Why do I always feel weird during the holidays?

Anybody else feeling weird this holiday season? Feeling lots of emotions, finding joy, creating new traditions and realizing that even then...you will STILL f$%#@ it up!

[@cynthia425]

He is definitely changed for the grandkids. That is precious in its self. You are a great Mom.

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you! He's definitely a changed man :)

[@kacymah93]

Your dad saying he’s changed 😂 but yeah I totally feel you on Christmas resentment/trauma growing up. 😢 My mom didn’t believe in gifts (for numerous reasons - I didn’t “need it”, so I’m not “spoiled”, etc) and I only got to keep 1 out of the pile (given to me from other family members, not her). Then I’ll go back to school and hear all my peers talking about their Christmas presents. There’s so many bad memories associated with the holidays for me, yet I find myself looking forward to it every year regardless. So now as an adult I always get myself 1 big gift for Christmas/birthday. Last year I randomly asked my dad for a tree (he always got real ones) and we went to Home Depot and he got me one because he knew how much I loved them and found it nostalgic. He still kept all my childhood/homemade ornaments. 🥺 I’m glad your kids are experiencing good memories with you! You’re a great mom! ❤

[@JulieCuriel]

I watched your videos religiously in like 2010. You’ve come SO FAR. Don’t ever forget it.

[@joyyiu]

Ahhh your kids and parents are so adorable! Thank you for sharing. Happy holidays x 🫶🏼

[@AnnMarieCato]

Thank you for opening up and sharing these moments. 🫶🏼

[@vendiii.i]

You’ve come far, happy holidays!🫶🏻

[@user-gz3gg9zz1h]

I am really impressed how confident you are even with your looks

[@ashleyreddy560]

Keep doing the family content, love how open you’re being 🫶🏽

[@ap92516]

Hope you’re coping well during the holidays season 😊🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 wishing you and your family a blessed Christmas and happy new year

[@cheryllohh]

Thank you for your honesty 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@b3ellen]

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻you and your girls are so so cute!!! I love the coffee before school tradition!

[@lilyrose0116]

I believe as long as you, the parent, filled these traditions with love & excitement, they'll remember it positively. You said your parents dreaded all the holiday stuff you asked for & that's probably why you might have a negative emotion come up. As an Asian American, we never did the whole American Christmas. It was a slight blend of a holiday meal but Asian. However, the family had a huge gathering and we all cook and ate together. We exchanged gifts with or without a tree. The holidays was meant to spend happy times with family. Every family should have their own traditions that is unique to their family. I think your daughters will remember their youth fondly because of how much love you have for them and the efforts you put into caring for them.

[@hellolinglingx3]

So relatable! 🫶

[@0xxblAlIcexx8]

Please share more of your life with us! It’s nice to see how you incorporate the Western and Asian traditions together. Seeing the difficulties and how daily life goes is super sweet 🫶😍

[@desertrosesparks]

🫶loving these new videos and life updates. Been watching your videos since… 2010 (or earlier?!!?). Love seeing how far you’ve come and how you’ve transformed yourself over the years. Would love more lifestyle updates/tips if you’re planning to post about other topics :)

[@ChristianneLucille]

Love this episode! 🖤🫶🏼

[@InspiringAphrodite]

I think it’s amazing that you’re making traditions with your girls! I really do feel like your an amazing mom and your kids will look back and be beyond grateful for how much you do for them!! Also pumpkin pie squares are really good too!!! It’s what my mom makes! (Allrecipes has a good recipe)

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you so much!!

[@ladyjade7013]

“You hit on the head saying most of us have a weird relationship with love and family”. Loving these series so much because especially being Asian, I can relate and so much of the experiences you mentioned resonates. Thank you for sharing these pieces of your life, being vulnerable and letting us in so we can be empowered to share our own stories too 🫶🏻

[@ChriselleLim]

So happy to hear you identify!

[@franceslopes7922]

Lovin your new life and videos

[@drownedtears]

🫶🏻 Love seeing more family content for sure!

[@nemomerong]

Either way you are creating your own traditions with the kids ❤❤

[@tishaortizo6099]

🫶🏼 loved this! i also would love to see you bring back skincare content.

[@agnieszkapregowska542]

🫶🏼 I love your authentic self, speaking from the heart and your experience through tough times. It amazes me how you have gone through such traumatic events and are navigating through life with such grace. I can also relate not feeling like you fit in with what society tells you because I moved from Europe to the states and felt like everyone around me had everything, and I never had anything ie the Christmas events and presents and traditions. But I’m sure you can also relate that it’s more important to feel the love that your parents gave you and the values that they had instilled in you. I’m a mama and have a baby about to pop and I want to make sure I give those things to my kids rather than the monetary items (gifts and presents) that will never be remembered as they grow older. But don’t get me wrong, I have the same mentality that I want to spoil my kids with the things I didn’t receive. Such a hard balance! Loving these videos, they are inspiring and real and I would love to see more behind the scenes of your crazy travel life while maintaining your mom duties. How do you balance?! 🤍

[@samsilva9868]

I can resonate with the holidays feeling weird. Growing up, the holidays were a reminder of what we didn't have as compared to others. They were financially stressful times, often involving my dad being unemployed. My mom would try her best at making the holidays special. But it did leave me with some type of void. Now, as an adult, I try to take care of that inner child and provide experiences I may have not had growing up and make the holiday season extra special for myself.

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you for sharing!

[@user-ex5mx8gj7g]

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 the best mom!!! I would love to see more styling content from you. My inspo queen!!

[@IdiomofSad]

I'm living for your videos lately Chriselle. I love your outlook so much, and agree with so much of what you say - plus, you just absolutely look fabulous!! I've always been obsessed with your style, and lately it's been next level. So glad you're back. Happy Holidays xo

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you so much!

[@jennifersausal4092]

Thanks for your honesty and sincerity Chriselle! I’m happy that you’re creating new holiday traditions with your girls and those are memories they will never forget and cherish forever 🫶

[@StyleStaryvonne]

lovely vid! It felt like a glimpse into your family. Also would love to see more beauty/hair content on yt :))

[@jmjensen]

🫶🏻 you are doing such amazing job with the girls!

[@connie0613]

Ty for this video!! ❤❤

[@fgb315]

lol that last thing you said about the pumpkins is so true!! This is why I love you so much chriselle ❤❤❤

[@jadeandes]

I love how you keep the Christmas tradition authentic especially with your kids and parents. Love and family is everything! Happy Holidays Chriselle! 🫶

[@JulieCuriel]

LOL he’s so stressed 😂😂 don’t tell him about the risk of spiders or praying mantis hatching from the tree once you get it home 😂😂

[@winggy]

Omg that happened to my friend. Hundreds of mantises! Forever grossed out and finally converted to plastic trees 😂

[@philiciatucker402]

You're doing a great job! Your girls will grow up knowing just how much they're loved with all the memories you're creating 🫶🏻

[@feliciamesadieu6924]

loved this

[@chococrazd]

I think your girls would appreciate these videos. There comes a point in anyone’s life where they start to see their parents as actual people. Or when kids reach the age where their parents had them, it gives them a different perspective on who their parents are. So for them to be able to see your thoughts especially when you really thought about how this might affect them…they would understand. You express yourself truly so I hope this touches them.

[@user-su5sm2ql4o]

I love the traditions you’re building with your girls, especially waking up early on those drop off days. What beautiful memories you’re building with them 🫶❤️

[@takarasewitt530]

So relatable!

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you!

[@Deus_Star]

ty for sharing more of you Chriselle! Love being here to see the process!! ❤

[@scoopofrice]

So happy to see how far you’ve come! You’re a great mum and I love watching your vlogs and life updates🫶🏻🫶🏻💌💌

[@fifijen]

Love your sharing of these cozy family moments and new traditions. I'm sure they'll grow up and appreciate these precious memories with you. Happy holidays! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@cherietsays]

Your girls are going to appreciate these traditions as they grow up! And I swear grandparents are always willing to do more fun stuff 😂🫶🏼

[@valeriamicolta6237]

I’ve fantasized about having my own Christmas traditions when I have my family too. We really didn’t have any traditions and my dad was also absent, so ita been embedded in my head that I want something different for my kids. Listening to this made me feel less guilty about wanting different things for me when I grow up. Thank you for opening up 🫶🏾 and keep this sort of commentary content, I love it !

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you!

[@shelsgyal4305]

Such a precious video! Enjoy your holidays

[@ChriselleLim]

You too!

[@sandraonyoutube]

Your videos are relatable in so many different ways, they make me feel like everything will be alright, or even more than “alright”! I’d love to keep seeing your lifestyle content for a long time ahead 🫶

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you so much!!

[@themichelleali]

Chriselllleeeee 🫶🏼🫶🏼✨ absolutely live for this type of content! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on these topics/situations. 😘😘 def would love to see more of lifestyle content or travel tips ☺️💓💓

[@reesesbitesizepieces]

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. Your feelings growing up with immigrant parents and wanting what our classmates and what was socialized on media. It’s a beautiful memory making new traditions 🫶🏻

[@user-bk1eb4rd9r]

Hi, thank you so much for opening up and sharing such vulnerable moments with your audience. Also could you please let us know where your sparkling vest is from? Looks gorgeous!

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you for commenting! It's Prada

[@americaunited504]

As a business woman yourself, I'm sure you can see how Retailers use this time of year to over market their product. Gifting others materialistic worth is rather pathetic. Keep the connection to those you love year-round. A special gift that speaks directly to them, and the sporadic fun it brings, is really something that happens year-round. Good Going Mom!

[@cindytieu552]

Happy Holidays 🫶🏼🎄

[@peneloperivas9732]

Chriselle, your dad has amazing skin!!

[@kokoyxhuang]

Really happy to see your smile and it seems that in videos that you find your new balance, how cool it is ! You go through hard time and become more shiny ❤

[@DeniseRCruz]

Thank you for sharing your story and letting us in. 🤍

[@ChriselleLim]

Thanks for listening

[@lirrafaith]

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽 Love day in the life videos. What you eat in a day. Skincare too !

[@smelnation]

Would love a bathroom/kitchen/home tour 🫶

[@Littlestephy29]

I know exactly how you feel! I think the secret to good holidays is new memories with family and seeing the parents genuinely having fun with their kids, even if it’s not Christmas themed. That’s something my parents did not do

[@sp500-steph7]

your parents look so good and young 👋😍. Korean food for christmas coun't me in 😂🎉🎉

[@DeniseRCruz]

Can you please do videos on skincare and fashion? 🦋

[@Dreamsofglow]

I totally get the out of place feeling growing up as a POC. I’m Muslim so the holidays were always a fun time at school but we didn’t have that at home. It’s hard to feel festive during our own holidays because they’re not nationally recognized so you don’t have the time off or the fun decor. I hope to change that for my kids ❤🫶🏻 also I’d love to see more behind the scenes at Phlur, how the day to day is and how products are developed. That would be so cool!

[@Caaarooo_0]

I have said this so many times and i will continue to say it- you are the BEST MOTHER ever. Be proud of it!

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you thank you thank you! I realllllllly appreciate this. As mothers we tend to forget these things, so these little reminders mean everything.

[@rreze.h]

It’s giving ✨ Bella Hadid crying over not getting Louboutins until she graduated high school ✨

[@KahnJi]

❤

[@Freddyot]

Super mum, truly applaudable, so Beautiful to see the girls have a great mother who creates memories with them, amazing as I said truly applaudable, definitely enjoy seeing the journey as your documenting 👍🏾❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@euncielee]

i'm so basic...my favorite Japanese food is a toss up between oyako don or curry! lol... btw, it made me feel so selfish & spoiled hearing you say you never spend on nice things for yourself. that wallet was so cute & you deserve to treat yourself for all your hard work. 😊

[@ChriselleLim]

Hahaha thank you

[@Snuggles78]

My second time watching this vid and I love it 🫶🏿🫶🏼

[@ChriselleLim]

Thanks!!

[@thelazycareergirl]

This is so relatable 😭 I felt the same way growing up as Vietnamese American. You’re an incredible mom.

[@princessnerd7266]

Lol, my dear it’s not just you. It’s an Asian tradition to eat Asian food during thanksgiving. 😂

[@SojournBeaute]

I relate so much to having mixed feelings about the holidays. Having immigrant parents for sure shapes you differently and there’s a lot of layered experiences that we don’t always see represented :( Can we appreciate Chriselle for always keeping it real 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@ChriselleLim]

So Sweet!

[@Freddyot]

😮❤

[@richardc020]

So many dads feel for your dad (or maybe just me!?) as the stress to get it right is so high, aiya.

[@knck_]

being an immigrant is so weird, I used to celebrate holidays in my home country all the time with family, now I’m all alone celebrating nothing 🫶🏻 I love all your content chriselle, I’m not usually on KZbin but I really enjoy watching you talk about your life

[@me3wa]

You’re a great mom. Period. End of sentence. I fully understand the nuances of having immigrant parents and wanting to do more for your children. But whatever you do is enough because you love your daughters 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼. I would love to continue to see these honest, raw, real lifestyle and just about life videos.

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you!

[@reenopink]

Love the drop-off transition ritual/tradition!

[@ChriselleLim]

Me too, it took a bit but I'm so grateful for this with my girls!

[@tatianatakabayashi5968]

lol "it's about an 8"

[@JuJubJuJu]

Although I love the holidays, I always feel the familial obligation and it sometimes stresses me out . Love the personal perspective on things 🫶🏻

[@Sarahfromaustria]

I really enjoy watching your videos!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@lafresitafantastica]

Holidays are weird 🫶🫶🫶🫶

[@i123456987654]

lol they go caroling

[@maolor1603]

My Asian mom really put in an effort to make sure me and all my 10 siblings weren’t missing out so she will celebrate these holidays with us that she never grew up with. My dad didn’t care which I understand. I appreciate my mom sooo much and thankful for what she did

[@JamieLee-er6wv]

🫶🏼i enjoy watching your day to day, and also your ambition with work❤️

[@chisanainoris5364]

The holidays were nice until toxic in-laws ruin it.

[@mspyropanda86]

🫶🏻 You're an amazing mom

[@ChriselleLim]

Thank you!

[@jesseeec]

The thing we do every holiday season is watch home alone 1 and 2. It’s easy to maintain every year

[@LuvDoveAmore]

This is super relatable thank you for the quality of your content!

[@EverythingGracee]

I love how loving & caring you are of your two daughters and you set a really good example for them to look up to. You don’t impose your thoughts/opinions to your them. That’s super important because the words that parents use will affect the mindsets of their children. I think that’s how a lot of the kids get their fixed mindset from and it ultimately holds you back from being curious, trying/learning new things and exploring their own passions in life.

[@ChriselleLim]

You are so kind

[@mamawong08]

Be grateful for the life that you had with your family. It could have been a lot worse. What you say you were missing is all “first world problems”. Many people actually suffered abuse, trauma, abandonment, lack of food and nourishment. If you want to spoil your kids then just do it but don’t blame your parents for not having the “ideal” childhood you wanted to have. You ask your kids what they’re grateful for but you’re not grateful yourself! Btw your mom looks wayyy better than you, she’s naturally beautiful unlike all the work you got done on your face.

[@DeniseRCruz]

🫶🏼

[@shannonbaptist7755]

Love how open and honest you are 🫶🏽 - would love to see more get ready videos , show how your style has changed and keeps evolving

[@lindadodd3829]

Divorce makes one go wild for a time-- you are still processing. We lick wounds even if they've been properly buried forever. For me, anything to not properly fall apart and feel pain now. Pain over divorce. Act out, talk about what you end up talking about, but at the end of it, Jesus heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. I see you. You are loved.

[@sunspicious]

I wonder if your divorce was a blessing for the girls because if you hadn’t you might have been more inclined to hustle and bustle even harder thinking there’s your other half (husband) to fill a void

[@sunshineapplesanddogs]

🫶 I remember watching your dad help you move into your house and how he was with the girls and w you. Its just gotten sweeter.

[@ninayang9295]

I would love to see more videos of the behind the scenes of going to fashion week. 🫶

[@jillian1569]

I always love seeing "day in the life" type videos 🫶🏻

[@caiweifeng5500]

I like the Christmas decorations and the effort you put at your home. It’s lovely. For next videos, I would love to hear your plan for the holiday as well as how your relationship is with your ex now. Hope things are smoother with coparenting 😊🫶🏻

[@tramintaiwan873]

Love how much open and honest this vlog is 🫶🫶🏻🫶🏽. I love to see more fashion, styling video from you and how you overcome conflict in your current relationship, what u have learnt from the previous one that made this one better and how u did it differently

[@Wutanginamo]

Cracking up at “I wanted to kill myself” after doing Thanksgiving. I get that. I had traditional Thanksgiving for the most part growing up but now I find myself just wanting to eat Filipino food for Thanksgiving for some reason. I refuse to host Thanksgiving though lol unless we can just order food 🤣

[@ChriselleLim]

hahahahahah!

[@trueddalgi]

as a fellow asian american, i totally relate. 🫶 i was the one who created holiday traditions for our family FOR my younger siblings because our parents didn’t. i am actually happy i did because it made such a lovely part of our childhood. the only thing is that now that i’m a parent…i feel kind of lost trying to do it all over again for my baby lol…so you’re doing an amazing job and i think it means the world to your girls!!❤️❤️❤️🫶

[@InspiringAphrodite]

Over the past few years I’ve felt less and less joyful around Christmas. It’s definitely been weird for me and it’s also more stressful and emotional because my birthday is 5 days after so as I’ve gotten older it’s been harder to find a reason to be happy around this time of year. 🫶🫶🫶🫶

[@vidaschmitt7278]

🫶🏼 I appreciate your honest and true-to-life content.

[@Tequilafirst]

Can we see more videos of you spending time with your girls please if you allow? 🫶