Why do men seem heartless?

[@redeemed1352]

“Stop being so desperate for a man. Stop putting up with any and everything just to have a warm body.” Amen 🙏 Tony.

[@Hereigns62]

That’s a word right there.

[@irlandaise5631]

I dont put up with anything and I ve been alone forever - but all good!

[@lovingmylife528]

Thank you

[@irlandaise5631]

@Wise4Sure yes because I see the disrespect and abuse right away . I probably agree , I remember a colleague shouting at his gf on the phone . He was the only one I heard shouting in the workplace and he would be friendly to me but put me down at random , then other women divorced their husbands who were abusive. From what I knew , I didnt know the rest but I can only assume , and heard from other colleagues of stories.

[@jewelsafire6844]

Heartless men like that make us regret saying, "I do." Think twice. Smh

[@mareelovely]

There are moments where a man is going to show you exactly... who...he... is. This is such just a moment. There is no apology, no explanation that will erase this revelation.

[@badgirlhollywood9741]

A man with a girlfriend was flirting with me. What does that say? I found out about her later. D

[@NatashaRenee12]

😢 I can’t get that moment in time out of my mind, when he showed me. Im literally fighting with my heart right now, to let go. I’m afraid I’ll never get the person he pretended to be. 🥹💔

[@tmacthespa]

Tony. I just had a guy come to my house for dinner. I have a home based business and told him to use the upstairs bathroom while I finished and I’ll be right with him. He ran downstairs after I finished and said hastily and nasty screaming I wasted his time and had him sitting in the dark and I didn’t value his time. Excuse me sir you are on my time and I’m conducting business!! He stated he had to go out to call his daughter. I said cool I’ll put the food of his request on the table. Minutes passed. He left and went home. No communication about what happened. Red flag!! I told him I don’t desire a relationship with a man that does not communicate after I already showed you before the caring person I am. I told him to have a nice life. His true colors came out. He kept calling and texting the next day. I said no sir, you are not the person for me.

[@3DSuccess]

It's like he already had built up anger

[@lsmith6718]

🏃‍♀️ “Gotta Go”. Happy you dodged that bullet😊.

[@tmacthespa]

Miss Tiffany. Because there was a reason he came for dinner. I did not put all the particulars on here. If you are in business sometimes things don’t go as planned so he arrived before my client left. On my end I could not have changed this scenario. It is unfortunate that it turned out the way it did.

[@zero1188]

why not just invite invite after business. makes more sense than trying to get him to wait. sounds more like you was trying to test him

[@mamat1213]

@@zero1188 agreed it would hv been better to just reschedule instead of 1) having him at your home or 2) making him wait an indeterminate amt of time. I do agree it's disrespectful BUT his response was out of pocket and you rightfully cut him off

[@beverlypierce6743]

I'll continue to stay single.

[@princesstiffanynews]

🤣 lord

[@thegrace-basedstudent5701]

My grandma would say, "Baby, don't mess with no low down man." Now that I'm older, I understand her completely. Romans 8: We all have to not conform to this world but be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Without this change, our hearts are pure gobbage!

[@quin8463]

I agree and you will see who will make the journey

[@leelaluv35]

Thank you so much for the scripture

[@jB-kj4so]

I’m glad your talking about this! I work at a grocery store and I witness a man cuss out his son , calling him all kinds of name (cuss words) and saying he was a punk! When I tell you that little boy had so much hate in his eyes, I knew that he was going to grow up and not be a good man when he grows up. All I wanted to was hug this little boy! I still pray for that little boy. And I gave his father a very disgusting look! And his father always was a nasty person.

[@VintageAfro91]

Yessss! I work at a grocery store too and I have seen so many men yell at toddlers for little of nothing (just regular toddler stuff). It's horrible.

[@christinewarren8134]

I can imagine you pray for him after seeing that. I see things like that out and about in everyday life and those kids just stay with me. Sending him light ✨

[@carolyn4realife]

Unfortunately, the shelter was a safer option for sister-in-law and the baby and not being alone with that man.

[@mareelovely]

Put her out with a baby AND took her phone. That is diabolical. No woman is safe around a man like this.

[@tisha812]

@@mareelovely Yep...diabolical is right!!! I also read about that story. He wrote a fake letter and gave it to the wife and said her sister wrote it. Then later admitted it was fake. When the wife said she was going to go get her sister he threatened to change the locks on her!!!

[@beefaye6861]

Agree....."women do NOT respect other women".....so sad 😥

[@TheHarmonyPill]

“We are” 🎯 Thank you for not sugarcoating and giving us the truth in love. It’s up to us women to know how to move out here and apply the wisdom we receive. That’s all we can do.

[@j-tenn226]

This is scary to know, but information that I needed to digest. This makes me a little bit more scared to get back in the dating field , but i will only get smarter in vetting them . First sign of dysfunction, you get BLOCKEDT.

[@natashatwine7818]

That's a lot of blocking

[@Shazzyhtown]

It's disappointing that men being expressive is considered soft. I wonder how men deal with depression. I can't even imagine 😔

[@yourrealtor_Danielle]

Unfortunately, some commit suicide

[@Shazzyhtown]

@@yourrealtor_Danielle 😥😥

[@j-tenn226]

They do need to learn to seek healthy professional help .

[@yourrealtor_Danielle]

@@j-tenn226 this is true.

[@Shazzyhtown]

@@j-tenn226 Unfortunately, some are embarrassed. There is still stigma regarding mental health, particularly in communities of color.

[@beautifulinterlude7044]

I read this story on Reddit & you are so right. That’s exactly what I thought of that man when I read it. Just like Mr. on color purple he wanted the sister and she didn’t want him so he kicked her out smh so disgusting

[@classact9991]

That was my first thought!

[@msladypmodel]

Damn thats true

[@commod5568]

Which subreddit was this on?

[@beautifulinterlude7044]

@@commod5568 AITA (am I the asshole)

[@mamat1213]

YEP

[@JustMe-wq4ue]

Look...I had my Best friend's husband send me flowers to my job!😯 He didn't say he wanted me or was attracted to me and I can't even remember the note but it was something simple. .. that didn't give any indication he wanted me. HOWEVER ... I already KNEW THIS was his FIRST ATTEMPT to SEE if I LIKED HIM and wanted to have a secret relationship with him. I WASN'T HAVING ANY PART OF HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND. I gave him the message and I forgot all he said but pretty much thank you for the flowers but no indication I'm interested in him and it's not okay to be sending me any more flowers. NOW HE WASN'T HEARTLESS OR DIDN'T CUSS ME OUT OR ANYTHING NEGATIVE TO MY RESPONSE... but... MOST MEN, I BELIEVE... DO THINK ABOUT SEX ALL THE TIME... AND THE DOGS AND THE HEARTLESS ONES WILL GO FOR IT IN WHATEVER WAY...WITH WHOMEVER...Sister...Best Friends or.co-workers!! I BELIEVE TONY GOT IT RIGHT!!

[@natashatwine7818]

Most men just want food, sports and sex...pretty simple.

[@Cashalfstory]

Yes masculinity is about conquering and competition, while femininity is about appreciating and praising. We need a mix of both but we’ve been conditioned to be too extreme on our ego.

[@moonlyteshadow]

As soon as you said he kicked her out I knew it was sexual. And then when you said he wanted to stay behind while his wife was out of town gave me a red flag.

[@Rebelle07]

I knew immediately he wanted to sleep with her.

[@nonelikememe]

Exactly. He is an evil man. Not to mention he took her phone.

[@p.s.3982]

This is so true. There are men who have two or more relatinships with women that are going on, at different periods in their lives. Some of them feel perfectly justified in having the different relatinships going on at the same time. The man tries his best to make sure that neither of them find out about the other person. I have heard men state that there is nothing wrongwith that. This is heartless to me.

[@osolvholts]

I agree

[@christinewarren8134]

That was exactly why my last relationship ended. He had a double life and seemed so nonchalant once caught. The other woman stated and learned the hard way a cheetah never changes their stripes.

[@singuensful]

This is why you only date men for your own benefits. Money, gifts, connections.

[@Profitglutton90]

@@singuensful that is why more men are dropping out of the dating market and marriage is at historic lows

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

@@singuensful I mean, you can't just build a family with that.

[@mathilda9239]

These are the type of examples that show how these men are unbearable. If she has any sense she would divorce that demon .

[@imgrateful7142]

You are saying exactly what I thought. Once her being there would be of no benefit to him (possible s - x) his sense of hospitality changed. I mean what else could she do for them? He had to already know it would be an intrusion on their daily life. She was in a situation where she ostensibly had no place to go with a small baby. 🍼 He wanted to be alone with her and when she didn't respond to his overtures, (subtle as they might have been) he had to act mad, create conflict and a diversion because she was gonna tell his wife that she felt weirded out by him. 🤢

[@mareelovely]

If that wife has any brains, she would leave that man YESTERDAY.

[@nonelikememe]

That's not heartless it's just plain evil. So glad I was raised by a loving father. There are certain ways to handle things. Even if he felt he had to kick her out. Him keeping her phone is just plain evil.

[@aprilwilliam65]

I was raised by a loving father also so it messes me up to not had never met a comparison at all of him

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

seriously....so many men just hate women. pure and simple

[@taynaburton5828]

That dude is trash! To put out your sister in law with a baby is real piece of work. If he can do her sister like that, you can only imagine what he's putting her, his wife, through..SMH

[@turner2952]

We all need these words of wisdom so much. There are also some men out there that never got over being hurt by a woman, so they take out their hurt and anger on other women. It ends up being a never ending cycle of pain, unless they allow God to change them. Thank you, Mr. Tony. All these vids are teaching moments. They are like water for our souls. PLEASE keep doing the great things you do. God bless you.

[@36msme]

Men are heartless my son he is 25 he is like that at times. I have to let him know it's not acceptable. In some cases.

[@36msme]

@Whatsapp①③①④⑦④⑧⑨②⑨⓪ you are NOT TONY GASKINS HE DONT USE WHATS APP...STOP SCAMMING

[@j-tenn226]

@@36msme 😂😂😂

[@AidaRivera]

I love how honest Tony is. Because everyone else isn’t gonna be this honest with us

[@eyesaidit5195]

I literally thank my God for speaking to me through you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@BronzeNotes]

This reminds me of a story I saw today. A couple had been infertile, at 39 the woman finally had a baby girl. Things didn’t work out, the day the divorce was filed, he strangled their seven year old. They had grown up together as childhood friends and after years of friendship decided to date as adults. Very sad story.

[@VintageAfro91]

How horrible!

[@winblessed1357]

So heartless 💔

[@princesstiffanynews]

Wow so sad

[@ElonNicole]

Excellent video as always. Love learning about the psychology of men

[@mindella7812]

Wow This episode and the comments made me so emotional. 😭 I’m sad for the men that are not nurtured and loved growing up and as a result become cold and I’m even more sad for all the women who have to endure their trauma who turn around and inflict it ... It’s a never ending cycle it seems. Thank you Tony ! God bless you all ! 🙏🏽❤️

[@LadieTasha]

This is so true Tony! Don't let them have done prison time, it's really a wrap‼️

[@VintageAfro91]

As hard as this is to hear, thank you Tony. It explains so much. This is why I now take notes when I listen to your videos. Thank you again.

[@aijalonedwards4327]

Very enlightening. I always wonder am what makes a man like this. This scary and hurtful. It’s sad to know that there are people like this in the world. Thank you Tony! Continue to let God use you! God bless you Sir. You have schooled me a lot.

[@itstimefortea4582]

This was really good and it’s sad we have all experience those kind of men let alone witness this kind of “relationship”. I take saying your vows in front of God very seriously which is why I can not just marry let alone have children with just any man. I wish more women understood this message around the world bc it would save so many lives honestly.

[@shellylen]

I do not understand why some women are so desperate and will put up with anything a man does to them. I wonder if there is something demonic or spiritual going on.

[@christineporter9914]

I see you'll never know how a person heart is until you put into a situation. It's sad how this man put her sister out with her 5 month old baby. What does he expect babies going to cry . Shame though.

[@diamondjack-cooper5322]

Don't underestimate these MEN

[@j-tenn226]

Especially summertime. Stay safe, ladies.

[@MikeandGee]

Tony not lying women, my BD did that with my best friend who was pregnant and I was too broken to see it! Listen to what he saying PLEASE!!!

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

That's deep

[@princesstiffanynews]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 jesus

[@buttafly7525]

That spiderman analogy and expansion was everything! You put it where the goats can get it. Thank you for such clarity and sincerity.

[@KimmyGize]

Wow!!! I thought the same thing, that he wanted to make a move in the sister. Thank you for sharing your truth and educating us!

[@winblessed1357]

Tony thank you for being the realest 💯👊🏽not sugarcoating nothing. You hit the nail right on the head with women not respecting other women. Sad truth 😞

[@LadyAngela678]

Kindness is my first requirement in a man. And I wouldnt allow my sister to stay with me if I was married. I dont want either to be tempted to jump in bed together. I would put her up in her own place before I do that.

[@bosslady874]

Thank you so much for being real and raw!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯

[@nikkinanette8807]

Tony is on the mark 📌 again.

[@foreversimone1156]

my Brother from another mother!!

[@lorigray1150]

I totally agree with you Tony! The moment you said he said he wanted to hang back when the wife went outta town, I knew what time it was..Stevie Wonder could've seen that coming

[@j-tenn226]

How did the wife not suspect that? And the sister?

[@georgiannalaurie9592]

Men don't like to hear the baby cry. They are not use to noise.

[@yayatheunicorn]

I wasn't expecting the "WE ARE"

[@pamelacallahan6156]

I love 💕 😘 u Tony I've learned soooo much from you . Your the real G. O A. T .. Thank you for all you do trust you are impacting life's unbelievable so!!!.

[@leelaluv35]

I needed to hear this! I was in a relationship with an Alpha male who displayed all the characteristics that you mentioned in this video.

[@juliannesharpe3066]

Wise Words Ms. Tenacious - I concur! Good for you TMAC, do Not allow him in again - he already showed you who he is! Thank GOD for that!

[@loveneverends9605]

Powerful and deep message here! Thank you Mr. Gaskins. I receive this message. Praise and glory to God!

[@cuniqueness]

What’s funny in all this they busy mistreating others & not realizing when they become abused.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@36msme]

I want them heartless in some situations when he need to be if another woman involved or family that uses you. Different cases.

[@georgiannalaurie9592]

Before you could tell the story it was the temptation. Second of all I wouldn't have left my sister with my husband.

[@natashadunbar6330]

That’s what I’m thinking. Either she’s gonna tempt him and he’ll fall in the temptation, she’s gonna drug him and he’ll fall into temptation, she’s gonna get raped by him and he will deny it, she’s gonna lie and accuse him of rape, he May actually have a side the wife doesn’t know and try to harm the sister and child. Luke I don’t want no allegations or bs in my absence.

[@kristinaherrejon7181]

Thank you for the transparency Tony.

[@cocoamamaindy]

You are spot on as usual.

[@Thoughts54]

Another night of wisdom. Thank you Tony.

[@olutesola]

That is deep.Word!

[@rowena6872]

Hmmm.....very interesting ! I was told not to cry or show emotion, so it doesn't just happen to men.

[@yourcousinwhooils]

Never really thought about the mentally required to go to war…trauma hits the nervous system and can be inherited…I wonder if some are pre-disposed to being more violent.

[@fishstickbio594]

The best for a female is to put herself always first …..if he likes it good ….if he doesn’t good as well .

[@AidaRivera]

He said “we are” ‼️‼️ Tony is overly honest. I love thank you so much for your help!!!

[@36msme]

I wouldn't be comfortable with anyone moving in my home with me and my husband unless it's my kids ..no sister, no cousins sorry. Say what ya want too....I wouldn't make my husband or myself uncomfortable in our home.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

I feel the same way as well

[@marcellousmcilwain6079]

THANX. That’s something deep!!!

[@LovelyyyyyyDove]

I believe darkness will always come into the light no matter if the woman was to tell it or not...I personally don't believe in cheating at all.. but you right on what you speaking tho...keep on preaching 🗣

[@contrinadurant9846]

Man Tony you are on it. Kudos to you

[@perrismccracken]

So much wisdom in this video. Thank you Tony!

[@Phoenixishot]

Tony stay hittin’ & holdin’ ! Wow, this is a powerful lesson. Thank you!

[@portiawebb533]

MUCH NEEDED!!!!! ✨💪🏽 Thanks Tony!

[@oziomaannieiwuoha4612]

God bless you brother Gaskin. I receive your message wholeheartedly. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Cheers.

[@chaseback5102]

Wooooow!!!! Wanted to sleep with the sister??!? Usually,I can anticipate what you’re about to say…. But that one got me…. Omg… What an eye opener!

[@lthesouthernbelle]

Why are men so quick to always say I’m strong minded then fall off the face of the earth? I just have taken time to heal and something I’m not willing to tolerate. I’m 32 I can’t afford to play out here anymore how can I be as strong as Sheri, but allow someone to diminish my worth no way! Not anymore.

[@Ebizzill]

daing it... adds in the list : must have both loving mother and father present in his life

[@andradeb2695]

What if a 26 year old Man like me still lives with his parents??? I have a job and help with rent and im not bad looking either as i take care of my body via Gym, Meditation, Semen Retention etc...i just feel like it's such a social stigma for Men like me to not be considered serious

[@Ebizzill]

@@andradeb2695 I think its awesome that you still stay at home, I as a woman (unmarried - currently childless ) and if I was your age, you'd definitely be high up as a prospect....(considering that our interests matches or complement one another, and we vibe) This tells me that: 1. You're thinking about your finances by saving... and without having the burden of a house/apartment, you have the ability to focus on your career moves and where you want to move. 2. Tells me that you have a great or a healthy relationship with your parents considering that they're allowing you to stay up in their house as you're trying to figure things out for your future. Often times it seems that the next generation cant advance because we're starting over in every aspects of our life when our parents are supposed to give us a leg up so we can truly enforce generational wealth. 3. Gives you more of a motivation to level up and get on out of there when you're good and ready. I think you should continue focusing in building yourself.. men's stock start increasing around age 35 and by then, if you stay on this path, you would be able to have a place of your own, even if its by you buying up a duplex and having your parents live there and you on the other side (not exactly but some other similar scenario) and you'll have a pick of the best women by then... I highly suggest you focus on building up your network and travel if you can. I get why you'd think its a social stigma, but those who are a genuine will not judge you for that.. keep them close.. and if its a young lady in there... she might be your future Mrs.

[@pinkrainbowkennelz1640]

From myself self education On personalities and experience it's called being narcissistic🤬

[@deet340]

Like the color purple...

[@exposedia3129]

Real talk by Tony as always. Thanks.

[@akilahbatyah6505]

That’s the first thing I thought. This man is dangerous and he don’t care nothing about his wife. Go around breath and britches ladies.

[@Markitta21]

Such a relevant perspective! 👏🏾 Very deep & true

[@rosagatica6349]

Good Lord 2:12 “we are” coming in strong TG lol didn’t see that coming

[@devinedaughter5960]

That is not just a random woman and her baby. That is his sister* in law and his new born *niece*

[@minielaurent3285]

Tony this is verrrryyy true! Preacchhhh the truth brother !!!!✝️

[@minielaurent3285]

AMMMEEENNNNNN……… LADIES LISTEN!!!!! Let him sit in his mess. Gone bout your business. He is rooted and grounded in his decisions. That’s why you see on news a lot of men are killing their wives and kids and end up on news . Leave before it’s too late

[@vmcmillan2]

Very good content Mr. Gaskins! I appreciate your input trying your best to help us look at our lives and make better choices. Thank you sir🙏🏽

[@njc7224]

That's why Arts and extracurricular activities are good, so people have an gender creed or color can express themselves.

[@awilliams382]

❤️❤️❤️ This was a good one for us to hear!!!💯

[@mianorris6696]

The husband has bad character!

[@njc7224]

Thanks Tony Gaskin.

[@lisel.133]

I would have neeeever pieced that story together...omg

[@lupemacias6100]

If the man will open up and communicate, because sometimes it’s like pulling teeth and he just won’t open up and communicate smh

[@jamiestumps6146]

Thank you Jesus, Thank and Praise you Man of God’s! for who you are!

[@MaryamAli-vd1xv]

Thanks so very much love sending your videos to other family members.

[@msladypmodel]

Thank u Tony!!!!!!!!❤❤

[@juliannecok4821]

I figured there was some sexual issue here. Kevin Samuels and his followers need to know that a man who lacks sound, good character CANNOT be High Value.

[@mayasheartdesiire]

Why does it always got to be about sex tho? It’s always that! Just up to no good smh

[@reginarichards7001]

Thank you for the real talk.

[@njc7224]

No one should act to rejection like that.....

[@heyyashleyyy2669]

Wow. The cold truth of this video

[@qscott888]

Yes, let’s hear your take on that.

[@ashleybush5132]

Nice one🖤🙏🏾

[@modavis2708]

Thank you !

[@coleendaniels5261]

Thank u Bro Gaskins love how u simply 💯❤just tell the truth uncut thank you for investing 🙏in us