Why being a girlfriend is psychologically damaging

[@thecherishedwoman]

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[@ajnawaygalaxy]

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[@haleycastillo5097]

This is making it sound like the woman does everything in a relationship but is also a victim to bad relationships. There are plenty of guys who experience women who do all these same thing you are talking about . A relationship is a two way street. If a man or woman wants to get married it should be established right off the bat. You don’t just build a man up to deciding he wants to marry you. The point of dating is to establish if you are compatible especially in values, if they aren’t you can’t just make someone change which is why someone probably would decide they would not want to marry someone.

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

Last night I asked my boyfriend of one year to date me without having sex anymore. He agreed without hesitation, saying he wants me to be sure. He brings up us marrying/having children a lot but he has also been talking about how we are not ready when I bring up that I want to be married soon. I'd prefer to be married now, I feel ready since I'm in my thirties already for goodness sakes! We are both late bloomers in life, with me in the middle of a drastic career change and him a new immigrant, trying to get established. He wants to wait until he is making more money so that he can take care of me properly he says, and he wants me to finish my education. Somehow this doesn't comfort me and I'm freaking out. His words are no guarantee and besides, I'll have my master's in 3 years from now. I don't feel that I can wait for him for that long. This is why I have asked to stop having sex. I'm sorry for putting this all here but I'm literally in tears and I'm scared and I feel like you would tell me to cut and move on to find a man who is ready NOW. It takes so much time to get to know someone and build up a relationship only to then have to start over again if it doesn't work out and I'm panicking because I'm running out of time especially if I want a child. Help! What should I do?

[@thecherishedwoman]

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[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

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[@linaaveyaa]

idk i feel like you could still set up all those boundaries in a relationship without having to be engaged. im someone who generally likes to go slow and i usually drop the "waiting till marriage" bomb on the first dates. more guys stick around than you'd think. there's nothing wrong with wanting to get to know someone for a year or two before you make that next big step.

[@thecherishedwoman]

@@linaaveyaa If the goal of dating isn't to see if they're "the one," why date them at all? And if they are "the one," why spend years dating before getting engaged, unless you're under 25? Most women say they want to take things slow because they're dating men who aren't husband material or who aren't "the one." When you know how to attract quality men and call in your dream man, waiting isn't necessary. (By the way, I'm not suggesting you get married the next week.) Instead, once the man has made his intentions for a future proposal clear, you enter into a courtship or do further due diligence to determine if they are indeed the right person for you. Also, saying you're dating for marriage on a first date doesn't mean much. Men don't pay attention to a woman's words; women say all kinds of things. Men look at a woman's actions, attitude, and how she shows up to determine if she's wife material. This is where most women fail-they think just telling a man their intentions is enough.

[@linaaveyaa]

@@thecherishedwoman i am under 25 lollll

[@eliyasara9786]

I think what Nadia is saying, is that 'dating' (being in an EXCLUSIVE relationship to ONE guy for a long period of time) is damaging without a proposal on the table. I think your definition of 'dating' is just going on dates with different people, which I would say is completely normal and encouraged. However when it comes to actually being exclusive with one guy, what's the point of committing to that when he himself has expressed no future commitment (our time is more precious than men's, and men gain far far more from being in an exclusive relationship with a woman than a woman does).

[@Honeypot101]

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[@Makenna22]

1-2 years to recover from a relationship??

[@marisasamantarath]

yes

[@vladtheimpalerofyourmom-ag5112]

Wild. Honestly when I was single if a relationship ends I’d cheer myself up by going on a date asap :).

[@hawkeagle1114]

Congratulations Nadia!

[@thecherishedwoman]

Thank you so much :)