Who Owns Femininity LWLN 10 06 2019

[@elizabetha3936]

Points covered. 1. Rupal's Drag race is mainstream drag, and doesn't represent all drag. 2. Transphobic slurs are prevalent in and unapologetically used by Rupaul. 3. Even though both forms of fashion are hyper feminine, Lolitas don't want to be represented on a platform that is discriminatory and devoid of inclusiveness.

[@headphonic8]

He is unapologetically misogynistic. "Fishy" to describe looking like a ciswoman? He can fuck off with that shit

[@laurinedelamater]

Tyler, you're gonna make me cry. Thank you for calling out the disgusting transphobia of RuPaul. As a nonbinary person I've struggled with my presentation and questioned whether wearing something as hyperfeminine as lolita discredits my identity; It doesn't, policing sometimes identity based on presentation is bullshit, and discluding them from spaces such as drag or lolita is inherently wrong.

[@ihavealight8876]

Some of the queens who have been on the show are actually non-binary just never mentioned while in the show but they are open once they are out. Aja is non binary and I'm sure a few more. I'm no one to say this but ur obviously completely valid

[@jamieisnotokay3298]

Seriously I'm so disappointed in RuPual. I'm non binary and it disgusts me how transphobic he is.

[@kitten929]

being gender-fluid i want others to know the Lolita/Ouji and the community has accepted me more then any other. i am welcome no matter what i identify as. its a home and dont let one person tell you no

[@kawaiimagicalex5170]

I agree is also non binary :)

[@kitchensinkchronicles3272]

i’m nonbinary and i feel the same. i’ve gotten nothing but support

[@marygreenapple]

@@kitchensinkchronicles3272 I've heard more lolita creators say that clothes have no gender than anyone else. As a non-binary person, this means the world to me. Edited for spelling mistakes.

[@Archangel486]

Being trans, I've been met with more hostility from the Lolita community (constantly forcing me to prove I'm not a creep) than any other community ever.

[@alienaf8151]

Just seeing online how many Lolitas using he/him and they/them pronouns made me so happy, since I'm non-binary and was hesitant to try out the fashion for the fear of being misgendered, and I'm glad people are so accepting

[@noodlepoodle3582]

“You’re supposed to bake your face, not your brains” Hot damn, I just watched a murder

[@ADayOfNight]

Honestly, how sick would it be if Rulpaul had both drag kings and queens on his show? No? Just cis men? Okay, yeah, because women playing caricatures of men totally isn't challenging male-dominated society at all 🙄 🙄 🙄

[@saddsapphic]

Camp wannakiki has a drag king on I believe season two. Boris Tudeth. Fck RuPaul tbh... I'm glad Camp Wannakiki & Dragula are blossoming. They are far less toxic & far more open & hate free. Plus they show more than one type of drag...

[@shinjuubaby132613]

Camp Wannakiki S2 also has Claire Apparently who's a FTM drag queen. And Dragula S3 has 2 AFAB drag perfomers - Landon Cider (a Drag King) and Hollow Eve. There's a lot more than Drag Race out there.

[@verybarebones]

Challenging sure, but since masculinity in western society is associated with plain, serious, conservative stuff w no flair, it won't be as spectacular. So people would probably go "see, women aren't interesting/funny"

[@DM-nw5lu]

Leave me alone, Drag Queens represent what men view femininity as at most. Things like toxic masculinity and the need to constantly prove yourself are some of many typically male characteristics that could make for some good shows. Making fun of men, even if it’s just caricatures of them, just doesn’t fly in a male dominated society that praises masculinity to the heavens and tears femininity down and constantly ridicules the fuck out of it for laughs. Which is exactly why there should be more female drag queens. Drag completely perverted the idea of what femininity is. It’s sometimes really disgusting tbh.

[@DM-nw5lu]

@Carne Guisada How mature and constructive

[@Sharon-gj2np]

Now I need a t-shirt saying “it all started in Rufflechat...”

[@AestheticWaif]

So much! I'm not EGL, I'm here for the rants, and I NEED merch!

[@AestheticWaif]

Will also cause a number of interesting conversations! 😂🤔💜

[@cathuff5802]

Sharon Taylor .... I’m making that

[@triplehearts914]

Honestly if Tyler dropped merch id wear it

[@LadyHacknSlash]

This is why I hope dragula continues to have the success it is gaining. Season 3 has a bio-queen and a drag king.

[@NekoMiku1234]

I want to watch dragula! Where can I?

[@mimmikibilly]

@@NekoMiku1234 The channel Hey Qween has premieres.

[@MissChase86]

Amazon Prime airs it too what I understand?

[@NekoMiku1234]

@@MissChase86 I have Amazon prime so if that's true. I'm super happy

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

7:50 it’s still baffling he said that cuz trans folk have always been a part of Drag

[@melissablick779]

Indeed! I've personally known several trans people who performed drag and eventually realized that they were trans or non binary.

[@gaby132]

I thought about this a few weeks ago, it’s an interesting topic. As a “guy” in Lolita I feel like my fashion and way of life shouldn’t be defined the way RuPaul and others say it should be a certain way. Glad Dragula includes a better view than Drag Race.

[@taraselly3831]

Yay Landon Cider 🤩

[@pizzaengrey]

Quite brave for RuPaul to exclude trans people from drag when drag was literally invented by trans women (as seen in documentaries like Paris Is Burning). While I agree that RPDR doesn’t represent all drag (#NotAllDrag), I would like to thank you for talking about Ru’s transphobic statements. I’ve met too many people who claimed they supported trans people and yet they still watched the show despite the founder’s transphobic claims

[@princemomofairy2593]

I’ve soon many people say rupual was transphobic & never was able to find sources so thanks for this video!

[@sourgreendolly7685]

I’m not trying to be rude but did you google his name and transphobia? There’s a lot out there about this

[@NoBaloneyHomosapiens]

As a trans man I totally agree. Drag should be for everyone. Thankfully my local scene is more in line with that but I agree that in communities like drag race it lolita fashion doesn't belong. I also love how open the lolita community is, I haven't made an op yet (is that the right one? Bad with acronyms) but I have been following the fashion and things like KZbin/instagram for years and have been planning out outfits forever. I when I started to transition I was worried I wouldn't be accepted as a man because I have a serious love for wearing beautiful dresses and frilly lace, but everyone I have talked to has been so welcoming and encouraging. Even recommending brands that have a look I am comfortable with and stuff. Honestly I am so excited to finally go to events and stuff because outside of the metal and punk scene locally people don't really take me seriously when I dress up, but it's so cool to have a whole fashion community that see fashion for everyone, not just women or men.

[@GalaxiiBunnii]

You might mean co-od :) op just stands for one piece, which is essentially a full dress, not a skirt and top separate if that makes sense? Or a jsk which stands for jumperskirt, and is is usually more open like a pinafore and allows you to wear different toos/blouses under it. An op usually doesn't allow for this as it usually already has sleeves :) I'm no expert but that's my take on it as someone who is interested in lolita but doesn't wear it (yet)

[@mimmikibilly]

As Neon Vixen said, an OP is a dress that can be worn as it is and features sleeves. JSKs are to be worn with a blouse beneath, and what you want to put together is a "coord" or "co-ord", which is short for "coordinate".

[@alitaniak7404]

My local scene is also way more open to trans and bio queens, and believes that drag is a performance anyone can do. Not all drag is drag race, and I love seeing other expressions of drag than those shown by the cis men on drag race.

[@justinallenlindley9796]

I make a living partially as a drag queen, and I agree. I love lolita and wear it but never to perform. I feel the cartoonish nature of drag turns this beautiful style of clothing into yet another costume. I alsomagree that RuPaul, while at one time a personal hero of mine, does not get to say what constitutes drag. It was around before him, itll be around long after he's dead and gone, and his opinions would be better kept locked away in his shiny bald head.

[@lisayarost1457]

I’m fantasizing about that fox coord. “It all started in Rufflechat...” Yes, Tyler. It usually does.

[@teaandlace1472]

Thanks for this video! There is no space for transphobia in lolita community.

[@Len11999]

Trans Male drag performer "Claire Apparently" work a JSK on the youtube competition show Camp Wannakiki, Not cheap ebay trash, not a costume, an actual JSK from an actual Lolita Brand. Drag isn't trans-phobic, RuPaul is. Camp Wanakiki and Dragula accept trans, non binary, and drag kings into their competitions.

[@lilyoftheveil666]

I have a couple of points: 1) I feel like there's a way to combine drag & lolita in a way that respects both subcultures. 2) Please support your local drag scene, everyone. There are a lot of great performers of all genders doing great things.

[@Vampkiki]

She didn't happen to mention the take down of the the offensive term "she-male" that also landed the show in hot water. DePaul found nothing wrong with it initially, but ended up removing the term after not only sponsors sought to remove ads, but the channel itself threatened to pull the plug on the show.

[@CrazyPocky355]

I much prefer Dragula to Drag race, they mix drag queens, drag kings, and s3 even had a non-binary queen 😍

[@ADayOfNight]

I've never heard of Dragula- but I'm all on board for an all-inclusive drag show. Where can I watch it? :o

[@pgakt]

Where do I find??

[@suarezilla]

You can watch it at prime video

[@Avellania]

The drag race versions of other countries (besides US and UK) are better. Thailand is good, but the subtitles can be a bit hit or miss.

[@mikotoretsu]

Here in Mexico wee have "La más draga" is a show more less like RPDR but it is more inclusive and the winner of the last season was a woman, and she is very loved by the community :3

[@minimina1313]

I think this is my favorite LWLN episode ever

[@danamariesmith8960]

dragula actually offers a much more diverse look into what drag can be outside of rupaul's drag race!

[@saskiamick]

Danamarie Smith I love Dragula! Doesn’t Erika Klash sometimes wear lots fashion?

[@bexthewitch87]

Dang, Tyler!!! Going in hard for this! I love watching Drag Race but it does make me sad when RuPaul says these harmful things. Especially when there have been beautiful trans women on his show like Carmen Carrera and Gia Gunn who were given the villain edit on the show. And the fact that lolita, an already maligned fashion in most people's eyes, is caught in he middle of this sucks. But thank you for untangling this web for us :)

[@RAWRadd]

I remember reading somewhere that drag was meant to be a mockery of cisgender heterosexual mainstream society but transgender women also performed in drag as female divas/singers. Idk how RuPaul became a 90s gay icon but now is just... that

[@MeganMcIntosh]

One of your videos got recommended in my feed. I know literally nothing about the Lolita community but I’m digging what you’re doing! 👍

[@jessicamaccannell4095]

Tyler is a treasure and we must protect her at all cost.

[@adorabell4253]

I need that couch print!!!!!!! I need it in all the colourways!!!!!!

[@LadyHacknSlash]

I hope everyone keeps in mind that Scaredy Kat is 19. I could barely afford to feed myself let alone buy quality fashion.

[@MrThewizard101]

how is that relevant though

[@babybear6111]

Hannah Elson i think OP is referring to when tyler points out that scaredy kat is wearing a really cheap “lolita costume” dress from ebay.

[@chatterbox1078]

In my opinion, that dress was really pretty for a costume bought off Ebay

[@lady_sir_knight3713]

Someone send her a letter about Taobao. But yeah, it's standard beginner's mistakes.

[@MissChase86]

I like to think Scaredy is the UK Shangela - be very interesting to see how the character grows

[@Artemiswitchcosplay]

I remember seeing this in rufflechat and slowly backed away from it. Thanks for covering it, and hope to see you at Oni-con! 💚👋🏾

[@77noctiluca]

Tyler: 10 / Ruepaul:00

[@SusanIvanova2257]

Ngl Wingsuit Furry might just exactly be my aesthetic

[@EmmyRae1885]

The green classic skirt and hat have my floral loving heart in a death grip I want it so baaaaad

[@Tenareful]

I'm proud of my country sometime because the first New Zealand "drag race" show was won by a Ftm trans drag king who is fucking amazing and is now creating fantastic shows and running his own company

[@LadyxBleu]

I get where this is coming from but RuPaul represents drag just about as much as Venus Angelic represents lolita. Maybe someone who knows very little about either subculture sees those people as the representative of their fashions but people actually in the communities do not.

[@megs1037]

Thank you for reminding me why I stopped watching drag race.

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

8:21 and yet some of the cis made contestants have gotten chest implants. Maybe not ones that look overtly like breasts, but some of them have def gotten pec implants

[@lunarose9]

Basically all of them have silicone breastfeeding plates too, with the intention of looking real, so why are real breastfeeding implants a problem?

[@MaryKing13]

Well said! Someone finally showed the proof of Rupaul being transphobic AND explained why. Also, lolita pose is fire

[@aloisplease]

As a nonbinary person, this video made me feel so validated and allowed in the lolita community. Thank you.

[@marthag6708]

I have never seen the show, but dang... No wonder you stayed up super late writing those note. Thanks for keeping us in the loop!

[@toriad9848]

Thank you for explaining this all

[@ikeekieeki]

i watched this after seeing Opulence by ContraPoints, and i think the videos can go well together. lolita, drag, hip-hop, and trans experience all rolled together

Oh, please tell me that you've been to Bronner's Christmas Wonderland!! It's Frankenmuth, Michigan's gift to the world, and I'm genuinely surprised that it hasn't featured in a Creepy Pasta story.

[@s.u.h.6548]

This lady roasts frilly dresses like a hardcore rapper

[@mamamommy42]

also reading behind the lines you find rupaul's blatant transphobia in the insinuation that trans women are essentially still cis men until they've started their medical transition

[@IDoDeclareify]

God yes. Thank you so much Tyler. You always manage to articulate these things so well. 🖤⚔️🖤

[@SENISM1991]

I laugh every time I watch your show. thank you. you officially have a new subscriber

[@matchamajokko4018]

I thought you said "Dragon egl doesn't mix" and for a hot second there I was ready to defend some frilly dragons. On that note, I found another thing to doodle...

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

9:39 drag has always been an exaggeration, commentary, and satire of gender roles. But it’s still true that lots of drag performers cross dress and put on personas of other genders as part of this performance.

[@tinytowntouring4038]

...that final image; golden :}

[@mouse_in_a_wheat_field]

As an H cup AP makes me cry

[@Queran3]

I rarely comment on videos, but your piece about the inclusiveness of lolita and how taking up public space in a fucking frilly dress is punkrock gave me goosebumps, in a very good way. Thank you.

[@marygreenapple]

RuPaul was just read to filth by lolita 😁 thank you ❤️

[@Chisei1000]

very good analysis on how rupaul's opinions on the subject make no sense. i'm a big fan of drag race, but ruapul as a person is very dissapointing.

[@GwrachSeren]

Idk if it matters much but my mother and I watch The Boulet Brothers' Dragula. In season 3, there was a cis fem drag queen. There's also a drag King this season.

[@Kitanne]

Fucking hell yeah, Tyler! Thanks for using your platform to talk about the really important parts of this community and what it stands for.

[@jemilabubbles9384]

There has actually been Rugirls that have come out against what Ru has said. Also, Praytell? I see what you did there.

[@Zullala]

Omg that kitsune print!!!! Aaaaaaaahhhhhhh!! 💕🔥🦊🔥💕

[@mimmikibilly]

Tyler just *dragged* RuPaul like Momoko did with the leader of the Ponytails.

[@violemorris1106]

Taylor I owe you my life for always having the best scorching hot takes

[@ItsYaBoiV]

"Too drunk to be dissuaded" can you stop calling me out pls I feel so attacked

[@lisayarost1457]

Dio Brando - I am lusting over that release.

[@IceQueen975]

As soon as that question was posted in Rufflechat I *knew* you'd report on it. I have my own Opinions but I held myself back for once (hallelujah, I learned finally)

[@eliagamiz1320]

even tho I love drag, it rubs me the wrong way how some exclude biological female drag queens while mocking toxic femeninitty edit: Thats why now I'm more into non mainstream drag kings

[@mrs.emptydingo7648]

Thank you for putting words to why I stopped watching RuPauls Drag Race!!! Well said!!

[@ItsCreepP]

Tyler, I love you to death, but I think there’s a lot of things missing here. One, a lot of queens do not like RuPaul. I want to get that one on the table now because of the transphobic comments. RuPaul is not a representation of drag whatsoever. So I feel like it’s a bit unfair that you use only him as a basis for this argument. Two, some queens have brought their entire career around mixing something they love, in this case would be lolita, and drag. Some queens do not identify as a woman, and some do not identify as a man. Drag is to blur the lines of gender. Queens love lolita because it helps them express their femininity, and it helps them bring out this character or a better version of themselves, and lolita is a tool to help them with that. And finally, and I say this again for a reason, RuPaul is not the face that people should be looking at, and it is unfortunate that he does have such a popular series. You forget about queens who were able to make this even a thing, not just Scaredy Kat. No one here says that Lolita is not punk rock, because a lot of queens who are the most punk rock? End up wearing Lollita in someway shape or form. A good example would be Perfidia Or Alaska, or other queens such as Angel Fazce. I don’t feel like it was fair for you to use just the RuPaul as your source. And this comes from someone who loves the drama community, and loves the j-fashion community, and have queens come in my DM hurt because of this. TLDR: There’s more of a basis as to why drag and lolita mix then some transphobic fuck. It lands on gender expression. And that’s why the two mix well. Usually I’m OK with your opinion and everyone is entitled to their opinion, including this one, but I felt like this was well undersourced and uneducated in this topic. edit: note that i did speak with tyler and the biggest miscommunication is that it wasn't fully specified it was specifically DRAG RACE and not drag queens in general, hence why she used RuPaul as an example. even so, my points still stand, since it is still something that is a huge issue, and there should of been an extremely clear indication of the show and queens in general

[@Zullala]

I can kind of understand why he might only want men in the show. Because then the transformation is more on the same level for everyone in the competition. A woman will already have a feminine face (most of the time) and won't have to do as much with the makeup to create that feminine face. Also if she has big boobs then she won't have to fake it with a chest piece. She has a bit of an edge on the men in the aesthetic aspect. Though it's pretty small edge in my opinion cuz there is still the costume making and performance aspect, I can still understand if they would want all the contestants to be at a similar starting place. However RP's explanation just dug himself a huge hole, Jesus!!

[@NinjaWieldingLimes]

I'd take his stance on "only cis men" more seriously if he didn't allow for any plastic surgery at all (more seriously, but DEFINITELY not agreeing with, because the stance is still transphobic and ableist as hell.) However, the cosmetic surgery done by some of the queens he's had on the show has gone WAY beyond "a few injections." Like, we're talking massive butt implants, cheekbone implants, repeated face lifts, etc. These are all things that trans women often have in order to medically transition. If we're talking about needing to have something to tuck, then that's a whole other issue. TLDR, I see where he's coming from, but I really don't agree with his stance, especially his doubling- and tripling-down on it.

[@taraselly3831]

Drag is art and performance. It shouldn't matter what parts you have or how you look. All types of people perform drag, but it's Ru's show so he can designate who gets to be seen which is unfortunate because for many that's their only exposure to the community.

[@Zullala]

@@NinjaWieldingLimes oh dang I didn't know he let men on who have had plastic surgery (it's been awhile since I watched the show). Yeah if he let's men on who have had big butt implants then at that point women might as well be allowed on the show.

[@kathrynsaysdrinkwater6993]

Thank you, Tyler! It's odd to think that drag race of all things is a boy's only club but it makes sense in the current culture. Hperfeminity outweighs hypermasculinity in popularity and intent. By intent I mean, if someone is hypermasculine, people are quick to criticize and call it toxic. However, if someone is hyperfeminie, then they are prasied for reclaiming their sexuality and then sexulized even more. This leads me to some questions: It's more socailly accptable to sexulalize the female form than the male body, does this explain why mtf drag is more popular than ftm drag? Most mtf drag that I've seen is presented sexually and lolita is essentailly the opposite, does this mean that there is an inherent incompatiblity between drag and lolita? Mtf drag presents itself as an art form but caters to the fantasy of "what women could be if they weren't scared of using their sex as power." Lolita does the opposite by removing the sexualiness of the clothing and says "f you" to the idea of using sex or their bodies in that way. Do these ways of hyperfeminity clash in how they present their "f you" to society?

[@kathrynsaysdrinkwater6993]

I apologize for the paragraph. I'm a Sociology major and it shows lol

[@IwaHin]

Just to add, that although i agree that a majority of the drag(in Drag Race particulary) caters to the whole "glam sex-as-power fierce vixen" fantasy, there have been queens in the show that have showed that you can use other sources for the power of a look. two very good examples are ben de la créme sweeter and softer looks or sashas velours "art for drags sake" presentations. Shit even Bebe's "black as royalty" whole thing is very different that the norm for the show (that's a whole new can of worms tho) . Also i think drag race is not a very good representation of real world drag, as i think it is a very narrow sample of it, so it should really not be viewed as such. Real life drag is much more varied and inclusive of many more identities of performers, for example in my home town, the most popular drag performer is non-binary and most of their looks look like beautiful ballon-esque gowns, leaving only their face and hands visible most of the time, which much more in line with a lolita aesthetic than with drag race sex-as-power representation of womanhood edit: sorry for the wall of text as well. tl;dr drag doesn't necessarelly needs to all (sex appeal). drag race not so bueno.

[@damnbro_idc]

Wow, you are like the salty lolita version of contrapoints. I love it. Can we have more of you?

[@Arikel]

I would pay Iron Gate money for a Tyler/Contrapoints collab

[@damnbro_idc]

@@Arikel YES PLEASE! Natalie is so extravagant and elegant. Like I would love to see her in modest lolita!

[@Arikel]

@@damnbro_idc I just watched the Opulence video and was imagining her in the most extravagant queen-like OTT coord or full blown EGA for the vampire part! What an absolute dream!

[@lucinda3964]

Natalie and Tyler could have a tea party....

[@AndrewJude]

Thank you so much for this video, Tyler! I completely agree with what you said about Drag Race.

[@kawaiielephant7772]

0:58 What's the dress the second lady on the top is wearing? I keep looking for it 😢

[@LunaMondhexe]

Drag and Lolita don't even mix in an aesthetic way.

[@NoBaloneyHomosapiens]

I agree, like I think it came be used in gender based preformace art but it doesn't fit the normal image of drag at all

[@sourgreendolly7685]

nobaloneyhomosapiens Drag isn’t really meant to have a specific image though, it’s expression

[@NoBaloneyHomosapiens]

@@sourgreendolly7685 that is absolutely true, maybe in some spaces it would work but not a drag race like setting. Maybe in a more directly art related community I could see it working idk

[@Lilnaomi3]

Even if it meshed aesthetically, combining it with drag would make the items part of a costume. Frag is part of the performers life but not necessarily who they are. Lolita is everyday wear and not part of a performance. It's sort of like using a lolita item in a non-lolita outfit.

[@ninjacat7556]

I love her omg calling out people while looking cute and sweet 💜💙💚💛❤

[@aliceis9068]

THANK YOU FOR THIS and also, really appreciate your essays! It's rly good to hear about how accepting and welcoming the lolita community is to trans folks, I feel rly encouraged about entering the community once I get some cash or finally start devoting some time to sewing skills ^^' xD

[@RitzyCupcake]

This is the best episode!

[@theatrehobbit]

Dragula works as a competition show with afab drag performers, drag kings, drag queens and contestants with different gender identitys. So I don't get how this would make Drag Race bad. But I mean, they have a hard time with accepting different aesthetics, so I can't imagine them accepting anyome that is not a cis man with a specific drag aesthetic. Quite sad

[@AmySay]

I love Wa Lolita, that design is so freakin cute. I wish that I could wear it, but I’m a bit worried that it could be seen as insensitive.

[@alice-8566]

From what I have seen, people have different ideas on it, but I’ve seen it described similarly to the wearing of traditional Japanese clothes in general, if you take the time to educate yourself on them, people may be less likely to think it is insensitive.

[@vimerveilles]

Love this video. I hope trans people see this and participate more in lolita and other alt. Fashions than drag race.

[@hayleyt8018]

Dragula is way better (and I adore Erika Klash). Great episode Tyler!

[@BehindTheStitches13]

I don't know which tea is hotter: this video or the tea I just made but I definitely know which one I enjoyed more! The amount of research you did to bring to light Ru Paul's hypocrisy is awesome!

[@Ballgirl415]

That Malice Mizer throwback though. I suddenly just felt very old very fast.

[@mrhotpinkbanana1081]

tfw I dressed hyper feminine before I came out as trans because I was terrified of having to tell someone my gender before I figured out that I am trans.

[@SilentGlaceon94]

I seriously want that kitsune coord. But alas, it'll have to wait until my checking account isn't as barren as a western ghost town. 😢

[@BriChuhime-sama]

Tyler👏 Did👏 That👏

[@indiagale7918]

shiny thing distracts me from angry orange

[@Gotherine]

KEEP BEING YOU TYLER!

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

11:01 that is very much true. But I think a part of that has to do with Lolita being about self expression first and foremost and drag being an art first and foremost. So I would bet my money on most Lolita comms always being accepting.

[@alitaniak7404]

One thing I'm enjoying aside from Tyler's tea spilling all over the place is that the comments here are recommending me alternative shows to watch aside from rpdr

[@cathuff5802]

Ok so I was wearing Lolita a couple years ago but since I gained significant amounts weight I haven’t been able to wear it. Does anyone have any suggestions?

[@pastelhotmess9299]

Tyler, YOU ARE AN AMBASSADOR. KUDOS TO YOU!

[@jachowl4467]

I have never been so early for a video. Only 4 views when i started watching. First to like woooh

[@pastelloca6976]

I’m here when it’s 10 views

[@jachowl4467]

My net must be langing then.

[@bempoucasombra7098]

My respect for Tyler grows each video she puts out 😍😍

[@hanatahoshi2411]

Thank you

[@nature9010]

I think I'm failing to understand why gatekeeping is acceptable in some cases but not in all. Because if we're gonna sit around and complain why certain things are allowed in drag, but others aren't, but also be the same people that will gatekeep about why some things are allowed in lolita, or goth, or whatever subculture/fashion/whatever whatever and push everything else out... idk. I just think it's weird. Not that I have any opinion for or against the actual act of gatekeeping Everyone wants to feel included when it comes to the cool stuff. But everyone also wants to have something exclusive and just for themselves. It's nothing new ^^;

[@Tr4shGoblin]

Yes more essays

[@KurKiriKuru]

The bear with fur collar dress rant was my soul!

[@comefondue]

Tyler this literally made me cry because it was so right on! That show is so popular right now and all I can think about every time I see it celebrated it is exactly what you’ve been saying. My friend is a lolita and a bio queen and RuPaul is a massive jerky head of the boys club. It is only very recently that he has kind of been forced to allow trans women to participate, because he did not know they were there. Which come on, seems almost intentionally shortsighted.

[@GothKatt]

You forgot drag kings, which Drag Race also bars. I'm assuming what you were referring to are bio-queens or hyper-queens. Nonetheless, drag has its opposite counterparts, queens and kings. Unfortunately, kings seem to be on the short end of the stick in drag culture in general. Some gay clubs won't even allow them to perform.

[@HurricanePixie7]

👏👏👏STANDING OVATION!!👏👏👏

[@noellebartley]

Hearing what you said at 1:18 shook me haha

[@TheStrawberryGoth]

I loved Scardey Kat, I love see queens inspired by Japanese fashion but this is so on point xD RuPaul is shite but Scardey was the first non gay (she's bi) contestant and I loved that so much. Dragula also has its problems but it is way more inclusive to drag performers of varying identities - I think if respectfully done drag and Lolita can work. But yeah, RuPaul is awful.

[@TyLee96]

Does anybody know the source of the upcoming winter collection post?

[@katekursive1370]

Interesting and important points raised!