Why Do I Want a Relationship?

[@theLunarDJ]

I didn't expect a bunch of normies to infiltrate and bully me, bro just go watch logan paul, don't you have better things to do 😂

[@realAdrianIacob]

Cope

[@Skaelya]

I knew there was a 4 Chan Vibe ! on another subject, hello, I am the virtue signaling women you talked about ! Except I'm not. My boyfriend is 5 foot 9 and I'm 5 foot 10, he's 115 lbs and I'm 165. He's, I guess, what you would call a manlet. I can easily carry him, I"m at least 1.5 times stronger than he is. And you know what ? I'm not a fan of sexe either, indeed way too much effort for way to little reward... when it comes to myself. but when it comes to him ? Seeing him happy is the best reward, he is adorable. Also note that I am infertile ! so clearly there's no "pasing on genes" in any way. so why am I in a relationship ? one great perks is that together we are stonger, it's not a reason just a perks. economical or psychological issues are easier to deal with when you have someone by your side. lonely night watching animes ar not that lonely and miserable when we do it together. Rent is expensive but divided by 2 it's ok, food is expensive but in bulk it's cheaper, two salaries is better than one, if you ever hurt yourself having someone generally close to you to call increases drastically your chances of survival. As for real reasons ? Because we have fun together I like to be with him, he is my best friend. we make puns, play videogames, cuddle... it just feels nice. We also go cycling together, sailing on the sea, hiking in the mountains. We also play chess, discuss physlosophical or scientific notions. We share things, he is a companion of mine. It"s a weird bound to explain. If something was to happen to him I would probably go crazy and do wome of the most stupid stuff. I care for him, for his happiness, just like he does for me. Love is not something you chose, it happens to you. Unlike in movies it's not like "you notice immediatly" rather it just happens, slowly, like a noise that slowly started and that you only come to notice when it has already been present for a while now. and I you don't notice it, it's probably when it stops that you would notice it. it's that kind of noise. It"s worth living, not worth actively looking for. let life guide you where it will guide you, there's no hurry, just do your own thing. EDIT : as for economical support he is a an embeded system engineer and I'm a naval architect. I let you look it up. basically we're equal on that. You should try to get too know more women, most don't expect you to bring back money home. And well as one internet shitty nerd to another, yup the women you're thinking about are some normies who live throught their purchase of cloth an makup that get interviewed by wanabee youtuber and that say, with their 5 available braincells, "I want a man to provide for me" yeah so that whenever anything goes wrong you can go broke with 0 work experience ? Anyway thanksfully most woment aren't like that.

[@BlackKnightYrre]

How did these people find your channel? I genuinely wonder how they get to this part of the Internet? Keep it up Lunar!!!

[@theLunarDJ]

@@BlackKnightYrre I think KZbin is putting my vids in the algorithm for whatever reason, maybe because I put hashtags in my description, I really don't understand how yt works tbh, the normie comments made me seethe until I realized it's free engagement so I'll take it lol. Noticed you have some interesting vids on your channel, I'll have to check them out

[@Skaelya]

@@theLunarDJ dude we are here on youtube watching your video and telling you how to think and live your life. we're just another flavor of frek-up. Doesn't change the fact we can like your ype of frek-up, you know ?

[@mrnolastname3953]

most people have relationships because having one brings you more status. We only have them because others can't.

[@mathewthecrow]

Bro needs to see sunlight

[@Skaelya]

4 chan doing wonders XD

[@Benjamin-ml7sv]

He's right and you know it

[@isilion]

He's right, relationships & most marriages nowdays, in our society, are _doomed_ to fail, that's inexorable

[@ANewDayYT]

Hes a good guy. Imma get him through this…

[@pipn9090]

What too much internet does to a MFer. At this point you need to take drastic measures to reconnect with humanity. Go hitchhike across mexico or something man, this is not how you should be acting. Very sad and alarming.

[@thunderhawk9880]

another bluepill cope just take a hike bro

[@tadghostal8769]

​@@thunderhawk9880gotta shower before and after

[@Benjamin-ml7sv]

I walk around the city almost every day, still BP asf

[@flynnmiddleton7102]

Really bad advice. How is a hike across Mexico gonna help him in any way?

[@sdasdgfdgd2931]

“I can‘t find a girl what should i do?“ “Go hitchhike across mexico“

[@somerandomyoutubeuser271]

i think the reason why so many normies here its because of the title. Its to mainstream. To all normies - Shoo!

[@Rey-vm9it]

why did youtube put a mirror infront of me.

[@jarbasedkarate-iy9is]

i can see we're both in a rough place dawg keep it going though, i know there's a lot of people rooting for you

[@comprehensivecomparison]

you’re completely right there are plenty of people rooting for the both of you i’m one of your nameless faceless supporters, remember to love yourself even when it’s hard work towards loving yourself and realize everybody deserves to have love in their life including you

[@theLunarDJ]

Appreciate y'all 🙏

[@ANewDayYT]

Im his biggest fan.

[@lama0344]

bro is answering this like the "Why do you need this job?"

[@theLunarDJ]

@@lama0344 fitting since dating feels like a job interview 😪

[@thunderhawk9880]

cause it is

[@ANewDayYT]

No its not dude… thats a horrible analogy.

[@joetomanek660]

Normies hate this guy brutal

[@IshvaraGodCazimi]

I'm loving your personality so far and your POV

[@taqial-faris6421]

I feel you, for me it's mostly the companionship that I crave. Someone to share with, someone to enjoy little things with.

[@theLunarDJ]

Me too man, me too.

[@santos-pink-867]

Heyy, as someone who wants a relationship rn I believe we both have some different experiences going on, but it's always cool to share our stories, so here goes mine (maybe we can learn from each other): Well, I also have some motives and reasons to want/need a relationship rn, them being: -I'm from Portugal and here the cost of living is getting higher and higher (costly and unaffordable homes, bad-paying jobs, expensive education, and much more); -I don't like to be alone at home, or feel alone, so yeah I do kinda need that care and attention from someone who loves me; -Because I'm more productive when trying to impress my crush/partner; -I feel the need to take care and Love someone, idk why, I simply enjoy giving lots of love; and that's kinda it- Sometimes love is also out of your control, you might not even need or want a relationship but simply fall in love with someone, even if you didn't necessarily go out of your way to find that person. What's MY position on this? (or what are my experiences?): I'm a 19-year-old guy, one that's kinda a twink (I'm bi, but I much prefer women) and I consider myself a Demisexual. So obviously there are some things that at first glance can make me think a woman would not want me (which is not quite true). Even tho I'm a twink, even tho I don't like sex that much, there are still plenty of women interested in me and who do consider me attractive. Doesn't matter who you are, there will always be tons of people interested in you, you might just not know. As the years kept on going, I found out some of the girls from my classes (or even friend groups) liked me, which I didn't know AT ALL. Now, as I am more social, my friends always tell me when someone in the group likes me, so it's way easier to tell now. 4:06 - I MEAN THIS: probably a bunch of girls find you attractive, you just don't know yet. I had some "experiences" and "situation-ships", in which I learned that some women do find me, an asexual twink, attractive (they liked me for who I was, as simple as that). So, no matter who you are, there will be someone who likes you the way you like to be, no need to change yourself for anybody. In my case, I was definitely not expecting that. It's still a bit of a shock to me because I thought differently all these years. Well, even tho they found me attractive it didn't work out. Some were always playing games, some turned out to not be who I thought they were, and one had BPD which is really hard to deal with in a relationship. So... at 19yo I'm still a "relationship noob", and I still never had a girlfriend (and trust me, I did suffer tons with some of those failed romances haha). But with this, I also learned that Dating, or finding a Relationship is not necessarily an achievable goal. It's something that just happens. I know it's cliché but just work on yourself (be yourself, find purpose, objectives) and great people will eventually come, and if they don't at least now you'll probably feel better with who you are on your own. Also - 7:20 - There is true love, i just think you don't know what it means yet haha xP BUT this doesn't mean you should stay put and not look for it. In case you want to search for love you can do a bunch of things like find groups of people, find something you like to do and try to meet people who like it too (it can be a lot of things: chess club, library, metal shows, arcades, archery, you choose). Or/and you can also use dating apps (learn how to talk to girls and learn how to go on a date). There is not a "recipe"... it kinda just happens. PS: at our age, even yours it's really hard to find someone willing to enter a relationship and go for long term, it's not impossible at all, just hard. That's why it doesn't work out, either with chads or with twinks. The ages you can date also increase as you get older. The dating "Range" gets bigger as age doesn't make such a difference there. Plus: If you treat a girl you like as a friend she'll make you one. And if you give her something only a boyfriend should give, while y'all are not in a relationship you'll also be stuck in a "situation-ship" (it's like you are "giving boyfriend" for free, without need for commitment). I recommend you watch - "the truth about the friendzone." by niko - to further understand my point. I also recommend watching - "Getting a Girlfriend is NOT an Achievable Goal" by HealthyGamerGG. you also NEED to STOP being such a doomer haha xD

[@Sizifus]

Here's one more thing. Even if you can provide all of that to a woman: promise her financial stability, adventures, travel, want to provide her with everything for self improvement, dreams, house, kids, whatever, be 6 foot, have packing above 6 inches, be attractive, funny, have a good vibe, despite all of that, if she doesn't feel the same "energy", whatever that supposed to mean, all of it becomes null and void. Just don't think about it, look for things that fulfills you, unanswered love is a poison that kills our souls, find ways for it to not leak through the cracks. Someone can come in your life when you least expect it, accept the possibility that it can both happen and not happen and try live life as best as you can.

[@Benjamin-ml7sv]

Nowadays women are desensitized from all the Tinder and SM, they see all these chads that can provide them all the things they want daily on their phones, they think this is the norm, they think every man is like that, so when they see a man IRL that can provide this for them, they just think that it's the norm and that they are entitled to something even greater than that

[@KatAdVictoriam]

Two cents (or 10) in response to your thoughtful video here. 1. If you're not part of a religion that emphasizes marriage as sacred and you're antinatalist, then marriage makes no sense. I'd say that there is absolutely no point. No incentive in any way, especially in current society and economy. As a married person (16 years going) the fact we have kids and work towards the same goals are our glue/ foundation. No kids could have realistically changed that. But there is that team dynamic. It can be business like sometimes and has to be. If that's not part of the equation I think marriage is without merit these days. 2. Women can say they're looking for a 100 traits in someone but ultimately they want someone that makes them feel secure (being provided for/emotional support but you simultaneously are expected to be stoic so they'll respect you). 3. Women will say they want and need certain things in general but what Women say and what they mean can be paradoxical. Why? They are conditioned to be nice and socially liked at all costs. So when a woman says she wants the nice guy, she still wants the guy who will tell her no and be the decisive one. Develop that muscle and don't be 'intimidated into not flexing it if you go into a relationship someday. Lastly, life is about risk and struggle. Experience. Growth and learning. Putting oneself in the vulnerable position of a relationship will test the limits of your comfort zone and often help you understand what you are willing to sacrifice for. My teenaged son has already been crushed and he was down for months but bounced back. You can't let it (getting wounded) stop you if its something you want in life. Though it's obvious why so many don't want to try at all. I get it. Ok I'm done popping up with long comments.

[@massculini]

Just be chad bro 😂

[@heatmiser2002]

I simply want to love and to be loved.

[@No___Name]

the rick and morty pill is the most brutal pill 😂😂😂

[@SergeyThemisov]

Why do i feel taste of soy?

[@theLunarDJ]

maybe you've been eating or drinking it? Nothing wrong with that!

[@ANewDayYT]

If thats you in the PFP you can not be talking at all. Your like if ethanisonline put on 30 LBS and a scruffy unkept beard.

[@theLunarDJ]

​@@ANewDayYTit's frank hassle lmao. Says all I need to know about the guy.

[@haydenbrewer4128]

I'm going to have to agree 💯

[@tandem863]

This game looks SICK

[@SullyDunn]

I do think nobody will understand you but yourself, I think that’s most likely the key to finding love. Knowing yourself, she’ll find you once you do. It is hard being a man in this world. Mainly because of finance that’s the thing holding a lot of good men back, including myself. Just a hypothesis

[@thatwasntacatnip]

Regardless how much I can relate to your situation, here is when bs begins 4:37. How can you be so sure about your potential of being a good partner? You sure you know what women generally or specifically want from men?

[@thunderhawk9880]

attractiveness ..end.

[@ANewDayYT]

I agree.

[@SuperBetaBuxbros.]

lol at the normies in the comments

[@joetomanek660]

Just get a hobby bro, have you found the lord yet?

[@morganorlins3799]

It sounds like you've never been in a relationship. It's not about "passing down genes", its about loving one another.

[@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286]

It's explicitly about passing down genes.

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286 reproduction is about passing down genes, being in a relationship is about things including but not limited to supporting each other, spending time together and having someone to communicate openly and honestly with, dont forget a friendship is a type of relationship which just has less commitment, if you find someone truly special you just wont want anybody else to love, not all asexual people are aromantic and they do perfectly fine without even having sex

[@mrnolastname3953]

love isn't real, cry about it

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@@mrnolastname3953 you sound to be in pain, don’t you love your parents?

[@mrnolastname3953]

​@@comprehensivecomparison I appreciate what good they've done but no not really only because I don't experience that kind of feeling and can't truly understand it

[@DanBob-g5j]

Being in a relationship is a crucial step in making you more capable and confident as a person. You need to learn how to provide a good life become mentally strong enough to look after your partner emotionally and be understanding of others opinions and feelings. Being in a relationship is a good test to improve yourself and learn. Yes it tough and yes on face value it may seem pointless in your eyes. However sometimes in life you can’t just take the easy path every time. Life is tough and being able to grow and learn is crucial to have a meaningful and enjoyable life. Being able to wake up and know you have people that depend on you is the best motivation. To summarise: Being in a relationship is one of the best things you can do to improve and learn as a person. It will help you become more stress tolerant and give your life a meaning. It will also help you become less selfish and more willing to making sacrifices. Making you a more loyal and committed person. Any relationship is worth the effort whether it’s a partner or family. So don’t forget life is tough you can hide and avoid things and stay the same or you can learn and grow and trust me the more you learn and grow the more you will enjoy, The is is just my opinion if you don’t agree that’s more than fine BTW

[@redactedcanceledcensored6890]

The "I need a relationship to improve myself and to make sacrifices" mentality leads to abusive relatioships. But at least you're reasoning, instead of shaming and claiming authority like most people, good!

[@ANewDayYT]

Love how the summary was as long as the initial post, also what a load of garbage. You become good before a relationship, not during or after.

[@cursedbythedevil8171]

Humans need other humans to bond, to build connections. U wanna share the expierience "Life as a human being". This shit should stay privat cuz ur gonna grow and retrospectivly ur gonna thing different about life. Talk to people who are close to u, or u gonna loose the chance of a happy life.

[@ilf5788]

Dude please PLEASE get off 4-chan like genuinly, im not being rude, im not being horrible, genuinly that is tbe best thing for you. Go outside isnt a insult anymore its genuine advice

[@BlackKnightYrre]

There's not many places to go to. Most people in our situation are ignored or shunned. Besides there are not many third places to go to and most people there just want to hang out with there existing social circle rather than us social rejects.

[@blackman7437]

@@BlackKnightYrre There's an insanely high amount of places to go out and meet people if you're not lazy and take the barest minimum amount of effort to actually look for them.

[@BlackKnightYrre]

@@blackman7437 Sure they exist but men in our situation aren't liked by most people so we have a narrower pool of places to go to that will actually accept us.

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

@@blackman7437 it takes high effort to not get arrested. u dont get it.

[@ANewDayYT]

He does.

[@RoterDrache35]

Crazy, I think so the same

[@cursedbythedevil8171]

Man what are u doing? This should stay private.. U should talk with friends and youre family about this.. Humans need conections and bonds with other humans. Ure getting depressed and suicidal without companion. Its kinda hard to get through this expierience "Life as a human being" alone.

[@thunderhawk9880]

i like how came to HIS youtube channel to tell him to shutup

[@ephemeralbro]

​@@thunderhawk9880his KZbin channel that's public for everyone to see 🙄

[@ANewDayYT]

If he had people he was close enough to discuss these topics with he would be. He doesn’t want anyone to worry, good advice though.

[@ANewDayYT]

@@thunderhawk9880i dont care what comments its under, good advice is good advice buddy boyo.

[@henrimalmstrom9958]

Bro has not found himself.

[@christiannoriega428]

I think you're just overthinking it. Relationships are essentially just friendships that take the next step as well as the added factor of attraction. If you are good with having friends, a relationship just fills a deeper whole that friendship does. Society has added all these other false expectations of love, especially in movies. This is probably the best way to actually visualize it. I think the fact that you somehow still want one and think about it all day shows that the whole wants to be filled. I think that's motivation enough to try for it. Also, if you think about it, almost anything you feel is just a chemical reaction in the body. It's best just to go along with it rather than disassociate with all your senses and emotions.

[@ANewDayYT]

Disgusting opinion, revolting.

[@christiannoriega428]

@@ANewDayYT Why?

[@nolader28]

based blackpill lmao do your own thing and stay strong trooper :)

[@panwu6602]

Go out more, start working out, start some project you could focus on. This is not healthy.

[@defeatisfinal]

So many normies in this comment section

[@Doomsman-VII]

1: Why did KZbin recommend this video to me?? 2: Literally me. I have to completely agree with you on every single statement lol

[@comprehensivecomparison]

dont be an incel bro you’ll find a good person one day if you think you’re too bad of a person to love look at the people who are in happy relationships (they’re not always great people either) and just remember you’re not any less of a person for communicating openly and honestly with someone else or especially yourself nor are you any less of a man

[@SuperBetaBuxbros.]

@@comprehensivecomparison no he wont

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@@SuperBetaBuxbros. if you genuinely believe that then you likely have problems too and i feel sorry for you and hope you can overcome them

[@blackman7437]

@@comprehensivecomparison "you think you’re too bad of a person to love look at the people who are in happy relationships" All you're telling me is that I'm objectively less loveable than abusers in relationships, because at least they found someone willing to love them,

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@@blackman7437 i’m saying you’re objectively lacking perspective, i’m trying to provide that perspective by saying even people who clearly arent in love find people who love them, you can find someone who loves you, it’s okay to not want gorlock the destroyer but as long as you don’t expect a hello kitty goth cat girl who plays all your favorite games weighs 110 pounds and bows to your every command you’ll be fine, the only thing wrong with you is your mindset, it’s objectively harmful to yourself to view relationships as a sort of competitive league where you only can’t find one bc you have an “epic skill issue” when it’s more like fishing with a net, you cast a net, pull it back, get something you like you hold onto it, lose your prized fish oh well shit happens at least you got to have your moment

[@MerlossLP]

gotta say if u talk to another person like u do in this video u wouldn't be a good partner. like yea a partner who sees a relationship as a transaction would be so good hahaha

[@hyowokatzamuaio5246]

There is a huge misconception what real love is and what having a crush is. Just one of them is a hormone based reaction of the body. The other one is a decision you make to any person you are willing to be there for and accept their flaws. That could be a friend, family member or a parnter for example. Having a partner that justs wants to be fully provided for without giving the same into the relationship is just unhealthy. But you can't just generalize people and then say relationships suck. Of course they do if your partner is just the way you think they all are. Having a parnter that is there for you and you are there for that partner is difficult to find. But it will show you, that there is much more to a relationship than sex and children.

[@IshvaraGodCazimi]

The NPCs in your comments :/ oh well at least it drives up interaction and views lul... If U had 1k subs or whatever they lowered to plus 1k or more views u could make some extra cash lul

[@humanplace1962]

4:49 ai bro take that back, I do undertand the 'not wanting a relationship because we are programmed to reproduce' but don't say there is nobody on eath. First off all you always have yourself (from the first seconds you became aware until the last seconds of your life), second of all you will find a girl who has the same brain frequenty as you (and we are not talking spirutally but we are talking about mindset, philosphie, look on life, opnion on science or religions etc etc etc) there are people who are very similar to you. But then also you don't need someone who is very similar, as in; a relationship is the highest form of friendship. Which to me means, you want to go through life with this person, and there will always be parts in a human you just gotta accept and that is also what kind of defines 'love'. But I feel like u don't really get out there and talk to strangers otherwise you would see how commenly most people are, we are all kind of the same and yet so diffrent. Also the haters are kind of right, I feel like u gotta go out there and meet people, they just hating cuz they haters but fr u gotta go outside man.. and realise life is not black and white

[@theLunarDJ]

The haters are not right lmao, I have lost so many braincells reading some of the shit people have said here

[@humanplace1962]

@@theLunarDJ Well but their advice is based on the fact that you come over as this person who does not go out a lot and who does not seek new relationships (all kinds of relationships). And yeah some are just rude because they are frustrated themselfs. It's easier to project then to accept or reflect

[@theLunarDJ]

@@humanplace1962 exactly, they know nothing about me. They don't know how much I get out. They literally formed their entire perception of me based on a single video, I guarantee you none of them have watched any of my other videos. I have probably done more with my life than the vast majority of the people here claiming to know better than me.

[@Benjamin-ml7sv]

I think you are just coping bro. It's ok tho, coping is healthy and natrual, we all cope otherwise we would commit swereslide

[@fellowgamer5363]

You gotta reconnect man go and find the lord or something this aint it

[@NightDriver1999]

Cringe blackpill 👎

[@marabus6776]

How can you talk about reasons for getting into a relationship and never mention love even once? Like didnt it cross your mind even once? Relationships arent about "what can I get out of this". Its just about being together with someone you love. Comparing the benefits and the negatives of a relationship is pretty egoistic if you ask me. You say something like you "NEED" to throw yourself infront of the bullet like its something bad. Id die for my girlfriend anyday because I love her so much and she loves me. And Im not rich or jacked Im actually a fucking twink. I dont talk with many women shes like the only girl I ever talked to. Like when I met her I didnt think about what can I get out of it I just knew I wanted to be with her. I was like you too once I sat at home the whole day and was on discord and it literally just took a bit of luck to find a girl and I didnt even write her first she did and we just got along and met up after a few months and I told her I love her and want to be with her. I too thought Id never find someone but I guess its just luck. The chance of meeting someone you love is low if you talk to people but if you talk to noone it will stay zero. So just keep trying its worth it.

[@theLunarDJ]

Can you define love for me in a way that doesn't include anything I mentioned here or is it just an ethereal undefinable thing to you?

[@devd_rx]

​@@theLunarDJlove is a man made concept and they wont believe it, you just dont fucking "love" someone, unconditional love is sacrificing yourself for no reason other than to keep the bond between u and her and that's exactly why relationships these days are worth less and less.

[@getsturdy]

That sounds really incelly

[@theLunarDJ]

@@getsturdy I guess you're new here 😂

[@theinternetdebateman3437]

Seems like you’ve found your place then

[@getsturdy]

@@theinternetdebateman3437 yeah sure bud

[@ANewDayYT]

You listen to drill… your not fooling anyone

[@getsturdy]

@@ANewDayYT get a grip buddy

[@IshvaraGodCazimi]

I can hear myself in you sort of.. Another [somewhat ] different me xD ... Also I wish I was more asexual xD

[@bartekpredota2943]

Bro, what's that with "what does it tell you, when a woman likes you - she thinks your genes are worthy of passing on". Do you have any female friends? Do you actually think women think that way?? Wtaf Edit: Ok I watched the rest and it's just sad 😐 Man, it's not game over, but it'll be if you don't change the way you think about women. You say you see them as equals yet you describe them as mindless and materialistic. Is either this or that.

[@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286]

That's not what they think they are thinking, but it's why they think what they think when they think that.

[@theLunarDJ]

@@bartekpredota2943 I don't think they're mindless I think it's just encoded in them to act the same as one another for survival reasons, and yeah they're materialistic but that doesn't make them inferior, men are transactional as well in terms of wanting sex so idk what the contention is there

[@arandomtechpriest5492]

Dude i wanna give you a hug. Loving intamacy is simply brilliant and kids are one of the best things in the world. Love is love, not a math problem. Please talk to a professional if you feel so nihilistic and unloved. On your point about providing, youre not a wala relationship is a partnership where you both work together you are viewing everything qs a transavtional deal rather than a pattnership

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

love is just chemicals in the brain. which can be explained by math

[@ANewDayYT]

Im the professional.

[@MacronLacrom]

A tip: Just make woman think *other* women want you.. When you talk to a woman she has already talked to 20 of her best friends about you. You can't single out a woman, get to know her and you can then eventually be with you. When you get with one woman, you're going to get relayed to 20 women for harsh emotional powered judging. Be a shotgun and impress multiple women at once, and show experience to padd up your social points. Like you said in the video; there's no such thing as love or "the one"... so you got to be "valuable" and experienced so women will select you.

[@comprehensivecomparison]

you shouldnt be out seeking a relationship, but you also shouldnt be afraid of getting into one, if you’re seeking someone to love you’re likely seeking someone to love you and that usually stems from not loving yourself enough, it’s okay to love someone that you find very similar to you and you have to make some sacrifices in a relationship and your partner will make sacrifices for you, i got into a relationship recently after very very much not wanting to be in one, but at a certain point when you meet the right person who’s actually genuine and you can just get along with you’ll feel something in your heart that tells you to be closer with them, “it’s never gonna happen for me, nobody will ever want me” are thoughts i’ve had about a million times, for about a million different reasons, hell i still tell myself that my partner could find someone much better than me but they let me know through their actions and not just their words that they dont desire someone better than me, yes, you’re also correct in saying love is a chemical reaction, like pickle rick from rick and morty, but that doesnt make love not real, the feelings, the sacrifice, the passion is all real, happiness is a chemical reaction, sadness is a chemical reaction, your life is a chemical reaction you are a chemical reaction and so is most everything else that occurs within your brain and body, love isnt just about someone telling you you’re worth a shit, it’s about having someone who you think is just perfect and someone who feels the same way about you, it’s about making sacrifices, being there for each other through thick and thin, supporting each other when it’s most needed, spending time together, generally enjoying each other’s company it’s just not as transactional as you make it out to be in your mind and i get exactly where it’s coming from truly i do and i’ve been in the same place countless times but at a certain point you need to stop being so scared to live life and just do some shit, if you find someone who treats you well and who you think is a good person who’s beliefs align with yours and who shares your same philosophy dont be scared of getting left or having to pay for everything or this and that it’s 2024 dude, find what you want in a partner, talk to each other, for the love of god just talk to each other! ask how they feel about not having kids ask how they feel about not being in a TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIP where the woman is a housewife to a child and the man does “all the work” ask them how they feel about ever-looming futility of human life and how they cope with that, ask them how they feel about the joker when he said “we live in a society” and if he was based or cringe, you will talk and be open with the person you love and they will talk and be open and receptive with you the same way you should be with them in a relationship, all girls arent the same the way all snowflakes arent the same, sure you could look like the same old basic snowflake, with some very minor changes, drawn a million times before, but the closer you look the more details arent the same, and someone will see them as unique, find someone unique, find someone that speaks to your heart, and dont jump head first into a relationship as soon as a woman tells you your shirt looks nice, and you’ll be perfectly fine, do NOT take the black pilled incel approach and assume everybody is the same and even if they werent it wouldnt matter because you’re not 6’7 and in the nba no reasonable person genuinely expects that much from you and one day you’ll discover that unless you project your self hate and pity out onto others. TL;DR dont be an incel find someone who you like and communicate with them and listen to them and you’ll be fine, don’t denounce dating and don’t seek it like it’s all there is to life

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@meisme20 i left a tl;dr at the bottom, it’s meant to help anybody with the same philosophy so if you feel the same way and dont care to read i’m very sorry and i hope you find happiness and love within yourself

[@comprehensivecomparison]

@meisme20 well i waste my time on purpose hoping someone who needs it might, you dont need it so you didnt

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

no. men as a whole should discard this false invention thats called a love. it never existed just a hoax perpetrated by the government to keep distract working class men from real issues like bad economy and male inequality. that random single mother who is leeching off from welfare, that unemployed chad who leeches off from a welfare. ur money is involved in that. oh and if u refuse to pay tax then 3 letter agency will visit you. the chads and females go get their fun with ur money while u work 10 hour a day as a single man in ur 30s and wondering where it went wrong. ur only choice of intimacy is a pron that chads produced. this is why average men need to rise up and overthrow this tyranny.

[@defeatisfinal]

Holy shit you are a normie

[@Bingussi]

The reasons you listed of why people get into relationships would be true.. a long time ago. Getting a child is a lot of peoples goals, but it is nowhere close to as many as before. But what people want the most without realizing it or not, is connection. We live in times where that has become incredibly hard. I felt the way you did for a while, i was incredibly angry and bitter, still kinda am. I considered myself an antinatalist too. But that doesn't help. So i decide to try and remember that things can work out for me too, i am good enough for someone else. And i don't need someone else to feel valuable. That of course took a very long time to see. What i recommend you do is to try and spend less time on the internet, especially instagram and tiktok, any algorithm that feeds you these "alpha/beta/sigma male redpill" type things. It's partly true that the "chads" get the women, but that's not only because of their appearance, it's because they have confidence, and that's what you need to get. I'm slowly getting it over the years and so can you.

[@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286]

I generally agree with what you've said and it's why I don't even date. I'm not an anti-natalist though. Humanity is the best thing that the universe has created so far. We're not perfect, but there is nothing else that compares. The real reason I think that you, I, and so many others feel such despair is that the modern world is designed in an inhuman, alienating manner. Maybe it's because of industrialization, or liberalism, or whatever. However you slice it, humans weren't meant to live the way we do today.

[@theLunarDJ]

@@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286 well said. It's true humanity is the most complex thing in the known universe, perhaps it should be preserved, but I personally don't want to have kids

[@Rubensky44]

Bro doesn't know what love is 😭

[@IshvaraGodCazimi]

Maybe what u truly desire is a good male friendship? I'm willing to try xD

[@Rubensky44]

Bro doesn't know what love is 😭