Why I Always Hated My Vagina

[@MerleONeal]

I have been absolutely blown away by all of the positive messages and words of encouragement upon the release of this video. I hope this video helped you, whoever YOU are, for whatever reason you're here. I hope it encourages you to talk about sex and your body with your partner, your friends, your children because it's only scary when we don't give it a name, shame lives in the dark. Lead by example, and start using the correct words for your body parts, don't skip over them, don't make them something to be ashamed of. Sending you love and light wherever you are on your journey; it's a long one, but we've had the power all along

[@krishnaasardeshmukh5846]

Thank you for doing this, you're amazing x

[@maddayyye]

I've never needed a video more in my life. Thank you Merle for being brave enough to share with us, it truly has helped

[@Summecca]

I always say representation is everything. Thank you for helping represent the female form fully, if only we were able to have conversations like these when I was growing up... I can only image how empowering and just educated I could have been (sooner) if only we could have open conversations... I hope you know that there are people, especially women who are also glad to be open, supportive and understanding of what you have been through and thank you for sharing your experience so we can all feel less alone. 💖

[@idil4657]

Thank you so much for this video

[@ciarahardy1327]

Love you Merle. Thank you so much.

[@hellheavin]

the one surgeon who said “fifteen years old” was so visibly scarred.

[@amylee3531]

Yet she did it anyway.

[@vanecaba9290]

Yeah, and she was a female..that may also be why.

[@shnugglebugs5524]

I know, she didn't decide to do it on such a young child.

[@shnugglebugs5524]

@Gabriel Meireles not necessarily, no.

[@shnugglebugs5524]

@Gabriel Meireles it's her job. The world is harsh and it's not really her decision whether she wants to operate on them or not.

[@fell4316]

The way the doctors can’t even say the word vulva but operate on young women I-

[@JennySmacksMan]

Sandy Kara yeah that made me feel a way that wasn’t good... this is your profession.. how are you uncomfortable saying something like that when you’re working on young women’s bodies?!

[@user-cz8cc1vu8p]

Jenny Smacksman My guy is probably a cosmetic surgeon rather than specialised in Ob/Gyn

[@poisoned_city_lights]

@@user-cz8cc1vu8p doesn't matter. If you're performing plastic surgery on a vulva then you should be able to say the word vulva.

[@jessicabenton5215]

ツZ they suppose to make us feel good

[@user-cz8cc1vu8p]

Jessica Benton Then again, not referring to the specified body part, the vulva, should have nothing to do with how an operation went and how you should feel. Not all interactions are direct about a topic. Not being rude, I’m just clarifying as a future doctor.

[@phatringworm]

When she said “women are cheated out of their arousal” that’s when I got very emotional. We’re not just taught how our vaginas and vulvas are supposed to look, taste, and smell. We’re also taught that women are too difficult to pleasure, or they take too long. So many women I know aren’t getting the pleasure that they deserve out of their sex lives because of that reason. Why is it a bad thing that women typically take longer? Why do we not deserve pleasure because it’s “too much work”? Why can’t we be allowed to enjoy our sexual experiences without feeling insecure and rushed? Im grateful to be with a man who understands this how I do, and I know not all men out there think that way. It has just been engrained into both genders to think that a woman’s pleasure is more work than it’s worth

[@gianaceline2451]

Go off 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@liz_lemon421]

Amen, sister 🤘

[@amybess]

PREACH

[@alondracarreno1376]

Im still a teenager and i like to do research about vaginas and vulva. I remember reading a youtube comment about a girl who's health teacher encouraged the students to look at their genitals to understand what is going on. I was curious and i decided to do that myself, i remember expecting my vulva to look how it did when i was younger and when i noticed it was different, i got scared and i almost cried. I asked my mom about it and she explained and i did some research on it. I thought i accepted it but watching this video made me realize how i still considered a vulva where the labia minora is not visable to be the norm. When i found out that women take longer to reach an orgasm and are harder to pleasure, i thought it was sad but i just accepted it. Watching this video and reading your comment made me realize i am scared for when i become sexually active because i dont want to be less of a priority because i am statistically harder to pleasure. This really upsets me but i'm glad that i have videos like this and comments like these to learn and empower myself with

[@foxyshazaam3310]

So true. How many times I have faked it just because it's easier and as a woman I tend to take longer and idk. The patriarchy, I tell ya. Lol

[@chelm5442]

One of the craziest parts of this video to me is the DOCTORS, trained medical professionals, being uncomfortable talking about the vulva. it’s literally just another body part. what is going on

[@fergusoh5092]

Or they're just not used to talking on camera so they're uncomfortable because of the camera not because of the subject

[@chelm5442]

@@leslietsai2540 Maybe I would be too, but I shouldn't be. No one should. But especially not doctors, who are talking about it from a health perspective. You should not need to be nervous talking about sexuality either, but that is a very personal topic. In this case, they are talking about the health of a body part, they are talking about theit profession and want to educate people. I feel that this is not personal or embarassing, that's why it threw me off..

[@user-qh1mx]

right!?! tf guys make dick jokes every other word but whole ass vagina doctors avoid questions. you could also tell they were ashamed about treating young young girls

[@user-qh1mx]

except they're literal vagina doctors. they spent half a decade+ preparing for a career looking after vaginas and the male doctor avoided a few questions. they aren't randos they got thousands and thousands of dollars worth of preparing them to be vagina experts.

[@AMSNDylan]

99% sure they’re just playing it up for the bit that buzzfeed was doing. In my repro unit literally all my med student classmates and professors were totally normal about everything.

[@lunairisnova]

I hope Merle’s back doesn’t hurt from carrying Buzzfeed’s best content

[@jimmyj3173]

Ironically this is actually buzzfeeds worst content lol

[@NoSe-jz9jw]

Actually her bf

[@Hahaa99]

Unsolved and Worth It says hi

[@MandeePeace]

@@Hahaa99 unsolved and worth it have been cancelled when they left the company

[@Hahaa99]

@Mandee Griffin False. They weren’t cancelled and are still a part of Buzzfeed

[@duaasabah4048]

I hate how porn made so many insecurities in too many women and the fact that some men out there think that women all have a perfect vagina no hair straight line and all of that

[@ughh1044]

Duaa Sabah RIGHTT!!!! It frustrates me seeing all these women such as Kylie Jenner influencing her viewers that plastic surgery is the new "natural". I can’t wait for this trend to go away. We need influencers who promote to embrace.

[@duaasabah4048]

@@ughh1044 the problem is the viewers themselves don't accept that, I've heard many people boys and girls calling others fat or judg their appearance by comparing them to influencers who clearly photoshopped their posts another example my ex didn't even believed the fact that every woman has hair down there it was crazy.

[@ilpahlm9797]

Ughh Kylie Jenner doesn’t talk about her vagina

[@madermaryhadalittlelamb8927]

a lot of porn stars has outies tho

[@JoseFernandez-ec5mv]

Not true, it all depends on the guy. Some like it shaved, some like it not shaved, some trimmed and some tattooed or pierced. It all depends on a guy, and this porn industry also affects men. We see the "sexy man with a big d**k* and with abs and ripped.... that all has a big effect on us.

[@synschoolinyounoobsakathemaske]

This is such a message about insecurities, and what people go through just to meet up to "normal" standards.

[@rushbcykablyat1792]

It's always the controlling types of people that decide what's "normal" for everyone else to follow. And to prevent anyone from not following their own subjective standards or ideas, they simply need to shame others and make them feel bad about themselves, until they conform. The solution is simple: Just reject and ignore anyone who shows controlling and demanding traits, and ignore whatever reasoning or logic or manipulation they can ever present to convince you of your own inferiority.

[@synschoolinyounoobsakathemaske]

@@rushbcykablyat1792 true, and fun fact nothings normal what's normal really, ? and beauty and body standards always changing.

[@bigorsetomatoesauce6403]

Blame the mum 🤣

[@yasminkaisha7705]

Im 14 and the fact that im already so self aware of myself is scary i cant beleive a girl at 15 got such a drastic surgery 🥺

[@titidaloc_]

I’m 14 too and I did not know girls feel like this

[@yasminkaisha7705]

@@titidaloc_ 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮 𝘴𝘰 𝘴𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘪𝘴𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘨𝘪𝘳𝘭 ♡︎

[@chinline1289]

@@titidaloc_ me and you bro. I just thought they thought what I thought

[@titidaloc_]

Same

[@titidaloc_]

Is good to know how some girls feel like

[@anaislira9961]

male and female DOCTORS not even being able to say “vagina” & “vulva” speaks volumes

[@Hazza_05]

no

[@toxicyokai]

Harry Edmund Townsend yes it does.

[@Nathansneep]

Alexa it really doesnt

[@claytonlatone8959]

There's no way they're real doctors

[@bdnroleo9494]

Huh?

[@s.s.862]

Can we just appreciate her boyfriend’s support and love? Aria and Kristoff over here KILLING the boyfriend game

[@caitlynroberts3100]

Periodt.

[@caitlynroberts3100]

And that’s on respecting and loving your partner no matter what.👏🏼🤭🥵

[@caitlynroberts3100]

Coltyn Stone-Lamontagne we know. We don’t need you to say it. Just so that you can make yourself seem like a good guy. Actions speak louder than words

[@andrewsmith-jz4cj]

So why does she hate it I don't understand?

[@caitlynroberts3100]

andrew smith hate what?

[@heyyyou7052]

Hey, if you’re reading this, please don’t make people insecure about their genitals.

[@lindanicolausson6148]

Parents letting their teenagers doing this, is very concerning.

[@pusslyn]

Wym?

[@josi4251]

Agreed.

[@Chxhxjjzizjxhsh]

Why

[@pusslyn]

@SIDDIQUE INTESAR thnxs for explaining

[@aicha3195]

@SIDDIQUE INTESAR why?

[@marlymoo5079]

"We need to stop waiting for permission to love ourselves" ... wow

[@ems3991]

Unless you don't like sex, apparently.

[@makenna5039]

@@ems3991 asexual or not this quote can be applied to anyone

[@imxn1000]

Yep

[@ritamanso478]

This video has tottally changed my prospective on women's sexuality. Merle is so strong for putting herself out here and talking about a growing insecurity beetween young girls.

[@theiridiumgamer5225]

So strong... Literally is just a PSA for being comfortable with your body. How many times do both women and men need to say that you're perfect just the way you are before it sinks in?

[@primroseproblematic2059]

Showing this kind of vulnerability to the entire internet to promote a message you believe the world needs to hear is incredibly courageous! I found this really moving.

[@PandasEatTacos]

I'm sitting here sobbing because I've finally found there's people out there who feel the same way I do. I've always hated this part of myself to the point where it has stopped me from entering relationships because I don't feel like I'm good enough. Merle thank you for being so open about this! I don't feel so alone anymore.

[@candincsoy9061]

I really would love to be with someone who has those kind of lips.

[@blasiomuhinda]

Still trying to findout what the issue is, is it big lips or what? I thought thats normal and beautiful.

[@saleemsaifi8825]

similar situation with men too. They're feared about their length and curves of their "hot-dog". Infact everyone is feared of being badly oriented. If something is really strange in our partner, still we should accept it and support her/him.

[@soph5060]

me me me omg u described me

[@sophon238]

Maybe you aren't good enough and that's ok

[@nasirp3625]

At first i was like “im a a gay male, why am i watching this” but now i just have so much respect for woman. As a male i never pay any attention to the insecuritys of woman because i know i wont ever have to deal with them, but now i feel that what they feel about their bodies matters just as much as the insecurities i feel about my self. This video has encouraged me to do more research and educate myself on my own insecurities and the insecurities of others. Thanks to buzzfeed for opening my eyes.

[@samseery1595]

supine paprika ❤️❤️❤️

[@harry.styles.supremacy]

supine paprika only if more men where like you ♥️

[@tieman3790]

It also is the other way around. Us man also have insecurities and beauty standards. Be both have to deal with the insecurities, but different ones.

[@celiaspeth2669]

you rock xx

[@IjusVindrBjorr]

I think it’s super important regardless of sexual orientation to be aware of the insecurities and struggles of other sexes. I feel sex education is one of the most important things . We all need it , doesn’t matter if you don’t have it or won’t interact with it. We are all human and should know what our bodies go through yk?

[@videoeditor8857]

Merle is so strong for talking about a topic that is never addressed. And having a voice for others who dont

[@jonnypacheco9104]

Un Known hope you know this is satire

[@Hardstyler981]

stop saying everyone is "strong" or a "hero" when out there is ppl suffering from real problems and nobody is caring or paying attention to it those ppl are "strong"

[@videoeditor8857]

Hardstyler981 strong is a word more than one variety of people can be. She is strong for being able to be raw. More than one type of person can be strong. Strength is not tied down to one definition.

[@justasmolfrenchfry9065]

@@Hardstyler981 Merle is a strong person. You can also say a fighter in world war 2 is strong. You can say a bodybuilder is strong. Someone battling cancer is strong. All of these people are strong people, just in different ways

[@Sinstat]

Un Known doesn’t make you strong

[@funnycatzz123]

Expecting all vulvas to look the same would be like expecting all faces to look the same. It would be really freakin weird if we all had the same exact face! All vulvas are perfect and unique.

[@eleniandreou6404]

@@melokuhleshange9123 how so? because some look different than others? Everyone is perfect just the way they were born if you are here to spread hate plz leave :/

[@kianabell7882]

@@melokuhleshange9123 oh & that's not including the finger nail.. 🤣

[@emilyy4346]

I completely agree!!

[@M_H_H]

What is vulva

[@hellod9577]

@@M_H_H you too young to be here, leave.

[@bookishbutterfly]

Here's a thought: we as women are raised to feel ashamed of what we have. Our breast, our stretch marks, curves, no curves, hair, vagina... To think, when we were young we could just enjoy life as we are.

[@pastpresentfuture3599]

BlasianxProud it’s sad hopefully things like this can help us to grow and learn

[@ALLEN-dh5mi]

It’s also crazy how men also go through the same and it’s way worse for men than for women

[@A-Dubs398]

That applies to males too, it's just human nature. Nature and society wants men to be tall, muscular, big penis, etc.

[@nefbrite6866]

@@ALLEN-dh5mi it's also crazy that you're commenting about that on a video about vaginas

[@LordAlmightyGod]

silence roastie

[@TheSaadtut]

As a guy, I wish i watched this video in sex ed highschool.. This is important for all the guys as much as it is for all the girls

[@ryanhiga9270]

@Sara Terkawi That Arab just wants to get into your pants.

[@amadeuschavez.]

Ryan Higa No worries, she likes the bad boys anyway. She won’t go for a beta male. Unless she’s heavy.

[@ThorstenLochmann]

Ryan Higa stfu

[@elainabaugher7841]

Ryan Higa who asked u

[@DavidA-sy5vp]

Saad daher no that Pamela thought it was weird to wear clothes.

[@DaleDriven]

finally, a modern media is finally talking about important stuff on the internet. this is what youtube was made for.

[@berliannahaz423]

Fgm

[@shnugglebugs5524]

I agree, I'm super proud of her.

[@fanthefrog847]

Duck up

[@peytonp.3096]

Men: “I didn’t know this was an insecurity for women! 😱” Also men: “aRbYs RoAsT bEeF!!”

[@tonyjuliocappo5459]

Ehhh to be fair a lot of woman make penis jokes that shouldn't... When they have an Arby's roast beef sandwich in their panties 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@billdohteabaggins3548]

Girls make circumcision and size jokes all the time. I Love extra labia.

[@peytonp.3096]

@@tonyjuliocappo5459 I agree 100% and neither sex should make derogatory jokes or remarks about something the other person can’t help.

[@Ben-tr]

You're very beautiful Peyton P..

[@Ben-tr]

@Banned Soon she's beautiful,what's weird about that

[@ibbymp4]

personally, I think the whole stigma on hair should be talked about too

[@ninfalunar]

Totally.

[@mizotlea]

Yaaaass please

[@euniceong595]

My female friend always asked me if I shave down there and even my guy friend told me that it itches because he shaved and it got me all confused like is that required as a standard? I mean I'm fine with or without it, I do wash it as personal hygiene regularly but I'm very insecure that people would expect me to be clean shaven and stuff idgi

[@ibbymp4]

@@euniceong595 same. As long as you keep everything clean, nothing's wrong. I have sensitive skin so it's extremely hard to shave down there, so I usually don't.

[@M4y_000]

So true. I actually prefer to have it unshaved i like the texture and everything but i feel so insecure because of the expectation that ppl have on a perfect vulva look.

[@CarolEA202]

I study medicine and I have 20 year old friends who can say “vulva” without laughing or making any face or comment, yet these people who have been doctors for year, who literally specialize in the woman body cannot. This is absurd.

[@Platotoolate-o]

Carolina Andrioli my boyfriend and I said the same thing

[@bethfaceplays]

And that guy trying to come up with a different term? It's a vulva. You call it a vulva.

[@Musiknird]

For someone coming from Sweden and has had sex education every year since first year in school, these doctors comes along as very immature. They're grown ups and should know basic terminology. I also realise that our type of sex ed focus on the whole body, we learn that sex is a good thing, masturbation is a good thing, how to practice safe sex, that women are allowed to enjoy sex, learn about the reproductive system, periods and the body from the inside to the outside. And here two professionals can't say vulva because it makes them embarrassed? What a joke!

[@hails97751]

Musiknird This is America’s sexual education in a nutshell, baby!

[@chadprodehl6646]

It’s a generational thing in my opinion, I think with time, society will grow into a more open minded and understanding one

[@Bro-tl1ev]

I‘m so sick of people saying that feminism is unnecessary and that women are inventing oppression. Women are taught to be ashamed of their body and there is NO girl I know that wasn’t insecure about their body at least once in their life. I‘m so sick of it. Women are beautiful

[@emmylemmy478]

Drink dance panic at the disco and drink some more we’re taught?

[@subhasdas314]

And women are labelled as "feminazis" as soon as they start accepting themselves for who they are and empowering themselves...ultimately leading to a drastic decrease in their self confidence....which is very sad.

[@diegonacho10]

Female porn stars have a lot of different types of vaginas, but rarely you will see a porn actor with a penis below 18cm (7 inches). The thing is penis enlargement It's currently a very difficult surgery to perform because you have to create new parts (or lenghten), instead with the labiaplasty you only have to cut tissue.

[@diegonacho10]

So at the end, your speech is pure double standard and victimization

[@Raja-xi7gu]

@@diegonacho10 oh my God stop. This video isn't for you to complain about how feminism is creating double standarts. Absolutely _noone_ said that it isn't difficult for men. It's obvious that porn can hurt the self esteem of men and women. But. Nobody talks about the fact that it can create these insecurities with a huge impact for women. Penis size is talked about so so often. Everyone's heard the phrase 'size doesn't matter'. No one's heard anyone say 'hey, how big or small your labia is... Doesn't matter'. This video is about opening up a possibility of communication not about shutting up people with penises and their insecurities . This video is about emporewing people with labias, not about depowering those without.

[@ethelanosa7911]

I used to hate mine when I saw pretty ones over the internet. It became worse when my one of ex pointed out why mine looked like that. I became more insecure. Then I met my now bf and he said mine is pretty, mine is unique and I should embrace it and also he said he likes it 😁🤣

[@saleemsaifi8825]

69 likes 😂🔥

[@bhavana_.manoj23]

Wow 😊

[@billdohteabaggins3548]

Your lucky to have it. They are just awesome

[@JIMMYJREVIEWS_thaiM-A-F-I-A]

He’s just lying to you to make you feel better... and to score ! What you need to do is ask someone you don’t know and who doesn’t know it’s yours ...that way you get a truly un-subjective opinion ! It’s the only real way you’ll know 👍🏻

[@wesharetestimonies8221]

@@JIMMYJREVIEWS_thaiM-A-F-I-A 👀why is he the one lying?? Your lying by saying he is lying.🙄 girl tell us how you look down there

[@mellovesyou1000]

Am i the only one who got so confused when i read the title but felt different as soon as i watched the first 5 minutes??

[@sumeya1923]

I wasn’t

[@mjhayes651]

Nah I saw the title and immediately knew

[@presidentescs5448]

Yes , totally

[@novemberninth4392]

No, you're not the only one.

[@TabathaTaylor]

I was so insecure about mine until my bf. I thought my labia was too big, but he said he loves it so much because it is like padding and sexy. So now I embrace it. I promise you will find someone who absolutely loves the way your vagina is and would be devastated if you changed it. Not everyone has the same preference. Plus they should love you for you regardless of what your vagina looks like.

[@colleenh8365]

Sounds like you are a lucky girl with an amazing, caring bf!

[@ashantitheara]

This is sick. I can’t believe there’s women who do this to themselves and their daughters. There’s no “normal” vagina. Please love yourselves ladies The video is amazing. I’m just disgusted that we’ve built a world where we can’t be completely comfortable and in love with our bodies as Women.

[@Tony.S420]

Ashanti Theara thank you your the only normal one here

[@solofargeklat4992]

Please take care of your on flower down there.

[@andrewsmith-jz4cj]

So why does she hate it I don't understand?

[@solofargeklat4992]

@@andrewsmith-jz4cj the woman in the video. I don't get it too. On why she hate it.

[@amylee3531]

I cant believe doctors are doing it for them! Disgustingly wrong.

[@ccurlyfriezwannaspritecran1682]

As a girl myself, mine is asymmetrical but I honestly don’t care. You should love u for u. Not for what the “standards” are

[@shoutatthesky]

As a guy I couldn't care less.

[@krystlegregory3130]

Same I hate it but it is what it is

[@kimberlyWard8152]

Honestly I feel like I'm most have an asymmetrical one so to me that's the normal

[@d4mterro320]

No men in the world cares about how your vagaga looks, it's a woman-only insecurity

[@kiwibobiwi]

@@d4mterro320 guys call outie vaginas roast beef sooooooo and ive also been told that if it hangs, “she’s used and I don’t want her” so yes, guys care

[@zoerphl]

that guy doctor made me uncomfortable as hell. you're cutting up vulvas and you can't even say the word? big yikes

[@KaneCammyLove]

And his description of a normal vagina... 🤦‍♀️

[@jellybeans1067]

I can't be sure, but I think it is possible the male doctor is transexual female to male....which would explain some of his strange awkwardness and uncomfortability with the subject considering he would have had a vulva himself at one point....one he too was uncomfortable with. I could be totally off base though.

[@zoerphl]

JoelleLJean !!!!!!! Literally 🤯

[@LimpFingers]

jelly beans he may be gay, some gay men are uncomfortable with the female body? Idk can’t really assume bc there is soo much societal awkwardness towards female genitalia and taboo.

[@thepriceofsalt9003]

@@jellybeans1067 wtf are you even saying?? there is no real basis for your assumption.

[@jojosays1077]

I can’t believe 15 years olds are getting it done

[@scheie129]

And 9 years old...

[@let_it_sin_kin]

I can't believe anyone does it :(

[@eyachakroun8266]

Not gonna lie .. but I didn't even know this was a thing, and now I'm scared that mine isn't "normal "

[@jojosays1077]

Eya 924 honestly DO NOT. I stress DO NOT even think about that. All vaginas are normal.

[@cateatinrat78]

I don't even know what its like down there.yes, I take care of my vagina for hygiene and health but besides that I don't really care

[@suzys4012]

this is so insane, i have been so insecure about this starting at 10 years old. i literally just got done looking up labiaplasty for the millionth time and crying about how insecure i was. and then this was recommended to me, i really needed this right now. thank you for being so brave and putting yourself out there

[@sav1344]

suzy_s same

[@hjjjj8471]

@@sav1344 I'm 18, I'm still a virgin, and I'm afraid I'll be criticized or rejected for her.

[@James-zp4ce]

As a man, I think that all vaginas are beautiful

[@abbyomarie966]

i love this

[@Londue]

I don’t get why some people don’t like outies, i love them both but I prefer outies more than innies

[@salom1470]

"most women are cheated out of their arousal" now that is a quote I will repeat.

[@purplexninjamom]

preach it teach it so that our daughters can live differently

[@nataliegilpin8482]

I felt that so much. I've always hated my body & my vulva, esp. Worse after birthing 5 kids. I still hide my body from my fiance & don't like him looking at me in the light. This video was so empowering.

[@pradeepg29]

I was expecting to crap all over the video like it was typical buzzfeed gibberish but there was something really beautiful about seeing Merle be so vulnerable and honest not only to us but to herself. As a man this is something I never knew women worry about and it’s definitely nothing to be ashamed of or not openly discuss. Will definitely apply a lot more sensitivity to my own relationships with this newfound knowledge. Kudos to Merle and the whole team for talking about this and being open cause if there’s one thing we can ask for in this world right now it’s love and with it compassion.

[@michele2036]

Pradeep Gopal thank you for not being judgmental and for being understanding. There honestly needs to be more men like you. Thank you again 🙏🏼💜

[@pradeepg29]

Michele thank you Michele :) you’re words are too kind.

[@briannabanana1245]

Honesty, thank you for saying that, I don't think you understand how much that means. Also, I know you and few guys out there are sweet, and understanding, but there are some guys who do make this out as something to be ashamed of, so we cant just come clean and be ourselves.

[@cakekyo7]

This is one of the best comments ive seen so far. You got my heart and gut tingling with joy. Thank you!

[@jayrosie36]

This is sweet

[@luquivarde7266]

Merle: are you scared that people are gonna think im weird and you’re dating me? Aria: i always kney you were weird and i love you because of it

[@recoil53]

If you remember the video where they announced their relationship, Merle said that Aria loved her for the parts of her she didn't love about herself.

[@Onesixcruz]

18 minute video comments about the least important part of it...

[@theterrificteddy2157]

@@recoil53 which one of yall tryna direct me to that video👀

[@victorma9355]

Onesixcruz it’s important because it shows that this problem of hers originate from her, there is no “standard”, just her definition of beauty and her quest to achieve it

[@recoil53]

@@theterrificteddy2157 How I fell in Love with My Coworker

[@diana_jurado]

This is the kind of content KZbin should be bringing to the table on higher level.

[@santibaston3167]

As a guy, watching this video with his younger sister... I'm completely blown away; the way this message was delivered, and more importantly the emotions it brought out in both my sister and I, is something I didn't expect. Seeing my sister cry, and more importantly fully relate to what Merle says, is like opening a book; a book that's always been snatched from you... and the being able to finally "read it", leaves me wanting more information, wanting to understand the fight that has been handed down through generations of women, and that originated in male-minds. It was a fantastic video, huge props to Merle and the documentation crew! thanks for opening my eyes a little bit more :)

[@mattbernier5129]

Imagine watching this with ur sister lmao

[@soph5060]

aw :(

[@soph5060]

@@mattbernier5129 it’s a body part??

[@dingerling9017]

It made me dumber. I figured I'd give a buzzfeed video a shot due to the different visual feel of the video.

[@lashawnayvonne1680]

What lol

[@beccxlou]

I myself have always struggled with my own body; my stomach isnt flat enough, my thighs arent big enough, my arms are too skinny, my legs are too short and especially that my vulva doesnt look “normal” This video was really inspiring to me, and at the age of 16 i needed to hear this. Thank you, Merle.

[@jonathanmather6897]

As a male, I didn’t even know this was a common insecurity, wow.

[@GunsNRoosendael]

dude girls have insecurities about litterally everything

[@Cranberrycheesecake1]

It is not completely common. It's just one of those parts of your body that doesn't exactly feel like the most beautiful. But I guess it's just the way it is. A penis isn't exactly the prettiest thing as well.

[@marissaw1168]

GunsNRoosendael because there is a societal standard to look a certain way and it effects different people in many ways and you need to stop being immature abt it. also literally*

[@GunsNRoosendael]

@@marissaw1168 standards which are not realistic, so don't judge yourself according to these standards.

[@marissaw1168]

GunsNRoosendael yea i see where ur coming from but still there is a lot of pressure put on young girls and to just “not judge yourself” isn’t that easy

[@ellenangeline]

“If you’ve experienced trauma in your body, connecting to it feels like you’re returning to scene of the crime.” Hearing these words hit me like a train, because that’s literally how it feels to me. I became so emotional hearing that. I was raped at 9 years-old. Exploring my sexuality has been a rollercoaster of sorts, as if I’m constantly going through a tug of war with embracing it and feeling like I’m returning to the scene of the crime. When I was violated and that power I had over my body was taken away at such a young age. I’m still struggling and learning to embrace more of my vulva and my sexuality. But it’s going to be a long journey of healing and acceptance, for as long as it takes me. This video is so powerful and has totally changed my view on sexuality and that any vulva is a normal vulva. Thank you Merle for being so courageous with sharing your story and this empowering video. You’re helping a lot of women out there to feel empowered and loving about their body. ❤️

[@nikiprabhuify]

Stay strong sis

[@deadinside1803]

I'm so so so so so so sorry ... I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing this, it must have been hard to put it out to public. I'm so sorry.. stay strong sis♥️

[@ellenangeline]

I’m just now seeing both of your comments. I’m overwhelmed by your support and love. It means so much. I’m doing the best that I can to be strong. Thank you sisters ❤️

[@sneakerhead6625]

inshallah stay strong you’re not the only one, but i’m so sorry no one deserves to go through that. may allah help you through these hard times in your life

[@mariadelrosario7944]

You are so strong, proud of you sis, you Will find the way, you deserve it❤️

[@lunalu8362]

When she said that her mother gave her a mirror to look at herself when she was little girl it made so emotional because I'm 22 year old virgin and I didn't do that till few months ago I wish I had a female figure like her mom in my life

[@britlowkey8053]

I’m 22 and seeing your comment relate soo hard !!! I wish my mom would of said that .. I never could talk to her about anything!! I’m also a virgin and I had no female figure to ask vaginal questions😢 I just learned how to insert a tampon because I was scared to ask her in high school

[@guesswhoiam1875]

Probably Asian mom ahah

[@23chan]

Yeah but that's way too young to focus on sex. That mother had no skills, no boundaries, no motherly sense. She might have been the start of M's problem.

[@BuruRaven]

I am a doctor and I am ashamed of the words of that male doctor at the beginning. There are no normal vulvas. Every women's vulva is different. That man... 😠 I'm not even going to comment further.

[@dinklebergsmilk]

BuruRaven he was just describing the societal standard. Please spread kindness :D

[@dinklebergsmilk]

BuruRaven Id like to clarify before I receive backlash that there is not normal vulva! He was already iffy on saying it through his body language and he sees patients daily who perceive a normal vulva the way he described it.

[@irrelevance3859]

The interviewer asked him

[@mynamo12]

Sweet Roll Ok but what’s average??? I know more woman with an “outtie” than an “innie.”

[@BuruRaven]

@@mynamo12 Average is two labia majora, two labia minora, a clitoris, a small orifice for the uretra and a larger orifice for the vagina. What any of those components look like is almost as variable as fingerprints.

[@Anna-cz1on]

I really love Merle. She's so strong and isn't scared to do something that it totally out of her comfort zone. You go Merle!

[@hollypocket6684]

“My body is just for myself” my soul needed to hear and feel that.

[@MarianaCastroXD]

Nope, even with somebody else. Your body is only yours

[@hollypocket6684]

The Most Interesting Man On KZbin I feel like you don’t understand the quote. To feel like my body is mine then I have complete control over how I embrace a vulnerable moment. To not be in my head wondering how I look for someone else. This means more enjoyable sex with my partner too.

[@cayrumps3593]

@Radio 4Men we are doing fine

[@cayrumps3593]

@Radio 4Men that’s the goal!

[@dingerling9017]

Proceeds to post half naked selfies on Instagram and throws a passive aggressive fit at the one negative comment.

[@ok-qz3kz]

Buzzfeed puts vaginia in title Bots: ITS FREE REAL ESTATE

[@foofa__loofa1271]

Ikr

[@hecticdwarf8641]

Bro there are sokooomany

[@breannaluciano6349]

“ perfect vulva is your vulva “ PERIOD

[@randrebwar5939]

Preston Dudley same can be said for a penis. Some woman are insecure about their genitals too. Perhaps am biased but I think more men than woman are insecure about their genitals though.

[@LM-hv9xm]

For reals!

[@kaywhyess.]

@@randrebwar5939 I think both genders have their insecurities about their genitals. Women feel insecure about their vagina but a lot of men don't care about it,and a lot of men get humiliated for not being circumcised but in the UK it's normal

[@grumpysnail4159]

Breanna Aguirre i like how u for got the period “.”

[@randrebwar5939]

Your average roach study shows 80% of men are insecure about the size and girth of their genitals, however their partners are ok with it.

[@517FELIN3]

“This is a time to reclaim that my body is just for myself” who else cried because I definitely did. This is beautiful. I want to really give her a hug every time she cries 😭. She is so right that is a different way of bringing women up. By using sex. Usually women are degraded by sex and bought down. This is bringing them up💓

[@janlol8064]

I cried aswell. It's so sad that people do it in the community. I hope that it gets better for everyone who feels bad about their body ❤️

[@ameliagirly]

I definitely cried too, I have had bad experiences before and it definitely gave me some inspiration

[@khav8117]

iyaniahtml x that bit really made me reflect on being sexualized by others (who I did not want to do so) and how that impacted my sexuality

[@au5t.1n]

i want MORE of this. MORE normalizing. MORE acceptance. MORE self love. MORE people lile pamela who just live to reflect those messages

[@kittycatrittycatalt9523]

EXACTLY!!!

[@iAmMadeOfSoup]

The doctor laughing at medical terms 😳

[@noda2ful]

Right! that was so awkward to watch

[@itamara5601]

He explained he was nervous because he was on camera and he wasn't used to it.

[@aarondaniel1834]

@@itamara5601 literally some of these people act like the doctors should feel awkward when they are getting filmed talking about female genitals😐

[@m0rganic-1]

When she opened up about trauma, that really opened my eyes to that pain. “My body is for myself”

[@sshbrnt]

Never have I ever seen a more crucial video put out than this one. Merle, no words will ever begin to describe how much this meant. Thank you for making this content and for speaking up for all of us who are too ashamed to do the same. This is an enormous step for women towards something great. Thank you. P.S. If you didn’t search for this and find it important to comment that you didn’t, stfu and move on.

[@omgitsfailmoosr9181]

I didnt

[@davidsonmartis668]

Yo yo who els didn’t search for this

[@sophiaschuhbauer7587]

You are so right! This is such an important topic for many women

[@AM-nv5ww]

THIS IS WHY PORNOGRAPHY IS TOXIC! It normalizes a certain ideal while making everything that doesn’t fall into that category seem wrong. P*rnhub profits off of videos of women AND CHILDREN being ASSAULTED. It FUELS SEX TRAFFICKING. Don’t believe me? Google fight the new drug. It’s absolutely horrific

[@veggiebea]

Especially LOVE the discussion in the video of how patriarchy has shaped how society sees and treats women’s bodies and sexuality! We need more of this kind of content and videos on that!

[@emilymagyar1794]

The doctors giving labiaplasties can’t even say “vulva”... if you can permanently change someone’s body you can SAY the correct anatomical terms. I’m so mad that these are the people performing surgery on others.

[@katie-ll8hi]

LITERALLY

[@penandpaper9923]

Let's respect these people If not them who will people are lucky enough for having people like them where they can share their problems

[@Sara._.Blankk]

THE ARM CLUB edit: i’m on edibles while trying to draw that and i really thought i was being clever and it looks sooo 💀

[@daizymarie913]

It’s not that deep you still understand what they mean right

[@Rochen12]

I honestly think the guy just wasn’t sure wether or not they could put it on KZbin and how he should word things in an interview setting

[@a.90129]

i hate mine so much to the point where i legitimately refrain from any sexual contact

[@soph5060]

same girl /;

[@Recluse616]

Imagine how a guy that isn't packing down there feels.

[@soph5060]

@THE JESUS zone yeah ig

[@IBroLLyISePhIrOtH]

may i see it?

[@Make-Asylums-Great-Again]

@@IBroLLyISePhIrOtH wtf is your malfunction?

[@hashtagj]

I know she had a tough week editing this, so let me just say this is fantastic video editing work, Merle. Really great video.

[@sachien7622]

Why does she have to edit the video. I dont understand

[@emilycobb9875]

I find it so disgusting that this procedure is being done when girls are so young. In most cases it's completely unnecessary. I can't believe the parents are happy about it or forcing it.

[@lmaree200886]

Emily Cobb The parents themselves have had a bad sex education and don’t know what’s right or wrong

[@breonawarren1507]

I don’t blame the parents, I blame the lack of sexual education

[@emilycobb9875]

@@lmaree200886 I don't blame the parents it's just sad that they are misinformed and allowing they're kids to do it

[@lmaree200886]

Emily Cobb To both you and Breona, I never said I blamed the parents. I said because the parents had a bad sex education they don’t know themselves if doing said procedure is wrong or not. Again it comes down to a lack of or a bad sexual education and I feel for many Americans that have been failed by their education system and government.

[@alimuhammad3686]

if they are allowed to perform SRS on 10 year olds then what’s wrong with this?

[@danica6502]

I am an esthetician and I specialize in Brazilian waxing. I probably do about 12 Brazilians in a day and have been doing it for the past 7 years. With that being said, I’ve seen A LOT of vagina lol. EVERYONE is different.. in their own unique way. I think it’s awesome that we’re all different.

[@nemophilistforestsoflife6847]

Don't kill me for asking but out of curiosity, are outies more common?

[@ihatehandles111]

@@nemophilistforestsoflife6847 it's seriously like 50/50. they are SUPER COMMON

[@nemophilistforestsoflife6847]

@@ihatehandles111 thank you for the response!

[@am33x]

@@nemophilistforestsoflife6847 It's porn my friend. Also, all men feel small because of porn. Teens first see genitals online and by age 16-18 they hate themselves.

[@YoSoyWerlix]

Vulva.

[@yaradebois8243]

I used to want a labiaplasty and now I am so grateful and I would never want to alter my body

[@HiddenSorrow15]

Oh me too. Younger me would’ve killed to reduce my inner labia. I had a boyfriend that shamed me at one point over my bits being the way they are. He assumed I’d slept around and was therefore loose. The reality is I was born this way and my insecurities have eased so much with a much more healthier, loving and empathetic partner. But at one point I wanted to have it all snipped off so bad

[@deano8628]

@@HiddenSorrow15 your ex was a boy not a man than... most guy's love long lips so much fun

[@larryknowlton7094]

So glad you didn't

[@yeppueda9028]

a supportive and understanding boyfriend like him :((

[@lonelyheartsclub7601]

Even the clinicians/surgeons tripping up on the words is telling

[@christianhansen3292]

@블링크원스hoho i think he is homosexual so he probably doesnt sexualize it as a straight man maybe?

[@hwasathicc]

@블링크원스hoho a blink and a once huh? 👉👈

[@shamardaniel4819]

I’m glad these things are being addressed. As an man, I never realized how much woman have been traumatized and coaxed by the media and world. This anxiety I see women go through just because of the stipulation and false standards is heart wrenching. When I get an strong relationship, I’ll be sure to help and allow her to be one with herself before she becomes one with me.

[@kneegah6136]

Man have it bad as woman everyone just seems to ignore the men's problem cause we're expected to deal with but hey that's how society is

[@fiftyzanes]

kneegah - both genders have their own issues and insecurities, but no one has it « worse » than anyone. the reason women are affected by this the most is because they tend to be a lot more judged in society and people always think women have to meet certain beauty standards. :)

[@mazentayseer3972]

Simpy simp

[@jessicay.7924]

Mazne Tayseer no one asked

[@melvinmadedx1658]

mel z Men definitely have it worse than women.

[@chloeweed6386]

I am 17, I only found out there was a difference in outties & innies this year, since then I have gotten very insecure about my body, I have never had discomfort & I have run cross country & track for 3 years now, I had thought what I have was normal, since I discovered the difference & labiaplasty I have been researching & planning out saving up for the surgery purely bc of aesthetic reasons & feeling like I am lesser or somehow gross for looking how I've always looked. This impacted me so deeply in the most empowering way possible. I sincerely cried with this woman. We need to become more comfortable about accepting & recognizing this very normal part of our bodies. Men should understand the normality of outties also..there are enough insecurities forced onto women this shouldn't be another. I love this documentary so much, I sincerely have not seriously considered just accepting myself & not eventually getting the surgery until I watched this video. For that I am very greatful. Please. Do not be ashamed & don't feel deformed or gross, if you are comfortable with yourself someone who truly loves you will love no matter what the heck is down there or anywhere else. Having a body is a part of being alive, allow yourself to live. Just how you are.

[@elif9747]

but how will i let someone see it, its just gross :(

[@Ben-tr]

You're right Chloe

[@pjabber5679]

"men should.......", you don't have any say over what men should or shouldn't do.

[@taylor6266]

@@pjabber5679 You sound like a pleasant human😬. Yes MEN SHOULD be perfectly able to accept how the women they love looks. If they can’t accept it they just aren’t a good person and their girl deserves way better.

[@taylor6266]

I am in the exact same boat as you😭 i literally have panic attacks over my bf wanting to see it cause I’m so scared he’ll think I’m gross or different. He keeps telling me he won’t care either way but I still wanna meet his preference and I just know he would prefer the Barbie vulva🥺

[@wellgrilledtoast]

Sex Education needs to talk about this in their next season. Edit: damn this got a lot of likes thank you!

[@inandashehan232]

Lazy Crown YES

[@Razeylabbit]

so they touched on it with the picture of the girls “vagina” going around but honestly it just made me feel worse abt my vulva

[@Adri-bh4pm]

That’s the exact same thing i thought when i watched this

[@krissssssss4422]

I agree! One of the health teachers at my school refused to talk about the female reproductive system, he said it was “disgusting.”

[@ellab6536]

omfg thanks so much for the likes omg omg seriously get over your self

[@ABWMVideos]

The same doctors performing life-changing surgeries on these girls, can’t even say the word vulva without giggling.

[@FattRatt]

That's how us men are. We'd hella immature (Edit: NVM that was a woman)

[@valenesco45]

hahahahah VULVA

[@emma-pl6oq]

i know, right? you can permanently damage a person's vulva and you can't even say "vulva"? like, grow up.

[@adlerzwei]

Hehehe

[@fcggames3990]

@@FattRatt don't use "us" but im not part of that

[@emiline0521]

Societies depiction on what a girls vagina is sickening, it’s literally the same as a child’s. Thank you for this video, it’s given me more confidence, I hope more education about these topics are spread around. And girls you’re all so beautiful, don’t let anyone tell you you’re not, there is no “normal” vagina so go get it sis and don’t let anyone tell you that something is wrong with you because you’re so perfect, they’re insecure about themselves

[@h3llboyyy407]

I mean society's depiction of what a guy's penis should look like would belong to a 7 foot man. (Giant)

[@minimuslimmemoirs]

This video is unreal I’m so impressed I’ve never felt so empowered seriously!! ❤️

[@ashtonware4892]

How

[@louieDsypo]

You have roast beef

[@pjabber5679]

There it is again, always about emPOWERment.

[@shimmyalot]

Did anyone else want to jump into the screen, give Merle a giant hug, and tell her everything's alright?

[@kimberly-co3yo]

same :(

[@tanishkaparab9826]

same, i felt so sad

[@不死戰士]

I mean,u am boy,but I also cried!

[@csx9189]

No

[@不死戰士]

@@csx9189 why

[@Terriblegam2r]

Doctor: “Vulva”... that’s a hard word **laughs** You’re a DOCTOR. omg.

[@d-ro3266]

terriblegamer he’s also a human

[@mikaylac468]

D-Ro yeah a human that should be able to say vulva without laughing

[@mhgr129]

D-Ro a human that has studied this subject and has probably heard the word vulva various times and by now should be able to say it in a non humorous way but ok

[@Terriblegam2r]

@@d-ro3266 There's nothing funny about the word. It's a word to describe female genitalia, which more than half the population has. If he's that immature where he can't even say the word without laughing he shouldn't be doing surgery on that body part in the first place, especially on teenage girls.

[@rickmartin541]

@@Terriblegam2r for you but for some yea the doctors are human too.

[@MikeMJPMUNCH]

Everytime Merle cried I wished Aria would just appear and give her a hug.

[@rkaur6166]

This was sooo cool!! Thanks so much Merle, I'm in medical school and I have never even reflected on how little we learn about female anatomy!!

[@chae1557]

Wait for real?

[@McNightenGrace]

Why tf are the doctor’s laughing about the word “vulva”?

[@jekanyika]

On the whole cosmetic surgeons are in it for the money. I'm sure regular doctors wouldn't do that.

[@yo322Ju]

Well the doctors were talking in the context of normality, and it's absurd that there's a standard to "normal." So, asking what a normal "vulva" looks like, well it's absurd. It's a matter of perspective.

[@arianacabrera9443]

Because it’s a funny word. Get over it.

[@McNightenGrace]

Ariana Cabrera How immature to think that. Get over yourself.

[@d-ro3266]

McNighten Grace it is funny tho lol. A professional pianist can hit a wrong note every now and then. It’s not professional, but we are all humans.

[@itssammybabyyy]

I’m embarrassed that doctors “fixing” something can’t even say what they work on

[@Itsmysurf]

Wow. How embarassing that "medical professionals" cant say vulva with a straight face. What the hell.

[@maxmurray8950]

CeCe Jackson harder to talk when you got a camera pointed in your face

[@ninjadrops196]

That’s the result of our society socializing these terms as so taboo and inappropriate, that even medical professionals aren’t comfortable with these words😕

[@poopystinkybogiebrainok4629]

Max Murray play but he wouldn’t be doing the same if it was the word like “arm” or “heart” it proves that theirs a negative stigma around it

[@betty4774]

@@poopystinkybogiebrainok4629 “arm” or “heart” are not genitals

[@thegloriousmorious9755]

Betty it’s because of how taboo it is to just say words like to”vulva” like you don’t get weird glances when you say arm or heart but when you say penis, someone would stare at you as if you’re weird

[@tiramisuuuuu]

As a teenager, I’ve learnt to love everything that I am and everything that come with me :)

[@sanchi7410]

I wasn't even into this subject but after watching the video I started tearing up and I will now never let anyone bring me down for how God made me ❤️

[@ashleya6673]

Those “doctors” are embarrassing. I am embarrassed for them.

[@triplecheesemac]

i am not. There is a demand for them. It is NOT the doctors job to be a moral police. They would not be doing what they are doing if there was no demand for it.

[@bdnroleo9494]

They are still doctors Ashley 🙃. Whether or not their ideals that way. They just do what the patient tells them too. (Unless it's kill them).

[@ashleya6673]

Whether you agree with me or not, it is not cute to be laughing about the word “vulva”. Period end of story.

[@imaniglover-g2v]

The man speaking on what a NORMAL vagina is to look like as if he’s in the position to say “oh yeah that’s not normal” is mind boggling

[@cindyvaughn6211]

You gotta think whenever he makes a girl even more insecure about her labia he makes thousands if dollars from slicing it off for her of course he is going to develope a rhetoric that is basically body shaming them into giving the cash

[@mahcookies7740]

He did say “or average”.

[@charlottestmn]

@@cindyvaughn6211 exactly there whole point is as a business for money and I wish a lot more woman knew this. There beautiful

[@timeitself5300]

@@charlottestmn he literally after that said "average"

[@_mar.v_]

That justs show here did he get that visual idea. Porn....

[@federicapiottoli6922]

I feel like there are two types of girls: the ones that seeing this video could relate, and the ones that were surprised by this issue existing cause they realised they don't even know what their vulva looks like because they were taught it's something to keep covered and not talk about since they were kids.

[@kristinlongman6796]

Sadly I think you're right

[@federicapiottoli6922]

@@hestermarseille4989 fun fact: I'm from Western Europe.

[@eccentricpigeon5639]

I was like that my whole life till literally today, i finally took the courage and looked at my cookie myself, and i was so disgusted, and i researched and researched and felt a bit more comfortable with it, so, cool. Since im too afraid to ask my parents, i came to the internet to find some comfort and some truth

[@sonne5540]

I'm happy to not fit in these two categories.

[@summerhunny]

i’m neither actually hah, i know what mine looks like and I like how it does...

[@careTWOdance]

Kept crying when you were crying, Merle. You're not alone

[@mikeywentz8993]

The fact the doctors had the audacity to say "a normal vagina" when they know theres no such thing smh

[@gelalim88]

True. It's gross. Really? Normal? Sounds sick.

[@LissyFantage01]

I think he tried to correct what was said from “normal” to “average”. I don’t think he himself actually wanted to refer to it as a “normal”.

[@jonathanxavier2026]

Dude people say normal penises all the time. Why are getting worked up over this?

[@queenash96]

@@jonathanxavier2026 no one says "normal penises" they said average as well. News flash ur friends are not a good measure to use for assuming

[@jonathanxavier2026]

@@queenash96 No one says "average penises". It might come as a surprise but your friends are not a good measure to you for assuming.

[@g0rjess91]

When she spoke about trauma and people salivating over her that shouldn’t have, it broke my heart 🥺😭 thank you for this inspiring and raw video 💖💖💖

[@dulcerodriguez3950]

I didn't understand the "salivating" part. Can someone explain to me?

[@simpforgeorgenotfoundandqu3570]

Dulce Rodriguez kind of like people drooling over her and looking at her sexually when they shouldn’t have (sorry if that’s wrong I can’t really explain it well :))) )

[@g0rjess91]

She meant that someone had a perverted thought about her... someone that should not have. For example: if a teacher has some sexual thought about a student, it’s wrong. She didn’t specify who, but u get the point.

[@dulcerodriguez3950]

Okay, it's more clear now, thanks.

[@bookish.calirican]

"Women are cultured into body diconnection" -- that really hit the nail on the head for me. And it seems so true across cultures as well, it's wild.

[@devincognito8932]

Uncircumcised men have a similar experience in the US. It’s weird that it’s considered abnormal when it’s how we’re all born.

[@angelasmith6946]

Am a woman, but totally agree. Geez, it's just this little bit of skin, what's the big deal, but so many women taught that it's somehow dirty. Have heard some men say that women have refused to have sex with them because he has a foreskin. It really makes no difference to me, but to be mutilated like that sure is a big difference to them.

[@andrewsindler5867]

@@angelasmith6946 Indeed. It's is good to have a woman acknowledge that it is genital mutilation. Because it is. In fact, if I can remember correctly the foreskin is 40 or 50 percent of the penile tissue. So, essentially they are cutting off half of your penis. Men truly do not get many progressive concerns afforded to us. The traditional tell us that it's not part of our role and the progressive crowd says we don't deserve it because we are men and the enemy. I sure wish I had the multiple freedoms and protections I do not have as a man that women have. It would be nice for people I don't know to show concern for me were I to get hurt on the street. Women really don't understand the common curtesies they receive many of them are exclusively given to women.

[@piggie8786]

@@andrewsindler5867 why are you comparing... circumcision... to.. genital mutilation...? you're not oppressed because you're a man... literally what are you even saying

[@bandetee9258]

@@andrewsindler5867 since you brought it up and i’m curious, what issues do you feel that men face at a disproportionate rate and how do you suggest they be solved?

[@hannahdyson7129]

How is allowed ? Impossible near enough to get it done in the UK . No body has been charged for FGM however. The doctors and nurses just try to put these girls back together when they get home.

[@sammirolo]

"The body remembers things that the mind will let go of." Wow. I felt that.

[@avamelia7410]

sammirolo 💯

[@pointillisttt]

i'm shocked as to how the surgeons over here are acting this way... i'm a medicine student and i've NEVER seen a STUDENT laugh after saying words like "vulva", "vagina" or anything like that,,, kinda immature tbh

[@ambermeyer9655]

Coming from a religious school with no sexual education was so grateful for a bio teacher who showed us everything, taught us everything and also covered homosexuality safe sex which is amazing!

[@untitledrebellion]

I thought I was gonna waste my time with this video and welp I was wrong. This was so educational even for a girl. Thank you so much for this.

[@peachymochi9742]

This is one of the biggest insecurities of me. I feel like I'm holding back when it comes to sex and losing my virginity because I'm afraid my partner would freak out or feel disgusted by my vaginal appearance and that's gonna stick with me forever and hurt me a lot mentally Thanks Marle for sharing this and it does make me feel like I am not alone....Thank you

[@marieebaby2939]

PeaChY MoCHi I’m going through the same thing

[@peachymochi9742]

@@marieebaby2939 I hope you feel more positive toward your appearance not just your vagina by watching this I think everyone is beautiful in their own unique ways and if someone can't accept you for who you are then they don't deserve you Have a great day💛

[@privateprivate5302]

dear one, dudes don't care. all they need is a hole. any dude that says he cares is lying and likely ain't gettin' any anyway. 450lb women get pregnant, and 78 yr old women catch HIV. YOU need to set the standards for what YOU want, dudes don't care. facts.

[@pjabber5679]

@@privateprivate5302 "any dude that says he cares is lying", yeah desperate ones that'll f anything that moves. "likely ain't gettin' any anyway", the irony in this comment is beyond hilarious.

[@SHINCHAN-hn4cw]

no if they do then dump that man ,,,, as a boy this is sad to hear that you crying something over that i don't care.

[@d.i.y.carley]

I always figured vulvas were like fingerprints... each one is different. Not one better or worse than another.

[@Enderr_Mann]

@@sdrawkcabmiay LMAO WTF XD

[@FitnessSweets]

Coltyn Stone-Lamontagne Opening your phone with your vulva 😂😂😂

[@abril4868]

I’m lesbian, I’ve seem multiple types of vulvas and I think it’s awesome that there are differences betwen each one. It’s literally unique. /// thanks for the likes, love to all of you my gay people 🏳️‍🌈

[@abril4868]

KyleeNguyen I don’t think it is, I feel that we don’t talk about this enough. Boys assume vulvas should only look one way: hairless, pink, small lips (like a little girl, that’s weird!!!) Talking about the diffrences is the first step to understand something so easy and natural: each body is different.

[@abrili6146]

😂we have the same name!

[@heliovirgo]

Like a fingerprint but coochie

[@ella-bt8hp]

As a lesbian do you have a preference for a girs vagina to look like? Curious as guys always want it all neat and tucked away.

[@plainsongsss]

@@ella-bt8hp I feel like it's preference tbh, everyone is different

[@ericsullivan5179]

I know it doesn't mean much coming from a man but this was beautiful!! Everyone should be comfortable with their own bodies and not be shamed to try to look like someone else! They are not someone else, they are themselves!!! I mean, what is normal??? It is just a bs social construct... I am also in favor of surgery if the person really feels like it would help them. Although, I suggest at least 1 therapy session to talk about it first. Anyways, it seemed you had an amazing journey! You are so awesome and keep your head held high!!

[@shittyperson644]

Yea :))

[@jun6490]

“i think we need to stop waiting for permission to love ourselves” that line made me tear up. this society has exposed us to a “standard” since young, making us think that its normal and we should only have that specific type of body. it is disgusting yet it’s happening right now and no one notices !! thank you so much for making this video, we all needed this. not just to educate others bout this issue but also to let others know that you are not alone.

[@victorma9355]

semi I don’t get how did they expose you to a standard?

[@victorma9355]

semi I mean if you watch the video most of those comments about what a normal vagina should look like is ALL written by women. i can assume that because I assume guys don’t need labiaplasty but you get what I mean, it seems like all the girls have doubt about their bodyies as well so I think it’s a mind thing.

[@victorma9355]

I think all girls have their own definition of beautiful, and want to achieve that. Yea it’s a complete psychology thing

[@kelsey2333]

@@victorma9355 every porn video out there

[@searchingonline6430]

I'm in my 20s and I'm struggling so bad to love myself because of what society and my culture seems 'normal'...and having trauma makes it so much harder

[@sadandbroke5003]

I admire her for what she has opened up to despite having insecurities.

[@greenapple233]

It’s kind of disgusting that they are performing labiaplastys on girls so young. Should there not be an age restriction on plastic surgery as these children are not fully developed yet?

[@greenapple233]

Dia Hervey this is what I’m saying! Every single cosmetic surgery should have an age restriction of at least 18. 21 would be better as that’s when you fully stop developing

[@JamesDea45]

They don’t care. They are making money

[@vionahecker5931]

@@dia9218 thats not the same! Kids know if they are a boy or a girl but not if their vulva looks right.

[@greenapple233]

JamesDea45 it’s true. It’s really sad

[@satansspawn1810]

@@dia9218 gender reassignment surgery can only be done after an individual is 18, before people just get puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy

[@thetillerwiller4696]

I use to have a innie and then I grew a outie during puberty but I never felt ashamed, I just was confused like wth happened 😂

[@blasiomuhinda]

I personally loved the big lips. Seeing women cutting them seems off.

[@louieDsypo]

I can't stand outer lips , i used to think it was due to the girl having too many partners and wouldn't give oral

[@kiwibobiwi]

@@louieDsypo see and this is why we are insecure. Uneducated ppl like u

[@h1hna367]

@@kiwibobiwi ^

[@greischwitz]

I love to nibble on outies

[@jessieshields2166]

I noticed that my labia was longer than "average" when I was in college. There were moments where I felt very self conscious about it. But I have never had a guy complain about it or even mention it in a negative way!! Ive even had guys compliment me on it! If you have ever been with a guy who has made fun of you or made you feel bad about your labia he aint it honey. There are many more guys out there who appreciate it than guys who think its gross. And the ones who think its gross probably arent even mature enough to be having sex.

[@daisy6545]

I honestly think that guys who are weirded out by it have just had too little experience and have been watching porn which depicts like “perfect” vagina which really just means it’s nice to look at on a camera for someone else watching it

[@sanyGW]

thank you for a good comment about us, most of the stuff in here makes us out to be Animals =)

[@Wrtvrxgvcf55]

guy here. i didnt even know this was a thing, i really didnt. i always liked the vaginas with "character" so as to speak lol. now i mention it, i actually prefer larger vulvas to smaller ones.

[@metimoteo]

"... the ones who think its gross probably arent even mature enough to be having sex." They haven't been educated either. They're only perpetuating such ignorance because nobody properly taught them.

[@gilliannicole328]

Thank you!!!

[@stacness]

I had labiaplasty surgery when I was 16. I was in so much pain and discomfort, I couldn’t ride a bike, I couldn’t wear tight pants, certain underwear would hurt me, I was scared to be intimate... I was petrified. My parents tried to talk me out of it! I remember being so confused, but one day the pain became unbearable. I begged my mom to help me get surgery. I have to say for me personally it was the best decision I’ve made. I’m still super asymmetrical, I don’t care about that in the slightest... I’m just happy to not be in pain and I’ve grown into myself as a women! I have so much respect for you Merle and all you wonderful women. Be you, do you and be okay with doing what is best for you! I have not told anyone my story really before. Thanks for opening up this conversation Merle! ❤️

[@let_it_sin_kin]

I am very proud of you! We are complete strangers but I feel you.

[@stacness]

Julia T thank you, much love to you

[@stacness]

kiwibrown For me it was so long and I’ve had many issues since I was a child with my ph, I would dry out because of how it sat and it was excruciating at times for me! I’ve found out as an adult that it has also been due to further complications.

[@an0mEMouse]

I also got labiaplasty. It was always uncomfortable and I absolutely hated wearing cute bikinis and swimsuits because my labia could slip out any time. The pinching, oh my god the pinching was unbearable at times. And what I always wanted to know is why my labia looked like that and not small and “normal”. I discovered it was normal to have longer/asymmetrical/darkened labia years ago. But the burning desire to get labiaplasty hasn’t left me for 10+ years and I was sick of it being on my mind. I accepted all of my other flaws when I was 21-22, small boobs, nose, etc. but at 25 I was still thinking about my labia and finally decided it was time to go under the knife. Advice I wish I knew when I was 18 to anyone wanting labiaplasty, GO TO A GYNECOLOGIST, they can get rid of the excess skin and it’s usually less than $1000.

[@huayin646]

I'm having issues with pain on my vulva too. I really want to get labiaplasty done.

[@Vitany_c]

OMG I'm a woman myself and I NEVER thought about that other women might have an issue with how they look down there and be self conscious about it. It's a completely new thought to me.

[@sanny6295]

same i was confused for a min on this

[@prissybell16]

Same. I didn’t know people were so insecure about their vagina.

[@k07385]

Same

[@evah2869]

Me too. I barely look at that thing. I am totally confused.

[@lefamealexza]

Vitany Mikaelson same here, honestly I’ve never even care about how mine looks like

[@fahimchoudhury4420]

I am a guy and I am not really well educated about female body parts but I just want to say everyone is beautiful in their own way and that is what makes all of us unique. Don't be ashamed, just be proud!

[@piggie8786]

thank you... a lot of guys here think that its easy to not be insecure...

[@Recluse616]

@@piggie8786 But y'all have no problem making fun of penis size.

[@piggie8786]

@@Recluse616 please don't generalise women into a category, I'm sorry that someone made you feel bad because of something you can't control. But please don't say what you think that I'm thinking. I don't make fun of someone else's looks because its really shallow and I know how bad it can make someone feel. I have been with many partners, both "big" and "small" and I can say that the best sex I've had was with someone who would be considered "small", because of how well he treated me. I hope one day you can find peace within yourself like am trying to do.

[@piggie8786]

@@Recluse616 I think we can both come to a conclusion that both men AND women can be insecure? And that its wrong for anyone to be judged.

[@Recluse616]

@@piggie8786 I weren't trying to put all women into a category, I'm just tired of the hypocrisy that's all and who is more insecure.. and glad that we can come to an understanding!