Dr. Gabor Maté: The Myth of Normal & The Power of Connection | Wholehearted

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@gmzerozero3678
@gmzerozero3678 2 жыл бұрын
I'm starting to rediscover connection with my fellow humans and my higher power through AA. 7 days sober. I've been watching a lot off this man's speeches and it helps me understand how I became so broken. I'm working to change my ways so that I can have more meaningful and lasting connections. My mind and body are not used to this so I see it as stressful. I never want to drink again. One day at a time. Edit: Now 10 months sober. Thanks everyone for the kind words.
@domesticated_kat
@domesticated_kat Жыл бұрын
I hope you're doing well
@bealubbers8431
@bealubbers8431 Жыл бұрын
Take care!
@trac111111
@trac111111 Жыл бұрын
I'm excited for you. I was broken and a slop-show when I was drinking. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO CONTROL what has been controlling you! I suggest a video called Pleasure Unwoven... it helped me understand the physiological and biological aspects of addiction. I'm eight years sober and I thank our creator, YHWH (YAHUA) and his son, Yahusha for removing my sickness from me.
@mnemonyss
@mnemonyss Жыл бұрын
You got this! Introspection is powerful as long as you learn from your past
@FlowersandSun22
@FlowersandSun22 Жыл бұрын
I can relate to what you’re saying about connections being stressful. The whole dealing. I’m glad you got help and is better understanding yourself
@testtest2609
@testtest2609 2 жыл бұрын
I grew up in an African country where women stay in bed feeding and sleeping with their newborn for 40 days. These cultures have wisdom beyond Westerners who value money & productivity even after childbirth. They know she is stressed so the community makes it easy for her by keeping her company and feeding her family & her during this time. She feels less overwhelmed, taken care of/someone's got her back so postpartum complications are reduced. Seems like they understand human psychology much better.
@ucanleaveyourhaton
@ucanleaveyourhaton 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh ! That is a brilliant tradition and should be adopted by every culture on earth. It’s not natural to give birth one day and then resume normal life the next.
@ScarletSky03
@ScarletSky03 2 жыл бұрын
You're missing the point if you think it's about the east vs. west paradigms of thought.
@shannonblack5828
@shannonblack5828 2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to know such humanity does exist on planet Earth... Sheesh, I am doomed to remain on the content of North America indefinitely devolving in such ignorance.. I am happy that such peoples exist...
@testtest2609
@testtest2609 2 жыл бұрын
@@ScarletSky03 Humans make heaven and hell here on earth (not afterlife) by being weaned on maternal/communal love or not...ie. attachment theory. You're doomed if you can't learn from the profound beauty of this & offer knee jerk arbitrary/vague critiques.
@goldendots2549
@goldendots2549 2 жыл бұрын
@@ScarletSky03 all she said is that this is what was happening in the African country where she was raised... This is a very nice cultural practice that should be applied to every part of the world be it western or not..
@mollyeisen-kearns5013
@mollyeisen-kearns5013 2 жыл бұрын
My gastroenterologist did ask me about trauma childhood and mental health - had a compassionate response and told me he would adjust his exam and treatment with this information and asked me what he could do to be sensitive to this - like having a female assistant in the room! I was very impressed
@mollyeisen-kearns5013
@mollyeisen-kearns5013 2 жыл бұрын
His name is dr arjal in templeton CA
@jamieanderson5991
@jamieanderson5991 2 жыл бұрын
wonderful! Things are changing and its refreshing to see doctors like this.
@ImLehwz
@ImLehwz Жыл бұрын
Amazing 🙏🏽
@mamboSG
@mamboSG Жыл бұрын
Wow
@marcelaaviles85
@marcelaaviles85 Жыл бұрын
How wonderfull!!
@LarsRichterMedia
@LarsRichterMedia Жыл бұрын
"safety isn't a lack of threat but a presence of connection" - wow!
@cristinalauradinca3507
@cristinalauradinca3507 Жыл бұрын
Yes
@Pikkinmink7
@Pikkinmink7 5 ай бұрын
It's the same as "quite isn't peace"
@jenniferwootten3632
@jenniferwootten3632 4 ай бұрын
It's unfortunate that it's not innate to seek or self soothe the lack of love and connection (never knowing the love of God is our very own heart) . We are taught that God is some mean and cruel father who is up in the sky judging us every time we make a mistake. We learn to self sabatoge and police our minds by suppressing our emotions in order to be socially accepted. Then, we get punished through separation from society and the love of our own parents through guilt shame and remorse. There come a point of breaking when a person struggles to accept that it just does not add up to pay for crimes against out humanity as if we were the one to blame for things that go wrong in our life...consistently.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 3 ай бұрын
@@LarsRichterMedia someone else said it first... guaranteed
@sylviaoesterwinter8858
@sylviaoesterwinter8858 2 жыл бұрын
Dr, Mate saved my life. My parents were raised in WWII Germany. In my immediate family, we have MDD, Anxiety, Suicide, ALS, GBS, fibromyalgia, Sjogren's Syndrome, eating disorders, addiction, and abusive marriages. I am trying hard to break the cycle but am exhausted.
@theexotic2983
@theexotic2983 2 жыл бұрын
It's okay to be exhausted. Take time off, be in nature as it stimulates alpha brain waves and causes you to relax. Our brains are plastic. You'll be fine. We're rooting for you.
@sylviaoesterwinter8858
@sylviaoesterwinter8858 2 жыл бұрын
@@theexotic2983 thank you.
@SparingPolymath
@SparingPolymath 2 жыл бұрын
You are ceaselessly heroic in your divine humanity. Always, always and always. Big hugs from a friend in California
@sylviaoesterwinter8858
@sylviaoesterwinter8858 2 жыл бұрын
@@SparingPolymath Thank you from California
@remoteholiday1712
@remoteholiday1712 2 жыл бұрын
It seems that I am reading about my family.... You are not alone. Gabor Mate, were the first man who explained in very basic, simple words, what a hell is going on, and I will be by His side as biggest fan forever. He showed to me a Light button. And now I can press it anytime, myself.
@sunnydays497
@sunnydays497 11 ай бұрын
I live in Australia and was helping an 8 year Sudanese refugee girl with shool work on Saturdays as part of a volunteer group about 10 years ago. Her sister was about 10 months old and she wanted me to hold her, so I held her how I normally hold toddlers but she wasnt impressed almost annoyed😊 she pointed to my heart and at her heart to indicate she wanted to be held on my left side with our hearts touching, wanted me to protrude my hip a little instead of standing straight then wrapped her tiny legs around my waist, then looked into my eyes dmiled as if to say now I feel connected and protected. Im female and I was about 40 years old when this happened, I still remember that moment. I was so focussed on trying teach math but instead got taught by a baby how to actually physically connect.
@archiem9926
@archiem9926 9 ай бұрын
@lesliebird6690
@lesliebird6690 9 ай бұрын
Wow….I am rarely speechless…that is so beautiful
@JO-zf4ky
@JO-zf4ky 9 ай бұрын
Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing
@HaythamTrueheartH
@HaythamTrueheartH 6 ай бұрын
Beautiful story. I am a 20 year old from Brisbane. Dr Gabor saved my life. He will visit Australia in February. ❤ It is my ultimate dream to become a schoolteacher and establish my own school called National Wisdom Community College. I am First Nations. ❤
@alibalhas9333
@alibalhas9333 6 ай бұрын
That's how it's done in Lebanon too ❤❤❤
@kmck82
@kmck82 2 жыл бұрын
Biggest takeaway: I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis when I was 17. I was pumped full of medication and given no bio-psycho-social support and had to figure it out for myself. When I read his book “when the body says no”, it blew my mind. Now listening to this, I see that I was/am a “stress-absorber”. I can’t wait to read “the myth of normal”. I am gradually healing myself. Thank you Dr Maté. #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story!
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
We love your comment and would like to offer you a free book! Please email us at ethanw [at] wholehearted.org and we'll talk next steps!
@-living4jesus4ever-
@-living4jesus4ever- Жыл бұрын
What a great testimony! What had helped you most with RA? I’m 39 and have all the symptoms and will do anything to get well!
@91010186
@91010186 Жыл бұрын
Did it fix your arthritis? Probably not
@riner60341
@riner60341 Жыл бұрын
​@@91010186you are right. The medical field did not fix it. Oh well. I'm sure they will keep making money... I mean... Trying to fix it.
@kendo9985
@kendo9985 2 жыл бұрын
'Why do children cry? Because they have no other way to ask for help'. Seemingly obvious, but so profound.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! He'll say things that make you think, why didn't I think of that?
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
@@WholeheartedPublishing idk why u didn't think of that...I did! This guy is no brain surgeon
@oceanecastelnau9821
@oceanecastelnau9821 11 күн бұрын
​@@robynhope219Why you needed to post online just to try to diminish Dr Maté in our eyes is a greater curiosity 👀
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 11 күн бұрын
@oceanecastelnau9821 Because y'all overrating him...maybe ik something you don't know about him.
@julie5668
@julie5668 Жыл бұрын
As a nanny, I used to walk my child in his buggy to a place every day. On the way as we reached the top of the hill, I would point out certain things as we passed them and make the appropriate noises where needed. One day I just forgot this, and the little boy turned around at looked at me as if prompting me. It made me realise that he was listening to me all this time, and I wasn't just talking into thin air.
@meganpage206
@meganpage206 9 ай бұрын
12 years without a drink, and 22 months clean from opioid abuse after a tough surgery. I ran for so long from my childhood trauma and simultaneously lived inside of it. After being misdiagnosed bipolar, I am off all psychiatric medication. This isn’t a path for everyone and I’m grateful for the medication, it helped me when I needed it most. I worked closely with my therapist and my psychiatrist to wean off. It’s opened space for me to process the trauma from my past. I’m learning my why and I couldn’t have understood that without listening to Gabor Mate’s talks.
@MennatEllaithy
@MennatEllaithy 9 ай бұрын
@sheiladuke3289
@sheiladuke3289 8 ай бұрын
😊😅😅😊
@sheiladuke3289
@sheiladuke3289 8 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@dll7658
@dll7658 Ай бұрын
❤❤
@tiptapkey
@tiptapkey 2 жыл бұрын
My mom used to brag that I barely cried as a baby, like it was proof that I was a good child. But I think now that it was because I knew that I wouldn't be heard or helped, so I just gave up.
@itzakpoelzig330
@itzakpoelzig330 Жыл бұрын
Same and same.
@fran791
@fran791 6 ай бұрын
That's a bad mom, you deserved better
@nevadatan7323
@nevadatan7323 Ай бұрын
Yeah I asked mine what she liked about me as a baby. The answer was "because you were generous and the way you just took yourself off to bed". Uhmm. How fkd up is that. I was people pleasing as a baby and had to parent myself 😳 [ she was a neglectful narcissist whos done my psyche untold damage.] It's insulting that they wear these statements with such oblivious pride.
@Isildur94
@Isildur94 Ай бұрын
Same
@kennethokeefebrake8415
@kennethokeefebrake8415 Жыл бұрын
Gabor, Speaking as a retired Respiratory Therapist (acute care, emergency department and trauma room, and critical care), 40 year Martial Arts practitioner & coach, and social activist I am moved by your passion and human compassion. I have learned so much from you about humanity and life. Thanks! Ken
@markrichmond2168
@markrichmond2168 9 ай бұрын
Ken I am a retired RT after 47 years in the profession. Neonate to geriatric. Navy corpsman and civilian. This man is so spot on. Western medicine in its own way is barbarous .
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 4 ай бұрын
@@kennethokeefebrake8415 whatever u've learnt from him, he copied from other people...GM ain't original.
@healthexcellenceconsulting
@healthexcellenceconsulting 3 ай бұрын
​@@robynhope219So what is your original take on these subjects?
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 3 ай бұрын
@@healthexcellenceconsulting hey, listen: I never made false claims like he does!
@hbinfinity
@hbinfinity Жыл бұрын
My thyroid healed when I started meditating. It's a longer story than that. This guy is gold.
@slickrick5596
@slickrick5596 Жыл бұрын
Yeah
@hildaamethyst528
@hildaamethyst528 10 ай бұрын
What’s your story?
@hbinfinity
@hbinfinity 10 ай бұрын
@@hildaamethyst528 Look up Joe Dispenza.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
You needed him to start meditating (scratches head)...
@hbinfinity
@hbinfinity 6 ай бұрын
@@robynhope219 your response makes zero sense.
@EuropesNinja
@EuropesNinja Жыл бұрын
This is one of the most amazing talks I've ever heard. I studied 4 years of psychology and we were not taught like this. It's only after studying sociology and then through my own consumption of research on trauma that I found out even a hint of what this guy is saying. This is it.
@itzakpoelzig330
@itzakpoelzig330 Жыл бұрын
You might feel inspired to read "The Continuum Concept'" by Jean Liedloff. She explained much of this (and more) very eloquently 50 years ago. It's an astonishing read.
@NP-ui3tr
@NP-ui3tr 9 ай бұрын
Isn’t it just mind blowing how little information we’re exposed to, even those of us who have graduated with a bachelors or masters or even a PhD I have two masters & I had to seek out for myself the information that interested me (connected to a topic I was studying) bc for as “liberal” as universities are, there is most certainly a “knowledge filter” that exists & far too few professors who are willing to share it with their students
@LvsKent
@LvsKent 5 ай бұрын
I have been a truth seeker for all my life due to childhood sexual abuse and the fact that my family did not support me or help in any way. I always speak out when I see an injustice but it does not win me any friends and in fact it has alienated me further from certain people. I once spoke out to a new Mum that insisted that she had to ignore her crying baby as she felt she was just being naughty. She has never spoken to me again when I pointed out that I felt she was causing her baby harm. Dr Gabor Mate is a breath of fresh air for me.
@luck484
@luck484 3 ай бұрын
I can see from your words that you are doing the best you can to best the you can be. I support your intent. I gently suggest the new Mum was also doing her beat.
@massivecrit650
@massivecrit650 Ай бұрын
Never teach a pig to sing because it wastes your time and irritates the pig
@daniellacosta1756
@daniellacosta1756 Жыл бұрын
I could listen to Dr Gabor all day, every day because it's like listening to my soul speaking. I know what he is saying is true deep down in the core of my being.
@nch1646
@nch1646 Жыл бұрын
You have articulated it so well!
@cristinaferrero
@cristinaferrero Жыл бұрын
So true, I feel the same.
@danielagarpal
@danielagarpal Жыл бұрын
I do everyday when getting ready and cooking. Has changed my outlook on my parenting and has made me a more compassionate woman overall
@mohammadabulaban2279
@mohammadabulaban2279 11 ай бұрын
That is really astonishing to listen to your soul , wow
@user-tl9re9cb4w
@user-tl9re9cb4w 8 ай бұрын
Same
@c.schuster7353
@c.schuster7353 2 жыл бұрын
This man has a powerful message for all of us. We have literally become sick on a global basis, cause we hold onto negative beliefes and emotions about us, the others, and about life itself. But as I can see, more and more people are healing and asking important questions, and people like Gabor Maté are acting as healers and facilitaters for this importan evolution of human consciousnes. I cannot express how grateful and lucky I feel, because the powerful message of Dr. Maté has transformed me already.
@ericaschippers
@ericaschippers Жыл бұрын
@catsmeow3478
@catsmeow3478 2 жыл бұрын
This beautiful, brilliant man was born for such a time as this and we are blessed that he’s sharing his gift with the world. Praying that more get it. 🙏 Safe attachment and fulfillment of childhood needs would change the world.
@user-rb7rx9cs6y
@user-rb7rx9cs6y Жыл бұрын
“Your living in an environment where your feelings threaten your attachments” that’s so true. Wow. Been following Gabor for awhile but I never noticed that line. It’s true in childhood, it’s true in adulthood
@sohila5033
@sohila5033 2 жыл бұрын
I'm reading this book the myth of normal. I have wept reading it cus I can feel my own trauma releasing as I go through it. His wisdom, depth and courage moves people. Thank you Universe for delivering Dr Mate to us after 13.8 billion years
@HeavenlyMe11
@HeavenlyMe11 Жыл бұрын
??
@rossienorris6323
@rossienorris6323 2 жыл бұрын
Once a critical mass of people believe these truths and begin to act on them our world can change I Believe. Thank you for your courage and wisdom. The world needs more of your teaching if we are to survive as a human race.
@brows.
@brows. 8 ай бұрын
Imagine the world if everyone took some time to read this thing.
@cheche9528
@cheche9528 Жыл бұрын
My daughter developed asthma at infant age. Literally happened in front of eye! While I am begging her father not push me further. Make our life so impossible, the stress pass on our child, I did my best shelter her from what’s going on on my marriage. But he didn’t care or believe whatever I says at the time, he only sees me as villain and anime, as Asian women grow up in our Asian couture. We understand the connection between mother and child at early age, we won’t even leave house first 2 months after baby is born. We always hold the baby and eat and sleep in same circles. As American men don’t seem empathy towards all this delicacy of the early stage of the childbirth and stress of life changes for the women, our body and sense of belonging are shift towards the baby! You attacking the mom is as same as attacking the baby. At least some part of the stress will transfer to the child no matter how strong the mother is! When mother under threat. Domestic violence, cheating and abuse. How can she complete shelter the baby not feeling the pain and stress as I remember. How demanding the baby was towards the mother, need mother full attention! She was so afraid I leave her. I can’t make any sound. She will wake up and cry. I knew she was affected… I wish there was any other way. I was all by myself and alone. No family or friends can help us. Now we are happy and healthy, she still live with me and we are very close. Her asthma is in control. But still. My guilt aways there. I aways honest and genuine with her and all her questions, and I let her know how I was raised and I am working on myself to be conscious parenting which means I do my best but if I wrong. Please forgive me. Now I am helping her relationship with her father, because I want her to succeed in life and make better choice than I ever could.
@daniel23554
@daniel23554 Жыл бұрын
It sounds like you are doing what you can to help your daughter to thrive. Supporting yourself is important too. Don't forgot that you are important too, and that your health also affects your child, yet also enables you to better handle relationship challenges. Asian and Western cultures have different ways of communicating and showing love, yet ultimately, we still care. Many people are not taught how to effectively communicate across cultures, let alone have healthy relationships. So, it can be very hard. I'm sure it will work out for you all. Take care.
@maishaferdousi4865
@maishaferdousi4865 11 ай бұрын
Louise Hay .. healing trauma ..
@ArAmsamsam-388
@ArAmsamsam-388 12 күн бұрын
Another Asian mother living in the west here. I feel you too❤
@jobottenberg793
@jobottenberg793 Жыл бұрын
Tian Dayton wrote a book called “Trauma and Addiction” which blew my mind but Gabor Mate is hypnotically awe inspiring like rainbows to your soul. I’m a medical professional so his M.D. makes it completely sensible and precisely articulate. On my own as an ignored single child, I became astute on managing my problems and options perhaps because I had so much forced solitude. It’s as if Dr. Mate sees all the way inside of me throughout this treacherous journey. I’m still grappling at 62 years of age. I look forward to Dr. Mate being there with me as I unwind my remaining behavioral compensations and to feel complete with self affection. Thank you Dr. Mate for being so generous with all you are. May you have 2 more decades of life and teaching 🙏
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
He is only generous when making shitloads of 💰
@magicalmmmy580
@magicalmmmy580 2 жыл бұрын
I am so grateful as a mom to have access to these teachings. It’s going to take all of us and our children and their children to nurture our society into something healthy. 💗✨ #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! We can work together to bring about a positive change!
@rochellebroglen4155
@rochellebroglen4155 Жыл бұрын
If hurt people hurt people, whole people heal people. Thank you for doing the work. May your path be blessed.
@magicalmmmy580
@magicalmmmy580 Жыл бұрын
@@WholeheartedPublishing tyy -from her daughter
@magicalmmmy580
@magicalmmmy580 Жыл бұрын
@@rochellebroglen4155 :))
@michellecook-hill
@michellecook-hill Жыл бұрын
Oh yessss mama ❤️👏🥰
@heathervandervort9161
@heathervandervort9161 11 ай бұрын
Wow Dr. Maté! This is eye opening and explains why 30 years of suppressing my emotions and desperately seeking connection with my ex-husband while keeping it secret resulted in my breast cancer diagnosis (with no family history). It also explains that the stress I endured during my pregnancy from my husband coming home and telling me “he wasn’t happy” while I was pregnant resulted 3 miscarriages and in my son’s asthma (no family history) diagnosis. But there is no one to blame he (ex-husband) was a victim punished as a child for expressing his emotions by his parents. This is the generational curse spoken about in the Bible but this cycle stops with me.
@nnenne1
@nnenne1 11 ай бұрын
Spoken in the bible? Wasn’t it God himself that allowed all these craziness?
@anonymos5726
@anonymos5726 10 ай бұрын
God is LOVE, He doesn't allow these things, He allows free will without interfering unless you ask Him to ( prayer).
@tracybeyer2804
@tracybeyer2804 2 жыл бұрын
Dr Gabor Mate saved my life. I'm so happy his findings are reaching and teaching the world.
@Ergtt7491
@Ergtt7491 2 жыл бұрын
Me too!! I realized my personal learning is on point due to his profession!
@Grimm_Butterfly
@Grimm_Butterfly 2 жыл бұрын
I say it all the time. Now that I'm still here at 30 (I caught his work YOUNG!) I am still ate up my inflammatory diseases. I hope one day to figure out what I need.
@questioneverything7582
@questioneverything7582 2 жыл бұрын
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
@kimlarso
@kimlarso 2 жыл бұрын
No, you saved your life……he just shined a light in your crack(s) 🐛🦋
@lyng.jegher
@lyng.jegher Жыл бұрын
He's contributing on widening my perspectives based on Global issues.
@daniel23554
@daniel23554 Жыл бұрын
"Stress is not an individual... It is a social problem" -- Dr Gabor Mate Makes me think differently about how to treat my/our stress!
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
Quote makes no sense.
@jennamortensen72
@jennamortensen72 2 жыл бұрын
Biggest takeaway, “it is not our behavior that defines our nature, but our needs that define our nature” As a mental health professional this couldn’t have been put more wonderfully The part where he discussed pathology, so correct a diagnosis is a view of what is needed, this can vary from professional to professional. So well put Dr. Mate #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Love it, I agree that this is one of his most important points. If our needs are met, we will behave in certain predictable ways, and if they are not met, we will behave in other predictable ways.
@constancewalsh3646
@constancewalsh3646 2 жыл бұрын
I concur. This is a most quotable quote, easy to remember, illuminating.
@Szil16
@Szil16 2 жыл бұрын
Abandonment, infant coping not open again. Adult coping? Still trying to figure out. For me it takes 5-7 days of non opening 😞 . Still beter than 15 years ago, when I walked away totally. When our needs are met, we behave differently. This might help me indeed. Also when raising my son. Fulfilling his needs will bring the right behaviour. Whoohhh… great!
@tomliuyt
@tomliuyt Жыл бұрын
Can you explain this point in detail?
@jacobus57
@jacobus57 Жыл бұрын
It is up to US to define and meet our needs, to adjust expectations, and not to expect anyone else to carry that water for us.
@AmandaK399
@AmandaK399 Жыл бұрын
I had eating disorders from my teens till my late 40’s. I was DX with ADHD at age 38. DX with Rheumatoid Arthritis and Sjogren’s at age 42. My baby brother was ‘dual diagnosis’ and died at home in my childhood bedroom when he was 27 years old. I am a support staff for college students seeking help, and read Scattered Minds three weeks ago. The book blew my mind and I am already helping my college students with some of the core takeaways from Scattered Minds- my campus has 14,000 students and I work with MANY of them! I can’t wait to read the Myth of Normal! Everything that Dr. Mate writes, says, and shares, I agree with fully. His messages are a gift to all humans everywhere. Spread the word, friends! It is time to love, connect, listen, share, and be. ❤
@ryani777
@ryani777 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for being you and doing what you do! ❤
@Lihz254
@Lihz254 2 жыл бұрын
What an honour to hear world’s greatest and beloved teacher Gabor mentioning my city and country Nairobi Kenya 🥰.
@dr.florence
@dr.florence 2 жыл бұрын
can't unsee what he sais now whenever I see a pram!
@wambuialice957
@wambuialice957 2 жыл бұрын
me too. This guy is my Hero
@philippavanderhoven7610
@philippavanderhoven7610 Жыл бұрын
I'm a preschool teacher. I agree one hundred percent with what you say. Thank you, thank you!! Young children thrive and develop in a loving, nurturing environment where they feel safe and connected with their primary care giver. You've confirmed what my heart and experience has shown me. God bless you.
@SpiritMari
@SpiritMari Жыл бұрын
I just wanted to say a big thank you to Wholehearted publishing, for making this talk available online free for everyone. It’s so important to have people like Gabor, who use science but also understand humans on an emotional and spiritual level and are able to identify issues and problems on a large, whole scale. So many things in life are taught and presented as segregated, disjointed and isolated, which simply isn’t true. Yet, this pervasive idea is the backbone of our modern society that values artificial power and possessions over human connection. Truly, thank you for this wonderful talk, it will help me on my soul-digging journey. ❤
@mitaniyuki6069
@mitaniyuki6069 Жыл бұрын
My GI asked me all those questions, we did an endoscopy and found nothing wrong with me internally. It was all just high and intense stress and anxiety that was destroying me. During that time I was getting triggered as well and seeing myself regress into a child when the events in my life was occurring. It was all just anxiety and stress killing me, making my body throw up food, not have an appetite, choking on every thing I consumed.
@mscolivares
@mscolivares 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest takeaway: We, as adults can find ways to self-regulate if our needs are not met. We can seek help, use mental health skills to help regulate our selves...Infants can't. The infant requires the mature brain of the adult. #Wholehearted-Thank you for sharing.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
This is a BIG one. It's useful for parents and also for adults who seek to reparent themselves. Dr. Amanda Sheffield Morris is one of the leading researchers on the practice of reparenting if you are interested!
@questioneverything7582
@questioneverything7582 2 жыл бұрын
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
@willthomas7666
@willthomas7666 Жыл бұрын
I can believe it, it’s pretty crazy how powerful your mind is, and how many people are completely unaware of how things actually work, I think we all have conscious or subconscious ability to know what we need to do, but don’t follow it and the same bs information keeps getting passed down to the masses,when in reailty I think the elite benefit off of our inability to flourish as a whole and they teach us the wrong things on purpose, imagine if they taught ppl/ kids real world information and direct info that will apply to your life instead of the useless sht u learn in school we would be so much better off, we would be far more advanced in all areas then we are right now, and almost all of it circles back to the Mind/ consciousness
@freshdumpling
@freshdumpling Жыл бұрын
Problem is we're adults with infant minds
@smileylady485
@smileylady485 Жыл бұрын
Yes it is not too late!
@amandalee5312
@amandalee5312 Жыл бұрын
I have C-PTSD. When Dr Mate says "it's not what are we going to do" that is the important question, is a statement that is powerfully transformative for me. It's "why" that is important.
@StJane
@StJane 2 жыл бұрын
I also had come to the conclusion that our culture is killing us, but you just doubled the depth of my understanding. Thank YOU again
@sarahj.3043
@sarahj.3043 2 жыл бұрын
If everyone read his latest book, maybe more kindness and understanding could start to flow in this world. The separation and cruelty is rife.... Everyone has trauma on some level, yet many deny and suppress it...and create pain for others ..... this work of Gabor’s is the foundations of a world beginning to heal.... thanking life for Gabor, Levine, Van der Kolk , Roland Bal and all those sharing this deep work........
@spiritosa0123
@spiritosa0123 Жыл бұрын
“many deny and suppress it… and create pain for others. Such a intuitive and profound idea. unconsciously passing on trauma by brutalizing others
@chocovinniecairo
@chocovinniecairo 2 жыл бұрын
This should be on the tv
@happygucci5094
@happygucci5094 2 жыл бұрын
The cogency, compassion and brilliance of this man is phenomenal. The sheer breadth and scope of the picture he is painting is breathtaking.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! He has so much to say and has such a way of making complicated ideas simple.
@joeldwest
@joeldwest 2 жыл бұрын
I love what he is saying also. I am in Houston, Texas. Where are you?
@gazels11
@gazels11 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@CMoore8539
@CMoore8539 Жыл бұрын
@@joeldwest I believe that they are in California. Gabor Mate lives in Canada.
@emi_moonlight
@emi_moonlight 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I appreciate the clear concise delivery of such important information. I myself suffer from CKD. My brother suffers from debilitating headaches. Dr. Mate is absolutely spot on. I hope we can begin to heal as a society and culture. We are all just walking each other home.
@sheiladuke3289
@sheiladuke3289 8 ай бұрын
❤ plain water can help alot with headache and migraines ❤❤
@ShelaghBluebell
@ShelaghBluebell Жыл бұрын
How lucky we are that this seeming "voice crying in the wilderness" is actually pointing to the answer to the way the world is now, a world and a life that most would agree is pathologically sick. There ARE reasons for that. . And there ARE solutions. Thank you for being with us, Dr. Gabor Mate. In my 80 years on this planet, I have never heard anyone enunciate the truth of our human life as clearly as this man does. He knows whereof he speaks! THank you, thank you, thank you! I'm glad I've lived long enough to know this person! At last, at last! There's hope for us all if we do our individual part of being true to ourselves.
@Happyhappy-km8bl
@Happyhappy-km8bl Жыл бұрын
Beautiful expression!! I am glad I read your comment.
@susansampson1146
@susansampson1146 2 жыл бұрын
Posting anything by Dr. Gabor Mate is a treasured gift.
@joobinmcgroobin5181
@joobinmcgroobin5181 2 жыл бұрын
Victimship garbage....Jordan Peterson is the way to go
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
@@joobinmcgroobin5181 GM is a professional victim who got rich playing victim 🙁 main reason I dislike him.
@ATeitter
@ATeitter 2 жыл бұрын
This is true, in addition to the fact that 80% of women's immune systems are focused on the reproduction system during our menstrual cycle and pregnancy leaving us more susceptible to viruses and disease during those times, coupled with the abuse and treatment and everything that Dr. Mate says. Its a one-two punch for women. Thank you for your work Dr. Mate. It is immensely important.
@NikitaSamourai
@NikitaSamourai Жыл бұрын
N'importe quoi
@PlayshotKalo
@PlayshotKalo Жыл бұрын
Pregnant women are more likely to be abused and cheated on as well.
@valkiehaider4544
@valkiehaider4544 Жыл бұрын
"CHANGE".. "TO LIVE IS TO CHANGE".. "TO SUCCEED WE CHANGE OFTEN "... love you Gabor!!
@nishasankaran
@nishasankaran 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been listening to this man and buying his books since 2009. I had both parents and a decent upbringing. I am a hardcore feminist (I have the belief that all women at all ages are just as human and as valuable as men; different doesn’t mean secondary, etc.) and I loved this man and his work since then and love him even more now. He might be a public figure, but his words, his stories, the science, the diligence and care of his work… had/has a massive impact in my life. I’m 45 years old and he is one a few (literally 3) men in my life that has been a positive influence. Understanding that we are all imperfect, I gotta say that Dr Mate as a privileged human (cis male) walking the earth these days…. That’s a huge win for his soul, a testament to who he is as a person/man and a boon for humanity. Thank you Dr. Mate. I’m so happy I exist in a time in which I had access to your work and humanity, as it unfolded.❤
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing how Gabor's work has impacted you! We're so happy his ideas are becoming more and more mainstream so more people can have his positive influence in their lives.
@darpanmajumdar6947
@darpanmajumdar6947 Жыл бұрын
Pray more men can become more aware and live life with more love and blessings.
@marthamagee2055
@marthamagee2055 Жыл бұрын
As ALWAYS, Gabor nails it all across the board. Gabor Maté MD is the most brilliant doctor on the planet and I consider him to be a trauma shaman. I wish everyone would listen to him and read his books for a true and deep understanding of who we are and what we need to do in order to heal our broken disconnected society.
@Aluvs1
@Aluvs1 2 жыл бұрын
This man has connected all the dots. For the first time in my life I understand the “why” of my behavior. It was a lightbulb moment and thought, why didn’t I know this sooner? I’ve cried listening to him, because I’ve seen him do the happy childhood challenge-I was one of those people. I’ve learned so much through his work and wish he was more known in this world. He deserves more recognition. I was thrilled when he was interviewing all the psychologist, psychiatrists and specialists when the Wisdom of Trauma came out. Blessed to have come across his work ❤life changing for me. Thank you Dr. Mate 🙏🏽
@hettykoenraads9207
@hettykoenraads9207 Жыл бұрын
Gabor is fantastic in explaining complex processes in a simple way. Hope a lot of people make the shift and start listening to their bodies.
@Ranaelibrik
@Ranaelibrik 8 ай бұрын
I've been watching Gabor before sleep lately as his voice and words are helping soothe me and put me to sleep. As a result, I started seeing him in my dreams. Not complaining.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 2 ай бұрын
@@Ranaelibrik 😂putting me to sleep is what he does for me!!
@doracardona484
@doracardona484 Жыл бұрын
Listening to a child cry all night would drive me CRAZY!!This made me realize how blessed I am for having had parents that did all those good things and a 15- member family that cared for me! 🙏🏼
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
You are TOO lucky!
@Anneseye
@Anneseye Жыл бұрын
Thank you for reminding me, after a day of disheartening pain, that my scoliosis spine is my teacher. I call her Caroline, when I remember to not turn from her. I am learning to re-parent myself, to repair the severed attachments, to release the the rage from my heart and tension from my muscles so I can live joyfully and freely. In connection to myself and others.
@olchik_kolokolchik-1
@olchik_kolokolchik-1 2 жыл бұрын
I love this video as a scientist, a mother, and a person learning to recognize her own trauma and embarking on my own healing journey. Dr. Mate has a knack for explaining these concepts and making you think about how this applies to you and what lessons can you glean from it. I am listening to "The Myth of Normal" now and it is eye-opening. Thank you for this video!
@tangle1300
@tangle1300 3 күн бұрын
None of the specialists I've seen ever asked me any questions about anything personal. My physician does ask those personal questions. There was a change in protocol in how my clinic approaches medicine in general. I've been happy with the new approach. It's a good beginning
@beautyking9376
@beautyking9376 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest takeaway is that the physical and mental self are inseparable and that's why stress leads to sickness. Especially unresolved childhood trauma, which leads to health problems in adulthood. #wholehearted so glad I discovered this Dr🤗 at a time where I'm experiencing many issues with my health.
@tmking7483
@tmking7483 Жыл бұрын
I never get sick and was abused as a kid. So I think there is another angle , in addition to the one presented here where childhood trauma causes physical sickness when older _ it does but not for everybody. ( I think it does when your more nuerotypical and had some good enough parenting,) I had psychopaths for parents. What I figure is that I ran out of cortisol because my mast cells (20000 cells above normal when stressed) mopped up the excess cortisol because it was killing my prefrontal cortex when I was an abandoned baby _ mom went crazy from giving birth and abusive family and abusive neighbours. ( Rosemary baby situation,). When I'm stressed I break out in a rash and I need cortisol cream cause I'm all out of cortisol. The baby abuse shut down my cortisol so my brain wouldnt die - my brain knew it needed to stay alive for me to survive.Everybodies body is different when it comes to stress_ our healings from childhood woundings is a individual journey.
@Caffeind-og8qh
@Caffeind-og8qh 8 ай бұрын
really wow. unbelievable how clear and insightful he is. this is the way.
@TravellerDM007
@TravellerDM007 2 жыл бұрын
I've been thinking/marveling/wondering/standing silence - from joy to outrage and horror and experiencing along these line for decades. I weep with joy that Gabor Mate has the earned and mysterious privilege and ability to express these GOOD QUESTIONS and better instincts TODAY and NOW and EVER! (I also hope this man works on his posture, no matter his age because I want him to stay alive and well.) Blessings and more blessings to all who 'GET' THIS - and may many come to these GOOD QUESTIONS and back to their embodied heart and instincts - without more horrific unnecessary suffering and deaths) -- and resonating BLESSINGS to this wise, sensitive, articulate man. (Beyond words thanks to you, GM.). Namaste.
@FrederiqueBertin
@FrederiqueBertin 8 ай бұрын
You are right about the myth of normal . When facing all of the ruin of our society better staying away from it .
@livondiramerian6999
@livondiramerian6999 2 жыл бұрын
The essence of the human nature is based on love, compassion, kindness, nature, respect, cooperation, tolerance, peace, equality, health, knowledge, freedom, sociability, & humanness.
@josephanderson6410
@josephanderson6410 Жыл бұрын
Yes! You nailed it! ❤
@DennisMoore664
@DennisMoore664 Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite people who I'll probably never meet. Thank you, Dr. Maté.
@sharonjoan9997
@sharonjoan9997 Жыл бұрын
Gabor Mate reminds me that I am deep complex spiritual being and I can look to that part of me for meaning and purpose instead of the superficial thoughts I have most of the day. It’s more rewarding to go deep and reveal rather than hide behind monotony, mundane physical world. Thanks for this presentation. It’s greatly appreciated 🙏
@sabinemarianneangelikaboss8307
@sabinemarianneangelikaboss8307 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely outstanding and brilliant. Ordered the book already. Every parent should listen to this ! Living in Ireland, I can only speak for her : Each school teacher and principal needs to listen to this ASAP.
@valtracey6180
@valtracey6180 Жыл бұрын
I live in Ireland too and I sent a copy of Gabor’s book to Simon Harris, Minister for Higher Education, asking him to read it. I also asked if all teachers could receive trauma informed training so that anxious children would be recognized in class and given the help and support they need. Sadly no response yet, but I’ll give him time to read it, there’s a lot to take in! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@Dzanarika1
@Dzanarika1 Жыл бұрын
Every human being need to know about this, not just certain people.
@thestagediveofficial
@thestagediveofficial 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is the best thing I’ve seen from Gabor! He never ceases to amaze
@te7607
@te7607 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed, some people have a profound ability to see truth. Gabor is certainly one of them.
@joesyogafitness6085
@joesyogafitness6085 2 жыл бұрын
I benefited from the worst and best things that happened to me. Only because I got my feelings back my ability to feel I was able to heal from those horrible things, to have my mind for me.
@chrysallis2735
@chrysallis2735 2 жыл бұрын
Trauma Neuroscience is how we will solve problems and create world peace- They NEED to listen to this incredible neuroscience genius with incredible compassion
@daysjours
@daysjours Жыл бұрын
I met his son the award winning journalist Aaron and he is the kindest warmest guy.
@budabapbeats9900
@budabapbeats9900 2 жыл бұрын
Such a fan of Gabor Mate. Big takeaway is how few specialists actually consider your childhood and how your emotions affect your physical health. Excited to read this new book! #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
That is a major takeaway for sure. Hopefully Gabor's increasing visibility will prompt more specialists to incorporate the whole mind, body, and experience of their patients into their treatment approaches.
@questioneverything7582
@questioneverything7582 2 жыл бұрын
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
@Highvibin213
@Highvibin213 2 жыл бұрын
Dr Mate was my first introduction to facing my childhood trauma and addiction many years ago. I cannot thank him enough for guiding me to that path so I could get a better understanding and begin to heal. The Big takeaway is that there is very little help while on this journey . The medical field prescribes and a decent therapist or rehab centers aren’t practical for someone struggling financially. I am so grateful for Doctor Mate, his books and videos for changing my life . Thank you #wholehearted 🤍🙏
@jacobus57
@jacobus57 Жыл бұрын
​@@questioneverything7582 you are very deluded. Get help
@AndrewFlorkowski-hu3vp
@AndrewFlorkowski-hu3vp 10 ай бұрын
What a gift and blessing to all of us that have interest in such topics.. Thank you for sharing all your years of devotion and dedication in giving everone a chance to educate themselves in such a short time scale watching youtube... Thank you Truly appreciated. Sending love blessings and respect ♥️🙏☀️x
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 10 ай бұрын
You're welcome. This project was a lot of work but we managed to produce a program that covers a lot of material in just about 1 hour.
@HollieRoseBroderickPoirier
@HollieRoseBroderickPoirier Жыл бұрын
Gabor mate came into my life when I was in a hospital facility with my daughter . To be assessing my suitability as a mother I found Gabor mate in 2021 god bless
@StJane
@StJane 2 жыл бұрын
Oh! Thank YOU for that amazing talk. I grew up in total dysfunction and have some of these conditions, which I was willing to take the blame for myself. But thanks to committed people like you I am learning and growing. I am about your age but haven't been able to accomplish much in my life. Learning the importance of connection is helping me understand myself better, but Im still resisting the connections I need so badly. Thank YOU Thank YOU Thank YOU ❤️
@robincrowflies
@robincrowflies 2 жыл бұрын
Bless you. If I may..? As a person who also has had a difficult time connecting with humans--first and foremost I would advise getting out in nature as often as you can. We make connections with all members of the life community on this planet. When you find your connection to Earth and the Earth community, it is easier to take the ups and downs of human connections. Also, read lots of books about varied people and their experiences. This helps. Again, bless you. You are not alone.
@nathananderson8720
@nathananderson8720 10 ай бұрын
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,970 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 10 ай бұрын
Hi @nathananderson8720, thank you for sharing about your journey, it puts a big smile on face. I hope you continue to grow and share! ~AJ
@nathananderson8720
@nathananderson8720 10 ай бұрын
@@WholeheartedPublishing Thank you! What I really focus on is the value of the content and what I’m truly passionate about while helping others! I'm glad that I'm foolish enough to believe that I can actually start making money through my passions. I've never thought that I'd be able to gain 1K subs faster. I can't imagine how many opportunities could have been wasted if I didn't have courage to go after them. That includes having this channel, being in a management role, having the people who actually care about me for who I am, freelance gigs, being an ambassador in a creative community and now I'm also planning on honing my public speaking skills through joining a toastmaster club and these all happened in 2023. It started with writing them all down on a piece of paper. A paper that serves as a reminder for me to go after what I want even through hard times. I'm not bragging about my accomplishments but simply hoping that this message can also inspire others to believe in themselves.
@dawndid5972
@dawndid5972 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Matè has answered my prayers by his careful understanding of human behavior. I am blessed by his grace and mercy on the many people of the whole wide whirled 👀
@mike9512
@mike9512 Жыл бұрын
I am loving this guy. So many modern so-called "wise men" today spew their discussions about humanity with a political lens (looking at you Peterson). But this guy really feels like he's talking about and to the human race, but with wisdom and compassion.
@brucejay1409
@brucejay1409 5 ай бұрын
There's one big difference....Dr Mate is not only psychologist , he's also a medical doctor of many years experience. So, he has a vast knowledge of both the mind and body. I'm certainly not anti JP. I think he offers a lot of good, practical advice and he's a brilliant motivational speaker. But I get concerned when I hear him handing out medical advice and discussing psychiatric conditions - neither of which he is qualified to do .
@kingy002
@kingy002 3 ай бұрын
Well said, Mike. Guys like Peterson are part of the problem, but so many see them as the solution. I spurn them like I would a rabid dog.
@markrichmond2168
@markrichmond2168 9 ай бұрын
Tremendous insights. I worked 47 years in medicine and the artificial separation of mind and body is the total norm. The connection is ignored and people suffer.
@sheiladuke3289
@sheiladuke3289 8 ай бұрын
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@robertwatterson3451
@robertwatterson3451 2 жыл бұрын
When asking myself what the need of this presentation is, I instantly came to the understanding that its to help create connection. To be an attuned, conscious inhabiters of this Earth. I then wanted to comment and say thank you for your work Dr. Mate but after hearing your talk I want to say thank you for taking the time to be with the why and create dialogue around human nature. This constant action to do instead of be with has driven us away from our needs and ultimately our nature. I love how you adopt a curious mindset that looks at the whole picture rather than the action piece alone. I will continue to bring the why into my work as a therapist to better understand the needs of my clients. #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Gabor's discussions on human nature are so fascinating as they reveal just how far society has come from fulfilling most humans' basic needs.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
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@barbarastrate8388
@barbarastrate8388 Жыл бұрын
Thankfully doctors and Society in general are becoming more aware of this crisis and need. May I suggest that people investigate, become educated about, and look to homeopathy for this kind of medical diagnosis and treatment. That is what homeopathic doctors do, well, most of them; homeopathy looks at the entire person, their mental, emotional, spiritual; their history on all levels. They carefully note the person's physical and emotional responses to each remedy. The fact that some people are trying to do away with a proven and efficacious system, she is another evidence of the controlled Madness we're living in. THANK YOU Gabor for your work to bring some sanity and common sense back!! May this movement gain momentum!!
@sophiastewart5793
@sophiastewart5793 2 жыл бұрын
My takeaway #wholehearted : As a hopeful mum-to-be, I was drawn to Dr. Maté's simple explanation of attachment and his message about the importance of early intervention and action. It was put frankly that our indigenous knowledge and the knowledge of our ancestors is paramount to our own healing and wellbeing. We should take heed of our current insular world and the role technology is playing in disrupting an age-old experience of childhood and development. His use of common every-day examples, i.e. a parent pushing a child in a buggy while using his phone contrasted to the mum carrying her baby providing very different experiences for the child, were impactful and relatable. This talk and its many other takeaways have left plenty of food for thought.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely, his comparisons between our modern parenting conventions and those of other civilizations is very interesting and educational!
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
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@ezgi8256
@ezgi8256 Жыл бұрын
I adore Dr. Maté and his teachings
@totoh82
@totoh82 Жыл бұрын
the trouble is, that the more connected I am with others, the more stressed I am! People have a tendency to be at odds with one another all the time.
@Bluesmusicno1
@Bluesmusicno1 Жыл бұрын
I'm a recovering addict I got 15 months relapsed but got back on the wagon thankfully after 2 weeks of hell, his ted talk gave me my answers fellowship maintains recovery because its connection
@alexisgilley3948
@alexisgilley3948 Жыл бұрын
❤ sending love. Thank you for sharing. Very proud of you.
@sharonmessenmaker6311
@sharonmessenmaker6311 Жыл бұрын
@marijaddraksler3675
@marijaddraksler3675 11 ай бұрын
Waw finally the human with a big H. Compassonate, full of understanding and Who face everybody with the reality and the problems in our Society....I love him realy. Finnaly somebody Who realy gets to the core and the roots of the problem!!!! And describes how to deal with it and gives the answers!!! He is the emotion and understandable father which I didn't had❤
@wendytanaka1290
@wendytanaka1290 10 ай бұрын
This is so correct in that we have followed a distorted power and money hungry reality. ❤It's stressed us out, broken our connections. I'm following a spiritual journey and no longer a human construct. But, that only could happen because I withdrew from the human construct early as I saw death coming. First, of the soul then of the body which was breaking in front of me completely. My spirit has driven a health and joy regardless of the people being stressed and addicted around me. I want to share my spiritual journey. Peace and love to anyone reading this.❤
@effervescentliving5532
@effervescentliving5532 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely gripping!! Dr Gabor connects the dots between social, psychological and spiritual dimensions in such a flawless manner. Loved it wholeheartedly!!!
@hoakerhoaker
@hoakerhoaker 2 жыл бұрын
The whole world ought to be paying attention to Dr. Gabor Mate’. He’s one of the few, next to Dr. Peter Breggin and Dr. David M. Allen, that the world needs to hear. They know the reality of what’s happening and it’s NOT inherited. 57:26 nailed it!!
@PaulMahabir
@PaulMahabir Жыл бұрын
probably the most powerful thing i've listened to in a very long time. This is what the internet was created for - to inspire, empower, inform and educate. Dr Maté's words do all of that. His candidness about his own failings and experiences lend weight to what he is saying. Very well articulated.
@Glef007
@Glef007 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Mate. 'Safety is not a lack of threat, it is the presence of connection. ... [ref Australian study] If a woman is stressed and emotionally isolated the risk of a breast lump being cancerous is 9 times greater than average. I would love to know the stats on single mothers, and single mothers who've left abusive relationships in particular. Also, when we know or have a sense of the why , then what? In terms of creating the environment where our kids can heal, when we are so broken and depleted.
@jillianalyse
@jillianalyse 2 жыл бұрын
Such an impactful presentation. My biggest takeaway was that we need to be looking at everything as a whole. It goes beyond just ourselves, but our surroundings and environment. Having recently been diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder myself, this gives me hope that I will be able to find avenues to help heal myself. Thank you so much for this! #wholehearted
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. We're so happy to see Gabor's efforts to uncover the true causes of autoimmune disorders and other conditions FINALLY getting more mainstream recognition. Good luck in your healing journey, you got this!
@jillianalyse
@jillianalyse 2 жыл бұрын
@@WholeheartedPublishing Thank you so much for spreading the word! :D You guys are doing great work!
@melmakesmagic
@melmakesmagic 2 жыл бұрын
We can all transform and wake up to our true nature! Thanks Gabor. #wholehearted
@Lizzie333Higginson
@Lizzie333Higginson Жыл бұрын
Dr.Gabor Maté, thank you for your focus, passion, and sharing. Some content is 'depressing' to me (we're at where we're at) but ultimately I'm inspired and uplifted. Here's to the evolution of humanity!
@dankrozonouski
@dankrozonouski 3 ай бұрын
This man is so wise. I’m 30 and have lived with multiple sclerosis since I was 13, after an extremely abusive, neglectful and stressful childhood left me devoid of any love, connection and authenticity. When I was in the hospital bed at that young age of 13, I sensed something was very wrong, but I didn’t have the words to describe what it was I felt. No one could tell me why it had happened, and I was of course told there was no cure and I was doomed for a life of paralysis, but I never gave up on myself. It’s been a rough 17 years, but I can thankfully say I am still fully able bodied, with a sharp mind to boot. Gabor nailed it when he said we are bio, psycho, social and spiritual beings, and all four of those areas need to be met in order to cultivate health. He has put words to what I intuited, and has led me to a life no one ever thought possible. I am so grateful for this all he has done and continues to do.
@fatimamelo3858
@fatimamelo3858 Жыл бұрын
I really hope this society listen to you! May you live a long life, so you can awake our health care doctors and people in general.
@galemartinez6585
@galemartinez6585 10 ай бұрын
I had the biggest breakthrough today, and it is such a relief 😢
@AparnaKhanolkar
@AparnaKhanolkar 2 жыл бұрын
Dr.Mate - modern sage. So grateful for your wisdom 💙⚡️🙏
@jamierathod
@jamierathod Жыл бұрын
I’ve had the pleasure of following Gabor on KZbin since 2020 & this is my most favorite lecture. His experience & wisdom were so eloquently delivered. He is truly an inspiration for all of mankind. ❤
@suzanneperlmutter6031
@suzanneperlmutter6031 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr. Gabor Maté! I am so grateful for the platform that is carrying your message! You are a life saver!
@DeMagicalSouls
@DeMagicalSouls 4 ай бұрын
Magnificent to see so many gathered to be open to learning to become best versions of themselves. CONNECTION.
@delaneyswell
@delaneyswell 2 жыл бұрын
For many years I have made channeled aromatic blends for people that have had undiagnosed or untreatable conditions. After a decade of doing this it became apparent how much our emotional picture influences our wellness picture. I so wish I could discuss this work with Mr. Mate’
@SolReaver
@SolReaver Жыл бұрын
This is so true Delaney. Our inner energy and how we feel not only manifests and shapes our body but also directly affects others too.🙂
@jacobus57
@jacobus57 Жыл бұрын
This is utter bs. Stop peddling snake oil.
@VladaldTrumptin
@VladaldTrumptin Жыл бұрын
@@jacobus57can confirm, after completing my prac placement in a high-needs (mostly non verbal) dementia ward, aromatherapy is NOT snake oil. I’ve seen it & administered it with my own eyes, and hands. I used to be a skeptic and dismiss things offhand also, until I grew sick of having egg on my face all the time. Open your mind - costs nothing to gain everything
@janicebray9478
@janicebray9478 Жыл бұрын
Freedom! of speech, in addition, to being authentic human beings... we are all born human. Thank-you Gabor Mate.
@tanja7richter
@tanja7richter 2 жыл бұрын
Gabor Maté newest book with his son & talks like this & Diederik Wolsak Choose again Book, talks & healing system have given me more insight into my own inner world & everything connected & how to heal myself then years with mental health Counselors, Psychologist etc. I am super grateful to both of the above mentioned men....their own Healing Journey & their sharing has helped sooo many people.
@Soundcloud765
@Soundcloud765 21 күн бұрын
Dr.Mate is such a fantastic doctor,writer, thinker!What a human !
@sarella4
@sarella4 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr. Mate, finally for entering my sad life as it approaches its end. I would get down on my hands and my knees and worship you if I could. I don't believe in God or in anything but dear Heaven and God bless you all of your days on this earth and eternally beyond.
@laorientalm2554
@laorientalm2554 Жыл бұрын
Sending you love 💕 You are not alone!
@cyndypatsche9568
@cyndypatsche9568 Жыл бұрын
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