Why Are You Still Single?

[@Psych2go]

How many cats do you have? Comment below ;)

[@demonchild7267]

I am a cat dude

[@michealsmith234]

I have none bcs my mom is allergic to them 😭

[@leena2real]

I used to live with 4 but now I have 2 and I own one of them :)

[@kiri3639]

One. A yellow orange one. Cute thing

[@Hypersphere867]

0 sadly 😕

[@someoneontheinternet40]

The saddest part about this is that its so easy to be single, but it takes effort to be in a relationship (especially when u got issues urself)

[@josemari2758]

It's just sad if you buy the fact that being in a relationship is better than being single, which I don't

[@MsElizaRae]

@@josemari2758 Big facts

[@hydraxp007]

Lol

[@marcussmart3275]

Thing about that is everyone has issues, just different ones usually.

[@someoneontheinternet40]

@@josemari2758 me neither brother

[@Mimi-sw1vf]

One of my issues is that I'm stuck between "focus on yourself and wait for it to come to you" and "you've got to put yourself out there"

[@thehondrascrew4864]

Fr !!! I can relate

[@vatsalaykhobragade]

Same

[@captainamerica6565]

Same here because I'm currently single because my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago *Tears come down my face* but anyway I can relate because it's like if I put myself out there then it's like I'm either trying to hard or I'm not taking enough time for myself or if I'm taking time for myself then it's like I'm not trying to make an effort to meet someone and half of the time it's hard to wait and it takes forever for your future partner to come to you

[@SamsonOng]

Totally relate. Been swinging wildly between "Putting myself out there" and "Focus on becoming better", and also bouncing between "I'm real good and happy by myself" and "It'd be really lovely to share this moment with someone"

[@captainamerica6565]

@@SamsonOng See we are all in the same boat

[@coelhaacapivara1532]

It's a hard thing being the girl that never dated anyone while all your classmates are talking about who they like and hooked up with :(

[@darkjayne5176]

Me too, but I’m homeschooled but all of my friends have crushes or are hooked up 😔

[@coelhaacapivara1532]

RIGHT? I FEEL LITERALLY SO OUT OF PLACE

[@fenrirsulfr42]

I am a guy and I agree, being the only person that keeps being alone no matter what... though dating is way easier for girls for many reasons, I lost hope completely since I got out of school. I barely go out anymore, I suck at making friends and I suck even more at making GOOD friends. I mean I never even ever had a good friend... It's also never going to get better for me because the less people you know, the less people you will meet, and of course the less people you will meet the less people you'll know. And of course you cant have a relationship with anyone if you just have no one around you

[@CuntillaDeville]

@@fenrirsulfr42 This makes me so sad 😞

[@rns6889]

Hooking up or whatever, and still in school. Don't worry your classmates may be experiencing what you want but, having love that young is a disaster most of the time, and when you found your soul mate its kinda sad that they've done it with someone else. Kinda hypocritical of me cus I'm still a high schooler myself but I was very lucky. Know that you can handle a relationship first, love yourself first, then find someone. Good luck mate

[@kyleholguin0227]

being single is not a bad thing, and can even be better than being in a relationship. it gives you time to improve yourself and enjoy your hobbies and passions, and I think that is more important than anything.

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

Exactly. You don’t always need a man/woman to be happy. Being that desperate to be with someone isn’t really a good thing, let the love come to you instead of obsessing over it 🤷‍♀️.

[@Founderschannel123]

@@endofaneraoutnow3473 to me love can be friends or family members and im very sure its obvious to have friends even without a gf or bf to be with you.

[@Pinkio]

it's subjective, some people do better single and some do better with a *good* partner, each person is different in this case, shouldn't be judged by the route they go through, and they can change their point of view of this at any time without needing to give any excuses about the topic

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

@@TheNibNerd of course. But you can’t make your entire existence based off sex, and relationships. That’s not healthy. If you have a relationship fine, if you don’t, fine. It’s normal to not be in one.

[@lesriley2062]

@@TheNibNerd that can suck but you don’t need a bf or gf for that lol get a puppy, adopt an orphan, go get a massage… cuddle with your friends if they aren’t super weird about it :)

[@Simon0501]

0:26 You have cynical views about love 0:54 You set unrealistic standards 1:22 You've set too many dealbreakers 1:56 You have unsolved past trauma 2:28 You have low self-esteem 3:04 You have a fear of happiness 3:44 You have trust issues 4:10 You think you eill lose your inpendence by being in a relationship 5:00 You want someone you can't or shouldn't have 5:11 You don't learn from your mistakes

[@lyanrivr.1840]

Mine are 1:07, 4:24 and 5:00 😭😭🖤

[@Budjarn]

7/10 🙃

[@court8621able]

8 out of 10…good grief 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@pratiksha8644]

10/10 I need help

[@user-ph4mg1mh9c]

All of them 😆single for life, who’s with me?! 💪🏼👌🏼

[@HaloJumper7]

If both sides of the relationship were happy being single and are actually happier together and continue to grow as a couple and as individuals alike and always try to be better than yesterday, then it's totally worth it!

[@devonfrench7520]

I'm doing that right now

[@sweetandsourdish3723]

I’m single by choice (due to my shyness and social issues), but sometimes I long to find someone who love and accept me for who I am.

[@lyanrivr.1840]

For me too 😭😭 there’s some opportunities that had come on the way but as those factors hits I step back. But someday we can overcome that with the right person ❤️🙏🏻

[@flowersshy16]

I would always accept and love someone shy :3 it's matter of time to know if i'll ever get my dreamed: kind, lovely w/ animals, scared of mostly everything, shy boy =//w//=

[@court8621able]

Samesies!

[@giyasbek789]

@Parto Yama , stop writing this under every comment! I am wondering why KZbin has not deleted this comment still. Yet when I write about politics or history, or the treatment of homosexuality by other people, they delete it!

[@hostileenvironment6107]

Same I'm geniunly really good looking as well. But due to the amount of bad break-ups I've experienced socially, I'm just much more to myself.

[@goblinkingofpotatoes5823]

Who else saw the title and was like “damn, Pyche2go be callin me out with with one”?

[@Psych2go]

We wouldn't dare :P

[@demonchild7267]

I took it as a sign. Lol

[@TrueLadyEvilChan]

It just made me more depressed rn

[@sharonconroy4057]

Hmmm I have been single for 14 years because I have been busy bring up my autistic daughter which has been completely exhausting so any time to my self I relish and I'm at peace with being single and happy!

[@shslnobody1070]

When I saw the notification I was like damn ouch

[@westnekon2106]

As someone who really messed up in relationships but not knowing how or what happened, this video was VERY helpful. Thanks to that, I'm going to be more calm when it comes to be and find a good person. Thank you SO MUCH for making this video! I'll definitely put it into practice!

[@iPLAYtheSTATION]

Being single feels so peaceful and calming, like I have less to worry about. But at the same time, there are times I long for someone who will give me unconditional love and affection.

[@dannylovell7876]

Get a dog

[@stubborn_stag_beetle]

This channel's timing is getting a little TOO spot on....

[@anonymous-um2hz]

Hehe

[@Aurequin]

Right?!

[@QuackQuacks]

Just had a mental brake-down about me being alone 2 days ago so I see what your saying :/

[@mintiiko]

righttttttt

[@Justsomeonewithopinions]

This video honestly is a slap in the face, in a very VERY good way. This is more or less the wake-up call I've needed. From what I can tell I have low self-esteem, trust issues and a fear of commitment. Thank you for making this! I'll work on myself as much as I can! 🤗🤗😍😍🥰🥰

[@MultiFandom8isFate]

I find being alone and single so peaceful and calming.

[@dominiquelemon7125]

Fr 💯

[@ssww3]

Same

[@farah_nm162]

You, my friend, have said the right thing

[@ninalilia7851]

Totally agree! No drama.

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

Factss. Being and introvert and Pisces like myself makes this comment 100 times more true 😂

[@noonegirl]

I used to hate being single but now I love the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want. Going to bed early, having the bed to myself, low cost bills, a tidy house always putting myself first.

[@m2pozad]

Nonsense! Much cheaper to have a roomy to share costs and other things with. Just make sure she works and is not erratic.

[@perplexingperceptions8888]

Same here.

[@gregorycyr9272]

I am set in my ways at 58.I love my freedom to do what I want outside of work.It can be lonely at times but who doesn't get lonely at times in their life?

[@Agnethatheredhairkid]

@@gregorycyr9272 Who doesn't get lonely, Gregory? I don't. Still single at 62, not in a relationship, never have been and never will be. Relationships are give and take and since I'm not prepared to give, it's not fair to take. Not a social or people person anyway. Mais chacon a son gout.

[@gregorycyr9272]

@@Agnethatheredhairkid There are like 4 women in the Raleigh NC area wear I live that I could be with 2 white and 2 black.Just not into it right now.Not willing to give myself to anyone right now.I love me.

[@mslittlegoodytwoshoes]

wow, that animation of the word "imperfection" turning into a heart is sooooooo pretty! well made!!

[@kenrickbautista6141]

Real reasons why I'm still single: 1. I'm very insecure. 2. I sorta have people issues (including my family). 3. I never feel loved by anybody. 4. My past. 5. Sometimes, relationships take a lot of work. However, I will do all I can to have a serious romance. It's only a matter of time.

[@ryan.goodburn999]

Same

[@norapeace6526]

I suggest therapy... seriously... it could help a lot 🙂

[@ryan.goodburn999]

@@norapeace6526 im in therapy i just got a new therapist because my last 4 therapists leave me its been a struggle for me, i hope for better days to come

[@norapeace6526]

@@ryan.goodburn999 omg!!! Why do they leave!? Btw, my comment was for the first person who commented. Glad you responded tho

[@ryan.goodburn999]

@@norapeace6526 some left for private reasons others didnt wanna do therapy anymore they wanted to do something else. Very depressing for me to go through. Doesnt help my bipolar disorder either, i got to many issues and stuff its overwhelming, i cant even cry 😢

[@Lowclasswarrior778]

To anyone who’s sad about being alone just be patient there’s someone out there for you don’t lose hope yet

[@lyanrivr.1840]

Thank you ❤️❤️🌷❤️

[@missg3009]

Thank you ☺️

[@adammurray215]

You havent met me, yeah right lol

[@raulalmanzar2089]

Truer words never spoken ☝️

[@sofiaisacreepypastafan]

I would like to see my crush again...now that would be great

[@snakewynd]

As a guy in his mid 30s who's never been in a relationship, I said to myself "the hell with it" and focus on building myself and my own empire.

[@thedude7737]

ay bruh, thats pretty sad..its never too late

[@cookiesncream9158]

Am I the only one who just loves her voice? It’s so calming and comforting

[@alberto.dragan]

I was just going to say that, it really is soothing

[@duckbacon3117]

This comment is in every video. Of course you're not the only one.

[@laneyhawthorn4632]

I have a whole playlist for when I go to sleep

[@TechKunBee]

I'm in the same boat together.

[@noemistephanie93]

I love it too!

[@havoc9322]

If you're in your early 20s like me I'd say it's best just to wait for the right person for you. Establish your life first then look for love. Even though I feel lonely I'm trying to accept myself more and just focus on myself so that way I'm working towards just being alone without the loneliness. Don't beat yourself up for your past mistakes and try to hold your head high and keep moving forward. Good luck to everyone I hope you all find true love.

[@kustovix9015]

Is that a Starset pfp I see? 😮

[@havoc9322]

@@kustovix9015 Yep, what's yours from? Looks like that girl from shiki

[@alb12345672]

I used to believe that too at your age. Now I'm 49 and still single. Time goes by very fast. People get comfortable in their ways, you just accept things and wake up one day realizing all you missed out on. At least I got tons of $$$$, I guess I should be very happy. I worked out, stayed fit, maybe some woman will like me for my money at this point. Good luck to you, me and everyone seeking love.

[@alb12345672]

@Marissa Lopes I certainly regret not taking chances. I just didn't realize it then and thought I had forever.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

Awful advice. If there's anything I learned growing up, it's that those opportunities you have won't be there forever and you have to find love yourself. Especially as a male.

[@omegasamurai1787]

Ive come a long way since my relationships in the past and I have learned Alot. I can honestly say I do love myself and I know what to do differently in my next relationship so that we can equally make each other happy and as a team have a very long lasting relationship!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@deadpoolj2278]

Being that I've been single literally my whole life (30 years old), I'm looking forward to watching this video in particular.

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

That can’t be true? I’m sure you’ve atleast had some sort of hookup or strong emotional connection?

[@jasminvalerie]

Same. I’ve wanted a boyfriend since I was 8. Almost 30 and have never been asked out, flirted with, etc. At this point it just feels like a waiting game that I don’t want to play anymore

[@thenightporter]

Lol, 30!!! 🤣. Oh darling, you are still soooooooooo young! Look at it this way, IMHO, most people get married too young; divorced friends, co-workers and relatives said they got married too young. That they got married because it was expected of them or because it was the next natural step in the relationship. When people are your age, they are more likely know what they want and have gained maturity. A marriage has a better chance in those cases.

[@metanova1568]

:')

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

@@jasminvalerie you may need to put yourself out there. By what I mean is, put some flashy make up on or go to a social gathering.

[@godsperfectfailures796]

1. My sense of humor 2. My height 3. My intelligence Everyone loves these qualities until it hits the extreme.

[@shiva-mx4gg]

@Parto Yama bitch what?

[@einstreim4878]

@Parto Yama go away 😐

[@luciddream5055]

Whats your height ?

[@visible746]

I feel like I know you…

[@bravequeen77]

But ur not loyal 😐

[@liami2048]

You can't love someone else until you love yourself. Even though the quote is true in most cases, sometimes being able to love in general is what you need to begin to love yourself. That's what I found out. Loving someone without loving yourself is very hard but sometimes it's actually easier to love someone else rather than love yourself and what happens is as the relationship keeps going, it stars to break through all the negativeness to a point where you begin to actually like yourself. All I can say is people care for you even though you might think otherwise, you might think you'll never find someone but you will some day, you might think happiness is impossible to achieve but it's never Impossible. That's what I found out and I know that you will too some day.

[@whimpykid5186]

Listen, I do have ' unrealistically high standards'. I seek love in a person who will be my partner in crime, my best buddy. Action speaks louder than words type of love. A person who just makes you feel comfortable, a person around whom you bloom in the most platonic way possible . Someone around whom I can express my most chaotic version as well as my quiet version. The friend who will stand by my side no matter what. Is it too much to ask for? If yes, I am fine being a single

[@ninskiesings2486]

Just be yourself and you'll find that person too, when u find that person make sure you don't let go.. hehe

[@marysaffyrah1064]

It sounds like a lot, but it's not. Deep down it's what most of us want, kinda of. But you know, relationships like this start from the few or the zero, things don't come hand-kissed, you'd need to struggle to develop a relationship with someone like that too. Ps: Sorry for my bad English. I hope you barely have an idea of what I mean. 💛

[@michaelbecker510]

Same situation and expectations here ☝🏼 But you know what I've learned? It is good and it is our right to have high expectations. I mean the person you choose will be with you your whole life (I assume that's what you aim for long-term), so it shouldn't be just anyone.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

That's not even remotely unrealistic or high standards.

[@KittyAddict]

Damn I agree completely true

[@ZatiCoh]

I'm at a point where I want a relationship, but I know I still have a lot of self growth. I still need to find out how to love myself and that stuff. But a relationship sounds SO NICE RN

[@lyanrivr.1840]

I’m in the same process too 😭🖤😭

[@ZatiCoh]

@@lyanrivr.1840 Hope you get to a good spot soon. It can be frustrating sometimes

[@lyanrivr.1840]

@@ZatiCoh Thank you so much ❤️❤️ wish you the same too!! Blessings!!

[@blessedsoul949]

Now that's called being positive!! Wishing you well☺️☺️

[@cashwalk7253]

Same dude-I feel called out and need to work on that.

[@natkeepsitreal9784]

I'm just finding this channel. I really needed to hear this.

[@JustNicole6400]

It’s interesting how all of these are negative things as if being single is problem we need to fix. This is why people feel rushed to be in relationships. Being single should be the norm until you are ready to share your life with someone. But it’s usually the opposite and being single is something most people dread 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Austin_Dale]

I really feel like people rely on being around other people to much. People just don’t know how to be alone. Like when Covid hit and we were staying home it was great for me, but for a lot of social people it was torture.

[@MeemahSN]

People fear loneliness, and assume others feel the same, so they pressure others to getting into relationships. They can’t handle being alone and they get into relationships that kill them mentally

[@ktk1144]

I think people who would be watching this not just on autoplay Would be wanting to be in a relationship or have/had unsuccessful relation, this vid may be opposite of red flags kinda video where you are supposed to beware of issues here issues within yourself that creates problem in relationship and I think in end it's people choice to adopt or not but having a 3rd person perspective and speculation on relationship failure might help I said relationship failure because if someone wanted to be in a relationship but they failed at it I m not generalizing it as failure because some may not want it at all Or have higher drive for other things

[@ktk1144]

@@MeemahSN idk maybe you weren't raised with others pov you have your own ideas and pov

[@ArjunVerma-wx7tf]

Yeah its been potrayed as if being single is a problem and its absolutely not. Being single gives you an advantage to grow your ownself without anybody's involvement. Cuz if you are in a relationship there has to be mutual agreement on all the things. And its our societal culture that people often undervalue who is single and value couples who potrays that they are happy in public but they are the ones who secretly fight all day long. Bcuz of media and oversexualized culture, people tend to feel left out and they don't like being single so that creates an immense need for a person to get into a relationship.

[@JokerCrowe]

"I thought love was only true in fairytales, meant for someone else but not for me" - and I was right.

[@Ohthemarvelousmusic]

That is the song at the end of Ella Enchanted, right? After the musical number??

[@JokerCrowe]

@@Ohthemarvelousmusic it's also "i'm a believer" the monkees

[@UniversalSidechain]

But then I saw her face...

[@philippegregoire5557]

I’m pretty sure a lot of people want to be in a relationship, just to be with the right person. If you wanna be single well go for it you can do whatever you want. It was really hard for me to be in a relationship due to my mental health but I not giving up on my self. I made so many progress, it the first in my life that I am proud of myself after everything that happen to me. Yes it hard to be in a relationship with so many issues guys just work on it, believe in yourself and something very good will happen to you. Everyone deserve happiness in their life no matter what it is as long you feel good. Take good care about yourself!

[@loner8713]

Some people are naturally happy alone, I guess I am one of them. When you see how peaceful solitude can be, it becomes hard to let others in your life couse you would think that they will still happiness away from you. Learn to develop a good relationship with yourself, I believe u don't need others to be happy. After a heartbreak, I met this girl she has a very good personality and I fell in love with her but the thing is I love a relationship I have with myself. I enjoy being alone, I am an introvert.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

So are you naturally happy alone or happy having some alone time every once in awhile while still knowing someone deeply cares about you and vice versa? Not to mention romance and intimacy. Would you be just as happy as you are now if you were forever alone?

[@prata9740]

@@iHateGenZweebs "Would you be just as happy as you are now if you were forever alone?" I know that question wasn't for me but: Yes! I would ;)

[@hackemsystems8973]

this comment hit me different

[@princess12tk]

Keeping a friendship already hard for me...😭😃 So hard to be vulnerable with people even with friends

[@Vishwamdamor7109]

Ok.

[@peacejoy3629]

Yep same here. You're not alone in it. Maybe you have an avoident AS or you're an air sign hh

[@sunilbagde32]

Nice thinking

[@zackhayden9805]

same here like as soon as people would see me being myself, they'd leave :,)

[@aditikhade6612]

the work you people are doing is beyond appreciation!!

[@latoyah9628]

0:40 You have cynical views about love 💕 1:08 You set unrealistic standards. 1:35 You've set too many deal breakers. 2:08 You have unresolved past trauma. 2:40 You have low self-esteem. 3:17 You have a fear of happiness 🙃 3:56 You have trust issues. 4:23 You think you'll lose your independence by being in a relationship. 5:00 You want someone you can't or shouldn't have. 😵‍💫 5:24 You don't learn from your mistakes.

[@TheChilipepper77]

Why I’m single: 1. I’m 29 and have high functioning autism 2. I do not know how to socialize, and when I try I come off as a creep 3. I was bullied all through school and it put me off from wanting to be around people

[@hieudoan7711]

Forget all your past bullies, they didn't deserve a bit of your memory. Always stand by yourself, no matter what. You shouldn't necessarily try to socialize, just acceptable and be yourself. The moment you are yourself is the moment you actually living.

[@emeabi1100]

Wow you are actually describing me 😱 I can say from my experience you will be fine ;)

[@Waddlejpg]

Be yourself is bad advice

[@roxassora2706]

@@Waddlejpg It's being too much of yourself that's bad advice,

[@boxoffisa]

Due to the drama, work and pains, I am happy by myself. It wasn’t easy to learn. Yes being together is the way but for now I am grateful for the grace.

[@Edge-mv3jw]

Bruh, right when I was literally pondering this question, this video comes up, and my mind instantly answers: pickiness, fear, doubt, trust, and value. Timing is a scary thing sometimes.

[@Tom21356]

I am single and happy. I don’t need anyone to make me happy. I am happy from the inside. Happiness is an inside job and the title of many self help books 🙏🏻

[@misterbig9025]

Do you use your hand Tom? Especially when there's nobody around.

[@rehan4223]

Yeh that's the important thing. Finding happiness. If you're happy single well and good if you're happy in a relationship that's equally good.

[@Lisa-nt7wt]

I love the voice of this cartoon. It makes me feel like I am in counseling and I learn a lot from these videos. Thank you sweetness !

[@laylam.ingram-alger6091]

Hey, I also just wanted to share this idea for Valentines Day. I know it gets really annoying and saddening when people won't quit bringing it up for people who are single. My idea is that we all take care of ourselves and do things we enjoy on Valentines Day; Take care and love yourself. And I know it gets lonely sometimes, but a big stuffed animal may help with cuddling. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or a fully grown adult, stuffed animals are made for comfort and there's no shame in comforting yourself.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

Yea but a stuffed animal or even a dog will never replace a girlfriend.

[@janetstraw191]

Having a REAL animal is even better!

[@alexanderfretheim5720]

Alternatively, spend the day fasting, meditating and praying to Saint Valentine the Martyr in seclusion.

[@notnickDPT]

I celebrate Arizona's birthday

[@BAzzaRProductions]

A stuffed animal doesn't pat your head and call you a good boy/girl though

[@Red88Rex]

I'm single because I love the lifestyle. I've had many short and long term relationships and I just don't feel like it, and often go years without one. Life is so simple being single, and so much freedom~!

[@waterdeo9563]

You're on the cxck carousel 🤣

[@jacobg.3751]

Yeah, totally! The freedom to be swimming in my own thoughts of self hatred. Question what I’m doing with my life. Have freedom yet no one to enjoy it with besides myself who I’ve spent the last 20 years with (I’m 20 y/o now), and I get to just sit alone in thought of how much I hate myself. yeah, how FUN it is to be single

[@peterpuleo2904]

I admire your comment and your lifestyle choice. Unless you want to have children, a self reliant person should remain single. Marriage is a HUGE risk.

[@peterpuleo2904]

@@jacobg.3751 You have plenty of time. Enjoy it. I have often believed that men are not ready to get married until at least age 30. You are only 20 and having all these thoughts? Good heavens, Jacob. Your 20's are the best decade to be free and enjoy life, and learn. Marriage is a great challenge-please do NOT rush into it. Marriage is very confining for young people. I wish you well, my young friend.

[@peterpuleo2904]

@@jacobg.3751 Do not think too much--ACT !

[@jessicaballantyne5825]

I recently got over all these problems and learned so much from my past. So I think I'm better today.

[@death_knell]

I’m actually really happy I’m single, I mean I have never been in a relationship, but I can already tell I love being single 😂 more time for yourself 🥰

[@warrengauthier4699]

Yup and you probably crack the scales at two bills. 🤣

[@gregorycyr9272]

I am 58 and never been in a relationship and love being single.Outside of work I can do what I want and answer to nobody.

[@chrissyellem7397]

I'm in my 50's and have been married 3x. Trust me stay single.

[@gregorycyr9272]

I love being single.Dress how I want.Today I am going disco look.Shiny polyester shirt and black dress slacks.

[@chrissyellem7397]

@Sincerely Respectfully Actually those narcissists are damaged. I survived their bs and am a stronger person for it.

[@jeremytibbitts8587]

Just had all these health problems in the past, finally improving, not everybody is meant for that certain person. Your heart knows when it is. TRUST is everything losing somebody to death hurts the most.

[@TechKunBee]

Once bitten twice shy , just adore all the videos from Psych2Go they're always relatable and answers my questions to the core . 💯❤️

[@slackerofhell]

I already know the answer to that. Ever since my break up a year ago, I've been drowning in constant negativity, depression, and anger. It's caused me to stop putting myself out there. I've become emotionally numb. Sure, I'm on dating apps. But I rarely get matches and even when I do I don't bother messaging the person. I've just given up on dating. It isn't fun for me.

[@blessedsoul949]

Don't give up yet.Just focus on your healing and improving yourself.You and the best person for you will find each other.Take heart for the 💔 though

[@tamilarasi1981]

But i believe that..Just go with the flow of life..it will teach u everything..Thinking about being single leads to over thinking..nd this leads to negative assumption...nd this leads to self doubtss..Why?? just be happy for being single😌

[@robinsonssquash8977]

Just out of curiosity psych2go, are your ‘why are you still single’ videos based around the assumption that the viewer has been in a relationship before? Don’t get me wrong, I think you guys as a team make some really good points, I just think a lot of them seem to be linked in one way or another to past relationships, which I can’t relate to. I don’t know if anyone else feels the same way?

[@kefir321]

Same, that made the video unrelatable

[@matheusimon7316]

Yep

[@NiceBoysWin]

Not only that, but I get the implication that they made this video out of the perspective that someone was traumatized or came from a very negative relationship. I, myself, am in the process of being divorced, but my wife and I agreed to it mutually and left on good terms. To this very day, we keep in contact and constantly vocalize our intent to support each other's happiness together as lifelong friends. I'm a big Psych2Go fan, but not everyone who is single has been in a relationship before, let alone a toxic, traumatic one.

[@trevthompson]

same boat

[@fawnie5539]

no i feel the exact same way. all my life i have never been viewed in a romantic way or had any romantic interactions at all, and it hurts like hell. especially when you're a hopeless romantic. it hurts having to watch from afar as the people around me have romantic interactions and get in and out of relationships like it's nothing. it's never been easy for me. and even tho im young, it has definitely had an impact on my self-esteem, especially considering i'm a poc, and it also sadly makes me feel like i am ready to settle for anything, even if i know i deserve better. i truly hope anyone else going through this right now knows that you are not alone. it took me a long time to realise that i am not the only one experiencing this, as crazy as it may seem.

[@dawnstonerock4253]

I agree with: it’s about being the right person. Plus there’s a lot of craziness out there. Never settle! You’re worth more

[@peekabooastroha5665]

It is hard sometimes to be in a relationship when you are not ready and committed enough to loved and to be hurted at the same time.

[@rebeccaagholor9622]

Agree. Screwed up a potential relationship a couple of years ago because I believe myself to be a deadbeat. That negatively impacted my self esteem causing the break-up.

[@sararctic2668]

You gotta be able to work through the hurt 🤷‍♂️

[@rebeccaagholor9622]

@@sararctic2668 still think about what could have been.

[@sararctic2668]

@@rebeccaagholor9622 don't worry I do as well

[@rebeccaagholor9622]

@@sararctic2668 Thank you. On reflection I was glad it ended as she was a cheater and disrespectful as hell. But every lesson learned is a good experience.

[@yanorath]

Short answer: Because I'm happy being single

[@kallousbr]

dat my boy

[@taj__]

Exactly

[@dylancharlesharlington7045]

ah, yes a man of culture

[@Zoro1983a]

"being the right person than finding the right person". This is a true gem

[@Speedplanet281]

In love with the voice actor.. 😂

[@vocalsam3608]

Having a broken and corrupted heart is one fo my issues, but the more I felt the more I've realized that my heart chooses the right person.

[@nairechorgais8730]

Your voice is just so calming. I could listen to everything you say!

[@blehkat]

They never fail to make me smile

[@sushmita1382]

I’m happily single because I don’t wanna waste my time and energy to the wrong person where there’s no future. With my past experiences, I’ve realised it takes me quite a long time like 2-3 years to move on or to completely get out of it mentally and emotionally. So I don’t wanna waste my time on searching or going for dates, I’d rather find my interests and hobbies instead. I’m loving my self love journey.💕I believe in God and the Universe 🙏 if there’s someone meant to be, it’ll make a way. ❤️❤️

[@misakignella0924]

Thank you Psych2Go for uploading a video like this, this is what I needed to watch.

[@darksoul479]

I'm still single because I want to be single. All the best times in my life have been when I was single. I have no desire for any more drama. I want freedom.

[@MrDoom159]

that sounds like coping

[@Woeisme2]

@@MrDoom159 Who cares what it sounds like if they mean what they say then they mean it. There's plenty of people who enjoy being single especially after getting out of a toxic relationship.

[@chrissyellem7397]

Ignore IDoomful. Being single is great.

[@paulrous1670]

Totally agree !! But still get that nagging feeling of wanting to find a partner 😑

[@Leto85]

I got the feeling that lack of self-love is often mistaken with having a realistic self-image. Not everyone is created equally and not everyone is equal and as someone who has a mental health problem I am very well aware of this. In a realistic self-image you know what you have to offer and what you don't have to offer to other people. As there is a disbalance between the offering and the lacking this for me is one of the reasons to stay single. It's not looking down on the self, it goes beyond that - it's the realisation that other people have more to offer those potential partners. To anyone who also has a mental health problem: this is an important life-lesson to know to prevent wrong expectations in the self and to prevent disappointment in the partner.

[@VoidControl1]

Thank you, thanks to you guys, I can finally talk to my crush and the people around me I’ve ignored for so long.

[@lyanrivr.1840]

5:00 Is my worst factor in my life that sometimes i know myself too much that I try to avoid it as much as possible. I’m currently getting out of a obsession with someone from my childhood and with just a bit of attention that I can feel by someone else, It makes me overthink with no reason at all. Never had a boyfriend (23 years old) and sometimes can be by fear too. I have a bad habit to look for the wrong people and blind to see the good opportunities that I somedays I regret not taking chances. Thank you for the video ❤️❤️ hope to learn and grow.

[@chahathasija4414]

I guess i relate

[@chahathasija4414]

Idk how to stop

[@lyanrivr.1840]

@@chahathasija4414 is the worst 😭😭😭😭😭

[@Blue_Fire-Chibi]

@@lyanrivr.1840 hey I'm open for dating if your want to maybe date me? like I live in Polk county Florida U.S so if you don't live in the area online dating would be alright as well

[@deepshadequeenswrath9340]

I'm so glad to have found the person of my dreams. I'm just watching this in the hopes that we can stay together.

[@man_5i]

except from “you don't learn from your mistakes” i agree to each one of the points, and can agree that these are the reasons.

[@ilikepancakes2368]

I’m a 24 year old guy and I never had a girlfriend, first kiss, sex, or any girl that showed genuine interest in me. I think my problem is that I’m a pessimistic person and after witnessing so many break ups and hearing how guys around my age are struggling in dating, I became reluctant into putting myself into the dating world. Not to mention I have trust issues and I’m starting to develop a cynical attitude towards love and human companionship. All I know is that everyone is out for themselves and everyone is two faced so I never trust whatever they tell me is genuine. Even then when they show me their true selves, I always end up not liking it anyways. In summary, I guess my problem is that I’m cynical, have trust issues, and have high standards. Yet, part of me still yearns to be in a relationship. I’m still trying to figure out what love means and if it’s even possible.The whole concept of it is a mystery to me at this point.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

Yea but not everyone is out there for themselves or two faced. Don't let the actions of some people define the whole population. Try to meet new people before it gets a lot harder. I'm 28 in may and kicking myself in the butt for not taking the opportunities I had at a younger age. It's not worth being single forever. At least not for me.

[@JackoBanon1]

When I was young and still in school there were a few girls in my class that were actually interested in me. The only problem was that I have always been an unattractive dude so the girls who were interested in me were ... well, you can imagine they weren't the most attractive themselves. Furthermore during this time I as a gamer was only interested to play Counterstrike day and night and I was still pretty immature so didn't even want a girlfriend during this time and so just ignored their attempts to get closer to me.

[@JackoBanon1]

2-3 years later my interest in woman grew and I tried to catch the attention of women I liked. Unfortunately nobody of them saw me as potential partner so after years of trying I gave up with 24 and didn't go out anymore.

[@JackoBanon1]

I had my first kiss at the age of 19 years old on a boring birthday party were me and the girl were very drunk, though. The next day she told me it happened because of the alcohol and she didn't want to date me, though.

[@ilikepancakes2368]

@@iHateGenZweebs You’re right but you just can’t be too sure sometimes.

[@jackthomasjt]

man we hittin kinda deep today innit? right in the feels

[@djtundra8011]

“You can’t love someone else until you love yourself” I’m sorry but I have depression and anxiety, I don’t think I’ll ever love myself 100% but I’m doing better than I was before

[@eliminatehumanitysoon]

you are fully capable of loving someone, even if you don't love yourself yet. don't listen to that ableist bs. i have a slew of mental disabilities and there are people in my life that i love very much. having mental health problems does not render you unable to love.

[@djtundra8011]

@@eliminatehumanitysoon I think this is what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@platypusedits7786]

Id like to see a video from this channel that makes being single positive. like, "How to keep yourself single" for people who can't keep themselves from looking for relationships because of the void they want to fill in and they constantly get hurt instead anyway

[@iHateGenZweebs]

@@trustyourgut5092 love only seeks to find you if you're a woman for the most part. If you're a man you're gonna have to seek it yourself and ask someone out unless you get lucky.

[@Spice99857]

Good point indeed.

[@flamevix]

I think this video should be renamed to something along the lines of, "Why You May Have Trouble Maintaining Relationships". The current title insinuates that being in a relationship is an obligation in life, and the reality is not everyone wants or needs one to be happy. I understand that the contents don't meant to come off in a negative way, and this is just a friendly suggestion on my part. :) Thank you for continuing to provide excellent information, otherwise.

[@philippezevenberg1332]

so like you have trouble maintaining a relationship?

[@peacejoy3629]

@@philippezevenberg1332 she's happy and complete without a one.

[@philippezevenberg1332]

@@peacejoy3629 sounds like a challenge for Barney Stinson

[@flamevix]

@@philippezevenberg1332 Aw Barney. :) Great show!

[@JKVow]

I was thinking the same, it's more about difficulties within a relationship than reasons why someone is single.

[@nettiemarie2556]

Lets remember a Lot of ppl use falling in love and being in a relationship as a crutch. We must be in relationships for the right reasons because if not, we will break up because of the Wrong ones!

[@bluecollarmom7341]

Let us also consider: Addiction issues, mental health issues, being on the Autism Spectrum...there are PLENTY of challenges out there to Coupledom. Being Single is significantly better than being in a relationship with someone who has a Dark Triad Personality Disorder...or an abusive addict...or carrying the entire emotional relationship because your partner is on the spectrum...

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

Neither of these apply to me tho🥺. Could you tell me what my issue is?

[@joaquinespinoza980]

@@endofaneraoutnow3473 You haven’t met the right person till now 😎

[@markness90s13]

@Blue Collar Mom I have Autism, clinical depression, anxiety issues, trouble with focus, and I was bullied to the point that I fear for my life easily. I am apparently considered a “loser” and unlovable by women. I fear I will continue the rest of my life (I am 33.) alone and I’ll die unloved. 😰

[@markness90s13]

@Blue Collar Mom I also don’t think that just because I am on the autism spectrum means I am undeserving of love. That's a horrible thing to think. When I actually went back and read what your comment stated, I had to remove my like for it because I thought you were being supporting by mentioning autism.

[@Bonk12381]

Wow, what a narrow minded view of ASD and neurodivergent people. OP you make it sound as if you believe autistic people are better off being single because they're incapable of handling the emotional aspect of a relationship? Now if that is not what you meant by that fine. However I'm sorry but the world doesn't revolve around you, I'm autistic and I'm going to look for love regardless of what you believe. So with all due respect go to hell.

[@windhunter7]

I was originally single because I would hit on so many girls that everyone thought I was desperate, when I in fact just had that many crushes; then I was single because I was desperate after literal years of not so much as a single date and I had a "gf" who did nothing but lie to me all the time and wouldn't even hang out with me; now I'm single because I now have people like me back, but I like all of them equally because I'm polyamorous, and they either get jealous or I'm too nervous about approaching them because I feel like I'll hurt their feelings Honestly, now I don't mind being single, I just wish V Day didn't rub it in our faces that we "have" to have a relationship in today's standards, or Google advertisements constantly thinking I'm married or something when I've never so much as had a date; being single isn't bad, what's bad is the constant propaganda from everyone saying that "being single is bad" and it makes me and all the rest of us feel worse about ourselves

[@ktk1144]

Okay for some warmer feelings It's just a V day Or V week taking worst scenario 1 week vs 51 week I m 18 and just trying to ease you but ofc I couldn't empathise with you since most around my age in my area are single lol

[@bobbruce4135]

Learn about evolutionary psychology and the Pareto distribution curve. For example, guys 6' tall have 3x more dates than 5'9" and 33x more dates than 5'6". The list of parameters goes on. Many men have had relationships at a great cost to themselves and realize to go their own way. Just pay for pleasure. Peace.

[@233kosta]

It's one think when it's complete strangers, but when your own friends try very hard to talk you into wasting time and energy into the lost cause that is dating today...

[@ank7652]

@@bobbruce4135 wow and here I am 6'1, handsome and with a kind and generous personality who is single all his damn life of 20 years, never even kissed a girl, let alone losing virginity. I guess me being shy and socially awkward is the main problem.

[@TheChosen217]

Being single is the best lifestyle ever. No drama, no BS, and I'm entirely focused on myself. Being in a relationship sucks in every way. I am always happy. I am only unhappy when in a relationship. Self-love is the best love.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I don’t think I’ll ever be ready for/capable of handling relationships. Oh well, being single isn’t too bad

[@lyanrivr.1840]

I’m the same too but sometimes I wonder 🙏🏻🙏🏻😭

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@lyanrivr.1840 You never know what the future may hold! Hope you’re doing well :)

[@lyanrivr.1840]

@@admirbarucija2018 Thank you ❤️❤️ you too!!

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@lyanrivr.1840 Of course, thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️

[@prata9740]

Thank you for the video! Now i can use it as list of everything i should do to keep dating and marriage away from me.

[@alistaircorstorphine7469]

I’ve been single for the longest time ( and it’s very easy to enjoy being single ) and from my past experiences it’s easier to leave something that you don’t understand alone, than try to engage it , it just makes good sense

[@waillie15]

I like how psy2go always change animators to give everyone a chance to animate for them

[@lrknox44]

In my case I WANT to be single, having spent ten years in an abusive relationship I'd lost all sense of myself and literally existed to please him. I'm not saying it's been easy, I'm still unlearning behaviours he instilled in my head but it's been, for a better analogy, like the locks to the door I've been hidden behind are finally open; I'm enjoying the tranquility, I love knowing bills ARE being paid and I'm finding those pieces of confidence I'd lost long ago. One day I might find love but I'm in no rush at the moment, I want to grasp this time of solitude alone and embrace every single moment. Not living in fear and being single has been the best thing to happen to me 🙂

[@doryinsanime6862]

I love myself and it’s very easy to single because you focus on yourself more and just have friends and family who care about you and I love myself too. I hope that in the future. I can find someone who love me for me and that I love them for themself. Love is about care, passionately, romantically, kindness, loving people.

[@zzyz7751]

I like my singlehood. But I'm someone that easily feels lonely. I really crave for that romantic experience a lot. And what's more is that there have been some people who have shown their interest towards me and wanted to date me, but I'm not confident in my appearance. I've suffered from acne issues for years and even tho my acne has healed almost completely now, it has impacted my self esteem a lot. So even if someone does say that they'd like to date me, I can only think of how I may disappoint them when they realise that their expectations of me don't match the real and true me

[@bhumikaroy2739]

Acne, looks, appearances do not define you. You are a good person. You have a nice heart, you don't hurt others, and that's what makes you a precious human-being 😇

[@zzyz7751]

@@bhumikaroy2739 thank you for your kind words🥺❤️

[@bhumikaroy2739]

@@zzyz7751 You're welcome. Look how amazing you are!! You know, very few people, like you, understand the depth of an advice ✨✨😇

[@love_bug.]

It also could be that being single is just something your use to and dating may feel out a bit your comfort zone but if you want to try there's always someone out there for you

[@broque28]

I rarely catch deep enough feelings to think I’m in actual love, but whenever I have it was for someone I shouldn’t or couldn’t have. Therefore I remain single because I don’t believe in wasting my time with the wrong person anymore or settling just to not be single.

[@ibstayfly]

Because I wanna be. I'm not impressed with what's out there. What's already known doesn't need to be said. I don't have anything to prove to anybody Self love is the best love #selflovejourney #Queen #idgaf I'm gonna give it to me gimme some of that love sweet love. I'm gonna show me some. Hell yassss 💯 Sorry I just had to quote Little mix

[@jordynward3077]

I love these videos

[@thedirectionerish8862]

same

[@samiee6911]

Makes me sad

[@Sarahlovely88]

i like this woman's voice in these videos. sounds soothing

[@godsperfectfailures796]

You have to be 100% ok on your own before you can have a healthy relationship. If you depend on them for your happiness it will only drive them away.

[@BortLoco]

That's true, but being 100% ok with being on your own may not make you want to no longer be on your own.

[@godsperfectfailures796]

@@BortLoco that's true too, but that's kinda the point. You shouldn't be in a relationship just for for sake of it. Be ok on your own and just live your life until you find someone.

[@iHateGenZweebs]

If you don't depend on your partner to make you happy, why date to begin with?

[@godsperfectfailures796]

@@iHateGenZweebs that's not what that means. It means that they can't be your sole source of happiness. They can't be the *only* thing that makes you happy. That's what makes the wedge. Have hobbies, friends, something other than an s/o that makes you happy.

[@quartzlandaker5664]

I respectfully disagree, to an extent if you can rely on somebody and have a healthy relationship as long as both people are willing to give what they have to offer

[@ClivedenEntertains]

So accurate I have been trying to get over 2 rejects but can't but thanks for helping me get through this 😊

[@thee_aaron_harris]

I’m dealing with most of these now. My ex is separated and is going through a divorce where idk how long that will take. My previous relationships and childhood trauma have made me not trust anyone, including family members I should. I don’t think highly of myself but am getting better with that. Most importantly, saying my views on love are negative is a polite way to describing it. I relate to almost everything in this video minus the independence part. I haven’t been perfect in the past but I have learned from past mistakes and my standards are more realistic these days.

[@womenwhodate7643]

The more you focus on trying to find "someone" the more it won't happen, go out and be the best version of you and it fall into place at the right time ❤️

[@flowersshy16]

Wow.. THANKS SO MUCH😭❤ i NEEDED ✨THIS✨

[@iHateGenZweebs]

Complete bullshit lol. That being said your profile is "women who date" and for some reason it's the man's job to do all the work and face rejection, so yeah I guess for women you're right. Most women can honestly just sit back and do nothing but still get asked out. Getting asked out by a guy who actually cares about them tho? That's another story. I wish more women actually sought after men and maybe they'd have a better chance of getting a partner they wanted instead of being passive.

[@grumpoggo2636]

@@iHateGenZweebs Mee too. But until Christianity is deposed and God loses his power to screw everything up in our lives, that won’t change.

[@priscillajimenez27]

Why I'm still single. My intellect and values intimidate guys, and many have no drive in life. Most guys I've met that I can have an actual good conversation with are usually much older or taken so they're out. Also when I'm super nice and sweet, they don't want to try and return it. The biggest reason I'm still single is because I'm waiting until marriage and many guys want sex before hand. That's one of the biggest of all.

[@dantu5377]

Yeah that last one is a biggie. But you’ll find someone that works for you

[@joym3049]

I'm 24 waiting til marriage as well, I know the right one will come in time for both of us.

[@ouroboros2285]

The world is a big place, but I forget that sometimes when I'm trying to find a partner. I feel the same way as you, just from the opposite end. Good luck.

[@Witchmee]

Omg same. God I thought I was the only one... I'm already 25 too. Honestly I hardly care anymore if I find the right one or not. I seem to be happier being alone rather then getting my hopes up all the time just to have them crushed.

[@warrengauthier4699]

Good luck with that...no guy is interested in marrying a virgin...it would be like you marrying a man and having no clue if he is employed.

[@zaiwislain3743]

I always say to myself that I'm still young and can find a gf but at the same time I doubt that somebody likes me or finds me attractive. I would like to also thank you psych2go for everything. I had a suspicion that I have depression for a long time now and I already talked about it indirectly with my parents. The next step is to say it my parents and then maybe go to a therapist.

[@rymerium]

I have some mental issues that taking a serious relationship as responsibility is too heavy for me. Too stressful for me , but time is ticking . If I can fix myself in time but even if I fail I'm ok with not having a successful long term relationship.

[@javitaxy]

Man. This video makes me question stuff, because for a while I've known I don't fit into any of these mentioned here. I have worked on my self image and feel good with myself, I trust other people and know I'll keep a big part of my independence. My "unresolved past trauma" is .. kinda resolved now, but I think the issue is that it left me with very poor social skills. I have never flirted seriously in person, and I think I'm too clueless to know when someone is flirting with me (if they ever have done so). I don't know how to approach new people, so i think the issue kinda lies there

[@ulysses58599]

I love being single. You can focus on yourself with no one around to bother you, little to no drama, you can do whatever you want whenever you want, and many other benefits I don’t feel like typing.

[@MaxBWell593]

I'm trans. Have adhd. Childhood trauma. In my late 20s. At this point I'm probably just too much for any girl. I think girls have this sense that I'm not even worth the trouble. As much as I enjoy platonic relationships it would be nice to feel like I can be intimate with someone who more or less have had a similar upbringing. But, she either saw me and didn't like it or she just doesn't exist. Sometimes I think of leaving this world in a few years so I don't burden my friends with my loneliness anymore. What's the point of going on if you're gonna spend it alone you know?

[@kimitzuosoo5289]

No there is ntg like that dear. Just enjoy your present. When you fall in love with your self everyone will get attracted with the vibe. People love positivity! Just love yourself enjoy your life to the fullest. You can see the diffrence. Just give it a try :p

[@MeGustaGuerra]

U will find the that person eventually, u just gotta enjoy the moment and when it finally does come it will make it that much more worth it and u will be extremely happy.

[@BR-im2gp]

It sounds like you have been through alot. Please remember that you hurt those around you more if you decide to leave💔, it hurts my heart hearing that even and I don't know you. You sound like you have had to be strong at times when it's been hard, I know that feeling. Don't ever give up and please love yourself because YOU ARE STRONG!

[@MegaChriz]

I’m in my mid 30s now, still alone, and I can tell you there is still point going on. I’ve got nice colleagues, my work gets appreciated, I have a hobby that I share with other people in the world and I recently became uncle. There are so many other things in life besides a relationship that are worth living for.

[@ItsNadine71335]

Shocking fact: In the end, we're all alone. So enjoy the time you have with your friends. And try to appreciate the fact that you have friends. Not all people have friends. If people don't like you, they don't deserve you. Not the other way around. Find beauty in little things like in your heart that beats for you every day since you were born, in the bird outside your window with its own little life and dangers you'd never have to face, in being able to breath in the crisp air in the morning and seeing the world come alive once more. The moment you truly feel these things, is the moment you feel alive. Not all day every day, but every day. To quote Dumbledore: Happiness can be found, in even the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light. 💝

[@kickstorm9930]

As an aromantic person, I can certify that I _completly_ understood everything that was told in this video. ✨

[@hihijohihaha268]

This is so true! I set my standards so high! I have a friend that liked me for 3 years i guess? He treated me so good, and he's so kind and smart, I quite started to like him, but he's below my standard, he's not cat eye, so tall, or that super handsome type, so i ignored him unti now

[@thechancellor-]

Being single isn’t that bad, However love ❤️ is the greatest.

[@peterpuleo2904]

Love is fleeting.

[@SeatLeonMK2]

But i don't want to put effort in

[@recyclebin7645]

"Why are you still single?" Ouch.

[@KHIMMMMMMMMMM]

I feel you.