Why Approval is Not Love - Relationship Problem

Today, we’re going to talk about perhaps the biggest misconception about love and that is that love is approval. This concept sounds simple, but is a whole book in and of itself. But today, Teal Swan is going to give you an overview.
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[@rickaster]

Having people around who only approve and agree is almost the same as being alone.

[@thegreengoddess8850]

My ex's mom always would approve of him and accept whatever he did and never question him because she was afraid of being alone

[@YKHN2]

I love how teal laughs when she knows you are being called out

[@grrrl420]

As someone who's gay and grew up in a Christian family and around people who always pretended to have my best interest by saying they love me but disapproved of who I love and how I express myself this video was very relevant. I don't trust anyone to have my best interest, as in I don't trust them to NOT disapprove of me for the wrong things. Approval is something I've always wanted and knew that I wanted. Rejection makes me feel alone, and like I did growing up. It's hard to trust people because they were so disapproving, and it's hard to trust myself because they made it seem like I didn't know what's best for me. I've been constantly questioning myself and pushing others away. It's made me stagnant in life because taking action feels like a risk with two consequences: 1: me changing my mind and realizing I was wrong all along about what I wanted and 2: people disapproving of me.

[@mikeybeanhi181]

If you feel it in yourself that you are pulled in attraction to men, you should trust that because even if you were wrong, you were just curious and intrigued.

[@mikeybeanhi181]

And that is natural

[@grrrl420]

@@mikeybeanhi181 Oh I'm fine with being gay, it's just that state of fear and questioning I had as a child made its way to other parts of my life.

[@leahflower9924]

Not to sound silly but what happens when you fall in love and wanna introduce your love to family ? If they don't accept your gay they can't accept your significant other then

[@TheLebo01]

Story of my life

[@lavender-xn8xx]

TOPIC IDEAS: - cognitive dissonance - Maladaptive daydreaming - Shadow of feminism - Hypersexuality / Hyposexuality - Borderline Personality Disorder

[@storm8331]

Taking the words straight out of my mouth AND Compton, daaaamn.

[@lextor4712]

Awesome topic ideas. Coginitive dissonance especially is a huge one.

[@arothimi]

how much i want an episode for mdd!!

[@katharineanonymous6992]

Borderline please

[@katharineanonymous6992]

Shadow of feminism also there’s such a heavy shadow there to me

[@nephthyz2990]

Ideas: -Schizophrenia ("bad"/"dark" hallucinations vs "lighter"/"neutral" hallucinations) -Borderline -Phobia -Ocd -Chronic procrastination -Rape (the abuser's perspective + how to heal from sexual trauma) -How to help people -How to make change-manifestation vs action -What to prepare for before "The Shift"?

[@serahbrandenn434]

Those are all good ones...I hope she answers them

[@FunnyxFroggies]

Yes to these! And she already has a video about helping people i think it’s called to help or not to help

[@Beccanator007]

Make sure to look through her older content, I've seen a good deal of her work on some similar topics. She's got many years' worth of videos. Blessings.

[@phoenixash3076]

drop it all and let it go

[@Bastet32]

Last one.

[@keishakhanyahl4690]

I've watched this video 5 times and I'm still unpacking what this means for me.

[@velikimilos]

I choose you, Teal, as my spiritual teacher because you are authentic. You don't hide your wounds, you admit you still struggle in life... That's inspiring. I like your strength and intelligence. That's why you awake same things in me. My vote goes to authenticity. Much love and respect for you, Teal. I am in the middle of reading three of your books. Greetings from Serbia 🇷🇸

[@TealSwanOfficial]

Thank you for your words

[@velikimilos]

@@TealSwanOfficial, thank you 💗🍀🙏✨

[@velikimilos]

@@Vention1MGTOW, of course. Choices are mine. Thank you, brother.

[@eirikmurito]

That sounded incredibly gay..

[@velikimilos]

@@eirikmurito, hahaa! Why? 😁

[@drewsson]

Know that you are 100% whole, worthy and complete as you are! The more you come to that realization the more your life will begin to change. You will attract more things and opportunities. 🍀

[@citaprevia9833]

unless you are used as the Scapegoat for false flags : sabotaged and triangualted : emf´d end dewed : degraded to a point of crazy so others fall in line.

[@citaprevia9833]

tell me Andreas : how do you pay back a lifetime of neglect? You can´t since all the simmered neurons are set : do you really think the "devils,angels and truthers" : the wheat and the tears : how does one create loyal believers and followers : it is a roll over rape and death cult culture : the Ouroboros/Phoenix model : in not good enough. The discarded get off just the same : like the bull in the ring : dying in his own blood as an orgasm. Both polarities : die gladly for it : Death as pleasure. ibb.co/QjvKGvh

[@phoenixash3076]

love is just a feeling, don't put to much of anything on it

[@audriemusicandstuff]

i had a dream, after i broke up with my twinflame a few months ago, saying we would both go on a self love journey and then meet up again. since then, my clairvoyance has opened up like never before, as well as other things! i didn't realize how much i was invalidating my feelings and mistreating myself. then, i came across your channel, and it was exaclty what i needed! you made me so aware. you are absolutely brilliant.

[@SydTheKid79]

THE most I’ve ever get called out... but it’s the call out I needed the most.

[@love_dove_]

The time on the wall clock never changes This must mean Teal’s teachings are timeless ☺️

[@circlesevendivination4928]

when this first uploaded, i took a minute to see if i really needed to watchthis video, an example of my resistance haha

[@cshortridge1]

I love your birds, Teal. They are competing with MY birds! Lol I keep taking off my headphones to figure out which birds I`m listening to! I spent most of my life being Karma Chameleon for other people. Now I`m finding myself finally. THAT is freeing. I`m also learning not to take disapproval personally & express it without making it personal. This was a very good video for me. Bringing clarity.

[@vickyedwards4334]

I did exactly the same - kept stopping the video, as the exotic birds seemed to be with the other birds outside my window!

[@amysimon910]

After binge watching for months now and being in the healing energy field I have now started directed people to you. You are the best teacher and approach these matters in a way we all can understand. I truly appreciate your effort, energy and knowledge. I love you Teal. You're changing this world.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Amy Simon,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

[@the1betterpodcast84]

our weekly dose of "true truths" has come

[@Ridefmi]

Self love remains the most important of all....

[@YI-fj2eu]

You can disapprove of something and be with and for someone instead of against them and therefore in alignment. -Teal Swan

[@369Rising]

Approval in the form of undue praise usually comes from a person with extremely low self esteem. They project what they wish they were onto the other person & have no clue they're not only making their situation worse but also actually decreasing the self esteem of the other person.

[@stargazer3789]

Thank you Teal Swan for bringing us to places nobody wants to talk about. ✨💚✨Christine Vandenberg

[@Hello_Gorgeous]

I feel like you have a good point. I'm letting go of toxic patterns and connections in my life but wishing the person well as I let go.

[@Moonbunny55]

I was only able to focus on the bird in the background - LOL!

[@SarahLove159]

I was like omg?? It took me like 5 mins to figure out it was on the video

[@farmhouseacres2379]

Annoyingsounds

[@atreju305]

I ❤ the bird sounds! 💕 I would now love to travel to Costa Rica to hear them! 😄 Or to any other rainforesty area! 🦜🕷🐦🐒

[@madameproblemes6548]

OMG Me too! My dog was super distracted and barked each time xD

[@lawofattractionsandmirrors]

It was a big distraction unfortunately

[@clayandputtyvideos1647]

This video is Vitally Important Today more than ever. People are so desperate for approval that they will approve of violent criminals and terrorists doing violent acts.

[@TrainerCoachMacKay]

You say, regarding the correct manner of giving loving disapproval: "You just have to be very, very sure that you're actually right about what is actually in their best interests, what will actually hurt or benefit them, and what is actually wrong for them." Often we cannot be "very, very sure" of what we think might be in their best interest---and that's okay because we can communicate that to them. "Hey, Bob. I can appreciate your interest in taking this particular course of action. But here's my perception of it all and why it might not be good for you. I could be wrong, but I wanted you to know about how I see and feel about the matter."

[@Google990g]

Video idea: avoidant attachment in childhood and adulthood, and how to deal with it I have suffered exactly what that little girl in the beginning of the video suffered from Knowing that you are invaluable and unappreciated in your close and extended family can cause lots of damage to your adulthood, so often you think that in order for other people to love you need to get their approval and try to impress them with what you’ve become, eventually you get tired of trying that so you decide to live yourself no matter what even if nothing changes in you , then teal uploads a video that breaks your mind and you realize that completely approving of yourself might not always be loving ...

[@Google990g]

And this whole pattern yields with avoidant attachment in adulthood because you think to yourself, why would I even try they wouldn’t love even if.. the problem is when you are aware of this but you can’t find the next best next thing to do and and even after you became aware of the pattern yuh still can’t stop it and the same results keep happening and you end up alone and you have not idea whether to accept it or try to change it ..

[@deepak1987]

​@@Google990g Yea I get what your saying. I was thinking of a perspective of: There is power and awareness. # Maybe too much awareness and too little power creates this kinda boat (of looking through a glass window). # And too much power and too little awareness creates a tyrant (the opposite kind of person). Transformation seems to takes a long time and consistent committed efforts. And happens a little each day even if we dedicate ourselves quite a bit. Changing ourselves is quite difficult. And it is also pretty non-linear, I think because our vision gets pulled quite a lot into things when they come up, and then we are temporarily in that episode, and then another episode, and so on. Since we do not have the full panoramic view (sometimes its wider, sometimes narrower), we cannot get a proper consistent scale of what's happening, how long it would take, what is its scope, and so on. In my experience it kinda works holographically. Like every small thing you heal in a relationship with one person around you, heals that aspect in all of your other relationships too. So yea, its pretty hard. We gotta go at it brick by brick, lego by lego, and the way the healing unfolds is pretty crazy. I try to live from the space of understanding as far as possible. Waves of crushing despair, rage, futility, dread, loneliness, isolation, forlornness, forsakenness, apathy, deadness, sadness, grief, bleakness, horror, do come and go though (quite often :/). They are to be somehow endured I guess.

[@phoenixash3076]

gee, dont doubt yourself, teal is a noob, she doesnt know what she's talking bout for 99.99998 ℅ percent of the time

[@Google990g]

phoenix ash so you think I shouldn’t doubt my self that means I should trust myself but the way you suggest that she’s a noob makes me feel that trusting myself would mean trusting your opinion of her so so what you’re really saying is that i should trust you and call it trusting myself, that’s funny because I don’t think she’s a noob and now I don’t know whether I should trust your opinion or mine .

[@phoenixash3076]

@@Google990g just trust yourself, no matter what, it aint rocketscience

[@1FaithfulDevotion]

This girl is so provocative in her knowledge and honesty.

[@Wildchile]

Teal, you are the definition of a Badass. I love you for being you. I also love you for sharing these messages with us.

[@danastoian6350]

Very beautiful! So well said, Teal. :) I was trying to make the difference between the moments when I have been disapproved in a loving way vs. in an unloving way. When my friend did not approve of me and it did not matter, it was because I know he loves me. I know he separates facts from my essence. And that he doesn't agree with those facts but he loves me: personality, patterns, talents, etc. And the moment when I felt another friend disapproved without love, was that....that kind of intimacy, relationship outside the conversation, was lacking. There wasn't any intimacy with my real self, because there wasn't any intimacy with his real self. He is not in intimacy with himself, therefore not with me. So I said to myself: "so I was expecting from him the relationship I have with myself. And he doesn't have it." That's why his disapproval feels unloving because there isn't any genuine, actual intimacy to compensate it.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Dana Stoian,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷!

[@JackGraysonKing]

People may not align with all your beliefs, But that won't matter Since it's so calming When you speak...

[@TheInfiniteCup]

Real interdependence is love not co-depending on your partner.

[@midiabuzz8220]

Everybody should receive a link to her videos since the first day at school, so we could learn all about life at once...4 real.

[@dani9622]

For real!

[@midiabuzz8220]

@@dani9622 sorry, my English is a little outdated...

[@Natalia_85]

I've always had this problem but yesterday and today I went on and on trying to find information on how to solve it. Because it's exhausting. And after reading online and not finding what I was hoping for I came to see my favorite channel ever (it honestly is). I wasn't hoping to find something along those lines, honestly. I was just planning to catch up on whatever was your last video about and hopefully it would somehow help or fit. And guess what? It's exactly EXACTLY what I'm going through. You don't know me but I've been around this channel for like 10 years. This is why. I don't know if somehow I knew you were talking about this. I don't know why I started looking for this information again (I tried to solve this a million times). But here I am and here you are once again. I know many people might not agree with you or might not like you. In my case, it's like your read my mind and behavior and childhood trauma in the distance without even knowing. You've helped me more than my many many years in psychotherapy. Seriously. Thank you

[@Natalia_85]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 aw! Thank you

[@Natalia_85]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 I'm from Argentina :)

[@2007beet]

knowing and realizing this truth is really painful. but I must gain acceptance. pray for me 🙏 and all others who feel the same way

[@lutfchehne1]

My reaction to every video you release is"tell me more please!" Thank you Teal ❤️🌷

[@jessicahernandez1853]

This was my relationship with my ex, he felt like me approving all his bad habits like smoking, drinking or drugs was love and me not approving that was me not loving him for who he was. It was very very confusing for me, it really hurted me to see him harm himself like that but I also felt like I couldn't do anything...

[@franzabananza]

It’s 11:11 on the clock behind her 😋

[@ninasmaragdas3281]

@@siriansiren8866 when I read you comment it said you had posted it 22 minutes ago✌️

[@vaneakatok]

But it's still throughout the video

[@franzabananza]

manulaika maybe that’s on purpose

[@vaneakatok]

@@franzabananza exactly. that's what bothers me.

[@nuhlamyea7896]

Topics that would be interesting: -how to deal with passive aggression -procastination

[@scorpionmaiden]

*THIS WAS MY LESSON I HAD TO LEARN FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS...* Thank you for expanding on it and helping me understand all of the aspects... 🙏❤️

[@sherry1350]

Love your straight forward non "enlightened" understandings and help its desperately needed in the "spiritual" groups especially. Well spoken and much appreciated as always

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Sherry Moon, you got a pretty smile ☺️🤙

[@user-bl9hh1xm9w]

Approval may not be love but....I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ALL THOSE YEARS!!!! 😍

[@BoBo-bh7ii]

佢放咗好多concept入去 什麼是Love? 小朋友 被人reject 被人disapprove 而感到不被愛 所以好有可能追求 被人approve 以為咁就係被愛 如果沒有愛的話，人們就會追求另一樣類似愛的東西- Approval 慢慢呢種追求 成年後都會繼續⋯以為Approval等於愛 佢追求approval, 亦會give approval 有舉例子 什麼是不好的approval... 類似寵 而Give approval...又類似廣東話你喜歡就好⋯其實背後意思係唔關我事（所以我唔使為你嘅生命附上責任） 但咁樣做其實會同其他人產生距離 - 因為你還你我還我⋯這就是她所說的resistance.... 你唔好過來 但佢又會講 人天生嘅特性都係想要approve ⋯ 要懂得分 什麼事正常的approve 、 什麼事 癲咗咁追求approval 佢亦指出另一個謬誤 是很多人說最了解自己的是自己⋯但其實 有些人比你自己更清楚什麼對自己最好⋯所以呢啲人俾嘅disapproval 可能係align 我哋嘅BEST INTEREST 所以佢講完一大輪之後 擾亂晒我哋 其實係要我哋諗 每一個approval 同 每一個的disapproval 佢哋背後係咪由愛出發 係咪align我哋嘅best interest 我覺得佢講完一大炸嘢 其實目的係要繞鬆我哋 Love = approval 呢個等號

[@natasha_anastasia111]

Yasssss yasss and yassss thank you teal for all that you do 🙏🏽❤️🔥

[@emaambition9378]

Teal would be a great lover and friend to have . She is super duper honest. That’s really cool and love 💯❤️

[@3245james]

Psychedelics helped me a lot, better believe everyone disapproved with me over that! Be curious to know if anyone else has had any familial approval/disapproval with the same topic?

[@camez2345]

I haven't had that same category of familial disapproval (but plenty others, lemme tell ya), but I commend you for being transparent about psychedelics with people. The odds are high for disapproval on that topic, so it's pretty brave to put it out there like, "This is something I believe in."

[@Mayana1987]

Much needed video for the spiritual community. Thank you, love.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Spiritual Underdog,you look stunning 🌹🌹

[@SpyDerSmokes]

Love to see the tribe on their purpose !

[@greenIMONSTER008]

My now current ex broke up with me cause of not approval. He's been only heavily drinking after the break up and I tried to lift him up by kindly re-directing his attention on the problem that could have some serious issues latter in life and he flipped out on me. I didn't argue back, only tried reason. He called me toxic and left, but 48 hours ago wanted me as a wife. I smelled manipulation right away, even tho we once wanted that, it turned into last straws.. I wish him luck on his journey and self realization

[@parththakkar9383]

I can totally relate when you said 'I'm gonna have to claim that you can know what's best for someone else better than them. *Let the battle begin!!!*'

[@starprice7389]

Thank you so very much for your help today 💚🧡❤️💖💙💜🌈🙏🏽💓💛💚🧡❤️💖💙💜🎉🥰

[@Pennylover2020]

How do you know all of this? You don’t even seem to be from this planet with this level of knowledge. Mind blowing 😮

[@sll110]

Yes, Teal is so brave and wisdom to tell the TRULY TRUTH.

[@lynnly1388]

I always had this belief that the people that told me something I was telling them was wrong for example let’s say dying my hair was like saying that I myself was wrong but now I know that it isn’t me that they are disagreeing with but what I was actually doing. My entire life I have always been wanting approval to the point where I lost myself and it has gotten so bad that I was struggling with myself not knowing who I was which was the complete opposite of my purpose and motivation which is being myself. The whole time I’ve always felt like they never loved me because they thought I was wrong and like a disease so I always conformed into the person they wanted to see. I connected disapproving with me being unaccepted as if I was my looks or thoughts or whatever they were disapproving of but those things aren’t me, and if they aren’t me how can they be in my own best interest. I kept telling myself that I was right because I never wanted to be wrong cause if I was then I’ll feel alone and unloved. But now its not me that is wrong just the thing the person is disapproving of. How to actually be loved is when the other person is taking me as their self and now that I know that I can actually feel it. Thank you!

[@alex-ander-13]

This was one of the most powerful and clarifying videos I have intook from you. I am so grateful for your life. Thank you so much Teal.

[@authenticinteractions.5789]

Teal, thank you for giving yourself in the terms and ways of your delivering what truth we know equally. Thank you for your grace amd compassion with me, and thank you for observing me as we know. Thank you for your comprehension and completeness of the knowlage you do know true. Thank you for your secret admiration and lead. Now I create of my fingers touch, the words you know intended and meant, of me I knew as i know you are as we be. Thank you for forgiving me of my arrogance and angle of entry. Thank you for arriving ahead of me, and yes indeed thank you for your great direction. Our tribe is real and I am your Golden Swan here in my graces a father with my daughter and my sweetie with me. Have me know when you want to have me step in. I am here and by my body my point of expansion I enter through and to what world i have about me. Thank you Teal, sincerely.

[@Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

Thank you, Teal. This resonates very well with me. You have understanding, which I great to hear. Your videos really do touch base with what I have been thinking and feeling for over 30 years.

[@saptarshi-banerjee-9322]

Well something about the last part. Projection is exactly that what it has been projected from. If it is logical it interprets that way. If it is emotional it interprets that way. If it is self's it reflect the self it is coming from as well as self of the observing or receiving one. Hence if projection is from love, it always reflects love and corresponding qualities. Now you gave an example, of a drunk person too desperate to drive and fall for an accident. Apparently, it's all harm for him. But intrinsically, somewhere something unblocked or unchallenged is causing all the worms in his or her mind. Which is making him or her intolerant and subjective judge of everything they encounter and thus messes up everything. What must your authentic form of love make you do for him or her ? So sometimes a careless no is far better than a careful yes !! Have a great day. Lots of love and light to all of you.

[@larysayevdokymova-rizk6036]

What a beautiful charismatic woman⚜️great coach⚜️🌟

[@DarrenDragonTarot]

Loving your work teal. You're spiritual/psychoanalysis skills are amazing. 🙏☯️

[@Nodum_ping]

Lol! Dammit, Teal!!! I can't unring this bell now. Thank You!!!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Heather Lawrence,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷🌷🌺!

[@holliew36]

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now... how did you know? ;) definitely gonna have to watch a few times to let it all absorb but as always grateful for you and your insight teal 🙏❤ truly wishing everyone unconditional love and blessings during these crazy times 💫

[@unixgurl6550]

Damn Teal, this is exactly what I have recently observed in myself as a newlywed. Thank you for giving me information to process and help move me forward in my journey.

[@PrairieDodgers]

That was a BIG PLATTER Of Food For Thought...Extra Thumbs Up!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

PrairieDogers,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

[@NatiHans]

Dear Teal, throughout the last year when I first discovered you your teachings helped me A LOT, to a point where I am the happiest in my whole life - yet. I am starting to enrich other people's lives with your thoughts as well, and I am discovering themes that reoccur throughout your episodes. Could you therefore make a top-list of your core teachings in one of the upcoming Ask-Teal-Episodes, to make people remember and able to incorporate your precious teachings in their lives even more, pleeeeaaaase? Thank you from the ❤️

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

She gives you enough for free. Stop asking for more. It is rude and self-entitled.

[@craz4jaymz]

You can easily do this yourself. Better yet, it'd be personalised. I've done mine. Just create a playlist on KZbin with the videos that resonate with you.

[@mtnpfi]

Ok, so luckily I have the whole weekend to wrap my head around this!😅 Thank you, Teal!

[@Fr33man]

1:02 BABY DONT HURT ME, DONT HURT ME, NO MORE... Couldn't help it.

[@mmaxeator]

I was looking for such comment :-)

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

Omg this is what I have been struggling in my relationships... I am very level headed but I don't have the traits that our culture considers 'confident', aka. loudness and stubbornness... I have such a hard time convincing people because of this, and then they either feel disapproved of or just go the wrong way anyways, and then resent me for their embarassment.

[@rachelmiller7614]

This makes so much sense! Thanks Teal! 💜 Xx

[@audriemusicandstuff]

teal you are my biggest inspiration. youre such a beautiful soul and ever since ive discovered you you have sparked so much understanding and intergration within myself. thank you for being here

[@EtsukoAmi]

this one hit hard. i have a lot to figure out 😥

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Amithia Emrys,howe you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷!

[@EtsukoAmi]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 an amazing relationship with myself 😂

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@EtsukoAmi oh ok my dearest 🌹🌷🌷🥀🌹.I'm Oscar Williamson from the States ❤️.You?

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@EtsukoAmi which country are you from?

[@JackGraysonKing]

I never stick around for friend-zone stuff for women with crowns... this should be interesting

[@eGyptianfairy]

Please pleaseeee do a video focused on borderline personality disorder ❤️🙏🏻 love you Tealy

[@raulnatokapa]

Sometimes I see a video of Teal and get it all, but when I dont, I feel it is because is a subject I need to grasp more because it is something lacking on me or that I have to improve. Best part of it, I can see her all over again!

[@sll110]

prove is not love, acceptance is love, needing prove is trauma, my whole life lives in this trauma

[@InvertedSeal]

Did anyone else notice the clock in the background is at 11:11?

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Thank for you putting this out :) It’s deeply relevant to what’s happening now.

[@deathbleu5741]

what a great video pretty intense message, very much needed in the world

[@whiskych1030]

this rather complicated, I listened to this video twice. I hope you can elaborate on these ideas a bit more, thank you!

[@emmymau5943]

idea- fear of people, social anxiety, social phobia, anti-social. something along these lines would be great. thank you teal.

[@wakeup_withAshley]

Teal, thank you. Message delivered perfectly on time as always! 🙏❤️ Endlessly grateful for your ability to explain other perspectives!

[@GregorKari]

Got your book, Anatomy of Loneliness, as an audio version, love it so far! The chapter about shame is make s a lot of sense. Also I really like that you are reading it yourself!

[@empowerment.artist]

I mean, this is a very complicated topic. I recently tried to urge a friend to make changes to his life, but realised suddenly that I can't judge him for his choices. And no, I'm not carrying responsibility for people who refuse to take care of themselves, anymore. At the same time, I'm not approving everything in my relationships, like I used to do.

[@Brenda-uf8pk]

This video made go through so many waves of emotions 😭💓

[@Mr.Utrust]

The only relationship that exist is the relationship between me (ego boundaries) and my higher self. 🙏

[@happylindsay4475]

This was beautifully articulated. Thank you 😊

[@natushkhan]

This is a powerful reflection, thank you Teal

[@piggipiggi9536]

Ok. I'm seriuosly convinced that Teal is spying me with hidden cameras and using my trouble as inspiration for her videos. Synchronicity on a very high level 📈📈📈📈

[@cagedweller6223]

Thanks for the free therapy session, Teal! Lol, I'm def a person who seeks approval from evveryyoonnee, no matter whether I value their opinion or not. I need to figure out how to shake off my tendencies to people please for any crumb of appreciation or admiration from someone else, anyone

[@leroybradley4671]

Yes whatever that sound was prevented me from watching the vid, for some reason it wad like nails on a chalkboard for me, might attempt to rewatch later because Teal's content is always 💣💣🔥🔥

[@meepthepeep7097]

It stops after a few minutes

[@camez2345]

It was really hurting my ears, too. I think it was a bird. It had the same call as a chickadee but sounded much louder and like a bigger bird. I love birds, but it was too much. It was getting picked up by the microphone in a severe way. But like rangaha comments, it does stop after not too long.

[@morganalexis6147]

I absolutely LOVED this video. It TOTALLY helped me better process a very very complicated relationship dynamic I am involved in and has even been seriously struggling to make sense of day to say without my judgements, anger, hurt, upset and my own self interests making things more complex. With this one video I gained so much insight and understanding and immediately felt more at ease inside of myself about the whole situation without resistance. It affirmed some of my own rough feelings and made everything make more sense and much easier to experience and accept though it isn't ideal to me and I find myself in approving. Rewatching now. Thank you!!

[@jethawk1172]

Teal this is something I had learned and learned on my own. I was never the person to like want all the attention and what not but one thing I wanted was acceptance and approval from people and I learned fast that it didn’t really matter to me. I found my own peace and knew right from wrong without even questioning it. Jumping in and just knowing the truth! Saying it and whether someone likes it or not it has to be said! would develop an open mind and in 2018 after being like the rock and support for someone I had been with for like 5 years, I got tired because I realized that it was them always wanting their way and me being honest about the truth. I know I didn’t care about the approval much but I knew my responsibility and I wasn’t going to take blame for things that were not my fault and the person was not taking responsibility on their end. Knowing the truth, telling them, and there would be moments in which they would disapprove. Being aware as well and if they disapprove of the truth then well it was their decision. Whatever happens after that will be a result of it. 2019 was huge and this video was some of the growth I went through for the beginning of last year. Bless you teal!

[@arsnickers]

Perfect timing, as always! ❤️ Knocked it out of the park again. It is so amazing to be able to hear from someone who has such a firm understanding on the complexity and hardships of life, especially considering they are so relevant to everyday life. I will be a lifetime subscriber, Teal

[@nytro-nick7660]

it's unsettling how I will have a problem during the week and then a video on that exact problem pops up here every Saturday.

[@zoulofzoria]

Just saw Teal video about being brutally honest. I´m one of them, but the problem is that I feel that no one will listen to me if I´m not. What to do if you believe that nobody listen and nobody cares about your truth?

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Zoul Of Zoria,you look stunning

[@mikegaming4924]

You discuss interesting topics. This is how I translate it today. Unconditional love, like ideal mother's love, loves without conditions. You could say it is auto-approving 100% time. Humans are mixture of emotions, so usually they cannot love totally unconditionally.

[@marys661]

Teal, you'vemade me aware and taught me so much. I just only wish i heard this in my 20 30 40s !! Im 50ish...and I listen to you...and just start laughing...YES YES this girl has FINALLY articulated the human condition !!! Thank you sweet girl...🦋🦋🐠🐠🌻🌻

[@matthewszczepura9844]

I thought I got the biggest knowledge bomb like 10 min in, and then multiple life changing realizations followed . . . great lesson

[@oliverrojas3185]

It was tuff to listen to this and not see my own reflection of insecuritis of being judged and in most situations, to varying degree, a lack of neutrality when trying to characterize and express disproval

[@saptarshi-banerjee-9322]

Superb video. 😊 💐 Have a great day Teal. 😊

[@taranova222]

Whew, this one stretched my brain--which means it's good stuff.

[@TheABCD3912]

i bet you chose this quarantine time to get out all the bomb-shell videos all at once... these past videos all were extremely relevant to me.. including this one. so much that its almost overwhelming.

[@carloscastanheiro2933]

You look so beautiful and sensual and your energy feels so soothing, I feel sleepy and relaxed, calm and serene. Thank you Teal, you really help me. Much love from Portugal. Namaste.