Why He SUDDENLY Acts Cold | 7 Reasons Why A Man Acts Distant

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@Didi-fr5ic]

If you always love yourself more than you love him, it wont bother you because you were fine alone before he came. You woman must learn to walk away you stay way to long. Love yourself ❤ A man that suddenly acts cold should be the biggest turn off for you..you can not build with a man like that.

[@Keke-vs7gm]

❤❤❤

[@takeysha4]

Exactly 🙌🙌🙌

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

Most definitely..a huge turnoff! Real quick.. act cold, stay gone..period! Good riddens. No loss at all

[@Hunkzilla]

Typical narcissistic comment. Did you even bother to watch this video from beginning to end ?

[@Didi-fr5ic]

​@@Hunkzillaclarify the words narcissistic? I don't even think you know what it means because you wouldn't be throwing that words around so casually..you just got trigerred so I wish you a lot of healing and inner work

[@TheLuxeTraveler702]

A man's rejection is God's protection ❤

[@laurakello8526]

I learned that

[@Coachkmore]

Hello

[@CharlesBaxter-s7g]

🤔 Agreed 👍 I don't want a Demanding Wife but we Need an Understanding Wife 😊 💕

[@motivationalmyxer]

I gotta get this through my head😭🤦🏽‍♀️

[@denamiller199]

Yessss!!!! I JUST told this to someone. It's not limited to men. Any rejection is GODs protection.

[@roxymitchell4296]

If he grows cold he wasn't the one for you. This is a blessing in disguise.

[@mca217]

That's not true at all. Men have feelings too but society tells you that they don't and their feelings don't matter.

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Let's face facts some women are big turnoffs after digging deeper and getting to understand their true personality

[@tammybaker4690]

I agree with you. Someone shared on Facebook a picture of a mother telling her son( maybe 8 years old)to stop crying for whatever reason and the opposite side of the post showed a wife telling her husband(with his head in his hands) that he never shows emotions. My point is we tell them that real men don't show emotions and they internalize that and when they grow up they can't express themselves because they were told that it's wrong. So yes I completely agree with you! ​@@mca217

[@bevee3711]

@@user-fh1tr9zp3lyep and that goes both ways for sure

[@outsidethebox8406]

@@user-fh1tr9zp3lthen express that instead of ghosting like a little boy

[@Suz562]

It's so frustrating when men go cold. They should just communicate and if not then they should understand that we will walk away when we don't feel valued. It makes a woman feel ghosted and it feels horrible when we haven't done anything wrong. Inconsistent communication and lack of effort turns me off and eventually makes me lose interest in him.

[@mawusivivor5546]

Don’t get frustrated my dear Position yourself. Develop emotional stability to handle such. It comes with dating

[@Suz562]

@@mawusivivor5546 Thank you!

[@sylviaAguenther-zc9lg]

⁠@@mawusivivor5546 hi there I just wanted to take a moment to just point out how right U R, but also that U come off cold& calculating;this is exactly what Mr Stephan is talking & advising us on. how some people(men) in particular don’t know how to realize what they R feeling BS it’s called Cowardice! will get advice from someone else & not believe that real love is this fast& this in your soul ache, that’s how U know! Just 1 look& U R all in LOVE! the trick is to not let $ get in the way of it! This ruins everything🥹🥴🫡

[@sylviaAguenther-zc9lg]

By the way, don’t let my avatar fool you I’m all woman beneath this, but I just love my military heroes 🤭U r so right, everything you’ve said or stated here this is exactly what Mr Stephan is advising us on! I call it COWARDICE, I’ll just walk away,I’m scared of feelings all these feelings for her! Nah I’ll just go away and let her do the heavy work! Too many people playing with 1 emotions no not me. Time is too expensive. Be real or move on 😂Whatch the NoteBook this is what a real man does & speaks to a woman he wants, deals with the Hurt, deals with real feelings, why does it have to B so hard! Because real Love is everything! Both men & woman want it the real Love is that force that Ties& Binds the soul😢there is nothing else without it life as we know it dies! We can live without $ but we can’t live without Love💕💎🕊️

[@EternalflameC.L.]

Generation of ppl who are scared to love.Iv’e had enough of this bs.

[@Didi-fr5ic]

Me 2 😂 it just sounds like a boy who needs a mother,.we as woman are supposed to be a mans partners but they want mothers this is why I believe the divorce rate is so high..the woman are leaving

[@EternalflameC.L.]

@@Didi-fr5ic something has gone very wrong somwhere down the line yea 😏

[@Didi-fr5ic]

​@@EternalflameC.L.it's social media, people not healing from past traumas, men are addicted to p*rn and men are to afraid to approach..I think its a disaster but I think we as woman can survive alone, men can't.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@LolaLoladore]

Literally I give up

[@JackieS812]

I understand shutting down in the moment but if you’re in a relationship you can’t just shut down and ghost your partner out of nowhere. If this happens, he’s not ready for a relationship! Let’s attack the problem together!

[@loyduncan3728]

That was the first indication that my intuition told me he wasn't faithful. Distancing. It was 100% spot on.

[@aidaaida2910]

Facts. Follow that gut instinct

[@attieolivier3910]

True that !!!

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

Bueños dias. When a guy starts behaving that way...my first instinct as a mature woman is to pull my energy back into myself. I refuse to chase any man who cannot show a consistent genuine interest in me. I like when a guy can still go through something while including me, as I do not mind being emotionally supportive. However not in a way that is too much from too much baggage. Equal give and take is best.

[@AmericanDreamer]

💯💯🔥

[@traceyniles8474]

Well said👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kiravampira1456]

Far too many have this annoying obsession with "shifting the power balance". The *moment* he tries to make me the pursuer/chaser is the moment I "next" him. Not even my definition of male beauty would be worth role-reversal, let alone a nobody.

[@MyDarlingRocsi]

Girrrl, you typed the shit outta that! I felt it.

[@jibarabicha4853]

Every time it happens it’s this reason!! So manipulative and catty…no thank you !

[@kiravampira1456]

*power dynamic (for my initial comment) It's not even a "challenge" to figure them out - just very annoying. Once you know that a grown male who isn't doing anything to improve your life is not really interested in you, none of them can convince you to go 50-50, let alone engage in role-reversal.

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

Exactly! Not male beauty at all.. ugh!

[@sandyv.9666]

I need to go somewhere, where the adults are.

[@thesexynun1749]

Best statement ever!!

[@AmericanDreamer]

🙌🏻💯💯🤦

[@erikajohnson7754]

When he goes cold,let him go!

[@AmericanDreamer]

🔥🔥 Exactly - that's the way! The only right way!! Byeee

[@welcometosherickaworld9381]

You are so right it’s sad then the man act like you did something wrong

[@marielyalemansalgado4292]

I’ve been through this situation too many times and I can’t deal with it anymore. I can’t understand why a grown up man can’t simply talk about their feelings, thoughts or situations. Is not acceptable to me no more

[@ebonyeyes7023]

Grown boy, in a man's body. Men communicate unless you aren't listening

[@yachebelestfleur9848]

Men show more actions then speaking you will see all you need to know through his actions pay close attention

[@jrwheeler81]

I hear you. I'm going through this right now with my boyfriend of the past almost 2 years. He's totally emotionally unavailable. This weekend, he started suddenly acting very cold and distant towards me for absolutely no apparent reason whatsoever. He's never acted like this before. It was like he didn't even want to touch me or really even interact with me. He seemed so distant and distracted by something. I finally called him on his last night and told him that I felt he was being very distant and asked him if everything was okay. He said that his mind was going a mile a minute about stuff that he needs to get done that he hasn't had time to do yet, how he feels like he's not getting anything done, and how he's not where he wants to be in life. He claimed it had absolutely nothing to do with me. It just sucks and hurts like hell.

[@katrinajackson5545]

2:23 He fears falling too deep for you 3:54 He struggles with being emotionally vulnerable 6:37 He’s questioning if he’s ready to cut off all other women forever 9:58 Someone got in his head 17:15 Something you did upset him 23:45 He’s stressed, overwhelmed, and has shut down 30:17 He’s giving you a reason to leave him

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

Thank you

[@bumblebee_ms]

I'd love to spread some positivity and say that the people who teach the truth are the ones who will heal the world.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏❤️

[@LoveLabConnection]

Why does it still hurt so much, even when you know that he was not the right guy for you?

[@dabest444u]

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[@beeyoutiful4086]

​@@dabest444uhow to break free

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

U have hurt to waste 😅

[@Portia620]

Because we all have that deep need to find our person and we mourn that and fear we never will!

[@Portia620]

@@dabest444unah that is over played bs!

[@jennehsmith8170]

But if he feels like this then there’s no point starting a relationship! He should have thought about his feelings and the next person before getting into this situationship in the first place 🤨. Don’t you think?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Yes, but all men don't communicate that in the beginning 🙏

[@jennehsmith8170]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I also think that some men go cold because they want to get in the panties the moment you give them a look and if you try to get to know them better ….., they turns away because you won’t give them the (cookie) they don’t even want to give you a chance …. I’m I right?

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

​@MeetStephanSpeaks ...may I ask why we are supposed to "Mom" grown men who claim to be ready for relationship and are revealing to us after the fact that they not only lied to us.."because I REALLY liked you" & lied to himself about being able to match our innergy and efforts? We can literally meet all on their lists and get hurt unnecessarily..

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

People are not rational beings

[@katrinanelson6175]

It's important to be in a relationship where BOTH parties are mature. It should never get to a point where either person is cold or dismissive towards the other. Having a discussion prior to a relationship, discussing how to address issues/concerns is a great idea. Getting to know the other person's likes and dislikes also will help, which will take communication/time. 🙏🏽

[@sondramister8188]

I'm tired of being told you're not my woman but ee can still do things together i really give up throw in the towel it's very draining 52 I'm retiring not gonna even try this mess no more 🙄

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

I'm 43...completely on the same page..dealing with them is more exhausting than being a parent to a child..

[@jhfamily189]

This was a good one. I’m such an empath. I’ll just fall back with him. I’m not trying after that. Especially at my age. I can’t take moody men.

[@MyDarlingRocsi]

Girrrrl, I feel you! Not anymore, not at this big age. I direct my empathy toward myself!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thanks 🙏

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

And most of the time it's petty stuff and expect us to be superwoman Am an upbeat fun person cannot tolerate a temperamental dude Let me now exactly what's on your mind or else get lost

[@jhfamily189]

@@user-fh1tr9zp3l right!! That’s while all of this information is great you have to move to the beat of your own drum. What does not kill you makes you stronger 💯💪🏾

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

As a woman entering a relationship with a man it's like Navigating my Everest No explanation and growing cold ? Ah that's so frustrating Could u these selfish men out there break this unhealthy Cycle ? Be brave stay strong and just say exactly what's on your mind

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@BeautiifulliMade]

Still trying to wrap my head around where things keep going wrong. We were doing good and then the next day he walked away. He wasn’t ready for a put together woman like myself.

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

...none of them seem to be.

[@yachebelestfleur9848]

Have self compassion don’t blame yourself

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Not everyone u see are humans some are ALIENS look out!!!!

[@jrwheeler81]

Some men just can't handle a good, hardworking, loving woman who has her shit together! It's almost too much for them and I think it might even trigger their own insecurities within themselves!

[@Glen.Murphy8]

Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@trevorkelly5036]

i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

[@Glen.Murphy8]

wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him?

[@trevorkelly5036]

Dr Ben Spell Castle is the advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment

[@trevorkelly5036]

you can look his name up online and you will find all you need.

[@loombandz6722]

Its a scam, careful ​@@Glen.Murphy8

[@raymondc9513]

Reasons why he suddenly acts cold: 1. He has a fear of falling too deep for you 2. Someone got in his head 3. Something you did upset him 4. He is stressed, overwhelmed, and has shut down 5. He's giving you a reason to leave him 6. ? 7. ? Maybe I missed the other two, but I only caught these 5

[@atthebeachfinally]

Thank you

[@lulatorrey6360]

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[@TerrySmith-ov6ei]

2. He didn’t really grasp the idea of connection and doesn’t know how to process their deep feelings and express them. Very important in a successful relationship. Not understanding connection and being able to communicate will effect all of his points. Not sure if he meant this to be one of his points but it was in his talk on the first point.

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

He struggles with being emotionally vulnerable He's questioning if he's ready to cut off all other women forever

[@laurenpierce7723]

7 reasons can sound a lot like 7 excuses sometimes😮

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

You ain't never lied! Excuses to put the onus on the woman.

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

It helps my overthinking brain that can't stop obsessing over why

[@eviesavitzky8316]

Yeah sounds like what I have just gone through! But my case I needed to walk away from it! 6 years and walking away!!

[@JanetTuttle-cb3xx]

Many good points, I am tired of trying to read people, I am an honest person and say what I am feeling, not playing games. I am glad that I know the person I can count on is myself and capable of handling life on my own until the right person comes along.

[@christinekohler8866]

I really need to hear your advice. Thank you! 🙏 Because I’m 54 years old and widow for 7 years. 3 serious relationships before I married at age 35. Still hard to get this right, not gonna lie. I have played it cool, I have chased, acted crazy, ignored with no contact, etc….Knowing my worth. Letting go of co-dependency. Doing me. Letting them do them. Not gonna say it does not stink a little. But you know when it works!!! Period. I think we just want it too bad when we are putting all our energy into it. And we want what we want and don’t like to lose or feel rejected. That’s my biggest thing; the rejection I feel with it.

[@tuckerhart-dy3uc]

I admire your honesty and transparency. It gives this 44 yr old unmarried person hope. Thank you.

[@oluwaseunsmith4027]

We lot tend to communicate with people who aren’t able to assimilate. People seek the heights of respect they do not know how to give or even unpack. When two people who once Cared about each other start to feel otherwise, just come out straight and let them know. Sure they’d be hurt but not as much as it would when you ghost them eventually. ❤️ x 💡

[@angelaleeway7110]

It’s just a bunch of dismissive avoidance men out there. Which is fine, but they are also not self aware and not seeking proper help 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@ektaaasar]

True many men are like this perhaps

[@ameliasavage4307]

Thank you for the last reason when the man leaves you because he wants you to let him go. it helped me .😊 I feel better. I didn't do anything wrong and i feel Better now that i watch or video.

[@jennettefcc3303]

So good to have a balanced mature view point. There is a lot of bad advice going on out there that scares or confuses people. This i can feel is coming from more a healed place

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you 🙏

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Since I found Steph,s channel am ignorant about the others on KZbin I haven,t a notion of what the say The fact that he is reliant on God to guide him for me this speaks VOLUME

[@medusagorgon9]

I completely ignored this video. :) But my Spiritual Guides had other plans. I watched two separate videos on an entirely different subject (medieval history), and when I clicked back to the main page it did not refresh.🤨😅 You immediately started talking which made me look down at the title. I almost kept it moving again, but I was asked to listen. The points you mentioned in the first two topics is my exact situation. Things were going fantastical and then suddenly I could feel the withdraw. We weren't physically together at the time, so I didn't understand what was happening. But energy doesn't lie. I could sense that he was feeling unsure and anxious in spite of the fact that he was clearly enjoying our time spent together and the talks we had. Fast forward a bit and I'm starting to piece a few things together through observation and things being said. And just plain intuition. People do not realize I can literally hear conversations that I was not present for. A male friend, who he has known since childhood has a great deal of influence on him. The friend and I have never met, so anything he says about me is speculative. Then there is his mother and grandmother who are in hopes that he will get back with his ex-wife. This is for financial reasons that I will not get into. Three people who have their own agendas at play, stating God only knows what (based on nothing), about me to him. It eventually came to a head. I told him that while he was a wonderful man and that I did love him immensely (still do), I was not willing to stick around for the drama. I do wish him every wonder thing! Especially the ability to think for himself and decide what is best for him, without giving into manipulative outside influences of friends and family. This I know will be immensely freeing for him mentally and emotionally. Unfortunately, the breakdown of his marriage and childhood trauma (abandonment issues), really did a number on him. Something he is not aware of consciously.

[@mimibennett8404]

You are an intuitive person. God bless you!

[@vodkavuitton]

Idk maybe women should start being as logical as men 🤷🏾‍♀️ when a woman suddenly acts cold then a man takes it as such with no other considering alternatives regardless the circumstances. If he's not into you then he's into someone else. See it for what it is & move on

[@Glamrocs]

I guess I’ll still keep hope alive. That there’s still grown good men in the world who can communicate. Seek counseling or therapy for any trauma or emotional distress. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mawusivivor5546]

When a man becomes cold, be colder. Give him space. He’ll come around when he’s ready The last thing you want is a man who doesn’t know if he wants a relationship/you or not Ah ah… we are not doing that

[@jrwheeler81]

Seriously!!! My boyfriend of the past almost 2 years told me two weeks ago, "I never wanted a relationship with you, but here I am." OUCH! Really?! We've never even had a single fight or argument! I was just having a tough time caring for my elderly parents with health issues and I was feeling overwhelmed and he told me, "You can't get overwhelmed and freeze up! My ex used to do that all the time, so if I seem agitated with you, that's why." Damn, bro....come on.....

[@ahitesi]

4:58 i loved the way he explained this situation & the guy’s pov. The guy was young thought it was the right choice and admitted his emotions. He’s sharing his truth 💔😢

[@TNGURL08]

The last point is currently happening to me. 😢 💔. Sir, thank you for this informative perspective so I can begin the grief process of hoping the dating phase would lead to the commitmented phase. Hurts bad 😔, Stephan. However, I needed to hear this.

[@maryc8901]

Ghosting is the worst! I don’t understand why a man doesn’t express it clearly that he is not interested in you. So much drama and it is exhausting

[@ThePoet143-Mrs.B]

This world has taught men being or looking weak is a bad thing also they've had past partners that have made them feel as if it's a bad thing that's why you have to have a safe space for the both of you amen amen amen 👏 🙌 🙏 ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Amen 🙏

[@valeriekaroline]

Thank you for making that first point and the explanation beforehand. So important!

[@nicoleflusk5434]

When talking about dating-not marriage, My experience is when they grow cold it’s essentially over. I’m not talking about cold for a few hours or even a couple days but anything beyond that is they are pulling away. They won’t come back in the way we want and need. Does the reason actually matter???? Nope!! Ultimately the outcome is exactly the same. Either we accept it and let them move along or we resist and try to get them back or make changes or chase them… ect I have dated men that fit all of these examples mentioned in this video but the end of the story is the same!! It’s over and there is no possibility for long term commitment and marriage. It’s sad, it’s hard, it’s frustrating,it’s a waste of our time, it’s hard to not cling on to potential, but again the end result is the same. There will NOT be an end result of long term commitment and marriage.

[@dianahoward4226]

Thank you. I was blessed by this video and feel a little more peace in my decision to continue to wait on God 🙏🏽

[@natalierodriguez2008]

Its like you have a little camera hidden in my life! 🤳🏼 This explains so much!

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

At the point of hearing how people believe things will not deter a certain man from talking to someone...Many peoole forget about the spiritual warfare that's prevalent, and all of the karmic people who try to attatch themselves with those whom they know they are not meant to be with long term. So yes, there are situations that will TRY to block a man from being with their true soulmate/twin flame..However what is meant to be will be regardless what anything nor anyone tries to do.

[@travelchannel304]

I noticed "that moment " w/:others & w/ my child's dad( pre-conception.😅). Like the shoe dropping..it's predictable!! 😂 I didn't really like him for long term anyway & could watch the process cause I didn't care. I think it's when the guy "wants something " and your able to provide , & what he's able to do, yet he's been a "good boy" or "his representative" isnt meant for long term. And he's gotta be himself!! And his poo or humanity comes out . LoL

[@Perseverance1843]

😢😢 It's very sad that friends and family do that. Plant negative thoughts in a man's head.

[@southerngurl.speaks4901]

I always check in on your content for a self check. You’ve been at this for years. Your voice is needed in THESE times. Keep blessing us with your gift 🙏🏾💕

[@toluwalopeawodoye1821]

Thank you Coach for this episode. It really resonates with what I am experiencing at the moment, especially your last point. More grace sir🎉

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

This happened to me recently. I asked the man about it. I asked him if it was something that I said or did. He said no, it's "just life" He told me that he recently went through a divorce and was going through a hard time financially. He's on antidepressants that have messed with his sex drive. We met and had instant chemistry. We had passionate sex. He's poly. I'm monogamous. We both have insecure attachment issues. There's an age gap and physical distance between us. His new partner may have gotten into his head, but in any case... we're not compatible. I do care about him... It's unfortunate. I won't chase him if he's testing me. I have a (little) self-respect. He hasn't communicated with me in weeks. I had to block, delete, and let him go. I knew it wouldn't have worked out long term anyway, the sex was good though...

[@francinethompson5225]

Your video helped me make sense of a few things. Very helpful and right on time. Thank you.

[@tanyapowell5403]

I expect MORE from men. Not teenagers, not man-children but MEN. I expect men to communicate clearly, effectively and honestly. I know that life can life the hell out of all of us. I get that. Trust and believe I get that but both sexes have to find a way to put a voice to their feelings. Shutting down and closing people off is not the answer. That's very hurtful and disrespectful. It's okay for men to express feelings. Jesus did! Jesus wept. Jesus turned over tables in the temple. He spoke the truth with love. It's okay! Men please stop shutting us out. Last, I whole heartedly agree with you about the internet being a bitter, nasty, negative place. The older I get the more I guard the gateways. What I look at on television/movies, who I listen to on podcasts/music, who I deal with etc. Very selective.

[@olajumokeadaramoye2222]

❤❤❤

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

So true...some people just DO NOT know how to mind there own business, which is why it is always SO IMPORTANT to keep boundaries in place with others when it comes to ones personal business. Unfortunately everyone does not mean you well, whether if it is kinfolks or not. It really is very sad, but such is the way of the world.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

***their

[@BerryDivine33]

I’m really trying! 😢I don’t think I have another relationship in me. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

Excellent video & topics 💯💯💯 I love that you include your personal experiences in your discussions 👏🏼👍🏼💗💯

[@Prettynikki815]

You are freaking amazing Stephen... and you're real

[@shay-yanadanielle6088]

Thank you for your clarity and guidance.

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

..so draining to even listen to. I had to walk away from a Soul I love so deeply yesterday. He admitted to lying when entering the Journey with me...and, also acknowledged that his past connections were not SafeSpaces and i am being punished by his actios and lack of intimacy. Its unnecessary and painful when youve done your due diligence and even have weekly check-ins on how we eac felt and may be lacking.

[@earthangel_911]

This is right on time and definitely resonates with what he has said to me on several occasions. Thank you Stephan!🙏🏽✨

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're welcome 🙏

[@chika_7111]

It's been the best, I swear. We're literally best friends. Then all of a sudden he's distant and cold, when I call he ignores, doesn’t send messages, when he answers or calls after so ignoring all my calls he's like "what do you want" and making me feel like I'm bothering him and my mind starts to wander. I try talking to him that I want him to at least send messages and let me know what's going on because of how it makes me feel. One time he was like "I don't take you for granted, I love you" but then he continues not sending texts. I understand that he's really stressed from work and school but stress shouldn't destroy your relationships. I've always encouraged openness in the relationship. Everything you said about "Stress and Overwhelmed" is exactly what is happening.

[@lorrecco]

Then he basically is not ready for a relationship. Let him go

[@ThePoet143-Mrs.B]

Communication is a huge part ❤❤❤❤amen Jesus amen amen yes yes yes 👏 🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Amen 🙏

[@FrancesHernandez-hf5ys]

Yes! ❤❤❤

[@nm9412]

After listening to your videos, you have made a huge impact in my relationship. Thank you.

[@loisntein1623]

Thank you for always sharing very helpful lessons, God bless you

[@brendabuggs8805]

My ex doesn't know what he want's and I don't have time for him now and I am waiting on God to bring the right one for me because life is to short. to wait on him to get it together because my ex plat's mind games with me so I'm done now❤😂🎉😢😮😅😊

[@MsLilac88]

Hello Stephan, I always feel enlightened by your amazing relationship advice videos, I have been married for 5 years plus now. 😊

[@jenniferlawson9830]

I was peaceful and supportive the whole time before that issue and after that issue, but his negativity just really started rubbing me the wrong way and whenever I try to express that to him, he never listen. He just never was good at having serious conversations and that’s how becoming aggressive with him.

[@emilybrundige7295]

Great advice Stephan thank you you are very knowledgeable :)

[@superspark2374]

Can you do an entire podcast about "staying in a relationship too long. . " I seem to miss that, because i caught my last 2 guys cheating on me! But they lied and told me 'we were exclusive!'

[@mabel.e.kgalley9710]

Thanks a lot for the video, it's really timely.

[@ahitesi]

7:34 this makes sense but I cant stand it when men act sooo in love to begin with when we were just vibin 😂😂😂 He chose to start applying pressure when it wasnt called for at first smh 😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑

[@TheeHoneyBadger-bv7th]

I am a successful woman. He is younger and I give him more credit than he deserves. I can’t call him if my electricity is out. He is never available for me. I understand that we live an hour away. I would like for him to pick up the phone. I am out. That’s all I need to know.

[@jajoseph23]

Very helpful video. Thank you Stephan 🙏🏽

[@melissaj.corbin7675]

Stephan, thank you so much! You delivered with love and compassion on a situation that encompasses us all in every type of relationship. God bless your passion for helping others heal. ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you. And God bless you too 🙏

[@teddysketty3603]

Thank you for the great insight ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're very welcome 🙏

[@ThePoet143-Mrs.B]

Shutting down is never a good thing you have to be able to talk about anything and everything it's easy to just shut off but not cool yes yes yes always take the time to talk to God absolutely but you have to be able to talk to your partner amen Jesus amen amen thank you 🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Well said 🙏

[@Marie-vz2qp]

Understanding is everything.

[@dbknights2005]

So many childish behaviors in the male that needs to play silly childish 🤦🏾‍♀️ games🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ellabirchard564]

I agree with the last advice you gave towards the end, which should have been the first advise, in my humble opinion.

[@PRINCESSGEMINI1987]

It was last to keep people watching the full video. It was in order of importance.

[@michellegirau8136]

The only time I felt a really strong connection to someone he ended up doing this after helping in a situation. We were together when I was 15-17. So I didn't get this so when he became distant I felt I had to get out. He wanted to get married and everything. I still wish I would have handled that differently. Maybe one day we will cross paths again. I saw him once after 17 years and he had a big reaction I got scared and walked off.

[@olgaweeks6465]

Dear Stephan, thank you so much for this video! How would you ask the guy to understand if he wants a way out?

[@Ziggimomspal68]

Calling or texting me 4 to 10 times a day, expressing affection, then suddenly nothing…tells me he’s “contending” with his 95 yo mother (he’s 61), all communication stops. I try to text a good morning, thinking of you, praying for you both, etc. but I just get crickets. I want to give him the space he seems to need, and I am but it still puzzling as to the abrupt change. So I’m backing away…it’s hurtful, it’s confusing, and I don’t need this in my life right now.

[@tredd9019]

Run. He's either an avoidant, or cheating, or both. Either way, a man is NEVER too busy to get what he wants. And at least for right now, it ain't you, sis😳

[@amc3964]

Special man. Thanks for your insight.

[@JackieS812]

Great video Bro. Stephan!❤

[@brittneyharvey2917]

Can you do a video on men who are willing to openly date you but are afraid to label the relationship if you haven’t already 🥰

[@JStig12]

@brittneyharvey2917 I don't get that. I am the opposite. I am not pushy about it with the other person, but I almost want to label the relationship after the first date. 😂.

[@brandymullen234]

Love the insight.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I appreciate that 🙏

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

Current experience with someone I met, unbelievable chemistry. Ruminating for a week as nothing since we met. I haven't contacted him as I refuse to chase him, I need him to reach out to know he actually wants me. Coming to the conclusion that he's not for me, I am a high value woman who has no problem attracting men, but I wonder if inner work needs to be done to avoid attracting these people 😢

[@KayB_719]

Same !!! Just don’t understand

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Both people need to put in effort. You should call him.

[@paigefox3777]

Hi I am enjoying your advice. I literally just found you yesterday. I’ve been dating this guy for two months and he told me he loved me. He saw us together in the future. I was very reluctant to being in a relationship after not being in one for 3 years, but I let my guard down and let them into my heart. We shared many same interest and about past break ups that hurt him and myself. I thought we understood each other well and then he pretty much has ghosted me without any explanation. My mind is blown right now. It’s only been a week since this happened please give me advice. I want to let go of the idea of us, but can’t no matter how hard I try.

[@stookie98380]

Stephan U give such great insights.... Thank u King

[@alicewooley7097]

I think it is always good to Communicate , not to carry any other old relationship problem onto another Relationship, believe in to have their own space ok yes then come on back together , surely this is good

[@mca217]

17:20 This one is CONSTANTLY overlooked because, in reality, most people don't understand empathy.

[@Armonynator]

32:22 I ve fortunately been forced to hear this !! no regret #resonances #gratitude #coach

[@deborahroland442]

Will there be any visits to Arizona? November. To April is best to avoid the heat😂❤❤❤

[@peggycatoe6865]

Men rarely open up and expressing how they feel in a relationship but if when the conversation is about day to day life they won’t stop talking. It’s very frustrating.

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

This was very helpful!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’m glad to hear that

[@brendahart3754]

My ex husband could not empathize with me when i had a problem, or deep concern. It was a huge blow, and many times i felt like i was alone in the relationship. So it was not a big leap to be ok with being alone, when things got worse, and we were forced to separate.

[@paulettealston8372]

Sounds like puppy love, adolescent infatuation. A childish or youthful infatuation with another person. Grown men and women communicate to understand each other. Love should be intentional and transparent if it’s real love. Communication is most important, a lack of communication causes distance when love isn't intentional. Love is intentional, anything less isn't love.

[@kennekashenaye]

Love your videos!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@BeyondBodie]

This was a great video!

[@HelenMarieRivera]

This happened to me when I found out I was pregnant and then I found out he was cheating when our daughter was 14 months old. He ended up staying with her and is still with her. Our daughter is now 3 and it left me completely broken and this was 6 years into our relationship and we were best friends before since we were kids. I suffered bad postpartum depression and anxiety and from that I started experiencing focal seizures. And let me add that he’s doing to her what he did to me. Cheating. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want to be with her because he continues to say he doesn’t want to be with her and is ending things but has not. I feel like he might feel pressured to be with her by his sister since that’s her best friend and pressured by his mother.