why don’t some narcissists reach out to you? - - / - - -

[@kittykat9505]

Consider it a blessing if they do not reach out.

[@tatianaa.3694]

It is, the person in the comment kows It too, though sometimes the trauma bonding is sooo strong that a part of you wishes them to come back anyways 🤷🏾‍♀️. Healing is a long long path sometimes

[@CreationsByRachel]

One word egos, arrogance, pride.....well three words 😂😂😂

[@poledancingVdubber]

6 months!!! Mine started reaching out after 15 years!!! They are lonely spiteful toddlers begging everyone for attention while acting like they don't need it. Be happy when they don't contact you, it means you're too strong for them.

[@JessicaWilliams-i5v]

Mine started reaching out after 16yrs too ! I blocked Himmel, and he went on my social My ex keep Getting my number on my social Media Account calling until I blocked him!

[@healthadvisor464]

I'm sitting with a glass of wine watching a movie solo, and I couldn't be happier 😂 Embrace the silence 🙌❤️

[@witchywoman737]

It's a beautiful thing 😊

[@CreationsByRachel]

Right him not pretending he doesn't understand the movie because he's secretly mad that I like the movie and he can't stand for us do something not about him, or snoring in the background or complaining because he is too dumb to understand the plot of the movie I totally agree with you 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicolebreland3381]

Let's pray they're done 😂😂

[@nikiabutler899]

Sometimes their waiting for it to be long enough so that you will not hold anything against them when their ready to circle back

[@mint_soup9743]

Yes

[@debrawallace5230]

True 💯

[@donnadaniels5095]

You absolutely right because once I walked away from my ex,Narcissist And went no contact,He have not hoovered me and i'm not looking for him too🙏🏽 Thank you jesus✌️💃

[@missne-ne]

AMEN 🙏🏽

[@missne-ne]

Thank the LORD you made it out!!!FR

[@technosugarcreations1956]

I'm hoping the narcs in my life are done with me. One tends to swoop in, cause issues, then vanish for SEVERAL YEARS with no contact or anything, then shows back up out of the blue to stir up more drama.

[@lafawnbelle4059]

Sometimes they stay away for years and just cause something or someone reminds them of you they'll suddenly pop up or call.

[@witchywoman737]

Or they've run out of options

[@tranquility9325]

One saved my number for years, then when he ran out of supply, he texted me. Lied and said.. Oh I texted you by accident, are you mad? He must think I'm Susie Sausagehead. I texted back and said, lose my number. He said fine then!!!

[@technosugarcreations1956]

*Sprays Bubble Tea on the keyboard laughing* S-Susie Sausagehead! Holy hot fudge, I love it...! You made my night!

[@sabrinas.8034]

Why would she want that her toxic ex to reach out to her? I get the intoxication & trauma of having had a narcissist (dad, mom, sis, and ex - yeah I get it!) but after 6 months, girl, c’mon, be selfish. Put yourself first! Let those emotional, time, & energy vampires not suck life out of you again! I’m finally at peace when my narcissistic ex stopped being present in my life - after blocking him everywhere and having an ocean between us 😮‍💨 - and deleting my sis from my heart & life.

[@TheMAEdsell]

It would be amazing if they’d leave you alone!!!! I thought the same thing but he eventually came back around. I finally had enough and anytime he texts or calls even from a different number I block and delete! I know how real the trauma bond is and I take it 1 hour or 1 day at a time!

[@FreeBrunoPowroznik]

The trauma bond isn't the only thing you have to get over. You have to merge the good and bad introjects of the narc to salve cognitive dissonance, you need to release the unfelt anger/hurt to cure the cptsd, you need to get over having been pedestalised and suddenly demonised and also get over the actual genuine deep bond you had.

[@TheMAEdsell]

@ trust me!!! If it wasn’t for the narc I would’ve never known what is broken inside me! I finally realized I was raised by a narcissist who conditioned me to this that way of treatment was ok. Obviously I know now that’s wrong! The healing path is one that I’m on!!!

[@FreeBrunoPowroznik]

@@TheMAEdsell That's good to hear. It's a long slow road. But there's no other way

[@Z-gg3fc]

It is nice when they disappear, so hard when they are harassing you when all you want is to not remember anything about them. They send you unhinged flying monkey. The worst. Thank you Lee❤

[@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp]

She should consider her lucky 🍀🍀🍀🍀 how should you call God protection

[@natika31able]

I agree with you, but let's be for real. Sometimes although The Narcissist can be horrible, sometimes the partner doesn't realize that they also have picked up narcissists traits, and I'm wondering if that can also repel the actual narcissist... I have dealt with narcissist on more than one occasion but I'm also a person who's big on self accountability . Some people do realize that they're dealing with a narcissist and they Badger them. Unfortunately they end up trying to one up each other in toxicity. Even some narcissists never want to go back into the game of dealing with another person willing to be as toxic as them. Even if that other person does not have the "narcissist" title, they still might be just as toxic 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@texan903]

Unless you want to be back in communication with the narcissist, be grateful they're not reaching out.

[@TrueBeautyD]

Be on guard for the hoover from the narcs who are just “done with you right now.” Yes, they snub you with their massive ego when it seems that things are going well. But they want to play on your empathy when they desperately need someone, likely having no other great/good options. I found this to be mostly with family narcs. No help here user! You “made your bed hard, now lay in it!!”

[@theejuicygoldengoose271]

Same. 💯🎯💯🎯

[@christinawilson4262]

My narcissist has the new girlfriend trying to get me to talk 😂😂😂

[@soynikolasa]

.. it's great when they , EXCEPT when they discard and leave a child also. Why won't they respond about the child( text), even in emergency?? Hard situation..

[@Firstmarketingio]

The reverse Hoover is real 😂😂 and I’m the one who initiated NC

[@Angelique-q9g]

Thank God 🙏🙏🙏 l prayed they will never reach out 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@Diane-v9e]

Yep, some of them find someone else to move on. Be thankful

[@tranquility9325]

My question is why would you want them to reach out?

[@tatianaa.3694]

It's called trauma bonding and It can be incredible powerful, Dr.Ramani says some.people never move on because of it

[@deatricehightower947]

I think it's just you fell in love with somebody that never did love you and it's hard to move on from that especially after they treated you bad and discarded you like you was a piece of trash so all the love that you put out what's the name of real to the narcissist all they care about is supply it does not matter if it's positive as long as they're getting what they want as long as you continue to give the things they need and just because you're giving it does not mean that they love you they're feeling an empty space in their life and you are supplying it I know it's hard to believe that you were not loved with the narcissist but it is true just think about all the bad things the abuse the trauma bomb the discard the devaluing and then blaming you for the relationship ending you know better you gave yourself do an entity that was only there to break you down tear you down and try to destroy you don't forget that​@@tatianaa.3694

[@bohanancopeland]

That a blessing move on

[@bigwill82gaming]

When I went no contact, and she started her smear campaign. Her flying monkeys came to me so not replying with words, i sent a few screenshots. Her flying monkeys started questioning her because of the screenshots. She literally said "tell him he wins." I didn't even know what that meant. Lee youtube short helped me figure it out. But her ego was hurt and challenged, she haven't reached out since. It's really easy to hurt a narcissist without even trying.

[@clairemason5922]

Enjoy the silence 😊

[@ritabrown7002]

They have an uncanny sense of when you're beginning to heal. That's when they reach out like nothing happened. DON'T answer. Just don't.

[@Warrior_Mama3]

It's scary. That narcissists are like fake people. I just wasted 20 years on two different narcissists. Most my life is gone it's really depressing.

[@luciaoneill2189]

Don't count Ur chickens yet he thinking of plan pull u in if u to strong then it not worth his while he only return if something specific he needs or else to much work for him.. Move on 😢..

[@agifitter3179]

14 days of real NC after several breakups and it is soooo hard😢 i have a feeling he won't reach out to me anymore. I am so sad that he has NPD!😢 it blocks him from Real Love😢❤

[@ashleynic4519]

So glad my ex doesn't reach out. If I didn't have the restraining order, he probably would. Hope he stays away forever. Forget my name and delete my number. 💯

[@ZenaidaAquinaldo]

Yes it's done what the problem

[@bobbiedwards8630]

They found a new supply quickly. Find out who it is and warn them immediately with hard evidence, texts ECT.

[@idahamidah2211]

It is a bless if the narc didn't reach out to you. Me got to change phone number, hide all social media account, and cut contact with friends because of toxic ex coworker.

[@angelandrews2276]

💯

[@MKwaalDiop]

Ne glad that the monster has left you alone! It's a blessine

[@Nolababy4ever]

He did not care for you and is done with you. They do not reach out to everyone. Their supply closet containes so many women/men. They hoover over only a few people or just one or two.

[@lavinabowman8489]

Sometimes you're lucky 😃

[@lutvg4007]

Sometimes they come back after years...

[@lauradurazo8789]

Mine reached out to me after 6 years

[@georgiacosta6887]

It was years before he reached out and then he just wanted sex. When I told him I couldn't help him with that, he stopped trying to contact me. Lol

[@nanisatinrose7772]

🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@emma26sheppard]

Iv been no contact for 6months I lie last spoke 2months ago but now vanished ,he has a new supply his ex before me we was together 7yrs and I have his 1st child who's now almost 9months .... am I safe? Or will he be bk?.he didn't contact for Xmas nothing he sobt care so is this the end??

[@emma26sheppard]

Iv also had to involve the law to help, hos actions dont match his words the threatens to un live me if with another??? Why is he quiet I'm.wary x

[@kourtneyb.3772]

She’s the one that sound like a narcissist only a narcissist would ask a question like that I’ve been no contact with my ex for six whole months. It ended bad. Why isn’t he reaching out lol make it make sense.