why get married?

A case for marriage and it’s advantages over long term dating.

[@danieladasilvanogueira4297]

I need a podcast asap.

[@madisonmathews7228]

love these videos, found you on tiktok and everytime i listen it feels like you are directly talking to me. and it really helps❤️

[@louisrodriguez7018]

I will literally pay for you to start a podcast.

[@biancaleahj1]

I never thought of marriage, but this is a really big eye opener.

[@goddesscleo]

Definitely agree that marriage should not be entered into lightly.

[@fawnfoxysphoenix8985]

Thank you for this. Found you on Tik Tok, and I love your videos! Keep up the good work! Your voice is so soothing.

[@savannahlacey3357]

Do you have a podcast?

[@ashleyrenee470]

I love the way you get in my head and make me think! I’m so happy I found U! Your voice is so calming, yet so understanding. I could listen to you all night. Your amazing

[@Arkenism]

Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it.

[@haleyburnam8262]

You have so much emotion when you talk & I believe that's how you reach so many people including me

[@thesub4046]

Wow man, just wow. You've given me a whole new perspective on relationships and marriage as a whole. Love how you make your videos seem like we are having a genuine conversation. Keep it up man. Found you on tiktok and I'm definitely gonna subscribe.

[@gauripandya9795]

This was the most amazing video you have made. Hats off sir. I respect you.

[@sarahbartlett8327]

I've never wanted to marry but this was such a refreshing perspective. Thank you 💜

[@creatio_ex_nihilo0]

Even though I for the most part disagree with your thoughtful reflections on marriage, you gave me pretty much the only valid reason for marriage I have heard so far ... and also a new perspective to sharpen my arguments against it - and for that I thank you.

[@aliajohns3070]

Been married twice. I’m so confused about marriage. Can’t wrap my mind around it. Getting the law involved has made everything so complicated. Thank you so much for explaining your perspective. It’s a really important and a dangerous thing...

[@Iveta709]

Oooooh, that's great. The greater commitment, the greater potential for intimacy. Did not look at this that way.

[@spaghettitoasteroven]

I'm still in high school so maybe I don't completely understand but since I was young I never really wanted to get married. If i truly love someone and everything about them and they feel same way about me, why do you legally have to put a title on just staying together for the rest of your life. Why go through putting a contract on your love. Plus marriage sometimes will just divide people instead of bringing them closer. If you already want to spend the rest of your life with each other why go through actually getting married and just spend the rest of your life together. I totally get the whole staying together with fear of them leaving. And this isn't a whole hate thing if you read it that way. I love your videos they make me cry all the time. I was just wondering and was super curious.

[@Bella-we5bh]

I think that once you go through that experience in reality, you’ll find that you actually really want to commit to that person legally because you want to give everything to that person

[@Bella-we5bh]

Also it creates a much better foundation and home for kids if you choose to have them

[@samanthakirkpatrick8981]

If you aren’t married you need to realize you may not be allowed in the hospital room when your lover passes and vice versa. You will not be able to make sure their final choices about burial or life support are respected. Those rights are for next of kin. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is not next of kin. If you are afraid of what will happen with marriage (ie afraid they will divorce you and take all your shit or act different after marriage) then you don’t actually trust that person. And that’s a problem in any relationship that is serious and committed.

[@Arkenism]

Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it. So it is understandable for you to come to that conclusion and this is more or less based on the cost benefits analysis for people individually and not all templates fits all.

[@pepperhill]

I have lived with my long-term partner for 27 years. I never wanted to get married for the same reasons as you, and i'm glad i never got married. It's not for me and i am happy i respected myself for not bowing to societal pressures to get married.

[@zarakilcoyne3450]

Wow this is really powerful and really helpful

[@chelsylindenfelser414]

I love this. I have struggled with this since my divorce 2 years ago. I sabotaged my relationships since then because im afraid of marriage

[@akankshabhatt3357]

This was hands down one of THE BEST videos i've watched in a while. So well put, amazing👏🔥

[@jocelynrafter8188]

I found you at the right time. Thanks for being here. ❤️

[@sandim7315]

I truly enjoy learning & listening to you! Thank you!!!

[@davidb6691]

What a wonderful young soul you are ♥️

[@secret036]

This guy needs more subscribers

[@andiegonzales2551]

This was incredibly insightful!

[@ReoAard]

Thanks

[@kimberlyg2874]

Beautiful…

[@Insecuritiesdontend]

I would be curious about how you feel about polyamory

[@tshegochandaoflizahchandac3367]

Now that you mention it, I cannot wait for it.

[@nickwilliams6187]

Please be my therapist

[@mannyb7882]

Thank you!

[@fiona1407]

True

[@mznunaya]

The people have spoken. 🗣 GIVE US A PODCAST. I demand that you give us what we want!

[@hazemmohammed3547]

What peace of mind are you talking about? One partner would still make life hell to the other, or better yet get divorced and that on its own is devastating. Marriage is just a contract that people always regret signing - it looks promising and "secure" from the outside, but once you're in, you're a hostage and breaking out of this contract is never easy,so why sign it? Just not worth the risk

[@Bella-we5bh]

If both parties are mature, respecting people with good values, and are mentally and emotionally fit, marriage is an amazing and joyous experience. If this is what you have experienced, then you and/or your partner were clearly not prepared for marriage as a person on the inside.

[@alecia484]

What happens when there has been so much that has happened in 3.5 years, with drug abuse, and domestic, amd trust issues? I need help please!

[@Bella-we5bh]

If you can contact a domestic violence line and get counselling I think that’s your best bet. Try to convert him and have a good conversation with him if that is possible in his state. If professional help for him is not working, this is the point when you leave the relationship and call the police, if what he’s doing is considered in your part the world. It’s not healthy for you to be in this relationship and sometimes people are beyond health. Even if you love someone, it’s important to respect your self worth and dignity.

[@jamesonrwalker]

I wouldn’t bother with it because it just doesn’t make sense to human instincts

[@feelslikefate]

Are you taking new clients?

[@fatass021993]

For tax purposes?

[@danieladasilvanogueira4297]

😂

[@goddesscleo]

I just don't feel like marriage (legal documentation, weddings, etc) is needed to create the conditions you describe (unconditional love, assumption of not leaving/commitment, honesty, vulnerability). Please consider ethical nonmonogamy and hopefully you can be less normative.

[@georgesontag2192]

You better not tell your wife about any problems your having. She will file for divorce and take your house and children. The government is never a good idea in a relationship. Your dreaming about your ideas on discussing with your wife. She does not love you - they can't, it's in their DNA