Why are Enablers More Dangerous Than Narcissists?

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@michaelgarrow3239]

How does a narcissist know so much about human nature to manipulate minds? Demons are real. I have seen tracks in the sand. Humans don’t have cloven hooves.

[@dv52528]

Story of my life! We have no one to call family, we have always been an orphan. We are extremely courageous and powerful 😊

[@rahulm2827]

Correct. And on top, some ppl have a slow awakening. I had the habit of just trying to believe or convince myself that some ppl might not be bad because a father is supposed to be a father, a mother a mother and brothers and sisters just brother and sisters. This slow awakening and painful realizations are so brutal if you think about it.

[@coldfact.]

Yes to both of these comments!! I am 49 & realizing a lot. I pray it away sometimes bcuz its too much. Extremely overwhelming that I trusted & was so oblivious in my family. Even after they showed me time & time again. I was basically created to be a perfect scapegoat. Played my part well enuf to enhance their lives while ruining mine! My mind can be in a wild maze of hurt that I practice taming; Ive lost so much. I pray for redemption everyday.

[@joseenoel8093]

That you are, always have been and always will be, they don't back us up they mow us over!

[@joseenoel8093]

​@@rahulm2827ok but don't be hard on yourself, survive we must survive you did, least you know and somehow something underscored that something wasn't right otherwise you'd never have known, we had our turn dealing with them now they're in someone else's path creating misery there, it sucked to be us and now it sucks to be them, no contact is no laughing matter but we do and strive for being at our best and contact with them won't achieve that!

[@thejavandenberg4509]

So proud of you , I m a orphan too from the age of six months , and still strong

[@jodioravets6805]

I can totally relate what you're going thru. My family does the same thing. They act like they are your friends but stab you in the back behind closed doors

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

You can’t leave them? Go no contact and stop your suffering.

[@erinhanna6323]

Narcissists absolutely collect information...pure predation and super creepy.

[@janiced.hatcher1272]

@@erinhanna6323 yessssssss 100 thumbs up 👍

[@reenageorge6140]

Yes.. Flying monkeys are very dangerous 😢😥 most of them are narcissists

[@jc4r20n8]

My 59 year old daughter physically threatened me if I call out the lies of her narcissistic father. She also came up with the lie that I abused her as a child but she handed over her two kids for me to look after for 15 years while she worked. I am having nightmares about her and her husband beating to death. Her husband even refused to plunge my toilet. He accused me of plugging it and wouldn't do it while he was standing in my home. I had to get my neighbor do it the next day. My husband regularly plugs the toilet and my son in law drives over and plunges it. I live in hell!

[@clearthings9282]

malayali?

[@godschildyes]

​@@jc4r20n8 Do everything to get out of Hell! You have chosen to remain in Hell! 😮

[@MrTwinkieeater]

Naturally

[@rimagaming130]

They are not dangerous,,, you are the danger Hero and they hate u cause they’re afriad of how strong your soul is… ❤

[@FergusGrant]

Uff, Danish, I totally agree. So many phrases you said chimed with my experiences: The ultimate betrayal; you have no family; the narcissist abusing you by proxy... Each one is devastating in itself but add them all together... It can feel like there will be no end. So much misplaced trust.

[@briandrake6881]

Flying Monkeys were some of my most vicious opponents. Facts.

[@b8akaratn]

5:55 -- that is brutal. i am Really sorry you had to go through something like that. It's miraculous you survived all that you have, Danish. Wow...

[@m998hmmwv7]

That's exactly how I feel.. Related by injection only..

[@godschildyes]

Danish, I had to cut a so-called friend off recently due to her husband trying to abuse me through her! It all happened after I was hit by a drunk driver, so it was during a cery difficult time in my life! She does absolutely everything he says, and I have seen her exemplify almost all of these things you speak of. It blows my mind how accurate your videos are. 😮

[@rahulm2827]

I was about to say the same thing. Danish's analysis are very often a 1 to 1 of the exact things I have experienced myself!!!

[@godschildyes]

@@rahulm2827 Yes, absolutely true!

[@ifishineushine]

This is very important to know about especially if you went no contact with the narcissist! I would get asked weird and random questions about money, future goals, and plans about upcoming events that I never discussed with them and so on. I’ve already lost too many long time friends to start this all over again. Thank you Danish for sharing this, your channel has helped me so much!

[@klarissam8719]

My narcissistic mother was always persuading me from a child to kiss butt,and fake flattery. Along with demanding I be respectful of them/ those. That was mistreating me, disrespectful, insults etc. My mother set me up in life to attract other narcissists. Male partners, fake narc friends. Narcissists family members will join up with other people to set you up ,and harm you. They are quick to tell you what's not happening to you. Down playing,and deceiving everything. Making fun,and laughing about everything. "That's all in your mind" These people everywhere not just family members. They are landlords, co workers,etc creating chaos & trouble for your life. My narcissists Mother has always been the enabler to the other narcissists. Her husband has severe anger problems. He will rage for hours,and will not leave you alone. He likes to get up in your face personal space. Steady yelling and talking down to you. Instead of my mom telling her husband to leave people alone. She is dismissive,and joins in on the abuse. This man will start random arguments,and trouble out of nowhere. Will make up all sorts of lies,and my mother believed all his lies. Because she herself is LIAR. They lie,and play victim to hide their abusive ways. When you won't put up with their abuse. Said calling her,and her husband's behavior out is not going to be tolerated. She will result to smear campaigns. Calling other narcissists family members to gossip,and lie. That you are the bad person.But they are abusing you. The more you won't take their abuse the more angrier they become. They will join in ,and enable narcissists trouble making neighbors. My mom would do this, and with narc landlords. They will send other enablers after you to harass you. Send stranger people to your home. The evil they do they will stop at nothing to disrupt your life.

[@pamb8797]

! Yes - this is so true. It was much harder for me to figure out the enabler for the very reasons you describe. That meant that I stayed too long, in the toxic narcissistic family, because I was conned.

[@michellehumphreys]

I stayed decades too long. The damage is real. I should have left when I was 5 to be honest, but that would have taken the authorities stepping in and intervening. Instead, my family is powerful and used it to keep me under their control. I tried moving away many many times but they always find me and either sabotaged my attempts and or hoovered me and loved bombed me back or used others to shame and blame me for moving away in the 1st place or a combination of all of these tactics. When your powerful abusive controlling family doesn't want you to speak the truth and you have been trying to speak the truth and ask for help since childhood and they know this, this is why they scapegoat you and tell everyone you are crazy and smear you because they are afraid that one day you will finally be believed and their abuse that they have been trying to cover up will finally be exposed. And deep down all their enablers and flying monkeys can see that it's you in the hot seat and they just don't want it to be them so they will betray you to your abuser so that they don't get in trouble. And the bigger and more powerful and well-connected your abusers are the bigger their circle of enablers and flying monkeys are all working for your abuser till you find yourself practically isolated. And THIS IS exactly what your abusers want! They are controlling you and your life from afar with the help of others. Abuse by proxy. They stole my entire life. I'll never get those decades back. It's too late. It is what it is but I will never speak to them again. I never want to see their faces or hear any of their voices ever again. Its bad enough I still have nightmares about them.

[@pamb8797]

@@michellehumphreys Exact description of what happened to us. It takes decades to both survive and figure all of this out. It's a very harsh path to walk. We are fortunate that family scapegoating abuse, in narcissistic and dysfunctional families, is finally be revealed to the public. For me, I'm out and will never go back to that hell hole.

[@michellehumphreys]

@pamb8797 Yes, that's exactly the problem, isn't it. They run the clock down on you & your life. They watch you struggling to survive behind their masks as they only pretend to care pretend to love you when really behind your back they are doing everything in their power to make sure you fail, then they look down their noses at you and put you down. The day I saw behind their masks and saw how ON PURPOSE it all was. My male abusive step parent mocking me, laughing at me, angrily yelling at me to 'get over it' is the day I looked straight into the abyss that is HELL and I said NO MORE! I went & slept in my car in the snow! They create such a competitive environment that everyone around you (siblings) is just trying to survive, so it becomes very dog eat dog. Siblings pitted against each other, all vying to be the golden child and not the scapegoat. And NO ONE wants to trade places with the scapegoat, so it can turn into an ugly mob all ganging up on the target with everyone trying to prove their loyalty to the powerholders in a bid to save themselves. Tyrants don't attack their followers who are drinking the Kool-Aid and upholding the party line, they go after the truth tellers to discredit them and silence them. And it's almost impossible for the target to figure out what is going on because they are being gaslit and manipulated and have very few if any other people who can validate their reality. But you are right, things are starting to change, people are waking up and hopefully in the future people will be able to realize what they are dealing with sooner rather than later and have the vocabulary to be able to articulate and adequately describe what they are experiencing so that they can be heard and be believed and get the help and support they need to break free. Good to hear you made it out!

[@pamb8797]

@@michellehumphreys I enjoy your description because it's right on. When we look back, are we not amazed we made it out?! The gaslight and the abuse was so overwhelming and for so long. For me, it started preverbal. And then ALL of this while they tell us they love us SO MUCH! Needless to say, it was all exposed when I was told I "ruined the life of my mother and so many others" How did I do that single handedly? because I had to self-differentiate in order to heal from all of the abuse? (violence and alcoholism and cover-up to their dying days)

[@michellehumphreys]

@pamb8797 I am so sorry to hear that, and I 100 % relate to your experience! No, I can't believe that me or my siblings or my loved ones survived. Really, we shouldn't have. We still struggle, and I am wracked with guilt that I couldn't have got us all out sooner, but I did try many times. Thanks to Therapists both online and in person I now understand that it was family scapegoating abuse and Multigenerational trauma that I was born into and being the oldest and put in the scapegoat role early in life and my siblings being too young to remember or validate and then them being abused as well and not wanting to be in my shoes left me to struggle alone for decades while my abusers lied to my face and behind my back digging my grave basically and everyone else looking on watching me get worse and worse as I was trapped and couldn't get away from the gaslighting and manipulation which just made me sound crazy but really I'm just severely traumatized. I am so thankful and grateful to those Angels who saw through the BS and validated my reality instead of pathologizing me even more and set me on a better path. 🙏 ❤️ Wild horses couldn't drag me back there again! Thank 💗 you for your comments, it's always good to talk to other survivors who understand! I wish you all the very best! 🫂 🤗

[@Soralella71]

My mum was the enabler. She has hurt me more than my narcissistic father. The narcissist was a pathetic loser and I gave up on him when I was young, but my mum... she was not supposed to do that to me.

[@chainsawbetty]

Same here, friend! 💔🙏🏻

[@hobbyfarMarm]

Being betrayed by your one ally in the family is tough. That happened to me also

[@michellehumphreys]

A fake friend is worse than a fierce enemy! Oh thank you for this video! This is exactly 💯 true and once you see it and catch on to it you can't un see it. It's hard to accept that this is happening and who all is involved but you have to accept it and stop playing along.

[@lynylcullen8370]

All too true! It’s been a nightmare!

[@kerrytaggart8206]

Agree with your opinion. Part of our identity is who we are in relation to family and friends. It is a death of our own soul to walk away with hope of a peaceful rebirth but it is a painful and isolating process to let go and go through.

[@michellehart3441]

After 27 years of marriage to my narcissistic, alcoholic, bipolar husband...I left. I had no one. Apparently he was already getting to my adult kids behind my back! My son saw right through his lies, but when I realized my daughter was buying his lies, THIS FINALLY BROKE ME! I have NEVER been so heartbroken than my own baby from my body turning on me! He is evil! It has taken 3 years for her to see through his lies and is now back in my life, thank you, God! Danish, as always, thank you for your video and helping heal my heart! I'm sorry you had to go through this in your life. I'm also sorry ANYONE has to withstand this kind of pain! It's worse than PUNCHES, but you are helping so many people like me heal and I appreciate you and send my love and good vibrations back to you!😘🥰☮️

[@bla-t5f]

a narcissist can't go far without their flying monkeys

[@karensibal3314]

Amazing video, one of your best ones. I just got rid of another enabler today, I needed this video. Thanks Danish

[@rahulm2827]

Some of my cousins are such heartless enablers. They always used to wish me privately on my birthday but never on fb or in family grps. I thought its weird but didnt think about it much for many, many year. Until I realized and heard and saw things. I've blocked them now. Anyhow, its specially painful for me because I used to cling on family members and shower them with trust, love and brotherhood because I have lost so many basic relations and friendships over the years that I just wanted to hold on to the ones I had left. Also, I always thought that there one evil person is rare and ppl will side with me against evilness. But thats not the case. There are a lot of evil ppl in my life. And more than that, even more enablers. They will not blink before completely trampling upon my trust and insult my affection afforded to them. I now live by the rule: if you disrespect me, I'm turning away from you. No last discussion or fight, no exposure, no nothing at all. I'll just be gone. It is relieving and it does feel like the right thing and the healthy thing to do but the thought/feeling of missing justice is still there.

[@joseenoel8093]

Drama is what they need/what they create not caring who they hurt or the lies, my bro married my old bf onto no contact as I'm sick of her judgy slanders, he had an affair with her mom for ate teen yrs, (she is that dumb). I am a chick forest technician, I've been planting milkweed for decades. Visiting yrs back she proudly showed me planted ones in their asphalt driveway, I pointed out it is too hot a location which she didn't like, no one likes the truth sayers, I brought this story up to my bro sending him article on freezing monarch sperm for future generations. Tomorrow is her b-day, told him to give her a vile of it which she can share with her mom (still married as they're all victims and she takes care of her ageing mom)... He's a little dumb, possibly more visual so I sent this pic 🕹🥛🕹 🌈🙋🏞

[@kerrytaggart8206]

Ditto that in my life as well. It is a relief to know that there are others out there who have experienced the same thing.

[@TMoniq]

💪🏾💪🏾

[@angelaotten3224]

Everything you talk about, I can relate to. It is great to finally understand what has happened to me, and now I can work on healing.

[@leahhatch9524]

Wow Danish you make all this soooo clear. Oh my goodness

[@hugh261]

I feel your pain Danish, I know it in my relations, all too well. I'm happy to hear your clarity and glad you've recovered so much.

[@pam8056]

Very well said, important information. I have been blindsided by this betrayal also. "Abuse by proxy" - Superb way to see it- exactly what is happening.

[@TheCelestialhealer]

My mum is the enabler!! I didn t get it for ages. She did it to my father, now with my sister. Thank you soooo much, every word you said was spot on!! And YES!! she is actually worse than my narc father.

[@Cookfashion_andlifestyle23]

U r right they destroy our confidence & self respect. I can't forget there words every time repeating in my mind & I cry every time

[@Mary-lk8eq]

This is a VERY IMPORTANT overlook video,that will eventually be at the doorstep of many.The enablers, flying monkeys,are nothing without each other.I practice the mindset that one day I will look up& I'm alone. Well that's what happened,but you can't miss what you never had. Also you can do bad by yourself. These phrases is what keeps me going.

[@earthrooster1969]

Thanks for covering this. My Mom is the narc and my Dad the enabler. Right now my aging Mom is quite unwell and it's a crazy thing to watch as my Dad is always by her side. It's cringey how they are enmeshed in each other's lives and it's like they are trapped in each other's traps and don't seem to understand how to get out of it and outside help from family and friends are just not working...I am worried where this is headed really... And I am the family scapegoat.. watching the crazy drama that is unfolding since my early childhood till now that I am over 50... Danish...your story about your sister is quite similar to mine..i divulged my concerns with her only to realise I am wasting my time, energy and emotions...

[@m998hmmwv7]

Maybe your parents actually love each other? Narcissist they both may be...

[@earthrooster1969]

@@m998hmmwv7 when it's pure love, we do not condone another person's flaws ..but your comment is valuable as i uplift that idea. But to see them unable to function as healthy adults is really sad. When Love is confused with enmeshment it's like a trap that tightens its grip as time goes by...

[@AlvinKazu]

​ @m998hmmwv7 My enabler/covert father might actually love my overt/abusive mother.... But she doesn't love him. When you talk trash about your husband in front of your children while he's present or behind his back. Physically hitting him, and saying sht like "I would divorce him but he cannot afford me..." Isn't love on her part. LIterally a transaction. "He cannot afford me...." Who says htat bs?

[@francesbernard2445]

All of what Danish Bashir says about enablers is correct. It isn't only just ego boosts that enablers are often after which might be intermittently rewards given by the narcissist(s). Sometimes it is more consulting fees too.

[@MzzAnnThrope]

I am convinced that all of these personality types are really people who lack or have lost their soul. They are empty vessels who seek to fill the void in any way possible. They seem to be magnetically attracted to each other.

[@rebeccamay6420]

Thank you for clarifying the term "enabler." I might have misunderstood it to be more like a co-dependent or a people-pleaser, not much more than passively giving permission for the abusive behaviors by not holding someone accountable for the consequences of their actions or inactions.

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

Danish I am so sorry you had to experience this in so many ways with your family, sister and a friend. It is so painful to experience this and heartbreaking 💔You feel so betrayed by your own family and stabbed in the back by your friend. You never have had a shoulder to cry on, like many of us and never have experienced support. I am so sorry that your sister whom you trusted and SAID and then to find out that behind your back she would take the side of your parents and talked about you with your parents. Indeed it feels like a part of your soul is dying ....😪😪It is really mindboggling when you witness this behaviour and I have witnessed this with my best friend and my parents who would accuse me and talked towards me about my behaviour while I was not the one who was doing things wrongly. It makes you doubt yourself and question yourself very often. It feels very lonely when you have to admoi that you do not have family anymore....while they are still alive......You have to grieve your family when they are still alive and it is very very hard to accept this fact. Thank you Danish for sharing your painful experience and you should be so prod of yourself that you survived this and are now so succesful with helping other survivors of narcissistic abuse and you are so succesful as you know so well how all this abuse feels and that is the best ingredient to help others deal with and help with this abuse 🙏Thank you Danish for all your video's and all your help, you are helping so many survivors from all over the world with your video's 💚🙏💚 Inspite of all the pain you endured , you are still helping others and therefore you are very strong, compassionate and empathetic 💖The world needs people like you Danish as narcissism is an epidemic right now with all the social media!

[@TMoniq]

It's such a betrayal no one understands unless experienced. The worst feeling ever is betrayal because you trusted that person and why would they take part in seeing me hurt?. Because they're covert, two faced monitoring, gossiping people.

[@Thrillingg]

This is really true and I appreciate you posting this content.

[@michellemooney6996]

I agree with this. Thank u so much for sharing this. You always make things so much easier to understand.

[@SB_BP]

Beautifully explained ❤❤❤ I can relate with my family incidents and also with the working situations. Same experience.

[@joyasydulcescoronado1673]

Oh wow! This is revealing. Thank you so much for your help. This video has answered a lot of questions.

[@MonsterDame]

My ex roommate is with a narcissist and their son is a narcissist. She enabled them both. I tried for a restraining order against the boyfriend and she patted herself on the back for my stress of getting it done and him getting arrested for a separate reason. I told her don't mess up my case and when she didn't respond, I knew she would and she did. She let her son run our house and snapped on me for setting boundaries with him being allowed home alone. I already told her I was moving and she she pretended that she didn't get it. I left without saying anything and she cried victim. I didn't need her telling anyone when I was leaving.

[@solmazsurvivor]

Most of the partners are enablers of their gf/bf. I'm happy she didn't tell you had eyes on her bf. Because in my case without any reaction from my side, she said I had eyes on her life and bf 🤢🤢🤢. They're garbage with lots of issues trying to project them on others.

[@MonsterDame]

@@solmazsurvivor oh no...he wasn't a looker. I thought he was older than her 10 years ago and he only looks worse. He was mad that I got a boyfriend and that's when it crossed a line. Once he got involved I was done placating her victim behavior.

[@AlvinKazu]

​ @solmazsurvivor Back about 10 years ago or so it was notorious that I would have the gfs of these guys i was talking to say I was stealing them away from her. It was so... odd... Now I can see its' all manipulation, gaslighitng, craziness and psychopathy on their part... All because I was nice andk ind to these bfs and they didn't like that I was telling their bfs they were no good. The first time was in HS with a "Friend"(ended up being a POS), who was dating this girl. He spent something like $800 on her for new clothing for Senior year of HS or something, and I Just would tell him that he's beign taken advantage of and sht. One point she ended up writing a 2 page rant to her BF saying all this nasty stuff to him and how he should go out with me instead 😆!? Delusional nutjobs.

[@EnglishBulldogMom]

I have the same issue..my parents are narcissists and my sister is the biggest one dumped on me..she now does not speak to me since 2020..I have learned so much from you ..thank you so much …I have my family I created but no more contact with my husbands family and my family…both are narcissists…

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Danish. You are 100-percent correct. What you say is exactly how it went,

[@reginafarias]

Thank you for this video!

[@terriarnold4364]

My x-narc is w/another evil and destructive together.So grateful and thankful I am no longer part of his life!🙏❤️🙏💜

[@OhCanada2019]

Lots of love to you Danish for bringing up this topic. I blindly trusted my mother in law for all the ten years and very recently realized that she is main culprit behind my husbands narcissistic behaviour. He has shown me that hell but I always believed and respected my mil. Recently I got to know her real nature how she provokes my husband against me in my absence

[@sidnasir5483]

From this video now i am aware that who is enabler in my case. I was not thinking of her as enabler. Now i know it all

[@thasneemaumer4318]

हे, you are absolute right.

[@OptimisticSaturnPlanet-yz8mc]

You were alone in a crowd growing up. I feel that ! Im sorry for your struggle like me, but God works wonders. Ten years of nark abuse and I'm outta there!! Im no longer an enabler and ive always fought against any ungodly intentions. I would alway try to point out the good stuff in life. Not be so stuck in a toxic, karmic cycle thats blocking his blessings. I've always had my own mind.Thank you for your help and support 🙏🏾💜💪🏽 Blessed 🐝💜🪻

[@BadEngrishBle]

So true, people like that needs discernment because they don't show arrogance, they're not loud & can blend in. But they're the ones who twist the truth & spread lies.

[@glendaruiz2477]

Thank you Danish.

[@blackqueen379]

Story of my life. Thank you for this video.

[@LindsayLoo-q5d]

Thank you for sharing your personal experiences.

[@ladyoy]

I just found you but I can honestly say that I find you most relatable amongst other narc gurus like seriously maybe it’s Asian family. My sister said the same thing. You do You. I didn’t realized flying monkey can be as bad as the enabler and narc 😅 but with time we kinda see that they always go to gossip with narc and laugh at you. Man but the You do You is the exact quote she told me. 😂 now she’s fighting with the other narcs. They all are fighting. I’m glad I left all of them. ❤

[@arianasha]

Danish I honour your astute wisdom.. thank you so much!

[@melodysanquist4834]

This right here! The narcissist is only the eye of the storm oftentimes while those who walk these devils right into the middle of our lives are almost never discussed

[@GEETHAPK-or4ei]

Your videos giving me good inspiration.I am a narsisitic abusive recoveror.From India

[@catherinesilverman8677]

I've finally realized this about my sister. She acts supportive but has broken my confidence, time and again, first with my mother, who was the head narcissist, and now with my youngest brother, who's also a narc. My mother died several years ago, and my brother "took over" as head narc in the family.

[@MrTwinkieeater]

Keep doing The Lord's work. 🙏

[@TheSatyanandayoga]

I feel very sorry listening your personal story.The same situation I have been through.I have sacrifice d my whole life for my family.For me the relationship is of utmost importance,but I couldn't save it The only way left for me is living for others ,serving people.

[@geertana6779]

You are a great person sir, i learned a lot from your videos, i have got a clarity of thoughts from your videos, thank you so much sir ,amazing video sir

[@MichNative01]

Totally agree, you are dead on. In my husband's family, there is no one to trust. I cut them out of my life years ago.

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

I really feel for you ❤ I have no family either, despite having many living close relatives. Despite your sister going through the same as you, as I'm sure you know, children can go one of two ways, and she clearly followed the parents as a narcissist. My brother was actually the one who said our mother was a sociopath. We agreed to have a chat with her, and If she showed no remorse (she'd tell each of us horrible things about the other to destroy our relationship) etc then we'd cut ties. Which I did. Even when she wrote and sent stuff months after. With no letters of remorse, apology or responsibility. But he didn't. A couple months later he's back in contact, and chooses to have her at his wedding, over me and my children. It was devastating. He later, a few months after I kicked my abusive husband out, decided to forward a letter from his father, who I'd had no contact with since he assaulted me 23 years earlier when I was 16!! I keep very minimal contact with brother now.

[@karishmagodage284]

Please let us know how to protect from such enablers & how to heal from betrayal trauma by them when you realise this fact

[@catherineo6640]

I am totally in agreement with you. Thank you.

[@sandradorsey5001]

Thank-you 🤔💬 this is so true. Thank's for this topic.

[@lolo9553ify]

Narcissists also enable other narcissists. I've seen them in little groups in theater sometimes, each one chuckling at other narcissists' put-downs and bullying tactics. I've learned to focus on everyone but them. I ignore them and focus on the non-narcissistic people. You can help in such situations by calmly objecting and walking away from the narcissists. Don't engage with or encourage them. However, do watch your back - think like a bodyguard for yourself and others...

[@jocelineblerot7887]

All very true. I agree. I have the same junk siblings, relatives, acquaintances(building where I live). Silence is the best solution as is no contact. They refuse to change, and I agree, most of these enablers are narcs themselves.

[@AlvinKazu]

up to 3:20, but Danish's example of the Enabler is different from my Enabler Father. My Enabler father doesn't really seem to care about my feelings, while pretending/telling-me he does. It's like he will tell me he loves me and this and that, and show his "fake nice guy" attitude and pretend to love me and tell me he loves me... But if I ever bring up my pain and suffering inflicted by mom, I get "it takes 2 to tango," "you're too sensitive," "If you let what others say affect you, it gives them control of you," etc etc. If I vent out and rage in my room alone, he would come out and tell me to yell into a pillow, because "it upsets mom and him..." ....? I can see Danish's fake kind enabler who fakes being there for you, but my father is more neglectful... While also pretending to be there for me... But he never was. He will say how mom is crazy and this and that, but hten goes right back to being her puppet. AS Danish said, they have no actual self. IT's so weird and absolutely fking distgusting to watch my father parrot my mother's comments without him thinking about what he's saying. But there is never any empathy or sympathy, it's all nonsense and I'm just "too sensitive." I never was able to express my feelings, or even have a self, myself. Lately I'm realizing so much. Things such as how certain things that are done/said are disrespectful to me, and I need to realize what is and isn't disrespect. I had to live my life just trying to "move on" from abuse, because I was never allowed to stick up for myself, or get into fights for fear of my mother sending me away and abandoning me, because I was threatened to be sent to military school at age 8, because I was lied about in school and instead of asking me about it, mom just raged at me. IT's true sickness, and it's so sad that we have/had to live our life walking on eggshells, not realizing we have feelings and deserve respect and kindness too. That if someone treats us poorly we just have to take it, for fear of more retribution and it being our fault just because someone blames us for something. Just because they feel like it's our fault, doesn't mean they have the right to treat us like trash and blame us. I will say that one of the reasons I started questioning the relationship was when I moved back to my old area I grew up in, to live in my grandparent's home we inherited and I heard my father in the room with one of the old neighbors telling him all my business. That I didn't have a job and was working for him or something and how dad wanted me to get actual work, and then making fun of me because I wanted a good chair because I worked in software and am at my desk all day every day, so i wanted something expensive. So dad was making fun of the fact I wanted a $1200 chair and told this neighbor and he was just "Wow who needs a $1200, that's stupid." Meanwhile this guy spends money on all sorts of BS, doesn't have a job, and lives off of his wife's teacher salary and what he inherited from his father's junkyard. Then I went out to eat with this neighbor like a week or 2 later after my parents had left, and this POS is saying how I need a job and this and that, and just basically being a POS towards me, and I had to explain I'm working on stuff, etc etc, but why should I have to?? Then he wanted to go out again the next week and told me I Should call him, and I said okay, and didn't call him, and i didn't hear from him again. I also kept asking him to go to one of the ski mountains with me, since he drives and is more comfortable with those roads, and he kept making excuses and saying I should go myself. Basically saying he doesn't want to ski with me, even though he seemed to want to... idfk so stupid. I really looked at my father different after stuff like that... and it all started happening around the time I moved. He also cried and hugged me at their home saying how much he's going to miss me and can't be without me... Then when we get to grandparents home, he tells me he wants to go out hiking at the old spots alone, and I asked "can i come with you," and he says "Sorry, I just want to be alone...." I realized later how ridiculous this was. Crying and being all huggy before the move, then when I get to old area and getting ready to not see them for a number of months to a year, he doesn't want to spend the last bit of time with me? Fking insanity. He also was arguing about money he owed me and trying to play it off like it's always my issue ... it took like 6 years to finally come to terms with it all after all the abuse. But it just goes to show. They will "Pretend" to be your friend, try to act nice... but in the end, don't care about you in the slightest.

[@MaryCaroline-qt2fz]

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[@AlvinKazu]

@@MaryCaroline-qt2fz Thank you.

[@MaryCaroline-qt2fz]

@@AlvinKazu You're so welcome. Honestly, your story is so heartbreaking. I feel your pain. No one deserves to be treated this way. It's so dreadfully painful when you have to come to terms with the fact that your family is so cruel and heartless. I hope that you'll, eventually, make your own way, find your own peace and find people whom will be true and genuinely loving to you. Sometimes, it's the closest to us whom hurt us the most, but when we break free from their control, we will be stronger and never let anyone disrespect us again. You deserve to be treated with genuine love and respect. ❤️❤️❤️

[@AlvinKazu]

@@MaryCaroline-qt2fz Thank you, I appreciate your kind words and comments. It's a real shame, but we can only move on and try to fix the broken pieces ourselves. All the best to you.

[@MaryCaroline-qt2fz]

@@AlvinKazu Yes, you're right. We must find the strength to heal. But, we can do it. And, if we find healthy and, genuinely, kind hearted people to support us, this will help us to regain our self esteem. Thanks for your good wishes, and I wish All the Best to you too.

[@priyanka-shines]

My father is an enabler. He would back my husband and criticise me n my son for everything. Then he learnt his lesson when my hubby became hell bent on keeping me and a mistress simultaneously. 😮

[@rhondabaldridge2583]

I know how that feels Mr. Bashir. I had two sisters left after my parents passed away, and they are both narcissist

[@garycooper9207]

I realized just couple months back my dad was enabler. I thought he was the best but now I think why didn't he rescue me. I thought he was nice to me, he never shout or hit me or called me names like my big sister and mother did. My dad died almost 25 years ago and now in my 40's I realized how things were.. He was lovely to me but he didn't save me and it hurts😢

[@Yeehaw0588]

Same, the worst part is I don't think he is conscious about the whole thing, but his fear of being alone will never allow him to leave that woman, he is a coward.

[@garycooper9207]

@@Yeehaw0588 😔

[@AlvinKazu]

My father would shout, rage, yell, etc when my mother was upset, at me. If mom freaked out about something when we were kids, instead of her getting the blame for "interupting his work," I would get the blame for "The reason she got upset." It's SICK. I was physically, emotionally, and mentally abused by both of them. I just thought my father loved me and was just angry because of work and mom didn't hlep... But I realize he never cared about my feelings or anything, and it's all about her. Pure sickness.

[@garycooper9207]

@@AlvinKazu 😔

[@33asiamonet33]

This is so true!

[@sherricoffman]

ThankYou4Sharing Danish!!! ❤ 🕊 ⚜♦️ 🕯 MuchLove

[@riddhidharaiya5032]

I know how painful such a dynamic is....🙏🙏

[@geethajoel7132]

100 percent you are correct.

[@sylviagonzales1680]

My mom is the narcissist, and my dad is the enabler. Now that I don’t speak to either of them, my 2 brothers have been reaching out to me to go see my sick grandmother who they say doesn’t have very much longer to live. I’ve been feeling conflicted if I should make the trip to go see my grandma and I feel conflicted because I really don’t want to go and I’m pregnant. Not to mention my grandma is the narcissist and that’s why my mom is one.

[@Soralella71]

Don't go. Narcissists don't deserve your love/time.

[@sylviagonzales1680]

@@Soralella71 yeah I’m not going

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

@@Soralella71 yess that is a very good reminder when you are feeling vulnerable and conflicted 🙏

[@AlvinKazu]

Think of it this way. Your CHILD deserves more love, care, and attention during this time than your evil family. What have they done for you exactly? We know the answer... NOTHING! Going will only upset you and affect your unborn child. You don't want them to harm your child in any way because of these demons. Not only that, you know you would have to deal with your parents and such. Let me ask you a question.... Did ANY OF THEM ever try to contact you while Grandma was still healthy? Did Grandma ever try to contact you? Did ANYONE CARE ABOUT YOU? The answer to the question above is the answer to if you should go or not. I'm going to venture a guess they never reached out to you at all during the "no-contact' phase and now that Grandma is going everyone all of a sudden "cares" about you. Right now, it's about you and your unborn child. For the first time in your life, it should be ABOUT YOU, not them.

[@sylviagonzales1680]

@@AlvinKazu thank you for your words, and no, no one from extended family ever reaches out to me for anything. I am considered the black sheep of the family because my mom turned everyone against me. And no, I will not be going, I already told my brothers, the trip for me is not possible.

[@AlvinKazu]

The issue with enablers is that they come off like they are actually good people are care about you, but in reality they only care about themselves, and their whole process is about making it as such. My enabler father only cares about mom's feelings and wants. Us Children were neglected by both of them. However my father will come off like he's my best friend and cares about me, but doesn't do what I want. He thinks that when Mom comes at me and is screaming/shouting at me, and that I tell her to leave me alone, and him sitting there and doing nothing until I say something and he will say "It does no good to fight back," or "fighting back is only going to make it worse." Is somehow "helping me." I calle dhim out on it once and I asked why he never sticks up for me, and say it does no good to fight back when she's attacking me, and he said "I do it to HELP you." These people will tell you they are 'helping" you but it's only HELPING themselves. They will gaslight you, manipulate you, and do everything possible to keep you in the fog. They also will manipulate the narc, even though they are the narc's puppet/attack-dog/flying-monkey. They are liars, hypocites, and just awful people. Be WARY of those who are overly nice. and its' sad to say this ,because I try to be a "nice/kind" person, even though the way I act is a direct result of the abuse, as part of the "niceness" is to not have to deal with other people's abuse. It's sad because it sounds similar to the enabler/faker. But unlike the enabler, I don't have an agenda to manipulate people and get something from them. ENABLERS ALWAYS TRY TO TAKE AND GET SOMETHING FROM OTHERS. I'm just trying to not be abused by others... I also believe that being kind is better than being a POS to people. But my personal issues comes from not being able to stick up for myself and having to "Be nice" in order to avoid conflict or something, not "being nice to take advantage and get something from someone." My father will "Be nice" in order to get something. Lately I've noticed a pattern where he will say hi to me, usually at the start of the day, and ask how I am... then, as if I on cue after i say "okay/good..." he will start blabbing off his list of complaints. This isn't right, this smells, this is out of place.... I called him out on it once and he said "Well you don't like it when I complain to you, so I try to see how you're doing first." Basically, he's gauging if I'm mad or not to see if he can talk to me... in order to get something out of me. I've also seen this too. He will talk to me and gauge if I'm angry at him or something ,and then see if he can get somthing out of it. It absolutely sucks having such a person as a father... This is AFTER A LIFETIME of belieivng that my father is the center of my world, my universe, my everything.... A life of couldn't imagining life without my father... Now I Just want nothing to do with either of htem. It's completely unacceptable, completely unfair , and just evil/dmonic. HOW COULD HE DO THIS TO ME!??!?!!?!?!?

[@MaryCaroline-qt2fz]

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[@vanessapehl7581]

VERY TRUE

[@TR-nv3if]

Yes..I agree. My neighbor is an enabler… she acts caring til I tell her something my narc spouse did, then she gaslights me and makes excuses for him.. she doesnt know it but I heard her husband screaming at her the other night. I learned fast I can’t confide in her as she is very invalidating and obviously makes excuses for her own husband..

[@Sophie-ur2qb]

Yes 😢 I wish people wouldn't pretend to care just to use it against me. Don't trust anyone who is involved with my worst enemy (my mother). She is so good at pulling the wool over everyone's eyes. I'm not fooling for it anymore! Zombie enabler sounds like my dad. He had an abusive mother himself. He does everything she wants. This has been very difficult for me to come to terms with. He was the "safer" parent. But now i realise he was never safe. I just didn't have any other options.

[@AlvinKazu]

Yup this was me, except it was only "Safe" when I did what they wanted and dind't upset them.. Walking on eggshells constantly trying to "people please." Being told by my father that it's my fault if someone is upset at me and i have to take responsibility(I was 10 years old). So for the next 20+ years I believed if someone was mad at me... It was my fault and I had to "Correct it," to make everything" normal again." Meanwhile... It's not actually my fault in reality, and I don't control people's feelings. People will be mad at me for any reason and that's not my fault or responsibility. In the end it was just pure control over me, to "keep me in line." Later it made me realize that if this was true then it would be basically giving me control over people then, and that's not something that is true. and so what if someone is angry at something I said? I'm supposed to make everyone else feel good and happy because of it? Sure I don't believe in being mean to people, but If I say hi to someone and they get angry at me, that's not my problem. My father would also telll me, later on in life that if someone does something to me and upsets me that "I'm giving them control over me....." I'm not allowed to actually do anything for myself, but if I upset someone then I have to take responsibility, but if they upset me it's "They are controlling me." You can see the opposite sides and the nonsense. He also made some sort of other backwards comment about control and people upsetting me, but I'm realizing that these 2 instances are the opposites of each other as well. ALL OF IT is to gaslight, manipulate, and keep us in the fog and easily controlled. Massive confusion and not being able to live ourselves. Oh and if I was upset at mom's actions besides it being "giving her control over me," I was also "too sensitive."

[@rhonda8026]

This explains one of my grandmas 💯

[@jilross4892]

Absolutely agreed

[@susanralph274]

in intervention show, without the enabler, you have no addict

[@kristo3003]

What infuriates a narcisisst is when you dont react to their insults, show no emotions . To get to you they use other people who are easy to manipulate.

[@juliet.nebblet-cox]

Indeed! My enemies often used my relative to create opposition.

[@SarrouTube]

correct i know two !!!! very good video

[@untamedtiger657]

The narc sends the enabler out to seek you out to spy on you as well then go back and talk crap they are crazy people but I always pray for their salvation ❤❤❤

[@joseenoel8093]

Right you are cuz narcs cannot run/function entirely on their own! 😊

[@lyndafowler-stevens9246]

10:07 AM excellent in every way. Yes. That’s how it is.

[@Dinalizz]

Oh my... This is exactly what I have bn going through with my sister, but worst. Pure evil. I just don't understand. I'm learning about this I know I am not crazy... now I can see why everyone knew my business and where doing me wrong. Just don't know why they behave this way. I'm such a loving caring respectful person Why do they want me dead suffering I have been through this all my life

[@edl6398]

My brother was my narcissist mother’s enabler. He lived with her until he was 55 with no job and drank all day. He worked on her all the time to talk about me because my mother didn’t like me. He became incredibly toxic and when she died, I kicked him out of the house and no contact.

[@UrGranny-zc1mz]

True, I’ve encountered very that.

[@Rthephoenix]

Enablers are nothing but narcissists too. They are with you till you are under their control, do things according to them, enablers want control too and attention. And, when something wrong happens or you don't go with them, you will see another narcissist. They start playing victim, they two form a smear campaign and humiliate a scapegoat.

[@Free-sm8qc]

It’s my husband’s sister-in-law who became the flying monkey for my husband’s ex, now they are bff, she hurt my feelings more than the lunatique narcissist ex, and I sworn to God I shall never talk to her in my lifetime, the pain she brought is too much, even more than the drama that ex brought

[@rebeccaperson8581]

Victim, rescuer and persecutor triangle.

[@helicopterway]

This channel is Enabler style/ Release the this you that. ☮️

[@rhonda8026]

@narcabusecoach I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I had several family members like this as well.

[@diannetimpson6885]

This is So True. My enabling father, who was the physical strong arm of my narcissistic mother, said to me: " I know what they (meaning my N mother and my N golden child brother) are doing to you. I've known it for a Long, long time. But I couldn't do anything about it because I have to watch out for myself. You understand. Right?" After his confession he went right back to enabling them at a Huge level of abuse of me. When my mother died I was sad I never had a mother that loved me. But when my enabling father died? I felt absolutely nothing.

[@AlvinKazu]

Sad.. It's always about themselves. I grieve the father I thought I had, but never really had. My Enabler father was the center of my universe, my world, my everything. I couldn't imagine life without him. I love dhim SO SO MUCH.... But after years of making excuses for his bad behavior, and finally being able to confront him.. I realize he is a fake person, who fakes being nice all to get what he wants. It's truly sad, because sometimes I think mabye he is a good person and just messed up... But how do you do the things you do/did to your child? They will use you and take things from you, then pretend to be "giving it back" when it's time, like they were good people to begin with... IT'S SICK! My parents stole over $6,000 from me when I was a teenager, from work, etc, using the excuse that my younger brother spent all his money on a TV so they had to control my money... So I got punished for my brother's issue? Meanwhile... HE GOT TO SPEND HIS MONEY AND GOT TO USE HIS MONEY AS HE SAW FIT... All about contorl. Meanwhile, they "paid me back" over the next 15 years, starting about 7-10 years after taking it from me.... My father will say "but we paid you back..." EXCEPT.... THERE WERE THINGS I WANTED TO BUY WITH MY MONEY THAT I WASN'T ABLE TO BECAUSE I HAD PARENTS WHO WOULDN'T GIVE ME MY MONEY. A FATHER WHO NEVER WAS INVOLVED AND A MONEY WHO WAS THE CONTROL. So my father would play the "innocent victim," but he's just as at fault. He just hides and doesn't take responsibility, while narc mom is the "fall-guy." Besides the fact that money from 2003 is a lot different from it's worth in 2015-2020. With inflation, it would have been much more. So paying me back $6,000 from 2003 in 2020 is unacceptable all around. But they think they were good parents.... Oh and the best part? My dad would tout to me at times, especially within the last number of years, how he received $450k from Grandpa's inheritance that they spent on the new house.... Then they claim poverty and have to take my $6,000... oh and my father had a software company selling 1 product for $1,000 and the other $5,000. They "didn't have the money/needed the money," is complete fking BULLLSHT.

[@diannetimpson6885]

@@AlvinKazu Same here. But my parents out and out stole from me to bankroll their N son's whims. This happened went I was still a working minor and their excuse for stealing was : Anything that's in this house belongs to us! - including things I bought for myself, gifts from other people ( jewelry) and even letters from my friends. I think inmates are treated better. I've been No Contact for for 22 years and although it took me a while in therapy to work through their abuse, I couldn't be happier. Blessings on you, Alvin.

[@AlvinKazu]

​ @diannetimpson6885 I feel like in regards to make narc relationships, my parents didn't take from me to give to my brother (at least I don't think so). Mom would rewards him with treats and snacks saying I ate too much and I'm too fat or some BS, and would give him the candy in front of me, instead of just doing it in private(there was no reaosn either way). My brother got to spend his money, got cars paid for him, etc.... I didn't get my license until I was 21 ,because my first driving test was with a psychopath instructor who grabbed my wheel and was just a hassle(I believe it was the same DBag who did it the 2nd time with me, and also grabbed my wheel freaking me out, mid turn). I just didn't care to get my license though. I never had a car paid for me though. Now that I think about it, since I worked for my father (dedicated myself to helping him being paid $400 a month), mom would "Feel bad" that my brother has to take care of himself and live on his own (even though he's married and combined they make around $200k a year), and give him a few thousand or w/e here and there (I don't actually know how much though). When my brother did a few changes to the website, oh give him a few grand... Me? work 12-14 hours some days, being told I'm not working, because I had a father who couldn't delegate tasks properly, and assumed I could tackle the hardest work in 5 minutes... Pure hll..... I also was forced to use my own money to pay for food when they forced me to continue college, after I dropped out, in order to get an associates degree at the local community college... They didn't care(Mom mostly, dad never really got involved and just did whatever she wanted). So while there wasn't much outright of giving my brother everything and me nothing(I had toys growing up, etc), there was favoritism for sure. Most of it was subtle abuse. I also don't think my brother became inflated ego either, even though he is the golden child. He was also the "invisible child," because even though he was mom's favorite, mom would use me in ways such as doing my homework in order to get validation that she did well in school, because her parents never appreciated her or told her she did a good job, so I noticed that in my teens she would look for validation for her work, even though i didn't know anything about narc traits back then. Ican see now how ridiculous it was. But at the same time, she also used it as a way to say "I'm always doing for you," even though I didn't care about school at all, andI only cared about learning to program, which in the end, I had to learn on my own and self-teach myself, because no one else taught me, including my programmer father, who blames me for not teaching me, even though i always wanted to. He uses an example of me not wanting to learn his outdated language, when I was a freshman in College. So for 18 years there was no care, until I was in school already... There was also an instance where he asked me, when I was playing with a school friends over the weekend, when I was around 13, if I wanted to program, but I believe he did that to try and seem "Cool" or something, in front of my friend. The timing was off. I said I didn't want to do it now, and my friend starts complaining how I'm so lucky and he wishes he had a father to teach him to program, and how ridiculous it is I don't want to learn... . I then told him I do want to learn, just not right now while we are playing... Why ask that question while I'm with a friend...? FFS. To be "fair," when I was 10 or so he did try to teach me a reall old language called "QBasic," but he didn't really teach me anything or whatnot, and expected me to work magic. My father is a trash-level teacher. He also was complaining I wasn't dong this or that when he first "Tried to teach me," and only tried to teach me for like 5 mins or w/e and not really giving me anything to work with. Making lemonade out of dogsht.... Doesn't really work. It's not like he invested actual, real time into helping me or teaching me... And the best fking part? I had to teach him a newer programmer language so we could redo his old program, because the language he used "Visual Basic," was last updated in 1998, and is massively outdated. In his mind it was the best and he would tout it up as such a great language all the time and how all these things are built in it... He just couldn't come to terms that its' an old language that people don't use for commercial products anymore(unless it's legacy stuff for very specific businesses that cost a ton of money and would cost a ton more money to get updated). Finally in 2018 he started to want to change after I showed him a nice demo of what we could do(but then he claimed it was because a customer asked him too, even though it's bs and he agreed right after I Showed him the capabilities). So for 3-4 years I had to deal with a POS angry father who blamed me when things didn't go his way and I wasn't "listening" to what he wanted or was "married," to my idea after giving him 5 ideas and telling him his idea sucked, but I was the one "married" to the idea when I was just giving him better solutions to his stupid convoluted ways of doing things... Because guess what, he didn't know as much as he thought and instead of trying to learn, he would just make up stuff. My dad was smart and capable of working with crap, but he didn't want to learn how to correctly do things. IT's crazy to have to deal with this nonsense. It was also wild because he would say he was angry at the programming language, not me, even though he was angry at me, and more importantly TOOK IT OUT ON ME. there's so much more to this too... Sigh... wha ta life. All the best ot you.

[@AlvinKazu]

@@diannetimpson6885 Sorry, i didn't get to your post, but that's a damn shame that you were treated like that. I was going to say in my first reply to this comment that it reminds me of "Harry POtter" where Harry is kept in a little broom-closet, while his cousin is given everything. I empathized and connected to harry very much, even though my situation wasn't exactly that, I could tell the dynamic differences between my brother and I. The HP Movie came out when I was 11. I hope to be no contact soon,a nd be able to really start my healing journey. Thank you for the well wishes, all the best to you as well. I hope you are able to heal!! By the way... Did you ever have a relationship with your N-Brother, or was he too much of a POS for you? My younger-brother and I, even though we don't have the best relationship(as in we don't really see each other at all), we still care about each other and talk. I really haven't spoken to him in a long time though. He calls my parents every now and then and we will chat sometimes when they are on the phone, but I don't call him(as I don't have a landline in my room, nor do I have a cellphone anymore). We used to chat on skype, but he doesn't really use that anymore.

[@Red-hot-sonic-fan]

Thanks for sharing Danish. I’m sorry this happened to you and all the people watching this bc it’s so painful and difficult to understand and accept. Sending a prayer of peace love and strength to all those experiencing this as we eventually have to walk away from our blood family and childhood friends. Naively,I thought things would be different after my NM died, I thought I could finally speak my truth and start on a journey of peace, forgiveness and understanding with my extended family but sadly they only want to keep the false narrative going. On the upside we get to chose a new family after this devastation. I thank the Most High for the handful of people who see me as I am and are supportive without all the unnecessary drama. I chose to pour my love into those who are deserving ❤❤❤

[@shell1951]

My brother is the zombie enabler for my evil narc mother who has tried to destroy me and my children.... A very sad situation

[@IceeyPisces]

6:00 I’m going through this same thing with my family and sister. She is seemingly my biggest supporter but something does not feel right like you said idk what to do both my parents and half my siblings are narcissistic acting. I just lost my “bestfriend” of 20 years who is also narcissistic. How could I not see it. I feel like I’m on an island alone sometimes.

[@lisanelson2993]

Very much Agree!🎯💯🚩

[@jeannetteangrum9000]

I went no contact with the narc and his flying monkeys, because they want to know to much about you and use it against you and also pull you back in to their drama.

[@laralara7978]

So true !!