7 REAL Reasons WHY MEN Always Come Back After...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@bec7839]

What a person allows.... good or bad.... is what will continue. ! Man to Female or female freind to female friend

[@NurseClaudia]

I all seriousness for anyone…. If you are suddenly single, you need to be alone and find out who you really are. Surround yourself with friends and family who love you. Do some reading and self help studying. Maybe you don’t want another relationship. Being single is ok too. Enjoy the independence.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@cocozhong8102]

Not bad to be single, better take care of yourself and life is simple

[@darniecedenise4371]

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[@Letsgopicnic420]

Being single is actually a liberating experience❤

[@keelane2575]

I mean the Peace frm being single is just PRICELESS 💎‼️ of course I wouldn’t mine companionship but dating is sooo different now so ✌🏾 lol

[@Ms.SelfFabulous]

I had an ex try to come back twice on social media, and we haven't dated in 9 years. Wanted to be friends I said the devil is a lie to myself. I didn't even respond back to him i blocked him. Slience always speaks volumes. He thought I was weak because I am a empath. But God helped me to show him otherwise!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Afriquella]

The devil is a liar na lie

[@catherinekramer7459]

My ex narcs try to come back after 15 months later

[@keelane2575]

So proud of U👏🏾👏🏾.. I also am a empath & boyyyy they do think they can play us off of that! But nawwww 😅

[@Michelle_83_41]

I know that’s right 👏🏾❕

[@Rico-RR]

I’ve never fired someone from a job, then re-hired them again.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@zolabison2744]

This comment is fire 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 and not getting the likes it deserves.

[@landang710]

I think different way: you can’t rehire those who quit the job from your company. Maybe your place is too toxic and it’s a bless for people who run away 😂

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Really ? Never say Never

[@joannagabrieli6860]

I accepted him back after year of not being together he stayed for another year and a half. He already knew he had colon cancer colon cancer. We were together another year and a half you're in a half year and a half period after he was healed he was crueler than the first time then I was discarded. He said I was responsible for his erectile dysfunction and that he needed a woman that would let him be him . Not all men are worth a second chance

[@nadraallen7972]

Some come back because they have no where else to go...

[@lorrainea.285]

PREACH!!! They always think the grass is greener & they end up being stuck in the MUD!!!!….with pigs!!🐖🐖🐖🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@lolob7477]

This!!!

[@macm2373]

👍

[@cyleaseabrook8211]

Bingo!

[@beautefatal1578]

😂

[@lindaandreula2724]

When a man hurts you it is hard to forgive him!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best

[@meetfreedom333]

You need to forgive is good for you to heal from hurt and not stay in negative feelings, trust Almighty and work on yourself ✨🙏✨❤️

[@ayyn8ivdoll]

​@@meetfreedom333 I agree, been reading a book called "I love you, but WHY are we so different?" By Tim LaHaye, has been a game changer for me, there is a chapter about forgiveness. I am a person speaking on the behalf of formerly being a Grudge holding type of person, it has helped me to learn to try a different approach and humble myself and make it better for the sake of my relationship.

[@landang710]

@@meetfreedom333you forgive because you need to heal yourself , but can’t do that with a man, it’s in woman’s nature, to treat it, she needs a true effort from that man, otherwise a woman can’t forgive him

[@zolabison2744]

So don't

[@amyitis]

The option mentality is a red flag for me. Im personally not waiting for anyone to decide when i was all in from the beginning. I am no one's option. We find our own worth within ourselves, and if you respect yourself enough, you'll leave the dead peacefully.

[@lorrainea.285]

@amyitis WELL SAID!!!!! I had to save this comment & put it in my notes app!! Thank you!!!

[@Xnul23]

+1 well said. True

[@latonafaye]

If you are a child of God, then may I suggest that you read Hosea and other chapters in the bible. It doesn't mean that you may reconnect, it could be about forgiveness, or God letting you know he knew your pain. As he allowed the person that does come back to appreciate what his blessings look like, when it wasn't appreciated when it was their blessing. It's also good to care for yourself. We all should. But can you imagine if Jesus came in the world to demonstrate what self-love/self-care (one for and of themselves) looked like. It would have never been about us or beneficial to us.

[@Portia620]

😂🥂

[@tynishalofton6770]

😊 25:15 25:15

[@lolob7477]

I just went through this!! Together for years, the love of my life. He disappeared after an argument. Seven years later, he wants to come back. He gave all the excuses Stephan is mentioning. "He wasn't mature." "He wasn't sure I was the one." (that was a hurt piece), then in another breath "He wanted to ask me to marry him, but was scared" "Its not my fault I had a messed up, confused, stupid man." Yep, he was absolutely right, his insecurities is not my issue. I am sorry Stephan, I don't have time to figure out why he is coming back. All I know is I am not a revolving door.

[@Portia620]

This!!! Be vary careful with accepting a man back…don’t!!!!

[@ed000]

They always come to check if you,the lady is still a fool to play with. Ladies,keep your legs closed and all contacts denied. I know one who doesn't know himself since a baby and almost 50,still doesn't know himself . This is "arrested" immaturity

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@keirstenbooboo2616]

is his initials r j? 🤣 if so i know him too lol

[@joannastanden5816]

I know one he's 65 they never change and keep moving on to the next women

[@JoyHarrison]

​@joannastanden5816 A man in his early 50s lovebombed, breadcrumbed, and then ghosted my cuz. I was flabbergasted that at that age, some men are doing that. I told her he's immature and has to suffer from a mental disorder.

[@NeedyGardner]

This video was for me. I was 30ish he was 40ish..he cheated...we are now 60ish and 70ish..he admitted he was not mature.. we always had a connection. After 30 years we are getting married. Commutation is key, life is funny. Trust and forgiveness made our life whole. Thanks

[@Youareloved511]

What a beautiful story life often works out in funny ways, thank you for sharing this story - wishing you both a wonderful journey of a lifetime together 🤗🫶 all the best

[@p.nicolelawrence1978]

​@@Youareloved511Me too!!

[@marianocente7011]

I’m curious, did either of you marry others during the separation? I ask because my first love returned after 25 years… we’re bothering married to others.😮

[@gikmdm2198]

Never, never take back someone who did’nt valué you when they Were whith you.

[@Sarah-bn1hg]

Exactly. It’s their character. That never changed.

[@dezydream6472]

I do not agree. My ex came back after over 6 years, with more love & respect. He needed to go, grow up & realized what he had. I patiently waited. It was worth the wait.

[@Happycamper52880]

What Stephan is saying is so true about reconnecting. When we spoke after decades apart, it was as if we just talked yesterday. Like we had never been away from each other. In our situation it was circumstances not a problem with the relationship that caused us to go in different directions. Our connection is amazing- spirit to spirit. Truly “one flesh.” We’ve been back together for three years and now married for one. thanking God every day for what He has done for us.

[@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164]

Wow you reconnected after decades apart. That's amazing! God bless your marriage ❤❤

[@shawanahickman6952]

Just give me the one God wants me to be with

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you receive the one who is truly best for you, the one God has for you 🙏

[@lynnsteed9979]

🙏

[@earleneworrell]

Yes Lord waiting on you ❤.

[@omotoyetobi8053]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Amen and me too

[@kwashaburts933]

Atp

[@pennylanemcdougall1987]

I Deserve to be loved respected and cared for by a Godly Husband. 🙏♥️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

And may you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

[@Portia620]

Amen! 🙏

[@sweetwil80]

Amen.

[@Petra.80]

I have a cousin that was in a relationship and there was a deep connection, but her family was against it. She married another man, had 4 kids with this man, left the marriage after 10 years and married her soulmate and had 5 children. It did not work at first not because they didn't get along, but because of outside influences. I don't believe love can keep you in a toxic relationship. Love is a powerful force and you can only give good to the person you love. God is Love. God walked into my room and I felt love engulf the room, I felt peace.. Love brings peace.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Mariediaz711]

@petra.80 I was asking you not Stephan 😬

[@Petra.80]

@@Mariediaz711 what was the question sweetheart?😊

[@Mariediaz711]

@@Petra.80Were they able to work it out? And if so how did they overcome all the negativity?

[@Petra.80]

@@Mariediaz711 yes, they did. They stood their ground and they families had no choice but to be on board. They are both medical doctors and with their children they own a hospital and are helping their community. That was the purpose. All the best!

[@Rhonda-dozier54]

My Ex left me for a coworker and ended up marrying her. And now he was trying to get me back . But I have blocked him. He is feeling the regret now.

[@Hollywhite1]

Good for you ! That’s beyond the pail

[@missl9348]

He's married to her and still contacting you? How long has it been since he left? Do not engage with that man.

[@estherdistefano6997]

​@@missl9348she just said she blocked him ,So no contact.

[@RobertLyons-p2u]

I do everything for this man I cook I clean I bathed him and for some reason he start coming to the house only Monday and Tuesday he called me on Wednesday after that phone call Wednesday I don't hear anything from Thursday Friday Saturday and Sunday Monday he wants to text me and say I am coming over then he find out this guy is interested in me he takes me out long walks on the beach and talk he listens to me the only thing we talked about is his car and his truck what he has to do to it oh and top that off Wednesday night Thursday night Friday night Saturday night Sunday night he don't answer the phone but wants to call Monday what should I do I love him I've been seeing him since 2012

[@seeingisbelievingtruestory7274]

Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder person and a man who just wants to continue hurting another or DV….I’m just going to RUN

[@kinyaalexander7252]

Yes most Narcissist always try come back so they can continue to get validation from you. Also it’s too bad that Narcissist are not able to emotionally understand that they’ve sabotaged the relationship beyond control and lost a good person😢😢

[@JackieS812]

That’s true brother! When you said some men come back because they can! That’s why I tell women and young girls, it’s so important to be whole and spend time alone to get to know you! I encourage them by saying don’t be like me! I didn’t have low self-esteem. I had no self- esteem!

[@yuwawanable]

The last point is crucial. Most of the time we overlooked the fact that it’s the interaction between two persons. He couldn’t come back, if you did not allow him to. The rest do not matter to me. Once either of us decided to quit the relationship, it’s simply not good enough to get it back.

[@birdiechesanek9415]

Dating is so difficult. I just divorced after 37 years with an abusive man. The last 20 were a waste of time . I’m in counseling now,but dating is heartbreaking.

[@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941]

Just divorced from a 37 year relationship you need to heal from that trauma before dating anyone. Some therapy may be beneficial along with time spent God.

[@Portia620]

Yes it is!!! 🙏😢

[@yulinng]

Big Hugs. Prayer for you. God can restore the years the locust have eaten! Anything is possible in Christ. You will see him restore! Follow Him! xx

[@brandnews6314]

i can relate

[@tamaratindall1688]

Yeah it is like that with me

[@rosamoreno4794]

In the past, when I stopped talking to a man, I would block his phone from my contacts to prevent this. They try, but they get the hint. This is such a pet peeve of mine, contact from loneliness or desperation or no other choices. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@camellia8625]

I also delete their contact details so I don’t contact them in a weak moment.

[@RacilleAshley-sf7yv]

Forgive, forget, MOVE FORWARD with your LIFE, and NEVER look back! It's the PAST, move forward in the PRESENT Happily, NEW BEGINNING, NEW LIFE!! START OVER, but this time. GOD'S WAY , GOD'S Timing!! Heal and move forward...

[@theejuicygoldengoose271]

Facts! 💯🎯

[@denamiller199]

I literally saved the contact as Your Past, don't look back and blocked them from all social media platforms and in my contacts.

[@patriciabukator2622]

@@denamiller199love this!!!

[@patriciabukator2622]

@@denamiller199past#1,2,3 etc😂

[@saratrnkova5362]

Dear Stephan, thank you so so much for bringing clarity to such a tough topic with such an open heart... I truly needed to hear this today. You have no idea how much peace and connection to God you've brought to me through your videos over the past few months... You're a true blessing and a pray God protects you, encourages you and surrounds you with love that you deserve so much!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@hj2yu]

I have to say… I needed to do some healing before I continued watching your videos. You speak the absolute, God-spoken TRUTH!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith ❤️ 🙏🏼

[@hj2yu]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Amen 🤎

[@jenniferschutz9100]

This video gave me a lot of clarity. I dated a man ten years ago (he was 25 at the time, I was 27), he ended up breaking up with me because he "wasn't ready". Time goes by, and he wants to get back together, I am assuming he thought I was the same "easy going" little 27 year old that dealt with all of his dismissive behavior. Anyways, long story short, we got back together and he has NOT CHANGED one single bit. He still had the dismissive behavior and other avoidant traits. I didn't deal with that very well, I am more outspoken now then I was ten years ago. We ended things 3 weeks ago, pretty badly too. I wish I saw this video before getting back with him... Thank you for all your work! I do appreciate it during this transitioning time I am going through.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@jenniferschutz9100]

Thank you! I apperciate it! It actually brought me closer to faith. ​@@MeetStephanSpeaks

[@kwashaburts933]

God will bring you through this storm

[@mistimullis73]

I love how you broke down all the reasons someone might try to come back. I understand a great deal about people myself and I always look into the “why” or “how” a man became the way they are and I do definitely factor in maturity. There’s a lot of good actors and fakers out there sadly. I recently broke up with a man because even though he asked me to be exclusive and stated repeatedly he wasn’t talking to anyone else and even went as far as to say he didn’t have time for anyone other than me. Red flags went off because I’ve heard that before and the truth is if you want to cheat you make time. I say all this to say it became evident that he was talking to at LEAST 2 other women. Probably more. Psychologically I realize he probably has some unhealed wounds. To have a woman who pouring into him, that he stated was everything he wanted. But knowing the things he may need healed does NOT mean I should stay or allow him to continue side chats or emotional attachments with other women when we are supposed to be exclusive. There was definitely a connection and it breaks my heart that he didn’t see my worth or his own. My prayer is that he grows in the Lord as well in maturity and never does to anyone else what he did to me. These type of individuals seem to find my authentic heart. Not to say I’m perfect, I’m perfectly imperfect, but I almost want to say I should be used to this by now. Honestly no one EVER gets used to being lied to or cheated on or not valued. I trust and believe in Gods plan. Although I’ve had many traumatic experiences and domestic violence I STILL believe in love. I believe in good men being out there. Ultimately I believe that God really truly has someone for me. Who will love, value, respect me and vice versa. I love your videos. You help me and others a great deal and let me just say, God bless you for it!!

[@denisewinston137]

My ex-husband told one of my sons that he feels that he made a mistake, and that he realized that he had a good woman

[@Artbynbru]

I’m mid-aged but my father told me the same thing about my mother.

[@estherdistefano6997]

His loss not yours

[@BatmanFan2.0]

My boyfriend and I were in a talking stage a year before we actually started dating. But the talking stage didn't last very long because he faded out and ghosted me. One year later (this summer) our paths crossed, and he started to pursue me again. I was still hurt by what he did, so I told myself I wouldn't let him back in my heart unless he proved himself and apologized. Let me tell you what: this man put in 100% the second time around, and never gave up. He respected me, changed for me, and apologized. He said he was immature and realized he made a mistake. I finally agreed to go on a date with him, and we've been together for almost 2 months now. I feel like I'm dating my best friend, and we're helping each other grow to be better people. My God is awesome! *EDIT*: Everything you said was spot on, Stephan. The first two reasons were the biggest ones in my scenario. Thank you!!

[@alexandrabalkanska5040]

If they screwed up once, chances are they will do so again...

[@anikaray4192]

Stephan I loved this content and that you were honest and kept it real. In my case my ex did come back after almost 6 months because I looked good to him because he actually cheated while we were together and moved on with that person only to find out the grass was not greener 😊 I believe the reasons were because he missed our chemistry and sexual connection.Our relationship was really a situationship and once when I realized that I didn't want that anymore. I'm looking for a life partner ❤ I politely said no and haven't heard back. I'm happy and living my best life loving myself open to someone where we will both go all in.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you ❤️ 🙏🏼

[@dargeo1406]

We all live and learn. Every story is different but there’s no second chance because we broke up for a reason. Only a fool would give them another chance if they lied, cheated or mistreated us in any way. Their karma is seeing us happy with a real Man. Thank you. 🤷‍♀️🙏❤️

[@HD-Australia]

Thank you Stephan. Perfect timing. My ex is chasing after me, he is miserable without me in his life. He was great, and our bond was deep. Then he started acting off. I think he brainwashed himself reading red pill Manosphere content such as Rollo Tomassi... I saw the book at his place and he said I can't read it (?) Anyway, everything blew up after 3 years. He is miserable. I am heartbroken and hurt. I am seeking God and want to find out what God wants for me

[@nyuuuchan]

wow that is sad. any man who's stupid enough to think they're better off without a loving woman, is walking red flag 🚩

[@AliSophiaThroughMyEyes]

When a man reveals himself to you the first time, *believe him*. It will save you your time, heartache, and whatever you'd have invested. Forgiveness does not mean you have to let him back in, 99% chance, he will go back to square one after a few weeks or months. Forgive and get on with your life, focusing on rebuilding a much better version of who he met to begin with.💯🇯🇲

[@tanitshkatanjusha]

Too bad fo the guy.. when I'm gone, I'm gone..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@xino_z]

thats me too girl never had a good one twice they come back with even more drama

[@xino_z]

@meetstephanspeaks you keep doing that good work

[@LaughingLead]

I love this 😂 when I'm gone I'm gone 😂

[@tashamack8701]

Me to sis I am out of there

[@ruthhopkins8575]

He doesn't always come back because he cares for you. Some of them do but many don't. Excellent videos some other reasons why men come back Sex is a powerful thing for men seeking a physical connection. We as humans are also connected in other ways. Mentally connection do we vibe together? Emotional connection is the heart connection with each other. 2. You don't need him. You show him you have a life without him. 3. Control issue- He thinks I can her back. 4. It is comfortable/familiar- He thought the grass was greener. He knows who you are. He knows what you like/don't like. What makes you upset, etc? He knows what to do and what not to do. He doesn't need a GPS to know you. 5. He misses you. 6. You with someone new. Men don't like to be compared with other men esp. if an upgrade.

[@ArtemisWiwa]

Greetings from Sweden! 🇸🇪🕊️ We love your channel! We hope to see you here one fine day. God bless you Stephan. Stay in your radiant light. 🌷🦋☀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@ArtemisWiwa]

Endless blessings and much light from Sweden! May you tour Europe soon with your excellent seminars. 🕊️🇸🇪 Stephan Labossiere you are a real gem! 💎🍃🇺🇸

[@j.mad414]

i know i lost the ONE! she was the BEST woman i ever met/had… i recognize it now Stephan, all those points are valid. i truly wish her the best… i recognize i have a lot of inner work to do on myself… God willing maybe one day she will be mine again!

[@raebraebla]

Apologise sincerely, even if it means getting on your knees. Don’t wish. Win her heart with your actions

[@MimiCoco-gt7zo]

I commend you for being transparent & having self awareness

[@ladymb4237]

Reach out admit your errors and let her know that she was a good woman to you. If possible, ask if her if she is willing to be friends until you get the healing needed and let her know that you are working on yourself. I tell you a good woman, a woman of noble character and integrity don’t come by often or easy. I say reach out

[@verarobinson6759]

Try to get back with her again my boyfriend broke up with me everything was perfect if he come back I would take him in a heartbeat

[@Rico-RR]

This highlights my biggest issue with social media. It makes it harder for “Ex’s” to stay “Ex’s” and in the past. It’s a problem when people stay updated with their “Ex’s” or romantic partners lives, years later while in another relationship. It’s a problem people.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@zolabison2744]

Thank you for saying that. I agree 100%❤❤❤❤

[@VikingsChic1]

Exactly. I got off social media a few years ago. Best decision I ever made. We didn't need it before and we don't need it now.

[@soulbutterflyy]

I agree. Before social media only a few people you know would see pictures of your life in an album / photo book when or if they came to your home for a visit. They’d look at it for all of 10-20 minutes and that was probably the first and last time. Social media keeps that album open, accessible and ongoing 24/7. Because of this, I take the approach of never adding a man I’m dating or even in a relationship with. I’ll reserve that add for one person…the one who my last name changes to match his.

[@leviwaifu6564]

Me and my hubby just broke up and it's sad it's already three past months, the reason why we didn't work out was that every time i ask him about the future he said I don't know, and I asked him too that "if we are already this close then why won't you marry me?" He was a good man and we never fought too, but somehow along the way, he got busy and just (most of the time) left me on read (i felt ignored) it's like i'm in a relationship but i felt lonely. I still pray for him that somehow God will give him wisdom and if ever we are not meant to be i wish he finds somebody who loves him unconditionally and not just use him for the money and body.

[@gemini188]

Real men with accountability will make things right. Thats rare. They don’t come back they move on to anyone who’ll take them

[@LifeLessonsforWomen]

Your video hits the nail on the head!!! I am in stitches over here laughing about a guy I know who has been posting relationship videos with Bible scriptures on several social media platforms talking about "a good woman" & "a good man" when he can't even keep a good woman, has been married 3 times, the last woman he was with walked out & left him, still wears a wedding band to keep up a false image that he's in a relationship to unsuspecting viewers & has yet to disclose such facts in lieu of likes & views. Ladies need to start doing their due diligence & being cautious about taking advice from internet characters they know very little about. Know your worth!

[@deanna9276]

He just won’t leave me alone I have set boundaries he just can’t let me go but it’s all love ♥️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I hope he reaches the point of doing what is genuinely best 🙏🏼

[@lindam4006]

Your erudite colleague, Jonathan Aslay, who focuses on the over 40 crowd, says 80% of men and women are emotionally immature. Lindsay Gibson, therapist & author of Disentangling from emotionally immature people, finds couples are usually matched in their levels of emotional maturity. So ladies, work on yourselves. You will see the reality of the situation, and know what you want and don't want and what to do.

[@xino_z]

thats good advice🎉

[@MimiCoco-gt7zo]

I love Jonathan as well. He has alot of good clips on dating as well.

[@GodHelpMe369]

A child that is not embraced by the village, will burn it down: to feel its warmth... When an emotionally broken/damaged/immature and abusive man is using a woman, he’ll show these signs: - he avoids truly deep and emotionally vulnerable conversations - he's inconsistent - he only contacts you when he needs/wants something - he doesn't REALLY include you in his life (it's all an illusion/fantasy) - he avoids commitments/labels - he makes you feel guilty/crazy/needy - he doesn't truly support you or your goals (in any real and tangible way) So, If he pulls away, give him a push... Let him go! When he pulls away, he can stay away, it is over! 1) Never EVER be afraid of losing him. You are the Divine feminine. Let him fear losing YOU! 2) Have an EXTREMELY low tolerance for ANY bad behavior... AVOIDANT or NARCISSIST? Let's be real. It's irrelevant. They both behave the same. The damage they do is the same. The trauma they cause is the same. FUCK THEM BOTH. So, When there’s a disagreement, an argument, a conflict, some bullying, disrespect, boundaries being crossed etc... someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So, I engage in each and every situation in a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me, NEVER ENDS UP BEING ME! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. AND REMEMBER: to test if ANY relationship is healthy - you've got to judge the relationship on its bad days, not on its good ones! ALSO, If you haven't heard today... You are so very loved and you are so very worthy of love. The hardest part is learning to love your self and to know: it's not all your fault, and to see: that you're beautiful; wonderfully perfectly brilliantly divinely created. You're stronger than most; a true leader/warrior in the making. Keep going and keep thanking. Remember Jesus was an outcast and he suffered more than any human being could ever endure... And the most important message here is to forgive them and to forgive yourself and to love all. Keep walking in truth. AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: * I completely totally entirely permanently forgive, release, let go, move on, and surrender to Jesus * I accept myself, 100% * I am a creative being, I create miracles * I fully harness all my power and magnificence and beauty * I am a master alchemist * My life always, and in all ways: unfolds perfectly, in accordance with divine guidance * I am restored to my true nature: which is LOVE * I constantly/consistently feel/accept: the love and bliss and joy and blessings that flow into my life Yes I AM blessed everything goes my way!

Wow!!! That’s a hell of a quote! I like it! Thanks!!

[@Amazinglilflowers]

Thanks for sharing

[@theevolvingblackwoman]

Great video Stephan .. some people return because they are bored or just to place hold you until they ready to move on again

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@hazell1593]

I have allowed him back into my life but I'm definitely not as in "like" with him as I used to be so we are just having fun!! That's all I got right now!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

[@marieclark8992]

I feel this!!!

[@SharonParker-jx1dv]

Thank you Stephan I appreciate you so much I had a beautiful 39 year relation with my husband until he passed it was a beautiful Marriage now in the dating world it’s so crazy to me and kind of scary I’m looking for love again I pray that God wants me to have that again I love all of your videos thank you for everything that you do I love you

[@shonb989]

This randomly popped up and I'm currently driving back to Houston after reconnecting after 3 yrs with him. I immediately had fear about moving forward and what it meant. He stated he has had dreams about me over these yrs. And he missed me etc. And I've always loved him. We shall see how it goes. Praying for guidance.

[@SoSheDid...]

Awww the break- down was Excellent Stephan! Thanks for sharing

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@ramonajohnson2738]

This is very helpful thank you Stephan 🙏🏽 I know that me being single and never married at 57. Is, ok that God will bless me with a God fearing man who is going. To poor into me and be the man that I need. Along with me being that God fearing woman that's going to poor into that man, and be the women that man needs 🙏🏽 Amen

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@ramonajohnson2738]

It's a must that I share your videos 🙏🏾

[@barbann675]

I could see your point if the man was immature but not abusive. I was raised by abusive parents so I ended up with very abusive men. I would not take any of those men back. Single and growing now 8 months; not closed but not looking yet either. I am working on myself healing and relearning from great videos like yours what a good man really is, and how I should be treated. I lost who I was in my last relationship; I am very excited finally about whom I am becoming now without any oppressive toxic other person's influence. Thank you for your great advice.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@kimmiewilson3129]

This is sooooo true. Thank you for sharing ❤ I'm focusing on God and trusting his decision 🙏

[@donitabrown8100]

Glad I found this share... Thank you Stephen, I really needed to hear this one and I have some soul searching to do because this is a "love that never died" situation with both party's and this one needs to be given to GOD for sure. love your content.❤❤

[@carolblaser3789]

Stephan, this is the best video yet. It really spoke to me. Thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@SMtWalkerS]

My friends were my life-line when my ex was trying to convince me to let him come back. They were my angels, and I needed them so much at that time.

[@khemaloving4031]

All of these considerations and disclaimers are proof positive that everything in dating, mating and relating is eventual.

[@phyliciateagle8625]

Omg HE WAS PREACHING I FELT EV-VER-REE THING lol he said I swear it touched my spirit (I love when he says that lol) this opened my eyes so much God brought me to this channel for healing!

[@CarolenaWilliams-pu1tf]

Genuine connection is always good. Why man always come back

[@LiaVargas-p8r]

I’m a firm believer that stuff doesn’t work out firstly because you’re not ready, and they come back because God is trying to teach you how to forgive. Otherwise we just continue the same cycles

[@LisaJones-hispite23]

Amen. We are human...everyone of us will make mistakes if we are together long enough

[@puligo714]

I agree with you on posting a picture part… does this mean we should not post any pics of ourselves or should we block our Ex from seeing our social media? I really dont like moving back and forth with a guy…. I honestly hate it…

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Fantastic life lessons coach Steph thank you Men usually leave the bone and run after the shadow Am been real now if the break up were respectfully done Maybe I'll reconsider ,if not just keep moving

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@MsLilac88]

Hello Stephan, I always feel enlightened by your amazing relationship advice videos. 👍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@wangcheng5188]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@wangcheng5188]

Amazing. how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@wangcheng5188]

Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@Mylesfinch]

Im now dating a man that I prayed for. He ended up having a baby with the woman he told me he never met. We never were exclusive. He definitely realized what he lost. I have such a soft spot for this man. Several men from my past have tried to come back, but they are still immature boys. I can see how my bf has matured, grown, taken accountability, etc. I do believe people deserve a second change. Im not trying to be wrapped up in the image or perception of me going back to him. I am happier than ever

[@alexandradavis0410]

That man made me almost end up in the therapy, thank god my friends were there to help me recover. Not only he betrayed me, he betrayed all of my friends. He lied to my besties about how he treat me, to trick them think he was a good man.

[@heathermoore1499]

That's the trait of a narcissist my dear. Do you, you're worth it!😊

[@lulatorrey6360]

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[@ChrisW1019]

I'm a man hopefully on my way to meeting the right woman the first time and never look back.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you ❤ 🙏

[@sylviamavule]

All the best braa

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Right could quickly turn left be carefull

[@emilyachieng943]

All the best

[@bodaciousdani]

Love with your whole heart. If you no longer want the relationship, express why and break up. Dont cheat. Always leave space for you to be cool.

[@nevergiveyouupbjcaldwell2454]

This is very heartfelt & valuable information that All women should know. Thank you Stephan🙏🏼❤🙏🏼

[@julistar90]

No. I wouldn’t take him back. Grass is not always greener on the other side so that’s why they come back. Sorry. Never.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@Ifeoma999]

Profound video 👑King❣️❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥🙏🏽🙌🏾☀️By the way, I love your new background decor it's 🔥🔥🔥☺️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@PrincessToti-e4z]

The video was really nice. It gives me hope that he comes back. But my heart feels so broken. It is so hard to forgive because I trust him so much. But nevertheless he is the one I have prayed for and deep in my heart I still feel that he is my God ordained spouse

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm glad to hear that. Thank you for your feedback 🙏🏼

[@dequinto4142]

I feel the same way, i just know God meant for us to be together its deep in my heart, and i cant let it go, but did have to let him go until its our time to be together

[@PrincessToti-e4z]

@dequinto4142 Thank you for your reply. It means so much to me. Now I know that I am not alone in this situation. Only God can come through for us and join our kingdom union together. We have to trust God, not loose hope and praying so long till God has answered our heart desires, because with God all things are possible 🙏

[@elenarotestan5823]

Stephan is the best 👌. I thank you for all you have taught me. God bless you 🙏

[@coralbrune]

Stephen, interesting lately, your broadcasts and I have been in sync even in simultaneous, or near to it, with an actual thing now happening, love this! On these, you are such an inspiration and a vessel or a light , you're being a messenger with God through you.

[@gretelsmith2985]

I try to always tell myself ppl are doing the best they can with what they got. Which always leaves the door open for forgiveness. But trust , after forgiveness comes some serious boundaries. Thanks for the great info, you make a lot of sense!!!!

[@shirleeberry5]

I’m a firm believer this is accurate. Been in a relationship often on for 20 years often now up-and-down roller coaster with him. He’s a nice he’s an Aquarius and I’m beautiful and I’m attractive. I don’t have no self-esteem whatsoever. We have a 17 year old daughter together, but I did not make me stay long in this toxic relationship. I have to cut them offin his life thank you for this message. It really made me not go back for the last time and yes, he has ran out a lot of options.

[@Celia-tm1nr]

Every woman should hear this! Wise advice from Stephan.Thank you so much!

[@denanikiawilliams]

Thank you Labossiere. This video was very helpful. Kind of touchy toward the end but you stated straight facts. Thank you again for pouring into us. We really appreciate it. Keep going. This is much needed 💛💜💙.

[@ana-mariaalrasul9231]

My guy left me then 6 months later wanted me back. I did not trust him for some reason so I could not say yes. After couple of months he got engaged and got married. She was someone completely new, I know that for sure. So was he lying to me? I had connection with him that was really deep and it's been many years since all of that happened. I guess you are right, those kind of connections never die but I think it's a curse to experience that, then lose it. All other relationships are empty because of that missing peace.

[@EllieM_Travels]

My man said he was feeling “trapped,” so I gracefully bowed out, no hard feelings. He immediately came back and said he made a big mistake, but I had moved on. Two years later, he said he has never dated since, doesn’t want anyone else, still loves me. We’ve been happy ever since, and he’s extremely attentive and loyal. No underlying issues. It was just his fear of commitment after being burned by two other women in his life. He’s past it.

[@redonionsyummy]

Wow, that's cool you started over again..with appreciation for each other

[@verarobinson6759]

❤

[@bec7839]

What YOU allow is what WILL continue !!

[@MoonSeven-gf8jz]

I really appreciate this content. It’s really good to see this from a man’s perspective

[@tiffy6128]

Thanks, Stephan for another great video!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@ReneePaull-gw3hy]

Thank you so much for your wisdom. It's been a great help for me!! Keep up awesome content❤❤

[@angelahardwick5450]

I let him back into my life and he threw me away. My heart is broken and I know that I will never let him in again!

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

Sometimes it takes twice to see. I’m willing to work it out one more time if he is, because we have miscommunication. But if I feel he’s not genuine I’m out! My last relationship dude played me after 4 years and he’s regretting it but moved on from.

[@monikabennettprestwood]

This was a very helpful video, Stephen. Thank you!

[@Menwa85]

Thank you for being very explicit 🎉

[@ndinaselma7967]

Number 2, what if you were dating this person, you separate he got married to someone else and now he keeps coming back to you, you also than feel something for this person when he comes back. What does that mean and what do you do in that case?

[@Sophisticated8]

Women are always waiting on the right man to come many men will cheat before the woman will when he treats her right he will keep her happy keep a smile on her face

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@mellowallen1742]

Great conversation!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 thank you!

[@gracedequino2708]

He break up with me because he said i love him too much . And he can't do the same .💔

[@crystalamos5925]

If it didn't work the first time, the probability of it working the second time is slim to non. Just my thought.

[@JanMuench467]

Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@JanMuench467]

@AidanShepherd78 wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@JanMuench467]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@Mariediaz711]

Nonsense. This is a scam.

[@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941]

This is a scam

[@teresasmith6500]

I just had a man who I loved, and broke up with just came back. He says it will be different and he missed me.But I don't know and I want to take it slow .

[@Kiata-vt5hw]

Same… Do what you Want and feel, if you want to go slow, go slow, set boundaries and stand firm on them. If they want to come back, they should pay admission and the price increased! Just remember, you are the prize 🏆

[@Kiata-vt5hw]

Oh and make sure you love yourself and look good doing so, he will act right when he think you have options, and do until he commits 🙃

[@Adrianna-gm4wl]

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone yeah I tried that it doesn’t work trust and believe that it just makes it worse.

[@lisalyons5381]

After 8 years of a small moment I felt the connection. Now he’s taking about our connection-8 years later ! He’s been trying for 2 but I had moved across country to Montana lol. Reminds me of the book Love In the Time of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez- the ending is epic and reflects your video here !!

[@Gloriagal78]

Dear brother, I’m over-the-top impressed of how wise and relevant you are in these messages. I consider it a great blessing to have found your channel. Needless to say, you have a new subscriber. God bless you!

[@catapillargirl2021]

This video is so all encompassing! You’re amazing! Thank you for this invaluable insight! 🙏🏻

[@joanagain007]

Forgive forget and move on with your dam best life!!! Sometimes we give too much chances when we were always seeing red flags.... move on forgive yuhself a go duh road!!!!! Kmt!

[@lorilnorth]

He never left and just won't leave me alone, but doesn't want a relationship with me. I need to DM you personally.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@SharonParker-jx1dv]

Thank you so much Stephan for your inspiration and love for healing

[@sacampbr1]

Powerful video!🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!