Why do people brag? | Irene Scopelliti | TEDxSquareMile

[@BDParadigm]

Self promoters braggers are people who need others to admire and envy them. This is their way to get self importance, to feed their ego. Without self importance, they feel empty inside...it is actually a superiority complex which is actually an inferiority complex when you dig deeper. What they lack is self love, self acceeptance ,inner security.

[@pluviophile1988]

I don't think it's about insecurity it's more about conforming. Everyone else does so I have to too. Sheep.

[@ali-13392]

After much struggle and work on my inner self, I believe now I have zero desire of appreciation and a need to get approval from others. We must silence our egos in order to truly succeed in life

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@zacktyler2810]

@@klachingmacgaming8400 Facts. We all agree on that. Nobody likes a person who brags so much. Especially on Facebook or any social media.

[@zacktyler2810]

@@pluviophile1988 Exactly.

[@surfthewav3]

I think the conclusion is that braggers like to think they are sharing positivity, but they are actually sharing how poorly they feel about themselves in doing so.

[@Beinhartwie1chopper]

You got it nailed

[@vincentkingsdale8334]

Some just brag about their success....a lot.... and don't feel poorly about themselves at all

[@surfthewav3]

@@vincentkingsdale8334 If they stopped bragging, they would. That is the reason why they are bragging.

[@wonderland1452]

I think everyone should keep all their things to their own. It’s not others biz! I used to post my achievements on Facebook , now I don’t. It’s not others biz , and I found most people are not happy for you anyway. I don’t need to promote myself my biz in this way.

[@LTilli313]

SAME!! Most people want you to do good, but NOT better than them, if they think you are doing better than they are, they will find some way to put you down. I also realized i had developed a complex : in order to make people not feel bad, &avoid bragging, i was doing the OPPOSITE-- I found myself down-playing my own achievement all the time to aquaintances, co-workers, everyone!! Do you think people stopped bragging to me about themselves though?? No, just the opposite!! It finally clicked in my mind -- why am i doing this??!So now, I am trying every which way to stop putting myself down. I've also come to the conclusion-- it's okay to celebrate your achievements with as much humility as possible & infrequently-- i think that's okay & if someone still gets mad? That's on THEM. I also no longer look for affirmation from other people, including social media, unless it's my close inner circle of trusted family members/friends. And when other people brag around me, i just listen & never feel the need to compete with them -- don't play their game!! Its them being insecure with themselves ❤

[@projectnect4r710]

@@LTilli313 That’s a very powerful statement. Thanks for sharing!

[@LTilli313]

@@projectnect4r710thank you for your kind words! i was kinda on my soapbox, but it is def something that has been on my mind lately and I'm really trying to change!! I am glad someone could relate ☺

[@glorious6779]

True!! I like to keep things close to my chest. Keep a bit of mystery and people will like you more.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@santanapage5044]

People who brag constantly irritate me to the depths of my soul! It's so annoying, I always have to act like I care when I don't, let your achievements and accomplishments speak for themselves, geese it's annoying 😤

[@shutdown8947]

Yeah 👍

[@chrisleearies484]

There's a broad I used to go out with and she constantly brags on facebook about her so called big house out in the woods, it gets so annoying that banning her would be the only solution to her constant bragging. She's competitive against others and is jealous of other women and the only way she can boost her ego is to cake on makeup and brag about her simp boyfriends possesions being hers on facebook and the simptards are giving her all the validation.

[@Misha0013]

i think its your problem since you cant be genuine with them (and yourself) and say its annoying dont send it to me. so your presenting yourself as someone your not.

[@naomimitchell4443]

yes it is annoying I agree, but you don't have to act like you care, just ignore them or tell them to stop bragging :)

[@markseyfried]

Amen!!!

[@justpassingby3409]

people who brag just motivate me to have good things and I behave as humble as possible and I always try to motivate others as well

[@CoronIslandFreediver]

same

[@jennifers2534]

The braggers I have dealt with seem completely oblivious to this concept (being humble). I have tried it myself many times and the braggers I have dealt with are completely clueless to the concept of being humble even when I tried to demonstrate it by example.

[@katarinaguttierez2249]

Im on different pole. I hate people who basically brags their riches. Remember we live in a broken world and not all people no matter how much hard work they do they will never achieve the things other people have. Basically you are making them feel bad for their situation and it is already a depressing society where people do not have the chance that other people have born to. God hates braggarts because they chose not to humble themselves when in reality we all have different callings in life. Some people are thirsty of chance like other people who by birth have it. In this broken world where smart people do not necessarily becomes successful in life, where wise people do not always get ehatever they want no matter how much they tried. It is all about chances it's like winning a lottery

[@Bella-ke7pr]

Seeking the approval of others.

[@KFC431]

Bragging has become a really normal thing in social media and lot people are bragging in social media not to brag but for the sake of doing it

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@gtgamerhumanoid7187]

The thing I see from the people who show off is mostly they r insecure and have low self esteem...they always need validation from others... literally attention seekers...just exclude all their fancy things and they have nothing to tell....

[@Who_Let_the_Dawn_In]

This is an excellent study and I really enjoyed this video. Reducing the empathy gap is very important, no doubt! However, the problem is even if the intention of the braggers is to "force" their positive feelings upon others (as in, happy, positive intentions), they do not like to be on the receiving end as in, they are not interested in hearing your bragging. And If you play their game, they are likely to continue the cycle of so called "forcing those positive feelings" just to have one up on you. It would only make sense if the braggers were experiencing the positive feelings when bragging and also when bragged at - but they don't and in fact, many despise it. It's a very fascinting kind of lack of integrity.

[@silviamceja194]

Hi Donna I really liked everything you wrote. Can you please explain the part when you say “forcing those positive feelings just to have up on you” I often find myself in the receiving end of conversations with someone. Please help me understand better if you can

[@kenishahammond3935]

Oh my gosh you hit the nail right on the head because my niece brags about herself so much and how beautiful she is but when I say the same thing about myself she doesn't say anything back and to me that means either she's got some low self-esteem about herself or she really doesn't feel that way which is rather interesting yikes!

[@juranpark2342]

I find that people who brag a lot are the ones most annoyed when others brag.

[@fakename3440]

*True*

Wow! Very insightful!

[@tishybangbang]

Right because its competition for their pride

[@Jesperwalde]

Very true

[@shotikotevdorashvili4959]

soo true

[@rickjamez4987]

Braggers are insecure. I used to brag a little bit until I realized how awful it looked to the "trained eye." It is a sign of a weakness and not thinking very highly of yourself. Parents who brag on their children are even more sickening and are trying to live vicariously through them to put things in other people's faces. It is not a sign of esteem about their accomplishment but more a societal jab and overall show of disdain for their hate of most people. They hate themselves so they hate everyone else.

[@ATXpert]

just because you stop bragging doesn't solve the problem, i am having a problem of sometimes needing to brag, but if i dont brag i still have the need to do it, i just don't.

[@ATXpert]

@Mr. Obama Jr. Thanks, I actually don't feel a need to brag anymore I kinda feel "free"

[@johnscuderi1614]

It looks awful but so does being a jealous person. Jealousy is not a good look on someone either. If a person is proud of their achievement and wants to share it with me then being unhappy for them or jealous is equally as toxic. I'm always happy for my friends achievements even if it seems a bit like they are bragging. Its only bragging if you are an unhappy and jealous person. Otherwise you would just be happy for their excitement. I find that most people who see others as bragging are highly envious people who are constantly unhappy with themselves.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@beezlebub9]

I think bragging parents are not sharing hate. Rather, they seem to be quiet narcissistic and trying to live through their child; it shows a great inferiority complex and is damaging to the child specially if the bragging is founded on lies.

[@arricammarques1955]

Seeking validation for low self esteem.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@nicolewood7188]

I was friends with an Irish family who were always boasting about how good they are. And were always putting other's down behind there back. And making out that others were jealous of them. It's really sickening

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@eddieshaw1659]

The braggers I’m dealing with are friends...

[@verbon47]

tip, get other friends.

[@musiccabin]

great points about looking at the issue from both the bragger and receiver's ends!! i think socially, we were encouraged to brag about our achievements at a young age as a way of increasing self-confidence and self-assurance. i know i used to "brag" more when others around me gave me disapproval, but this only made me rely more on gaining approval from others to get my self-confidence.

[@satishfaction1110]

It's good to actually express and share something that we did or what we are happy about, to the right people.. but the problem is when we want to do that in a manner that's demeaning their life since they didn't do it!

[@FluWorldOrder]

Insecure people compensate by bringing attention to themselves with boastful lies. This braggard guy 70+ said that he was a professional dog trainer, and that the police would book him for demonstrations and workshops. There was a dog that the police service said was untrainable and that they were going to destroy. He however claimed that he intervened and took the dog on to the astonished the police officers. This was an easy BS story to dispell. What do you think I did?

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@rmg2419]

What did you do? and why do you think a 70+ year old have the need to brag?

[@shutdown8947]

Lol

[@glorious6779]

I don't get annoyed. My husband asked Don't I get annoyed that my sister brags about this and that. And I thought about it and it was a no. She is insecure and wants to be praised for her achievement so that's what I do. Like you do with a child. I'm happy. I'm happy that through my depression it's made me realise we are all the same. No one better than the other. We all die. It's hard to feel certain feelings. Depression has had its positive. Only now I'm on medication. It hasn't cured my depression. But the phycotic depressive thoughts are not there. Yes. I'm thankful!! I'm thankful for my life. I do have questions to God tho. Just as Job did.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@shutdown8947]

I felt that yo!

[@oneness1_]

...there's a thing called denial

[@angelareyes1920]

Lack of self-awarenesss!

[@corinnecerminaro9753]

I worked in a company where the job description included having the character trait of humility. After I started working there I realized what they really wanted was submissive employees who would sit quietly during leadership’s self promoting brag sessions. In retrospect, the “must be humble” requirement stuck out to me and it seemed odd.

[@mallardofmodernia8092]

How does one celebrate and share an achievement without coming off as braggy because i genuinely get overexcited from any achievement i am pleased with.I never want to come off as braggy but it seems i do despite my friends saying i dont. I get the same excitement from others achievements especially ones i myself would be proud of like mastering a niche skill however people dont often see that excitement as it is often portrayed through mic conversations and not physical contact and can come off as ingenuine,fake or overplayed into sarcasm. Anyone who reads this thanks for reading, i appreciate it, more than you may think.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@screwpuercos2671]

Can you please shut up mac gaming

[@jennhilda9569]

One aspect that was overlooked is the family dynamic. One sibling who had always been overlooked in favor of the golden child. When the overlooked child’s own child makes all A’s and makes all academic awards, that child wants to show that I have something over the precious child. The mental hurt is so real and it can come out as petty social media “bragging “ about his or her child’s achievements. This is not the fault of the child/parent but the original parent for creating such a divide.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@wednesdayschild3627]

My parents did that. I never share any of my or my children's accomplishments. I share things I think are interesting that other people might be interested in.

[@wednesdayschild3627]

@@klachingmacgaming8400 possibly, but is too much sharing of accomplishments provacation?

[@brendadrew834]

Not every time someone tells another person or people what they're doing or where they're going or where they've been or what they've accomplished is bragging! It all depends on their tone of voice and body language i.e. facial expressions. If they have a snotty snearing look and tone of voice that's condescending than that's bragging other than that they're simply telling others about their lives and what's up! I think we need to make that distinction.

[@ATXpert]

i don't agree, a good bragger will say it in a regular tone because he thinks that no matter the tone. what he says is what matters, so he will still feel better after bragging, i always had this deep need to brag, i guess im insecure?, im trying to stop its hard because its an automatic for me

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@mirai1-p8g]

I've got a family member that brags about the same thing multiple times and the worse thing is it isn't even something to be that proud of. It feels soo annoying.

[@manhwamaniac21]

I am a bragger, I am like a open book, used and thrown. This lead me to lose friends, feel insecure and become a laughing stock. Here to absorb the things forgive myself and move on.

[@dragonsrexmake]

they just want to make people jealous thats why and to have friends and make others have a miserable life they just want support on what they get and to make people jealous

[@you-in-yourfeelings7166]

I never think that, I really don't think that's the goal, in my opinion the goal is for me to be like, " wow, they are so special, they are smart, they are extraordinary, I like them, I want to be their friend."

[@fakename3440]

@@you-in-yourfeelings7166 yeah that's what I think. I sometimes brag but not to make everybody else jelous.

[@katarinaguttierez2249]

@@fakename3440 exactly a sign of insecurity. You may noy realize it buy you are and i also sometimes do it that's why i gate myself for doing it. We live in a world where we unconsciously advertise ourseleves in order to not feel we are not "in" or being left out.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

Someone who constantly talks about their accomplishments and blessings can be annoying. Usually that's all they share

[@mercuryme1375]

I think bragging sometimes is necessary to fight someone who try to bring u down. It is needed so that people know who you are n not looking down on you. The only problem is when it has become too much. So, just be moderate.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@christopherthreadgill6195]

@@klachingmacgaming8400 you just can’t spell.

[@oneness1_]

There is no need to brag...ppl can see your good work as actions DO speak louder than words!

[@neo5kali]

Bragging is a good tactic in a sports game. Like with Game 6 last year when the Warriors beat the Celtics during the finals and Step Curry pointed to his fourt finger to signify he was about to get his fourth championship ring

[@LeNguyen-im8dm]

I love to hear those people who share their success. I never think they are bragging. I get free information and I learn from them. They give me more motivation to improve my self. For those people who feel annoyed and think others are bragging because they are too arrogant and they think they are better, so they don’t want to listen. I always admire successful people, especially women.

[@youngsoulmusic4614]

I brag and at the same time hated bragging ...it is something I’m working on ...I see it in my brother worse then me ..my father is heavy as a bragger

I do it, but I hate when my husband does it. It makes me feel sad and less than.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@GuitarWithBrett]

I'm at point of life where I just have no time/patience for Braggers. There's millions of people on this planet and many are easy/fun to be around. When younger I used to care more about pleasing people or not protecting my own sense of having a good life.

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

I don't have respect for most braggers. It's self centeredness. I appreciate someone who achieves and can share without bragging, I'll support their happiness anytime. People can see your achievement and doing good so why you bringing it up over and over. And what purpose is bragging to someone who has nothing or little. You would be insensitive and not lifting up anyone but yourself. It's all in how you do it too. Are you Sharing a bit or bragging, bragging is another level of expressing it. Boasting yourself.. boasting and bragging is not a good quality if it makes other feel less than , jealous or left out. So my friend she has a really good job got more hours and money, she said calmly " I'm doing better at my job she said , I received a raise so we can go more places together. " Now way she said it made me feel good and included me. It enabled me to rejoice with her easily.

[@btbfree]

I am dealing with a person who brag about herself almost 100% of our conversations. It's called monologue form of conversation. They are very unpleasant and narcissist. Sometimes, they are afflicted with hypomania, which will lead to bipolar disorder. Namaste from USA. 🇺🇸😑🌼🌷🕊

[@ATXpert]

you can brag too and it will make them stop, or change subject

@@ATXpert I tried bragging too and they just one up me every time and I lose. It's not worth it to even play the game.

[@ATXpert]

@ trueee

[@manojs3728]

How very true . have a relative who fits above description. Am scared. God help us to survive. Namaste from India

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

It is irritating if they do it alot

[@ToolkitforQuarterlife]

This talk is so inspiring! Thank you for this research!

[@bmw_m4255]

She just googled everything

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@Georgia1981]

that’s why i don’t have an insta-lie account 😂 and i hardly access my in-your-face book 🤣

[@Happiness379]

🤣😂🤣😂

[@zoltanwilson4277]

@The Neophyte Same here, Bro. I am deleting both accounts soon.

[@Dulce-cm2kx]

Yep. I deleted all my accounts except YT. My life is now drama free and way more peaceful!!!

[@MsOrquid]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@birdieculture]

@@Dulce-cm2kx Good for you 👍👍, I haven't had social since 2014 either lmao Lets use our time for better purposes and make wise choices together!!

[@kizzy2874]

braggers are energy vampires.

[@userm4009]

so true

[@userm4009]

doorslam them👏 live your own life

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

It's very self centered, all about them

[@benj3781]

I have always had a problem with bragging I just do it without trying and no one seems to notice now because I have gotten decent at stopping but it annoys ne because I still do it and it is hard to stop and yea I am pretty insecure but I dont think I do it to put others down I think I do it to make myself feel better

[@fabiolacuevas8912]

1banj yeah same honestly. Knowing that I brag is literally the worst. I’m going to do my absolute best to stop though.

You have a very high level of self awareness! Commend yourself! But, don't brag about it, lol🤣

@@fabiolacuevas8912 Forgive yourself. We do it to get affirmation, validation and love from others, but sometimes it can offend others if done competitively.

[@FluWorldOrder]

It is not just young people that brag, I know a guy 70+ and he always finds the need to big himself up. When I made the mistake of introducing him to the local Vicar he went off on a self-promoting annedote which was embarrassing. He was completely unaware of what he was doing. However I was cringing inside because it was so unnecessary and boastful.

[@dawnsstar5918]

Tell me about it. Uuuck

[@dawnsstar5918]

I have one "friend" that is a constant braggart. I don't let on how annoying it is to hear her/him going on and on about what house they are going to buy...........next mind you. What it will have in it, and in the next breath worrying about if they can afford it. It's a Segway to what kind of money they have, on and on we go. After 6 times of hanging out...hey, I gave them a chance I..... I had it and haven't hung out with them in over a year and may never again...uuuckk. When I do meet them somewhere, like the mall, it's how come you (me) don't call me to go out. LOL.......because you're B-O-O-O-O-O-R-I-N-G, please don't mix that up with jealousy. If they were fun, even funny, talked with other people, instead of snubbing them, smiled once in a while, and weren't so stuck up they could be a millionaire times over or poor as hell, and I would be still hanging out with them. Why do people think that their bragging makes friends. (?????)

[@Feber2001]

Insecurity. They need your validation, that's why they brag.

[@manojs3728]

@@flutingaround Oh my ! 100+ on same and different topics. Imagine! Compulsion gives me patience and insight to suffer and keep going. No other way. God help.

[@sabarca714]

Thank you Irene, this has been a very helpful tool for helping me understand how I perceive life. 🕊️⚡

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@purpdist2355]

People brag because they want to feel better than- they want to feel special and rub it in your face that they have more than you... To make you jealous and feed off of that energy. So my advise is not to get jealous because then you're giving them exactly what they want.

[@jazminrl]

when do you know someone is bragging or maybe is my perspective ... maybe they are just trying to do their best.. or share their happiness and pride .

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@ex0ticfr3quency33]

omg what an interesting video! the psychology of bragging is very intriguing because I think everyone has bragged about something in their life. I think everyone will cross this road in their life. Crazy bragging is narcissistic and unhealthy...but being proud in a healthy way isn't wrong! :)

[@liachanelsolodoe858]

I agree

[@twintower8274]

how do I explain my mother in law bragging about others all the time

[@infinitezest3912]

twin tower she's overcompensating because she pities "the others" herself and is looking for either vindication for her beliefs or correction from others

[@zahraahmed6496]

twin tower, bring for her book, news paper, or Videos talk about humble or low bragging. So that she can hear it from someone else. I hope that helps.

[@chairde]

I have a brother who brags about how much money he has. Someone must have called him out. He asked me to tell him anytime he starts bragging about his money. Maybe that is his way of apologizing.

[@James_36]

at least he has awareness, mine is non stop and has no time or care for others lives, brags or accomplishments and switches off. depressing really

[@randomzombie2455]

I only brag about 3 things. I never over exaggerate them, and they are things that mean a lot to me!

[@shutdown8947]

Please tell me what they are, and also I want you to honestly brag about those 3 things?

[@joesparlin4268]

Actions speak for themselves

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@kinarast]

I'm a self promoter but personally speaking, I acknowledge my own self promotion. I know the other's feeling of it and yet I still do it because of my own insecurities :/

[@silviamceja194]

Hi I think that you admitting this is great! When you say you know others feeling of it and yet still do it what do you mean? My husband and I both have our own business and he always brags about his because I don’t make as much money as him but I am going to college and he is not. Please tell me why you think he does this? He seems to enjoy repeating that having more money than me is he’s smarter because money talks according to him.

[@pluviophile1988]

People don't seem to hate bragging anymore, it's become the norm. Actually, the bragging posts get WAY more likes than other posts. I think people just feel the need to fit in its so annoying.

[@Neji1984]

Not to brag but I’m the best person commenting on this video

You are funny🤣😂

[@sanjai.r98]

😂😂

[@Feber2001]

Here's a medal.🏅

[@indaybadjangmybestfriend3109]

😂😂😂

[@kazapope2888]

I brag on FB, like going to concerts, my abs, my fashions, and self photos, just following the SM trend a bit and only for fun. But, no way in person would you ever hear me telling just anybody randomly about my this and that unless you are exclusively close families of mine. Also, when I’m not on FB I don’t think about it at all.

[@maryellenputnam-reinhardt3305]

Thank you for this!

[@angelareyes1920]

Love the word METICULOUS UPDATES!

[@Velos3]

i work with a female co worker and she just started to talk about how boys think that girls can't work with tools. that may be a prejudice, i said. after 5 seconds of silence she said; well I know how to handle with tools. and my boyfriend underestimated me. "okay... so what?" I thought. i mean, girl I don't care. did I ask you? no. why are you telling me this?!

[@you-in-yourfeelings7166]

I work with one, it is utter torture. I put my head phones in, and he just keeps going, he doesn't get a clue. I'm short with answers, he doesn't catch on. Annoying af. How do I get him to shut up? Talks a hole in my head.

[@you-in-yourfeelings7166]

@@flutingaround I dont work with him anymore thank god.

[@georginikolov1141]

Cause we are narcissists but there is nothing going we can do about it..We become self aware and all that but is not enough this is like voice of constant superiority inside your head is sad place to be but it is what is

[@justarandomcat6869]

My mom always brags about my “high” academics and I’m just always like “ew no” because honestly there are MANY, MANY other students who are way better than me.

[@kinarast]

Same but I'm a bragger myself to my friend. I am a person that know the situation but don't do anything about it because my desire or fears control me more than my brain. I feel something is missing if I don't brag and stuff. I guess it's time to change? It's going to be hard but I'll try I guess. I experience negative emotions more than the average in my opinion. I experience it and yet I don't act on it. Naive af

[@Misha0013]

But how do you know its "bragging' and not "sharing happiness with your close ones"? For example if im having a great time (happends rarely) i tend to share with family and friends knowing that their mood will also elevate (being happy for me). So how to know its bragging and not sharing happiness ?

[@josethegameplaya7775]

Great speech!

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@mitchigansmith2456]

So true. In fact, all superiority complexes mask inferiority complexes.

[@ThatGurlRiRi77]

People that brag about frivolous and materialistic things are so dang annoying. So when they start Bragg about that $3,000 all inclusive trip to Jamaica. When people do that in my presence I play along too. I start bragging about my high GPA and graduating at the top of my class in College. This is something they themselves have never achieved. So you see if your gonna brag please brag about something that is important. Bragging is done in poor taste and it’s very exciting hearing about peoples spontaneous trip every once in awhile. Just not every time I’m at an event 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Truth be told after awhile everyone starts to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher to me. Womp, Wawa Womp 😂😂😂😂

[@sabarca714]

Dope track. 🖤🕊️

[@younescha2359]

Bragging when the things you want share with peoples, either : - You think that they think less of you (ex: poor, not smart or somehow in things you don't like), so you try to show off opposite. Which it 2 ways, either : # who told u, they think like this, maybe the opposite. # they are right, sometimes is good to acceptance, self love, etc... # they are wrong, (I'm still thinking about the solution) - You feel they lack of something : # Think ur in their place (u maybe one day), that wouldn't be much interesting. # They're showing interest about it, bragging about it that thing will be important for you (you used to see it as not as much) which make you more weak.

[@denisegaskin3417]

That is exactly how my family is

Mine too. I'm tired of competing with other people. I want love, affirmation, and validation. I want to stop bragging and not be hurt when other people close to me brag.

@Mr. Obama Jr. Please stay in your lane with your own human complexities and I'll do the same.👍🏽 Cool? Cool.👍🏽

[@torrisali2082]

I've never known a person who brags or shows off wealth to die happy. They'll have a spouse, kids, & financial wealth but somehow they die unfulfilled every time.

[@lightlydark416]

You should only brag to people on the same level as you..if you find you need to.

[@RojitaCali]

No offense, but I think this is the worst Ted Talk ever. She never really got to the whole point of what the subject is.

[@unpopulardollsdontreadrepl8453]

she did it..empathy gap and people being emotionally miscalibrated

[@loriehane188]

My facebook consists of a few of these women. Every day I see a new luxury item, lavish trip, and 5-star restaurants. I also see that all of these ladies promote themselves as Christian women but are always throwing microaggressions around. Interesting study. I would like to hear a study on the individuals who are consistent with the promoter group

[@fionadotson3105]

Deleted fbook last year I was ANNOYED daily 😡

[@zoltanwilson4277]

Fiona Dotson Same.

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@Gasta1983]

Look at the comments. No one is admitting the fact that they are bragging by deprecating other braggers. Seems like everyone but you is a braggard. Don't you find it very indicative of the very nature of bragging?

[@Emma-nl5wk]

As Baz Very true. I also find the idea of being annoyed with someone who’s just stating a personal fact, that happens to be very great, interesting. At least for me, the thing that annoys me about it isn’t that they’re “bragging”, it’s how I feel after comparing myself to them. Insecure. So isn’t that what we should address? Cause if people can’t be happy for each others successes, then I don’t think that bragging is the problem..

[@Feber2001]

Not everyone..

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@taisdeoliveira1689]

Everyone brags. Read the comments carefully and you will notice a lot of people bragging about not being a bragger. It is human nature, we all want to share how great we are, how ethical we are, how right we are, how wrong the other person is... I do not think there is any problem bragging if you want to just share your accomplishments. That's how we get jobs, clients, a romantic partner... What if "braggers" are just people very comfortable (not really insecure) sharing their wins. What if the recipient is just so insecure that they feel like other's accomplishments are ways to attack them? I do believe there are people out there just being jerks boasting ( and even lying) and completely lacking empathy, but not everyone. Question is: what if the "bragger" is just a confident person who is proud of their wins and wants others to feel happy for them? AND what if the "recipient" tends to just be insecure enough to perceive other's achievements as a way of comparison? What do you guys think, curious to hear the takeaway?

[@No_Handle1]

Tais Health Coach I agree that we all brag at times because it’s human nature, but at the same time, people who brag habitually tend to forget that the bragging starts rubbing people the wrong way, it gets old. The listener over time can become resentful and jealous which is human nature too! Like enough already! I had someone tell me that they talk about themselves in a positive light in order to bring positivity to the conversation or to switch the subject on a positive note. I mean this person couldn’t think of anything else positive to talk about other than themselves rather than trying to relate to the listener. They put themselves on a high pedestal in the conversation thinking it will make the conversation better. Sometimes bragging can backfire.

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

Depends how they do it. Why bragg to someone that's has nothing, that's lack empathy. It's all in how you do it. Why would you bragg how many friends you have to someone that's has none. Or bragg you have a job to someone struggling to find one. What positive is that.

[@grandpaxd2886]

Im always greedy amd jealous. I tried stopping. I can't. Can't stop looking at computer specs others have and see that they have better specs than me. Because They either Are youtubers or are rich.

[@tashaylawitcher7927]

Grandpa XD Maybe you could try logging out of social media and see if your jealousy countinues on.

[@verbon47]

see a therepist maybe

[@Ozicrackalak]

Amazing info deep down really we all knew this just didn’t want to believe it I guess

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@andrewlamb3585]

"Bragging" is how a jealous person labels happy people because they're unable to be happy for someone who is happy themselves. Self promotion also comes from a lack of people supporting and promoting them. So, if people are jealous and they don't support their friends, they're toxic and shouldn't be in your life anyways. Don't like people being happy and sharing their happiness on social media? Get off of social media. If someone else's happiness upsets you, go work on yourself instead of trying to bring the happy people down to your level.

[@mokenistic]

Andrew Lamb I agree with you 100% I had to copy part of what you said and paste it here"Bragging" is how a jealous person labels happy"

I think it's fine to share your good fortune. Some people who brag never give validation or affirmation to other people, it's like they're in competition.

[@yesseniagutierrez6443]

It’s always the people that think “everyone is jealous of them” that find “bragging normal”. Sorry to burst your bubble but absolutely no one wakes up every morning thinking about you and “being jealous of you”. People have lives and FYI no one cares 😂

[@arielg6666]

@ You said this perfectly !! I know someone who only speaks of their success and material items, but when someone else speaks about their success and life he ignores them ! He ignores them because he wants to be the only one who’s doing well in life. Smh

[@octopusslayer7621]

I would never prevent anyone from bragging, it's the best unforced intelligence gathering opportunity to exist. How many languages do you know, again?

[@STAR-LIGHT.1111]

We just broke up 😭😭 My friend : Shows her ring on valentinesday en other gifts and send some love pictures. Me: i'am really happy for you! But i feel so bad you know we broke up right? Im crying right now and don't want to see it on this moment sorry. The bragging friend goes on and on i always reply positve and happy but i'ts getting so enoying, always big and expesive.. and when i'am happy she ignores it. Wtf , i love her but idk what she wants?¿

[@msliberated3899]

Trust your gut. Don’t listen to her brag n avoid her or distract yourself from engaging with her

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

Very insensitive or she did that on purpose? Too much bragging is annoying if it's self centered

[@rishovbiswas386]

i know i brag a lot, sorry for that too

Thank you for apologizing! I do it too, but it makes me feel sad and less than when my husband does it.

[@Rachel-pk9iq]

I do it bc i want attention from others...u know at my school there are rlly popular kids who brag...they have Iphones macbooks and other things...i just want to be one of the popular kids bc i dont want my classmates to judge me anymore...they make fun of me and i just wanna be cool so they cant make fun of me and understand me I have low-self esteem... When i see them it looks like they're perfect..on social media they posts videos of them laughing and Chatting and while im the quiet kid.. I cant express myself and idk why...i just think they'll judge me ...

[@heatherschaeffer4579]

We all have triggers with braggers. I have positive reaction from people i know and don't know about achiements, owning a home or car, obtaining New job even winning the lottery. Although, I had many horrible rlts, 2 broken marriages and being a single parent fallling in love w mommas boys ect. Married, women that communicate w me my husband this my husband that, I shut down and say that is nice and if they want to hang out w me I get on my phone, give short answers, or call myself so the persons sees I am too busy f them.

[@iammayuresh]

How is marketing different from bragging?

[@rebeccamarkee2791]

Ask them to share and that shuts them up ;)

[@katelynschannel3666]

yep

[@katarinaguttierez2249]

if you are a christian you would know. God opposes the proud and exalts the humble. He emphasized more about not boasting you have because this is what we call the grace of God. We do not earn and deserve it but we receive it because He is good. In this broken world, not all people have the same chances no matter how hardworking you are. Some people want the chance that the privilege people have. We have to consider that not all people have the same situation as we do. Some of them just do not have everything at all no support system, broken homes cannot finance for themseleves to get some education. And also not all people are as intelligent as mark zuckerberg or have mutiple skills to get by in life. These people are hardworking people too they work 3-5 jobs but still far from being "privileged enough" to be drinking their coffee in starbucks.

[@luv_tacobell]

There is a girl at my school who always brag about how she had something like 3 heart surgeries. I don’t know why but it gets on my nerves and like she says that when she was a baby she needed to have a defibrillator or something like that. Am I normal?

Yes, you are normal. Sometimes people just want understanding and empathy. But it can be annoying, because we want that too. Everybody wants it sometimes.

[@gemmajanebrookes5395]

This is Brilliant.

[@ArtandKitchen_]

Bragging is constant in social media. And people are liking them more LOL

[@user-gd4hu1ye5z]

Wish this was about why people feel threatened or bothered about someone bragging.

[@dawnsstar5918]

It's okay once in a while, but when you make an effort to constantly one up, or continuously go on and on about how much money you have,......it's BORING. Change the subject.

[@user-gd4hu1ye5z]

Dawn's Star sometimes that person feels really proud of themselves and can't help themselves but to share with their so called "friends" of their accomplishments. I bet your parents wouldn't feel annoyed if you shared with them of what you are constantly accomplishing they will feel proud and congratulate you, they will also be very happy. Admit it, the truth is you cannot constantly share your accomplishments with your friends because deep down inside subconsciously they feel threaten they aren't doing as good as you are, unlike your parents who had you and truly really love and care for you they will not take it as bragging and they will congratulate you every day if they have to. I noticed this when in a short period in my life I graduated college, got a car, a house, and a great job everything was happening so quickly, I shared this with my parents then my friends my friends didn't even congratulate me they said "lol finally you have a job after all those years of being in college" (they did not go to college they went to work after high school, i was in college working on my degree for 4 years with no job) and my parents congratulated me, I realized that "friends" really don't want to see you do better than them, "family" the ones who truly care about you are going to be the ones who are proud and will NOT take it as bragging. I understand though it must be difficult being in the shadow and having that one friend who has everything the best thing to do is to keep your mouth shut and not share accomplishments with friends who are not doing so well,

[@dawnsstar5918]

A parent and their offspring are under a different kind of relationship than someone you hang out with going clubbing and out to dinner with. You wouldn't talk to your parents about your latest fling, would you. No, you'd talk about it with a close friend, albeit, not go on and on every tiny detail. Parents WANT to hear their children's accomplishments. It's a "family" thing. A friend WILL feel happy for you, if they are a true friend, and especially if you went through a struggle to get where you are. But no one likes a conversation totally about how much money they have and what they are going to buy, every conversation, all the time, every time. It gets old. Even if she was bragging to a millionaire, I am sure the millionaire would get bored, too.

[@user-gd4hu1ye5z]

Dawn's Star Like I said parents love to hear and friends hate to hear. Its a subconscious thing. And to me there is a huge difference between talking about your accomplishments when you accomplish things and being evil and bragging. To me bragging is like literally saying "haha i have this and you don't" like I said friends low key feel bad/threatened when you tell them about accomplishments and take them in as you bragging, parents don't because you are their child. It doesn't matter if you have a different relationship with your parents because that is what i am saying your parents take it differently because they care and wouldn't feel jealous of their child

[@susiebear3316]

N true friends don't low-key hate on you sweetheart however if a true friend points out that you have a problem you should take heed to it some of my best friends in this world ARE people that will tell me things that I do not want to hear so likewise if someone is telling you that you are excessively bragging and you don't take their advice then it sounds like you have gone above and beyond bragging and straight into the arena of narcissism if all these people are supposedly jealous of you YOU ARE the only common denominator I can kind of see one or two people having an issue but not when it's always occurring there's a difference between being thankful grateful that you've accomplished something or have achieved a certain financial status As opposed to just constantly trying to impress just to be noticed and envied Whenever people that are constantly saying that others are jealous of them it's usually your own projection You yourself are probably the very jealous of other people that's why you feel the need to brag all the time it's the same concept with people that say they don't trust anyone usually they themselves are not trustworthy people it all projection life experience has taught me a lot I like to sit back and observe people my observations are accurate all the time

[@userm4009]

i know how it feels to be happy or sad so dont think this applies to me

[@klachingmacgaming8400]

braging is bieng jelous because if some one brags about a tree she grew people dont usaly get annoyed but when someone shows off a car that is expensive people say your showing off say someone is showing of is you just bieng jelous

[@Killbill217]

Try to be in recipients shoes to realise whether it will be positive or negative emotional impact Share with people who really care Believing that we genuinely share their positive emptions

Wow, that it SO progressive! Kudos and blessings to you!

[@jameseaston5375]

This is why I don't have a facebook account.

[@IndependentNewsforyou]

Still didn't answer why people brag... Pointless talk

[@yonathank132]

These are the important slept on videos

[@flowersoil7309]

Interesting!

[@zyo2502]

Kings back in the day were bragging a lot

[@Jaxxon123]

The difference was the whole world didn't have to look or listen to it.

[@KellyK387]

We have a new girl at work. We work at home in sales. That group of new folks was trained differently, and she is young. I was told she likes to flirt with the manager and she has a man I saw . This girl will brag about her sales all day . She wants everyone to know how hot she is. She even started trying to coach ppl and upload scripts she has edited. She is a pain in the neck.

[@C53Maximoff]

Very nice :)!

[@1234michelle1]

Ma’am respectfully this video is misleading. If someone’s success isn’t inspiring you to do better but you think their bragging, turn the eye back on you. You have a choice, inspiration or jealousy and feeling low. I believe all people are capable of greatness, someone expressing their greatness does not diminish yours. Intention is very important. A persons heart is important when they speak on what they’ve achieved. This was hard to watch and you put your friend down for sharing great parts of her life that she gets to connect and share with other likeminded people smh

[@christopherpearson7437]

You can state your accomplishments but have common sense. If I make 30 an hour what sense does it make to state your accomplishments to a McDonald’s worker making 15 like oh I got this an that. I believe bragged know this an they get off on it. Got a friend now that does this like are you tone deaf my dude. Changed how I view and interact with him.

[@TrishaCobbs]

Brag in front of me and i will get sarcastic, what do i have to be jealous of ? Are you immortal ? Oh no .. then what am i supposed to do with this information seriously . Thats your money. Your car whatever . But you still go where we ALL go so 🤷

[@hanansisay9122]

Self promotors fancy name for braggers, i like it😁

[@louiscostanza5971]

She is extremely attractive

[@haSHAH1]

Rappers brag for the same reason

[@pluviophile1988]

I don't know who's on her Facebook but on mine the braggy overly positive posts gets a bazillion likes and anything else gets like 3 likes. Wtf is she talking about?????

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

Those are followers not leaders.