Why 80% Of Relationships DON'T LAST & How To FIND LOVE | Marisa Peer

A breakup can be avoided when you pay close attention to your communication and your expectations. Watch this video to learn how you can avoid those fatal mistakes and save your relationship.
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Marisa Peer is the author of 'I Am Enough' and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy®️(RTT). Marisa Peer is an English best-selling author, nutritionist, relationship therapist, hypnotherapist trainer, and motivational speaker. She is using hypnosis for anxiety, weight loss, addiction, and overcoming fear.
She has spent over 30 years working with people including royalty, rock stars, actors, professional and Olympic athletes, CEOs and media personalities and has developed her own style that is frequently referred to as "life-changing."
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[@aannwwsalam]

One sad mistake too many of us make is to just move along as Marisa said. Speak up early, express your needs and wants. Always reminding each other that we're on the same team. I learned my lessons the hard way. Time to move on.

[@aannwwsalam]

Also don't wait or hope for them to change, it most likely will never happen and you'll only be regretful of the years wasted. Set yourself a limit, no change after communicating it, better leave it there. What's meant to be, will be!

[@shebakali6]

It is hard to do this when our parents never let us express our needs, feelings, opinions because one or more were narcissistic. For us to do so with our family of origin would mean we would be rejected, seen as selfish, abused, or abandoned.

[@MyriamValenzuela]

Self love, self acceptance and fully embracing who you are will lead all the love you desire to pour into your life ❤️

[@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716]

Marisa can say things other people can't because she comes with such poise and lovely feminine energy 😄😇🥰

[@kerry-anne39]

So true 🌠

[@Bonzerella]

Hug 🤗 that the thethe gym

[@Bonzerella]

Hug 🤗 that the thethe gym

[@RajuDas-qu1li]

Yes, her voice!

[@RebeccaRuano]

88 views in 8 minutes! It makes me hopeful that so many people are hearing your messages! It gives me a sense the world is healing and growing! Marisa, there is a special place for you in heaven. 💖✨ Thank you 💐

[@RebeccaRuano]

This is exactly the message I need this morning! Thank you. ...lol, my husband is clairvoyant, he just hasn’t realized the power that he has is real. 😂😂 I will be sure my messages are clear and kind, and verbalized. Thank you for this!

[@danamuller5016]

My problem is, when I talk open with him, he is like 'Now I am sad' like everything is just about himself

[@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716]

That sounds like he is drastically lacking masculine energy 🤔 Masculine energy starts looking for a solution not getting into his own feelings like he needs a mommy to give him his bobby to make him feel better when you're the one who needs to feel better

[@LateshaRenee]

@@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716 This comment makes me cringe because my ex is like this and he had mommy daddy issues

[@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716]

@@LateshaRenee RUN girl! Don't go back mark my words guys like that eventually guilt you into being their mom and you lose your womanhood and eventually your mind. You deserve better 😌

[@TheWilDOn31]

@@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716 this is so true. My boyfriend does the same. He can't seem to understand that I'm expressing a need bc I'd love for him to be cooperating with me, to show me that he cares how I feel and is interested in trying to do things better next time. He just gets upset and wants to be alone. He's even rude sometimes. This is becoming unbearable for me. I don't want to be in a silent relationship.

[@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716]

@@TheWilDOn31 Expressing emotions is literally the quickest way to connect and literally costs nothing! I feel if a man can't than he is either an emotional child and I won't be his mother or he is blatantly selfish. Think of all women do to make their men happy! And think what all men are willing to put into something they actually care for like their job or football or their car or impressing their peers or whatever. Its not worth emotionally carrying both side 🤷‍♀️❤

[@NativeKey]

“Ima recycle you!!” 😂😂😂😂 this video is hilarious & informative! 💯🙏🏾

[@krissyleigh8885]

I just want to say that you are amazing and thank you so much for these videos. I lost my grandmother last year and a few months later my ex gf left me. It has been quite a journey but my ex left me at the time when I needed her the most and she used my grieving as an excuse. I realized that I have a lot of trauma to heal from, a lot of trauma from childhood. I have to heal from a lot especially toxic patterns and losing my grand mother, she was like a mom to me. I have a mother but she was never a mother to her children, I grieve that mother I never had and I am grieving the loss of my grandma who was that mom I always wanted and needed. I am starting to tear up as I write this but I am so grateful that I found your channel. You have really helped me and helped so many others. Thank you so much :)

[@MarisaPeer]

i do hope you find someone who sees how lovely you are. Remember everything good your grandma saw in you is what the right person for you will see in you. I had an amazing grandma too she was such an angel to me xxx

[@krissyleigh8885]

@@MarisaPeer Thank you so much for the reply! Grandma's are the best and I am so grateful that I had such an amazing and close bond with mine :). That makes so much sense what you said " That the right person will see what my grandma saw in me." I never thought about that before and that just blew my mind :). I am now starting to view the breakup in a different way. Take care and stay safe!

[@MarisaPeer]

🥰

[@Monkey-Brown]

Thanks Marisa, you make the world a better place 💝

[@AB-C1]

Think I've heard this one before, but your videos are amazingly straightforward but so many people do not communicate I used to say this to my ex that communication is key when we were going through a tough time.. I did my best to be open emotionally which isn't intuitive usually for men but she was the opposite. Needless to say there were deep seated issues and it eventually caused the end of the relationship after a number of years. But I follow your stuff and think your videos are amazingly insightful for men and women alike.

[@shellywebster59]

So important message❣ Thank you🙏🏻💖

[@MARIARODRIGUEZ-xb5cb]

THIS IS SO ACCURATE AND BEAUTIFUL! THANK U! I SWEAR I WRITE THANK U ON EVERYTHING U POST LOO BUT ITS SO BEAUTIFUL❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@alina-alexandraojoghuqnn.2667]

Thank you Marisa for sharing all your knowledge with us.....i really love watching your videos, it really helps me understand myself and the people around me. I love the way you speak, it's so calming and makes me feel alot better every time i watch your new or older videos. Please continue with the amazing video content. Lots of love from Romania😘😘😘

[@stanteacher943]

Love your style Marisa!

[@domantaskaralius3024]

Thank you so much, Marisa! And it is my birthday next Thursday haha

[@markodejanovic1635]

Love you Marisa, this is very helpful, thank you. I'll start to express my needs and desires more to my partner without fear of rejection. That's my biggest fear, but you gave me a push

[@starringdejon]

Marisa is the best at what she does..two words come to mind caring and courageous. Xo

[@nalinisingh2684]

Thank you Marisa awesome Love always

[@wendynewbrook7360]

I’m so drawn to you Marisa 😍 every time I see a notification you just lift me 🤩 & I just know this is my calling 💯 what I’d give to able to speak to you 🥳🤞🤩 xx 💖

[@joannesberkshirescenes9414]

I’ve watched a couple’s Xmas stocking gifts to each other and the man bought her a dust pan and brush and I laughed because of what you cover about that in this video.

[@christina1073]

Wow, I never thought about it like this!

[@TrishDietlessLife]

Thanks Marisa for this powerful message. Much love. 🤗💞💕

[@Passiyona]

Thank you so much for your wisdom, God bless you ❤️❤️❤️

[@julietutt3287]

I will speak up this next time! Lesson learned!

[@aury2996]

You are just GREAT!! Thank you for this super useful video!! Love u! 💗

[@Tiffany4183]

Iam learning so many things, that is so necessary for life thankful and thank you Marisa 🍀🐞☀️💃🏾🥰

[@sarapatch616]

Idk I feel like everyone is out for themselves! My ex told me work was more important than to go to the hospital with me during my ectopic pregnancy. He really didn't care about my feelings ( it wasn't to give me space) so I dont think you can look at relationships and give ppl the benefit of doubt 🤷‍♀️

[@t.d.6731]

Just listen to your own instinct and common sense. 😊

[@babydollmanikin9485]

Sounds narcissistic, sorry you went through that.

[@sarapatch616]

@@babydollmanikin9485 oh he definitely was! Very abusive and then tried to kill me when I decided to finally leave😒 that's why I don't give ppl the benefit of doubt there's alot of narcissistic ppl in my opinion lol

[@sarapatch616]

@@t.d.6731 " butterflies can be mistaken for warning signs" sometimes you can't tell what your guts saying 🤷‍♀️

[@t.d.6731]

@@sarapatch616 Some butterflies are definitely normal and can be a good thing, but if you’re feeling a lot of fluttering in your stomach because of your relationship, make sure you’re not ignoring some major red flags. There at least 9 warning signs in relationships that can be mistakenly feel like butterflies. When you are in touch with the Self in you, and have a healthy relationship with yourself you will have healthy instinct. And I just said listen to your instinct and common sense. But when that is distorted then indeed it will be hard to deal with it 🤷🏻‍♀️🌺 Wish you happiness and healthy relationships, especially with the most important person in your life, the one that is staring back at you in the mirror💖

[@braineater6058]

I am so in love with Marisa , she Said the truth, thank you so much ❤️❤️

[@MarisaPeer]

❤️

[@TheWilDOn31]

But I do try to communicate and express my needs, but he never seem to truly listen. He just says he doesn't know what to do and doesn't want to talk anymore. Then he gets upset. To any issue that I bring up, his only solution is to drop it and forget about it.

[@LateshaRenee]

I personally would hate to hear "awww babe, I hate that for you" I would interpret it as pity and become more upset lol I rather hear my man offer solutions. So basically u just need to know what your partner wants, tell your partner what you want

[@jmkhughes]

What should one do qhen you try to express these things, in a nice and loving way, the other person gets defensive every time saying I'm patronizing him?

[@LateshaRenee]

My problem is I feel like I'm nagging when I say what I need.

[@ST-rm3bz]

No darling. HE is making ypu feel like ypu are nagging. Get a good man and you will never feel that way again.

[@joannesberkshirescenes9414]

You made me laugh at the beginning of the video of

[@ST-rm3bz]

Seriously? He forgets my birthday, I show him the way out the door. He doesnt get to have a shrink to vouch for him. Forget it!

[@uleielena828]

kisses back to you

[@kerry-anne39]

❤

[@andreasandor3242]

Thank you so much Marisa for this message. I would like to ask what happens if you do communicate your needs out and your husband pulls his face ,shows negative body language and all together not open and willing to hear me let alone to cooperate in doing. What would be your advice in that situation?

[@RebeccaRuano]

Amazing question! I’d like to add, that once he does those things, he agrees to comply, but “forgets” when you confront him with the knowledge that he has not complied as he said he would.

[@andreasandor3242]

Exactly! I know exactly what you mean. Happened to me so many times. It's a situation I don't know how to respond to and sadly usually ends up in argument.

[@andreasandor3242]

Sadly I agree with everything both of you said. It's a difficult position to be in. I wonder what would be the solution?

[@andreasandor3242]

Yes I suppose that's one way. :)

[@RebeccaRuano]

@Robezpierd You’re very insightful. Thank you. And yes, “we need to talk”, is an immediate conversation stopper. I might as well say, “go ahead and stick your fingers in your ears.” If I’m not artfully tactful and go straight into the meat of the issue, then I might as well be talking to myself. ... I was better at navigating him and his moods before we had a kid. I think now we need family counseling. Thanks for all your kindness. 💖 and you’re spot on about this childhood trauma that still needs to be addressed and healed. But he stuffs everything down, as that has always been his approach. I love him dearly.

[@tgtg4512]

What about you say what you need and he still "forgets"! If I repeat it I become a nag...there is no way out!😅

[@RebeccaRuano]

I hear you! Or he “apologizes” without intent to or evidence of change...

[@karenfranco8984]

Too much work. I enjoy being single after all these years.

[@willow_pillow]

I lived with a man that bought me a whole suitcase of kitchen knifes for Christmas. He asked me three times in a row if I wanted it as a present. A salesperson has popped up at his work, and several coworkers had bought it. I said no each time, because I wanted a romantic suprise gift. The last day before Christmas he came home with the suitcase unwrapped. He told me, he bought it anyway, because he was given so much discont. The coworkers paid full price earlier. I said nothing, just took the suitcase an put it into his closet. I never once used the knifes. He got his friend, who was a chef, to look at them. He told my man that they where fake and at no good use. Guess what I left behind when I moved out...

[@Elysianism]

She said to communicate.. he kept asking you.

[@willow_pillow]

@@Elysianism He didn't get my no three times. So the fourth time I gave up and just put it in the closet. Not sure, but I think he got it then. Its about respect, not only about cominucation. Wich part of NO didn't he get? When a person hears no, and still makes it to be a full yes.

[@sharonthepartyqueen5374]

I can’t get there. I need to meet a single man my age first. Everyone is paired up.

[@shebakali6]

What about meetups?

[@sarahche5477]

How can i get best friend for my bf if he was showing me other naked girls, strip dancers shows and we broke up right after he said he went to see prostitutes “just to talk”. I know his male friend would support him, but sorry not me.