To Anyone Trying To Find Love

[@verified_pig]

I didn't mind being single for a while but when this "while" turned into ages I started feeling absolutely desperate...

[@sherkan_n]

yea, it's sucks..

[@cAVEmAn69427]

7 years and counting... kzbin.info/www/bejne/q2XRlKljlNabisU

[@remiliascarlet386]

Hey, thought I'd ask what stuff you enjoy? It's usually people like you that have the coolest interests. (I've learnt that from the select few friends I have ha ha) I personally have had 3 relationships where I've genuinely been good, and everytime it ends, it's because "they found someone else" Eitherway, if you wanna ever just talk, I'll be happy too help. And of course, wish the best of luck! (sorry it's 3 months late, I only just found this video, and nice username lol)

[@KaylonJoaseus]

Yes I feel the same but eventually we'll find love one day .

[@ricobbx611]

my last relationship was 11 years ago and since then i cant date no one its fucked

[@tonybp]

When I turned 35 I decided I was no longer going to chase love. I was always being rejected and I thought I was forcing it and that it was a waste of time, money and energy. I remained hopeful that not forcing it was the solution. It wasn't. I'm 48 now and I've never known love. Right now I'm getting used to the idea that I will never find someone, never have a family of my own and will die alone. I try to enjoy life on my own but it's hard sometimes, it doesn't get easier, at least not for me. I find it astounding how easy it is for so many people to find somebody, if it doesn't work out it's on to the next partner, just like that. It must feel great to be loved and wanted.

[@tonybp]

@jessicaj9743Thank you for your kind words.

[@josephhein9497]

I totally understand this experience. I turn 40 in a couple of weeks and am facing this reality myself. I've never been married. Real life is so much more coarse than the movies. We're not all destined to find someone to be with. At times it can be infuriating, disheartening, and lonely, but it is reality and we both need to learn to find peace in it.

[@tonybp]

@@josephhein9497 Thanks for sharing. All the best, brother.

[@ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ_9]

@@josephhein9497This is very limiting beliefs. We all can find romantic love!!

[@elir6149]

Thanks a lot for your good message.@jessicaj9743

[@fabmgff]

I hate the "you need to love yourself first" I DO. I know who I am, I love myself, I feel like I'm one of the most loving persons I know, LOVING MYSELF NEVER HELPED

[@SR77736]

Right bc I know many ppl in relationships that don't love themselves or their partner. They just got lucky

[@fabmgff]

@@SR77736 EXACTLY

[@Jinsukesaze]

It has the same energy as "you don't need money to be happy"

[@SasafenViko]

Loving yourself isn’t an alternative or a replacement for an actual really life partner. According to how I see it what it means is even if the whole world doesn’t give me love I won’t stop doing the things that matter most to me. Cause in the end you’d better die knowing you gave it your all in everything not just love cause not finding love isn’t the only regret on can have. But why it hurts so much is cause love is the only thing that gives one hope to live so I pray you’ll find love.

[@fabmgff]

@@SasafenViko thank you that’s really beautiful. I hope you also find love😭💓

[@jezzgamezz1320]

Looking for a partner that shares the same/similar value as you is not shallow at all. I think that's a really important thing.

[@geovoniejohnson4853]

My truth is as multiple times I've been rejected, ghosted and lied to by girls, no real good women ever existed, just the shallow, greedy, selfish ones. Most of my family has been in relationships and marriages, except me. I tried at the time to get to know girls, and all they do is lie again, ignore, reject and ghost me. That's why I always feel ugly, invisible and empty inside everyday, every week, every month and every year. All this is why I gave up because it's like pulling teeth.

[@DebbieSanchez-wl2wm]

Yes and someone who's really honest and ready to love you back

[@herethere5637]

​@@DebbieSanchez-wl2wmmost people are miserable, they would only project their misery onto you

[@Frizzstroyer71]

Yes it's very important I agree, however you can have a relationship with differing values, as long as there's a mutual respect for eachothers opinion

[@YoriichiTsugikuni-o6p]

But will I ever find just a cute plain girl with whom I won't have to wear a mask of someone I am not? Someone who will genuinely care for me? I don't care for s** or any adultery I just want someone to hold hands with, laugh with

[@Mountains4ever]

I always hated that “you need to love yourself first and then someone will love you” stuff. I WANT a wife. I WANT to be married someday. Sue me. I know who I am and what I want in life.

[@catwomen3066]

​@jessicaj9743With all respect to the God who created us physically and spiritually, why did he create us if he wanted us to be alone? According to your Bible, Adam and Eve were in a relationship, he created them to have children. Secondly, today there are different people and everyone wants to have someone by their side who can hug them and talk to someone, I don't know how God influences the person himself, I've never experienced it, to say I only want God, maybe you are misunderstanding it all and you need to find maybe people that God works through them, maybe it is that some have felt God's love, but so far I have only been through people 💁‍♀️ everyone needs passion, love, understanding to have real talk and not talking with myself I mean with GOD, I think human brains are soo much more than we are we don’t know what kind of tricks our brain play with us 💁‍♀️

[@MiaCarter7]

@jessicaj9743God is love

[@kartikverma8389]

​@@xariixiii hope you're doing better now

[@xariixii]

@@kartikverma8389 I’m a lot better, thank you 🫶

[@Lavendeer201]

​@jessicaj9743that's not how God works

[@YasierSerranoCordova-py5ty]

I feel horrible ive never been in a relationship idk what im doing wrong im tired of seeing all my friends in relationship and me just sitting in a corner alone.

[@kendallbr9166]

True, I feel bad just seem random couples, this got me depressed bad 😔

[@jayannlindayao5516]

We have the same situations Bro

[@chainz7006]

i feel the same way my man

[@valleyofthedolls]

25 and same

[@Miacappello-g4k]

I am in that corner too😎😎😎😎😎

[@BarbaraJStanley-z2t]

The pain in my heart is unbearable, my husband leaving our marriage have put a ton in my heart, I have been telling myself am strong enough but am not sure I am, I haven’t been able to get him of my mind, I just want him back.

[@MichelleFuqua-d4u]

This is a very familiar pain. I know how unbearable it feels.

[@BarbaraJStanley-z2t]

Did you go through similar situation and how did you deal with it?

[@MichelleFuqua-d4u]

Yes I did but I got my partner back with the help of a spiritual Counsellor Father Akabu. He has a gift for restoring broken relationships.

[@BarbaraJStanley-z2t]

Do you think he can help me?

[@MichelleFuqua-d4u]

I’m sure he can. You can find him online he’s a very powerful spiritualist.

[@itsifaa9835]

i feel like you can love yourself abundantly but still want someone in your corner it’s just human nature

[@FearNvl]

So sad that all of us are here single and lonely 😢.

[@Anchalthakur7125]

Let's date

[@Under_Sky_Third_Gaia]

​@Anchalthakur7125 maybe we could date?

[@doyouevennaturebro4593]

@@Anchalthakur7125I’m 40 and live in the US. What about you?

[@Anchalthakur7125]

@@doyouevennaturebro4593 I'm 23 and live in Bharat (India)

[@arohisonyalkar248]

Me too I am just so much done now way single from too long 😞

[@yasminebelghith6741]

Ever see how it's always the ones in happy relationships that tell you that love will happen to you , and that you should love yourself first before finding someone to love you. Ironically most of them are average people with good luck, who didn't love themselves before meeting their partner. There is no recipe, no instructions, no manual to finding love. However these same people will pretend to know the "real " way to find love, which let's be honest here, isn't necessarily true.

[@unicronprimus7450]

I agree with you. I have known someone who did not love themselves and was broken, yet they have met their partner. But you see, that is the thing. I am a Christian. I do actually believe that part of it is because finding love is a calling. A calling to commit and to test your patience (or teach a lesson to make you holy or a better person and for them, this is "joy"). You may term it like "good luck", but you see, I think the more righteous and not broken you are, the more likely you are already enough of your own. As a single man (who already experienced a 7-year long relationship), I think we just downplay our maximum capabilities that we could actually be single and happy enough of our own, that is why it pains a lot. I saw myself as someone who loves too much and becomes so toxic for my own good whenever I am in a relationship (hence it is why they always keep on saying love yourself first before committing). Perhaps I am going against the call. Furthermore, it is because those broken people would find their "wholeness" if they got to meet their partner (because having and being in a relationship would surely teach them a very very hard lesson, and this is coming from me who was broken when I have found my former girlfriend, and have also known former best friends who got married).

[@cathylin1333]

Love never comes when you sit at home and just wait. Being single is tiring, we have to go out and meet people as much as possible. Go on dates to see if things will work out, keep trying trying trying. It’s been my life for 3 years. I don’t understand why people can just do nothing and love just appear? lol All my luck goes to my career😂 0 luck in love life

[@projectashe2593]

Finally someone said it. I’m tired of people giving life lessons when they just got lucky and don’t know how hard and lonely it is when you’ve never been loved while they’ve had several relationships and think they’ve got everything figured out.

[@officialtbhoops]

Exactly. It’s entirely luck. Play the odds. Meet as many people as possible. The odds of meeting a person who is compatible with you go up dramatically the more you meet people.

[@SuperSallySteak]

​@cathylin1333 funny you say go on dates. People dknt even acknowledge my presence or give me a chance. No friends, no relationship, no where to meet people. Dating apps are horrible. Prob gonna kill myself

[@YouTubeGalPal]

Finding love is like winning the lottery. You either get lucky or not. Case closed.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

People make it that way when it doesn't have to be.

[@alejandrop.s.3942]

Then why most people get it, or at least a good enough relationship, whereas we, chronically single people, don't ever get a taste of that? Nah, it's not lottery, sth is definetely wrong with us.

[@jayannlindayao5516]

Very well said

[@nobodysinceforever]

😭💔

[@Cristian_47_95]

@@alejandrop.s.3942imagine a lottery where 9 out of 10 people win. This means 1 lottery player lost, so everyone that is alone and never experience love is the player that lost, even if the chance of winning was 90% and losing was 10%

[@calebbilodeau8472]

“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” ― Rumi "You have within you more love than you could ever understand.” - Rumi

[@DebbieSanchez-wl2wm]

It's really hard finding someone who really loves you for who you are this days

[@AspieGamer1986]

​@jazzyj2182nobody gives a flying fuck about your Bible scripture. As an ex-Christian I'd prefer it if you kindly keep it to yourself. Deal with it. No one care.

[@K.E.A.9.4.]

@@DebbieSanchez-wl2wmbull****

[@Young4eva121]

@@DebbieSanchez-wl2wm Even in the past generations too. A lot of my aunts and uncles didn’t have their first relationships until their 30s because they weren’t loved for who they were :( I’m happy they’re happy at the moment

[@guitarsoundsaround]

❤️

[@rolloxra670]

I once heard the phrase “Love is like ghosts, everyone talks about it, but very few have seen it” and it’s so true, very few have the luck to find a good partner and not to talk about being in love with someone which mostly of the times is like a curse cause mostly of the times it won’t be reciprocated.

[@SasafenViko]

I’ve read some of the comments and it pains to see how much people are hurting. And most aren’t asking for much but everyone just wants love in their life. But since we all want love and Love isn’t a person but an emotion felt from other humans the least one can do is make a friend off this comment section and if it grows to something more the better. But let’s cheer up one another. Don’t give up on love nor life.

[@freecss9330]

Thx man 🙏 single as always

[@SasafenViko]

@@freecss9330 you’re welcome and don’t lose hope. Hope you’re doing okay and having a good day.

[@freecss9330]

@@SasafenViko you too!

[@Sleepizgudd]

Nice. 🎉

[@SasafenViko]

@@Sleepizgudd How are you doing? Hope you’re doing okay and this message finds you well.

[@kirkwhite1736]

I'm 50, I've tried finding a long term relationship for 35 years, failed.

[@SasafenViko]

Sorry about that it sadness me to read this but seen you in this account shows you haven’t given up. Stay strong hope you find love in this life.

[@clarizzafray]

that must be hard 😢. i hope you can still find one, a love, a romantic love.

[@kirkwhite1736]

@@SasafenViko No I have given up. I am just angry that I wasted too much time and painful moments on finding love.

[@kirkwhite1736]

@@clarizzafray No I think are way better things to hope for than me finding love.

[@clarizzafray]

@@kirkwhite1736 if that is what you want

[@starzintheskyz4477]

Yeah that whole "you got to love yourself before you can love anyone else" is just a load of bs. I have loved myself for so many years and still do. I love who I am and my personality. I think I'm an awesome wonderful human being who's kind and generous and without the attachment of ego behind it. I'm so sick of that cliche saying and it's getting old. Not to mention everyone who has someone has not really truly love themselves in the first place, but they still find someone to love them for the way they are. So many people who have mental issues and they still find romantic love. So wtf. No. "You got to love yourself first" is just a load of BS.

[@PeterMoldovi]

bro chose to wake up and speak facts

[@Counterculturedemigod]

110%! Spot on. I get loving yourself, knowing your value & having standards. That’s where the whole loving yourself part comes in handy right? But after you got that down how much more can one possibly love their goddamed selves? Like do I have to blow myself now? Because seriously

[@Datalanche]

Yeah I love being told I gotta be my best self before anything will happen by people who are a giant mess yet somehow manage to to have relationships just fine. Because apparently being shy or not being the best looking Chad in the room is somehow insurmountable for someone to feel attraction, but having no finances, no stability, no kindness, and no time or care for their partner is no big deal. Give me a break.

[@Counterculturedemigod]

@ I think that we have to focus on people having relationships…. It the quality of the relationships that they have. I totally understand what you’re saying tho… but let me just say half the ppl I’ve seen who have a somebody would be better off alone because their somebody is usually trash.

[@lillythebrownie]

this is such a sweet reminder that being single is ok. ❤ i have never been in a relationship before and kinda always in the mood to "i would like to be with someone but i still need to be with myself only" 😂❤

[@joeykidney]

being single is a great time to figure out who you are and what you love!

[@MS-lq2oq]

@jazzyj2182 blah blah blah

[@MS-lq2oq]

@jazzyj2182 go away you judgemental Bible thumper.

[@vigilr6595]

@jazzyj2182keep the religious crap to urself please

[@pawel3241]

​@vigilr6595 don't like free speech? Your demons are irriated easily by scripture.

[@DebbieSanchez-wl2wm]

To find true love isn't easy this days and time be going by real quick

[@ELECTRICIANGUY]

Hi Debbie don’t know if you can think through what am thinking right now ,we could try out something new

[@gauravpatil7977]

Exactly!

[@duanxicao]

😂Strongly agree!

[@guitarsoundsaround]

I agree. Every one has a different timeline and are at various phases in life too. Statistically I think the odds of finding ones ‘true love’ start going down much quicker the older you get. Bah!

[@DebbieSanchez-wl2wm]

@@guitarsoundsaround i know right??

[@cathylin1333]

Question: why am I single? My answer: 1. most of the people that I meet in real life are not single, especially the decent ones 2. 80% of the attractive single men I met online or bars only care about sex, try to get you in bed on the first date, etc, which I find very disrespectful 3. The rest of the 20% I might either not attracted to or I see red flags 4. When I finally found someone who we are mutually interested in each other, I later on found out that they’re not available or they disappear all of a sudden. It feels like the universe is fucking with me. In conclusion: looking for the one is like looking for a needle in the middle of ocean. I have a very happy life and I love myself fully. I’m independent and am totally good being single. People told me that I’m an amazing person and don’t understand why I’m single. Well, I don’t understand either. The universe is finding all kinds of way to stop me from meeting someone.

[@Bubba77777]

As a man I feel exactly the same. Life is so cruel. I crave that person to compliment my life and to hug and smile with and to enjoy the highs and soothe the lows xx

[@katst3960]

Well it is not only you, but there is nothing wrong with being single. I am finally at a stage where I am done with compromises and if I do not find the right partner I will be just single till I die.

[@Chris_8]

Same here

[@AshenSamarakoon]

As a man, I agree with the fact that most of the men nowadays are really obsessed with sex rather than love. Also a lot of women prefer bad boys. So the people in your 20% category don't deserve that too!

[@santabala6314]

I would say that men in America should get out of the box, there are beautiful and wonderful women, with values, faithful, devoted, dedicated, hard-working, who share the burden of the home, a relationship based on communication, mutual respect, fidelity and much more . I would tell you to travel to Medellin Colombia, you will be surprised. Send you hugs 🤗🌹🫶♥️

[@thomasbuxton2648]

As a 31 year old man who’s been rejected my entire life, I think it’s a losing battle and setting myself up for further disappointment to think I can one day day find love. It’s never going to happen. Look forward to dying because I don’t wanna spend the next 60 years alone and die alone at home. I’d give up everything, even my life, to experience the sweetness of mutual desire for even 5 minutes.

[@yuizii99]

Awww that just the same feeling with me

[@elsynjogu7578]

Sorry! love is within you you don't have to search for it, human beings are trying so hard to find the perfect one, they don't exist 😊

[@SR77736]

​@@elsynjogu7578 that's not the same.

[@hienhien1556]

If you are single , Im single too. Im 29 years old who looking for a cute guy from 30-40 years old. Im single for 3 years . Im ready to date . Wana talk to me?🥰

[@lucijeanej]

And funny thing is so many woman desperately want to find a man, and they need man. And fantasize about men and would give everything to get one. I am also not the smartest and also search. But for what I am currently leading is not to waste time on wrong ones, be honest with yourself, work on your physical appearance and try to socialize as much as possible. And also dreaming and imagining your dream partner. From a woman perspective, it is maybe the best approach to start as a friend but if you see there is a chance to show to her your interest. Woman like to feel they are special and only one in men's eyes. Good luck and let me know if this advice helped you. :)

[@manaphy72]

One advice : List all the things that you would like to find in a partner and then try to achieve all this elements to become yourself this ideal partner, it's time for you to become the best version of yourself !

[@acreatorofchaos]

@jazzyj2182 go back to jehovah's witness or wherever you came from please.

[@joelbedulla4]

@jazzyj2182 who asked?

[@jwl7293]

​@jazzyj2182❤❤❤❤

[@minabotieso6944]

Dumb

[@GazmatronLeics]

That's very powerful advice. Completely agree with the sentiment

[@Nevernormal790]

Been single for 7yrs been cheated on, gaslighted, lied on, manipulated, abused you named it. To answer your question I keep falling for unavailable people. Also, i am receiving love from my friends that is more stable than any relationship i been on. So honestly, I am in love with my friends at the end of the day

[@elsynjogu7578]

Sorry

[@BlessingMamabolo-f1h]

I don't even have friends. Just my bedroom. 😢

[@Aryan-tz7zk]

@ Isn’t the peace worth it tho? Everyone is fake these days. id rather have no friends than having 20 fake ones

[@MS-lq2oq]

Being single is the most humiliating thing ever. I'm sick of it and I'm not spending the rest of my life alone on this rotten planet

[@doomed2existence780]

Fr

[@delma4u951]

How old are you

[@MaryDarlington-b4k]

@@delma4u95125 years

[@phily8093]

I agree. I'm alone, and am unloved, unlovable and undateable. I'm so tired of all this bullshit from healthy and good looking people that have been alone for a bit, but they always find someone in the end. I won't. I don't love myself. I have agonising depression and loving myself is not an option. I've tried and worked on myself for twenty years. I'm 41 now. I have HIV, bulimia, persistent depressive disorder, severe anxiety, PTSD, and unfixable dental problems from my bulimia which people find repulsive. I've been raped, beaten, bullied and abused. I have seen so much death, disease and trauma. have constant suicidal ideation, I live in poverty, and I have no pleasure from anything. All I want is to be held. It won't happen. People who say all this stuff about relationships don't know the half of it. They have so much going for them. Try being me for a day, and you wouldn't bother for a tomorrow.

[@LYDIATUSIIME-s8i]

Start thinking positive. At least you're able to access the internet. Smile more often. Be kind. Have faith. And listen to more motivational videos. You'll feel better

[@sidharthkashyap3511]

My childhood was hell of a rollercoaster since I had to go through a lot since I was a kid,from seeing my parents fight everyday and having no people standing with me!! It's been years now,but the trauma still haunts me every now and then!!Because of my orientation,I even got physically assaulted and bullied a lot in my school!It just killed me from inside!There isn't even any support from my parents and friends! I have rarely a few people in my life who are also getting busy with their life with time!All these things have just made me so insecure that I am scared to talk to anybody!It breaks my heart when I see people around me getting somewhere in their life in terms of career or relationships!And there's me,who's been in this loop for so many years!!Thus,I always seeked validation from everywhere possible,I wanted somebody to love me unconditionally all in my life..I can say I've never ever experienced love from anyone till now!!Its gets even more worse since I am a bisexual person!!Thats an another battle to fight with myself!The people I have always found good or trusted,have always hurt me and left me making me feel empty!I have had multiple counselling sessions but yk,its just so tiring!!The feeling of being alone at the end is hard! I hope it gets better!Thanks Joey🫂

[@lillythebrownie]

hey you! just went through your comment.. just so you know, you're not alone. and i think you're beautiful! sharing your things with the whole world isn't easy but sometimes you feel a bit relieved don't you? i hope you're ok so far and you are able to get along.. i wish you all the best but first of all: you're sweet, awesome and one of a beautiful kind that is special. STAY YOU! 🌸

[@sidharthkashyap3511]

@@lillythebrownie I am trying to cope up!Thanks for your words!Hope you do well in life as well❤️

[@joeykidney]

I guess it is comforting to know that you aren't the only one that feels alone - i know understanding that really helped me

[@godstimesolomon7429]

You're not alone

[@godstimesolomon7429]

Are you on Instagram

[@bucketlistadventureskrs]

✨There’s nothing more peaceful than connecting with your own soul, it’s the most powerful relationship you will ever have

[@samanthav563]

It’s hard to take this advice to heart when he is in a happy relationship. It’s always people in happy relationships saying don’t worry, you don’t need someone

[@living_reel]

I'm only 18 and I have this inexplicable sense of I don't know what. In my former high school career, my friends would always talk about wanting to go on dates, hold hands, make out, and have flirty moments with guys. They geek over hot guys at the beach and actors. I do too, sure, but I don't want that. I want a dad bod, a nerd, a husband. I want someone I can take care of and love more than I want to be loved. And when it comes to wanting to be loved, I want him to brush my hair, count my freckles, be the father to my children, and protect me wether from spiders or just by standing by me at the gas station watching the meter tick. I want a soulmate, someone to be my companion through life. Someone to know me like I know them. There's nothing wrong with me; my brutally honest friends have said they don't understand why nobody else is close to me. We've had hour-long talks about it. I'm getting carried away. I just want to say I want the love that nobody around me seems to be capable of giving.

[@living_reel]

I can't even watch this video. It'll make me sadder. I don't know why I've even commented on it. I'm sorry.

[@squebleblaskum]

Don't be sorry, your feelings are valid. Like you and me there's a lot of people going through this issue so don't think you're the odd one out.

[@SasafenViko]

It’s really cute reading your comment and don’t worry you’ll find love. And don’t doubt yourself or your worth you’ll find someone who’ll love you for who you are and have dreams that align with your ambitions in life. But you’re 18 and still have time don’t rush to anything cause with time you’ll get to understand yourself and your expectations from life much better but if you find someone that you genuinely feel will love you then go for it.

[@jimmyjohnjonesjr5625]

​@@living_reelYou literally just described my exact wants it's crazy. I dont need her to be super pretty or anything like that, I just want her to love me, and help me when I'm feeling down. I have never been in a relationship before, and I dont know if I even get in one, If it will be meaningful at all. I'm starting to wonder if there even is someone out there for me that I can love. And I'm probably just being dramatic because I'm 16, so I've got a long road ahead of me, but i just dont know at this point. I feel like I'm being held back even more than usual because out of all the places I've lived Colorado seems to have the fakest people yet. There is no chance that anyone at my school will fall for me, because I'm only 5'7" and I have a red tint to my hair so that's an instant no-no, and even on the off chance that someone does fall for me, I'm wondering if they would even think the relationship is meaningful at all. I'm sorry for telling you all this. This was all just probably pointless, but I'm sorry that you are going through this and I hope things will get better for you.

[@Joenah5]

I have a good grasp on who I am, I love myself, but I am and have always been single. Painfully so, now more than ever. A pain and a loneliness (the kind familial and platonic relationships can't fill) that just grows with time, with jumps every time I let myself get my hopes up only for them to get stomped right back into the dirt. It really feels like the main thing holding me back is that no one is interested in me and I don't know how to meet people outside of dating apps (and even then I always get ghosted). I try, I've tried, but it just feels impossible. Being single may be okay for some, but when you want to know what it's like to be in a relationship, when you're sick and tired of it, it's fucking suffocating.

[@justV23]

I echo this so much 😢

[@Harbotdo]

You are not alone in that❤

[@YolandaGirl]

This is great advice. However, I do have to push back a little. I have no problem being single. Yet, I'm still lonely and want to have a partner to come home to. All my life, it's the thing I want most. All my relationships have brought me pain though so I don't know anymore. I'm still reeling from a pretty bad breakup. He was my best friend, with similar values and morals. He ended up hurting me anyway. I'm ok being single. Life keeps moving forward. I'm just sad nothing has worked out yet. And I miss my best friend.

[@MS-lq2oq]

@jazzyj2182 stop with the Bible thumping bullshit. Not everyone is a Christian.

[@cathylin1333]

Yeah I’m sick of people who are in relationships keep saying “you have to love yourself and be happy being single first” geez believe me I can prob beat anyone with this, but still I’m single. I actually think people who can find love are the ones who needs someone. People like me, independent and happy, stay single for many years.

[@anishhhhhhhhhhh]

Same situation can u tell me what to do now ?

[@user-soul434]

Have you maybe tried repairing the relationship? I know it takes time,courage and capacities but that is what makes things last. There will always be hurt and hurting that is life. Don't get me wrong I really do feel you,all of my relationships sank badly bc both of us were really immature. But there is a way if you're willing to see :). And this thing like u first need to love yourself is such a bullshit. Yes you can try your best , do your best around it but that's not where the real selflove is born, only developed according from what you've learned in your relationships. First relationship we have is with our parents ,what we've learned there is gonna stick around until we can again try and trust someone deeper and let them love us,that's where the narrative inside changes. That's how we learn to actually love ourselfs,by experiencing that love. We can't evoke it from the inside when we never actually felt it, we can do it when we learn. And we learn in relationships and carry it with us in every next one. You can meet yourself better,but that also has limits if you don't have any support or anyone to make a safe space for you. You can't all of a sudden love something you are hating all your life. Just saying

[@divinityofblackness6330]

You even know what it's like being in a relationship (even an unhealthy one)? Imagine that. even just getting vibes from the opposite sex that you're desirable. I wonder what that feels like...

[@veroniquel7263]

I'm not even trying at this point. But i know I can't live without anymore. I have been very disappointed by someone who was my favourite person, I don't even see the point now. Like this seemed very good, but my type does not want me.

[@azhar8422]

I’m 27 years old, and I’ve been single for the past six years. Despite trying my best to find someone, I’ve failed. It’s tough living alone with no one to talk to or share my feelings with. I don’t have any friends either, but I do have my loving family, and they are the only reason I keep going-especially my parents. Without them, every day and every moment would feel like climbing a mountain. Over time, I’ve come to accept the truth that I may never find love, and that’s okay. It is what it is.

[@lachlann4335]

I’ve been working on myself since I was 16. I’m 24 from two weeks ago and still facing rejections. I know many great conversations to have, never a dull moment, how to be respectful and caring, trustworthy etc etc! If by the time I’m 30 I can’t find anyone I’m just going to face the reality of never being married. I don’t want to marry someone after 30, if that ever happens. Too much would have already been missed out on and never got to enjoy the youth of being a couple.

[@rayvasquez3178]

30 is still a child lol

[@clementine676]

But the thing is that I am 33. I want children and I am ready. I absolutely do love myself. That's the main reason why I am finally ready but then the downs do understandably make me feel like giving up.

[@seawater1322]

so if you have a huge bodycount and squandered your earlier years in promiscuity, WHAT reasonable man would want to get involved in a life relationship with you??

[@clementine676]

I'm not sure if you are suggesting that I have a high body count or if you do? Either way, you attract people if you like yourself. I will attract a decent man who sees my values and sees how awesome I am and my strong sense of self, regardless of body count. I think your statement is also problematic in judging what people do with their bodies. People can have as much sex as they please and it does not impact their worth or their ability to love.

[@clementine676]

I've had a long recovery from sexual abuse in my childhood. Our childhood experiences impact how we view ourselves and our core view of things can be scewed. I believed that I was not worth more than sex and rejected love for a while but I've had a lot of therapy and now I am ready for a relationship and like myself. If you want to judge me for promiscuity I have engaged in, maybe you need to educate yourself. I am worthy of love.

[@seawater1322]

@@clementine676 what you present is BAGGAGE from your past. There are degrees of union that you can never experience because of your past. No man with a less tarnished past would seek your love if they had a choice, this is logical. You can still find love of course, but from someone who has also had a broken past and travelled that same path to redemption as you have.

[@clementine676]

@@seawater1322 such negativity. I love myself and I will attract people on the same healed, happy wavelength as me. We all go through things. No one asked your opinion mate. At 33, I have lived enough years really taking the time to get to know myself and know what I want and need from someone. Now fuck off please. I'm far too important to be dragged down by someone giving opinions no one asked for.

[@shaikahmed3__5]

"you don't need to love everyone " -- Well said sir!

[@opticalman6417]

just love your self and call it a day with women i have and its the best thing i have ever done no more suffering from wanting longing for something i am never going to get let go of wanting women and your life will be 100 % better for it

[@napzon19]

Being single for me is not okay. I know I’m a man, I’m not perfect, and after watcbing this video, I feel like I’m not good enough which is why me and my first girlfriend broke up. I feel like my ex girlfriend is a horrible person I met in my life. Thanks for sharing this video! I feel like dating apps are a waste for me, I better find woman by going in person.

[@mihneapopa8856]

I needed to see this. I am in a dark spot. I dont feel anything except for the fear and choking sensation of realising im like a tiny human in the middle of an ocean, at night. Emptiness, anxiety and sleep. It’s all I feel. And once I was dreamy and energic but Im not anymore. I met many horrible people. Or many beautiful people that I resonated horribly with, but one thing is sure. I wouldn’t recognize love if I saw it right in front of my eyes. And that makes me scared that I’ll forever be unloved. My friends are nice but I’m looking for something diffferent.

[@SasafenViko]

Hey how are you doing and how are you holding up right now?

[@BlessingMamabolo-f1h]

I relate to this so much

[@Hans-yo2cq]

it’s always people in relationships who have never struggled with finding love like others that say “gah it’s overrated i found myself” being alone has caused me to completely lose every aspect of myself. it’s genuinely detrimental. hearing this advice is just so gross to me

[@Hans-yo2cq]

@jessicaj9743 imaginary sky man go brrrrrrrr

[@gaozhi2007]

Finding someone who sees the best in you even when and where you don't see it is one of the greatest joys life has to offer.

[@josephhein9497]

Thanks for this message, brother. I'm turning 40 in a couple of weeks. While I've had a few long-term relationships and I've dated my fair share of women, I've never been married. I got out of my most recent relationship a year ago. I've chosen to be single to find myself again. I haven't dated since we broke up. That said, my age has me so worried that time is passing me by - that I'm missing my chance to find someone, or even that it's already too late. The anxiety and pressure I've felt about this over the last year has taken me to extremely low places. But it is getting easier. I'm starting to feel like me again. I'm starting to enjoy my own company and I'm enjoying rediscovering who I am and who I want to be. Your last few words ring loud for me. I only hope that by continuing to make myself a better man, the right woman will finally present herself. It's all about patience.

[@JuwilyJoyce]

Hello are you still single now im her because im single i listen about these because im also finding true love a miracle.

[@tommy72261]

" we are too good for anyone to make us feel something " hit

[@21miku68]

The problem rather is the question *how* to find a partner, these days it impossible and as an highly introverted person i find it beyond impossible lmao

[@darkrider8869]

I've been alone all 23 years of my life, I've had a fair share of crushes but everyone rejected me,I just want someone to spend my nights with when I get home from a tough day I work that's all

[@VictoriaN.cheese]

I feel you and hope you’ll find it

[@yuizii99]

Im feels like give up to find someone who love me for who i am...6 years plus now that im keep myself to be single after toxic relationships but i know that one day God will answer my prayer and my next tears will be tears of JOY and i wish all peoples here that looking for someone to love u for who you are and be loved...From Sora May Asian woman 😊

[@SunmathiLatha]

Wishing you the same sis!!!!!❤😊

[@satrianindya581]

I'm searching for true love, a miracle

[@JuwilyJoyce]

Me too im searching

[@eduardmanecuta5350]

How do you define "true love"?

[@guitarsoundsaround]

It’s ok. I can handle being single no problem, I cannot handle being hurt. Slowly yet surely, we all find our way. The only responsible for me is me. I know that inside out and backwards. I have to take care of me, without any excuses. It’s a crazy life sometimes but that’s just the way it goes. All love okay ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@anderstermansen130]

Have you tried also searching for unicorns? You will have about the same success rate.

[@guitarsoundsaround]

@@anderstermansen130ride a unicorn 👀

[@Ella-e6z]

This truly resonated with me. I've always had the preconceived idea that it's impossible to be in a relationship with someone so similar to yourself. Writing this now makes me question why I ever thought that. I think I've always known that I need to be with someone who will allow me to be myself, but someone who shares the same hobbies, passions and values as myself. But now I need to accept the fact that finding 'my person' is going to take time, and isn't something you can seek out in the desperation not to be lonely. You have to love someone else before you can love yourself.

[@KallanCarter]

I don’t normally comment on videos but wow! This was beautifully well said. I just got out of (another) relationship and have been questioning why I keep choosing the wrong people. I feel like it’s bc I haven’t found who I am truly yet and I need time to have some self discovery and find who I am before I welcome anyone into my life. I also was never honest really about how the people I previously dated had fit into my life. I rather anyday be single than be in that unhappy relationship I was in and I know one day the happy healthy relationship I crave will come along when it’s time. So thank you for this reassurance!

[@ELECTRICIANGUY]

Yea I believe everything you said and same has also happened to me and am hoping to find true love too

[@Roro__npk]

Thanks!

[@clairjunior5291]

For some of us the challenge is to find the people we can truly connect, especially when our social life is not big and active.

[@karanvirsandhu3606]

I have been single for all my life and I am 29, I am okay with being single tbh, if I find the right woman for me, then so be it, if I don't then oh well, I love myself and love who I am

[@safwanshow]

Loving yourself has nothing to do with loving someone else .

[@MaryDarlington-b4k]

How well I pray to find love too where do you base ?

[@Johnma20201]

I got my first relationship at 29, and my second at 30, and now I'm single again 😂 I think that I need a serious long-term relationship

[@UWASESaluwah]

​@@Johnma20201sorry😂

[@kimberly710-v71]

So young and so wise at 55 I am saying thank thank you for these words I am going to play this over and over again 🙏🏻

[@deogiezoie]

Thank you for this Joey! I really needed this…I’ve watched it several times now, I just need to remember this and need this to stick. You are so right and I love these words so much.

[@joeykidney]

I am gad it found you

[@Kiluei]

I've had SEVERAL female friends who were genuinely just my friends who've told me they weren't ready for marriage/didn't believe in love/weren't looking for someone... and genuinely ALL of these girls that told me this found love within 3 to 4 months after saying this to me. It recently happened AGAIN. I swear its happened at least 7+ times. I've even lost track about how often its happened throughout the years. So moral of the story, if you're a woman and you're struggling with finding love. Just tell me about your problems and within 3 to 4 months you'll be meeting your future husband.

[@dalia4615]

hello, i am going to manifest love and not look for it.

[@JudeLyngdoh]

@@dalia4615Hi Dalia just wanted to let you know you’re very beautiful and you will find the love of your life very soon. 😊

[@kensplay5603]

I can understand what you're telling me, but the fear that if we don't hurry, time will pass and that's it, we didn't do anything, we didn't enjoy ourselves, nothing

[@pandulani]

To anyone who is reading, stay you work on being the best version of you each day and keep evolving. Love yourself find out more about yourself - date yourself. Put yourself out there and you might meet the right person. Whether you meet or not, this way you will be full as a complete and happy person inside both in good and dark times.

[@MS-lq2oq]

It doesn't work when you're an old woman with young children

[@TCORV]

"you'll find someone one day" that's a big lie. That only works for people who are actually good looking. be confident, love yourself all you want but if you got an ugly face, ain't no gonna date you.

[@Johannesai1]

it's ok to be single. The issue is when people are single for 32 years non-stop like me

[@iam_adamfromearth]

Keep believing in yourself! Don't ever give up. Keep going out, meeting people, keep trying new activities, keep chasing your passions! It's the depression and hopelessness that I believe will truly keep people single forever... it's the mindset

[@Brikdebaksteen]

The thing is im a guy, im 19 yrs old, im becoming more and more well versed in the stoic philosophy, im an extrovert, sociable nice person. And i havent been in 1 single relationship. Im not affraid to get hurt by heartbreak, it cant be worse than the pain of never having experienced love romantic wise. They always say focus on yourself and love will come to you, i only once chased love. The rest of the time i focused on myself, but still nothing has come across my path. And tbh im getting tired of waiting...

[@moonlightstargem1006]

I went through enough heart break i’m a little wary right now. I’m open to it. But i don’t want just anyone. I want someone who wants me more

[@micahrutland9021]

I'm sorry you got your heartbroken. I'm going thru a terrible heartbreak too. I was thrown away like garbage by a girl I loved with all my heart and I treated her super great.

[@divinityofblackness6330]

imagine even getting to that point. I can't even get a girl to text back 😒 at least that's some validation that you're even desirable. I dunno if you could handle being ignored by everyone that passes...

[@russdemello8029]

I want you more 🤗

[@vicksoth]

My first relationship was me just trying to be in one and that totally didn't work for me at all... Now after many crushes later I think I found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with! The scariest and most exhilarating feeling ever in my opinion. Plus this person came at a point in my life were I was feeling super shitty about myself and wasn't open for the love he wanted to give me. BUT I decided for myself (and a little for him if I'm being honest) that I would start to heal through therapy and THAT changed everything. So ya when he came into my life he changed it but it was my work on myself that really changed everything and made me more comfortable being in a relationship. I was ready and open to not only loving myself but accepting the love from someone else!

[@vicksoth]

@jazzyj2182 I dont Mena to be rude but this has nothing to do with my comment. I respect your beliefs don't get me wrong but I do disagree. The video also wasn't referring to sex of any kind at all either so maybe save your comment for something more related

[@Nairda14-l5t]

Been single for most of my life. Met many women and dated a lot but only 1 has been the one I loved. It ended over a year ago and it’s been so hard. I feel like I will never feel again.

[@thedutchhuman]

''if you're single don't rush''... I understand your points and they certainly affect me. After 7 years of being single, I am now really ready for a relationship. The problem is that I don't dare to take the step because I have lost confidence a bit, am afraid that things will go wrong again, and the rejections you get when you ask a woman to have a cup of coffee do not help. So I bought a motorcycle so that I can enjoy something and not have to think about things like that..........................maybe I shouldn't take the step to ask?

[@meryk2786]

Why you shouldn't be the one to ask? You are just afraid and scared of rejection.. so what if 100 women say no? Maybe 101st says yes, you will never know until you try. The easiest thing you can do is do nothing about it sure.. but that's not how life works. Uncomfortable things are the most important because they change you.

[@MaryDarlington-b4k]

I need love ❤ in my life

[@sluggishprincess3325]

30 years old af and never had a man, kissed, dated, etc , you name it 😉 true story. I already gave up , I know I’m clearly not gods favorite. I want a family and children but looks like I’m gonna need a sperm donor or a surrogate if nobody shows up 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️ Meanwhile, I can’t even get a text back or I’m always waiting

[@kristerophaphleck3883]

I'm 24 and I'm on the same boat. Never dated a girl in my life

[@lunarero]

Same 😢

[@geovoniejohnson4853]

​@@kristerophaphleck3883I'm 24 also, never had kids, never been in a relationship, never dated despite me trying over 20 times. Those 20+ times, I got rejected relentlessly. Most of my family has been in relationships and marriages, except me. That's why I always feel ugly, invisible and empty inside. That's why I gave up because it's pointless and it's like pulling teeth.

[@TimePass-wb6dd]

You are not alone. 34 years old here, never had a girlfriend, dated, kissed. I was friend-zoned by a girl I liked when I was 30. I have been trying to find ``the one" ever since, for a long lasting committed relationship and marriage. I hope the situation changes at some point😃

[@nadexo-l5564]

​@@TimePass-wb6dd I hope that you all find someone amazing 🙏

[@jackspedicy]

Just been played with too much. People get disinterested so fast, I think I’m talking fine and well, and then they ghost you. Someone says they’re interested then they aren’t, then they didn’t mean to play with your feelings but they did. It’s never secure, it’s always confusing, it’s always this feeling of wanting but never having and everyone around you shoving it in your face. Idk if I’m going to find someone, and put up with me and be patient with me, it’s been too long

[@BlessingMamabolo-f1h]

❤

[@ixora81]

Am 43 years old this year 2024. Am craving to find love & envy people who have someone loved them sincerely. Yet always get rejected, been hurts with abusive relationship & toxic people's just kill my heart. Am lost & not sure what is love anymore. So yeah just stay single instead of being lonely & get hurts in relationship. Not sure if love would come to me someday or i rot dieng alone without knowing ❤ ( kinda scary)😢

[@Strawberrypie83]

This perfectly describes what I’ve been experiencing right now. It’s so hard for me to put into words, but you expressed it flawlessly! I feel like not everyone shares this mindset, and I was starting to doubt myself. But now, I feel reassured and less alone. ❤ Thanks a lot for this❤

[@kristerophaphleck3883]

I've never been in a relationship ever in my life. Whenever I approach a woman, I get turned down or straight up rejected and I don't know why. I'm 5'7, brown hair and blue eyes and a bit chubby. But this video helped me out and I'm 24

[@thisaccounthasbeensuspended]

Try first making friends in school, work or elsewhere and then if you have great chemistry with someone you can try asking them whether they wanted to try a relationship

[@SofieWatson]

Let's be friends?

[@kristerophaphleck3883]

@@SofieWatson what's your Facebook?

[@ColdPotato]

My biggest regret is finding a friend that I thought should be a lover and tried too hard, rather than accepting her as a friend. The harder I tried to win her over, the further she got away and the less desirable I became. I found someone eventually, but it's not a perfect match so I still feel lonely at times even when she tries to help me. I wish I had a time machine to go tell the younger me it's OK to be alone and work on yourself rather than chasing others.

[@Nickh0041]

I don’t want to love someone for them to then find how awful I am, I want people I love to be happy and I know that I’m not good enough for them and that they will be happy with someone else

[@Eiram.1229gmail]

You just dont find yet the one for you. Cheer up! 🤗

[@XXX_Carnage_XXX]

I am 22 and have been alone for 22 years. Never had a GF, never had my first kiss etc. Every prayer I say, 11:11 on the clock is asking god to bring me love, thats all I want but life has gotten more horrible. I live with abusive parents and fail at everything I do, the only thought that comes in my head now is that I'll be better off dead. I struggle to believe in god, I really want to but how can I if nothing good happens in my life

[@juans9515]

I have been struggling with the same feeling. But you must realize that YOU must go out there then. Pray to whomever you pray to. However, you should put effort on YOUR HALF to go out there and find LOVE

[@samarcher1294]

Hey, whoever you are, you live in a physical world, the good thing is you have time on your hands, let's just say you a total loser but you don't have to remain that way, you can change, don't just sit and pray, be bold enough to fail, because it's the only thing that will teach you lessons, lessons that will make you stronger as long as you don't give up. Rise .. rise from your ashes, someone's perception of you is not who you are !!!!

[@AnshuKumar-fi2jy]

Practice meditation and have a goal.

[@JoblessJoshua]

All that prayer for an invisible man in the sky who won't grant you anything.... lol....

[@muzikAlex]

I’ve felt that way too. Hang in there mate and become your best. I can attest that there is goodness in this world. God is good. ❤

[@anjanab980]

I don't know when i will find the 'one' for me. I hope god will lead to him one day at the right time✨. love u all ,love yourself and try to be happy in little things.

[@MusicbyReshav]

Every time I listen to you i found myself inspired to write lyrics for my music, you're my favourite poet Joey ❤️ i really want to meet want a hug from you ✨

[@joeykidney]

one day we will all meet!!

[@NastyNarty]

​@@joeykidneyplease bro help

[@huiba1]

I still believe in love. In a world where most people hook up with everyone once and then leave, it's hard. My friends go to parties and clubs and just make out with people. I never go with them. I have had a few relationships, every single one felt like true love. Like actual love. I've talked to one of my partying friends about this, and he couldn't even grasp the concept of what I felt for some girls. He could get with a girl easily but it would never be true love. So here I am, waiting patiently. I don't need to rush things. I use this time to understand myself, and I've probably never felt better. Love is a really strong emotion, but when it eventually goes away it breaks you. Now I just feel stable. But my dream is to have a family one day, and I'm sure I will find the right woman one day

[@matthewfarmer3177]

I’m really struggling with these thoughts at the moment. I’ve just tried to start dating again after a breakup that happened 8 months ago. For an average man like me dating is really hard because women won’t look past looks to get to know the person. It’s so hard and I honestly don’t see a way out of this any time soon. I hope you’re all in a better situation than me and I’m still optimistic slightly but it’s my biggest fear that I’ll die alone because I’ve got so much love to give.

[@kristerophaphleck3883]

It's because they want the tallest, richest, strongest, and best looking man. It's sad but true 😢

[@santabala6314]

I would say that men in America should get out of the box, there are beautiful and wonderful women, with values, faithful, devoted, dedicated, hard-working, who share the burden of the home, a relationship based on communication, mutual respect, fidelity and much more . I would tell you to travel to Medellin Colombia, you will be surprised. Send you a sweet hugs 🫶🌹🤗♥️

[@charlesvictoria6800]

True Love is Someone who’s been with you the entire time. ✝️

[@bjorgenson5595]

The reason I’m single? Shit. I don’t meet any standards of anyone, I’m short, have a face full of acne scars. On top of that, I isolate myself and don’t even attempt to socialize out of fear. And I’m okay with that. I’m done.

[@SasafenViko]

Don’t be hard on yourself. Acne you can work on that and if you’re still in your teens you still can grow tall working out, sleep and eating protein will work well. But trust me if you do grow tall you’ll find it repulsive if someone loves you just because you’re tall. But above all love yourself do the things you love and you’ll stumble upon someone along the way. Keep the hope of love alive.

[@freecss9330]

Brother, there’s something called personality and money. These two things are very attractive especially money. The face I mean that’s only 1/3. 🙏 good luck, I’m still single

[@SasafenViko]

@@freecss9330 I agree with you. A man with money is man in any corner of the world. But what’s money but the faith people place in it. In the end what one is without worldly possessions that what I think one should value and work on personality is in there. But one cannot live without money a perfect mean in all things is required. Don’t worry we’ll find love and do let me know when you do I’ll be happy to hear that.

[@freecss9330]

@@SasafenViko love you man

[@SasafenViko]

@@freecss9330love you to man and I value the short conversation we’ve had here it truly made my day. Just know I appreciate you brother I wish you the best in life but don’t give up during tough times stay strong like Odysseus till the good times come but none of the extremes can be fully attained so let’s enjoy both the good and bad times.

[@the_happykodiak2421]

Thanks mate. Been about 4 years now since my first real proper adult relationship ended. Had lots of time to process it but it ended in a way that I didnt like, I was sad for a long time. I enjoy being on my own, but I think any people who are good at being with their own thoughts, very in tune with their emotions and very creative, you have these moments where it feels like the world is ending and you are too far gone down the wrong path. Today amidst sickness I was having one of those moments and this video helped calm me down. To anyone else in my situation, I am sending you love, as well as the promise that like anything else in life, regardless of how it pans out, you will be okay. The chances of you being born on this planet at this time the way that you are is an absurd statistic, in comparison, finding a partner is trivial, you have beaten crazier odds before. Keep learning, keep loving and stay strong

[@nadaimenesai8175]

When you said “I value friendship more then love” ❤️

[@sofiagamez7007]

You need to love yourself first or love finds you or love need to be seeked, it will not come alone. I learned to love myself, I dress with style and Im social, but nobody wants to accept a casual friendly hang out to the movies or dinner either 😢 29 and been single always.

[@allhailzamasu69]

Been single for so so long. No girls interested in me. I either get ignored or blocked. Even my own best friend turn on me and i wanted us to work. I try online it not working. Try offline in person. I get "oh i have a man" yea im giving up. 😢

[@TheNucaKola]

I just turned 31 and I’ve never been in a real relationship. I’ve had plenty of women show interest in me, some more obvious than others. But literally every time I’ve messed up or self sabotaged, sometimes over the dumbest, littlest things. It makes me depressed seeing how easy it is for others to jump into multiple relationships. But for me it’s always like pulling teeth when I’m looking, and always missing my shot when I’m not looking.

[@spkspk1416]

Why am i single: because 5) The person i love doesnt love me back, and i got this feeling for only one person in my entire existence.

[@NoahLeaega]

I've Been Single and Honestly I Would Really Really Love Having Somebody to Love. I'm Ready to Put Myself There but I Noone is Willing to Take the Step.

[@BlessingMamabolo-f1h]

Me too

[@Lavendeer201]

I just dont know what loving myself feels like. Im always hard on myself and therapists only listen to you, but never help. I dont know what it feels like. Ive never felt love like I feel as if I should. Ive dated in long distance relationships, but honestly, I want a real life relationship. I want to feel someone hug me. Tell me I'm okay. I've never even had friends. I dont know what its like to have friends that care about you. Its led me down a bad path in life. I feel hopeless and every moment of my day is consumed by OCD and watching these videos, trying to convince myself its okay. I cant stop worrying over this. Its been years, and I'm only 21. I feel like I'm 40 though. If I have to live the next 60 or so years of my life like this... I dont want to live it

[@kendallbr9166]

This sounds like my life 🫠

[@begumnazcakir]

joey you have changed my whole perspective. you are such a smart important person. oh my god

[@aaravvarma1143]

I’m single right now and am on a lot of dating apps trying to find someone but I keep getting people who are quite a bit older to me and I don’t know what to do, I feel really sad most of the time because most of my friends are all dating

[@stevec404]

I enjoyed your editing here...and your message. It resonates with me, as I have only recently come to value, understand, and love myself. My history has been one of abject loneliness. I 'morphed' into everyone...hoping to find who I was. Now I have opinions, likes and dislikes, less inner walls and way more boundaries. I still feel like an emotional infant...but life is (slowly) getting better.

[@SasafenViko]

That’s nice to know life’s getting better🙂

[@kase5105]

I wish i found this channel when i was going through my first break. You are an amazing poet btw!! however all your videos are great tips getting over a break up. Can you post more videos like this, excitement of finding someone new.

[@WilkosGaMes]

I’ve made silly mistakes in my past that couldn’t lasted. I’ve ruined my chances. I’ve been rejected and hurt after trying to win someone back. Now I’ve accepted that I will be alone for a long time. I’m not anyone’s type and it’s hard but it’s something I’ll have to live with.

[@imogenii6920]

Oh my God 😢 I feel you right to the core... So it's refreshing knowing I'm not the only one who feels exactly this way 😢

[@imogenii6920]

But the difference with me is I also don't feel like anyone is my type so it's really hard for me to fall in love I'm very picky, and I easily get annoyed by people..I can't keep friends for that reason

[@WilkosGaMes]

@@imogenii6920 yeah that’s exactly like me. But I’m happy to wait till the right person eventually comes along. Till then love yourself and look after yourself. The right person will come when you least expect it.

[@imogenii6920]

@@WilkosGaMes you're a girl?

[@SouthAsianMensSpaceOfficial]

Thanks for the video. The Five Things That Helped me Attract My Dream Partner were: 1) Learning to practice self compassion 2) Learning to be more authentic 3) Putting myself out there and committing to learn as much as I can about the person in front without allowing my judgements to take control 4) Having fun whilst dating 5) Learning to have continue with my own life whilst dating and not making it my sole priority.

[@sumiitkapoor]

Yes! All those are correct to that one million dollar question. Being a 37yr old looser guy i can totally relate to that question. I I stopped myself going to any relationship. I think my faults, my failures and my mind stopped me to approach any women. Unfortunately, I like two girls in my life and to both I have never expressed my feelings that are still there and it's giving the pain like nothing else. It is also true I was and I am still searching for the love in people, animsls, nature. But, noone gave it back. No one I mean noone give me back. The story ends here.....!!

[@AdityaKumar-yr5gl]

I had a 8 year happy relationship. Doubt and suspicion from my partners side sort of ruined it. We still talk normally like friends but i don’t get the love from her anymore. I met someone new and started my hunt for love from her, without even giving myself time to heal or love myself. I feel contented with the fact that someone is there to love me, and i did a lot of things to get it, but haven’t found it yet

[@krystinarangel8901]

Definitely needed to hear this😌 thank you again Joey!❤

[@joeykidney]

thank you for being here

[@boopdino8053]

I have been isolated for 5 years now and only broke out of this isolation in September. I am so done. I am so done never having felt a romantic connection,never having had the privilege of physical and emotional intimacy, never having had the opportunity to explore the beauty of life. After years and years of absolute nothingness your body and your mind are deprived. The hormones run wild and your suppressed emotional and sexual desires define every second of your existence. You might be mentally much more healthy,have friends and.make actual experiences in the real world,but this intense desire simply won"t go away,no matter how much you love yourself and no matter how confident you are in yourself. Your body wants intimacy NOW And yet our society jas become so incredibly distanced,judgemental and superficial. People won't give you love because you are a good person,they give you love because of your Charisma,your status and your capabilities. Furthermore you need actual luck to meet people,and even more luck to meet the right people. Being 19 years old my peers are absolute degenerates,smoking,partying, drinking,hooking up. Its so indescribably difficult and so unlikely to meet someone. I live in germany and how the fuck am i gonna meet a girl when everyone just fucking sticks to the social circle they established in school or uni? Is online dating my only option if there is no option for me in this context? . Isolation has traumatized me deeply and i am losing my mind. People are sayig that women find needy men disgusting,but how can you not have desires to connect with people? Should you suppress your undeniable human instincts. People always assume that once you are lonely and needy as a man you instantly have a superificial, hateful and weak/low confident mentality but that simply isnt the case. I was simply socially restricted by trauma and extremely unstable circumstances. I work on myself every day,talking to others despite being socially extremely anxiouy, going to the gym and improving my diet,deepening my intellect,grooming myself and improving my style and yet it doesnt happen. I am so done with this shit. I just want to feel how someone's touch feels

[@Penitus-Rimor-Interiorem]

Dang bro..Even if my comment won't change a thing, I still hope you hold yourself alright..

[@niqueachilds7223]

I knew love and relationships was hard but my lord I didn't know it was as hard as it been for me 😞. I'm hurting and been hurting from the past relationships that I been in and I don't think it's going to get better because I know what I want and my worth but guy's don't want a real no bs relationship. They think it should be like a bad movie they can cheat and do whatever they want and thing's will work it self out and they can come right back. Which sadly they can be this way because for every one guy it's 8 decent woman that got herself together. I don't want fancy dates or expect him to have a fancy car, job or house. I just want to be treated with respect, affection, love and just plain peace of mind. I'm just tried of being treated like trash or a rug.

[@АндрейМазуров-ч2й]

same. but i'm a man. i just wanna love and be loved in a relationship. but every girl that I liked don't give a shit about me. and now I think I'll die in loneliness.

[@utrillice]

Sigh.. you took the words right out of my mouth 😔

[@itsawesome8277]

So today is my birthday, and it's the first birthday in 8 yrs when she didn't wished me ....and it hurts ... Here are some lines i just wrote.... U can use it in ur video if they are good enough.... And finally it stops , when for yrs someone make u believe the day u vr born in is special and she ll never ever stop making u feel special till death do us apart , those forevers are gone , those feelings are gone , that wait for the call is gone , but u gotta live on

[@Astral.Artistry]

Ive been searching since kindergaden for "what i love to do". Or what i want to be. It doesnt exist. I dont know where to direct my energy and focus. Every hobby becomes hollow. Every career choice feels draining. Nothing is quite "it". When i found my psrtner i found someone to love and work for and give to. After 8 years, it just ended and im back where i started, but alot older.

[@M_IAWIA]

I want to find a life partner. A husband, lover and a friend, and the father of our children. I'm single once again because finding someone who wants this is surprisingly difficult. Yes they exist, but FINDING them is difficult. Love is hard work, and it is soul crushing when you time after time put in the time and effort, just to realise you wasted them on the wrong person. And unlike men I have a limited time to have children, so every mistake is more painful to me. I wanted to try and find someone without dating apps, but talking to guys it seems like todays society has made them scared to walk up to women and ask them out, which i totally understand. But that means realistically the only ways to meet someone is either through knowing someone or dating apps. I dont think i know enough people to be introduced to anyone...

[@SasafenViko]

You’ll find that if you want that I’m sure life has a number of people like you and want the same things. You aren’t asking for too much and don’t blame yourself. Dating apps have trapped us they aren’t that good for find love but we don’t have a better option. Hope you find love and the right person to start a family. Don’t give up on love nor life.

[@guitarsoundsaround]

I can relate! I can’t get my mind around dating apps, it’s just not for me for a whole bunch of reasons. I don’t have a social circle to rely on either, so it’s solely up to me, to get out there and find new people and places as a new starting line so to speak. Sigh 😞

[@Imanuha26]

I've been single my entire life. I'm 25 this year. The thoughts of finding love and having a companion have gotten louder as I've gotten older. I value the time I have to myself being single, but it's hard some days. Some days are incredibly lonelier than others. You realize that there's a longing within you, and that void cannot be filled by the people around you.

[@musiclover04428]

It’s true you really need to love yourself and establish yourself first. And I know being single isn’t a bad thing but I’m just a person who is meant to be a lover from the bottom of my heart. I’ve been this way since I was very very young and I always knew that I just needed to find the right person for myself. I have had 2 heartbreaks and I haven’t found my person yet (I’m still pretty young) and although part of me is scared that I’ll never find „that one person“ I won’t give up. Even if I wanted to, I think I simply couldn’t. Because I just know that in this life I’m meant to be in a romantic healthy loving relationship. I literally think about it every day and I think if you feel the same, like you know what is meant for you, it will find you. No matter what - so don’t give up❤

[@bloodmoon60s66]

I hope that both you and I find the ones that we’re meant to be with, I’m wishing you lots of love, peace, success and happiness❤

[@53cconadailee46]

What a load of horse shit. Life ain’t a movie, shit don’t always find you. And what the fuck do you mean by loving yourself? How are there so many god damned people in relationships, ain’t no fucking way they all love themselves.

[@Leo4me]

I’m going though the very same thing! I do hope love finds me and I’m not constantly seeking out for some.

[@rencariedlova1121]

You have sparks in your eyes, you really found THE love, i'm happy for you❤

[@jesselopez9030]

Thank you for the reminder, needed this ❤

[@joeykidney]

You are so welcome

[@Hollymodz]

you have got me crying... love you joey

[@joeykidney]

Crying on a Saturday morning.. that’s too early