It doesn't define who they are.

[@jonathangriffin8060]

I am 53 and I have been hearing the "Where are all the good men?" statements from women. And these are the same women who say that the "good men" are boring and they do not have anything exciting going on in their lives, but the thing I find amazing is the "good men" who were not interesting in the beginning are now the men that women are looking for when their hearts get broken by the men they find "hot" or "sexy". Meanwhile, the actual "good men" have either moved on or they make the decision to stay single. And most single men do well for themselves.

[@dick-vn3yv]

After women ride the bad boys, have a few divorces and get old so no man wants them, that's when they look for the good man. You know the one who pays all the bills and never cheats, the boring guy they really don't want but had to settle for.

[@koolandblue]

Guys, here it is- go ahead and disregard ANYTHING a woman says if she’s on tiktok. That platform is complete garbage.

[@AugustusFloop]

A quick Google search of “Kiley Casciano” will tell you she-a barely employed actor-married another slightly-more employed actor named Matthew Davis when she was 26 and he was 40 in 2018. According to his Wikipedia page, they recently divorced this year. This is projection at its finest.

[@jefferydebbink282]

My career got off to a rough start. I had landed a job in public accounting before I started my final semester of college and the job started two weeks after I graduated. I was thrilled! But just under eight months into the job, I was cut out of the blue because the new Office Managing Partner suddenly decided that I wasn’t a good fit for the firm (didn’t give me a reason why). I then worked briefly for a small local public accounting firm but that firm also was a bad long term fit for me. After that job I started applying for other accounting jobs, found one at large bank while I was applying for another job at the same bank, and now I’ve been in my role for over six years! I enjoy my job for the most part, but especially when I get off holidays that others don’t get. I can that one of my best values is being battle tested when life throws you screwballs unfairly and unexpectedly!

[@bobculwell5375]

I felt like her conclusion was overly broad. There are plenty of folks who need to do jobs they don’t necessarily love because that’s the best way to build a living for their families. Here I’m thinking of folks who do backbreaking or dangerous work. You aren’t likely to leap out of bed excited to get at it. Also, folks may have a job they love, but something like a management change happens to greatly diminish that love. The man doesn’t automatically become “bad” if that happens. I think I could have been more convinced of her point if she’d tempered some of her language and narrowed her conclusion a bit. A statement that a man who’s always unhappy and negative in life is not likely to make a good boyfriend or husband would be much more defensible.

[@Luis2077-xj2fq]

That tiktok girl statement seems more bitter and hurt than anything I've read on this comment section, Courtney summarizes the career part really well about having ups and downs, at the end of the day it's work, being career driven doesn't mean you're never stressed or want to rest

[@jamescoffman8096]

Many good men are avoiding Family Law court.

[@atikameg73]

My wife fell in love with me when I was a young man who had no career and was actually at my worst health. She saw the emotional stability I had even in my lowest points. She also saw the potential in my intelligence. Thirty years later, I am in my early 50's and at the peak of my career, my fulfillment, my purpose, etc. I got to this great moment in my life largely because I had the support of an amazing girl, because there was a time in our relationship when she had to be the main breadwinner.

[@jdarnellsix]

That's rare and only 2 people noticed. Thanks for sharing, it gives up hope brother 🙏

[@michaelstepa8748]

Now that people are getting married a bit later, I've noticed that a lot of people (possibly slanted towards women) are looking for a partner that is finished "growing". They want a partner that's already deep into their career and that it's a job they love. They need a partner already making a lot of money, already with well-established hobbies, already with a good balance and as mentioned in the video, everything figured out. Not many people are interested in growing with their partner, they want to date the final product, and I find that really sad. Growing together through good and bad and everything else builds a strong relationship.

[@mar4kl]

@@jdarnellsix, make that 3 people. I have a wife just like his. She had my back before we were even dating, and once I recognized that, it was just a matter of time before we tied the knot. 30+ years later, she'll still do anything for me, and I'll still do anything for her. Women like them aren't as rare as a lot of guys think they are (just as good men aren't as rare as a lot of women think they are). I know quite a few who are just as devoted to their husbands as my wife is to me.

[@EmmaT-v1e]

Good judgment on her part and it paid off well for her. Congrats to the both of you, that's wonderful.

[@dick-vn3yv]

There was a time when women used to stick. Wedding vows used to say "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part". The sacred vows meant I will stay with you forever no matter what. Then feminism.

[@ronmexico5908]

It seems a lot of women are looking for a parent. Someone to correct them then blame if they don’t like the guidance. Men would accept this role if the women admitted this is really what they honestly want but they won’t

[@elisteele574]

I really appreciate your content, Courtney. Your approach to helping people understand the world of dating better is incredibly refreshing and useful. Your calm and collected demeanor combined with super insightful thoughts makes for very nutrient rich content. Good brain food. Thanks for being you!

[@johnshafer7214]

Where are all the good men? They are the ones who are rejected for not being a jerk that most women go towards.

[@Onetakelifestyle3323]

Let me explain for you brother., it’s womanese for where are all The ( gigachads) 6feet tall 6 pack 6 figure income 6 inches in the pants. That’s what these modern women want. And they also expect to just show up literally have no skills, no communication skills, no financial literacy skills, no relationship skills. They just expect to show up and you keep them entertained 24/7 and keep them fed and give them gifts and money 💵 all On your dime. And you better not expect sex. 😂 enjoy the cats 🐱 ladies

[@jdarnellsix]

Unfortunately that's often true

[@SeekerGoOn2013]

So many great Comments from “Good” men! Love to my brothers.

[@dick-vn3yv]

AMEN !

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

I have a job that's not flash but after a messy life of chronic illness and abuse I'm beating the odds that I'm still alive and I'm beating even more odds that I have a job at all so I'm happy with where I am, people miss me when I'm not at work. I own and great little house that I built myself and I'm debt free so there's no reason to work more. Health is wealth and lot of people don't know that until too late. There's a lot more to life then money and work. :)

[@Chee.Y4ng]

There’s good men around, most girls just choose not to be with them, 50% attraction and definitely 50% not being the guy she wants.

[@LukasWeeke]

From my personal experience, the kindest people I've met were either the ones really happy with their lifes, or the broken. So for the question where the good men are: not where the women are who need to ask this question, I guess. I'm sorry for the "good" women, who genuinely seek companionship, who struggle to find partners, because less compatible ones scared them away.

[@AlexWhitey-jb9dj]

I thank this woman for weeding herself out of the dating market... Watch out for this woman Brothers... 👍

[@dick-vn3yv]

For women like her it's always men's fault. She did us a favor.

[@spandau9]

I've been in a very well-paying job for a long time. I find the work dull and unrewarding, but stayed in it because it funded the things I did find rewarding. I am currently doing night training to certify in a new career that I will enjoy and will take up less of my time, but it will be a big step down in pay. I actually find women incredibly positive about the fact that I am giving up money for satisfaction and more free time.

[@patricktoland2694]

Many men work really hard at jobs they hate to provide for their wife and family and that is why they do their job. If they weren't married they wouid happily do a job that pays less but is less stressful but they make the sacrifice for their family. They also do not complain about it. They just get on with it with am amazing lack of appreciation. This is the life of many men. Also this is not a hateful comment, its just the truth.

[@MaverickFischer]

I went down the same path of going to school for one career, later switched into an entirely different career. I had many years where I worked in a job that I didn't like, but was working towards doing what I want to do. I also love the facial expressions Courtney makes when she's watching some of these videos. LOL It really adds to her point(s) she's making.

[@wanderer5200]

They are with good women.

[@alwaysemployed656]

How to pronounce "Casciano": KAH! (sudden and loud), See (smooth and softer), YAAHHH! (like a Karate shout), NU (abrupt, like hitting the brakes to stop instantly). When in doubt about how to pronounce something, always use a LATIN (French, Spanish, Portuguese, Italian) dialect. Most modern-day languages have a strong Latin origin. I grew up fluent in several languages, so this is something I’m naturally good at.

[@GSR-oh3ng]

Honestly most of these social media girls making these short vids are probably really toxic no matter what they say.. I think it’s all talk but they don’t live like they speak. But Courtney seems like a good women also very open to new perspectives and logical. These short vids usually don’t make any sense and the girls sound really dumb

[@courcyscorner]

ngl, I work in food service. When I was a manager I HATED it. I was evil! Probably why my wife left me. I busted myself down to cook. I don't make a lot of money, but I have never been happier. And yes...good men literally go to work and go home. Also the gym. Working on a job that you really hate, but can't leave because you have to support other people can definitely make a man evil.

[@lawrence31415]

Whenever I meet new people, I tell them that I am a mathematician, and I share one thing I enjoy most about my profession: I help young minds feel more confident with their ability to do math. There's no doubt that being passionate about your career and how you work with others speak volumes. I am still in the early stages of my career, but I feel really good about the direction that I am heading in. Plus, it is important to remember to maintain a healthy work-life balance! That is one of the many keys to achieving happiness and peace of mind.

[@LinkinVerbz44]

Amen to the healthy work-life balance! I recently got out of an LDR with a workaholic. Always stressed, always tired, and never had the time or inclination to talk to me. I tried to compromise with her, but she wouldn't compromise with me, so I broke things off. And then she blamed me for having standards. I'm nobody's simp.

[@faith-manages]

First of all, she's pushing the attitude that a man is only worthwhile to society or a woman if he's working. Secondly, being unhappy in your job is a good impetus to get ahead, find a better one! Thirdly, if a man is unhappy in his job, a good woman would WANT him to switch jobs so that he could be happier. Fourthly, why are we listening to idiots on TikTok? Using words like "evil?" Forget her...

[@BradWetherby]

I think that’s a big problem right now. People tend to forget the fact that the vast majority of people work basic jobs. We don’t have enough 16-24 year olds to do all the work. Just cause bro installs internet or works at a warehouse shouldn’t mean he’s invisible or not good enough. People keep wanting to live beyond their means it’s frustrating. You don’t need much to survive in America people

[@matthewcrowell7004]

lol all these women worried about where the good men have all gone. It’s a hard pill to swallow that you’re not wanted isn’t it.

[@nerigarcia7116]

I've never had my career as a priority in my life. In fact, work talk bores me to death, I just check out. Now, I'm doing what I love and what I studied, but as a designer I'd still be a creative whether I had this job or not, it's just who I am. But I never use my job as an identifier.

[@whospetcov9650]

Where are the good women? Good women aren’t on TikTok!

[@brandonknudson2264]

Wow. Spot on. Too bad I didn’t realize and accept this before my divorce. A mean/negative person is unhappy with themselves. I know I was. So true.

[@soulphisto79]

I think your perspective on the nuances of this subject were pretty spot on. I left a miserable job after 17 years...found a career I love at 39, that also has many challenges, but overall gives me fulfillment and allows me to provide for my son. I think, as Richard Reeves put it, there is a need to be needed, or rather, a sense of purpose that many men lack in today's world. This is one of many reasons women are questioning where "good men" are, even though they exist in the shadows of modernity these days.

[@Luis2077-xj2fq]

That tiktok Girl is kinda delusional, I agree With your take on having a career, sadly some girls can't handle the idea of a man having ups and downs on their career, one day you're an important member of a team at work and next month you're laid off and working a lower end job even with a degree. From the way she speaks I can tell some tiktok girls have never faced any hardships, and that's not bitter it's just the way it is

[@jdanon203]

Where are all the good men? In the same place you left them 15 years ago - the friend zone. Except your friend zone "friends" have been ignored for so long that they figured out how to get along without you or your drama and realized the juice ain't worth the squeeze.

[@patb6317]

There are good men out there. Just the women need to keep a conversation going. I had some good matches on some of the dating apps. Good conversations then out of no where they fall off the map. It’s both sexes fault why dating sucks in general.

[@garypierce7380]

TikTok women should be banned from giving advice.

[@jeffreybrooks8643]

A husband enjoying & being successful in his job is simply an important feeling of life satisfaction. If he's OK in his work, he is much more likely to be a better life partner. This just makes sense.

[@Trifler500]

Being unhappy does not make someone evil...

[@DK-th5nt]

So not being happy with your job makes you evil? What? xD I understand it may make you unhappy and it may affect your realtionship, but evil? I have a feeling she wants to say "I want a man with good career who makes lot of money" but in a way that won't make her look bad xD I'm also sick of this "insecure=evil, confident=good" bullshit. Yes, narcisstic psychopats are the greatest people in the world xD

[@viacheslavviatchenko-karpi9556]

During more then my 20 years lasting career I was jobless for a couple of months. Being employed never reduced mine unattractiveness for women, even I was happy with my job.

[@matthewhermon2677]

I think you also have to find satisfaction outside of your career or work. It definitely does make a difference if you enjoy the work you do, but the reality is a lot of people (this goes for women, too) aren't going to be in a kick ass career. Sometimes work is work. If you wrap up your whole identity into the work you do, then just watch out if you suddenly lose the work you love or enjoy.

[@123nobbsy]

I hate my job hate every second of it. Sometime i get verbally abused and a few times physically abused. My wife doesnt want to work so i have no alternative to put up with the job i have because without it no food on the table no college for the kids no roof over the head. I want my wife to work not for the money but to be positive influence on our daughter i want her to develop a work ethic and set up a good life for herself. I keep work and personal life separate i leave work at work so to say. Id scrape road kill off the road if it puts food on the table for my family. But that makes me toxic haha.

[@davidprice1007]

As men a lot of us tend to judge ourselves on the how prestigious our job is and how much money we make. I think most of us have worked a job we didn’t like when we were in our teens or 20s. The problem becomes a lot of men and women stay in those jobs because they don’t their situation i(personal, family, financial, and all of the above)s good enough for them to take the risk to find a job that they would enjoy doing. I can attest to the fact that those people are a downer to be around at work, so I can only imagine what they are like when they aren’t working.

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

I won't lie, I hated some of my prior jobs and it did play a part in my life. Now, I have the career I've always wanted and I'm excelling in my life. I won't even lie, I've almost considered dating again (not going to, but I've been thinking about it). Having my financial/career side of my life in line gives me greater mental health and a joyful spirit. I do agree about the struggles, they did make me a greater man.

[@aaronburdon221]

To any woman that asks: "Where are the good men", I always say to check their friend zone. You stuck them there because they weren't everything you wanted in a partner but they provide a small amount of what you want while you search for the mythical perfect guy.

[@animelover9409]

I just turned 30, have built a great physique over the last 11 years of working out, and have a good job however I am only 5'6. I've been rejected countless times based on my short stature, honestly at this point I have given up pursuing any women. I never had any relationships in my life and I am still a virgin. Good men aren't simply tall enough to be dated and I honestly think men should give up on pursuing women as it's meaningless. Acquiring as much wealth as possible and honing your body to perfection is the real goal, is the way I see it. And of course, my true love is God, nothing else matters to me and I don't mind at all staying single forever.

[@Razear]

In principle, yes-our career is one half of what contributes to a happy and meaningful life (the other being choice of spouse). But in practice, most people don't have careers; they have jobs. This is an important distinction because most people are working in a particular vocation by necessity rather than by choice. And men are specifically driven to chase career advancement more so than women, because status and resources make men more viable mates. Although I wouldn't' necessarily label less industrious men "evil." Perhaps nihilistic or cynical?

[@Jason.Brayshaw]

I wouldn't say they're evil, but I would describe them as very miserable and grumpy. I've worked with guys like this and at times I find them quite tiring.

[@TheeMetalhead]

Currently working at a customer service job at the age of 31 and the job is not horrible (mostly thanks to good colleagues and managers, whom really make it worth), but still feel stuck in my current job. Wanna try another one, still in customer service, but with better oppurtinities to advance or evolve as a man, but would mostly see my carreer a necessary evil and use that energy on my hobbies (reading, writting, practice music etc).

[@thistagworked]

I don’t think it should be expected that we have everything in order when we’re single. Just because someone might not have gobs of motivation while they’re single doesn’t mean they won’t have motivation when they get married.

[@littlebrit]

I don't think hard working men are good partners. They will often be stressed out and release that on their partner. Some even "bring their job home", like policemen or military.

[@geekiepooh]

Yeah. Good point. Then, women will say he works too much and no time to do other things. Or. he's tired and wants to rest from work.

[@CataclysmDM]

We're hiding from the bad women.

[@JohannesNel-n8c]

In my country where there is high unemployment rate, one can not be to picky at what job you want to do. You must take what you can get, whether you like it or not. The ultimate goal is to be able to provide for yourself and loved ones, not having a cosy job.

[@ippanpedrozo1162]

you literally can't help but keep defending these types of women. the woman in that video is literally just wrong and stupid, period. most people don't like working, we're poor on average, and next show calls the poor people who hate their jobs "evil" jfc.

[@MrLove-666]

It just reminds me that we see so much psychology crap everywhere, that everyone knows not to be bad at waiters/waitresses that serves you on the first date, that even Dark Triad minded people catch upon it and lots will be mislead, on both sides. And that's just one example. Lots of videos are a catch 22 trying to show what is a good person, and bad ones will copy. Take the time to vet "the prospect one" as you'll spend time and resources for them. Be yourself gents, act like everyone's watching you. Those lucky to have a dad with morals, listen to him; it's for your own good, and your future children.

[@BenParkertech]

Good men aren't just there. They are created by going through difficulty, struggle and fear with someone who stands beside them. Otherwise you are unlikely to see them

[@teo_ww]

As many topics Courtney speaks about, this goes both ways. I'm not enthusiast of my job, because it's filler job i have to do to be responsible and pay the bills while the economy sucks. The field i studied for is hard to get into and be sufficiently succesful to build a family around (illustration, drawing and animation), and it's a creative job. So while i would absolutely love to get up in the morning looking forward to my current job and be a pillar of positivity, I'm doing fine keeping my shit together, further improving my portfolio in the evening, and being sufficiently presentable to be datable right now. So i'm definitely not looking for any type of drama in a girl, which is to say even an eyeroll waved at someone else during the first dates is off putting and greatly challenges my patience. There's ways to be fun between each other on the first dates without having to talk badly about coworkers or other people in the room. I guess the bright side is that if i manage to meet someone compatible right now, we can build together and support each other. From this point of view, bless Courtney for her collected and calm manners.

[@byteblock1667]

I've hated every job i've ever had. I've always done blue collar manual labor type jobs. I'm 48.I've never had a girlfriend in my entire life and it's not from lack of effort. So maybe there is a correlation there.I don't know.

[@dillongarner1]

Good men want GOOD women. Good women are rare these days…

[@carzak]

I think many people are mean to others not because of self-loathing but because of jealousy mixed with a sense of helplessness and frustration that they haven't been able to achieve what they want, or feel they have been unjustly punished by certain people or the world at large. It's an understandable reaction and I think we need to try to have empathy for people like this.

[@jefferyalberter9922]

Harsh but true: They’re back in your teens and 20’s where you left them.

[@BlairPittams]

That really troubled me, I'm dealing with so much around that issue. I'm genuinely confused, dropping mood, suspicious, trying to work it out, self esteem dropping, worried

[@DEATHxTHExKIDx1]

I know a lot married men who work at a warehouse and are fine with going back to their wife at home. Equally i know folks with careers that are single and married Theres good men everywhere many peope will judge you on job/status/looks. Some are in transitions with work/school and it takes time. Courtney is spot on tho take action to change your life.

[@walterlangston4484]

I work in a restaurant for allmost 20 years got tired of it wanted something else so when a friend stared a lawn care land scape company 2 years ago now spinda lot of time working out doors a lot and love it

[@UnappealingUndesirable]

The "good men" are in the "friend zone." Friend zoned, long long ago.