Why are EMPATHS often disliked and disrespected

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[@sharminiserasinghe3293]

They dislike empaths because they know we can see through their facade.

[@VitalMGermaine]

totally

[@donwalker117]

Who is "we" surely not you

[@VitalMGermaine]

@@donwalker117 anybody who fits the description

[@sharminiserasinghe3293]

@@donwalker117 empaths can even see through people from their texts.

[@ezlow1065]

@@sharminiserasinghe3293 So can I! So glad to know someone else does as well!

[@joy-jr7dg]

It's easier to be alone. I get to enjoy myself all the time 🌟🕉️🆓✌️

[@VitalMGermaine]

Word

[@deveshaq9306]

It’s so addictive to be protected in your own energy. I’m actually struggling to bond with others at this point

[@TK-un1pu]

This!!! Life is very peaceful now for me! About 10 years ago, I was written up for asking my supervisor to pronounce my name correctly. I had no malice in my heart. Another time, a different supervisor wrote me up for donating my federal leave.

[@kaoutar6921]

​@@deveshaq9306 same here I am trying to reconnect with other human beings, learning how to communicate with different type of people and just putting myself out there. I don't want to continue living alone like a weird creature if we can't connect with no one on this earth hhh it is definitely our problem to figure out let's face it be true and real with ourselves and improve ourselves.

[@sigmasiren7]

Agreed.

[@Ubhntu3789]

Empaths without boundaries are disrespected. Empaths with boundaries are often feared and respected.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Spot on!

[@voiletwhitehorse]

Yes 💥I learnt something there

[@minoozolala]

Those with boundaries are often feared and therefore disrespected in an attempt to control them.

[@thaistomp]

@@minoozolala Yeah, but once the evil people see that we won't take their disrespect , they have to get us out of the picture, usually by smearing us to whoever they can.

[@gingerisevil02]

YES! I’m learning boundaries still

[@FindingGod365]

Interesting. People have told me I am "intimidating" I never knew why. And my kindness has only ever resulted in me being shamelessly used by people.

[@timelessbeautyfashion]

Same here. It's weird because everyone's complaining about their friends and family, they want them to be more understanding, but when they find a truly understanding person, they hate them. LOL

[@ErnestPiffel]

I’ve been taken advantage of for being kind. But I’d rather be kind than cynical and selfish.

[@kaynoname1125]

This.❤

[@bettinarossi7908]

Yes,same here! I have been accused of being "too much","too nice" and intimidating. Unbelievable.

[@bettinarossi7908]

"getting medieval "....love it!.."show your teeth,when necessary". Thank you,Sir!🙏

[@GMacII]

Beware the day an Empath says “No”.

[@VitalMGermaine]

@@GMacII indeed!!!

[@Mena-dz5ln]

I have been walking with 2 ladies a couple mornings a week for a couple of years now........... Lately after are walk is finished....I say goodbye....and as I get in my car ....I look over and see the 2 ladies with passionate anger on there faces .....and realize they are talking smack about me as soon as I leave..........I then decided to confront one lady over the phone about what I had seen........she doesn't respond......and I stop walking with them all together. ....a week passes and I'm getting calls from them.... like where are you ! We haven't walked together in so long ! I don't respond. ...and realize they wanted to enjoy my LIGHT on our walks......but equally wanted to talk bad about me when I was not around..... This has been an regular accurance through out my life.....

[@OracleKelly]

Whew that’s deep!! It’s good you saw this, sounds like they were zapping your energy

[@nomadame333]

I know this behavior, as well. Energy Vampires sucking the goodness out of ya...

[@FifiR3]

100% had this. Coincidentally saw my 2 friends/coworkers at the shops and as I was approaching them from behindI realized they were talking about a bday gift for me. Just as I was about to reach forward and tap them on the shoulder to say dont ruin the surprise, they proceeded to say what a hassle it was and how full of shii i am anyway (furthest from the truth - u can pick me a flower off the sidewalk and I will remember it for the rest of my life). I realized in that moment, the problem really does sometimes lie with other people.

[@tonya592]

Me too.

[@katedemarzo7440]

Me too

[@deborahriley1166]

Due to childhood trauma, it took 67 years before I got this. Thanks! 🥰🌷🌷🌹🌺🙏❤️🙏

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

You are not alone. I’m in my 60s too. It’s tough because in our time this kind of information wasn’t available.

[@AmyK007]

X❤

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Same

[@VitalMGermaine]

Congrats Deborah... each in their own time as it's an individual journey.

[@jenntlee2462]

And whenever we learn it, we know this forevermore. Joy! (said a la "Ren & Stimpy" style) I love your emoji story. Get ready please, because I'm going to "Good Will Hunting" you right now with what else I bet you know now too: It wasn't your fault. Indeed. We cannot possibly be blamed for what we did not know at our most vulnerable and dependant, the truths denied us we kept in our souls. Because we're still here doing it, right, as the kids say. I was so glad and incredibly relieved when I learned I could stop taking near all the blame for everything in childhood and beyond, whether thrust upon me, or, I finally noticed, replicated in my unconscious trauma responses. Yes. I was about ready for the full clarity of this first attention-friendly video my highly curated algorithm offered me, many thanks. That's what I'd arrived at, envy, how I'm "too"... and all mentioned. It so helps to have this video permission slip to... Go Medieval ...when necessary to shore up boundaries, for when punks try it and then get all upset when they're not ready for what their foolery wrought. That's why I keep writing, until I get up to finding the humor, because I'm laughing now [and on the edit]. I love when I get to use the word "punk," which is funny and funny sounding to me. Plus I understand the music. For instance, a favorite line I had to come up with, my first real permission slip: My history-making military, high-ranking NYPD (New York Police Department) and beloved college professor grandfather didn't raise a punk. I love the solid sound of denying that word after all that prestige, making my point. I'm charmed that autocorrect now wanted to make that "pink," reflecting my gentler nature and the need for such a line to remember where I come from. 🩷 Seriously. This permission slip, this validation and acknowledgement really helps cancel out even more (with OG eloquence and a dapper style, I add) the terrible programming from manipulators and that lot. Love them as I do (but for having escaped and then learned much from them). Please be well. I'm glad everybody found this help that helps, sharing what things really mean. I'm new to commenting, and I needed to share this here. Many thanks for your comment I took as a writing prompt. Peace, and (if needed) Continued Healing and Great Fortune!

[@jerseypooh4664]

Because we live in a narcissistic era unfortunately and the narcopaths and people like that can’t stand those of us who are kind, compassionate, empathetic etc.

[@Candlelight777]

Sadly believe that we are suppose to be kind to their evil butts and take their trash, abuse and garbage. They want to be a slave unconditionally l when it comes to their evil. They become so Toxic that what they believe is a weakness or something your insecure about that they are getting even with you if you don't please them and respect their control issue over you which is a toxic No, No! I refuse to remain disrespected and become comfortable while toxic, abusive people think is should be acceptable to tolerate toxic people, even if it's family. These types of people want you to feel small yet are the biggest cowards ever. It's not you it's them.

[@alllifematters]

I will tell ya! It feels good to live in a community of like minded sensitive souls who care about other lives. Not just their own because I've also lived in communities with the opposite mentality and boy that was a painful time

[@sherrisolomon8673]

jerseyp….😅😅😅Narcopaths? That’s a new word I take.

[@teeahtate]

I agree. We live in the era of narcs and selfishness. Everything is a competition. So, if they can easily 'win' over you it makes them feel good.

[@battlevain]

Great comment jerseypooh4664. Narcissists are crippled by fear and insecurity. This forces them to seek to dominate and exploit those they consider weaker than them. Kindness is weakness in their minds. We must never change.

[@boogaria554]

As an Empath, I am a boundary queen. I don't take crap from anyone. I actually get delicious joy out of setting boundaries.

[@Freethnkr]

I'm forming into my boundaries setting self and believe me, they walk away alot quicker when this happens

[@lorrainefoster1320]

I want that delicious joy. What do you say to people?

[@valerievalerie4366]

Love it! Will try it! ❤

[@manipura4049]

No has become my new favorite word! Not my circus not my monkeys. I say this to myself several times a day!!

[@twocents9816]

Me too; I shut them down the second they toe the line… manipulation works on some, but not on empaths. I find sincere joy in blocking bad behavior.

[@gtaone1838]

“If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first” 🙏🏾

[@BigHammerz]

Thats right,they know who are our father is and it bothers them when they see love,joy,peace,patience,goodness,kindness,gentleness,self control and long suffering to their demonic crap.They are jeolous and envious of everything they dont have including the fruit of the spirit.

[@tomlavelle2333]

I had worked in my profession for 36 years. I went and worked for another company. There was a coworker there who had the same birthday as me. Only she was 25 years younger and had been in the business for only four years. She hated the fact that I was more experienced and other coworkers called me Mr. Sunshine. I am very approachable and easy to talk to, which she despised. She talked crap about me to clients, said nasty things to my face, she would throw things at me when no one was around, and would try to intimidate me every chance she got. It drove her crazy when I would smile at her and keep a civil tone in my voice. After four months of this abuse I approached my manager. He took her side. I quit and walked out and never looked back. My life got back on track for the better after standing up for myself. My energy and light was too bright for her, and that was not my problem.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Well played.

[@shebakali6]

I’ve had coworkers who deliberately made me sick (I have a disability) and then lied to my boss when I complained about it. And those who ignored and were hostile to me. All because of my light and energy. Some people were triggered as I was slender and they were obese and full of jealousy and hatred. It seems HR and employers take the side of these narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths over their victims. Best to just leave. Eventually these workplaces will implode because they will be full of toxic people and their ass kissers

[@INFJparadox]

I have been thru this so many times and in same profession for 30 years. I just got fired on Friday and finally decided I am done with constantly going thru this and getting into different industry. Love and blessings to us all 💖🙏💖

[@ameliaannhouck2670]

HAD VERY SIMILAR EXPERIENCES !

[@dylannaenzo9737]

She was prolly his side wife.

[@chinookvalley]

I'm near 70, a see-er, and it's been a rough life. People have told me that I care too much. How sad for them. My parents warned what was coming. They told me always to believe what I know. They were both see-ers. People are mean to us.

[@lumity238]

Same for me.❤️🙏🕊️

[@LilyLulu5000]

Atleast you had kind and understanding parents. Most of us have parents filled with hate.

[@meagiesmuse2334]

Same here, except my parents disbelieved, in spite of my proving things to them.....they simply couldn't accept it. Ime, people say they want the truth, but they really want you to tell them only what they want to hear and confirm what they already believe.

[@janicetelfer6211]

Sad but true 😞 I'm 56 and have the same issue. But I feel blessed now after waking up. It's been a tough go. But now I see everyone and everything so clearly. Feeling blessed 😊🙏

[@ReeRee_Donita]

I’m a seer too. I see evildoers in my dreams all the time.

[@gracerules2423]

“I’m kind, I’m forgiving, I’m understanding, until I’m not. And once I’m not, you had better watch out, because my ruthless actions will lead you to regretting you ever met me. Do not mess with me.” Rrrrufff! 🐕

[@VitalMGermaine]

💪💪💪

[@INFJparadox]

Exactly! I’m a Taurus and also born in year of the dog. Keep poking the bull and you will see a completely different side of me because when I see red, I will tell you exactly what you are

[@LovinLnCottage]

People used to mistake my kindness for weakness a lot. However, I have been an equestrian since the age of 15. Do not mess with a woman who rides Hotblooded horses. My sport was a martial art. A horse will teach you about boundaries and the proper use of power…or you don’t ride long. Firm kindness and loving attention wins the day. However, sometimes you run into a frightened horse who has been abused and becomes aggressive. Then you must be super consistent and patient. Often you can’t get near them for a long while. Force is counterproductive. I treat people the same way. You are right about the fact that when someone disrespects me several times, I am permanently done with them. No reprieve.

[@luciadozier1267]

ROARRRR!!!❤️

[@lovinglatonya3499]

Facts‼️cause if it up ur stuck buddy. Once we stop caring. We can be RUTHLESS😑

[@yvonnemarie57]

Because the truth hurts. That’s why.😊

[@VitalMGermaine]

Indeed!

[@yvonnemarie57]

New subscriber. You deserve a million subs.

[@salauerman7082]

“They want to pull the darkness out of you” Yep.

[@zofiajaneczek184]

People prefer to exist in their illusions vs going through the pain, suffering, fire that is often truth!

[@richersonkate]

It's not necessary for truth to hurt. I'm always surprised when someone is offended by fact.

[@nzt338]

And being attractive, having a pure aura, while being a kind person is like a triple whammy and it brings the worst out of people.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Strangely enough, yes.

[@Liza-gd7jf]

Yep 😂❤

[@doctorberkowitz]

I never thought it was envy. I think they think we're weak because they're aggressive and value aggression in others.

[@Kaye_Venice]

I’ve noticed this in People and I cannot STAND it. They try to evoke that aggression out of you and once they get it, now they want to be chummy & friendly. After that, I couldn’t be more turned off because that’s not how I make friends.

[@doctorberkowitz]

@@Kaye_Venice Yes. They're very different people.

[@BeckyEvans-Deas]

They mistake kindness and grace for weakness. All my life I’ve been labeled many things that are negative because of this.

[@bobbicampbell5233]

This. They don't like people who aren't like them, especially people who are the opposite. I've found even people who aren't necessarily aggressive are still suspicious of you because they think you're a fake, and it makes them distrust you.

[@doctorberkowitz]

@@BeckyEvans-Deas me too. I think us graceful ones are more evolved. We need to be patient with the gorillas, but I still hate them. I realize that's not very graceful, but I've been compensating for them for 50 years.

[@user-ud4vf2hd7i]

Because we see through everything and everyone without exception.

[@VitalMGermaine]

For real

[@FriendofDorothy]

Nonsense. Being empathetic is not the equivalent of being a psychic.

[@tommcconnell69]

​@FriendofDorothy, you are literally the person described who is looking in the mirror 😂

[@mrsandmom5947]

I’m shocked at how I know things about people

[@marrop2760]

@@FriendofDorothy I would beg to differ.. we are all psychic (Intuitive) but some more than others ... empaths are mediums...

[@eujinlee9936]

We're lone wolves 🐺🐺 for very legit reasons. We're tired of being drained because people can't deal with their trauma

[@thaistomp]

They hate my warrior spirit. Lol.

[@eujinlee9936]

@@thaistomp i bet, KZbin didn't even notify me that you commented, which means it hates your algorithm lol

[@thaistomp]

@@eujinlee9936 The realest ones are usually the most hated, hahahaha.

[@eujinlee9936]

@@thaistomp happens to me all the time

[@VitalMGermaine]

Indeed

[@CJBradley]

I was that child, introverted, sensitive and a bit naive until I grew up and now I bite.! I don't have many friends but it doesn't bother me at all.

[@IntellectuallyAstute]

Same!

[@VitalMGermaine]

Well played.

[@Liza-gd7jf]

Most people are low vibrational so we will naturally be isolated

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

💜

[@LaPinturaBella]

Absolutely. And I prefer having only a few friends. I prefer being alone because I find most people draining and frankly focused on very mundane, boring things.

[@lillianbarker4292]

This has been my experience. People confuse my gentleness with weakness but I’m very strong. I took an assertiveness class that really helped because I tend to put up with people until I can’t and then watch out. It’s better to stand up for yourself early and calmly.

[@OracleKelly]

Where did you find this assertiveness class?

[@vickigarvie4093]

HaHaHa 🤣 me too. I take it take it take it and then absolutely nothing, zip zilch Done ✅

[@bobbicampbell5233]

@@OracleKelly co-sign!

[@OracleKelly]

@@vickigarvie4093 hahahaha

[@EB-dm9fw]

Where did you get the class? Online?

[@micheleshively8557]

Ive found they don't like our happy. They're not happy with themselves and when they see me smiling brightly every day, it irritates them. Oh well. Im just me, I ain't changing for anyone

[@Zara-pt5xq]

I Love when I see a happy person and that light is truly shining from within. Not a fake happy (so many people these days) but real and deep. I saw a lady today and all were misery around me and my sensitive side was picking up on it and it's always disheartening to see all these people faking life and hating on me, but this one woman. Smiled so beautifully at me, it made me feel guilty for letting them get to me when there are truly happy and caring people out there. Unfortunately they are few and far. Still I managed to smile back coz she deffo deserved it. I don't want sex with her. I'm not going to stalk her. I'm not going to talk shit about her. Because she just smiled sweetly at me. And that was all. I shall remember?!

[@Freethnkr]

And you shouldn't! Keep smiling 😃

[@gregfaber3417]

Exactly.

[@gregfaber3417]

Meanwhile us empaths are genuinely happy when we see other people being happy and celebrating their personal successes.

[@teeahtate]

Very true!!!! I remember someone telling me that they don't like people who are happy all of the time! I am not happy all of the time, but I don't show my sadness all of the time. There is nothing wrong with finding peace wherever you go. I appreciate freedom and have decided to enjoy what I have.

[@denawolf5884]

this helps. my life has been empty and painful not understanding why I am cast out from most everyone. I like who I am and have learned i find my peace in animals, plants and nature. ☮️❤️🙏🏼💫

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

My family disowned me 20 years ago (because I wanted to get married at the age of 28). Many of my friends and family have died. The ones left don't live nearby. To be hated and despised at work too is really getting to be too much. I'm a loving happy person, but those qualities must really anger their inner demons.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Total peace in those aspects!

[@voiletwhitehorse]

Ooh me too ,love muturing my seeds and growing caring for my plants and cute dog 🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵

[@iamsacredtransformations]

Blessings unto you! All of those aspects are Divine 💚

[@VitalMGermaine]

@@iamsacredtransformations Thank you

[@kimwilliamson7880]

We live in a world where the worst people have the most power. Being nice is a survival mechanism and sometimes the only way to get justice is to do something surreptitiously. Choose battles wisely. “Discretion is the better part of valor “.

[@kameshiam1674]

Ooooo..yes!

[@Kenny-f3i]

Nice 😊

[@Kimmy_95]

Exactly!!!! Well said.

[@valerievalerie4366]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@jazzmjm41]

This is a tip I wish someone would've taught me. Play their game and know how to use your power as an empath.

[@lindatallon9217]

My adversities have demanded that I grow thick skin...my "badass" has fully emerged....I refuse disrespect....

[@VitalMGermaine]

Well played!

[@lavernerowden8509]

This explains racism so well too.

[@LiftedMoonLight]

Unfortunately, as an empath, when you start to create boundaries, others think you are crazy!!!! They are just not used to you FINALLY STICKING UP FOR YOURSELF!

[@sdoola80]

And it pisses people off too. it's crazy!

[@iamlakesivad4675]

You are crazy, in love with yourself and protecting your energy ❤

[@VitalMGermaine]

So true!

[@VitalMGermaine]

@@sdoola80 Most definitely

[@janicetelfer6211]

😮 im 56 and have struggled with this all my life. I dont understand why people hate so much...😞 im learning to just share my light regardless and just learning boundaries unfortunately 😊❤ ty

[@VitalMGermaine]

acceptance of your gift!!! beautiful

[@iamsacredtransformations]

I too, share in this experience!

[@rmschindler144]

you say, “I don’t understand why people hate so much”, and this prompts me to say to you: thank you for your kindness & love, wherever you are, wherever you go . I think you make positive ripples everywhere . and that is how hate is transformed: because there are such souls as yours . that’s how hate is eradicated . you are a salutary energetic pattern, a force for good, simply by existing . I’m sure you enjoy being grateful for the gifts life offers you . I am simply reminding you - it’s worth reminding ourselves, isn’t it? -... reminding you that _you_ are a gift for this world

[@janicetelfer6211]

@@rmschindler144 😊❤️

[@pearpo]

They hate themselves or parts of themselves. when they look at you and feel envy, then they project the negativity / shame / hatred / anger on to you.

[@aaangel71]

We don't have to be ruthless, we just walk away.

[@Sionapink48]

Sometimes you have to take a stand against evil. Or it will try to destroy you.

[@BeastHunter2121]

But not always

[@Inunity2020]

Yes, removing your energy and presence when you know it’s strong and felt. That is a power move indeed!

[@gregfaber3417]

Ruthless is not our first choice. We always choose compassion and understanding and kindness.- because it's the right thing to do. We know what the alternative is but we know we're above that. It's only as an absolute last option that we "go nuclear." And when we do.....we let loose our knowledge of EVERYTHING we've seen but chose not to address. It scares people because they don't realize that all this time we've quietly been absorbing everything.

[@FifiR3]

​@@gregfaber3417 100% facts!! When I finally "go nuclear" people are shocked - only because they took my kindness for weakness.

[@Ciesiam]

I recently realized why some people don’t care for me at all. Why? It’s because I am a mirror and I present to others their true self.

[@user-yg3dy8ei5u]

I literally became bitter and angry trying to understand why people I have helped and people I don't even know act like they hate me.Thankyou.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Makes total sense

[@KassieP-sf6nz]

I have been trying to figure this out myself

[@teeahtate]

Yes, it is sad to find this out but comforting to know that it is not your problem. They hate themselves, but they don't know how to handle their hate so they hate you.

[@user-yg3dy8ei5u]

@@teeahtate I agree,I hope that you are standing strong prospering and enjoying life ,best of luck.

[@dianav.5837]

This really is very true. Being your authentic self tends to rub insecure people the wrong way. It took me many years to figure this out. I’ve learned to recognize this behavior earlier, and now I do my best to limit my time with these people.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Totally

[@MsDivinelyPurple365]

💯

[@gregfaber3417]

Especially when you call out toxic behavior. The guilty parties instantly know they've been exposed and will double down and gaslight. When they realize you aren't buying their bullshit, suddenly they disappear and act like you don't fucking exist.

[@johanna5688]

It's best to confront them from the outset. This should fix them. If they are still full of rage & hatred, perhaps a call out by the police will set them straight. Abuse is abuse.

[@PJB-To-be]

Yes, boundaries are the only way to continue living. We cannot be door mats forever. Learn this early so your heart does'nt take too many hits. ❤

[@EarthDilemma]

It was no accident this video found me. Ironically… I was asking myself this exact question earlier. I get hated on for being my authentic self and it has gotten worse since I have gotten older. I treat others with love and respect, but get the opposite in return. Due to this I grew a backbone and don’t tolerate BS! Thank you for discussing this topic bc people need to hear this! 💫

[@VitalMGermaine]

YW and honored you found me.

[@fineweather4569]

The world is filled with fake, inauthentic people playing games and manipulating each other. They’re a waste of space. In the land of the blind, the one- eyed man is king.

[@SleepyPariah]

Yes same. How do you get to that point of growing a backbone though without immense guilt? I always feel like I’m being mean or rude and then I beat myself up

[@FifiR3]

It was no accident that I read your comment while asking myself that exact question earlier as well☺️ Someone, somewhere feels the same💜

[@FifiR3]

​@@SleepyPariahyes, constant struggle. Because we are used to making others feel comfortable, setting boudaries may seem mean because it makes others uncomfortable.

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

I am an absolute mess right now. I cried for 45 minutes in the closet this morning before coming to work. My coworkers despise me, won't speak to me, shut me out of everything. I have started pushing back against their bad behavior - overloading me with work while the others laugh and talk in the hallways, giving me wrong instructions and then claiming they never did that, etc. I tied into it with someone who doesn't even work at our site today because I did the work perfectly, but they said I didn't respond to the "right" email in a lengthy chain. I responded to everyone who needed the info. I am exhausted. I went to HR today and am hoping to be moved to another area. In the meantime I feel sick all the time and had chest pains this week. I have tried for a long time to find another job, but no luck. Quitting isn't an option now, but I don't know how much longer I can hold out.

[@jawsjawsjawsjaws]

You need to stay strong and know that you are the one filled with light and your time will come for you to receive love and prosperity. Although it will probably take longer than you would like. A lot of people are ass holes and some people are evil. If you feel a person is a serious jerk they may be evil so never take anything from them no matter how small it is. Take care of yourself cause you are important. The jerks, not so much. Fill your self with knowledge and spirituality. Develop your warrior side and once you start to prosper do not let the jerks back into your life if they start to warm up to you. You know who they are. Best of luck finding a new job if you feel that is your path. And treat yourself to some fun and work on your health.

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

@@jawsjawsjawsjaws Thank you! It isn't easy, but I've got to keep moving forward and heal.

[@VitalMGermaine]

I feel your pain and have been there. Stay strong as things can change with a little bit of inner work. Consider reading my book, PINK IS THE COLOR OF EMPATHY. It's helping so many! www.amazon.com/dp/B0B9QM2684?ref_=ast_author_ofdp

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

@@VitalMGermaine Thank you!

[@fineweather4569]

Can you retrain for something else in your spare time - something that you can do alone and without being in an office situation? Limiting interaction with colleagues/being self employed helps

[@bpassion4fashion581]

For so many years I tried to shrink my light, joy, talents and aliveness to meet people where they were… it didn’t worked ! No matter how much I bended, they still resented me. Now I have come out of my shell. Gave up wanting to be liked! I’m still kind BUT DISCERNING, and can walk away from anyone maltreatment in a heartbeat.

[@noself7889]

I developed social anxiety because I was picking up on everyone else’s judgments and insecurities. I’m healing with spiritual practice and therapy. My social anxiety also stems from a 17 year abusive relationship. My boundaries were violated daily the entire duration. The nice guy is gone and the loyalty shattered. I agree fully with everything said in this video. Thank you 🙏☯️☸️🕉️☦️

[@santi7470]

I suffer with it too. It's awful.... Especially when trying to meet people:(

[@noself7889]

@@santi7470 It is awful, I feel for you. People don’t understand what social anxiety is like unless they have had it. Best of luck in your healing. ☯️☸️☯️🙏

[@larsstougaard7097]

Same 😢

[@VWHNeal1018]

Don’t let the fear of others or what they will say stop you from living the life you want. Don’t withdraw from life.❤❤

[@Yarrg]

I got bullied out of my job because of this Evil garbage. I started the workplace abuse. Experts, and now I have mocked them shame them challenged them. I regret nothing these people are wicked.

[@bjaxfl]

The Empath must learn balance, this helped me immensely. Continue to hold the kindness in your heart, but also hold a strong aura of “don’t fuck with me”. Don’t overly smile, laugh or nod. Simply use your empathy as more of a tool to analyze others and see if you YOU like them. And feel the separation and distance between you and them. Raise your aggression and healthy anger to a higher vibration , by remaining light but integrating your dark, this will help you establish boundaries. Think of the typical Archetype of an angel, unconditional love but also radiating a sense of power and control. People will feel this off you trust me, and your actions and interactions will change as well. Also speak your mind, don’t let insults slide. Understand they may have done it because they are hurting/ignorant but also correct how YOU prefer to be spoken to.

[@VitalMGermaine]

BALANCE indeed

[@thursdaygrape]

Glad you said this...too many empaths take unbelievable abuse and think it's bad and makes them less than empathetic to not take shit or disrespect from people. Empaths can choose who gets their best selves and who gets the darkside. It's simply a matter of balance. GREAT COMMENT

[@VitalMGermaine]

Indeed indeed

[@FifiR3]

My man, this hit so hard. You've worded this perfectly! And I needed to hear these words as youve said them. Know that your comment was divinely guided by the universe to find me at this moment when I needed it🙏💜 Ive taken a screeshot of your comment so I can remind myself whenever I need it😌 Thank you🪷

[@HouseMusicChillerX]

spot on!

[@1233-h1]

Dark empath here. I see it all and know even more. Lucky for me I have a vengeance side and when a mutha steps wrong against me they get a punishment and a cut off. Don't waste time on people much anymore. Most aren't worth it and I don't need conversation, empty socializing or events to fill my time. I get most of my true companionship from nature and the natural world. Example. A bird lit on my window sill a few days ago, sang me a song and then flew on. Priceless. It filled me with joy and wonder. A dog in my neighborhood is a pure telepath. Shows up and "communicates every now and then. He gets me on a,whole different level. Humans? Way overrated and overvalued.

[@IntellectuallyAstute]

Yessssss! This spoke 🗣️to me. I too have a 🐦 bird that sits in front of my window each day to commune with me. Cats 🐈 also come up to me OFTEN meowing. They Know!! 💯

[@jalicarenee]

I can relate. Cats, dogs, lizards, butterflies, squirrels, owls...nature responds to me in a way that speaks to my soul! Meanwhile, humans seem to just want to speak and act in ways to try to darken and break my spirit. SMH it's not a good feeling, it doesn't feel good. People can be such monsters. All by choice, not chance.

[@universalredguard]

Yup

[@highplainsdrifter699]

Most humans are just shit with feet . Animals are way ahead

[@SelfCareBear]

Even as a child...people simply did not like me. I learned as an adult that is a huge indicator of who and what they are. It took decades the Word of God tells us as well.

[@highlovevibration]

Same, disliked for no reason whatsoever

[@lindaavant4665]

Same here. Being, insulted by adults, as a child and now as an adult still insulted. I feel, like these people are crazy. Who does that..??? Being 60 + it has been very challenging.....

[@thaistomp]

Yup, dislike and hated by adults when I was a little boy. Now I understand why.

[@hshfyugaewfjkKS]

Can't tell you how much I appreciate this video! I let my verbally abusive and disrespectful sister walk over me for so many years and I finally blew up and had it. I completely destroyed her in an email and brought up everything I knew would hurt her and that was bad about her personality. Then I blocked her on all avenues. The relief I felt was enormous. I definitely went medieval on her and I know she wasn't expecting it. HSP Indigo. It can be hard to be kind in an unkind world.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Very hard to be kind in an unkind world, indeed.

[@voiletwhitehorse]

Snap ,my sister used me ,till she got in a codependent relationship, made my feelings invalidated ,I gave her everything while in my relationship, now I started elevating ,im the problem ,not spent a day together since she got in a relationship, we've broke up 3 times in 4 years,I've had it now ,shes blocked ,feel heartbroken and trampled ,but better now im away for her jealousy

[@janlaurel7830]

just did the same with mine

[@oldheadtv3152]

Blocked her like a coward. Couldn't handle the repercussions of your buffoonery. Typical

[@s.u.s.a.n.a]

Someone told me once "I feel you can see how I really feel inside."

[@jadesmith7983]

People used to hate seeing me smile all the time. They would always ask me "why are you always smiling". I never knew how to answer them or why they were even bothered by it. I eventually started to realize people were envious of me appearing to be happy. I had to wrestle with being an empath and feeling so deeply for along time. Always being kind, loving and honest with people, while they lied and took advantage of me. I became depressed with thinking about how negative people were. I eventually learned how to set boundaries and appreciate the sensitive person that I am. I stopped caring about people liking me and started liking myself. Now I feel empowered and grateful for the experience.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Congrats on your empowerment journey!!!

[@jadesmith7983]

@@VitalMGermaine Thank you ❤️

[@FifiR3]

The "why are you always smiling?" thing happened to me too. And i was so confused by it because it seemed genuinely offensive to someone that I am authentically like that🤯

[@vyvyan235]

I'm currently going through this at my job. My kindness was initially seen as me being autistic. They literally asked me if I was and I said I was not, the group of women I work with instead told me I was confident and have since been incredibly rude to me refer to me as an "it". They are constantly trying to get me to angrily react to their crudeness and meanness towards me. I say hello they keep talking or look at me and say nothing. These are women in the 40s or older. So sad but it shows how insecure and angry they are within themselves. My only question is how do I not tell them to f@#k off?

[@VitalMGermaine]

It’s a tough situation indeed ❤️‍🩹

[@nicoletillman3251]

Like he said “it’s time to show your teeth!!” Be strong and stand firm. They have a problem not you!!!

[@FifiR3]

Could have typed this. Other people really are the problem sometimes. It used to hurt when I enthusiastically, with a smilr greeted my coworker in the morning and she would look me straight in the face, say nothing back and look away. I could see how good it made her feel to wipe the smile off my face. Now it does not bother me, I pity her for choosing to be miserable to the worls.

[@vyvyan235]

@@FifiR3 is this your experience or your advice for me?

[@BigHammerz]

It will not be this way in heaven because the folks that dislike and mistreat the empaths will be seperated from the christian empath.It would be an eternity of hell for them to live be around folks who loved and respected one another.

[@annedavnes]

Not everyone on this planet deserves your light. At 56, I am just discovering that it is healthy for me to boundary my light, because sharing my light, my heart, my insight my ANYTHING takes vulnerability. Not everyone deserves my light, and I alone am responsible for keeping it aglow. I have that power. I did not incarnate on this planet to heal it, if it’s going to dim my light and hurt me. So, discernment is such a healthy boundary to learn more about and practice. If I am a lightworker, then it’s my job to keep it lit up, to take care of me and my vessel, and not let others hurt me, blame me, ridicule me. Walk away. Claim your right to take up space in this world.

[@c.draper1483]

A “scorched earth”empath is a true force to be reckoned with. Once people see the monster come out of the box - they are shocked. Remember, we do have it in us. Excellent video.

[@IndigoCherokee]

This part. It's only unreal to people because they are just to seeing us in our nice face/spirit. But oh don't ever forget you are right we have a dark side too just like their dumb butts have a nice side but they choose to live being nasty 365....

[@gregfaber3417]

They're just scared because they see a reflection of themselves pointing back at them.

[@thaistomp]

Yup, an empath can be very ruthless and it makes these wicked cowards terrified.

[@emr7712]

After my boss insulted me. I thanked him. He asked me why I thanked him. I told him that I learnt something new, about myself. 🌻

[@taylorgoodin3513]

Had a woman at my job curse me out called me everything under the sun my coworkers were standing by nervous bc the woman came out of nowhere I looked at her dead in the eyes and she knew I saw her exactly for what she was. Never said anything ill back to her She doesn’t want to engage with me when she visits

[@kkgreen7946]

People hate what they could never be. Periodt.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Sometimes, or they can aspire to

[@Noumenon4Idolatry]

Trying too hard. Way too nice to people. Desperate. Needy. Clingy. Looking for love. Desire people to be nice to them. Trying to hold onto or control other people. Trying to change other people or waiting for people to change. Way too eager to give love and wanting it in return. Too hopeful of the future. One trick I found is… To feel the future in an instant. You have a dream? You have a goal? You have a future? Feel it in an instant. Remove all blocks. Stay open to all possibilities. Imagine everything is possible. To feel the future in an instant. Then you don’t need to try or chase a dream. You also won’t get played by anyone selling you dreams. You won’t be crying about how you trusted someone else’s lies. Create. Envision. Focus. To feel the future in an instant. ✌️

[@365daysofjewelry3]

A lot of people treat me badly on a regular basis and I don’t have a clue why. But, I have learned to ignore people and NOT respond. It took years to learn to just carry on.

[@Bael536]

I’m sick of all the psychopathy, narcissist and all those who can’t think in other people shoe. Now I will observe and avoid all of them, having one in my life is ruining me enough

[@FifiR3]

Sometimes other people really are the problem. It used to hurt when I enthusiastically, greeted my coworker with a smile in the morning and she would look me straight in the face, say nothing back and look away. I could see how good it made her feel to wipe the smile off my face. Now it does not bother me, I pity her for choosing to be miserable to the world. I keep on smiling, I can't help it - it is who I am😌

[@VitalMGermaine]

INDEED

[@markktiller3]

I am having the same issues at work ❤

[@monicilunga9060]

I turned 46 this weekend and I have NEVER met 1 person who doesn’t take my kindness for my weakness. I have been cut with knives, stolen from my family and I became homeless, and been beaten by people I have defended. I have learned that DNA doesn’t make you family. This gift of what I have not asked for is a blessing and a curse. Thanks for this video because when people cross my boundaries from now on they will learn to not keep poking the bear on claws of the mind is coming out and they will regret doing something they KNEW would hurt me but did it anyway.

[@Lothnar5070]

You're not an empath, they don't exist.Time to live in the real world like everyone else.

[@harvey1965]

We take light into dark places, affecting great discomfort and leaving them forever changed.

[@kerplunk9434]

Most people dont want a hassle so they dont call anyone out on their bad behaviours. Not empaths... even if we are quiet they can feel our judgment.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Ah, they feel our judgment! I'd say they feel us holding them accountable.

[@medusagorgon9]

I have often felt so saddened by this behavior. Why?! I've done nothing but breath around them.💔

[@Renee11.11]

Now I know the reason for people hating me. Everywhere I go, whichever job I have, people can’t take me. I’m constantly in arguments and having to defend myself against insecure people.

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

Same here, my kindred spirit. We also share the same name and number - 11 (my Life Path number is 11), a Master number). It’s better for us to have our own businesses. We are unable to kiss arse and tolerate the psychological abuse from those utterly miserable and extremely jealous individuals. They are insane! Such sad lives they “live” reverse those letters…yep, ➡️ evil 👿. They have no reverence for life.

[@shansbo217]

My husband sent me this video. I'm glad he did. He said this helps him understand why people try me. I've grown to expect to be disliked and the outcast. I've never been a people pleaser. The part about me that those people don't know is the repercussions of their actions against me. I've watched many get sick and even die.

[@dotcassilles1488]

I'm not a doormat... "I'm not the source of your suffering" has been a healing inner thought. I'm very blunt when some hurt or use me. You can only push so far before you light the verbal fuse of my anger. I can wait, it might take longer than some. Im not violent but I will let you know if you piss me off. I've learnt to see if someone can do something once they will do it again. Hurt breaks trust and it can't be repaired

[@VitalMGermaine]

INDEED

[@Lonerangerja]

"In that kindness, be ruthless. Show your teeth when necessary". Word.

[@VitalMGermaine]

YES

[@EvakerstinL]

As a child I noticed people didn't like me looking at them. I thought my eyes where to strong, so fore many years while growing up I stopped looking at them. So your absolutely right we are like a mirror. But in my later teens I found out what it was. There are so many frightened people and they see that I see through the mask. So I thought if you want to play theater I don't care but you are no one to trust

[@FifiR3]

💯👌

[@nelliesfarm8473]

This video describes the story of my LIFE for DECADES.....HATED by my adult son, coworkers, neighbors, even my own mother !!! I can only connect to a few other empaths online...I live secluded way out in the boonies ...these days my love goes to animals and mother nature, who deserve it more than the people that have been in my life.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Congrats on living away from society... a future plan of mine.

[@chinookvalley]

Normal people suck my energy. I guess it's time to get ruthless. I'm tired of having tire tracks on my back. Good video.

[@reesedaniel5835]

Your comment reminded me instantly of this verse in the Scriptures: "Many a time they have persecuted me from my youth, but they have not prevailed against me. The plowmen plowed over my back; they made their furrows long. The LORD is righteous; He has cut me from the cords of the wicked.…" Psalm 129:2-4

[@cyberspice4401]

There is only quality of energy

[@IndigoCherokee]

I guess it's time to get ruthless 😂😂😂 made me laugh so hard

[@highlovevibration]

I need to get ruthless, this nice sh*t ain't working..

[@cyberspice4401]

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[@nzt338]

This was me almost my entire life up until a few years ago when I started putting people in their place and removing myself from people who I realized hated me for just being me and trying to destroy my character and good name out of envy… all unprovoked. No matter how I went out of my way or how kind I was to them, I came to realize none of that mattered in the grand scheme of things. Nothing I could or would do would change how they felt about me.

[@VitalMGermaine]

It's a very unfortunate reality.

[@Trisof88]

I used to believe that love could end the cycle of hate, but hate is a black hole. Many people don't come back from that once they go too deep

[@kim.mie.]

They want to be the centre of attention. They dislike us because we are "competition" to them. Its so weird

[@VitalMGermaine]

Indeed

[@Forgoneconclusion.]

This is the number one reason I have never had a long tern relationship... Once you show me who you really are... My Love dies instantly! I slay afterwards until they hate to be around me and cringe when my name is mentioned!

[@ravenmeyer3740]

Because people don’t care if you care about them or not. If you do, they see you as weak, vulnerable and stupid, therefore, they can also step on you. Leave them alone.

[@Redserpent777]

Thats the most narcissistic thing Ive heard in a while...

[@FifiR3]

​@@Redserpent777? Unsure how that is narcissistic? Unfortunately, the description is accurate for most people.

[@mercybassey3877]

This is true! People don’t need your help, most times they just need your attention! You can be very mean and disrespectful to them and they prefer that cos it’s a form of attention to them, but if you are kind, it makes them feel vulnerable and they don’t like that feeling.

[@Elliecham]

Yup, it's a them problem. They were raised to prepare for this cruel world so no compassion was taught. Yet, instead of breaking that cycle, they continue being jerks. I understand being tough and resilient, but you also have to have compassion and empathy. The key to a healthy world is balancing it.

[@humanchildofgod3126]

Did not understand why I would become ill around certain people and large groups of people. Did not also understand why people became defensive when I was just being kind. NOW I KNOW!! Thank you!!

[@SUPERN0VAgirl]

My mom was forced to quit from Conifer Health in Frisco TX simply because of who she is. She was targeted and harassed. Ethics didn't care about her complaints because they were friends with the supervisors. When she tried to switch depts by applying for different positions in other depts, they blocked her. The last straw was them sending her to a psych, having him test her, him saying nothing was wrong with her and educating her on how she was an INFJ, telling her about herself just from the results or the tests. Both of us are still healing from that time in her life.

[@Liza-gd7jf]

Work is horrible because you have to deal with all these horrible people

[@zadabeasley]

I’ve experienced this from my own family my entire life. I am grateful that I learned these elements early. As an ambivert, I really appreciate authentic connections and communication. I am also often required to be resilient when dealing with humans. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Be good to yourself. ✨✅✨

[@aires8441]

This is sooo True. It’s the Purity of heart that they can’t stand!

[@VitalMGermaine]

Definitely

[@IntellectuallyAstute]

👆🏽🤎💯

[@r_shan2506]

“My good opinion once lost is lost forever.” -Mr Darcy. I am never going to change my mind when someone oversteps. “Friends” I loved like sisters suddenly turned on me out of nowhere. I won’t waste my time trying to please people who don’t want my kindness and love. I have been through true heartbreak twice by friends. When I say I’d never done anything wrong I mean it, I know it in my heart that I am not guilty of anything. I now keep people at arms length with a wall between expecting to get hurt again. I hope this is a reason why they disliked me so much. I do try to find a reason why they hated me behind my back so long. I miss them but I’ll never talk to them again.

[@fionataylor4269]

Great video. Thank you. They ( the lower vibe / the insecure / the hateful) really want to get you upset, angry, and to see you in pain. Peace is in distance from the projection. Keep well fellow empaths.

[@VitalMGermaine]

Yes indeed. Keep well fellow empath!

[@Raul-nv7rr]

‘Acceptance is not easy… but it is empowering’-my take-away!! 👤

[@divine-interventioninfamou2521]

"Get medieval when needed" made me like & sub lol. So true tho as you're often told things like "yeah I get your mad and they were out of line but you don't need to shout or get so angry or upset or blah,blah,blah" but why not? We aren't children, we aren't here to please others and we certainly aren't robots so as long as we're not getting violent or anything why do others think they can try to stifle our natural and innate reactions to those that have crossed our boundaries?? That makes me go full beast mode on them too 😂 Really nice to hear a kindred soul supporting self expression when we've reached our limit with someone 🙏💖

[@van5948]

Excellent! Took me years of narcissistic abuse, because they gravitate towards us, in various areas of my life to finally come to this understanding. Now, I dont tolerate mistreatment from anyone. Not only for myself but for those around me. This message was perfect!

[@markusbroyles1884]

I'm 73 now. The times I've cheated death, done heroic deeds, been hell bent for leather, taken huge risks and been respected for these deeds are all the kudos I'll ever need from people. That's all done now. But the humor and fun and kindness and polite banter is the best. The very few times when I had to get violent ~ I won by a wide margin and the perps never came back. Never killed anyone, spouted accurate prophesies a couple times...which blows me away to this very day... But most of all I love God who is my real reward. His love and protection go with me where ever I am. Being alone is a blessing because that's when he's nearest to me. Knowing God and being favored and free by his providence is the freest feeling I've ever known. Being empathic didn't save me from my gangster in laws or dad or brothers or landlords. But I'm so happy and free of stress. Remember that Holiness is like loneliness but you're with GOD !! Nothing can compare with the peace that surpasses all understanding ~ NOTHING !!!

[@VitalMGermaine]

PEACE :)

[@boobookittie9274]

God bless you for this - my walk with God is the only thing that has kept me alive….I’ve known my whole life I was a light bearer and we know darkness can not comprehend the light. I have been bullied, used and disrespected my whole life. But the God that dwells in me has preserved my life for a reason and God bless his Mighty Name - I fear no one but God 🔥🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@candacedavison2986]

It's taken me 50 years to understand the whole "you're intimidating" comments are a them thing and not a me thing. 😊❤

[@michellehutchinson9569]

You are the first person who finally understands my traits! When you said 'inner warrior beast mode" I nearly spit out my coffee! It's like you've seen me switch when I get attacked by someone. It doesn't come out often but it's there. Thank you for this clip!

[@nmHispana]

Cowards always walk in darkness and indeed is very bothersome when for a fact your not wired that way, so always believe in yourself and holdfast to the truth and reality, while also knowing that you are so much stronger than you realize and eventually get to where you fear nothing, especially them and don't think that they don't know that!

[@VitalMGermaine]

Indeed.

[@lauriebailey9299]

I look at it this way sometimes. People don't remember what you have done for them but they only remember what you haven't done for them. Empath and an Indigo. It can be tough at times.

[@VitalMGermaine]

It can be very tough for empaths and indigo children.

[@highlovevibration]

Tell me about it 😓

[@annmarieknapp]

Some misperceive our ability to experience emotions as weakness, whenit is our strength.

[@VitalMGermaine]

A definite strength when you understand it, embrace it and leverage it. Until then... a huge curse.

[@annmarieknapp]

​@@VitalMGermaineThank you. How do I do this? I'm struggling and my light is beginning to dim. I'm so very tired. I developed a false self as a kid to survive and now we'll into middle-age I want off this treadmill. I've taught for decades and done my best to help my kiddos but my own life has been cruel. I'm just weary.

[@susiefairfield7218]

Been ostrisized by my family all my life; accepted it but feeling kinda hurt, now that I have fallen on hard times in my late 50s, and am homeless and not one person will help me. Hopefully I'll find someone truly sentient who can connect with me; kindly

[@E4TA67]

Ostracized here too also in my 50s. It's been a rough road. So sorry for your hard times. I buried myself in college and work through the years. Fear of homelessness always on my mind.

[@highlovevibration]

Same, I can relate totally, praying things get better for you 🙏we deserve better. ❤️

[@highplainsdrifter699]

Yip, me too .

[@Peace_and_Love_777.....]

I'm crying 😢 THIS is what I needed to hear... this is where I'm finally at after decades of neglect... I just needed to hear it from someone else to know that it is true and it's ok to get tough.... thank you.

[@VitalMGermaine]

We are not alone :)

[@limestonedustgardener]

I have twin brother and sister 50 years of it ....they broke my heart I gave and gave they took and took ,,,your money time and mind. Break free

[@DeeDarling]

When I realise other people experience what you are going through… We are not alone - and I can continue being me unapologetically!!! I don’t understand how we are hated for being contented with our lot!!! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@VitalMGermaine]

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@Treekneeeet]

We can’t get played. We know what they are going to say and do. We can see whats coming but we love to play dumb until we show our TRUE selfs and blow people away. Don’t mess with us, don’t test us. But we are mostly nice individuals that love privacy and on a need to know basis. Don’t take us personal. We gravitate towards people that are loyal and humble. We can tell if you are truly loyal. We cannot stand people that complain all the time and who just talk sh*t about people in a malicious manner. 💫💜

[@Crea05]

I dont know how I came across this video but I needed this. I’ve been down lately because being an empathy I feel the way people feel about me and it makes me feel lonely because I want to connect with people but many people I meet get jealous of my light for these exact reasons. I hope I meet more empathetic people. Thanks for this video

[@VitalMGermaine]

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@juliawitt3813]

This is all very well and good. And it's still a very very lonely life. The things we trigger in others can happen in an instant. As a true empath we learn to guard ourselves. In youth we deny our light. As we mature we real I ze our light is a trigger. To be honest, this came up in my feed, obviously to trigger me. Only an authentic light bearer can know that alone is it lonely, despite how it often feels.

[@INFJparadox]

I’m an INFJ….story of my life and why I have had so many jobs. Really evil people in this world no matter how kind respectful and hard working you are. It’s always catty drama filled women that will lie and target you and will make your life hell. I just got fon Friday and I have bin legal field for 30 years. Amazing how many people do not believe in Karma. The Universe never forgets 💖🙏💖

[@VitalMGermaine]

Not easy as an INFJ

[@videogamekitty]

Same here, my friend! I've had to just focus on myself and the very few people I connect with now.

[@FifiR3]

INFP here and man, do I feel your pain. And yes, the Universe never forgets🙏

[@FifiR3]

​@@zebralphomega💯👏 my life story

[@highplainsdrifter699]

INFJ, story of my life too 🙄

[@buzzy-230bps]

My circle keeps getting smaller... I have an inner core of 2 that I trust and a few outside of that and then a few social acquaintances. In order to protect my sense of worth, self-Love, and vibration, it must be small. It's taken me a lifetime to figure that out. Sending Love❤❤❤

[@theevolvingmindset333]

Today is the day (5/15/24) that I recognize and acknowledge that I'm an Empath. At the age of 53. Thank you for this video and the explanation of an Empath. I've always felt these things throughout my life and never understood it. I was a people pleaser with very little boundaries and EVERYONE in my circle took advantage of that UNTIL God sent my husband into my life to teach me boundaries and lighten the load I was carrying with my dysfunctional family and friends.

[@VitalMGermaine]

CONGRATS!!!

[@laughoncomedy2923]

I pray God almighty bring me an Empathetic wife too.

[@theevolvingmindset333]

@@laughoncomedy2923 continue to believe that and don’t waver. Be a righteous man. She will appear. Come back here to this comment when your prayer is answered. 🙏🏽

[@laughoncomedy2923]

@@theevolvingmindset333 Amen definitely I will come.

[@VitalMGermaine]

@@laughoncomedy2923 That would be nice, right!

[@Gk2003m]

0:47: this holds for anyone with a hint of enlightenment. The moment you cease feeding into the negativity loop, you lose the friendship of those still stuck there

[@reesedaniel5835]

What I consider the "negativity loop" is false positivity based on willful ignorance and acceptance of blatant lies and obvious propaganda.

[@jaeljade3609]

I sure get a lot of hate and vitriol online when I try to show another side to something most people might not think of. Yesterday I sure got it when I was trying to get people to stop throwing fish down on the beach. It's a custom I've always hated. I don't like seeing animals being treated as less than us. Their life has just as much purpose as mine or theirs. PETA has gotten involved and they get a lot of hate, too.

[@ravenmeyer3740]

I hate people. Humans suck.

[@2000wattz]

Being raised by a narcissist stepfather and a mother with BPD ( along with other issues), I spent the first half of my life being nice and people pleasing people who I knew were bad people. Thinking that if I extended kindness to them they would treat me better. After 6 years of therapy I learned that I owe it to myself to set boundaries and to take up the space that I need regardless of how anyone feels about it. I am only nice to people who are nice to me, and I humiliate those who are nasty. It’s a liberating awareness!

[@evadebruijn]

This. ✌️

[@JeanMccreesh]

At 63 and having experienced abusive rejecting people all my life I totally get this. It is so isolating, and depressing. You do have to rise above it and accept it, and yes, make those boundaries strong. Focus on the good in the world, the beauty of nature. Personal faith and self respect gets me through now, and knowing that I am a kind giving person, and will not, and do not deserve such toxic behavior, by being used, manipulated, or insulted by those in the haze of darkness. Love to all of you unique, kind and generous souls out there. ❤ 🇨🇦

[@highlovevibration]

😘💕

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

The last two years I have learned about narcissism, empathy, boundaries, and self love. When you say no and mean it, watch the reaction of the people. Healthy well adjusted people will accept it. The ones who react poorly want to control you and are either narcissistic and or toxic. Such a small word makes a big impact on finding out the character of others.

[@ginabosque]

The Buddhists say: Buddha’s heart, devil’s fist. ❤

[@VitalMGermaine]

LOVE IT

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Wonderfull, never heard that before

[@cathymiller2798]

Buddha is a demonic counterfeit idol

[@blankearth5840]

In a nutshell, I come from a difficult, dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, they thought I was a gift from grandma that passed away, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me saying “you haven’t made it sound any better” when I told him that I finally got to be with my brother I never got to grow up with, and he even went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and another person made a negative comment about me wanting a life there with my family and he said “you don’t seem to realize you want a warped and distorted view of your family.” and calling me a “poster child of emotional immaturity”. 😓…even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…and my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life with their families and their siblings, I believe it is the most basic thing a kid can have… but I can’t? I’m not supposed to?… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “how on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. all that I wanted was a life there with my family… why would anyone be wrong for that?

[@jawsjawsjawsjaws]

The good news is that once you prosper, and you will (although it will take longer than you would like) it will be you who did it on their own which is something very few people can say. Stay strong and love will find you.

[@cmbhalupowski]

You are not alone. God bless you

[@nomadame333]

❤

[@nooma2613]

you have to say "f*ck them"! wish them all well, next wish yourself well, then go on about the task of healing yourself. You do this by reprogramming your subconscious mind, the mind that was programmed with problems by your upbringing. so look up these things on youtube and do them DAILY: listen to binaural beats with subliminal messages on self love, self worth, self esteem, self confidence etc. then look up EFT Tapping and do that several times a day. Also meditate for at least 5 minutes a day. Do these things as if your life depends on it, Because IT Does, the very quality of your life depends on changing the programming you have. These are free options. If you can also see a psychologist, some have sliding scales, also towns, cities have low cost ones, so look on internet for that. I hope you're able to receive this message, your life will only get worse if you don't, I'm hoping you make the right decision for your life. Sending this message with love :)

[@dayamitrasaraswati6276]

Thank you for this video! I have recently begun to re-descover my authentic self. I began being a people pleaser after being punished every day in kindergarten for being too shy to put my hand up to ask to go to the toilet. I eventually met and developed a friendship with a little boy who also didn't fit in. Sadly he died (hit by a car) a few weeks after we met and I found myself alone again. I was ostracized by the other kids because I was seen as a "trouble maker" for not following the rules. The death of my only friend led me to people pleasing as a way of coping with the loneliness I felt after losing my only friend. It has taken me till now (I am 62) to realize I was a people pleaser and to take back my authenticity. I look back and admire the little girl who took the beatings at school and the ostracizing by the other kids because I was always being hit for not complying. The loneliness I felt after my friend died pushed me to sacrifice my true self. I no longer care what people think. I no longer care if I must "go it alone". It's been an interesting journey to re-discoveting who I truly am and taking back control. Thanks again for your video.

[@FifiR3]

👏👏👏 I hear you, I feel your words as my own❤

[@xellahco]

Empathy is power, it’s triggering to the pain people hold within them. Never lose your light, we are love ❤️🖤🤍💚