Why Are We Obsessed With Straight Hair? | MANE | NowThis

[@BB-xo7oo]

Black women , wear your hair however you want , and whatever makes your feel happy and beautiful

[@amak7663]

Right, but I've seen women loving their permed hair even though it looked TERRIBLE but they loved it and it made them "happy" because they've been taught it's better. It's not always what makes us happy, but what's GOOD for us.

[@Scoring57]

Brayla b Yeah, that's fine if it's not influenced by a racist society and fueling insecurities about your natural beauty. It might provide some comfort in the short term to wear what you *think* you want, but it doesn't create any self love or self acceptance

[@amak7663]

@@Scoring57 amen

[@BB-xo7oo]

Scoring57 I feel like wearing your hair a certain way doesn’t make you not wanna accept your natural beauty , just like if you wear makeup it doesn’t mean you don’t like your natural beauty .

[@amak7663]

@@BB-xo7oo but I've met some women literally APOLOGIZE when they're wearing their own face. So that argument doesn't really work...

[@starzzzy22]

We have to remember that natural hair hasn't been popular for all that long. I had never seen my mom's natural texture in person until very recently. I've never seen my older sister's natural texture. In the 90s and early 2000s practically all Black women had straight hair. It wasn't until KZbin/college that I saw natural hair.

[@ightwack2220]

where are you from? a lot of the people I know have been "natural"

[@almondcroissonttt4852]

ight wack natural can mean different things for different people. What’s you’re definition of natural hair?

[@islandgirl9890]

You mean in America

[@janetvandyne3864]

I've never had my hair straight. I feel like it would be so weird!

[@LBellatrix]

Naturals have always been around but this latest “movement” didn’t start picking up steam until the 2000s. I went (back to) natural in 1995 and the first time I found myself in a place where natural was more common than relaxed was in Brooklyn (!!) in 1999. When I moved back to Ohio in 2013 my natural hair didn’t stand out at all and it felt really good.

[@ME-wu9dy]

Idk what to do when my hair is straight, it's so weird lol

[@Jbelly275]

Sammmmme

[@attiliasarpong2305]

Mood! 😩

[@sheba653161]

I swear you would think I've never had straight hair before lol

[@DeliciousBeautii1]

Mukbang Newbie I don’t know what to do when my hair is curly, but slick it back! I have long 3b 3c hair and I look weird when I wear my curly hair down. I feel like it completely covers up my beauty because my face and head is so small!

[@theladyofsoul5023]

Mukbang Newbie, same here. I can't do it.

[@LoXena]

I wear my hair kinky coily because it's way easier to take care of and cheaper. I don't fear humidity, I don't style my hair on mornings, I use simple products and water.

[@alicethemadrabbit1842]

honestly... the first day of rain when i started wearing my hair natural and I DIDN'T have to run for a grocery bag....

[@missmarik6826]

@@alicethemadrabbit1842 rain is actually really bad for your hair and it could make you sick if you're in wet clothes. Use a big umbrella

[@MzKay-en8kr]

@@alicethemadrabbit1842 especially summer rain☔. I smile to myself when I see others with weaves and relaxed hair (no shade/hate) run for dear life to get out of the rain while the wetter my hair gets the more it coils. I love having healthy and natural hair.

[@pinkforever3844]

I still fear sky water, haha! Shrinkage is real.

[@alicethemadrabbit1842]

@@missmarik6826 I mean more of the moisture in the air. Even a little bit of humidity will ruin a straightened style.

[@ItsMrstoyouboo]

Wear your hair how you want, period. Nobody should be policing the next person choices on how they wear their hair. I cant believe we're still making hair a big thing.

[@creativemindplay]

speak that word

[@afrobluatlanta2380]

And can't believe we are still NOT embracing our culture. We have not sacred cows.

[@zxyatiywariii8]

I'm the 100th 👍🏽 and you should have a million 👍🏽s! Our hair is our crown and no one else can tell us how to wear it. Love and blessings to you 🥰

[@khailils446]

@@afrobluatlanta2380 straight hair has clearly become part of the culture

[@joythinker739]

@Jacklyn Demon Glad that it's just an opinion.

[@simonsaysism]

During the 90s/00s obsession with pin-straight hair, even just growing up as a white girl with wavy/frizzy hair was tough. I can't even imagine how much exponentially harder it must have been for women of colour. It makes me so happy to see natural hair becoming more accepted and women embracing their own beauty.

[@Theresabrown1805]

My hair is naturally messy and curly and looks bad I have this obsession with my hair my dad had curly hair and mum had straight so I got a bit of both and it looks awful. I have used straighteners and used products which don't work. So I grudgingly accept how my hair is. I think ALL women no matter who they are or where they come from the world over should think their hair is beautiful I should follow my own advice,

[@gummy5862]

@@Theresabrown1805 You probably just need to work with your hair better. I can’t prescribe a specific routine or products, but don’t lose hope!

[@shukriramlee]

I don't think women of colour was a appropiate term of straight hair because only Asian have super straight hair in this world.

[@simonsaysism]

@@shukriramlee great point, I should have been more specific

[@cccreates3211]

"your hair is your crown" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@zxyatiywariii8]

Yes!!! I love that!

[@LiloRolland]

wait so women who proudly go bald are ''crown-less''? is that what she's implying?

[@shaundavidssd]

@@LiloRolland no ,that pretending you've got next races crown speaks volumes

[@ethanarnel9513]

@@LiloRolland Jesus Christ loosen up, u really have to find a way to find everything offensive

[@moxypicture5681]

no its my prison

[@jd.4244]

Personally I've always loved my hair. I never felt different because my hair wasn't straight. Weave to me doesn't look right. The whole idea of wearing someone else's hair in your head is strange to me. Especially since people can tell it's not really your hair. But that's just my opinion, so don't take it personally.

[@soupafleye]

Jasmin Dean my thoughts exactly. i have curly hair and i’ve bought wigs and they really do not look right on me. i think we should embrace our true textures and just love ourselves 🌻

[@reneeontop39]

SAME (except box braids and cornrows and twist ect.)

[@firstnamelastname4427]

I feel like if black women are going to wear wigs and weaves they could at least wear Afro textured hair instead of Asian women's hair.

[@jd.4244]

@@firstnamelastname4427 I've said this too. It seems like a preference for straight hair to me. You can have a protective style with an afro wig.

[@jaylajordan1685]

Jasmin Dean I would personally wear a straight wig because I wear my hair curly the majority of the time. So what would be the point of being spending money for a weave/wig that’s just gonna look like my hair?

[@Gracekenyata]

The grapevine did a better job at covering this. We don't have an obsession with straight hair; in the U.S. Black hair has been legislated against. How a Black woman wore her hair could affect employability & socio-economic status, not to mention we've been told for hundreds of years that proximity to Whiteness was beautiful. THATS why everybody had relaxers. I'm so proud that we are shedding those shackles and embracing all of our Black features.🤗

[@quartzzhuit]

🔥🔥

[@littleympe2570]

Come on now let’s be honest...before social media most of us didn’t even know of these laws. We just liked straight hair and the way it looked lol. Y’all know good and well most of us are not wearing straight hair because bc of some legislation (albeit insane and racist).

[@zippy3253]

@@littleympe2570 facts

[@lolacabana123]

Sometimes ( a lot of times) it's not about "wanting to feel accepted", it's just about us wanting to try a different style or wanting a style that's more convenient or manageable. Some of us just get bored quick 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@plantpants8950]

Exactly. I understand that there may be societal pressures for some. But natural hair is so much work and sometimes I just don’t have the time or patience

[@selendriamuganogo7077]

Lola Cabana exactly

[@twitterblackdove]

Boredom is a symptom of underlying disease especially if you suffer from it nonstop like you say "quick".

[@trulyblessed5254]

@OMOSEFE NORUWA Ok if slavery and discrimination is the reason why some women opt for straight hair then there's no reason to judge, demonize or criticize the victims for how they choose to wear their hair.

[@sd1818]

“trying a different style”, if this is the case it can be accepted. i still don’t kow why because you can do alot of hairstyles with 4 type hair. the thing is that black women (which i am seeing) aren’t even trying a different style, they are 24/7 wearing a wig. just say that you think that straight hair is more beautiful and go on.

[@kamiyabritton7098]

" Why are people obsessed with straight hair? Because of European standards that has tainted every other culture to believe that they should have straighter hair or brighter skin, Majority of the black community has dealt with this hair issue

[@Parisroam]

@@Ehlaar there are more layers. Black people have lost unity since the 70's. All of these issues run deeper than what us shown on the surface.

[@LisaIrby]

Right. We are taught to hate our hair. When my mom put a relaxer on my head at 8 it subconsciously taught me that my kinky hair is ugly and unmanageable. I didn't realize how much I was uncomfortable with my own texture until I transitioned in 2010.

[@Ehlaar]

@@Parisroam people who want something to happen make it happen simple as that I been rocking my fro scince high school the only women that are negative towards my kinks are black ones never stops me ever it stops with me in my life

[@ahhwe-any7434]

That's the dumbest sh ever. When all else fails blame the white man. Or black man. Or wever. Bc Asians def have some straight hair

[@xiaoecstasy]

This means so much to me,i’m getting box braids to stop the urge from flat ironing every week. my hair has become weak and i want to go natural. It makes me SO happy to see that my curls are growing back beautifully and perfect

[@kaleiyahs]

Everly _ can you send me your profile pic on Ig? My Ig is ro.6ex

[@confused3538]

Me too!

[@yoursleepparalysisdemon9969]

Ye my bangs broke off almost completely from over doing it with the irons. Sit back abit and let it be natural. (Even though it's hypocritical of me to say that since I just relaxed my hair after a big chop)

[@calistafalcontail]

"Why Are We Obsessed With Straight Hair"- because its very aesthetic, feels nice, shines more, falls nicely etc.

[@heartsloved]

if someone is judging you on your hair, no matter how it’s styled wtf do you care about their approval, be comfortable with yourself and don’t judge others

[@ImaniMonay]

When I was a lil younger I wanted straight hair ONLY b/c it showed my real length. I’ve been without relaxer for like 8 years now & been natural for a while. Now that I wear my hair natural I got used to it & don’t like straight hair like that.

[@madanjarra7910]

Imani Monay has u

[@ImaniMonay]

Madan Jarra huh?

[@kekeplaysvideogames7255]

I like straightening my hair because I look WAY better with long hair 🤣

[@ImaniMonay]

@@kekeplaysvideogames7255 straight hair is too lifeless for me. It is cool to see your length every once in a while tho!

[@wordie_hunt8234]

i think it’s very overrated and damages our real hair. i couldn’t stress every black women to stop copying becky’s hairstyle. please just embrace u

[@souljabae3068]

I’m not obsessed with having my hair flat ironed because I have very curly hair and I love my curly hair it actually makes me sad when my hair is flat ironed because I like my fluffy curly hair the best~✊🏽❤️

[@denisevasquez9988]

That’s the beauty of natural hair, the versatility. If I want it straight I can, if I want it curly I can, if I want Bantu knots I can, if I want braids I can. We should be able to style it as we wish and not be considered “less of a natural” because of it.

[@GgFf-gm4yo]

It’s not natural …… ur natural hair is the hair in which u are born with….. black women naturally have roughy Afro hair…. White people have naturally straight hair……. Black people have no love in the hair that they have naturally….. instead black women have to copy white women and straightening there roughy Afro hair or by a wig….. both ways it’s copying white people hair

[@Gwenny89]

Curly hair has so much more life and volume! Beautiful. Because it has so much movement it styles itself. My hair is straight and I hate it

[@minimalassembly7893]

“It has so much movement it styles itself.” That comment right there. It’s true, if we take care of it properly it literally falls into place as it should. However, don’t had your straight hair. God didn’t make a mistake. There are many cool, sleek and vibrant styles you can do with the right haircut and parting on straight hair.

[@sweethartia]

Please don’t hate your hair!! It’s so low maintenance you have no idea how lucky you are

[@MzKay-en8kr]

@@minimalassembly7893 FACTS👍💃🙌💖

[@naeness]

+Sweethartia it takes so much work to keep up with very curly hair! But I prefer that before having my head burned and my hair damaged.

[@SpiritualAttitudeSage]

well we always want to try the opposite with hair i have noticed...

[@AllyBear719]

Natural hair is soooo versatile. I love the ability to switch up my entire look. That’s one of the best parts of being a black woman.!

[@ShalemAhava]

Alexandria Johnson PeriodT sis, I've been natural 3 years and I love my type 4 textured hair!

[@LiloRolland]

Literally every other race of woman can switch up their look because their hair is versatile,so its not just a ''black thing''

[@sd1818]

@@LiloRolland with black people hair (4A,4B and 4C) you can do more things than with straight, wavy or curly hair.

[@pumpkinseeds8990]

@@sd1818 like what?

[@bastian9693]

@@sd1818 So what do you mean? Most people that have that hair type do “other things” to their weaves or wigs so it doesn’t really count when it’s not their *natural hair, right? Yes, type 4 can have braids or buns, but literally so can every other hair type.

[@ifyourespondyourmad.2409]

Why do people consider straight hair to be Eurocentric?. Like Native Americans literally have straight hair too.

[@tonymartinez5567]

I think every race except black has straight hair

[@WilliamMohamad-uv5fi]

its latina women. not latinx. that defeats the whole point of latinx to say women afterwards

[@Cocochantelle]

I thought so too, until I learned that you can identify as a woman or feminine but not necessarily take on the normative linguistic pronouns

[@ErinRaciell]

Language evolves all the time, get over it.

[@firstnamelastname4427]

@@Cocochantelle Why identify as a woman or feminine but have a problem with feminine pronouns? That makes absolutely no sense.

[@chelayne]

First Name Last Name it’s 2019. Everyone has a problem and offended lol. By 2025, pronouns won’t even be a thing at all lol

[@shezmeister2771]

What is a latinx?

[@Halo2glitchlover22]

Wear your naturally wavy/curly/kinky hair proudly ladies!!! Our natural hair IS elegant and acceptable!! It boils my blood when I hear people saying their natural hair is “gross” or “unkempt” because I used to feel that same way about my hair (not to mention bullies would say negative remarks as well). I grew up thinking I’d be a slave to the relaxers, Brazilian blowouts, blow dryer, and straightener and a lot of my insecurities about feeling pretty came from my hair, and I despised it. It was unhealthy. When I learned how to properly care for it 8 years ago (all thanks to the natural hair community), it changed my view on my self image and hair in general. I wear my natural hair proudly now and I always hope other curlies find their way to loving and accepting their hair.

[@Bakerygo]

I used to hate my curly hair until I met my husband. He loves my natural hair, he says that it's crazy fun and rebellious and wild and he doesn't like it when I straighten it. So I finally embarrassed my hair and stopped wasting my time and energy trying to "tame" it.

[@ngozio.9347]

Crazy?

[@Whistlesonthewind]

One word: assimilation

[@TheShows247]

?

[@abepresume8132]

More like colonization

[@mechanikalbull5626]

more like inferiority complex

[@bastian9693]

More like personal insecurities...no one cares how you wear your hair. You’re just unhappy with the way you naturally look. It’s all on *you.

[@mayiiisantos]

I'm glad I realized no one is me and I'm living my life in my skin so I'll do whatever I want and I don't look at people and make beauty standards on myself to meet others expectations, & I taught myself that I'm 16. Also when people say curls are unprofessional 🙄 please shut up u make zero sense and it makes everything about u seem unprofessional .

[@alyssabrown6877]

I feel like a lot of black women will never admit that they hate their own hair which is sad.. I had to go natural because I thought straight hair made me look pretty. I went natural not knowing I was gonna love it. Our natural hair is beautiful ladies I’m sorry society is telling you otherwise.

[@GgFf-gm4yo]

No it isn’t…. Black women have to flatiron, buy wigs/weaves just to get the hair that white women have naturally😂😂😂😂…… black women know it, and white girl hair is superior and top tier that’s why everyone tries to copy it

[@attacker-2]

If you can straighten your curls, don't be mad when I gets dreads as a white person.

[@AC-ri2ph]

Ya'll just showing the racism

[@harriet5247]

Natural hair is not that difficult to deal with I am really lazy. I just wet my hair a little bit and put on some conditioner and shea butter and put it in a puff that is all. The only thing is you have to detangle but that is ones or twice a week

[@monsterlovefreak3]

Harriet some people don’t feel that way about the hair on their head personally I got bored

[@kpeazyyyyy]

Everyone’s hair is different so others hair is a lot harder to maintain than yours

[@firstnamelastname4427]

@@monsterlovefreak3 but you're not bored with the same limp straight hair, and other people's hair sewn on your head?

[@LisaIrby]

Yes and I think the more comfortable you are with your texture, the easier it will be. Being natural is only hard if you spend time trying to constantly make it look less natural or less kinky. My mom rocks a small fro and I envy her low maintenance. And she's comfortable with her texture.

[@marilynwillett804]

@@firstnamelastname4427 every young woman desires long silky lustrous hair.

[@vidhadixit928]

This panel is INCREDIBLE! I love the open and frank discussion and sympathize wholeheartedly. As an Indian woman with big, curly hair, I grew up surrounded by the typical “thick straight black Indian hair” that everyone covets but I didn’t have. For years I pressed/heated/straightened my hair to be what it wasn’t so I could fit in. I’m SO THANKFUL to the natural hair community for giving women a voice and a path to embrace themselves and love their hair!

[@scj7408]

I like having my hair straight because its easier to take care of lol

[@scj7408]

@Glen CoCo 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@scj7408]

@Ruthie Bella true with everything I have to do it's just suitable for me doesn't mean I don't like my curly hair or anything

[@Foreveralonecuuuh]

Yeah that's why 🙄

[@scj7408]

@@Foreveralonecuuuh what are you implying

[@blackmermaid1]

Sc J yeah ok.....

[@elora179]

When white women wear black hairstyles that’s not okay but black women straighten their hair and dye ti blonde that’s okay?

[@PrincessWhatsername]

"Latinx women" is literally just called Latina lmao. Taking political correctness too far 😂

[@lehirahfanfan4292]

yedaperry We live in a society where people get offended soooooo easily so they’re taking a precaution before the comment sections start attacking her for her word choices.

[@PrincessWhatsername]

@@lehirahfanfan4292 OK, and like, even though I don't personally agree with using "Latinx" at all, I do understand why and how it is used...it is gender-neutral. But if you're talking specifically about men or specifically about women, you just say "Latino" or "Latina"....you only use "Latinx" when generalizing both genders. She misused it here.

[@dianaelisa9261]

Yeah, it’s either “latinx people/latinxs” or “latina women/latinas”.

[@monica9070]

I was more bothered by the "Black AND" part. You can be Black and Latino. 🙄

[@Hushstar1]

I'm black and I where my hair straight. It is way easier to maintain, especially if u're the lazy type and don't comb ur natural hair for yourself.

[@Libra0Rising]

I'm the opposite lol I tried the straightening thing and Im too lazy to constantly combat frizz with the flat iron (plus I'm too lazy to put the effort into straightening my hair in the first place and too cheap to constantly get it done) so i just gel my hair down and wear it in wash and gos most of the time. I don't comb it except once a week and when its wet with conditioner. I think natural hair lends itself to laziness if you know how to be lazy with it lol

[@Hushstar1]

@@Libra0Rising Lola that's true.

[@zari2662]

Same, I'm black and originally from Jamaica. My hair is so so thick! I flat iron it once a month but wear it natural sometimes. I go through soooo many products and time when it's natural. It's so much easier for me to wear it straight not to mention cheaper 😅

[@christina3793]

Yes I never wore my hair straight until I had my babies. It’s so much easier. It gives me the “I woke up like this” look. I need that as a mom.

[@liizzset]

@@zari2662 Truth. Same here. Except for living in Jamaica now. But truth.

[@iceetas]

I appreciate this video so much. It got me thinking how often I see people praise curly hair online but how often I get "you should straighten your hair more".

[@GgFf-gm4yo]

Just to copy white people😂😂😂….. a black person using smooth hair is like a white person getting braids

[@jasmineskyy4964]

They sneak in relaxer in the conditioner and it sucks. I cried when I realized my hair would not revert

[@lehirahfanfan4292]

JasmineSkyy Wait, what? Explain.

[@Mh-xe1zh]

Elia Kat not surprising. There’s often relaxer in the conditioner

[@firstnamelastname4427]

@@lehirahfanfan4292 Dominican salons do this when they do black women's hair.

[@LiloRolland]

have you tried going bald and regrowing?

[@randomuser1105]

I gave straight hair the finger as a teenager. Been natural since age 15.

[@k.c.5426]

Same here!!💯👏👏👏👏

[@maddipage1347]

Hair is just hair! It grows from the scalp no matter how straight, curly, kinky u choose to wear it. I like mine straight bc personally I think I look better that way and for my 4c hair, it’s easier. I don’t think I look better bc of standards but when I look in the mirror I realize straight hair fits my round face better lol

[@shanadavis5734]

We have to remember that white women are not the only women in the world with straight hair. Yellow women have the straightest hair. Also not all white women have straight hair. So when someone accuses me of trying to be white I point this out.

[@zxyatiywariii8]

Exactly! Asian hair is straighter than Caucasian hair almost always.

[@thephilosopher1663]

ye white people can also have curly hair

[@dammee]

Every time I get a blowout it only lasted a day or two because my hair fights back and starts curling underneath.

[@jordiblu2131]

Nope, there doesn’t need to be baby steps you should have your hair exactly as you like it and that just doesn’t need to determine how black you are AT ALL my only issue is that black hair STILL is not represented in mainstream culture like European hair is 🤷‍♂️ how is that!? So weird this world

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

JordieXblu Because so many black people prefer straight hair along with white people preferring straight hair, that’s what’s promoted to them. Now that loose curls are more popular/acceptable, that is promoted as well. The media isn’t going to promote something that no one appears to finds appealing just for the sake of representation.

[@diamondlincoln5215]

@@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249 Well the reason that everyone wants that in the first place is BECAUSE white people pushed that beauty standard on us. Cuz if kinky hair was seen as better in the past..then all commercials and people would want kinky hair.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

Diamond Lincoln Be that as it may, as long as black people continue to reinforce the beauty of straight or lose curly hair, it will continue to be on top. White people who control the media promote their features above all. Its something black people need to learn to do.

[@bbfunky1]

Diamond Lincoln All I can say is be the change you want to see.

[@Jbelly275]

Relaxer in the conditioner?! I’m shooketh!

[@alienlatino2945]

Black women are the only ones obsessed with straight hair, I see lots of Latinas and White girls paying to have frizzy/curly hair. Look at Shakira, she loves her frizzy hair and never lets it go straight which is her natural form.

[@averagelife5449]

I am a girl with wavy or straight hair. For me the variety of straight wavy curly n super curly hair is what makes hair beautiful. It's just so beautiful to see different types of hair. Also these women are very smart and also gorgeous

[@seekinghimdaily92]

4C for life!

[@merryxmaswarisover]

“Your hair is your crown.” I feel that when you aren’t taught to care and style your curls you grow frustrated with them. I had straight hair in my youth and puberty granted me curly hair. My mother didn’t know how to manage it. Later I blow dried until I thought it a waste of time. I learned to style it with and am now known for my curls. In Puerto Rico where I live most women blow dry their hair and can’t help but to think how this habit keeps them from other activities and myself from imaging a different Puerto Rican woman.

[@Artisticmonkey2]

I had the same journey! I couldn’t find anyone around me that had any advice

[@carresearch504]

The compliment of the light skin woman's curly hair at 2:09 is the line of thinking that discourages kinky hair women from rocking our hair in its natural state but instead pursue "laid edges" and "the mixed chick" look. She didn't feel at all compelled to compliment the dark skin women with the locks, whom she first addressed mind you. That speaks volumes about our psychology when it comes to kinky hair. This is the result of allowing everyone with a bend in their hair in a space that we created to address and fight this very issue of glorifying eurocentric hair and essentially eurocentric phenotypes. We are more enlightened and fully understand how our kinky hair has been used to undermine us. So it is incumbent that we stop the intellectual dishonesty when we adorn ourselves with eurocentric wigs and weaves telling ourselves and others that it is a protective style. Why not rock an afrocentric wig then. We need to make a more conscientious effort and mind the message we relay to our sons, daughters, our community at large and even the non-kinky hair folks that seem to be profiting from our preoccupation with "laid edges" (lord how I've come to dislike this term, actually I find it abhorrent). As soon as our girls are of age they want a weave, why? Because our pursuit of eurocentric hair fosters an insidious sense of diffidence and low self-esteem in our girls from a critical age. By the time our sons begin to date, they prefer to pursue the mixed girls with the straight or curly hair and leave the kinky hair girls, even those rocking eurocentric weaves, out in the cold. We need to embrace out authentic selves and stop pursuing a second rate version of eurocentric beauty. I understand that several centuries of conditioning has created our warped sense of beauty but we need to seek the presence of mind to understand that we have the power to change the definition of beauty but it must begin with self acceptance.

[@k.c.5426]

PREACH!!💯👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@ticheri16]

I would have loved to see someone with type 4 hair in this.

[@sparkleclown]

there was, she was wearing braids...

[@Usernotfounddd748]

I wear my hair however i feel but i still love my natural hair wether i wear a wig weave or as is🙌🏾💕

[@pumpkinseeds8990]

If you love your natural hair why you cover it up with wigs

[@jennifergiwa1006]

Why would anyone care how others do their hair?

[@natalyrausch]

Because we're social animals and care about norms and what's acceptable in society. I grew up with shiny straight hair being the norm (avril lavigne, britney spears, etc), and so i got introduced to relaxers/hair straightening pretty much from the age of 11 on. It was expected. "Pain is the price of beauty" was always the excuse when I complained about scars, burns, and scabs. Not to mention that certain relaxers are cancerous. I'm just glad girls today have more freedom and can display their hair how it naturally grows from their scalp.

[@samanthaepps6365]

Have you paid attention to history, legislature, or the news? There are laws in some states that okays employer fire/not hire people with locks, there are rules in the military about it. There have been black kids kicked out of class over it, even a news anchor was let go when she went natural.

[@KnightofAntiquity]

Well I don't date people who relax their hair. It gives me a hint about your personal character and resolve.

[@ShalemAhava]

jennifer Giwa ignorance and what is expected to be as "beautiful". It's a form a mental slavery to keep women of color and minorities insecure about themselves!

[@Nicegirljenn]

I am half Mexican half Irish and have curly/wavy super thick hair. I have always hated it and have been straightening for 18yrs!!!!😱😱😱 But NOT anymore! I am 2 mths in of no straightening and sportin my natural hair, although it is damaged and NO WHERE NEAR its original curl, but I am patient and will get there. So glad to finally embrace my natural hair and know it’s ok (even if just by me) to love hair that isn’t straight!

[@noaarianna5750]

I wish I could see my hair curly😢 My mom says I don’t have “good hair”, and that’s why I’ve had a perm since I was 3 years old. I’ve never seen my natural hair texture before.

[@mikewithanl]

Actually I’ve switched from perm to natural in the last few years because I was tired of them....but in all honesty I still liked my permed hair better 🤷🏽‍♀️just my personal preference.

[@SuperEboni15]

Interesting video. Made some good points but doesn’t dive into the effects of assimilation on black/African people enough. Also those in the comments should read up on the difference between assimilation and appropriation. Straight hair cannot be appropriation because there is no culture that has claim on straight hair. Straight hair is a trait which is why some although few black people can have naturally straight hair. Just like Hispanics, white, Asian, native Americans can have straight hair. So which culture would straight hair supposedly belong to?

[@GeeLoLo8718]

🙄 Do what makes you happy. 95% of the time I rock a wash and go, but if I feel like a silk press... guess what?? I’m getting it!

[@ayannatyler1594]

Proverbs 3:31 Envy thou not the oppressor, and choose none of his ways.

[@marilynwillett804]

The only oppressor is in your mind. 1. PETER AND AGAIN 1. TIMOTHY--NO BRAIDING OF HAIR OR WEARING GOLD. GOD ALSO TALKS ABOUT APPAREL. GOD IS VERY CLEAR HOW WOMEN SHOULD DRESS AND ACT--AND HE --HATES--PRIDE.

[@s.mclovin800]

Ngl I feel like if ur hair is real n u straighten It its not that deep, but when your buying straight hair and neglecting your own that's the problem

[@JemiLover3000]

If you use that logic, aren't you "neglecting" your hair by straightening it? Like you no longer have to care for it the same way. I support both styles so I'm not coming for you, just trying to understand your thinking. I've never heard this reasoning before

[@goodygoody15devilsdaughter11]

I'm white and have naturally curly 2c/3a hair and I grew up straighten my hair because I got bullied for my poofy curly hair since I didn't know how to take care of it, I got it from my mother but she was born prematurely so the light they had put her under straighten it out, so my parents didn't know how to take care of it neither did my babysitter, my dad used to put dawn in my hair to help with the grease, I've had it chemically straighten once or twice because I wasn't accepted with curly hair I used to brush it dry and wondered why it was always frizzy afterwards I never made the connection since I was misinformed. In my school, it's rare to see girls with naturally curly hair because it's either straighten, they get a perm or curl it. Everytime I complain about my frizzy hair my friends just say why don't you straighten it. Im 17 by the way. Does anyone know what I can do to help moisturize my hair?

[@goodygoody15devilsdaughter11]

@Daddys Girl What's pink lotion sorry I'm not aware of all the products out there

[@vastya.3255]

Goodygoody15 Devils daughter Pink lotion is a hair lotion but it’d be too greasy on your hair. try SheaMoisture products, start out with light products. moisturize with water and seal with a leave in conditioner in your case. if your hair can handle a little bit of oil , i’d recommend argan oil , put the most on your ends and rub the rest into the hair shaft, not close to your scalp

[@np2679]

Ya know...I have noticed that some women go natural to grow their hair out only for the purpose to then straighten it every week.

[@k.c.5426]

That is true!💯👏👏👏

[@nameless9867]

Am I the only who don’t don’t care about straight hair? I love looking like a lion

[@LiloRolland]

Don't know when last you saw a lion but a lion's hair is more straight than it is curly or wavy,not my opinion,just facts.

[@SugaBabieT]

@@LiloRolland But a lion also has big mane, so when a black person says they wanna look like a lion we mean we want our hair to be big and puffed out like the lions mane. So before you try to correct someone please make sure you understand what they are saying.

[@LiloRolland]

@@SugaBabieT they said they don't like "straight hair"..then referenced a lion..suggesting that a lion's hair is not straight...Google a lion before you talked to me kid.

[@believewomen165]

I don’t care for mine that’s why I have freeform locks.

[@pumpkinseeds8990]

@@SugaBabieT lions have wavy hair. Not kinky hair

[@dr.softie7501]

People forget that we as Black people were not able to get jobs and into specific institutions if our hair was in it's natural state. That fear is still pervasive in our community. People say they just like their hair straight and have a preference for straight hair but really start to think about why ladies. Your natural hair is beautiful. Show other cultures how beautiful being authentically black can be.

[@primus4895]

wears wig nd talks abt natural beauty 😆

[@alize0623]

I’m Dominican and became part of the natural hair movement in 2014. My mother in 2015 (with my help) and sister in 2016. We straighten sometimes for a change, like dying, but we used to get blowouts EVERY Sunday like religion once I was in the 5th grade. Before that, it was braids. We all Stopped due to the damage and burnt smell of our hair. Learn to love your hair! 3 weeks ago I had a daughter and I want her to learn to love her hair. Too many natural girls don’t and ruin it! That’s why boys’ hair looks so much better. Love yourselves

[@canned_can_chan4590]

Bruuuuhhhh what that puerto rican lady said really got me! As a southeast asian with naturally wavy and thick hair (think 80's hair), I always get comments whenever I go to the salon. The salon ladies would always say "Why don't you smoothen it?". Like, it was the obvious choise. And ofc I said no cos my hair is cute this way.

[@Lolee56]

As a white women married to an asain man, I find it funny that people think white people have straight hair 😂😅 it’s the Asians that really have that silky straight hair!! Which is gorgeous but curly hair is also very beautiful and anything in between ♥️ the girl with the reddish curly hair was so pretty!! I can’t believe people told her to straighten it and that she would be prettier if it wasn’t curly... I loved the curls

[@LL-rk5lv]

That's not true. They don't put relaxer in the conditioner.

[@tungphan3900]

i would trade my asian straight hair to curly hair. i'm tired of my straight hair :))

[@Buttergirla]

Because it shows the true length of your hair and frames the face

[@merkabamagick9096]

When she said when you straighten your hair and you see women with their curls/locs and you forget you not “natural”. “No I’m apart of the club too, you didn’t know” 😂😂 I feel so left out, It only last a week because I miss my curls too much

[@amarahc4351]

It's...just Latin... Latin is gender neutral.... Creating new terms for what already exists really hurts you looking intelligent

[@felixxdenolo6793]

Alisa Mich lol I’m latin and was asking people wtf is Latinx and finally was like it’s some buzzfeed word made up to sound hip and modern no latino uses that word unless your like in la or nyc

[@Parisroam]

@True Aries thats what she choose to comment on. If you say something stupid, yes, it'll discredit your intelligence, why is this a surprise?

[@thephilosopher1663]

Paris Roam everyone will say something stupid or ignorant at some point in their life it doesn't mean that they are unintelligent overall everyone makes mistakes

[@seekingpathways1045]

I dont care what the texture is...I just wish I had length. My hair refuses to grow 6 inches.

[@74monaro]

Why isn't it cultural appropriation to straighten and dye your hair blonde if you aren't European? I grew up as the only white kid at school in Sudan. It one of my classmates straightened and dyed their hair blonde, why is this different to a European braiding or having dreadlocks? Not trying to be flippant, I am trying to understand the difference.

[@luismaturano4774]

Whites also have wavy or curly hair it's not about race

[@CyberInsanity]

Because straight hair and colored hair aren’t culture.It’s genetics.

[@GgFf-gm4yo]

@@CyberInsanity exactly black people are born with roughy Afro hair….. white women are born with naturally straight hair….. so why are black people copying white women by straightening there hair out/ buying wigs and weaves to get the top tier have that white women have naturally

[@GgFf-gm4yo]

@@CyberInsanity so stop copying white girl hair….. if u naturally have roughy/afroy hair then the only hair cuts u should be wrocking with is anything that has nothing to do with straight hair😂😂😂

[@CyberInsanity]

@@GgFf-gm4yo You’re comment quite literally doesn’t make sense in response to my comment. Not every single black person has an Afro, there’s black people with straight hair, also no one is copying white girl hair.I’m literally not even a female 😂.

[@carmenjackson3214]

I’ve been natural since 2017 but in August of last year I decided to do a big chop. I had no straight ends, but I wanted to do something different for once. It’s so cool seeing my hair grow

[@emptynester191]

I don't want to look like a CLONE. I embrace my God Given HAIR.

[@alicethemadrabbit1842]

I wear crochet braids a lot and the most recent time was the first time I did it to just change up my look for a bit, not because i was afraid of my hair. Not long after I WANTED them out so I could easily address my hair's needs. What an awesome mental place to be.

[@morningsunshine0216]

I used to always say I want my hair straight bc it’s easier to manage but once I learned how to take care of my hair and the fabulous styles I can wear with it. It’s gotten so much easier to where I prefer my hair natural vs straight. However when it comes to work it is definitely much easier for me to wear straight hair which sucks bc I work A LOT but on my off days I rock my curly crown proudly

[@blessedandbeautiful8365]

My natural beauty will never be based on whether my hair is relaxed, pressed or in it's original form. Period. I can shave my head to a bald state and I am still beautiful. To me, this new "black culture" you must wear your natural hair wave is annoying. Your hair is your crown, yes some believe that but let us remember before we label everyone a "queen", this position has to do with what is underneath that crown of hair and it's located within your body, specifically your head and it is called a brain. Use your brain and not your hair so much. I'm not talking to everyone just a few who believe that you are a sellout or some sort bc you don't what they call "embrace" your natural hair. Yeah, ok...

[@followerofchrist9800]

I made a vow to never straighten or cut my hair again. I’m all in for the tight long curly Afro.

[@pumpkinseeds8990]

I honestly feel bad for people of color who hate their hair. I can’t imagine having poofy kinky hair and wanting it to go down and flow in the wind

[@AC-ri2ph]

What in the racism

[@sabcam2000]

Natural is the only way to go

[@melissam6037]

I was a hairdresser for 10 years and i noticed that a lot women want the opposite of whatever they have. Women with straight hair want curly & vice versa. Or women get bored with the same thing and just feel like switching things up, doing something different. As long as it’s coming from a place where you live yourself and are having fun expressing yourself i think that’s what counts.

[@ingrid44556]

who came up with this BS term latinx? wtf is that?

[@Balderhash]

I also feel the sane way about BAME. Why does everyone brown get bundled under this weird, disingenuous label?

[@iceetas]

It's a gender neutral version of Latino/Latina

[@tspopstar512]

@@Balderhash what does bame mean

[@ErinRaciell]

It’s called “Evolutionary Linguistics”

[@firstnamelastname4427]

@@yuritzaneri467 Many would argue that it's not really neutral though, it's the masculine ending. It's similar to how people use the word "mankind" in a gender neutral way but people take offense because they feel it centers masculinity as the default.

[@theladyofsoul5023]

I don't have an obsession with straight hair. I was born to rock this iconic fro. Even when I throw on a wig (which is rare) it can't be straight. It has to be a fro wig. I have an aversion to wearing straight hair. I just can't. I got my hair done at a natural salon once. It was flat ironed and trimmed. I wore that straight hair for almost 2 days. I had to get in the shower and get my curls back. All I want to do is rock the hair I was born with. It's as if my hair has a connection with my Soul and I'm in love with this Sista hair, the hair of the sun kissed people. Pe@ce to all.

[@k.c.5426]

Amen & Ache!💯😎

[@MrNastydread]

What you said was sheer Poetry. You go sista.

[@swifttlyy]

I'm asian and I think black girls with straight hair look cute af

[@christyl7698]

Maybe it's just wanting what we don't have? I have naturally straight hair, and have always envied the curls of my family members!

[@wowwee0]

Black hair is beautiful.

[@wordie_hunt8234]

i couldn’t stress to every black women to leave becky’s hairstyle alone and embrace your own natural beauty. how would you feel if you saw a white girl stealing our natural curls? i desire to see more bw rock their natural curls then copying every other race. we stand out, and have the beauty of defying everybody else. don’t fall victim to society’s trap of natural beauty, as it’s just a myth. we need to do better and not copy each other’s identities

[@splendorinthegrass4557]

I think curly and kinky hair looks better as is. I get people saying black women can do what they want with their hair, but there is so much more than that when it comes to hair. Think about it. Why do we want that flowy Long smooth straight silky hair? Why do we want long hair. I mean African people lived on the continent before the whites came in massive numbers and black women didn't straighten their hair like that and didn't wear weave like that. So why now? why is it more acceptable. Girl I gotta say bye to all these women saying it's versatile Etc...

[@mkuti-childress3625]

Man, I am white and I have always had baby fine straight hair. I permed it like crazy and fried it to a crisp with dryers and hot curlers back in the 80s and early 90s. I gave up because of all the damage, but my fine, thin hair still drives me insane. I guess sometimes it’s about what you can’t have and also societal pressure. I absolutely love the beautiful, full look of natural hair on black women. ❤️

[@chicho2829]

Today I witnessed my 7 year old black cousin point to her white doll and say she wanted straight hair like hers because everyone else had it. It hurt my heart so bad😣

[@alexandracedeno1665]

Como mujer Dominicana es una pena que esto es una realidad. Muchas mujeres ni siquiera sabemos como cuidar nuestro cabello rizado por que lo estamos laciando desde niñas.

[@danir6076]

I have 3b hair. Everybody always told me how beautiful my hair was, but I felt like what was beautiful was MY HAIR, not the person “behind” it. When I straightened it, I felt beautiful. Not my hair, but as a whole, like my beauty could finally be compared to that of the girls with wavy- straight hair. I know that I was wrong, but it was as if beauty could only be at it’s maximum with straight hair.

[@andiejackson5954]

I just want my hair to be soft and easy to comb through smh it's always dry, always tangled, always shrinky, always a pain to style.

[@tobby6312]

Okay, Panama I see you!

[@TeeMBabs]

You may be obsessed with straight hair but I am not in that Category. I am obsessed with MY NATURALLY CURLY HAIR. I am praising and I loving it😍

[@soleil2269]

Those painting are fire who made it

[@endiya.]

everyone has different opinions, some people like wearing there hair straight and some people do, it should not be an argument, like wtf

[@ske7568]

We as women should wear our hair however we like and feel comfortable. I use a Relaxer 2 to 3 times a year. I refuse to have someone make me feel bad for relaxing my hair and not going natural. During both pregnancies I went natural for about a year and a half. At some point I may go natural again. Ladies lets embrace our differences and enjoy our hair.

[@asimskentzos9231]

absolutely, we have options!

[@thehoneyeffect]

IRP researchers led by Stadtman Investigator Alexandra J. White, Ph. D. M.S.P.H., found that women who frequently used hair straighteners or relaxers, defined as more than four times in the previous year, were more than twice as likely to develop uterine cancer compared to those who did not use the products. Even so, so many of us hate Afro textured hair more than they value their want to eradicate internalised racism and their need to protect their health. It’s not about trying to make you feel bad just about telling the truth

[@jesusdenmark3664]

I wear wigs that are curly because I find straight hair boring but don't have the energy to do my natural hair. My mane stays in braids and it is super long because of it which I always @ ignorant ppl with. "You wear a wig so you must have no hair." Sure Jan. But I remember the days or straightening hair when I was young and it stopped when I was about 13 and shaved my head and went naturalm

[@Adwoa2337]

People relax their hair not because of society but because it is easier to manage or because they prefer it more that kinky hair.(idk if it is true for you but that's my experience with relaxers)

[@Fish-vs6jf]

I have an Afro, but I blowdry my bangs straight. I didn't feel like my natural hair was feminine enough, and when it was all straight it didn't fall quite right. I ended up compromising so I could get the volume of my Afro with a bit of extra flair