Why Are People So Nasty?

The origins of nastiness in other people can be deeply hard to fathom, especially if we have done nothing to them. The answer is strangely and consolingly simple…
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“It happens pretty much all the time: a small jabbing comment, a joke at our expense amidst a group of old friends, a line of sarcasm, a sneering assessment, a provocative comment on the internet.
These things hurt a lot - more than we’re ever allowed to admit. In the privacy of our minds, we search for explanations, but anything satisfying and soothing is usually hard to come by. We’re just left to puzzle at the casual inhumanity that circulates all around us - and suspect that perhaps it’s we who are, somewhere deep down, to blame for falling victim to it.”
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Kindness is like a language, not everyone talks or understands it.

[@crumbledcandy]

I understand it.

[@alexturnerstan553]

@@crumbledcandy same

[@alexturnerstan553]

Lexionis yeah, they also teach you not to litter.

[@alexturnerstan553]

I got bullied for defending someone, they said “go away Kpop fan” “Kpop is trash” it was on a Greenlegocats123 ODer video most popular one and it was a “jail is just a building” comment

[@glenwicks4976]

@The Human Centipede All of us are?

[@iannacn4951]

I can't stand abusive people that think they have the right to mistreat you 😡

[@alexturnerstan553]

for not getting a joke or somethin’ like that

[@windows-kx1of]

They abuse becuse they are scared to fight so they abuse the weak its cruel I know

[@feraslaoufi9681]

@@windows-kx1of well its easy if they like to abuse pepole you just got to catch them and rip them apart tear them to shreds.😃 In other words fight back.

[@floraidhfinnie4906]

@@feraslaoufi9681 Well the problem is sometimes you don’t realise it.. it’s sad

[@aarone1777]

I blaime their parents

[@basedbattledroid3507]

I just hate how people I've never even met before automatically feel the need to treat me like shit.

[@McRemmyBaby]

Cuz 100% rate of being fucked… some people r cursed

[@BallJuiceOfZeus]

I always found it very strange aswell. I have learned that the people that do this are usually short or ugly or maybe even both

[@Ann-sv7zx]

I hate people in my college for that

[@ms.suzylee2932]

It's that personal-non personal lesson. Like it may seem very personal and yet it is not it's impersonal and even if it may be said to you it's not actually for you Salt, over the shoulder!

[@Stoicambition93]

Facts

[@lovelyrose2741]

It's simply because being nasty has become socially acceptable. People even admire nasty people given that it's falsely perceived as "power" and confidence. In addition being nasty is rarely reprimanded. Our movies, social media and music are all filled with nasty people, behaviors, practices, ect...yet most people are not appalled, simply due to those things mentioned above

[@xdrazormon454]

It's absolutely disgusting in my opinion it's so wrong that there are people who applause to those things

[@StopSmearCampaigns]

It's rarely reprimanded and victims are silenced or punished for speaking out. That's what's happening to me

[@jorgelujan5055]

Women marry the men who have no class. They're attracted to this kind of behavior. They see it as "primal". Others see it as having no class. The sad thing is these women expect more from these kind of men but they never see the improvement in these men. Like when white women marry black men to show "diversity". Bruh.... 🙂‍↔️

[@pastichegraham]

All of this right here.😞

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

there's no humanity anymore, everyone has become sociopathic

[@malikmalak4631]

And some people are nasty just because they know they can get away with it.

[@SRALTHACNQURR]

Sounds like my mom

[@abbasmortada6226]

Like all parents they will burn

[@aslmad1]

Or some figure it up to others to just not be thin skinned

[@therambler3713]

you people really missed the entire point of the video , smh

[@aslmad1]

The Rambler No, it is possible that some are just nasty without excuse

[@killgriffinnow]

But what about people who are suffering terribly, yet do not belittle and bully others?

[@zenwaichi3587]

but what about smoky pickled jalapenos? OBOY GOOD GOD NOBODY THINKS ABOUT CHILDREN!?

[@neymow2242]

Friendshipismagic these people put all the hate on them self. This isn't good either but it's better for the society.

[@neymow2242]

courtney harris but that is just selfharm

[@Enceos]

They need a shoulder to cry on. Good friends will always help to weep all this pain out and leave it behind.

[@kao5789]

I think some people who don't stoop down to the level of their haters are mature people who usually focus on bringing a solution and doing something for the greater good. For example, Martin Luther King Jr. There was a huge amount of hatred and racism, but he used that as fuel to bring about change. Or I even read about a teenager who was bullied who created an anti-bullying awareness program in their school and created a better environment for all students. They build castles out of the bricks people threw at them.

[@Max-nk3yu]

Wish I could live in a bubble full of people with positivity

[@L0RDK3Y]

everyone would love to

[@pisstakecentral]

Wish I could live in a bubble with no people at all

[@JenniferElliott1]

Don’t we all but sadly the world can be a negative place to live. 🤦‍♀️

[@ScrotumWizard]

Create a Minecraft server and that’ll be your bubble

[@theyoutubist2722]

Its sadly only once in a blue moon or just a dream

[@Knaeben]

Sometimes all you can do with toxic people is to get away from them

[@konchange]

True.

[@aarone1777]

Always repay nastiness with kindness! That will rub off.

[@lolpower2174]

The problem sometimes is... is that it’s sometimes impossible!

[@Chad_Thundernuts]

Or, get them away from you... Permanently... lol

[@aarone1777]

@@Chad_Thundernuts Hit man for hire?

[@Rob-xx3jp]

a truly, deeply happy person does not go around being nasty or acting negative towards others

[@deadnight2093]

I don't seem to understand Rob can this be a child or an adult?

[@humblewonder3260]

@@deadnight2093 both, so yes that means you are unhappy if you feel the need to be nasty

[@LastLeft-tk8vu]

homesrd I agree people that are nasty and cruel are battling with something themselves and they transfer it into others ...

[@freakbad3587]

@@LastLeft-tk8vu Choose wisely good or bad Kind or cruel

[@greenkitty82]

Absolutely. When one is happy they don't have a desire to lash out at others. People who lash out are suffering and think that it makes them feel better to do that but for deep seated happiness, being mean is not the answer. Only kindness and compassion will bring you real joy. I just feel sorry for people who hurt others as they are hurting themselves.

[@nolagatto2136]

it's hardest when the person doesn't even realise they're hurting you, they're just behaving normally for them but it hurts you inexplicably

[@nolagatto2136]

blueseaview 22 hoo boi she has empathy for others, just not me. I may as well be a bug under her shoe :/

[@deadnight2093]

Isn't that the crazy part though?

[@angelamason9432]

@@nolagatto2136 They don't have empathy for others. That niceness the display is the ultimate. Fake out.bThey are evil and miserable.Get away from them as soon as you can.

[@SuicideRedemption]

Then TELL them how you feel.communicate

[@SuicideRedemption]

@Harpe then tell them

[@andrea.lingsulin]

Seeing a person who is constantly hurting you as "someone sad inside" is dangerous. Many people remain in abusive relationships because of this theory. But there are people who are aggressive or they have a personality disorder and no empathy for others, and that's why they are nasty.

[@reesedaniel5835]

And those people mentioned in your last sentence are everywhere, especially on Reddit.

[@craigslist6988]

informative videos that have useless myths masquerading as helpful information is ridiculous.. this video is less than worthless, it's misinformation

[@giuliapiperea]

Thank you :)

[@doupavi3628]

Is it bad that I almost see this in everyone? Even in online. I saw people wishing someone would be dead just because they're "cringe" etc. Then you'll see the same people preaching for kindness and positivity. It's so two-faced

[@ajasilikonreffkmimmon]

I don't understand either-my classmate keep feeding his girlfriend even though she is a bully.

[@cindydillon4995]

I have a bunch of nasty people at my work. They enjoy it, being rude and nasty to me. I think it brings them closer together as a clique. Nobody wants to be put on the outside of the clique with me so they all go along with the three strongest members. The others aren't quite as blatant but definitely do participate, whether by giggling when an insult is thrown my way or by acting as if they don't know what's going on. It's toxic and I'm currently trying to get outta there!

[@OP-xi1hv]

yeah work places can be like that. People are mostly cowards and will go along with the group. Get out asap.

[@OP-xi1hv]

@@blueberry7899 tbf most work places are like that especially if you're a weirdo.

[@Missyprincess719]

Cindy Dillon assholes they are. I can imagine how hard and uncomfortable it can be in your position. Put a complaint against them and try to leave as soon as you can if that still doesn’t work.

[@GO-cz7cl]

Yeah, and you wonder why you hear about people losing it and bringing guns to work. People need to chill out.

[@thatonecommenteryourealway2857]

If bashing others make people closer together, than you have to realize theyre only trying to be closer with people they believe themselves are down at their level. Fricken bottom feeders

[@DaPoopIsInDaPudding]

People are nasty because they don’t want to see anyone doing better or having more than they do. Even their friends. People only wish for good things for their friends as long as it doesn’t make them jealous. People are pricks. Most wont admit to this, but I know it to be true...because I my friends am an asshole too.

[@humblewonder3260]

Wut??

[@lorir8871]

But, you're an honest asshole and I applaud your hilarious forthrightness.

[@MrMsa973]

Well you're not wrong

[@davidelliott1123]

In this world materialism and fame rules, but, I have found myself in Buddhism, having some!, not always really great Day's where I am just so so grateful to live in Canada, but knowing it would be great to if I had to live elsewhere!, I just think about what I have, and if I have the desire to have something, I have found myself in a different mindset, I usually find any desire That's unreasonable for my really not necessarily, I start thinking about " I must live in the moment " if I am thinking of what I can have in the future it just takes away my happiness, but I am not perfect and have to practice with that, but when I'm living in the moment, I think about all the fancy houses and guys who are driving expensive cars with really beautiful Women and just thinking to myself " You have not found the key to happiness " Meditation brings calmness, desire brings stress!

[@pauljones5066]

no you're not

[@bethlancaster4721]

Or people might just be arseholes and like bullying vulnerable people cos they like hurting others and are cowards. I've had enough of people.

[@xoxomangakcorxoxo]

That's usually the reason. This video only applies to like 10% of the mean people. Most are just sadistic.

[@m0m055]

Lily Zhou Really, I didn’t know that. Can we have sources please. I mean I doubt it because so many people we would label as mean yet I don’t think most of them would be diagnosed as sadistic. But that would be very interesting as to why this illness is common then. But hey, maybe you’re right.

[@NovaaGrind]

@@m0m055 nah Lily is right, most people are assholes born out of entertainment or boredom. Usually it's just a joke to them, they move on to the next thing. It's worse when dealing at a more personal level like work, home, or events that damage you. Sadistics like recurring torment, especially if they know you won't do anything about it or they can get away with it If you look like a victim you will be attacked!

[@anomy5643]

@@xoxomangakcorxoxo That generally isn't the case. It's always best to look at both sides. Hardly any one is mean without a proper cause. To think that people are mean simply because they want to, stems either from a selfish form of thinking, or lack of constructive thought thaf answers as to why they( the mean people) did that. I mean, since we don't know anything about our enemies, it's generally so easy to think that they're mean because they want to, instead of thinking that they're mean because they're a bundle of insecurities that lock themselves from others with being mean so as to stave off others who could catch them off being "weak" and vulnerable

[@babatunde8557]

@@m0m055 Actually there are very few people in the world who are actually sadistic. Generally speaking , People who say hurtful things were themselves hurt by others.

[@Carmen-mp3je]

It is so unbelievable how at the slightest chance, people get aggressive... most of what I read in social media is judging and hateful arguments... it is very tiring to be defending from hate, envy and gossiping all the time

[@itchyscratch3829]

Social media is very toxic most of the time.

[@itchyscratch3829]

Social media is very toxic most of the time.

[@benny7929]

and you still don't realize you are apart of it, as well as myself

[@catherinebirch2399]

It's all The fault of our evolution. We descend from a particularly nasty, aggressive and homicidal ape.

[@crybbzeli]

Well we should stay away from negative stuff as much as possible

[@user-vp7yk7lj4w]

nobody who’s happy is going to be putting others down.

[@spacelyman9482]

I agree because it takes energy to be mean to someone.

[@fionamcgrath7443]

J purple ramen Can relate. Granny issues 😔

[@xrenegade87xchannel88]

Happiness is a fleeting temporary emotion

[@glenwicks4976]

​@@xrenegade87xchannel88If you're clinically depressed it is.

[@xrenegade87xchannel88]

@@glenwicks4976 do I seriously have to be clinically depressed just to say happiness is fleeting? Because that’s basically what you’re saying

[@JadeC]

Why do people have to be so cruel? I'm crying so hard right now

[@thegeneral824]

delphina joseph you know he means bad people

[@notYourBro44]

@delphina joseph That makes no sense.

[@JadeC]

Robin Bryant Thank you so much! I’m way better mentally now

[@saltney17]

delphina joseph you’re weird

[@laraverdouw9211]

Don't care

[@shiraq07]

what if you are more hurt than they are , and they keep on hurting you while you're down. People are just nasty creatures. Don't rely on them.

[@zbrent3400]

shiraq07 some some. I agree with you.

[@fou-luthedragonemperor8648]

shiraq07 How can you tell and measure who's more hurt though. Making a miscalculation can lead to a situation where you can feel unjustly entitled as the one that's on the worse side

[@3pleFly]

Don't take it personally. When others are attempting to cause you to suffer, it is merely because they are suffering. It is because they are jealous of you. or they might be afraid of you. Therefore, taking their actions seriously, would only cause you to partake in their suffering. it would mean that you are what is causing their suffering, when the root of it has nothing to do with you. don't think you are the cause of their suffering. don't think they are trying to make you suffer, because of what goes inside YOU. but it is more so what goes inside of THEM.

[@catherinebirch2399]

Yes, That`s why I`m a misanthrope.

[@catherinebirch2399]

If only I could get away with it!

[@rosie6]

Literally not caring is the best response.

[@Arda-Personal]

People get nasty when they get older. So many adult people, especially office people, are so 2 faced and mean... Not like how I thought people would be when I was young.

[@yalanchiswiss2650]

This reminds me of my older sister and my mom. Never happy, never content, always looking for glory and revenge. Always ridiculing everyone and everything around them and placing themselves on a very high platform and handing out negative remarks and death stares whenever possible. These are the type of women that cannot laugh at themselves or smile at a stranger or make a compromise. I do not take pity on them or try to understand them. They are born this way and choose to be this way and they are miserable yes. But to forgive someone who does not want forgiveness is nonsense. Let them be the laughing devils they wish to be. Goodness does not make alliances or exceptions for the bent and the twisted. Forgiveness is not a free hand out; you actually have to ask and work towards for it. Don't pity evil. Like many of the people in the comments say, there are good people going through hell on earth and still find the decency to be good. Cheers to them.

[@judgementkazzy1750]

Well, I think that we all have to forgive at some point, not because if we say sorry that the mean person is going to become more good and kind, but because holding hate inside yourself is not good. We must forgive, because if we keep the anger inside it's gonna consume us. That's one of the reason we should forgive even if the "bad" person didn't apologize.

[@yalanchiswiss2650]

+Blake Daimond I believe that Jesus forgave the entire world of its sinners but I believe that God and all of his magnificent angels will come to save the saints and the innocents. And forgiveness will not be handed out where it is not due. Until this day I will forgive those who seek forgiveness or seek peaceful company with those who seek peace but I will not sympathise with evil sorrowful minds when they reveal themselves or their envies. I will not hate myself or hate my love for goodness. The devil is alive, he is just a fallen angel still under God's law looking for rules to bend and weak victims to plunge into his hell. Justice is beauty. Cruelty is ugly. And I only love beautiful things. I am not Jesus and I will never pretend to be. But I am also not the devil's advocate and will never pretend to be. Thanks for your comment though. It's nice to have replies.

[@angelb7578]

Yalanchi Swiss Get away from them Asap .They don't think well of anyone , they pretend to. in order to exploit

[@MelModica]

Yalanchi Swiss exactly! My aunt says nasty comments to me, my cousin, my mom, my sister and my niece! I’ve been thru a lot of stress in my life and I still always try to be nice to others! I find it really disgusting how nasty and hateful some people can be! I avoid people like them because they are toxic! For the longest time I put up with it and kept quiet! Then I tried confronting them, I’ve even tried laughing about it but being around people like that is bad for your health and causes stress! If they are not willing to change or treat others with respect, even if it’s friend or family cut them out of your life!

[@JoseSanchez-bp7xz]

Yalanchi Swiss Sometimes you just have to cut people out of your life, especially if it’s a parent you don’t get along with, and you know you are making them miserable too. What choice do you have if you want to talk things over, but they’re not much interested, and all they’ve done most of their lives is scream and yell at you and judged you with their short tempers? It wears you down, and knocks the wind out of you, and they’re not listening anyway.

[@toonicetobeunreal]

after reading the comments, I believe that people think that to suffer is about some tragedy in family, violence, misfortune etc. But I'm pretty sure that when we have self doubts, and we have a fragile ego we suffer, and we are nasty in order to try to be more confident about ourselves, although it doesn't really help

[@TheNeilDarby]

I was thinking this too. In Buddhism, suffering is also defined as dissatisfaction. In this case constant dissatisfaction with the way things are leading to nastiness.

[@sira.k.5756]

The deathless face of the unborn mind. Buddhism is cool

[@thesurvivorssanctuary6561]

thank you for saying this, :). That helped me bring this together in my mind, :).

[@TheNeilDarby]

Sir A.K. Buddhism plays it cool. That's it's evolution from Hinduism. Hindus said "You're supreme reality! " Buddhists said "Shhh"

[@toonicetobeunreal]

+Geni-us, you're faith to what you think is correct, I'm glad to know, congrats.

[@rosie6]

I’m so tired of rude and toxic people online.

[@indym375]

Cause they are Jealous as hell

[@majesticseal759]

Usually !

[@thehazardousenviorment7885]

not all mean people are jealous why do people say this

[@tinag7506]

@@thehazardousenviorment7885 those who are disturbingly mean for no reason are mostly jealous..... jealousy need not be due to looks, popularity or money issues alone..if another person perceives that ur at peace with urself than them, with better mental health,that can lead to jealousy....cz they don't want you to have what they don't have: peace, tranquility, confidence, fulfillment etc

[@Maracujakeks]

The tough thing is that nastiness often hits you in your weak moments, because nasty people sense your weakness and want to make use of it. Which just reveals a lot of truth about them. Great video x

[@jimmiejoeredskyesnakeman6208]

steff ....Haters view kindness as a weakness

[@gaple1995]

Yes that’s exactly when they come for you, when you’re vulnerable

[@JasperManning]

While I agree heavily, I also think a lot of nastiness springs from power games. People harass those who seem weaker than them. In part to reinforce their power and in part to test if they have power against the harassed. If you turn the proverbial other cheek they determine that they can hurt you without consequence and will continue to do so. They have power over you and will exert it upon you until you reach your breaking point, and show them that you've had enough.

[@paulacrichlow2095]

Very good point...but one has to be careful when one has had enough..."don't be pulled in"...

[@JustinBallard117]

yup, lifes cruel.

[@neshamojanay9423]

I remember when this named Daniel Reese, he was rude and nasty to me like I felt offended when I was talking to this other boy named Mike Miles during breakfast club when I was in STC.

[@Catcvcv]

I think it makes them feel good about themselves. How do i stop them? Give them a weird look? Walk away?

[@thatonecommenteryourealway2857]

Bruh, that is so stupid. You have to realize YOU have no power, the state does. What you just stated is nothing but an illusion. There's no point in chasing, maintaining illusions

[@adrianmargean3402]

I find people terrible more often than not. I have terrible anxiety and depression and people sense that so they always try to bring me down. It sucks and I feel weak and fragile at times. I won't let them get me down though, I will keep living life as I please.

[@rosie6]

I’m sorry… same, it does hurt but ur right! They don’t deserve to let you down. Keep shinning❤️ ur doing great!

[@xthexskrillex]

i know the feelin , i just do my own thing and ignore ppl and if they get into my way agaisnt my will i let them know big time so they wont do it again

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

a life full of demons and torment

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

we are sharing the world with pure demonic psychopaths

[@adrianmargean3402]

@@iiCounted-op5jx yes sir. Thank you for your input.

[@Mossyz.]

I have rid myself of nasty and mean people around me. Now i have NO friends !

[@js6429]

Good that's when God can work in you

[@Mossyz.]

@@js6429 Thank You :)

[@ouppybones]

@@Mossyz. We're all here for you

[@heatherxo4374]

@@js6429 god does nothing and it's honestly sad

[@honeydate]

Same here..I can’t trust people who inevitably let me down. I’m happier and secure on my own.

[@rea-lb6bu]

just because someone is, let's say, sad, doesn't give them the right to impinge on me. just wanted to make that clear.

[@HektorBandimar]

Are you a non threatening person, nasty people always hit on them, they wouldn't make shitty remarks to doorman or a boxer....they know who to pick on.

[@lynic-0091]

Its not an excuse, its the reason why theyre doing it. Watch the video again until you understand the point this guy is trying to make, because hes 100% on point

[@andresnavarro5978]

You didn't underunderstand the video your relying too much on whats right and wrong the video isnt about that it explains the why of thing it doesnt say its excusable altough nothing is so black n white

[@bentattersfield887]

MrUniman69 exactly, they pick their victims

[@thegodofyoutube266]

re a unless you’re the one that cause their sadness in the first place

[@morrigen3]

i find that if you turn the other cheek, they spit on that one as well.

[@humblewonder3260]

@Backslider Ministries gtfo

[@MissVintage789]

@Backslider Ministries How edgy.

[@lynnsixx7416]

@Fun Cat I love your answer

[@johnno.]

Flip over their tables and clear them out of your temple. Your mind with a whip

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

well duh 😂😂

[@LYRIKALMASTER]

My circle only gets smaller and smaller over time. At first people act like they're your friend but their hidden motives begin to surface, their behaviour changes, they can't accept you have something that they don't so they start becoming bitter and nasty. It's like people struggle to be happy for others but it isn't healthy to compare as we all have different lives. Once you find out someone's toxicity RUN for the hills as far as you possibly can and never return. They will feed off your pain and suffering, it is what they want, they will spread rumours, be slanderous, plan evil towards you. Back away, place boundaries even if it is a family member, respect yourselves. They have the problem and issues, no need for problems and issues coming to you, just live in peace. 🙏🏼

[@LYRIKALMASTER]

​@Toilet Bowl for President 2024 exactly, would be interesting.

[@havefaithinGod715]

Some are just evil ...no need to justify it

[@xMckingwill]

most of these are not valid excuses for peoples nastiness.

[@RonShenkar]

No one said anything about valid. Most people don't stop and wonder whether the person they're about to curse actually deserves it. They need to put someone else down to feel better about themselves, and that's all that matters at that moment.

[@Tom_Blue222]

Yep.

[@whyhow9329]

Some people are wired in such a way that they give precedence to instinct and value base desires and biological requirements over a sense of being fair or only operating out of necessity. When evil people (secondary, can become 'permanent') are made it's because they've experienced losing 'enough' zero-sum games against selfish people. In certain situations (long-term deprivation/hunger etc.) people will value survival over fairness to get what they need. At a certain threshold, behaving like that will become habit (for people that are predisposed) as it appears that approach is more likely to payoff (short term) in some capacity than to risk going without. Evil passes to people like a virus through their actions toward one another and as the video suggests, effectively stems from fear. There may be more to karma but even if it's only true in the sense that actions will influence people which will in turn act under the influence of the actions preceding them eveyone should treat people well, even if only to influence their chains of interactions positively in case you interact with them in the future (long term payoff).

[@NrgBuster]

It's not an excuse, just an explanation. It's to help you better deal with shitty people.

[@CountBifford]

He provides no valid excuse for nastiness. He does not provide a proven effective means of reforming nasty people. And he does not provide a defense that victims can use against the nasty. I don't feel a great deal better knowing that my bully is suffering inside in some way. Why should I repay his nastiness with kindness?

[@danieldrason8361]

What he discusses are traits of the type 1 sociopath. They are camouflaged among us- they cannot feel love, remorse, guilt, and empathy and they prey on those who can feel these emotions. They secretly hunger for power and control and secretly loves to use, bully, humiliate, and hurt others. Charming, brilliant, powerful are traits. So are controlling, manipulative, and using. They can be the teacher who humiliates her students, the preacher who crosses boundaries, the mean boss, and the cheating spouse. They blame everyone but themselves when things do not go their way. Type 1 sociopaths rarely do anything illegal (immoral yes- illegal, no). Domestic violence, rape, stealing, conning, and abusing children are traits of sociopaths and psychopaths. If you love deeply and have great compassion, you most likely have a type 1 sociopath preying on you. Once you know the traits and you can recognize these traits in the bully in your life, you can love and pray for them, but you will love them with strong boundaries and from a distance if necessary. You will know they secretly like to compete with you and want to see you fall. Being wise as serpents is knowing the traits of the type 1 sociopath and sociopaths among us. This was an interesting video. Whenever someone is nasty, they are displaying sociopathic traits.

[@benny7929]

so like me

[@heidimaxham1612]

@@benny7929 Ben, call Jerry and tell him I want some ice cream. SLURP

[@maillardsbearcat]

I find myself watching this video time and time again. It's not the insults themselves that hurt, it's the fact that people are being mean in the first place. I just wish I didn't care so much...

[@zion367]

This!

[@Raythe]

No. There are people who just inherently enjoy seeing others suffer or beg. It gives them power and they get off and/or high from it.

[@RealMoai]

Yes. I recently left my best friend because he was becoming friends with such people and was starting to become like them.

[@coffeeperson1461]

@@RealMoai Yes, very often it's peer pressure and a need to fit in. I have known plenty of people who are nice by themself but then suddenly switch when followers are around

[@emisalome4170]

I had a friend who is blunt and honest, which is not bad, but she tries to use it as an excuse of being rude. She made my life hell when we both went to a cruise and blames me for not fitting into society or the case "her society." She was not only being rude, she was controlling. I broke off the friendship but she yelled and cursed at me and it was very traumitizing. I don't know what did I do to deserve this terrible situation but it helped me spoke up and have confidence ever since.

[@tracesprite6078]

Good on you for getting out of that destructive relationship. I'm so glad that you have more confidence now.

[@Manuel-6]

Don't take it personally

[@natemorgan1996]

Wow, she sounds like a bully, I wouldn't want anything to do with a person like that

[@mongislort6440]

*hurtful* *comment*

[@TorquemadaTwist]

Mongis Lort *soothing reply that, if over analyzed, might be an insult*

[@fou-luthedragonemperor8648]

Mongis Lort *counter insult that, if overanalyzed, is a compliment at the profile pic*

[@courtneyharris1006]

pointless comment,which can have a subconscious deep meaning...

[@GrahamMilkdrop]

Triggered feminist comment that betrays my complete misinterpretation of original comments but is weighted with palpable distress...

[@TorquemadaTwist]

Graham Loines *Attempt to placate without acknowledging questionable comment*

[@maxidaho]

No! There is evil in the world and sometimes it must be confronted.

[@thegodofyoutube266]

Max Swenson 100%

[@thegeneral824]

I can’t breathe😭

[@poweroffriendship2.0]

However, it's still inevitable but the good will always fight back.

[@God.sDaughter]

YES!

[@matrixtech6917]

Which is what the minority of people want to do

[@Geologese]

This causes me the most anxiety in life. It scares me how hateful people are. I have had a few times where I have wanted to hate somebody but I can't, I am fast to anger and forgiveness. No matter how much somebody has hurt me, I can't find joy in their suffering, even if part of me wishes I could be more angry. I am made so anxious seeing how spiteful the world is since I don't comprehend such intense long lasting anger.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

I've finally found a comment putting what I was thinking about for years into words, people these days have normalized pure psychopathy and we are living in a world full of sadistic demons as humans, people with no remorse, no empathy, people who are willing to torment others and make their life a living hell if ever provoked, this is only going to get worse as time goes on

[@spamevader]

I don't think this video gets it right. Most people are selfish, cruel and like seeing others in pain. It has nothing to do with hurts or pain they themselves suffered. I am 49 years old and this has been my experience. While it's nice to think there is cosmic justice, it's fanciful thinking.

[@humblewonder3260]

Spot on!!

[@humblewonder3260]

@Letucces Satan okay then

[@parlishrutika6082]

I agree with him tho. Maybe your experiences have been different from mine however. We are all shaped by our experiences somehow.

[@briangoodman1779]

True. There is no 'cosmic justice'.

[@thelinkan3512]

@Letucces Satan Lol I don't agree with you. They are just mean and nasty because they can. Most of the time they are just "normal" people. But when they see an opportunity, they simply jump in and turn into an wolf preying on a victim. I have seen many cases like this. Of course it depends on people, but saying most of them are just mentally ill is also a problem because it gives people with mental illness a bad rep.

[@ittodakimasu4814]

Learning about history made me realize how evil people were.. People have always been evil since thousands of years ago

[@Manuel-6]

Always

[@triasc8469]

I'm happy being nice to people and very caring...but don't mess with me

[@glenwicks4976]

That is EXACTLY who I am. I believe that this life has both good and bad qualities to it, and I would like to contribute to the good qualities in any way I can. With that said, I also have a backbone, and I refuse to be pushed around by others who want to take advantage of me.

[@tinag7506]

Same. The thing is, the more nice n harmless a person looks, the more they attract bullies. Im nice to those who r nice to me....I'm indifferent to those who hate me....but if someone tries to bully or belittle me it's an entirely different story

[@armoredgirl7564]

Same

[@name5702]

“Don’t mess with me”, oh you’re just so scary

[@triasc8469]

@@name5702 I'm not scary and tough at all...but I'm smart and I will hold a grudge for ever....great combination in my own humble opinion...lol...so there!!

[@lonepheasant3489]

People make me sick 🤢

[@thesurvivorssanctuary6561]

This helped me to see that the insults we throw at others are actually the things we fear to see inside ourselves.

[@danpetru]

in truth! i think how we connect or treat others and how we connect with ourselves is unbreakably tied together

[@alfredomartinezcaceres3936]

Or maybe you are so stupid that most people will try to avoid telling you, but very few people actually do, and yet you call them "nasty bullies". This video is awful in that it makes you think you IN NO WAY are wrong, that they (the nasty ones) are wrong.

[@thesurvivorssanctuary6561]

Alfredo Iván Martínez Cáceres I get the feeling that you've been wrongfully labeled as a bully before, and that this video struck a sore spot. That sucks, :(, but please don't lash out at me. I'm just sharing some wisdom I've managed to glean, friend, :)

[@danpetru]

Alfredo Iván Martínez Cáceres if you have a problem with the video say it to the one who created it. And if you don't see that this is a different ideea (though linked) to the one stated in the video then you are the stupid one. Appart from that happy new year!

[@deadnight2093]

Raven is that really true? I never thought about it like that

[@lifeisbannanas]

Im just so sick of people.

[@lockleaze]

This is so true. I had a boss who was horrible to me and just about everyone else. Years later she confessed that during that period she was going through a bad time in her relationship. She then got divorced and remarried and was now a happier person. Just a shame she inflicted so much misery on us.

[@diezpiedrasnegras1703]

This is is true, but in reality you do have to stand up for yourself sometimes and fight back. As someone who got chronically bullied in high school, I can vouch for the fact that the day I actually threw a punch back was the day I was left alone and given respect. It is a depressing thought but undeniable...

[@FlorenceFox]

Standing up for yourself isn't the same as trying to hurt them back, though. Defend yourself, certainly, but don't provoke further conflict.

[@melissarosario6176]

diezpiedrasnegras true

[@nesdes8363]

@@FlorenceFox no, if you are insulted you don't want to play their stupid games you just give them a piece of your mind no need to give unnecessary respect to where it's not due

[@rodasrollins7596]

If the conflict will not resolve, there will be a bloody war

[@24isobel]

Agree. If there's something i had learned Is that the more you ignore the bullying, the worse it gets. Standing up for yourself is key, it establishes limits. I understand that hurting them back is not good because there are better ways of setting limits, I used to do that at the beginning cuz I didn't know any better, but it was either that or let them to continue shiting on me.

[@Huonous]

This explanation doesn't really satisfy me. :D Nasty people may not feel very good, but I don't think they always suffer very much either. At least the nastiness doesn't tell how much they suffer, because a person who suffers a lot could be not nasty at all and someone who only suffers only a little bit could be very nasty. I think this video makes things too simple and there could be a lot more behind nastiness than this. It can't be only suffering, even though there would always be SOME suffering behind a nasty person, it doesn't explain why they're nasty, because I think almost everyone suffers a little bit (some even a lot and still they're not nasty) and you can't tell how nasty someone is based on how much they suffer. The idea of the assumed suffering being a punishment in itself doesn't sound "logical", because it could only be a little suffering, hardly a punishment, if the nastiness is huge. I guess it could be pleasant to think that if someone is rude to us, it means they suffer and the suffer explains the rudeness. Because that way we get our secret revenge without having to go as low as them and we get an explanation we like because we don't have to think the other alternative: maybe they were rude but also honest about something that we don't want to know about ourselves, and we don't want to know how they see us.

[@courtneyharris1006]

good point. its sucks that there are plenty of violatile people who seem to flourish and watever put them like that does not seem to hurt them. most narcissist dont have the self awareness to kno how awful they are and their selfish toxicity towards people,but they will be perfectly content with a life of materialism and pleasure pursuit without ever looking inward. and why should they when it seems preferable to be that way in society. so although these people may have "scars"that influences their toxic personalities in present,i wouldnt go as far to say they're "suffering" which is way less satisfying to hear yes, but just seems to be the wat things manifest.

[@rloach067]

people deal with suffering and trauma in general in different ways. Whenever someone's will is stripped off, they will do whatever they can to take that power back. Some ways of doing that is feeling helpfull and being nice, others are selfharm, since you feel like you know exactly your limits, and that is your power. Others blame everyone else besides themselves, and harm them to warn them they shouldn't try to do the same to them, and to feel like they truly are unstoppable. None of this reactions can justify themselves just because they were the cause of horrible events imparted on the person, but this are all just defense mechanism of people that haven't healed. They need help and compassion, but that doesn't deny that they are and should be responsible for the actions they make, good or bad. also, people are different, and get hurt and suffer in different ammounts. In regards of emotion, you can't really completely objectly say that some actions or circumstances hurt everyone more or less. It may seem like that person doesn't suffer at all or doesn't deserve to complain because of "some people have it worse", but that mentality is horribly egoistic and since you can literally say that to anyone, is incredibly illogical as a form of reasoning to stop someone from feeling what they are

[@sngscratcher]

+Huonous "This explanation doesn't really satisfy me." I think people are nasty because they have not yet "grown up" on an emotional/spiritual level. And many of them don't even realize that "growing up" is an option. So their thoughts remain primarily on themselves, with little regard for the feelings or needs of others. "Growing up," spiritually, is always about "other." Cheers.

[@mintfudgecupcakes]

really good response!

[@angelb7578]

Huonous. Angel B. They are usually delusional.

[@babss2285]

Forgiving is more difficult than being cruel, and I struggle to the core with this dilemma but will overcome

[@jaytakajeremiahtisdale2042]

The thing that annoys me the most about people is that they can dislike you for no reason, literally no reason, People are inconsistent

[@lillithlavey7203]

Im so extremely hurt but never have i ever been nasty to people? Im nice to everyone in hopes that someone will be nice to me

[@folieadeux0531]

They will sometimes it's not only people that are Nasty at you but it's yourselves without realizing so... Yeah in Life be careful with what your doing in any situations in any cases you know.

[@folieadeux0531]

@Rebecca The Great yup and that is when serial killers are Born not just because of but because of what society is making them into I always find Mental Illness more interesting than anything else you know.

[@pissangelmindfreak]

i don’t know you but i have a hard time believing anyone has never said or done anything mean.

[@benny7929]

YES YOU ARE A VERY GOOD PERSON GOOD

[@lesleycronin832]

Me too. I've had a hellish life but don't take it out on others

[@mariafoteini]

I am sorry but i do not agree with this video. Yes, of course some bullies have been through a similar experience themselves or suffer deep inside but some people are just being dicks because simply they can. Knowing they have the ability to make other weaker people around them suffer gives them pleasure or some kind of entertainment and they do not feel any regrets about it. They do it just because they can.

[@topoisomerace]

I agree more with you than the video. It's not just that they can, but also because they don't have to get along with others in order to live their lives. Interactions over the Internet can be negative and then you never have to interact with that same person again. Face to face, people often act much more civil with each other because you know you might see that same person again and don't want to make it uncomfortable. Or maybe we are all just learning how to be jerks from each other thanks to all of that behaviour being tolerated and sometimes even celebrated on the Internet.

[@heidimaxham1612]

I wanna marry you, Maria!

[@tyreesebrown5483]

People disrespect me for no reason and I get sick of it

[@jonathanwilliams365]

Try to walk away from these people

[@tyreesebrown5483]

@@jonathanwilliams365 thanks for the advice

[@jonathanwilliams365]

@@tyreesebrown5483 No problem

[@rosie6]

I’m sorry dude. You don’t deserve that! Don’t let them get to you, I think they are doing it because secretly they feel insecure. Your the bigger person. ❤️

[@mesutramsey3620]

Not really. Alot are sociopaths. And sociopaths tend to do quite well in life and dont fall into this "suffering" category.

[@SleepyJoe639]

Being nasty to each other is human nature

[@bluelakes_]

Sociopaths have been abused to an extreme level and internally they’re almost always angry because of that

[@pearlyp9898]

Nastiness can be caused by fear, immaturity, anger, confusion or miscomunication.

[@spooky961]

And ignorance

[@thakursinghlimbu4264]

And of course jealously...

[@flick6291]

I usually agree with school of life, but not this time. Yes sometimes people are nasty because they have a miserable life. But a lot of the time it's to fit into society (especially school)

[@flick6291]

That's very true. Keep up the good work! This channel has changed my perspective of the world and has made me a happier and more optimistic person (especially the "lottery of life" video really changed me)

[@jahangeerasif]

FEZ3RN By fitting with society and atmosphere even though you think wrong is done and some where inside you are not confortable but still you participate because if you dont you will be alienated, this is what most of people think but could not do anything because they do not wanna be left alone.

[@omarjavier15]

Why they need to be evil to fit into society? Maybe because they fear that if they are not evil they are going to be the targets of evil. In that case, don't you think that this fear could be considered as the originator paint the video talks about? And also consider that this fear could be the result of a trauma because at some point they received the evil and they do evil exactly for the reasons the video says "To reverse the relationship of power".

[@diegog5781]

There are also psychopaths and sociopaths that completely lack any capacity to feel empathy or guilt. I've met a few.

[@bigj511]

FEZ3RN Same thing mate...

[@ankhisoorma6242]

Society itself is cruel, nasty and nastiness is contagious. When people are nasty to you, you also start to hit back and retaliate nastily and become cynical and view the world as same way

[@spacepimpkevin1184]

This just made me feel more hopeless. I don't see pity or love in how awful everything is. I'm sick of trying to just stay out of society and its bs yet it still ruins my life from time to time anyway.

[@tracesprite6078]

Sending you love and peace and hope. I wish that there was a way that you could find more friendship and happiness.

[@SlideRulePirate]

For some people though the reason is that they simply enjoy it. They do it from a position of advantage and indulge their whims at other's expense. We all know this to be true.

[@nattygsbord]

But if people are nasty because others have been nasty to them, then who are the founder of the original sin? and what motivated him?

[@user-hh2is9kg9j]

a mosquito my friend , a mosquito

[@aa-cx8wb]

maybe they have been misunderstood and hurt in a way that is indistinguishable at the first glance. or it can also be a cycle, where people hurt each other without fully realizing it

[@danieldang2a31]

Misfortune and envy.

[@zannettos]

here is a simple example : a man who is neglected by his wife, both sexually as well as emotionally can't take it and yells at her as soon as the opportunity appears (this is a common cry for attention even if people are not aware of it. Here you go.... we are not perfect and we will most likely hurt those we love both intentionally or unintentionally)

[@harshalshinde227]

Parents,school,society who were again tormented by the same. hence, it's very important to break this chain

[@carl7445]

It's like a mirror. When ever someone hurts you, they are showing you exactly how they feel inside. It's nothing else. It's all it can be.

[@LWT1331]

Because it feels good to make someone else miserable when you yourself are miserable. Then you are no longer alone with your misery. Seems quite fair really.

[@robertjazz3613]

Yeah but it's not fair it's selfish and idiotic.

[@benny7929]

Just like what I do all the time

[@CoffeeNRoblox]

It’s almost as if misery loves company o:

[@1594simonsays]

This dude says "it seems quite fair" are you serious

[@woobie3236]

This video tries to display the nasty person as some kind of a victim. I tried being nice and forgiving, but eventually their behavior starts to take its toll on you. The best thing to do with a toxic person is get away from them!

[@catherinebirch2399]

Easier said than done. If You're juvenile and have a bullying parent, or have to go to school with bullies, there's no escape.

[@PeaceLoveSound]

if your reading this. hope your having an amazing day :)

[@farang1468]

* you're

[@feelitnowmrkrabs1840]

thank you, you too :)

[@tashaylawitcher7927]

Hope you have a great day also

[@Nate-ph6gv]

Peace Love Sound same too you

[@djsojuicy]

No one learned anything watching this video

[@williehodges4859]

Usually I just ignore people because I realized that people aren’t happy with themselves

[@spacelyman9482]

Alot of adults are SO MEAN and I just don't understand why.

[@Kat56784]

Some ppl just do it for fun, and im now just dissapointed in myself of who i have become. From a happy kid to a depressed one, like that happiness just dissapeared áll bc of others. This world is f4ed up

[@Ann-sv7zx]

Sameeee

[@suavesanjana6734]

hello school of life. there was a time when i was lost, depressed, gloomy, lonely and invisible. i felt so left out and worthless. i thought of taking therapy but unfortunately in India we dont have many therapists and i cant afford them since i am a student now. then one day i came across one of your videos. i have been watching all of your videos and reading swami Vivekananda's teachings, since . six months have passed and i have changed my life entirely. i am an achiever now with lots of self love and respect. i have finally found myself. though there is still a ling way to go but i have started my journey. thank you so much. :)

[@kyfk2258]

Dr. KARAN turn to Jesus he can help you

[@onlyhuman5669]

I'm so happy for you.

[@LuizCarlos-zn4hd]

Because some people are evil, that is it.

[@kevinwilson3337]

Luiz Carlos most evil people don’t believe in god .

[@LuizCarlos-zn4hd]

@@kevinwilson3337 I don't believe in gods and I'm not evil.

[@kevinwilson3337]

Luiz Carlos what do you believe then ? Tell me

[@Ik1Wetniet]

Better say nutritional deficiencies

[@bluefilmsbt6094]

@@kevinwilson3337 Geez you don't have to have religion to be a good person.

[@sagancobra6402]

The worst thing about this is that, you might end up becoming prey if you don't follow suit. Some people in life are simply predators. They see you as an easy target if you behave spineless, and are not willing to be terrible or violent. As 50 cent once said, the kid in the schoolyard that doesn't want to fight always ends up leaving with a black eye. Stay safe peeps.

[@gavinlew8273]

That must explain the Ukraine and Russia war..

[@natashasherman4458]

NO matter how much pain someone's in does not give them the right to inflict it on other people.

[@rimu8288]

Why do I have to live a life surrounded by toxic negative people I’m fucking over it It’s hell

[@olivergbgbgb]

What about being nasty in order to impress/ relate? Whether it being to ostracise someone, or when meeting someone new with a shared friend between you

[@risainternet]

Ian Howard Spot on.

[@risainternet]

Random L. Um. Not everyone is concerned with impressing others. I'm a human, and I don't waste time on what others think of my life choices...because that never worked for me in the past. All it did was make me feel miserable. Try not caring what others think. It'll change your whole life.

[@olivergbgbgb]

I personally don't, but a lot of people need justification through their surrounding friends/family due to the fact that they rely more on a sensory interpretation of their surroundings rather than an intuitive one.

[@parlishrutika6082]

Even that's a type of fear on some level

[@mattdevereux5940]

society is more unfriendly then when i was a child

[@Latte44]

Why is being nice so hard? It doesn't kill you to be nice to others. I just don't get people these days.

[@victoriakoller8998]

This video is EXACTLY what I needed to hear I am dealing with a bully at work and I'm at the end of my rope with her. She enjoys making people cry and enjoys people being distressed by her. She belittles my ideas then takes the credit for them. I really needed this video

[@Deadshotv]

What an awful person.

[@or8174]

Why do you cope with it? Do u still work with the person?

[@tracesprite6078]

I suggest that, after you discuss something and you make a good suggestion, that you send a short email to whoever is involved saying, "Just to summarize where we got with our discussion. My idea was that we do XXX. I also valued Bob's suggestion that we do YYY, and Annabel's idea that we do ZZZ. Do we need another meeting to finalize which idea to go with? Would tomorrow afternoon at 3pm suit everyone?" That gives a record of the discussion so far. If she later goes round saying that she was the one that thought of XXX, you could send an email attached to the previous one, saying something like "I think it's great that we're going with idea XXX. I feel pleased that I was able to contribute that idea - see email below. Should we review how it is going next week e.g. at our usual general meeting?" When she makes someone cry, you might choose to say something like, "Oh, Sarah is feeling upset about that remark. I just want to say that I don't agree with those criticisms of Sarah. I find her very pleasant to work with." Or if she says something nasty to you, you might say, "The way you said that just then is quite upsetting, Mary." and then don't take it any further. She will pretend that she doesn't care, but your style of calmly mentioning that it's upsetting will encourage others to also say on other occasions, "Too harsh, Mary. I'm not feeling strong enough to deal with those harsh words today." or something similar. Quietly, calmly, people can keep making it clear that the bullying is not OK.

[@emilia4323]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you as always

[@Curriay]

Deborah Meltrozo cuz they are suffering.

[@emilia4323]

+Deborah Meltrozo yes, please

[@emilia4323]

usmc2076 I know you too! You replied to my comment about depression under that Carl Sagan video.

[@emilia4323]

usmc2076 Well, it's my most popular comment so I figured to check there :) :p

[@edgy6562]

Deborah Meltrozo I think you need to shut the fuck up

[@rosie6]

Hurt people hurt others. Happy successful people don’t spew hate for no reasons. Often rude or nasty people are hurt and miserable.

[@chickedeedee292]

Remember that most of these types are on the Sociopath or Narcissistic scale, they need their 'supply' from you.

[@KINGKROSBYSKINGDOM]

How do avoid theases people

[@tmc3567]

Shitty people tend be selfish and/or immature. Sociopathy is just for extreme cases, but it's not the general rule. Then there are toxic positive people who censor any opinion that doesn't sound upbeat. And then there are people who hate you because you've grown tired of flattering them. If over 2 million people are suicidal in today's world, what does that say about the world? Is it really getting better???

[@ilarisa1715]

@@tmc3567 You were just describing the narcissistic sociopath. So you see how you're own personal opinion can just be wrong?

[@RinDemon5]

@@tmc3567 Sociopathy might be less common than what you said, yet research has shows sociopaths are MUCH more common that you'd think.

[@benny7929]

yep that is relatable

[@porygoncyberspace8377]

why do people always assume that if your a troll or that if your mean to or hurt others it's because you have a sad depressing life. why is it impossible to imagine that you can be a happy person with a loving family and friends with stable finances and can still be a troll.

[@fou-luthedragonemperor8648]

porygon cyberspace I'd love to see somebody with a happy life wasting his time hurting others. Proof is needed.

[@avjh9946]

porygon cyberspace being a troll and being nasty are two very different things

[@NoThing-wc3cs]

watch the southpark episode:Skank hunt, it shows exactly that, a happy guy with a family and friends and stable finances trolling/hurting everyone and loves it.

[@piewert787]

No Thing you can't use a fiction tv show as evidence

[@fosforos7]

@Max Powers - just because one 'thinks' very highly of oneself, doesn't mean that one 'feels' just as good. In fact, the more highly one thinks of self, the more pain and humiliation he feels deep down. He deceives himself with thoughts of grandeur in order to suppress the truth of his pitiful existence. In this sense, to be mature and well balanced means to be able to confront and accept own suppressed truth.

[@wendyb9322]

Do fear, ignorance and lack of empathy not play a part in creating nastiness?

[@nesdes8363]

lack of empathy for sure

[@nesdes8363]

@Fermentum Mobile why are your jokes mean tho?

[@onlyhuman5669]

Ignorance 💯💯

[@noddlefoodle5691]

@Fermentum Mobile why do the jokes have to be mean tho? Why are jokes that make a person the butt of the joke funny to you? Why is it a problem when someone says that they aren't okay with the joke you made? Don't be mean dude seriously.

[@iAteUrToast]

How about the people who are in pain and hurting, but still are good people?

[@tronalddump2444]

No, they are not good. Point.

[@northernstar5339]

People are nasty especially when they are unhappy and they reflect what they're feeling onto others and love to blame others for their behaviour. No one in their right mind is evil or cruel unless they are mentally damaged

[@emilyknowlton8602]

Most people mistakenly think they are good people.

[@S1LV3R_11]

idgaf that they’re in pain . Im mentally ill asf and struggling terribly and I still don’t treat people like shit unless they treat me that way first or they fr deserve it . There’s no excuse for people to be so disgusting . This world is fucked

[@jonathanwilliams365]

People just love to act mean

[@Ghost-vg6iq]

All this socializing bs is the reason

[@xrenegade87xchannel88]

Nobody is innocent there’s no such thing as a human who never intentionally hurt people for no good reason. There’s no such thing as a human free from evil because pure intentions don’t exist.

[@timmistarr9800]

Imagine them being nice to everyone and rude to you... That's quite something else. Taking kindness for weakness..bless these children

[@kellybrown685]

If you respect yourself, you treat others with respect.

[@OXIR]

Some people don't deserve respect.

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@OXIR thats da truth

[@benny7929]

I don't respect myself, I don't treat others with respect. I'm a bad person.

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@benny7929 why tho?

[@benny7929]

@@Isabel-sr8ep because i am selfish and take my pain out on others. I am immature and almost no self awareness. I lure to evil and everything bad no matter how hard i try to stay away from it. Because of this I’ve been trying to completely avoid myself from others.

[@SunnyApples]

I love how Philosophers and Psychologists like to simplify everything. Being nasty to others means you are in pain. But the problem is that some people are in pain but not nasty, and some people are not in pain but are cruel (think all the dictators through out history). Genetics is a real science and no, we are not all born the same.

[@emil5884]

Sounds like moving from one simplification to another to me!

[@MauriceRivers415]

Once they get in their 60's/70's/80's, their body doesn't work the way it used to (either menopause or achy joints). They become more negative, bitter, sour, vindictive and controlling, especially if they feel their "power" is being taken away. They suck the life out of the room, and instead of aging into mentors/role models, they become desperate for total control of everything/everyone around them. Younger people/leaders piss them off, because they begin to realize that time is not on their side: they have one foot in the grave. Dealing with the aging/elderly narcissist is tricky, because misery loves company. They age horribly and rapidly: all of that negativity, hatred, anger, and their need for control eventually catches up with them. Not to mention all of the health issues that are brought on from the stress they put themselves through: it all starts from within. I recommend keeping your distance respectfully, or zero contact for the truly deranged/malignant ones that can't be reasoned with.

[@skiiminette6725]

This sounds like someone I've known for a long time, except shes in her mid 50's.

[@justmarkiis]

I try so hard every day to spread positivity and people are just evil to me. I try to be cold hearted but I always fall back into being nice

[@georgejoestar9150]

I feel this comment so much. I please people and always forgive even when they’re in the wrong. But as the saying goes, nice people always finish last. And I guess that’s just reality 😢 But hey man! Thanks for being positive in a world where no one cares :) people like you inspire me to keep being positive even when the negatives suffocate me. We got this bro ❤

[@jonathanwilliams365]

I feel the same way I cant trust people after today

[@MikeHudspeth]

I think you’re exactly right. I think the problem is there are so many stressed and unhappy people nowadays, life is getting extremely difficult, and because of that, people take out their frustrations on everyone around them.

[@skiiminette6725]

This. Though it's still not excusable. People need to find ways to take out frustration in a more healthier way that doesn't hurt others or themselves.

[@ohsodefiant]

I agree for the most part. But forgiveness doesn't do anything. In fact, the most twisted and evil of psychopaths are looking for forgiveness. They want their actions to be permissible. They will just keep manipulating people into forgiveness. The only things you can do is keep away from the evil, develop an immunity to it and allow it to destroy itself. Or punishment it if you are in a strong position to. That's it.

[@justinw9455]

People been nasty to me all my life. Even people I see regularly every day.

[@honeydate]

You are not alone...believe me

[@pinkleWeenkies]

i dont really understand why people are rude, its literally just negative energy, no good comes out of it

[@FunDudeGirl]

There are plenty of nasty bullies out there that are doing just fine. They bully because its the fun, cool, socially proper thing to do so they can bolster their own social status at their victim's expense.

[@Andy-hi3yt]

The more enlightened and wise I become the less human contact I can stand. People’s vices (jealousy) and evil tendencies are too much. From horrible Attitudes to disgusting behaviour and random disrespectful content. I am severely affected by it and consider myself a misanthrope.

[@Hy-jg8ow]

Best thing is to progressively reduce the amount of people one has to deal with as much as one can afford this rarest of luxuries. However, it is becoming increasingly hard to carve out a place of solitude in a world of increasing population and decreasing privacy, and the increasingly inconvenient coercion of work-places to "enhance customer service experience", via forcing us to smile when we would rather cry, talk when we would rather think, and so forth. In case we are forced by our lovely system of mutual exploitation to be more amongst the zombies we would have a palate for, there is a backup solution: see people as npc`s capable of suffering, but with only a couple of cross-culturally shared personality subroutines, a collection of learned habituations - sociological marvels of walking manufactured one-dimensionalities, walking designer-suits and marketing-abominations, it helps filtering them out. Its a dog`s world, cats better keep in the shadows, it is there after all, where other felines worthy of a brief exchange of ideas lurk. Let the mindless barking of the masses become part of the background, like the unaware, destructive forces of nature they are. That way you can hide in plain sight.

[@ellie_5276]

Hypatia so true ! This world is not accepting of introverted personalities unfortunately.

[@therambler3713]

human beings are social creatures, that's why when you're alone for too long you start to feel lonely and start talking to yourself

[@Hy-jg8ow]

Tuko Pomwene Apparently we are not all humans then. Plus I am never alone with my thoughts.I usually only feel lonely with plenty of humans around. Cats, books, music are better company. Being "skizoid" or introverted its not an illness, its just being different. That humans tends to be social animals, is a descriptive not a normative judgment about the general state of affairs, but all generalities have exceptions, generally lol.

[@Hy-jg8ow]

pianosenzanima You do that, but its completely ok, if its not natural. Nature is an idiot, blind, cruel, unintelligent force, not an ethical standard. I also hate things, the small-talking, loud, jumpy and hysterical type of people who never stop to consider an interesting thought - I find that extremely painfully boring and pointless, thus I find great joy in solitary activities and the company of a select few with whom I can truly experience depth and meaningful communication.

[@ddmagee57]

Tuko Some are less social than others for various reasons, Like Hypatia and me. It'll cause you much miscommunication in life if you assume everyone feels like you feel. Cheers!

[@Kookie-zc3gt]

I've tried to surround myself with things I love, but the ugly realities keeps hitting. My family, people of my community, my state, my country, People all over the world everything disgusts me so much. Once I fall into this dark hole I just keep sinking and there's not one helping hand, and I have no will or energy left to fight back or save myself. I just want to leave.

[@user-ee2jz5fu1v]

I can feel the pain most communities I'm in are toxic and I tent to have a lot of arguments and Ive been feeling very sad lately but even though its hard I advise you to try and not bring attention to that its very hard to do but worth it if a toxic person ever picks up a fight with you ignore them cause Ill give you my example here I'm part of the kpop community and there is no one day I have piece because everybody is miserable and attacks everyone you your band the other fans all because of mistakes they never want you to learn you did something wrong cause they can keep it against you they are truly awful but now I just deleted everything and resorted to good ol KZbin even though Im not away from the toxicity it doesn't affect me as strong as it did before so I'd advise you to go away and stay away from whats causing this of course some things are unavoidable but it doenst hurt to try and maybe even try to talk things through and if that ends up in a conflict I suggest fleeing it the easiest way to feel better thanks for reading this and I hope it helped if you need anybody to talk to I can give you my Instagram take care

[@lindsandkev]

Jealous people are nasty.

[@starredq]

humanity disappoints and a rlly cruel world 😔 it sucks

[@konchange]

It's not cruel. Did you even watch the video?