A case for marriage and it’s advantages over long term dating.
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@danieladasilvanogueira42973 жыл бұрын
I need a podcast asap.
@madisonmathews72283 жыл бұрын
love these videos, found you on tiktok and everytime i listen it feels like you are directly talking to me. and it really helps❤️
@louisrodriguez70183 жыл бұрын
I will literally pay for you to start a podcast.
@biancaleahj13 жыл бұрын
I never thought of marriage, but this is a really big eye opener.
@goddesscleo3 жыл бұрын
Definitely agree that marriage should not be entered into lightly.
@fawnfoxysphoenix89853 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Found you on Tik Tok, and I love your videos! Keep up the good work! Your voice is so soothing.
@savannahlacey33573 жыл бұрын
Do you have a podcast?
@ashleyrenee4703 жыл бұрын
I love the way you get in my head and make me think! I’m so happy I found U! Your voice is so calming, yet so understanding. I could listen to you all night. Your amazing
@Arkenism3 жыл бұрын
Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it.
@haleyburnam82623 жыл бұрын
You have so much emotion when you talk & I believe that's how you reach so many people including me
@thesub40463 жыл бұрын
Wow man, just wow. You've given me a whole new perspective on relationships and marriage as a whole. Love how you make your videos seem like we are having a genuine conversation. Keep it up man. Found you on tiktok and I'm definitely gonna subscribe.
@gauripandya97954 ай бұрын
This was the most amazing video you have made. Hats off sir. I respect you.
@sarahbartlett83273 жыл бұрын
I've never wanted to marry but this was such a refreshing perspective. Thank you 💜
@creatio_ex_nihilo02 ай бұрын
Even though I for the most part disagree with your thoughtful reflections on marriage, you gave me pretty much the only valid reason for marriage I have heard so far ... and also a new perspective to sharpen my arguments against it - and for that I thank you.
@aliajohns30703 жыл бұрын
Been married twice. I’m so confused about marriage. Can’t wrap my mind around it. Getting the law involved has made everything so complicated. Thank you so much for explaining your perspective. It’s a really important and a dangerous thing...
@Iveta7093 жыл бұрын
Oooooh, that's great. The greater commitment, the greater potential for intimacy. Did not look at this that way.
@spaghettitoasteroven3 жыл бұрын
I'm still in high school so maybe I don't completely understand but since I was young I never really wanted to get married. If i truly love someone and everything about them and they feel same way about me, why do you legally have to put a title on just staying together for the rest of your life. Why go through putting a contract on your love. Plus marriage sometimes will just divide people instead of bringing them closer. If you already want to spend the rest of your life with each other why go through actually getting married and just spend the rest of your life together. I totally get the whole staying together with fear of them leaving. And this isn't a whole hate thing if you read it that way. I love your videos they make me cry all the time. I was just wondering and was super curious.
@Bella-we5bh3 жыл бұрын
I think that once you go through that experience in reality, you’ll find that you actually really want to commit to that person legally because you want to give everything to that person
@Bella-we5bh3 жыл бұрын
Also it creates a much better foundation and home for kids if you choose to have them
@samanthakirkpatrick89813 жыл бұрын
If you aren’t married you need to realize you may not be allowed in the hospital room when your lover passes and vice versa. You will not be able to make sure their final choices about burial or life support are respected. Those rights are for next of kin. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is not next of kin. If you are afraid of what will happen with marriage (ie afraid they will divorce you and take all your shit or act different after marriage) then you don’t actually trust that person. And that’s a problem in any relationship that is serious and committed.
@Arkenism3 жыл бұрын
Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it. So it is understandable for you to come to that conclusion and this is more or less based on the cost benefits analysis for people individually and not all templates fits all.
@pepperhill2 ай бұрын
I have lived with my long-term partner for 27 years. I never wanted to get married for the same reasons as you, and i'm glad i never got married. It's not for me and i am happy i respected myself for not bowing to societal pressures to get married.
@zarakilcoyne34503 жыл бұрын
Wow this is really powerful and really helpful
@chelsylindenfelser4143 жыл бұрын
I love this. I have struggled with this since my divorce 2 years ago. I sabotaged my relationships since then because im afraid of marriage
@akankshabhatt33573 жыл бұрын
This was hands down one of THE BEST videos i've watched in a while. So well put, amazing👏🔥
@jocelynrafter81883 жыл бұрын
I found you at the right time. Thanks for being here. ❤️
@sandim73153 жыл бұрын
I truly enjoy learning & listening to you! Thank you!!!
@davidb66913 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful young soul you are ♥️
@secret0363 жыл бұрын
This guy needs more subscribers
@andiegonzales25513 жыл бұрын
This was incredibly insightful!
@ReoAard2 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@kimberlyg28746 ай бұрын
Beautiful…
@Insecuritiesdontend3 жыл бұрын
I would be curious about how you feel about polyamory
@tshegochandaoflizahchandac33673 жыл бұрын
Now that you mention it, I cannot wait for it.
@nickwilliams61873 жыл бұрын
Please be my therapist
@mannyb78823 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@fiona14073 жыл бұрын
True
@mznunaya3 жыл бұрын
The people have spoken. 🗣 GIVE US A PODCAST. I demand that you give us what we want!
@hazemmohammed35473 жыл бұрын
What peace of mind are you talking about? One partner would still make life hell to the other, or better yet get divorced and that on its own is devastating. Marriage is just a contract that people always regret signing - it looks promising and "secure" from the outside, but once you're in, you're a hostage and breaking out of this contract is never easy,so why sign it? Just not worth the risk
@Bella-we5bh3 жыл бұрын
If both parties are mature, respecting people with good values, and are mentally and emotionally fit, marriage is an amazing and joyous experience. If this is what you have experienced, then you and/or your partner were clearly not prepared for marriage as a person on the inside.
@alecia4843 жыл бұрын
What happens when there has been so much that has happened in 3.5 years, with drug abuse, and domestic, amd trust issues? I need help please!
@Bella-we5bh3 жыл бұрын
If you can contact a domestic violence line and get counselling I think that’s your best bet. Try to convert him and have a good conversation with him if that is possible in his state. If professional help for him is not working, this is the point when you leave the relationship and call the police, if what he’s doing is considered in your part the world. It’s not healthy for you to be in this relationship and sometimes people are beyond health. Even if you love someone, it’s important to respect your self worth and dignity.
@jamesonrwalker3 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t bother with it because it just doesn’t make sense to human instincts
@feelslikefate3 жыл бұрын
Are you taking new clients?
@fatass0219933 жыл бұрын
For tax purposes?
@danieladasilvanogueira42973 жыл бұрын
😂
@goddesscleo3 жыл бұрын
I just don't feel like marriage (legal documentation, weddings, etc) is needed to create the conditions you describe (unconditional love, assumption of not leaving/commitment, honesty, vulnerability). Please consider ethical nonmonogamy and hopefully you can be less normative.
@georgesontag21923 жыл бұрын
You better not tell your wife about any problems your having. She will file for divorce and take your house and children. The government is never a good idea in a relationship. Your dreaming about your ideas on discussing with your wife. She does not love you - they can't, it's in their DNA