Why Does ROCD Feel So Real?

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[@jadedalton4974]

Id really like to marry him and spend forever with him. OCD is so loud and convincing but i want to choose him.

[@katyd7626]

Ocd does this to me too

[@Menpianomusic1]

Mine more in my 1st relationship

[@keretaman]

Anybody here doesn't have much thoughts anymore but still has an upset stomach daily for the whole day? It starts again in the morning after waking up...

[@hettieadams9958]

Yes. This actually makes me think all day too, but not thoughts as I was before

[@Looming_ewe]

Yes!! Honestly I haven't been having any thoughts from the start. Just wild anxiety that starts in the morning and gets me digging through my head to figure out what exactly is making me anxious. I've cried so much during these past days and I got so mad at myself for not even knowing why. It's so exhausting.

[@FreyTheAnimal]

ROCD ruined my previous relationship. I broke my partner's heart because for 1 and a half years I had the constant thought that "I don't really love him". I didn't want to break up with him but felt that I had to. Months later, I experienced the same obsessive anxiety with someone new. Then, I found out about ROCD after doing research and I believe I have it. I constantly question my feelings and my partner. My trust issues don't help either. The fact that I don't have an actual diagnosis also makes me question whether it's real or I'm telling myself it's ROCD because I don't want to admit I'm not capable of love or I'm meant to be alone. Then again, I'd probably obsess over a diagnosis and wonder whether it was false.

[@Matthew.._]

There is real help out there for us. This can go away. How are you doing now ?

[@Wistful.Skye5]

That's exactly how I am thinking and what I am going through. I am tired. I want this to end.

[@shayla9894]

My brain is terrible, like sometimes I never really worry about my rocd thoughts, like if I am attracted to my partner, if I truly love him e.c.t because I know it's ocd, but sometimes it gets so bad that it feels so real like I doubt everything, even tho a week ago, I didn't feel like this at all

[@shayla9894]

Like sometimes I will feel attracted to him and feel strong love for him, then sometimes I can't even look at him without getting anxious, and suddenly am just really mad at him all the time. And then my brain is like, so this is how you truly see him

[@user-tq7xo3yv4f]

YEEEES!! ME TOO!!!

[@agall5981]

I Feel you same here

[@eternalchange5496]

It might be because of the intense fear and anxiety you felt when the OCD was triggered. The brain constantly trying to "protect" you by throwing what-ifs at you and scenarios to be ruminated upon has reinforced that fear and anxiety, making the OCD monster seem real. I've struggled with it for almost 3 years now. It has taken its toll and it's time to kill the monster once and for all.

[@keretaman]

Thank you for sharing this... My first relationship lasted 2 years but I wasn't committing and often felt I wasn't so attracted to her. I believed that we weren't so compatible from the beginning... I broke up with her in the end on the premise that we weren't compatible and I wasn't in love with her. Fast forward to now, I found someone I thought was perfectly compatible, we got together, but after some months, I had some doubts. Thankfully I learned about ROCD. But now... there's a constant upset stomach for the past few weeks... I get doubts about our compatibility and whether I feel I love her. But I know I love her and I'm doing my best in this relationship. I'm giving it the best I can. But I have so many worries about the future like whether my grandparents will be okay with me marrying someone outside our religion... It's so hard but I don't want to leave.

[@freshliving4199]

@@keretaman You have no Love to give.

[@keretaman]

@@freshliving4199 LOL rude

[@katb3753]

I get a headache so often due to this. Right now I'm calmer than before but what if when I see my boyfriend I get anxious again and get all these thoughts?? This is what I keep thinking about. (I'm in a long distance relationship)

[@Goood_viibes_only]

Im in the same package. Always when i see my long distance partner i already get anxious what if the thoughts come again. And always when I see him the thought attack me. I dont know good how to break the circle. Sometimes i dont want to see my partner or think i want to be single because the thoughts get to heavy. I always ruminate about appereance. I obsess about our height and body proportion difference. Such a internal conflict !

[@imnovaelise]

Timo Gort how did you break the cycle?

[@dianacortes5337]

Feel you…

[@lilynorris5230]

@@Goood_viibes_only me too!!! also in long distance:))

[@lilynorris5230]

same what did you do to help it?

[@kstiff09]

I’m having thoughts of doubt for my husband and it came out of nowhere! I’ve always suffered from ocd but this type is scary as hell as I can’t differentiate between ocd and reality

[@freshliving4199]

Take all thoughts captive, they are not your own. Meaning ignore them all. Try it for a week and see the difference.

[@lilynorris5230]

how are you now?

[@christalrose5681]

Thank you Kiyomi! I needed this.

[@stephenraagas6295]

I need help. I'm so obsessed with my partner so much to the point that if she is out of my sight, i'm overthinking about things like is she with someone else, is she seeing someone else and the like. My partner loves me and I truly believe and she shows it but my mind keeps on telling me otherwise. There are times that I just wanna explode!

[@ika4496]

omg this is my same problem :(

[@virg0doll811]

I have been feeling very agitated jus talking to him sometimes, like annoyed not all the time but sometimes more then others. It’s hard to push through the uncomfortable feeling or thought. But I am still choosing to stay and push through because I do love him. And love is a choice.

[@pragyatripathi4046]

Hey how are you now

[@broojie8191]

You never fail me kiyomi , I always wondered why my ocd themes felt so real and why it simply wouldn’t leave me. This helped so much ❤️

[@Rebecca.asian.jew_erly.]

You helped me so much, thank you.

[@throughwillseyes]

Thanks Kiyomi!!!! Loving your information. So grateful to identify. Is there a way I can search for a therapist in the Baltimore area that is familiar with treating ROCD? I have seen other therapists in the past, but since they are not familiar with this form of OCD, it hasn't been a whole lot of help in the long run.

[@ReshiramMage1992]

T.T I’ve been obsessing for years over this... this kinda makes me feel better. I test myself non stop.. I know before my brain got out of control I still had obsessive thoughts about him but not this badly...

[@patti8178]

My ROCD is about his past and him not truly loving me. I end up asking him question after question for reassurance, that leads to more question, the anxiety gets intolerable. Then i start rewording my questions to see if so could skip him up. It’s exhausting and I’ve ended our relationship multiple times because it’s just too painful.

[@sandrinahunsel5716]

I feel you girl!

[@writingmywaythroughlife6665]

I feel the ocd monster ate my wisdom and I don't know if it's my wisdom, gut telling me things, intuition, or ocd. I fear it's all real and my partner and I just aren't meant to be. But I want to be with them forever. Love them so much😔

[@compagniaelvira]

That’s an interesting thing. I don’t even think I should be with them. I just think ‘This shit might be worth it’. But all the negative things just pour, over and over, and I am constantly disappointed by tiny little things which make me go ‘Who the hell did you end up with?’

[@writingmywaythroughlife6665]

@@compagniaelvira I feel that. It's so hard to say right. I think for me a lot of it is trauma based for sure.

[@compagniaelvira]

@@writingmywaythroughlife6665 Wether it’s trauma based or not, I let her go: I can’t spend my whole life coping with pain. Many comments here recite “I want to be with him/her, despite I have ORCD. “. To me it was “I have no idea what I want from her, I just feel my guts screaming I should get the hell outta here cause I don’t love her, I don’t feel right with her, I don’t feel like I am on a right path with her”. And of course, it might be ROCD, but I don’t care.

[@compagniaelvira]

You know what? I believe we tend to seek perfection. I was seeking perfection, and perfection to me was “Alright, you had sex with her, but you don’t feel like having a full relationship with her. This is WRONG, so you should deconstruct your unwillingness, claim it’s fear, diagnose it to yourself, and struggle till you become a guy who is ready for a relationship”. Bullshit. Beforehand, I was seeking perfection as well, and as soon as I saw flaws in my partner I would check out. Now my seek for perfection is ‘whoever comes in your life, you should have a satisfactory relationship with them’. This is crazy. I want to be me, with all my flaws and childishness. And my maturity as well. I think sometimes people project ideals onto others. They want things to be in a certain way, neglecting the very person they are acting towards. Screw that. You KNOW if a partner is right for you. Do they inspire you to live better? To be more than you are? To do things you did not expect to do? To step out of you laziness and grow the hell up? Or do they just bring you in touch with your own fear, make you fragile, so that you start thinking you should ‘work on it’, whilst there is nothing you should work on, as you JUST DON’T WANT TO? Some people, I think, NEED to be with somebody because otherwise they would feel wrong.

[@writingmywaythroughlife6665]

@@compagniaelvira Very wise words. I think seeking perfectionism is a very common ocd trait. I know I do it constantly. With myself and others. I am extremely aware and knowledgeable, but I feel I cannot do self love like I know what it is, but it's like my mind rejects it and like idek how that is or know when it's happening because I do try. I think eventually in a relationship I seek and feel the need for the love my parents gave me. And I know no one will ever give that to me and of course that subconsciously sabotages a relationship that is now over and didn't allow it to ever progress properly or at all.

[@emilywoodland5534]

How can I know whether I have ROCD or simply fell out of love for my partner? I am so scared to lose him because he is my best friend and I think he is perfect for me, and yet I feel like I don't love him anymore. We have been together for two years now. I cry all the time and I have panic attacks since this feeling started. I simply don't know what to do. We are supposed to move in together in 2 weeks. Help.

[@cloutpa6987]

I'm going through something similar. I'm urging u pls do not leave him!! Its just ur rocd playing tricks on u. People often forget how dangerous having ocd is!! Pls stay with ur boyfriend it seems like u love eachother a lot!

[@anastasiiaovsiannikova4950]

Hey, how is it going right now with him? How did everything turn out?

[@lilynorris5230]

how are you now i’m in the same boat

[@lilynorris5230]

@@cloutpa6987 i’m feeling this so much, please help me

[@Looming_ewe]

I would love to hear how this has turned out for you

[@kellyv6075]

What helps me is to make it lower stakes in my mind. Try to look for evidence that it's not a big deal if you do the wrong thing. Then distract and revisit after a period of time, maybe a day or a week even better. Then the anxiety decreases and my perspective changed and I can think clearer

[@imsogratefulm4000]

Thank you so much for your support. I love you and your work. Keep going!

[@Awakenintolove]

So glad it was helpful for you :)

[@nicolas19676]

Could you made a vidoe of why HOCD feels so real? please I love the way you explain things, also your voice it's really relaxing

[@AarikaLaine]

Thanks so much for this. This helped me so much

[@Awakenintolove]

So glad xo

[@aliyahaintnobodygottaknow4227]

Hey I thank you from the bottom of my heart Your wisdom and knowledge helped me soo much This video is also perfect just in time Been experiencing rocd and trying to implement positive thinking and understanding Rocd more

[@Awakenintolove]

So glad it was helpful for you Aliyah

[@emmadark2032]

This woman is literally savin my life rn

[@wtvimrita9952]

i fucking love my partner but one of my thoughts in the last 2 months, my brain thinks that i love my ex, and feels real even if i know that i dont like him, i dont miss him, nothing, what can i do? im always thinking and it sucks

[@baconpancakes96]

Which video is the one where she talks about feeling like we need to leave our partners to grow? That we are guilty for enjoying a relationship

[@writingmywaythroughlife6665]

My partner and I have different communication styles and love languages so it's been really fucking hard because ocd attacks this using it as evidence and says "we just are too incompatible." Even though we still are compatible in many ways and are so in love. I've experienced rocd with my partner before and it involved questioning our relationship for sure, but mainly her love for me, terrified of her cheating on me, way too jealous, etc etc. We have issues with our communication styles and love languages and have had deep talks to come together and work on it. Covid has created such a disconnect from all people and the world my trigger was well why do I feel that way with my partner too when Iove them, want to be with them, and marry them. And then it want down this horrible slippery slope I can't seem to get out of. I don't want to do anything drastic, but this feels so real and my anxiety always tells me maybe I'd be happier dating someone who's exactly like me, which I know in my heart would be horrible. I don't want to leave her and I don't want her to leave me while I'm going through this. I just want to be happy and shake this feeling. Please help

[@Wistful.Skye5]

That's exactly what I am going through. I am always thinking about how we don't match, how he is not the one and that we shouldn't be together.

[@Wistful.Skye5]

I don't want to leave but I have this urge. I feel like it's the only way. I feel like if we break up I'll be free from all this anxiety. This anxiety prevents me to continue through the day. I stay stuck in my bed

[@tiffanyliranzo7187]

@@Wistful.Skye5 how are you doing now?

[@Wistful.Skye5]

​@@tiffanyliranzo7187I am not stuck anymore. I try to manage my anxiety problems and not cause too much trouble. I am able to attend my classes and go out and have fun. I try to listen to good music, relax, talk with myself and make her feel safe, be compassionate with myself and talk about it with my partner and others.

[@brookenicole6937]

the thing that really hurts me is how much i struggled with ROCD in my relationship. About 3 weeks ago my partner, who i loved dearly and thought felt the same, expressed how he enjoys our relationship but isnt happy, and we broke up. All of my paranoia turned out to be true. I’m having a hard time dealing with that

[@brookenicole6937]

We were together for a year too..

[@ciaraskeleton]

This happened to me once, and when I looked back I saw how I had pretty much pushed him away because of my own fear. I literally depended on him to feed my own OCD. That was wrong of me from the get go. It also turned out that I actually didn't like him much as a person. Which further proved to me that OCD just comes for everything it wants to. Doesn't matter if you actually love them or not, you can't possibly know by obsessing. Do not take OCD as a reflection of your legitimate feelings. A year isn't even a long time, life unfolds in a really really weird way. Relationships are more fluid than we believe, and feelings change constantly because that's just the experience of being human. I hope you've found some peace in uncertainty. ❤

[@albertfigueroa11]

Wow this is so true and accurate

[@MAMP]

My ROCD is focused outward. I dont question myself. I question whether I chose a partner is attractive enough to stop me from wanting to be with other women. I dont think as a man its realistic to not want to have sex with other women. I honestly want to have sex with all of them all the time. I'm working on accepting this if I'm ever going to be married. I've been grinding through 2 or 3 months of this now. Its mostly depression and pure-o thinking. Its a rollercoaster of feeling okay vs. strong urges to leave. I have frequent dreams about cheating on my partner. In the dreams I'm confronted with a young, hot, perfect woman that I make out with. In the dream it feels great and when I wake up I feel guilty about the dream. Here's hoping to a brighter future, and long term happiness.

[@jimihague5511]

Omg that is my situation described EXACTLY

[@MAMP]

@@jimihague5511 Jimi glad I could help. I've actually gotten ALOT better in the last year since I posted that. Its not really a factor in my life any longer. Not saying its totally gone away but I'd say 80% improvement :)

[@jimihague5511]

@@MAMP that’s great mark! Any tips on getting rid of the thoughts?

[@MAMP]

@@jimihague5511 My advice would be to simply stay in the relationship if when you're in a steady mind state, there's nothing really "wrong" with it. I've been in mine for 2.5 years now so be patient with yourself and allow for ups and downs. Don't beat yourself up if you back slide and celebrate when you're feeling well.

[@MAMP]

@@jimihague5511 Also, allow yourself the space to look at other women and acknowledge that they are attractive too.

[@caitlinrobo]

I ask a lot of questions to my bf, and I'm trying my best to stop he doesn't mind the questions but if I ask him the same questions like in a small amount of time he will get slightly annoyed.

[@m.i8276]

caitlin robo1678 What are you asking? I ask my partner things like "Have you ever felt unloved by me?" "Have I ever acted like I don't love you ?!" "Do you think I love you ?!"

[@licaleu5784]

Can you make a video about medication and rocd?

[@shapeshiftertimetraveller8147]

How do you deal with ocd that makes you believe that you can’t leave a partner that you have no feeling a for

[@giovannaemanuelly9135]

Today I was watching videos on how to stop the compulsions, then I saw that exposing them would improve, and suddenly when I saw that it would improve I stopped feeling the compulsions, it seemed more like my brain saw that I found the solution, and now that I'm not feeling the compulsions anymore it seems that I do not care about my relationship, and I really want to care, someone help me? has anyone gone through this?

[@mariajulia-kb7km]

I'm going through this

[@pragyatripathi4046]

How are you now

[@giovannaemanuelly9135]

@@pragyatripathi4046 I'm having a thought that I should break up to enjoy life, I'm scared, I don't want to break up

[@pragyatripathi4046]

@@giovannaemanuelly9135 looks like we are in the same situation a month ago I started feeling like this can't even explain how beautiful it was and how worse it got now...I feel like I don't have any feelings and I don't want breakup my mind never says to break up but it feels like my mind says you don't love him anymore because u can't feel for him😭😭😭😭

[@sanathsaleelan9247]

Time heals you...don't worry and overthink....love is hidden in your heart...your brain us testing for you to show the true love hidden inside you otherthan the chemicals created in brain which feels infatuation

[@michaelperez7275]

when I first got anxiety about my relationship, I couldn’t be on the phone with her without being anxious to the point where I couldn’t look at her.... I was afraid that I would one day lose feelings and break up with her like I did in a previous relationship (I was inexperienced then) then I went through a period of no anxiety then recently the anxiousness started again and I get a small yet affective dose of anxiety when I’m on the phone and a little bit when I think of her... is it normal for this to happen again? All of a sudden after months of peace?

[@AnabelDC89]

Michael Perez yes, it comes and goes

[@gopikamaniprasad7089]

Yes ..it is how Anxiety is...no one really would understand,even your partner...I mean they know and are empathetic ,supportive and understanding ...but they need not really get our anxiety or extent of our rocd... because they are also humans and it can be tormenting for them too .. when they feel that rocd targets them and the relationship....trust me ..my boyfriend and I have been at the verge of breakup a couple of times due to my rocd..but nevertheless inspite of his own anxiety ,fear and tiredness ,he supports me and sees the warrior in me...

[@MissTrad24]

Yes, it is normal. That happens to me too and I'm diagnosed with ROCD

[@youtubewatcher830]

This is what's happening to me right now, it was so scary and I ended up cutting the person I love off. I actually reached out to them today, to tell them I'm not afraid anymore and I'm not gonna let my anxiety make decisions for me anymore. It is so scary but, these thoughts are not us. They are the mental illness inside trying to make decisions for our life. And (easier said then done) at some point these fears need to be confronted and laughed at. We don't control these stupid thoughts that come into our brain, so we shouldn't even look at them twice.

[@pragyatripathi4046]

Well this is what scares me the most...I feel what if it tells me that I really don't love him anymore after coping😭😭😭😭

[@sanathsaleelan9247]

Don't worry....if u need more help...you can contact me on Instagram...if you need my username...just ask me. Kk?

[@lilynorris5230]

@@sanathsaleelan9247 what’s your insta i need to rant about my rocd to somebody😭

[@keretaman]

There were times I wanted to marry her, but now I'm so anxious when I think of getting engaged to her! I hope this comes and goes. Most important thing, don't lose hope and keep going...

[@molliefrench2941]

how are you now

[@keretaman]

@@molliefrench2941 learning a lot about myself. Still a bit anxious about the engagement because different religion, different country, and well, certain unresolved issues like how we don't fight very well, it's always messy when we fight, and that she wants to be engaged by a certain time (sooner than I want). I took some time to look into myself and admit that I'm afraid that we will keep fighting badly forever. That makes me anxious. But we've talked about it. So... I think for me, the ROCD came out of me realising there were certain things about this relationship that isn't perfect or even good for me, and I need to work them out with her. Starting it with honesty and proper discussion about it. It's really difficult... but she's willing to work out these difficulties with me, so we're still going! I think my anxiety wrt marriage and engagement comes from the feeling that I don't feel completely safe with her due to the constant fighting when I feel I should be happy about marriage/engagement. But it helps to admit to myself that perhaps I really am unsure about marriage/engagement as of now. But after working things out, I think it will get better. Not sure if we have the same problems with our relationships. For me, I find the fighting very exhausting while I want a peaceful time. So that throws my body off I think, makes me anxious... So talking about it with my partner helps. Feeling hopeful since she's willing to work it out with me :) On a related note, I'm learning to open up and not bottle things in. That really drives up the anxiety. Edit: also, the rumination and intrusive thoughts dont really affect me much anymore.

[@keretaman]

I feel I need to update. It turns out... I was in a relationship that was emotionally toxic or even abusive, but I didn't know it. I'm out of it now...

[@gabriellegutierrez7517]

I’ve been Questioning myself on so many things to the point where I’ve been developing frustration and doubts about literally everything about myself up to the point that it has developed into worry. Wondering if whether I’m a good person and that I wouldn’t be as long as my Rocd is gone. I’m at a point right now where I can temporarily feel everything and with that builds so much hope for me but it all immediately gets turned over all over again when a trigger appears. It’s all so frustrating:( I don’t know if anyone else struggles with this also but I’ve been so confused and paranoid wether I’m even doing ERP right . I feel like everytime an anxiety moment builds up, I try so hard to take control but it never goes the way I want it to but rather feels like a compulsion. How do I fall out of this habit?

[@user-tq2ib3cj9z]

Have you ever worried that you are in love with the wrong person (colleague, friend, etc.)?

[@gabriellegutierrez7517]

@@user-tq2ib3cj9z I don’t have anyone else who I love, I’ve had a past partner that I shared intense feelings with but I always think back that it was just heavy infatuation considering it was short term. Often times it does make me question if whether I would be able to feel that way towards my current partner and considering we’re long distance it makes it that much harder to determine my true feelings

[@maungoakkar3929]

What if my positive happy feeling is just a feeling, and thought just a thought ?

[@ReshiramMage1992]

……i don’t believe I have ROCD anymore… that I truly don’t love my partner… I don’t want to break up bc I know deep down I love him.. it’s non stop it’s constantly…

[@lamahaytham908]

What did u end up doing??

[@ReshiramMage1992]

@@lamahaytham908 I feel the same… with some happy clarity moments that I truly want! 😭

[@user-tq2ib3cj9z]

​@@ReshiramMage1992 😢

[@eloiz44]

Thank you for your videos. alas, I am French and I understand almost nothing. Would it be possible to have subtitles or a French translation? 🙏🏼

[@elise3028]

Hello, désolée d'arriver si tard mais si tu en as encore besoin je peux te traduire!

[@eloiz44]

@@elise3028 bonjour, j’aimerais beaucoup 🙏🏻😊

[@elise3028]

@@eloiz44 je m'apprêtais à les faire mais je me suis rendue compte que la traduction automatique était en fait très bien fait! Il faut que tu cliques sur "paramètres" puis "sous titres" puis "traduire automatiquement" et puis tu choisis français 😊 La seul chose que le traducteur ne capte pas c'est le mot ROCD (toc du couple) qu'il traduit en "ville" mais le reste c'est bon! Hésite pas si il y a d'autres choses pas bien traduites/compréhensibles

[@eloiz44]

@@elise3028 oh super je ne savais pas qu’on pouvait faire ça 😃 merci bcp du conseil :)

[@eloiz44]

Je n’arrive pas à voir les sois titres en français 😕

[@RaphaWasHere]

yup. you wont me with this one, this is neuoplasiticity one on one, and i totally agree with that because im a prove living of that

[@ekaterinag.1707]

Has anyone a problem that it is hard to trust a partner?

[@marycerda958]

I’ve had about 2 months feeling like I don’t love my boyfriend anymore and I wonder how when we’re actually a decent relationship. I think about it so much that at points I just break down and cry. I don’t know anymore if it’s just my thoughts or I don’t love him anymore

[@christinas.3461]

Mary Cerda do these thoughts feel rooted in fear? it sounds to me like this is ocd (I experience this) but I would need to know more specifics.

[@marycerda958]

Christina Marini I do have fear of not loving him anymore

[@christinas.3461]

Mary Cerda it sounds more like a fear and not a truth. I would suggest seeking professional help if these thoughts persist. Therapy really can help.

[@marycerda958]

Christina Marini thank you for your help you have cuz honestly I do just want to love him and be happy with him but I do not feel anything anymore so I’m not sure

[@KawaiiStudioO]

Hi Kiomi, I used to suffer from ROCD ,and it still comes back sometimes, I “treated” it by agreeing to my thoughts,like let’s say if I have a thought “I dont like my boyfriend” I would say to myself “yeah I dont like him” while laughing like It’s a joke , over time it has gotten better and I stopped having these thoughts very often, My question is will me agreeing to my ROCD thoughts is going to “manifest” them ,just like you said in the video, If you agree with the thought that you’re ugly, it will change the way you look at the world over time, I don’t want to convince myself overtime that I don’t love my boyfriend just because I was trying to get rid of ROCD.. Btw ,I absolutely love your videos, you definitely saved my long-term relationship!

[@celiamould]

What does the R stand for in ROCD?

[@chloeholtby]

celia mould relationship

[@MissTrad24]

Relationship

[@kellythrapp367]

I have two questions 1.) can I get diagnosed with ROCD cuz I feel like most therapists don’t know it. 2.) is it normal to not know the difference between truth and obsessions

[@MissTrad24]

Not knowing the difference is another symptom of OCD. If you knew 100% that it is obsession, the OCD couldn't affect you as much as it does. The doubt is the problem and the OCD creates that doubt, insecurity and, hence, anxiety. The question "is it true or is it (R)OCD" is just another symptom of OCD. In order to get a proper diagnosis, you should look for a therapist who is a specialist in OCD. That's what I did.

[@debbymeran7910]

What does R stands for in OCD?

[@byjenjenni2324]

Debby Meran (Relationship)OCD

[@debbymeran7910]

Jennifer Aguilar thank you for clarifying that

[@kamithan4357]

Is it ok that I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t cry over this anymore? It definitely scares me and makes me upset and anxious but I just can’t seem to cry I am afraid that means that I don’t truly care

[@isabelmuller6725]

i feel the same :(

[@user-tq7xo3yv4f]

I have a new obsession almost every week that I start to focus on. I cried for two months, and then I didn't cry for two months, and here I am again. in ROCD, everything is cyclical, some symptoms somehow return in a larger or smaller volume.

[@ReshiramMage1992]

Please help me.... I feel like I’ve convinced myself I don’t love my partner 😭

[@jadasinger8397]

I’m feeling the same way right now. It all feels so real. But trust me, I always tell myself, if you didn’t love your partner would it be destroying you like this? No! It just proves you love them!:) you wouldn’t be fighting yourself so bad if you didn’t

[@ReshiramMage1992]

@@jadasinger8397 I know I love him a lot. I feel like I am gonna lose this 😭😭

[@filefile498]

@@ReshiramMage1992 how are you now ? Is it better for you ?

[@freshliving4199]

Why does ROCD feel so real? Simply because you believe in it.

[@brongmusic4503]

G’day G’day, just here to say, I have big bootyyy

[@charlottemclean803]

Boo! This is to explain my rocd not your bootyyyy

[@fluffynyasquirrel]

is it normal to feel disconnected from my partner after i spent 96 hours straight in a bpd episode/ocd spiral about telling myself im not worthy of love and that he should leave me etc. i feel bad about this and im obessing over if i even love him. just before the ocd spiral i felt so at peace and so lovely and comfortable with him then all of a sudden i decided i didnt deserve it. now i just feel disconnected even though i miss feeling the comforting lovey dovey feelings.