Why Bachelor Life is BETTER THAN MARRIAGE

[@eric_linden]

You hit the nail on the head about the loneliness thing. Women really do experience loneliness. But for men, it’s usually just boredom. Men just need to find something to do.

[@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets]

I was home on a Friday night feeling lonely and a little sad, It then hit me that I was playing the victim. I grabbed my keys and went to my daughter's house for dinner and had the best time with my young grandsons.

[@john-griffin]

Completely agree

[@WildB06]

Women generally don't have hobbies. Not hobbies they are passionate about anyway... their hobby is chasing the best man via their hypergamy. Men can fill their entire lives with surfing, sailing, exploring, hiking, climbing, fixing things, learning new skills etc

[@Sketch_Sesh]

It’s also why women are never single. They’re usually serial daters, serial monogamous, monkey branchers etc.. they also usually don’t end a relationship unless they have the next monkey branch ready to go

[@mr.wildcat405]

Exactly why women never end up happy in their careers. Ultimately, they want a child. Simp men HAVE to stop saving these 30-something females from impending loneliness and regret by the time they hit 40. If that happens, young women will learn from older women and maybe the pendulum swings a little bit back toward natural gender roles. Until then, young women will continue to pursue their careers knowing they will be bailed out by a simp once they want a baby.

[@rwtindall]

I am a 57 yr old bachelor. And you nailed it. I love women, but I will not expose myself to that level of liability, legally/financially. Divorce courts are littered with carcasses of righteous men who thought they were doing the "right" thing, only to be held hostage by lawyers and the corrupt divorce court industrial complex. I feel blessed/thankful for my liberty. Thanks for the powerful message, John!

[@Itwasme007]

A lot of men are hopeless romantics that many times think divorced won't happen to them.

[@ma3stro681]

You really still love them at 57 … ? 😂

[@captnhuffy]

Congratulations! Standing Ovation on your HUGE win!!

[@plasmaarmelund]

@@ma3stro681 You can love them at a distance. But it's a different kind of love once you truly understand female nature.

[@mrcheddar]

I am also a 57 year old bachelor and you nailed it

[@innergoof19]

There's the old joke where a man has lost his credit card, and when questioned by a friend of his why he hasn't gotten it replaced, he says that the thief is spending less than his wife.

[@accessmedia2610]

Truly 😂! Roll On The Floor laughing 😅

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Definitely really funny

[@gehanoates885]

@@innergoof19 That's a brilliant joke and very true.

[@oamatic723]

😭😭😭

[@baldeagle4710]

😂😂😂😂

They used to say “happy wife= happy life But it’s really “NO wife= happier life!”

[@JimmyTSicily]

No wife no strife

[@JimmyTSicily]

No wife...Know peace! 😇

[@robskiing]

Never understood that saying , I hate that when it comes from a man’s mouth so one sided

[@norm1815]

Happy Spouse Happy House works

[@thesword-sapdog322]

Happy Wife.. Crappy Strife

[@wolfpackmba]

7:30 Spot on! After marriage there are 3 truths: attention is their oxygen, validation is their currency, accountability is their kryptonite. I read that somewhere and it’s spot on

[@gibbletronic5139]

Why limit this wisdom to after marriage?

[@pugsymalone6539]

I think he means that this is the wisdom he gained via marriage...because of living the experience of marriage. Yes, it's possible to gain this knowledge without marriage. He learned it through marriage.

[@johnjennings9693]

Some say the engagement ring the marriage ring, and the suffering,

[@IEdjumacate]

That’s why it’s important to choose a partner wisely. Pay attention. Don’t just fall in love with the first girl that shows you some love. Do they exhibit accountability? Are they dependent on your constant undivided attention? Not all women are the same. I’ve found one that displays both accountability & some independence. And she’s very feminine. Now I don’t know what the future holds for us but I do know that I am going to continue forward with her. I don’t think she’s perfect. Neither am I. But we’re happy. Why are so many men devoted to tearing down the idea that you can be happy in a committed relationship?

[@pugsymalone6539]

@IEdjumacate It's not that men are tearing down the idea that we can be happy in a relationship. Maybe you're not seeing what all of these channels are displaying: that women get bored and screw it up, because THEY'RE NEVER HAPPY.

[@joshclark3723]

About to turn 40 in a few months. Never married, no kids. I used to feel really sad about not matching with anyone but not anymore. Glad I found this channel as it’s making me realize I have it really good. I have my own house, live with my dog, and have a great career where I get to work from home. No drama. I feel inspired, motivated and self sufficient and this video makes me realize that’s a great place to be at the age of 40! Thanks for your content! It’s been helpful. Cheers!

[@Roddy_Zeh]

Same. I remember feeling depressed when I was younger. But now, seeing everything going on...I realize it's been a blessing in disguise.

[@frosty3693]

With the radical feminist movement and the war against boys in school continuing I think more and more your men who are being kicked out of society, and called incels among other things, they are going to grow up avoiding the marriage trap and are going to be missed. But they are likely to be targeted by the media and feminists for not only living alone but enjoying it. There may be nothing an angry woman hates more than a happy man.

[@JeremySayers38]

You bought some stuff and make some other folk rich. You had no children so your genetic line dies with you since the beginning of time.

[@d3vilman69]

40 is a prime age for men. Usually at this age they would have build a pretty decent career for themselves and have stable income and savings. Do not under-appreciate the level of financial and emotional freedom you have. Use the money to invest in stuff/activities that makes you happy cuz you earned it. Don't have to envy those who have wife and kids and appear to be happy on the outside cuz you never know the shit that happens behind closed doors and curtains, and the amount of stress the husband harbors every day. In fact the husband may look at you and have a sense of envy w/o you knowing. You can still date and screw around but never commit to a marriage. It's suicidal.

[@retsof4916]

yeah, lots of married men are miserable. And In too deep to get out without ww3 breaking out

[@TimmyCramer]

This Forever Bachelor approves this message!! Best decision of my life was not getting married. Golfed yesterday and walked the 18 and that was after lifting weights in the gym. I have $$ and my freedom. I've always been happy. Timmy C Arizona

[@stranahanhigh8910]

.... and you're a smart man.

[@fernandoalcoverde399]

@TimmyCramer The best part is being able to do what you want with your money like investing and getting to a point where you can just live off your investments. Having a women in your life will impede your financial progress.

[@PointWithin]

I am a bachelor and I will never take my personal autonomy for granted again. In the past, I lived with women, and the loss of that independence was a significant change for me. I found it to be constricting and felt it wasn't worth the trade-off.

[@lukenielsen8397]

In this time and age, you are absolutely correct. Back in the recent history, being married translated into building together and could provide a better life for all. These days... That work ethic and values no longer exist and the "self" has been uplifted above all. And unfortunately for society, women are the ones that are the worst at the solipsism and self ways. So the old ways do not work anymore.

[@andyjohnson5484]

Having been a bachelor briefly (until 23), married for 25 years and single again for a year now, single life is better for me. That said, I wouldn't trade my kids for anything. There are benefits to marriage. But you give up a LOT. Outside of starting a family, I would never recommend marriage, official or "unofficial", in today's society.

[@goldenboyproductions2740]

You are 100% correct, I hated living with my ex girlfriend, have my own place now and it’s so much better, I feel like I can breathe again.

[@myronbourne6937]

@@andyjohnson5484 benefits? Such as?

[@impersonator35]

The comment about women being more attracted to you when you don't need them and hold on to your bachelorhood is 100% true. Sad but true.

[@EE12CSVT]

Not here in the UK. They discover that it means he'll never allow her to control, use, or emasculate him, and it's immediately over and she goes off to find a spineless simp who she can do that to. That's a woman's base requirement to date. All the bachelors I know don't date purely because of that. They'll initially attract women, then she'll leave when she discovers she can't CUE. Conversely, the men I know who do date are being controlled, used, and emasculated. They somehow seem to enjoy it or they're blind to it.

[@ma3stro681]

Woemyn only want what they can’t have …

[@Petznar]

@@impersonator35 Demand and Supply in the market of natural laws, desirability and attraction.

[@mr.atheist8848]

@@impersonator35 9:10 exactly

[@stefanadamcik8221]

John you are so right about women having the ability to burn through money. I am a born-again bachelor now but was married to a miserable Connecticut rich girl for 25 years and during that time she ran me ragged trying to please her with spending money and filling that void within her. I am so happy she's gone now

[@racebannon96]

Spending money and filling that void. Excellent point. I went through it too. The wife thought jumping in bed with a dirtbag would give her validation. I helped her pack her stuff. She tried coming back two months later. I said No.

[@Sketch_Sesh]

@@racebannon96 why do they always think they can come back after something like that? 😂 They’re so delusional

[@maximushung]

@racebannon96 sorry to hear about her cheating. you made the right move.

[@sirgigglez]

i came home at 1am from a sporting event with no one blowing up my phone. amazing feeling.😊

[@Kal-El207]

I wish I could be you.

[@drewtakesprofit8897]

yup! amazing

[@JugsOnMySack]

Cope 😂

[@UncleSwell707]

and you sleep like a baby with no one keeping you up, bitching about how late you arrived. 😂

[@ivanguban7143]

I have a married friend who has three kids, he constantly envies me that I date different girls, travel and buy new trucks. He is very unhappy and always complains about things he wants to buy, but his wife and kids spend it all.

[@daveo990]

He needs to say "No". Many men today are incredibly weak when it comes to women. I think what you're mentioning is one of the sole reasons why many young guys loathe having a family, and becoming that walking wallet with a penis that just provides and whose needs are constantly neglected.

[@Othraerir]

my mate is always complaining about never having any time, he's got 2 kids. i'm single although i don't think he envies me.

[@DanielBergerHewitt]

Separate for his well being and yours. You can’t be friends with him, while envies you he maybe sabotaging what he already has.

[@ivanguban7143]

@@DanielBergerHewitt I already did. I couldn’t listen to him whining all the time. Anytime I come with a girl, he always talks about boobs and butts. I guess it’s hard to eat the same food over and over again. I think his wife doesn’t like me much because I always come with different girls. Life is great after being divorced. My ex can’t stand to see me happy. I love it. You really have to be married, divorced and single again to appreciate life.

[@brando7266]

U don't want sons( kids)?

[@safetyman3]

Amen to your statement “the most attractive man is the man they can’t have.”

[@Kevo_94]

@@safetyman3 If that statement makes a man feel any better, he's nothing else than a pathetic clown...

[@azintern2]

I read somewhere that when men are in their 20s are trying to figure out how to get into marriage, whereas in their 50s are trying to find a way out of it

[@dj-anand]

@@azintern2 I think we just prefer women who are in their twenties more… 😉

[@deadman12078]

The point of marriage is children and stability. That's all gone... There is no social stigma for cheating or divorcing....

[@BlazingNChilling7s]

Well, you don't need a piece of paper to get a girl pregnant and/or have a amazing relationship with a beautiful woman. That is a fact.

[@ArmyWolves]

...also no stigma for having children out of wedlock

[@DD-xw6uw]

We need that stigma back. It was probably the biggest thing keeping women away from divorce. Bigger than the courts. Women a don’t like doing things that make them social outcasts

[@FrequencyOfThought]

Ever since I've been divorced I've been able to get my nutrition in check a lot easier, I decide the protein meals for the week turned the basement into a home gym and do pretty much whatever I want without having to tippy toe around the house to appease her. Certainly do miss sharing some things with this person and it's still hard to cope with it but it's getting better with time. Narcissists put a spell on you.

[@d3vilman69]

I bet it sure feels good to be able to do anything w/o getting some god damn permission first!

[@MW-nOttawa]

Lol ive been free since Nov26. Its been so peaceful ​@d3vilman69

[@robmcguckin7605]

18 years married to a covert narc, walking on egg shells, never getting a good nights sleep, all vacations and holidays ruined, B S arguments over nothing, felt like we were always in competition, gas lighting, being ghosted and in the end she tried to take a swing at me while I had suitcases in each hand. LOL Put the house up for sale, filed for divorce, gave her the contents of our home and moved her into her new place then, went NO CONTACT. Its been 6 years and I haven't seen her since and I don't plan to.

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Had a narc, worst people ever. Glad I'm divorcing her.

[@nstice1]

Yes they do!!!

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

Almost 60 never been married. Seeing the hell men have been through, the disloyalty and hedonism of my ex girlfriends and bullshit my married brother and brother in law have gone through, I don't regret it one bit.

[@EmilePesky-n1v]

My brother found out recently his wife, childhood sweetheart, was fucking her boss, for years. It's not her first RODEo. All marriages in my family are either over or should be over. The brothers still with their wives are the worst wives. Headcases. My marriage ended because of the sex life, of course. I'm decent in bed, I've been told, but that's irrelevant. They want to punish us or are just too lazy

[@MrFalcman]

Where were you when I got married 14 years ago? I'm now divorced for almost 6 years, but you are speaking the absolute truth, brother! If only content like this existed back then, I never would have gotten married. Keep up the good work in waking young men up, sir. And I hope that you and your family have a wonderful holiday season.

[@davidpbcivil]

I gave her my commitment 12 years ago, because I thought she deserved it. I thought she was "the one". Fast forward 10 years and 3 children, and she divorced me; broke apart our home and family. I signed the papers last month after 2 years of hell. Don't do it young men.

[@john-griffin]

It’s like a cruel trick. You start this journey with all the hope and benevolent wishes in the world and then you get the worst nightmare you could imagine. I don’t know how they do it.

[@racebannon96]

@@john-griffin Delusional with wild fantasies that the grass is greener on the other side. I went through it too. I watched the ex-wife self destruct. I was not going to clean up her foolishness. She will never learn.

[@realasscracka]

I never did never had children. Why the hell would I wanna?

[@rabbychan]

the reason you divorced is already revealed in your comment.

[@miyagifatghost2684]

Crazy part is if you woulda been a jerk seeded her and did what YOU wanted she would chased you and worship the ground you walk on. But Love her with your heart and soul.....nah nah that's not good enough. Sorry for you L bro sincerely

[@kcantley1]

Best advice on KZbin for men. As a widower, married for 30yrs, I can identify with all the ways my dear wife was ruining our great marriage. Of course I took it upon myself to compensate the last 10 years while biting my tongue. With the help of you John, I now have found closure , forgiven her and I’m having a great 2nd life now at 61. These videos are fun and packed full of astute advice. I am 2 years deep in single life bliss with many pastimes , friends, better health, sleeping well and looking forward to spending loads of money on kids, good causes and myself. Wish you good times and great health from Ireland John.

[@Horatio1886build]

I can relate. At 65, I am two years widowed. My wife did have good in her and we did have fun before marriage. But all the pathological traits of these woman discussed in these divorced men’s sites, well sadly she had a bunch of them(I think mainly caused from her terrible bisexual abusive mother who estranged her father and worse. You don’t know what you are getting yourself into guys till it is too late. Sex is a powerful and dangerous trap wielded with natural and innate skill by woman often desperate and manipulative and sometimes sadly it is the only thing they have to give you. For 20 years I felt like an indentured servant with no release date. I was emotionally and physically spent. But I took care of her to the end, she died in our home of cancer I have a beautiful successful daughter, an excellent EMT. We shared the ‘ experience’ of dealing with “Mom” and we have a great relationship because of the shared “ challenge” . May ‘Mom ‘ rest in peace. Life is good now. I feel a little guilty saying that,but I deserve a little peace and happiness now; I did my time, I fulfilled my obligation to the end. Young men, listen to us : revell in your youth, work hard, stay free, be happy .

[@Petznar]

Where are you based

[@Kal-El207]

@@Petznar He said Ireland.

[@fablife1093]

4 years after going through the divorce grinder my loneliness has turned into peace and solitude. I actually enjoy my own company and being content with simple things. If you ever feel lonely think about all the drama that has been deleted for you.

[@Bowsertron1]

You know not only do I encourage bachelors to stay that way permanently but I also encourage them to be happy about being single.

[@JazzDuets]

"the prison of marriage" John dropping truth bombs again!

[@howardboyd7764]

All of my married friends look and sound like downtrodden, hopeless inmates on furlough from prison..........

[@paulmcgraw9284]

Dating is like taking a test drive of a car. Getting married is like buying the car and finding out it’s as expensive as hell to run and maintain! That’s why I never got married! I’m single, independent and satisfied with my life! Happy holidays!

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Glory

[@lot6129]

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

[@cei1948]

Happy holidays as well, it’s nice going to family events and seeing all the stressed out couples knowing you can leave when you want and go to your nice warm bed and stretch out

[@ma3stro681]

And it’s a complete lemon and the payments never end … 😂

[@TomO68460]

Nah... Merry Christmas!!

[@eric_linden]

Those of us who have been married know you speak truth. But some bachelors will die not believing you. Sometimes you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.

[@john-griffin]

Exactly right

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

And sometimes you forget what you had (money and autonomy) until you get divorced. 😅

[@andyjohnson5484]

​@@IFYOUWANTITGOGETITAbsolutely! And I was more autonomous than most husbands when I was married.

[@kerwinwade1884]

I am a bachelor blessed with this knowledge and I won't listen to people's, usually married people's "advice". They literally tell you that you will be happy while they have an unhappy face, they interrupt my smiling face with their frowning face to tell me that I'm not happy like them lol no thanks

[@Radioman7788]

As a bachelor for 58 years, I have to say you are 100% on point.

[@mjaybee]

When you’re dating you’re a prospect. When you’re married, you’re a client…

[@johnballard6725]

Too true !

[@kchall5]

No, when you get married THEY become the client, and you're the service provider charged with satisfying their needs in the hopes of garnering "repeat business".

[@arrowhead455]

Actually, my experience was as an employee. And the boss wasn’t as smart as the worker. Not throwing shade, she was the emotional one, I was the logical one

[@ma3stro681]

@@arrowhead455 Not throwing shade? Everyone knows females run on emotions and males are the logical ones …

[@d3vilman69]

A business transaction where the guy is permanently at the losing end cuz the return-of-investment always runs negative!

[@rayklein7486]

Truth, I was married to a Narcissist for 34 years. It nearly killed me. I finally had the sense to eject. It cost major $$, but it was worth it. As we all know the legal system sucks. I do what I want now and my Girlfriend is 24 years younger and actually loves and respects me. I told her up front though, at the first sign of any problems I will be gone immediately! Won't ever make the same mistake again. I would rather be alone than hanging out and being abused by a woman. Life is great now, as good or better than when I was young and single.

[@BifMagilicutti]

I can definitely relate to your experiences. Were we twins separated at birth? My GF now, is 28 years younger, beautiful, and we have an agreement to never get married.

[@ajaygupta3713]

Bro you nailed it 😉

[@user-vm8ot3vg8m]

Same for me, 31 wasted years

[@Horatio1886build]

Make sure your ‘ young thing’ does not live under your roof or support for long enough to claim a “ common law” union if you live in such a jurisdiction. She is with you for some reason, make sure you know what it is😁

[@firstnamelastname5736]

Looks like you have learnt nothing after you 'ejected'. You're a fool to think that a 24 year younger woman is with you because of 'love and respect'. Blows my mind how some people are so stupid.

[@factsguy-d2x]

The best move I ever made was being a bachelor. I made significant moves across cities and countries to pursue my career. Along the way I met some wonderful women of all walks of life and travelled the world. I'm now in my mid 30s , earn a high 6 figures and work only half of the year. One of the things I noted about any relationship I'm in is that women start to change after 2 years. the change is subtle, but they start to withhold intimacy more, demand more and give less. I think that's a result of taking a relationship for granted or thinking since they secured me, they don't have to work at it anymore. That's when I cut bait and move on. I saw what marriage does to people. Without exception, it sucks the soul out of them slowly over a long period of time. I'm not casting off marriage completely, but I'm not desperate for it, and I am for sure not going to be with someone who doesn't check off all of my list. If I don't find that person, I am happy living life the way I do now.

[@sauter1]

Amen

[@baldeagle4710]

Familiarity breeds contempt. Never date a woman for more than 6 months.

[@vastocean77]

I needed to hear this. I'm accomplishing things and experiencing life on a deeper level than I would if I were tied down to a woman. I've always been a bachelor. I love my freedom.

[@TheRoyalWe123]

First day in divorce court tomorrow brothers. 🍻

[@joshingyou40]

Congrats on the new life

[@tim46153]

Don’t ever do it again !!!

[@ackbuilder8262]

Congratulations! It always gets worse before it gets better.

[@JediDarkForce]

Pay what you gotta pay. You are free now

Celebrate! They should have divorce parties!

[@davidpitchford6510]

The story that men cannot be happy without a wife is just a batch o' lore.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Well stated.

[@KennethNorman-p8m]

Self sufficient and Independent… the foundation of a great life. Thanks as always.

[@john-griffin]

I appreciate it. Thanks

[@thealanshow25]

John Griffin has become the voice of reason + sanity that I need to hear everyday. Like an Uncle, older brother, Father or just a friend that I can relate to you. I live alone in Las Vegas / San Diego, and while there are no women for me anymore in America, I’m starting to realize that being a single bachelor in a quiet, peaceful home is pure paradise.

[@JohnOv3rblast]

When a man reaches his highest connection with his mission and deepens his self-awareness, relationships don't matter anymore, and no woman can make you feel less or more like a person. You are already fulfilled with your purpose of living. When a man matures he doesn't need any more relationships to manage his life. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts.

[@john-griffin]

Great perspective. Thanks

[@msnj1791]

Another great video John ! Found your channel a little while ago and I can’t express enough how insightful and helpful you have been. Thanks so much my guy!

[@markpurvis896]

You’ve hit the nail on the proverbial head mate. I’m 53 and happily single. I’ve got 2 beautiful girls, been married once, engaged twice and essentially lost out financially and emotionally twice. I’ve got close mates, a good career, I play lots of golf, see live music and travel when I like without having to think of, and gain the permission of someone else. I’ve also got zero drama and issues and am the most authentic and best version of myself. I highly advocate for the bachelor life..🙏

[@kevinmosher6027]

I just discovered your channel and have been binge watching all day. I’ve been going through a crazy divorce over the last 7 months and your content really hits the bullseye. Thanks for boosting my confidence, I really needed it.

[@john-griffin]

Glad you are finding it helpful. It's hard to go through a divorce.

[@StarCityFAME]

I was raised by my Hungarian Grandparents. In non-Western parts of Europe years ago, married men continued their relationships and hobbies with their childhood boy siblings, cousins and friends. Similarly, the wives did also, with their female siblings, cousins and friends. Most people these days don't even have cousins. But anyway. Marriages were not prison sentences of only the wives' acquaintances and family, or whomever she approved of. Or what school district you must live in. Or what career she prefers you to be or stay in. This is total BS in the West. My grandparents didn't need to "be there" constantly for each other. Just a dinner together after my Grandfather returned from work and on Sunday after-church meals. Period. He worked, she kept the home organized. We didn't even own a vehicle b/c he took the train to work and my Grandmother and I took a city bus everywhere or walked. America is too spend-oriented. Too in need of conveniences. Too worried if someone sees you in the same dress next week. Trust me, no one of any character and common sense judges you on how often they saw you in that outfit. We have a serious consumer problem here, both in fashion, gadgets, and the amount of (and quality of) food we eat in America. Even the trashy people have a thousand ridiculously trashy outfits that are at least 3 sizes too small to begin with.

[@joemachine4714]

I grew up in a Hungarian neighborhood in Detroit but I'm Lebanese and we grew up the same way, with countless cousins within a couple blocks of each other. I'm 57 and everyone from the old neighborhood is still in touch.

[@jburch1544]

It's always eye-opening how cold and cruel some women can be even in their old age. Watched women after 40+ years of marriage divorce and let their former husbands die alone in a nursing home. Might as well been a bachelor.

[@GBU61]

Once a man reaches 50, he looks around and asks himself if there is a woman that exists who isn’t already divorced, is debt free, on medication and/or emotionally damaged to the point that he would want to take the risk? Men have enough of their own issues to deal with at it is. Then I am supposed to take on even more baggage than I already have by adding all her issues as well?

[@jacqdanieles]

When I reached 40, I asked the same questions. The answers are why I remained single.

[@EE12CSVT]

I figured out in my late 20s that they weren't all they're cracked up to be, and then the narcissism epidemic took over where run through single mothers suddenly thought tbey were God's gift to humanity and needed to be simped over.

[@racebannon96]

Well said. A lot of these women need 24/7 supervision. It is exhausting.

[@keithcitizen4855]

Divorcees are not right off's, well men anyway , I've seen many just go onto to bigger and better things IE take on new mortgages and start a second family perfectly happy and contented never looking back.

[@sauter1]

Yep. Unfortunately for us guys, being in a relationship always ends up meaning having to inherit some woman's problems. To know if it's worth it anymore, just ask yourself "is she helping reduce the stress in my life, or adding to it?"

[@McLovinit98]

The question I've been asking my entire adult life is what are the benefits of a relationship? I've been in many and never found any benefits. It's always been debt, drama, and disrespect.

[@john-griffin]

You are not alone.

[@JasonPrior-m9m]

Children.

[@graybeardsage]

​@@JasonPrior-m9m Until they become teens... Then it's debt, drama and disrespect.

[@daddy-wg2gz]

@@JasonPrior-m9m Children = debt. Also, unless you're rich enough, your children will likely be life long debt slaves to corporations and for certain, life long debt slaves to the state via increasing taxation and inflation. In addition, more people are waking up to the questionable ethics of procreation via the spread of anti - n@talism and child free life styles.

[@rabbychan]

Knowing you have someone at home waiting for you at the end of the day, take care of you when you are sick. But if you have no idea how to navigate through the minefield of female biology you will never experience that.

[@peterraffa]

John, once again, you put a big smile on my face. She left and my life is not just better, but awesome! The day I walked out of divorce court was like walking out of a prison with the big heavy gates closing with a thud behind me, with beautiful sunshine and green meadows surrounding me. It was grated a surprise pardon, 8 years before my sentence was done, meaning my youngest turned 18. It was the greatest gift I could have received. I was freed and nothing could feel greater.

[@impersonator35]

Sounds like the end to Shawshank Redemption:)

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Long hair, bearded Alaskan, nomad, Bob Wells, author, plus years old, creator of Cheap RV Living, divorced with 2 adult children says he will not get married again. Bob is doing great work helping others as nomads across the world....Whooooottttttt

[@farisessaghir3964]

Thank you for the high quality video, the video work is outstanding, it adds to the value that is flowing from your words.

[@john-griffin]

Thank you!

[@SeanC1959]

John, I'm a 65 year old man who has been essentially a bachelor all of my life - apart from a short live relationship with a woman who was more like a room mate/friends with benefits - I was just a stepping stone as she was looking Mr. Goodbar. Marriage and life long commitment was never on the cards. Hearing these wise words reminds that the path that I've been on and am staying on is the ONLY one for me . Thanks and regards, Sean.

[@RedERscrubs]

"Keep your commitment in your pocket." I NEED THAT ON A T-SHIRT, JOHN!

[@gehanoates885]

When I was younger I was just following my biology I never had a clue what I was getting into. With the knowledge I have now about female nature I would stay single. I would only want my son. Guys stay single if you value your life

[@Eric-s4k]

Brother you hit the nail on the head at 36 im a bachelor again for the first time since i was probably in my early 20's. My life is finally peaceful

[@Bowsertron1]

Best of all you didn’t end up like Phil Hartman. For those of you don’t know who Phil Hartman is he was a comedian. Phil may have been a funny man but there was nothing funny about his toxic marriage. Had he divorced maybe he might still be alive.

[@TriadTradingOfficial]

I grieved internally the day that my older brother got married. I knew I would lose a part of our relationship forever…

[@azintern2]

Yup. I’ve lost so many friends to marriage

[@X-rayAnon]

Yup

[@18degN]

One of your best videos John, thank you, it really resonates and inspires

[@nickjee]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other..

[@emilyclark-m2g]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.

[@nickjee]

I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@emilyclark-m2g]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@nickjee]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@emilyclark-m2g]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@Suursuo]

Being a boring person is a blessing ion disguise. I have never met a woman who would have wanted to get married to me and as years have gone by I guess that's been like dodging a bullet.

[@rexbanner7256]

I'm not lonely. I'm just alone. It's fantastic!

[@SuperSonic1K1]

John, Many people fall in to this trap thinking if a guy is alone, there wont be anyobody to take care of him in his old age, what happens if you get an accident or fell sick, people are afraid of dying alone in the death bed, nobody to say good bye and that forces many men to get stuck in shity relationship that will kill them everyday.The video will be complete if you illuminate the ignorants that this fear is unfounded, truth is that everybody dies alone with or without anyone because its a personal experience and best life is to live a life with no regrets and not staying in bad relationship for decades that was corroding.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@duanechapman-ft6ty]

@@SuperSonic1K1 I get that so more the older I get. Personally, I would feel much more at peace dying because I wore my body out than stress from other people. Alot of people don't feel that way though.

[@rogerthornhill1491]

The whole dying with your family surrounding you is largely a myth it rarely happens. Most people die in their own beds or in a hospital bed, unconscious. If the only reason you’re getting married is that some woman is at sometime in the future, gonna be kneeling beside your bed, holding your hand, as you drift off, you are living in a fantasy world. First of all, you’re not likely to be married to that woman by the time you shuffle off. In fact, she will probably be so indifferent or so hostile that the only thing she will actually be happy about is that you are dead. If that’s your goal, get a girlfriend. She’s just as likely to be there is any wife. The exception being your kids but these days even the chances of that are low. Not because of malice, but because of the way life or in this case death works?

[@Othraerir]

i can't even get into a bad relationship, let alone a good one...

[@nstice1]

You could stay married for 50 years and she dies first leaving you alone on your deathbed anyways. Staying married does not guarantee you will have someone who loves you in your last moments on this earth. You could be married and stuck with someone who secretly or openly hates you taking care of you in your last moments….

[@sirg-had8821]

I'm not letting my fear of a cold bed override my love of a quiet home. A woman will bring nothing of value to my life that I cant get at the bunny ranch.

[@johnballard6725]

If your moral or religious beliefs do not exist or stop you from cohabitating without marriage I reckon the occasional bunny ranch gig makes sense and tbh you'll get better sex there than you would in a marriage ! Also the lady concerned will want to please you so you'll come back ?!

[@cryptorunner6957]

Try felt/flannel sheets. Makes it super easy sleeping alone as a bachelor

[@user-vm8ot3vg8m]

10 lb felt asian blankets!

[@sirg-had8821]

@cryptorunner6957 I like the jersey fabric sheets.

[@lordjim3109]

And she ages like milk.

[@Fajar-cl3ru]

Thanks John! Your videos inspires men like me that always blaming myself for other party's unhappy life. Now I know my ground! Thank you, again! It means alot to me.

[@DBTwister]

I used to feel uneasy about traveling alone. Most of my married friends are constantly busy with work, and whatever little free time they have is usually reserved for family. The strong, independent women I know are often working nonstop just to make ends meet. For a while, I found a sweet spot by traveling with a few female teacher friends since they get a lot of leave. However, the catch was having to travel during school holidays, which means dealing with crowds-something I’m not a fan of. Now, I’ve made peace with traveling out of season, even if it means going solo. It’s worth it to avoid the chaos.

[@eoindoyle9899]

Great video, I've always been single. I'm never bored, I can do what I want.

[@seph4667]

John Griffin, you may not realize it, but your KZbin creations have become the most valuable of all. Nobody does it better, but you... tomorrow.

[@menolopes6479]

John, you are a blessing to us. Thanks man for having the courage and the emotional labour and effort that it took to speak about what many of us need to hear and listen to. Glad I found this channel ☀️

[@lukejonte8379]

I love the brevity and dead pan humour of this Channel. Very nice work!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@bobbyamos2098]

Appreciate the wisdom bro! Im 38...might just stay single forever. So far so good!

[@joziewales1965]

Divorced my ex in 2014 and have been single ever since. The best 10 years of my life.

[@polo-si2rs]

Really???

[@Bowsertron1]

You did the right thing divorcing your ex wife. Best of all you didn’t end up like Phil Hartman.

[@mrbugman67]

Never had a serious relationship until I was around 22... before that I always felt like I was missing out and was depressed. Got married at 23... divorced at 25 from a cheating ex wife. What a nightmare... 38 now and I've dated but never getting married again. It turns out I should have stayed single and figured out just how great single life was. I know better now.

[@Bowsertron1]

I know Phil Hartman should’ve stayed single! Had he gotten out of his abusive relationship he might still be alive. Also, he would’ve been one funny old man!

[@fajarsutrisno834]

I was divorced for about 5 years now. With my one and only son I live happily. I enjoyed it and I have plan to live like this. I do not know for how long. All i know is I'm happier and content. Thanks for your video, John! it inspires people like me.

[@robskiing]

From the UK your talking resounds with everything I’ve known or experienced with women , just subbed

[@pauldeal547]

So many truth bombs in what John discusses here makes this one of his best. I’ve never found a woman that has ever let me be my authentic self. They always try to control and change you. I agree with John that you’ll never really know what she is like while dating them. It can take 3 years after marrying them before their true self emerges. Never again for me.

[@EE12CSVT]

I have some sort of X-ray or time travel vision that I see exactly what the future married woman is going to be like in the first few minutes of talking to them. They will start their manipulation tactics, test for disrespect and so on within 30 minutes of getting to know them, sometimes it comes out within 10 minutes. It's why I don't get back to them when they give me their number. The last time I met a woman who didn't do any of this and I could stand to be around and enjoy her company and didn't have attitude and didn't test was back in 2000.

[@DD-xw6uw]

@@EE12CSVT I find the best way to test women out is to be your most authentic self. If you show them the man they’ll be with if they marry you you’ll end up getting a response from them that’s more revealing of their own true self. Also never reveal the best bits of yourself. If anything show the worse aspects of yourself. If she can’t see all the benefits, but you still get a positive response out of her she may be worth more time otherwise don’t bother

[@DUNEATV]

John, your videos are amazing. Thx!

[@bdoubleeb3039]

46yo bachelor here. I’ve had two LTR’s end when I refused the marriage ultimatum. I view relationships as chapters.

[@bugzyhawk5941]

Had to listen to this one twice. It’s so good! And Yes, also being a born again Bachelor. Finally living the dream.

[@vess928]

Been married 7 years, cant imagine life without my wife who is my rock. If the right person comes by, dont hesitate.

[@kc9364]

Thank you for sharing. This comment section is a little jaded which is understandable after what they've been through, but there ARE great women out there and happy marriage DO exist 😊

[@thedeerslayer3247]

@@vess928 7 years!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I wish ya'll the very best...

[@vess928]

@@thedeerslayer3247 considering she stayed by my side during my dads advanced dementia, giving up some if her career dreams to assist me without question, i’d say that we are pretty good with getting over difficulties in life. No need to assume a bitter life and a bitter end.

[@thedeerslayer3247]

@vess928 I am so very happy for you!! I wouldn't wish what I went through on my worst enemy! I thought I had the same as you. Women can be very brutal, remember that...

[@vess928]

@ yes but you cant assume every woman will be brutal and stop yourself from loving again and living life. Men can be brutal too, caesar got stabbed by his peers. Does that mean we should cast aside friendships too?

[@rickjensen2717]

Great points! You're doing exactly what I do - a long walk in the great putdoors to think things through and get things into perspective.

[@ShunguRocks]

I appreciate your videos sir. Im a millennial and wish this kind of content was available to us when we were younger. I have had to learn the hard way, divorced now with two kids I love very much. If I could go back I would not have married. I try to pass on, as you are doing, information to the younger generations. I wish them luck knowing that in the end, it can be difficult for some who hasn’t experienced the prison of marriage to truly understand just how close to hell it can be. I wish the younger generations a lot of luck & strength.

[@poggymick]

I've been watching your episodes for awhile now and relatively agree with most things you have talked about. I am a certified bachelor. I'm 65 never been married and no kids and I always tell people I've had the best life. Literally doing what ever I like when I want. I'm financially stable and fairly good looking never had problems getting girlfriends. If I were to do it all over again I would do exactly the same way. I love your reasoning it all makes good sense and fairly good advice.

[@Dan.50]

Living with one is hell on earth. Your worst nightmares can't prepare you for what awaits you..

[@ladybug3380]

That’s also how women feel. We weren’t meant to leave with the opposite sex, we were only meant to come together to reproduce.

[@realAfrican]

@@Dan.50 what's the worst part?

[@bruteforce109]

True words spoken!! Thank u for making this so clear. I’m single & so far loving it!!

[@seanl904]

Thanks for the videos John. I know they’re helpful for alot of men….17 years for me. About year 13, the ex morphed in to a completely different person. Menopause, hormonal, change of life. It was like living with a demon. Been divorced two years and still in disbelief. These women can do a number on you.

[@williammartinez3883]

John thanks for all these sticks of dynomight in the form of videos

[@RonGlasgow-s7l]

No wife...No stress...Longer and healthier life

[@LoganE33]

Great message! I was constantly in a relationship for most of my adult life till a couple of years back, thinking that was how to be happy. I was wrong. I've been able to actually focus on my self-improvement journey instead of hers. I actually get to travel like I want now. I'm 34 and feel like I just started my life.

[@kinglucas9922]

I love your content! Keep them coming. You're the most realist! Thanks!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I appreciate it.

[@omarherazo7505]

Brother, thanks You for Sharing your Experience, You saved My life. Your videos helped me a lot....Thanks You, My Friend... I'm from Colombia, South América...

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I am glad to hear that you found it helpful.

[@hump1953]

I’m 72 single never married … just made my 2025 plans to visit Colombia, Southern Europe ( Switzerland, Germany, Austria, Czech Republic) and Asia meeting fun, fit, friendly, feminine young women ….

[@watamutha]

Jesus, I thought it would be all over by 70.

[@TheKingdom-i9t]

@@hump1953 Believe that Jesus Christ died and resurrected for you by God The Father, and love one another: you shall have eternal life in the world that is to come.

[@TheKingdom-i9t]

Believe that Jesus Christ died and resurrected for you by God The Father, and love one another: you shall have eternal life in the world that is to come.

[@shanecorr1694]

Young woman aren't feminine these days unless your in Asia or outside the West

[@JarinXeno]

I remember one time when my ex-wife and I were still married we got into it about how much money she would spend. She was always ordering something on Amazon, usually multiple times a day. I don't think she meant to let it slip but she admitted that she didn't really think about how much money she was spending because she wasn't the one working for it.

[@eugrules]

Been a bachelor all my life, I'm 58, happy, well adjusted. Today, like I do almost every Sunday, I went and spent almost the whole 8am-6pm day riding my dirt-bike with my friends in the Idaho desert. It was fantastic, Fresh air, Awesome trails, comradery, state of the art dirt-bike, sunshine, pure bliss. I am so lucky to be able to do the things I like to do, with male friends that are interesting, funny, and great people that I can really depend on.

[@Kal-El207]

I wish I could have your freedom.

[@eugrules]

@@Kal-El207 I hope you find it someday. Life is good - live it.

[@cozmicsoull]

That’s great! Which bike do you have and do you recommend?

[@eugrules]

@@cozmicsoull KTM 300. Which bike? - for a beginner honda 230

[@sylism5086]

Best video, best advice. Thank you sir.

[@john-griffin]

Glad you found it helpful!

[@beemrmem3]

I can attest to this. I enjoyed being single before I was married. It's a whole other ball game after you get divorced. You start to appreciate everything you missed out on while being married. I now found it bizarre when people think they need another person to be happy. It's just someone to answer to, and make your life full of compromises. The feeling of having a woman leave first thing in the morning after having a good night with her is undescribable. You can have your cake and eat it too.

[@v1kng99]

Great advice man. I can confirm I’m dealing with this problem right now.

[@KJ50yeahhh]

We cooked out here boss. 34 , no kids , no woman, I work construction and still live at home with mom. I literally can’t afford dating, and I see friends maybe once or twice a month if that…. I wish women were humble like they grandmothers in 1950 🙁 now days you gotta make 100k a year for a woman to even shoe her “feminine” side , I mean think about that 😢 I’m done .

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Well stated

[@JediDarkForce]

It's much more in today's economy. No mam can afford a stay at home wife unless you are hyper rich

[@shirleygriffin7672]

@@JediDarkForce well stated

[@racebannon96]

If a woman lets you know that you don’t make enough money, consider that a gift. Too many women out there want to benefit from a relationship. Being asked how much money you make on the first date is a Deal Breaker.

[@JediDarkForce]

@@racebannon96 they plan it all ahead ie what cars will be driven what zip code area what schools and finally the payout after the divorce

[@Ja50nkAt]

I can't even imagine sleeping in the same bed with the same person for the next 40 years of my life. I'm a light sleeper and the slightest movement or sound will wake me up, what a far fetched concept that would never work for me. One night, sure, more than one night no way Jose.

[@LarryWilliamsArtist]

The snoring. May seem like a small thing, but over time becomes a torture all its own. You will have the sheets and blankets pulled from you. Cuddling=ending up in a contorted, awkward position that 99 percent of the time includes at least one appendage that has gone completely numb. Sleeping by yourself is the way to go.

[@davedavester9060]

Every relationship I've had since college ended bc I refuse to get married. I always ask my gfs why they pressure me to get married. They say it's so I just don't up and leave them. This proves what I've always believed that the only reason ppl want marriage is to trap. I also won't up and leave if you aren't a b-tch...

[@davedavester9060]

Also, I'm 46 and will probably retire in a year or two. Can't do that with a wife and kids.

[@DD-xw6uw]

Marriage is a trap for men. The laws of today reward women for leaving a marriage, but punish men. What women wouldn’t love that? If we went back to the marriage of 100+ years ago where divorce was very hard to get, and the men had greater authority in the relationship women would reverse their ways and hate marriage too.

[@pierreancyedouard5027]

Btw if a woman knows you hold something to your core, but you decide to change to please her, she’ll hate you because it’s a submissive act, I’m telling you if you married them they’d resent you for it, so you did the right choice!

[@rohans7194]

U nailed it. I feel exactly the same and I don't wanna get married or have kids. Feels like a transaction. I also think that women trap men into having kids so that they can't get out of marriage and if they do, they lose their child custody and have to pay alimony and child support.

[@JVAJacob1]

Thank u for making this

[@quantum7154]

I’m living that bachelor lifestyle right now and it’s wonderful. I go and come as I please.🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Perfect

Hi John! Thank you for taking the time and opportunity to help and educate us, This is life changing information and I subscribed to your channel Im looking forward to hearing more. You speak in great conversational language & cool drone camera skills Amazing 1st introduction video for me to watch again U speak to me as a man with no children and not committed in any long term relationships This is golden psychology for me. Great conversation & I feel this talk is a masterpiece. I feel empowered

[@davidpitchford6510]

I'm not lonely; I am leavemalonely.

[@johnballard6725]

Haha!

[@ChrisTian-wx1rh]

Excellent video, I hope this channel doesn’t fall into the slippery slope of women bashing for views. I really appreciate the emphasis put on the importance of career and self development

[@davegayaldo]

you’re absolutely right, as a man when you’re married everyone else’s entitlements needs come first. Whether that’s going out for Sunday lunch or the bills or where we going on vacation you’re absolutely right. The wife and kids come first and the husband comes somewhere after all that everybody’s needs come prior emotionally and financially

[@DD-xw6uw]

That’s so true. All of the men in my life have admitted to this be true. In reality marriage has always been that way for men, but for most of history men had a lot of authority that came with that responsibility and divorce was very hard to get. Now we have taken those benefits off men whilst allowing women to keep all the rewards they get from marriage

[@onesent548]

Just discovered your channel. Gotta say im loving the content! The outdoor shots really add something unique, and you offer up some very interesting insights on these topics. 💯

[@john-griffin]

Appreciate the feedback. It took a while to get this right. Thanks again.

[@Late60sMusicFan]

"We all need friends to "talk us out of it" ... because the likelihood of making a mistake is greater than you might do something right." LOL, SO TRUE.

[@adonistucker8781]

46 year old male here. I go to divorce court in July. I was skeptical about life post divorce. This channel has really encouraged me.