Who Is To Blame For Hookup Culture?

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[@tempest736]

Yes!

[@bluntlust420k]

I've been done did that. Lol.

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I watched you for a while and I just realized I don’t have you subbed 😭

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The daily wire should have a podcast like this, it would take so little in terms of resources

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Please pin this.

[@ShortGirlsClimbCounters]

Would love to see that!

[@B.L.K.d_04]

Do it.

[@paul_designs]

yessir

[@BIOHAZARDCURE]

Hookup culture has another unseen and unheard effect on young men like myself. I feel like a f*cking alien because I DON'T want to sleep with random women I just met at a bar. That activity is incredibly special and should only be engaged in with someone you truly deeply care about.

[@RipperRoo92]

Facts 💯, I can relate.

[@hakeemsd70m]

I'm with you brother, feel like a total outcast because of this weird, gross hookup culture stuff.

[@lukewilmington9807]

Stay strong man

[@RipperRoo92]

@RMM You're not 💯👍🏾

[@no.1spidey-fan182]

TALK TO EM🔥🔥🔥💯. Crazy part is, its mostly just the PLAYERS and SIMPS who want that😭. Majority of men aka just the avg joes WANT COMMITMENT🤦‍♂️

[@meganreese1486]

On our first date, my husband and I both said "I am only interested in dating to find my future spouse. I see potential for that in you, but if at any point I stop seeing that or find values that aren't matched/complimentary to mine, this is done." We then proceeded to show each other exactly how nerdy we were as a kind of "can you handle this about me?" 😜 Nearly 6 years of marriage and going strong 🥰

[@DarkAquaVII]

This makes me smile so much! ❤😊

[@jns08d]

That's my dream lol to find a weirdo like me

[@TrekieGal]

❤ nearly the same thing my husband and I did (including the nerding out 😂). 9 years next month with 4 children and counting

[@meganreese1486]

@@TrekieGal we've got one kiddo and number 2 on the way 🥰

[@sercastamere9853]

That would be a bit weird if you worded it exactly like that. Putting the cart way before the horse. "Looking for a spouse" is where that should have ended, everything else is very much self-evident. Saying all the rest of that would come off extremely expectant and entitled

[@Self_Cancelled]

My brother shames me constantly for only having been with my husband because he thinks that I'm completely missing out and that you can't know people unless you are sleeping around with everyone. It annoys me so much. I think he's missing out by not having one person that fulfills him and makes him happy, but society today tends to side with his viewpoint rather than mine.

[@moamenbyadse6748]

What kind of brother is this?? wth ? he needs a strong father to straighten him out.

[@Adam-re1ph]

What happens when you sleep around all the time is that it destroys your pair bonding ability. Sex without love is just that.

[@ChrisSimpiamson3]

Ur brother is a weirdo. Don't listen to him.

[@ShidachiOm]

That's interesting because studies have shown that couples who each marry as virgins report the most fulfilling sex lives of all other types of married couples. Hope your brother isn't too jealous when he hears that.🤣

[@WarriorofAllah78611O]

that's weird

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

The answer is everyone. The men who hook up with women, the women who hook up with men, and all the other people encouraging and validating it.

[@karandosanjh289]

One side always wants to blame the other when hooking up requires 2 people. Both males and females are to be blamed, not just females, OR males. It's a simple fuckin concept.

[@1CE.]

Simp answer It’s not even near the same level

[@savsmiles3042]

@@1CE. yes, it is and that’s not a “simp” . It’s the truth

[@BurntBread38]

​@@1CE. well what's your answer then

[@bulletproofchunkdion]

@@1CE. apparently only me and you listened to the video.

[@shaneh3109]

As someone who's 25 and a virgin, I could never fool around with someone I didn't love and trust. It's really frustrating to not find women that want serious relationships and to feel unwanted.

[@nobleunion]

Don’t worry. There are actually quite a few of us out here :)

[@shaneh3109]

@@nobleunion yeah...but then it's oh you don't make much money, or oh you play video games? You're a child! How dare you have hobbies 😆. Oh my favorite, you're a really nice guy and you'll find someone that makes you really happy one day, but you're not for me 😂.

[@shaneh3109]

@@nobleunion I think they call it nice guy syndrome 🤔. Anyway it's bull crap.

[@nobleunion]

@@shaneh3109 I’ll give you that one. I don’t know the equation, but there’s so much confusion today. Would definitely be difficult to be a dude rn.

[@katheryntargaryen7870]

@Shane H I can’t begin to understand how frustrated guys like you are. I wish there were more guys closer to me who want something serious like you. I know a lot of girls actually who do.

[@ichieyamato]

I find having sex with someone to be extremely scary. Because you're gonna be all exposed and vulnerable. I can't imagine doing it with someone that i don't trust. If they hurt me or cheat on me after all of that, or if any measures of prevention didn't work and I ended up conceiving a child, that's just going to make my trust issues worse. Cuz men can dip at anytime, but i can't just eject my baby out, stop my breasts from lactating, unstretch all my stretch marks, etc. I hope my man in the future will be patient with me. Too many men took advantage of me for being hopeless romantic.

[@ichieyamato]

@@thistagworked You go sir!

[@ThestorytellerofKatunga]

How to treat a male fool? Shut your vagina....is that not simple?

[@rebeccakings754]

This is why I believe sex is best in marriage. Though there are many divorces in this world, but marriage is not supposed to be something you can just walk away from (another area our culture has failed). It is the place where there is full commitment, complete trust, confidence and freedom to enjoy each other and raise your family as a real unit. That is where sex should be safe and secure to explore.

[@zeentleks7536]

I agree. For me waiting to sleep with someone is me making sure that he's going to stay afterwards and it's not just a one time thing.

[@supremelordoftheuniverse5449]

I don’t believe your words

[@ellilovin6886]

This world has become so crazy, we need more people like Brett to keep us normal people sane

[@ItsSimplyAless]

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[@Joreel]

Brett is a breath of fresh air in this generation. Her parents raised her well.

[@bobhope5114]

You're not even close to normal.

[@kalebgonzales4009]

I’m pretty sure there are, it just that she has a platform.

[@atemisk90]

Brett's show is super entertaining and at times informative. But you should think independently and keep yourself sane. We shouldn't need others for that.

[@hannahgreen2876]

I’m 33 and married with daughters, and this podcast makes me so happy I got married 10 years ago before dating apps. It also horrifies me to see what my daughters are growing up with.

[@hardshell9236]

Dating websites have been out there since 1999🙄

[@AlphaShadowSphere]

​@@hardshell9236they really didn't become culturally common till the 2010s

[@oregano689]

@@hardshell9236and who tf was using them in 1999

[@jmoney7742]

Consider yourself lucky Hannah 😅

[@sleepymonsteraddict]

There are so many people in my generation that look up to people like yourself, settling down with a person and building a life together seems like the best way to happiness, cause after all alone is alone and we're social creatures. Marriage is not being stuck in tradition or old fashioned, it's normal, it's something that we as humans do because it brings us comfort and happiness.

[@yagirlchoco20]

As a woman it always bothers me when I hear other women say "all men just want to have sex and not a relationship". I'm sorry but sweetheart, where are you even finding these men? Where do you go out to only meet these men? Because most men my friends and I meet are gentlemen who are honest. Who genuinely are either looking for friendship or a long term relationship. This really speaks volumes about the choices they make and the people they choose to have in their lives.

[@ItsSimplyAless]

Yes, exactly, I hate this as well. Because then it makes people feel like they can't have genuine friendships and relationships with guys.

[@Cremesure12]

Right!

[@inlovingfavor]

I think about this all the time. All of the men I’ve met in the past year and some months have been gentlemen. Even if it didn’t go anywhere, they never lead sexually, they are wonderful at courtship, and are highly respectful of me and are respectable men themselves. The sleazy guys, I don’t give the time of day because I can recognize them with a similar sense of precision as a buzzard in a desert. They never “try” me and when/if they do it is not even disrespectfully, and when i reject their advances I do it in such a soft way that they know to never do that again and still want to see me. It’s a “you” problem if the people you choose to entertain are trash. You know they’re trash, so bow out with grace and move on. But women give away so much too soon to where they feel if they do let that man go they’re leaving in a deficit. Well yeah, you gave away the cows for free and now you’re running out of viable quality livestock for other bidders and have to take what you can get because you continue to run your business and marketing the same way without learning the lesson and applying it. It’s a y o u problem, not men.

[@Lolatyou332]

Because those women only meet people at bars who are getting drunk, because those are the only people willing to have sex with those women. Then they immediately regret it and don't want to be in a relationship with them lol

[@Enforcer_WJDE]

Yes because even if they only met one type of guy it's on them to open their legs.

[@marianafernandez7092]

First date with my husband: i actually asked him what he taught about god, marriage, monogamy, gender culture, new education…. You know all the good stuff. 6months latter engaged, 1 year latter married, 4 years latter being happy with our son ❤️ thats what dreams are made of: HONESTY AND FAMILY

[@B1gLupu]

A girl I dated asked me what I thought about religion and it was the reason she decided that we could never work. Honesty is a bad policy short term, and has only benefits in the long term. In hindsight I should have not been so forthcoming and only told the truth after getting my intimacy fix.

[@LFanimes333]

Asking about religion right off the bat is kinda weird, not gonna lie. The rest seems necessary.

[@williamsonfamilyadventure]

My first date with my husband I said "I'm not here to hook up or just date for the sake of dating. I'm looking for a relationship" a year and half later we were married and now we have 2 kids and have the best marriage I could have hoped for.

[@ninoslavp127]

Congratulations to you and your husband, God Bless! Hopefully, this is a wakeup call for both men and women, or else future generations are completely screwed. Also, that they have a set of morals, just as you did.

[@joaquin67]

There's a huge amount of luck involved with matching values too. How many guys did you have to date before getting to your husband?

[@ArmyWolves]

🥂🍾cheers to you and your husband, ma'am. Great that was done at the beginning instead of asking 'so where is this relationship going' after 18 months of dating without direction or plan. Many of the TikToks I see of ladies complaining about a guy or dating usually have 'how they can get a guy they are with to commit' when they never made that a requirement initially or maybe he even made it clear that he is not interested in marriage or commitment but the ladies still go into such relationships and then wonder why a guy who said he is not interested in marriage is not proposing to her.

[@katelynduerr]

It's so refreshing to see someone online not blindly affirm everything out of fear of being canceled. Thanks Brett!

[@ClaireAyers]

When I was using dating apps I would always tell guys I didn’t want to just hook up and was interested in long term relationships. A few took that as a “challenge” and still attempted to hook up. Super annoying and a waste of time! So it definitely still happens even if you’re totally straight up about NOT wanting casual things.

[@The.Ghost-]

That’s because dating apps usually mean sex. If you want a real relationship dating apps aren’t going to work

[@ClaireAyers]

@@The.Ghost- I understand that now, this was over 3 years ago. I live in an area that young people are generally only found at bars/clubs. It’s a pretty anti social place. I met some nice people on there just not marriage material mostly.

[@lcmarina]

Or they’ll even play the long game and pretend like they want a relationship or lovebomb you

[@Woo_Woo_Woman]

Ugh, online dating is the worst 😂 Finding a man who doesn't like promiscuity and pornography is like finding a unicorn.

[@jakamoo1990]

but why would a guy wait for you when theres some hoe down the road who will let you smash for a vodka n coke if women on whole said the only way men get sex is to wife someone up then men would follow that line.

[@jordanseay216]

Brett helps restore my faith in humanity and brings a level headed opinion to the table. Love ya girl!

[@ZeRho772]

Brett always makes my day. It’s nice to see someone speaking the truth in this modern society

[@somethingsomeone3100]

Especially someone as young as her, it actually brings some hope back for Gen z.

[@katysikkema]

Yeah! She’s one of my favorite KZbinrs

[@ItsSimplyAless]

Exactly!

[@tripzincluded8087]

very fun & fresh ..

[@stephaniebarberi5099]

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[@codiwonkanobi9788]

It's an issue of self control and the lack of self discipline. Most people are totally controlled by their hormones it took me a long time to overcome that part of myself. If more people would get to know themselves this issue would go away.

[@Wayofthewarrior312]

Hook up culture is due to the free love movement of the 60’s.

[@butthegoodthingis6691]

Yes, but it back a little further than that....to the introduction of the Birth Control pill.

[@zanegracejewelryarthomedec5496]

Hook up culture is as old as mankind. smfh

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

@@zanegracejewelryarthomedec5496 100% agree, it has been around since we understood sex itself. People can be greedy. The thing that makes me upset with it is men over here saying “Women’s, save us from ourselves, too u control access!” While also saying “baby, don’t be a prude!” Now THAT gets old

[@waltermh111]

​@Katie.L Hall Most men are not telling women not to be approved so stop with this false equivalency. Those are 2 different men you're talking about. One is The small percentage of men that women are chasing because hes hot or tall or funny Or pass some mysterious bad attitude that she loves. Has tattoos. Bleh... The others man who wants a family who are saying stop being self destructive and that's the majority of us. It's funny I'll give you an example when they have men who go overseas looking for a wife and they get insulted for it. You're trying to solve the problem and have a good relationship with women who are definitely prudish. But we get insulted for it. This is a women's problem because you have all the power so ignore the man who complain if you're prudish because why would you need them. Go after the man who'd say they want a family most of them I guarantee you are not all the same they want their wife-to-be slutty in public unless you are chasing a playboy. This means you might have to go for the man who is not the tallest what the most attractive or the funniest

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

@@waltermh111 sounds like you and I have had very different experiences! Life is tough! I wish you luck regardless of where your path takes you! Stay healthy and well!

[@TurtleChad1]

We can all agree that modern feminism has managed to ruin many things.

[@doctorwho6012]

no

[@weepingj]

​@@doctorwho6012 yes

[@liccasinocomfreespins7337]

Modern feminism E-girls Social media Liberals ect.

[@doctorwho6012]

Reeeee wahman baaaaad!!! 1! 1!!

[@1CE.]

Modern feminism? Feminism period

[@melsop54]

What we can all agree on, if we are honest, is that the sexual revolution of the 60's has brought us to a place of utter heartache, anger, and frustration. Not to mention the mental pain of abortion, being run through by countless dudes who don't actually want you as a woman, lot's of children in single parent households, etc...

[@gabenelms3228]

Abortion literally became a thing because of the sexual revolution. I could be wrong but i don't think Abortion even existed before the 60s.

[@lavenderbambi3501]

it rly shows how u view women in this comm, as an objects who get used during sex, something u do sex TO rather than W them, n i'm just gonna say that u can' be suprised when modern women don't align w your mindset since our only options r being used by someone who does want to pursue relationship or someone who doesn't, eithr way we r being used

[@melsop54]

@@lavenderbambi3501 My friend, what do you think Only Fans is about? It's not about having sex WITH women. It's about both men and women treating the woman like a sexual object for sale. SOCIETY very strongly views women as sexual things for sale. I hate that concept with every fiber of my being. My original comment simply calls this out.

[@lavenderbambi3501]

@@melsop54 first of all OF isn't ab havig sex, those women aren't escorts they don't fuck anyone they sell vids. Besides this extends to all women not just OF ones. By society u mean men, if men didn't commodify female bodies we wouldn't be here now

[@NoahAI-kw4nn]

@@lavenderbambi3501 women.☕☕ here.🤡🤡

[@chiaraubertino8156]

It's truly hard to underestimate the effect that artificial contraception (the Pill) has had on the minds, bodies, souls, and entire cultural attitude towards sex for several generations now. There are natural consequences (spiritually, relationally and culturally), from blindly consuming artifical contraception.

[@Beafeaters]

Talk to a doctor

[@Leanzazzy]

There are even so many biological side effects.

[@aels]

I take the pill to help my cycle but there are SO many other side effects that I’m developing that I’m considering a hysterectomy instead. It’s honestly horrific on the body.

[@vitormenezesdemattos967]

There is a book exactly about that "Adam and Eve after the pill: The paradoxes of the sexual revolution" by mary eberstadt. I recommend it

[@aels]

@@vitormenezesdemattos967 ooh I’m going to look this up right now. Thank you ever so much 🙏

[@sogno_di_carta6430]

Brett sometimes, even when you are super upfront and honest, there are people that don’t give a crap and still will lie just to get what they want. That’s just the way it is.

[@markzuck8486]

That's because women trust and make excuses for Men they desire carnally

[@sogno_di_carta6430]

@@markzuck8486 no, people lie because they are dishonest. It’s not just relevant to women trusting the men they desire. Just because a woman is dumb yo trust based on lust, doesn’t excuse the man being a liar.

[@_chapternumberone_8782]

@@markzuck8486 No its not all a womans fault! Teach men to respect women and be honest, and then women were actually able to fucking trust them. Even though the new feminist era can be toxic doesnt mean that its all a womans fault! Men need to step up and be worthy.

[@AlphaShadowSphere]

Tell them you don't want to have sex till marriage and they'll leave. While I ascribe to no sex before marriage I once met a girl who would not kiss until we're engaged, and wouldn't hold hands after 2 months of dating. It was COVID so I didn't realize she was this strict but I dumped her after our first in person date and I figured this out.

[@amor4dior169]

I think waiting for marriage is actually super romantic. Imagine sharing such intimate moments for the first time with your future husband/wife, and having the honor of being his/her first as well. I want to honor my future husband by waiting for him, and I expect him to do the same as well.

[@RedLineShortFilms]

What if you're not compatible sexually though?... How do you know beforehand

[@angelicalee6]

​@@RedLineShortFilms what if you do put effort into the sexual aspect of the relationship though.... instead of just only waiting to be satisfied.

[@gabenelms3228]

If only people were like this in the real world, seems like the only time i see these people are online.

[@caitlinhanson8631]

This is a beautiful thing, that I am very happy to have found with my own husband

[@amor4dior169]

I'm just seeing this comment. If I'm truly in love with someone, then I'll be sexually aroused as well. As simple as that@@RedLineShortFilms

[@CapableCaptain-ahoy]

Something that isn't talked about very often is how alienating it feels to be a man that doesn't want to sleep around. They say that men don't want anything but hookups but really what is going on is that they don't see the men like me because we don't play the games or go seeking frivolous sex; they aren't drawn to the many men that really do want relationships and have no interest in sleeping around. I've even tried to hookup and couldn't bring myself to doing it because I need a deep connection with someone before hand. It's difficult because I really very much want to develop that deep connection with someone, but there is still so much animosity that women harbor towards men. A lot of these young girls tend to just base their entire perception of men on the few (or many) bad experiences they have had with the 5% of guys they keep pursuing. They are focusing on this small minority of men that aren't looking for relationships but are rather inclined to sleep around as much as possible, and certainly will do so, seeing as they have many options to take advantage of. It hurts because as a man I can't help but love women and want to be in a deep loving relationship, but I have to constantly fight my own desire for connection in order to protect myself from their insanity. I literally had a group of girls say to each other in front of me, "uhh, men are just so gross. They are just useless horn dogs. I mean women are at least pretty, smart, emotional, complex, deep. Men just want to stick their penis in everything." I mean how is saying something like that celebrated? Do they not realize half of the population is comprised of men; that most of the everyday items they use are the inventions of men and the hard work they have put forward? To categorically claim that men are useless or make such broad sweeping statements such as "Men aren't interested in anything other than sex and its their fault hookup culture exists" is only indicative of the fact that they are looking at life through a very narrow view point. There is no need for over the top adoration, but a little acknowledgement, empathy and gratitude towards men I really think would only serve to help both sides. We are here on this earth to support one another. We have the power to destroy the other but should choose not to because the pain inflicted will only return to ourselves, perpetuating suffering for everyone.

[@SweetTea-Stephens]

I pray that God brings you the right woman into your life just when you need her to be there and I bet it’s when your open and ready to receive the gift of her. It seems you’re almost there but still a little closed off from it. It’s okay and sounds understandable. I apologize on behalf of all the dim witted women out there who have had a ruff time with men. I can say I’ve had a super Uber horrible time with men in my life, from my own absent father, to my abusive step dad (the first one, the second was great and third was ehhhh, the 4th I was s grown woman with my own kids so I didn’t care) to my own child molesting uncle whom didn’t spend nearly enough time in prison for what he did to me and someone else in my family, to my own ex’s and my own husband, but I don’t hold all men accountable for that at all. I hold those men accountable and that’s what those women need to do too. So I apologize for their shitty actions. And I truly do say I hope sit back, get yourself into a place to where God says, okay he is ready to receive this amazing woman I have for him. And watch him give her to you and then enjoy her and the beautiful life and hopefully family to come. I pray that blessing on you in the name of Yeshua (Jesus Christ) Amen. Good luck man and don’t give up. Some women are just angry and bitter and they’ve been taught by modern fem bots that men ain’t ish and there are A LOT of men that aren’t ish. But that’s not all men and not all women and each person should be judged based on each individual person. Good luck.

[@misakidelalune7]

Very well said. I despise other women who constantly blame unfavourable male tendencies as the root of all their problems and refuse to realise that they're part of these societal issues. They constantly spout anti-men hate and openly blame men for everything and justify it with all men being misogynists, even though those kinds of women are downright misandrists. Though this programmed hatred towards men is growing, not once have I heard the term misandrist (hatred/prejudice against men) being used in the mainstream, but everyone loves going on about misogyny. As for your sense of alienation for not fitting into the date around and fuck around category, I can relate. As a young woman who has not even ever dated, I'm often questioned and judged on why I don't partake in those normalized activities of giving into short term lust. It's sad that so many people don't wish to seek out a long term connection that goes beyond just the flesh.

[@insertnamehere917]

I’m a college woman and of course hook-up culture is all around me. I also feel the need for a deep connection, so when I tell people I’m still “waiting for the right guy” I always get weird looks and feel like I have to justify myself. It’s refreshing to hear that there are guys out there who are also looking for a connection bc people act like I’m looking for Bigfoot when I tell them I want a strong relationship before having s!x. Crazy times we’re living in

[@CapableCaptain-ahoy]

@@SweetTea-Stephens I can't thank you enough for such a kind message and your prayer, it really means a lot to me. I think your assessment that I'm a little karmically closed off to it is correct. I do believe there are things about myself that still need improvement before I can be the best partner for someone else; I want whoever I am with to feel loved unconditionally and protected. I'm not always clear on what I need to improve, as we tend to be most blind to our own deficiencies, so I've been asking God everyday to show me whatever it is I need to see in that regard. Some of the gifts we receive aren't so obvious at first and can even be quite painful, but I can now say that all this time I have spent on my own has really been a gift, difficult as it may have been. My Grandmother tells me, "God is sparing you the heartache of damaging connections and is getting you ready for when the time is right". She's the best 😊. Thanks for sharing. You sound like you are a very strong person with a very strong spirit and heart. The fact that you aren't bitter, despite having every reason to be, is not an accomplishment to be scoffed at. You are completely right, people need to be held accountable for their actions alone and assessed as individuals. I realize that even in the way I express myself at times that it includes broad sweeping generalizations, but it's near impossible to talk about anything without generalizing at times. Haha, yes, those damn fem bots are quite prolific 😂. Seeing comments like these and some of the discourse online gives me hope however. People are waking up each and everyday which is exciting. Again, thank you very much for your blessing and kinds words; I really take it all to heart. Good luck to you too, and wishing you a beautiful day.

[@gabrieltejada1697]

@@CapableCaptain-ahoy those girls/women you mentioned in your story have become very common thanks to our corrupted society brainwashing children into thinking all women are angels that can do no wrong and that all men are “evil” by default and must be controlled at all times. All the negativity being enforced on men and boys is demoralizing and very damaging to their mental health cause it makes a lot of them feel confused and wondering what they did “wrong” even if they didn’t do anything wrong in the first place.

[@elizacrafts4507]

I tried a dating app for a couple weeks. I put right at the top of my profile that I'm only interested in dating for marriage but the people who were saying they were conservative were saying it was weird that I won't do more than three dates without meeting my family. My dad had to meet mom's parents before the first date. It's ridiculous. No one on there was looking for anything serious. I deleted it after a couple weeks because it was boring and annoying.

[@rachelciel3330]

OMG, this is something I had an argument over in a youtube comment. Basically, it's a video that explained a religious culture where men who are interested in women would ask the woman if he could talk to her father (or other male family members should the father is deceased) because he's interested in her and want to see the possibility of them being in a relationship with the goal of marriage. One woman commented that it's 'icky' for a man asking her father to get in a relationship with her and even saying "My dad wouldn't want a man like that dating me. Why would who I date should talk to him first?" In the cringe 'I'm independent modern woman' style that existed within many western women nowadays. I was mindblown. It isn't even a bad conservative advice, it's a show of good intent from a man to talk with your FATHER. If your own FATHER can't muster enough worry or care over your sake to help you screen out suitors, it's really SAD.

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

i see it as a respect thing. i won’t bring just any mf to meet my parents because my parents are important to me. i thought it was basically the norm to meet the parents only after a relationship has been established. they could be after 3 dates, after 6 dates, etc.

[@ralphengland8559]

Asking for a father's permission to marry his daughter isn't necessary these days, but one should stay away from dating anyone who isn't interested in meeting and joining your family.

[@elizacrafts4507]

@@pabloescobarschanclas my family are all very good at judging someone's character and I trust their opinions. If they don't like someone, it's over. Why would I get past 3 dates with someone without establishing a relationship? That's ridiculous. Either you want to keep seeing me or you want to keep dating other people. You don't get both.

[@elizacrafts4507]

@@rachelciel3330 exactly. I'm not wasting my time on someone my family doesn't like because they're good people and I trust their judgement. I get not doing that if your family suck but like, when did is become out of the question to do meet them early in a relationship and why do people keep saying 3 dates is too soon to establish a relationship??? If it doesn't work out that's fine but like, why would I keep talking to someone who wants to go on dates with other people while I'm trying to build something with them?

[@Kaydeep94]

I’ve been telling all of my friends that we need more people like you on these panels just because you’re not just some random person with no brain and will actually give these guys a good conversation

[@joshbottz]

Brett spits straight facts. We need more Brett Coopers!

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

These aren't facts. They're what her maladjusted neckbeard audience wants to hear. She's blaming women for men's behavior. That doesn't fly it today's world.

[@BigRodd91]

We don't need more simps. They have caused enough damage as is.

[@Martick05545]

I wrote a term paper on hookup culture. Nobody likes it but everyone feels the need to engage in it to find a partner. The problem is low moral standards for men and women and a lack of shaming. Women have been sold the lie that sexual promiscuity is empowerment, when women are hard wired for commitment. No surprise that in committed relationships women are actually happier and more sexually satisfied! Also I am tired of hearing justification for men sleeping with a lot of women. Like yes, it had its role a million years ago but we’re not animals anymore! Have some morals; do the right thing and commit when you find the right woman! Until then keep it in your pants.

[@chindianajones3742]

I think we are still animals. To deny that is imo a mistake as it permits us to ignore, shame or dispense with certain aspects of human nature that we wish weren't so ugly or disgusting. Its very important to acknowledge that humans can still be savage and uncivilized and still be human. That said, an animal as intelligent and complex as humans are can still choose to not engage in behaviors like excessive promiscuity or violence or war. I think the very fact that we have always (and still do and most likely will always do) these things is evidence enough that we are, at base, animals. And that's not necessarily "bad", although we might have good reason to believe that such reprehensible behaviors are quite undesirable when it comes to the most optimal functioning of our social, political and economic systems.

[@Martick05545]

@@chindianajones3742 It is bad because acting like an animal when you are a conscious human reduces you to an animal. If you are a human you need to strive to embody ideals, as they are the product of thought.

[@chindianajones3742]

@@Martick05545 not all aspects of the category "animal" are necessarily base, savage, uncivilized, evil, unintelligent, or unconscious (or however you wish to define "animal"). There are varying degrees of consciousness, intelligence, and morality throughout the animal kingdom and in different species we can observe not only "bad" things but also good things like sharing resources and cooperation, particularly among more social animals, and even between different species. Sure by certain definitions we can say there is much more "uncivilized-ness", but the qualities of good and evil are both inherent to animals. Are there not still humans that engage in savage, uncivilized or animalistic behaviour to this day? What demarcates the line between human and animal? How do you even define that line, and why is your definition any less arbitrary than any other definition that seeks to classify humans as disjoint from all other animals? Especially at a biological level, the fact that we share around 99% of our dna with chimps is some indication of our similarity to other animals. My point is that the line between human and animal is not yet so distinct that we can consider ourselves to have transcended the state of animal into something different and greater. And I think it is hubris (and perhaps also vanity) to look at ourselves and think that we are greater than our entire biological and evolutionary history. That said, I think it is also honest to say that we, as far as we can know, are something extraordinarily special that has become of the evolutionary chain -- and yet still animal

[@Martick05545]

@@chindianajones3742 The obvious difference you overlook is consciousness. With consciousness comes the capacity for morality.

[@chindianajones3742]

@@Martick05545 yes I see you didn't understand what I wrote. What you just said was exactly my point. The fact that there are different levels of consciousness throughout the animal kingdom implies there are different levels of morality throughout the animal kingdom, hence morality is not unique to human beings, hence human beings cannot be made distinct from the category "animal" on the basis of our (non-unique) morality.

[@kelcyjoy]

One of my coworkers goes on dates with guys she’s not interested in just for the free food… I really feel for those poor guys, one even brought her flowers on Valentine’s Day and she was so smug

[@awsambdaman]

Very cold and inhumane to do that

[@user-gy6sd6um7m]

I absolutely hate hook up culture just wish we could be real instead of fake

[@AutomaticDuck300]

We need to wait until we get to know each other first. Not just opening up legs like it's free parking.

[@BigRodd91]

Oh well. You will just have to learn to live with it because no one wants to be enslaved by communists. Everyone has an ego, if the people you are around are too fake/self-absorbed then you will need to resolve some internal issues instead of forcing society to bend/be molded to your own idealized utopia.

[@musicplug1730]

@@AutomaticDuck300 why does everyone have to follow that mindset. I don't see a issue with just wanting to hook up

[@AutomaticDuck300]

@@musicplug1730 because like it or not, it creates bonding chemicals when you finish. And unless you have no empathy, it’s going to have an impact on you and your ability to bond with another human being. So your committed relationships will be affected. I know we like to think “Ah it’s just a bit of fun. I don’t have romantic feelings towards them.” But the reality is different. And it’s a very intimate and personal thing to be doing with someone. I don’t understand how you can do that so casually.

[@musicplug1730]

@@AutomaticDuck300 if that’s true then why do men across time and earth have the desire to have multiple partners

[@Dagger_n_ink]

I blame everyone however when I was in the dating scene as a fairly attractive woman, I'm very modest with the way I dress. When I would go on dates with these guys, and they wouldn't be expensive dates like walks in the park type of dates, would constantly insinuate or pressure to sleep with me. And that was never an interest of mine so many of these men would actually stop messaging or texting me or wanting to hang out. So regardless it's not just women to blame but it is men's expectations of us.

[@sail253]

Weed them out by making it clear you will not hookup and are dating for a life partner Before you waste time meeting up with them in person

[@Dagger_n_ink]

@@sail253 obviously. But thats not exactly whats on a 22 year olds mind. Anyway im married with a family. I dislike that women are being blamed when its everyones problem with communication

[@thistleskeptic]

@@sail253 speaking from experience, they don’t care. They will try to push you into it- I have had so many guys try to get me drunk enough that I would give in. It is disgusting and very rapey

[@Adam-re1ph]

That is how you find a real man. Of course the losers ran for the hills.

[@michaelsorensen7567]

You said "no", and it worked. Doesn't that tell you who has the most power over hookup culture?

[@ameliab9715]

Videos like this remind me how thankful I am that I found my husband and got married young and skipped sooo much of this dating drama. I can’t imagine trying to date today.

[@miacyr3125]

I see comments like this and don't know whether to be happy for you or pissed off that someone else got so lucky. A little of both I guess😂

[@vladimir.putinn_007]

For how long are you married

[@blisserio]

If waiting for marriage was more glorified we wouldn’t be having this problem 🤦‍♀️

[@diyar8161]

Then too there will be problems.

[@wolu9456]

if marriage didn't f over the guy by design then i'd let you comment slide. i've seen 2 weddings where a kid wasn't involve [shotgun weddings] 1 when i was like 5 and one in AA. what sucks is girls move to damn fast. by the time you actually like them you're in the friend zone.

[@blisserio]

@@wolu9456 that’s your opinion, you just to find the right girl 😊

[@wolu9456]

@@blisserio unfortunately i've given up on XX's and am looking for a feminine XY. it only took me 30 years to find out there's a word for people attracted to femininity regardless of what's down stairs . unfortunately where i live rare is a understatement . i've only seen 1 and we met. her roommates put a halt to things[squeeky bed] and she forgot to put on deodorant.

[@blisserio]

@@wolu9456 that’s alright too, I’m happy for you! I hope things go well with this person :-)

[@OMGmyFACE]

I used to feel lonely being single but the more I see women my age and younger, the more I feel concerned for them instead.

[@DTreatz]

Care not for them, they chose their fate.

[@_h_o_l_a_114]

brett makes my day! i used to believe everything shoved down my throat, i found this channel and others, listens to both sides and now i have my own opinions about this crazy crap!!! thank you for opening my eyes

[@ChargersAndCelticsGang]

I’m lucky I found me an awesome lady and do not have to deal with these insane, wildly stupid, and lost “modern women.”

[@nunyabizay9253]

But seeing a woman who’s immodestly dressed shouldn’t turn you into a monster. You’re still responsible for your thoughts and actions.

[@timunderbakke8756]

@@nunyabizay9253 nobody said to the contrary. However, modern women are still a huge problem and the overwhelming majority of women under 40 are “modern women”.

[@nunyabizay9253]

@@timunderbakke8756 under 40? I know plenty of modern women in their 50’s. This brand of Feminism was born in the 60’s-70’s with the sexual revolution lol. The way someone dresses isn’t an excuse to bully them or devalue them as a human. Instead, be a kind neighbor. Extend grace and show compassion without judgment. Actually, the new wave of traditional women is dominated by younger women below 40 because we have grown up in modern feminism and see that it isn’t fulfilling nor functional. That being said, the type of traditional woman that is coming back into fashion still will not make excuses for men’s bad behavior no matter how another woman is dressed. Men are no longer enabled by traditional women like they used to be, we hold them to the standard. Prosperous times have developed such weak minded men who fall into temptation so easily and are unfit to be husbands.

[@Alan_the_Red]

Same dude. Just as sexual as me but monogamous and pretty darn cool.

[@thatgrlygrl]

You found a great woman and you still feel the need to insult other women? I think that’s weird.

[@natalierocheleau1793]

Brett I am happy to say you are my son’s first “celebrity” crush. Which for my 14 going on 15 in a week was just the sweetest thing he said. Me after talking with my husband about what celebs we were sure we were gonna marry in HS: “kid, do you have a celeb crush?” Kid: “That girl you watch that points out idiots” Me: “Candace Owens?” Kid: “no, the white one” Me: “OH! Brett cooper?” Kid: “ yeah she’s really smart and pretty, I’d be happy with Candace Owens too” Lmfao.

[@Jeanthehorse]

Based boy

[@catherinebracy4332]

That's so sweet! Good for him!

[@redpillfreedom6692]

He is seriously thirsty if he finds Brett attractive. She looks like Shapiro in drag

[@beesinbubbles2999]

It’s always a good day when Brett uploads

[@peterk671]

One of the big reasons that I watch this channel that I have a daughter around Brett's age. It gives me a good insights into some of her challenges as she is going to university in a different state.

[@jesuscarino7436]

Yes I agree with you Brett. On a date, be very clear to a guy on what you are looking for in a relationship. I guarantee most men who are not serious will drop off. And you can literally bring them to meet your parents as soon as possible. You'll find out exactly if he's seriously not.

[@sayjay17]

this video made my night!! started listening to you in the last couple weeks , thank you for speaking the truth Brett 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@OpEditorial]

It's a no win situation, if a guy states in his dating profile *he wants to find a wife and settle down*, it's treated with at best scepticism and at worst, hostility (especially if he falls just outside of the ideal looks/income bracket) not that there was any danger of finding someone anyway.

[@abrahamcardenas13]

One of the first conversations I had with my girlfriend was about what do we want in life. We started talking about marriage, kids, faith, and many more things. We are going to marry in a year. Very simple

[@bhaveshramdaursingh4325]

I swear to god, Brett segues into her sponsors so seamlessly it's impressive

[@hungphat1553]

It’s close to Michael Knowles level

[@HeatherVerhagen]

I agree with you, Brett. I hold myself to high standards and try to be honest about who I am and what I want. I think mentioning that I'm a Christian quickly weeds a lot of the wrong guys out, so I always do it. it's just frustrating because I keep running into the wrong men.

[@joeam4977]

There are lots of Christian men who are looking for Christian women. The big churches have Christian singles ministries and if you do your homework, you can cast your net wide at multiple churches and save a lot of time.

[@JamesBond-zd5jx]

Keep your standards. The right man is out there.

[@DocR16]

I've met and hooked up within the first or second date with women who claimed to be Christian. You mentioning religion isn't the reason guys dip.

[@angelicalee6]

Just saying you're Christian isn't enough, have to live it.

[@iamaronman]

I am in my early 30's, and was raised in a Christian household. I was always taught to pick the one girl, and that was it. After my first girlfriend was abusive and cheated on me, I was so confused, we were together for 14 years and dating was completely screwed by that point. I dipped my toe in hookup culture and felt disgusted with myself. So I had to come to the conclusion that this is not for me, so I just stick to myself and hang out with friends, I feel pretty satisfied and content with life and would rather be single than deal with the current dating culture.

[@sercastamere9853]

That's a terrible strategy mate. Move to a better state/area, go do some hobbies, get out of debt and go to the gym.

[@angelicalee6]

That's the best choice.

[@c1s1125]

Don't give up on her, she's out there and she's worth it. How we honor our future forever partners by the decisions of today - means everything. They will appreciate the sacrifices you make and in hindsight those sacrifices start to look like deposits into a bank account.

[@charlescane8723]

WOMEN LIKE THESE WANT NO RESPONSIBILITY OR ACCOUNTABILITY TO THEIR ACTIONS. THEY'LL DO WHATEVER THEY WANT AND DISDAIN CONSEQUENCES 😡😡😡

[@alishaaaax]

It takes 2 to tango remember that.

[@christophersmirnoff5222]

It is women, it's the nearly 100% of women who want to bang the top 20% good looking guys and use the rest as the loving boyfriend to fulfill another need, emotion which is never true to the guy.

[@RipperRoo92]

​@Aqsa Ashrafi Actions are bigger than words, you all just have poor choices of partners...Get it memorized.

[@patrickwashington7578]

@Fenwick Chick the biggest problem is when it’s not consistent you’re a hypocrite if you sleep with a guy that see a relationship with right away then the you do wait 3 months

[@coldblizzard5880]

A lot of guys do the exact same thing. THEE EXACT SAME THING. No “1” group of people is the only one to blame for things. It’s not one sided. Everyone on both sides are to blame for what’s “going on”. Just gotta put that out there.

[@Btx931]

You know, grown ups are responsible for their own decisions.

[@smythharris2635]

Progressives are working hard to change that.

[@nothanksmegan]

Words & honesty don’t always work but it’s better than the alternative.

[@Hopespringseternal]

My mom taught me how to not give my milk away for free, and how I give a piece of myself away to every partner I have. Best advice she ever gave me.

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

My mom said the same. And I made a mistake when I was young, but mostly because I think I settled. I have no regrets and am happy with my life (was not in the hookup culture but did want to have an experience and learn. I will say I think sex is 100% over glamorized but it does seem like it takes a piece out of you until you can make peace internally)

[@dylanturley7291]

Same here.

[@lylea9352]

Why can't men and women just be honest? I think sex should be the last thing in a relationship. There is so much more to learn about each other than just lust and sex.

[@therealistshow9335]

Women can't handle the truth

[@wolu9456]

friend zoned. girls move too damn fast. if you're not in them right away you loose them. what's sucks is i don't even have time to like them enough to want to do it.

[@obviouslyasockpuppet]

A lot of men would die virgins if they told y'all the truth. I see no value in lying. As a result, I haven't had a girlfriend or slept with anyone for the last 6 years. I don't care I'd rather be alone than misrepresent who I am to get laid. I'm not hideous, I can afford expensive dates, fancy clothes and nice watches. If I played "the game" I'm sure I could find someone to hook up with but I don't wanna be false about my self or my beliefs. Not many men see it how I see it though.

[@melitajay]

@@wolu9456 I'm the opposite. I'd have to have known someone for a while.

[@wolu9456]

@@melitajay oh that's what i wan't and have tired. with tinder girls can have secret fuck buddies. you can't vet them. 4 months i vetted turned out i knew nothing. i sayed out of dating app shitshow . i miss when word of mouth was reliable news or at least you could find it if you spent the effort

[@uruk_bye1232]

It's everyone's fault all at the same time. Hold yourself and your friends to a higher standard of behavior. Do good things and expect other people to do good things too.

[@robertdunham2372]

There’s nothing wrong with hookup culture lol. Not everyone lives by your religious beliefs not everyone wants marriage not everyone wants to build a family

[@uruk_bye1232]

@Robert Dunham it reduces social interaction and sex to a mere exchange of time and effort. It does nothing truly good. It reduces a human down to how they make you feel in the moment. I disagree that that's a worthy objective no matter your religious background. And another thing, I don't care that you don't believe. If I think I'm more right than you, I'm going to act and vote in accordance with that belief. You don't have to think it's fair.

[@drunkduck8073]

@@robertdunham2372 people say they can have higher moral ground with out God but then every time someone states their opinion about moral problems with out even mentioning religion it's always " stop pushing your religion beliefs " just because ppl don't wanna aknowladge not everything they do is good. Bro my ex bf was an atheist and he was dating to marry, my atheist friends don't agree with most of modern things that are accepted and PUSHED, in fact we have totally same values. You wanna say they're actually religious too? Or they are stupid for not thinking like you? Hook up culture is BAD for our society you liked that or not. You can still hook up if that's what you wanna do but saying there's nothing wrong with it and encouraging it is wrong.

[@robertdunham2372]

@drunkduck8073 there's nothing wrong about it. That's just an opinion. I will push it cause I feel no two humans are meant to be together forever I'm against marriage and I think marriage is wrong and bad for society.

[@charlessynowiec3876]

@@robertdunham2372there’s many things that’s wrong w casual sex. like pair bonding. emotional trauma. psychological trauma. stds. so many things. it’s clear most of y’all don’t think further than your first thought before u speak

[@davidbigd9047]

I’ve mentioned this before and I’m not afraid to repeat myself: the deep rooted issue contributing to the hookup culture is the locations which have been the norm for over 50yrs - bars and clubs. It’s all very well to discuss all other aspects which revolve around it, but, I believe we have to act on designating new locations if you’re looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage.

[@blackswan1983]

That's oudated. Young people use dating apps now.

[@davidbigd9047]

@@blackswan1983 dating apps are part of the hookup culture.

[@NegativKreep]

Look for someone In Church i guess

[@davidbigd9047]

@@NegativKreep I’m not returning to church. I grew up attending and it made me uncomfortable even if only to find a more traditional woman.

[@NegativKreep]

@@davidbigd9047 damn so where else do you have In mind to look?

[@carrilucas9664]

So glad your dipping your feet in this red pill space:) love it Brett

[@devilgames2217]

She should do more of these.

[@bn09185]

I wish I had someone like you to look up to during my teens. Between my friends and the budding hook up culture=female empowerment encouraging me to make so many of the choices I did, I might have so many fewer regrets. Fortunately, I met my husband and he looked past it and loves me for who I am now(way more authentic to myself), but I had never considered the future it could have cost me.

[@MariaHeredia-dw4id]

So your an ex 304, once a 304 always a 304🤣

[@learntoplaymagic5202]

My current wife saw me on a dating app before we dated, and said "no" to it. The only reason, in one of my pictures I had a beard, only reason. This is what showed me that women are SUPER picky on dating apps

[@ransomg9479]

I never get tired of Brett reacting to the modern dating scene.

[@melissabrown3976]

I met my husband on a dating app but we were both very clear about what we wanted upfront along with our political & religious views. We're also older so maybe that makes a difference.

[@hansolo1487]

I have so much to say about this 🌹 Everyone who takes part in hook up culture is part of the problem. We all need to take personal responsibility for what we do with our bodies. Women should be responsible by not giving it up so easy Men should take responsibility by taking the lead and not allowing a girl to ruin herself JUST because YOU only want to f***. As a man, not having sex often doesn't give you the right to bang anything and everything that gives you the opportunity. This is why the bond of marriage is crucial for men. Yes we really really want sex, but I would argue we NEED discipline more. I would also argue that the best women for you would make you wait until you married her. I have only been in 4 relationships(2 long term) and that's all I need to know what I want in a women to be my wife. This whole thing where "men can have hundreds of bodies and it's ok" is bullshit and shows lack of discipline. If the girl isn't right for you, don't increase her body count to lessen her chance at marriage to the guy she actually wants. Things like this not only make her lose the ability to bond(biological fact) but will also make her think one night stands are ok which will increase her body count and by extension increasing the time she does this and stays single, then when she realized it was a mistake she ends up childless and humanity loses another child. Yes women choose whether or not to open it up to us, but we as men need to be leaders and not be controlled by our physical needs. Walk away if you aren't in a long term relationship with her and wait for the one you want to marry. 🌹

[@ambrosianapier7545]

Completely agree

[@feliciab5019]

I agree 100%

[@viddykhaos2896]

As a man, I completely agree. Too many chaps here who are putting the blame on women. Do not be a slave to your own senses, discipline is far more masculine than a animalism.

[@rickycool6083]

All nice but not realistic, women started and control hookup culture, men adapted, it's their responsibility, not men's. Men always wanted to fuck, no matter what era culture or particular point of history you are looking at, men would never say no to sex. Maintaining a woman's chastity is a women's choice and problem, society cannot be blamed for it. You don't need a right to bang, you are literally made that way and no reason to not take the opportunity when the situation presents itself considering that's how the reality of modern world works. True best women and intelligent women will make you wait, but they other qualities too that makes them good women. Hwever there are many born again virgins in today's eras, a girl who will make you wait while having a body count of 30 isn't worth marrying nor is she sexually interested in you. Testing works both ways, girl tests by making you wait, men test by asking for sex. Again not the responsibility of the man or the society to control that and no reason not to do it. Good advice, but impractical in real world, not to mention marriage is a trap and a dangerous choice for men anyway.

[@robertdunham2372]

What? Not everyone wants marriage and that life 😂 I dumped my last girlfriend for bringing marriage up. I’ll hook up with someone if I wanna hookup with someone that’s what protection is for. not everyone’s religious and not everyone lives by your religious views. Just cause someone lives differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong 😂 this is why I hate religious people

[@nordman3435]

The responsibility falls on both genders. Women became more promiscuous because men convinced and affirmed that it was empowering in hopes that they would get some. Both genders need to control themselves and focus on the things that are much more important than sex. Especially in the current state of the world. Be more disciplined and do better people. Edit: I'd like to add that it seems as though more people need to take responsibility for themselves as an individual, rather than blaming others or blaming the opposite gender.

[@agonsfitness7308]

Bahahaha you have to appreciate the genius of this scam. It's like average women convincing other women to pig out and get huge because they are beautiful and now the average woman looks like a goddess in comparison. Sleep with me with zero strings attached and surely you will be empowered 😂

[@michaelsorensen7567]

"men convinced and affirmed it was empowering" Men ran feminism? I didn't know that

[@nordman3435]

@@michaelsorensen7567 This is just a theory of mine. I wouldn't say that they ran modern day feminism. I would argue they perpetuated it for their own potential gain if that makes sense?

[@deszi6936]

@chris what ? Lol women get to choose who they sleep with . A man can’t force a woman . If a woman can’t wait to sleep with a man untill they are married or at least in a committed relationship then why would a man care to stay or take a woman serious who is just a easy lay .

[@miacyr3125]

​@@deszi6936then that guy should never look for a serious relationship if he does decide to hook up with these girls. Women don't want a man who would sleep with anyone just because it was offered. Can his future girlfriend/wife trust he will turn down another womans advances while he's in a relationship? People who participate in hook up culture have no respect or self control. To me thats the most unattractive thing about it.

[@kaisanimmortal]

I’ve spent a great deal of time on dating apps and it was insane to see how many women were not even remotely interested in a serious relationship. Most weren’t even interested in meeting up. They just wanted to text. Like wtf? I’m not here to be your pen pal. 😂 It took a while, but it paid off. I met my fiancé and she’s the most perfect person in the world for me. And I can say for sure that we would’ve never met without a dating app. But as a man, dating apps can be seriously demoralizing and nightmarish.

[@johndoe-xc4hl]

Honesty has given me zero dates and likes on dating website. Honesty I've given up. Thank you for your hard work and dedication to the good fight. 👍

[@sarahbrown9841]

Hey Brett! I absolutely loved this episode. Nobody thinks about that particular issue that we have biological different roles. The part that I think women don’t take responsibility for is if you don’t want to participate in “hook up culture” don’t go to places where that happens specifically clubs that are set up for that. It’s like hello don’t go to the club by yourself to get hit on by drunk guys. You won’t find your husband that way. Us women can’t constantly blame men for everything. Like you said wear a bathing suit not a thong. Keep the awesome content coming!

[@fenrir4406]

I remember there was a guy on this exact show that said body count mattered more when women had a high body count vs men, and he said that with an over 100 body count. He was so busy attacking women that he could not look at himself in the mirror for feeding into the culture. It’s definitely a both gender issue of people being blinded by the reality of hookup culture.

[@viddykhaos2896]

@@davesherman9755 that natural drive exists, but we as man can choose not to be slaves to it. If we are too weak to be disciplined that lack of personal responsibility is ours to an extent.

[@johnw9038]

It's true though. Women always know their relationship to their child (if it came out of you, it's yours). Men have big issues with promiscuity due to paternity uncertainty.

[@fenrir4406]

@@davesherman9755 Then get married. Find a good woman and get married. Men also have the option to stop it. Change starts when everyone stops pointing fingers at the other.

[@fenrir4406]

@@johnw9038 That wasn't the point of my reply. I'm against any sexual relations outside of marriage. I was pointing out how a man cannot point fingers at a woman when he himself is contributing majorly to the problem. Its a both-gender issue. Change starts when everyone takes personal responsibility and starts saying they will not participate in this.

[@johnw9038]

@@fenrir4406 Yeah. I'm just saying it's not really the same. There's a double-standard for a good reason.

[@PollyO_YT44]

I am 44 years old. I was raised w morals to have self respect. Less is more. Meaning you don’t have to show all your goodies. girls just don’t sleep around. It’s disgusting. They dress half naked ass hanging out but don’t want men looking. I lost my virginity on my wedding nite. We were together 8 yrs then divorced. 2 yrs later I met my now husband. Body count: 2 I guess I come from a different time where morals was a thing. These girls these days are so misinformed & clueless. They call it sexual liberation? We call it sleeping around.

[@George.Altareh]

Actually men crave connection, thats why most men who are just hooking up are depressed

[@ethxo6734]

I refused to even hold hands with people I wasn’t bf/gf with. The “talking” stage meant no contact for me. When my now husband took me to the movies and reached over for my hand, I looked right at him and asked him if that’s what he wanted, implying a relationship, he nervously looked at me and said yes, I said okay. 😂 But I agree with Brett, be upfront about what you want and what your boundaries are. I wasn’t about to end up in a situationship.

[@jaernihiltheus7817]

Marilyn manson's "mechanical animals" album just gets more and more prophetic as the years go by. The songs "user friendly", "the dope show", "new model no. 15", and "i want to disappear" being particularly relevant today in terms of hook up culture, wokeness, and terminally online culture.

[@vl2663]

I fucking love his music

[@FatboyRage]

Straight facts as always. It’s cliché but honestly is the best policy. Don’t understand why people can’t talk things out about there intentions. Not that hard but I get why.

[@emperornapoleon6204]

That was one of the smoothest ad transitions I’ve ever seen.

[@a.r.mproductions5616]

This is literally why I’m thinking I won’t ever get married because relationships and family aren’t what people want any more. Besides me apparently. I feel like I do not belong on this planet.

[@owliria_sage]

Depends on the country you live in. Some ppl still want that. But it's hard to plan out your life in this hectic time. WW3 could start any minute because of some pissed off politicians.

[@Dodderyfeline31]

Nah man, plenty of people want families. Me included. Be patient, it will come.

[@black-aliss]

I think most women are deathly afraid of being called prudes today. Looking for a serious relationship and admitting it may as well be saying "no sex before marriage!" You're not a fun girl that way. You don't want to be not fun, do you?

[@kaiser1295]

Being a prude isn't a bad thing. Stop prude shaming! not everything in life is about sex.

[@haret0n]

i think everyone has been brainwashed and sold the lie that porn style sex is a necessary and empowering thing to do. whereas the truth is porn sex is a load of ugly nonsense created by a group of humanity hating nerds who have flooded the world with it.

[@superside69]

I struggled so hard with online dating apps. I’d give myself a 6-7, and I was being rejected by everyone. The only matches I’d get were women twice my age and looked very broken. -I did find my girlfriend in there (3 yrs ago). I did have a male friend who was extremely attractive, he could have been a model, and he’d treat those apps as a fast-food menu. He’d hook up with multiple women a week with only the intent to sleep with them once. That did frustrate me so bad. I almost gave up on dating entirely. I feel bad for guys now because it seems to have only gotten worse.

[@drwaffles9418]

I agree with everything you say! The hard part is it's trusting that they're honest. Because you can be honest but they can lie!

[@briangrant2005]

You know I'm so fortunate to have been exposed to the half-assed idea of "dating apps", and to have listened to Sheamus of FreedomToons and continued to go to Church. And I was lead to the Love of My Life (outside of dating apps) and was so happy that I deleted all of them and plan to NEVER have to use them again.

[@faithbasedliving9391]

I hear young girls say they shouldn’t ask guys right away what a guy wants. That is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Coming from someone who started dating as a single mom at a young age, that was the first thing I asked. I didn’t wanna waste my time. I am now happily married.

[@dragonam9730]

Brett Cooper, keep up the good work!!! 🥰

[@justbeingpete806]

cap you didnt even watch it

[@dragonam9730]

​@@justbeingpete806 I did, just commented before I watched.

[@dragonam9730]

​@Fenwick Chick I don't think it is "gold digging", but people don't need to wait 3 months before having sex in a couple. It honestly depends on the couple and the people involved, but you can have a healthy relationship even if you don't wait. But you aren't manipulative for saying that, it just depends on what context you say it in.

[@ddavisgaming]

Hookup culture is a 2 way street. You can't just blame men, you can't just blame women.

[@waltermh111]

False Equivalent because you can just blame women. Look up the sexual liberation movement and you'll find that it's a feminist movement. Look at the slut walks. Women pushing it and some beta male liberals doing it to "support women". A tiny percentage of men love it because they get to benefit from it but most of us are against it because it is destructive to family community and country. Men don't even have any power in this situation so how can we get any blame. Women control who sleeps with them 100%. Most men are lucky to get positive attention from women at all. We all get judged for the small percentage of men that women even get a chance to. If you keep deflecting from the problem it can never be fixed. I know the way to put it is if I tell a man to stop sleeping around you will laugh at me because hes the one that gets to have sex and have women loving him while I'm the 1 that women hate and make fun of and I don't get anything from them. Women are the ones that are going to have to change because men will become whatever it takes to feel loved or wanted by women so women need to get back to traditional ways and that'll get men back to traditional ways. Most of us are waiting. I'll give you a good example of how men are trying to be part of the solution. Look up passport bro. This is men most of which if you look at comments are going overseas to get women not just to sleep around because they could do that anywhere in the world without a name. They are doing that to find love and family. We want this all to end but we don't have the power. It's not us majority of men that are hooking up with these women and dating them only for sex. We need to stop being judged by the few percentage of men that women chase because hes hot or maybe funny or other superficial things that have nothing to do with a good relationship.

[@skeelatheskink8724]

Yep. It takes two, to tango

[@deszi6936]

How does it take 2 ? I’m curious . Isn’t the woman the one who decides who she sleeps with after all a man can’t force a woman to sleep with them

[@skeelatheskink8724]

@@deszi6936 and a woman can’t force a man to sleep with her. 🙄 It takes two who consent in partaking in hookup culture.

[@waltermh111]

@Deszi you are right. But not only is he not forcing her, but the only men who don't have to basically beg through a lot of hoops are the lucky few hot boys and the players. It's definitely only the women who have all the power. That's why I recommend against this idea that women should be going up to men because women are already going up to me or when they do it's only the top 10%. It doesn't benefit men for women to be more aggressive Because it will only benefit a smaller and smaller group of men. The human race is literally dying going down this path.

[@Mupeta.]

The way you segue from a serious topic to ads is legendary at this point 👏👏👏

[@a.d.r.m.7730]

It would be awesome to fall in love and not die alone, but then I think: "Is it really worth it to wade through the shit and piss that is western culture?"

[@kristinarivas8900]

I totally agree with Brett that it's a lot about the dopamine hit. I've found that most people play games and/ or are unclear about their desires out of insecurity. It feels nice to be wanted, so ending things with someone when you're not feeling it is harder when you aren't secure in yourself. If you were, you wouldn't need that external validation.

[@IAmMiaElizabeth]

so glad i found this channel it’s nice to see some people are real still

[@francescacoronaita]

I don’t necessarily even believe them when they complain that men aren’t honest about their intentions. I’ve heard too many times about women themselves lying about important things and them refusing to listen/believe men when they’re being honest about what they want. Directly from my “friends”, unfortunately.

[@ItsSimplyAless]

I love hearing you talk, girl, one thing I just want to say (it kind of has to do with this whole Tate 'era' we were in), the fact that a lot of his fans or people in general try to justify men sleeping around in relationships because of biological/primal reasons. Whether or not they feel like that, I still feel like they shouldn't. I also feel like it makes women feel like they can't find a loyal man especially if he's attractive and financially stable(not necessarily rich!) Again, I’m not talking about your Andrew Tates, celebrities, or high status people. It's something that I struggle with to this day, feeling like I won't find a good guy who just wants to be with just me. I'm not against men. We need men in this world. I'm not a feminist or I don't consider myself one, however, this is something that still kind of gets under my skin. If someone wants to have a genuine conversation with me in the comments about this, that would be great. Maybe I would need a therapy session too. Lol. Idk. I'm also personally against dating apps in the sense where I wouldn't use them. I feel like this is something that people try to make us accept, but I also feel like if a guy is religious or has strong values, this wont happen. just ranting here. ALSO 14:30 SO TRUE, and honesty is important

[@aikowhite7783]

i feel the same!! im a firm christian and wont hold with rationalizing hooking up because it's a "biological urge" -- i mean for the love of God, we have biological urges for everything from murder to random intrusive desires that come out of nowhere! like it literally does not matter what ur primal urges tell you, God gave us a conscience for a reason.

[@gabrielsimoes1730]

Would you say you are valuable enough for a guy to give everything he is to you and even fight against himself and the opportunities that appear to him? (Asking this because you are apperently not talking about the average Joe, because "Joe" barely has options and a decent partner is probably the most precious thing he has)

[@ItsSimplyAless]

​@@aikowhite7783 Yes! this right here! 🙌You literally took the words right out of my mouth. Spot on. I was also raised Christian (Roman Catholic specifically)

[@aikowhite7783]

@@gabrielsimoes1730 would she? probably not. however, the question is if a guy is able to value HIMSELF and his character and morals enough to be faithful to one female, and do right by her even if he may lose some "opportunites " in the process. what will he gain? respect for himself and the approval of God :>

[@aikowhite7783]

@@ItsSimplyAless thank you so much! i cant express how cool it is to see a person actually looking for a weighty conversation in a yt comment section, and i wanted to let u know your not alone and God is good!-

[@chaffinshafer5061]

Being honest with them doesn't always work in my experience.

[@parttimesaint3165]

Being shy and 30, it's near impossible to find a suitable partner. This whole hookup culture has ruined so many people and now we've ended up with broken-down scraps of barely human remains. I came to terms with my celibacy over 5 years ago after many years of struggle. Dating is an immense effort and it wastes time. I'm spending that time and effort on myself.

[@ZiffXGames]

Its funny we are so obsessed with blaming a side like it can only be men's fault or women's fault when its more than likely a combination : /.. even then we have to try blame one side more than the other.. for what? moral highground?.. its so tiresome xD

[@ItsSimplyAless]

100% agree

[@deszi6936]

It comes down to accountability .women get to choose who they want to slee with a man cannot force a woman . Therefor if a woman doesn’t want to partake in a hood up culture she shouldn’t be sleeping so runs with random men instead get to know the man get in a relationship or wait untill marriage . It’s really not that hard to understand . I get it some people get bothered by hard truths .

[@popcorn58138]

@@deszi6936But men will excuse purposely participating in hookup culture themselves…make it make sense lol

[@flacopwa2976]

I can’t believe how many people have no self control, holding on to virginity until marriage is a rarity and a virtue these days.

[@Rowri88]

These dating hookup channels are hilarious. They always talk about “do this for your man, do this for your women” yet all of them are single (both sides) 😂

[@nolungesplease2945]

Both. If men didn't let lust control their actions women wouldn't be able to. Women wouldn't see it as away to take advanced of it and use it advance themselves. Modest women like me get ignored and called liars or don't exist. I wear no makeup, dressed modest, speak soft, kind and polite. Got looked over everytime for some women who had makeup caked on, skimpy clothes and would flirt with many. It hurt a lot. I was starting to go down the path of men only care for looks, men only care about getting their D wet, men are shallow and unable to love a women for her merits, men only care for what they can get out of someone, men are users etc (sounds like many of the men I've had conversations with just that its opposite gender). But I realised that most men are being lead by their balls and those women don't get kept but passed around. It was up to me to find a good man. And I did. But many men overlooked me, especially once I said I am Christian and celibate. 🤣🤣🤣 Gotta love some of the reactions I'd get.

[@Reiginleaf]

I don't even have to watch this video to answer who is responsible.

[@blackmoon7012]

As someone who doesn’t dress promiscuously, I have to say guys don’t look my way at all. Girls know that guys will pay attention to them if they dress to attract them. So I would definitely say the reason more girls dress promiscuously is because that’s what guys respond to so it’s not right for girls to be put down for their dress. Also, hookup culture is more of a socially acceptable thing because as a society we’ve decided not to shun guys or girls that sleep around. Both genders need to cool it.

[@wildprodigy]

Healthy shaming as I call it. Is beneficial for society to hold each other accountable for the good of society and the well being of families and communities. We should absolutely shun hook up culture

[@goreysins]

Both parties

[@xxtank999xx]

On one of the episodes of this same podcast a girl was complaining that all guys want is P…. , Brian’s response was perfect, he said if P is all you’re offering than that’s all I’m going to want from you

[@Alegriev]

I love clips from the whatever podcast but the podcasts themselves are so long... I would love it if you'd cover more from them, as you always do a great job of boiling it down to the important stuff. Love ur work! Keep growing kween

[@fndmntl5341]

Gonna be honest, as a guy, back in my ho phase... If a girl straight up told me she wanted a real relationship etc when I was just running around having fun, that wouldn't have scared me off...

[@RR.LL.3B]

Exactly some men just take it as a challenge it’s so annoying

[@sail253]

​@@RR.LL.3Bthat's probably why the whole sex until after marriage exists, so men can't do this without making a major commitment first

[@trevorkenny]

I love the editors for these SOOOO much.

[@heavydiesel6864]

My experience is that if you’re not the right guy, girls will be offended, but if you are the right guy, then the same look or interaction is acceptable.

[@mtaslim9778]

You know, at the end of the day, the entirety of what "hookup" culture is and how it's become such a norm just seems so utterly ridiculous to me. Like seriously, this is NOT normal, at all!