Why I avoid being around people (in my 20s)

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@otherworldlyfiction 4 ай бұрын

As someone with autism, I've definitely used the word "weak" to describe myself, because I couldn't handle everyday situations. When I'd get overwhelmed and have a meltdown, I'd then be called "dramatic" or "entitled," when all I would have liked in that moment was a hug, or an acknowledgement that whatever I was dealing with was hard.

@artsdefolle 11 күн бұрын

To enjoy being alone and enjoying your own hobbies and interests is a sign emotional of strength.

@robot7759 4 ай бұрын

I'm 60 and never I liked being around "the crowd". It's just me, as it is you. Only different, no worries we're "perfect" the way we are 💚

@mariooooo.o3404 3 ай бұрын

We are literally meant to live in a forest with maybe 100 people around that we have known our whole life. Modern life is not normal. Being super active, running from one thing to the next just to avoid yourself in a way is not normal. Being able to just sit by yourself and be happy...thats normal =D

@kristiharman2843 Ай бұрын

This video really spoke directly to my heart. I needed to hear this so badly. I am slowly beginning the journey of unmasking and allowing myself to exist in a way that feels comfortable and safe for my body and my brain. It has been really hard. Thank you for this video. Subscribed

@davidlasoff8261 3 ай бұрын

i am 65 and love being alone for the most part. We live in the early evening of a civilization in decline where lies and confusion permeate everything now, especially relationships among the younger generations who have been hurt the most by their parents being fooled and manipulated themselves. Enjoy being who you are and who you are is beautiful. Don't worry about being alone. It is better for you.

@Patchouliprince Жыл бұрын

I am 23 and only a few years ago discovered I’m autistic and I also really connected with the way you worded things here. I do get lonely sometimes. But I get too distressed having people around for the sake of having people around. I am not comfortable with the company of just anyone. People who get it and experience the world like I do are so valuable, few and far between, they are the people I find and keep close and I love those people so deeply it’s worth the times when I am alone

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

I relate to what you are saying! Basically a thing of energy management. I'd rather have my energy for the important stuff than needlessly scattering it everywhere and suffer from the consequences. Thanks for your comment!

@Serenity-fu8xz 5 ай бұрын

Totally agree❤❤❤❤❤

@sparkalightnow 3 ай бұрын

Grateful to have come across your channel. It is so nourishing.I relate deeply to your words. Many people are confused by how outgoing and present I can be yet simultaneously need (and want) so much time to myself. You explained it beautifully.

@luciddaze248 4 ай бұрын

I'm really enjoying your videos! So much of the neurodivergent space feels like blunt advocacy (and this is fine!). It's just really refreshing to experience such a genuine, personal, creative approach to exploring neurodiveristy. I find this so much more constructive and validating. You've got a gift 😊

@faerysoul 3 ай бұрын

That means a lot to me, thank you!

@tanyatalkstoomuch Күн бұрын

4:31 I am without a formal autism diagnosis but the way you describe sensory overload and your battery running out so easily is the story of my Life. I live in Canada and it is beyond my comprehension that an autism assessment is out of most people's financial means 😳

@linnflame Жыл бұрын

I relate to this! I am in my 30s and I am starting to accept that I just have less interest in socializing, it seems to be such a taboo, but I feel best by myself.

@florawinter4721 Жыл бұрын

I can relate so much of what you said. I am also really sensitive to light especially. But since I was diagnosed with ADHD I get a better understanding of myself. I feel like it´s a superpower and a curse at the same sometimes. However it just is what it is most days :)

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is what it is.

@lauraluey 9 сағат бұрын

I feel you so deeply with this 🩷 You've explained it in the most beautiful way 🙏🏻🌿✨️

@hannahlowry503 3 ай бұрын

You speak my language! I love the quiet and details and slowness.

@wendyvandrunen3383 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful video, it's like you're describing my life! Even the footage of you lying on the floor just content in your own world.... I do this all the time and my partner walks in and thinks I'm weird 😅I wish it was easier to accept our true natures fully, especially when we need to support ourselves financially sometimes its necessary to have to be that "active person", even if its detrimental to our mental and physical health.

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Yes, that is something I can totally relate to!

@jesusnegra123 4 ай бұрын

I’d like to think we are like soldiers in one big weird army fighting on all fronts to disrupt society. Aurora (another one of my imaginary soldiers) puts out music that reminds me it’s okay to be completely human, in whatever “whimsy” “dark” form that takes. I love to see ppl like you and Aurora with platforms, although with different talents and approaches, I’d like to think your platforms serve a similar purpose. A comforting place for the sensitive and a non judgemental eye to be seen with. I wish the rest of the world felt things the same way, I wonder if they secretly do but choose to conform out of habit? Regardless, I’d love for us all to move forward and reach that level of acceptance as a society

@plantifulalexandra Жыл бұрын

Ich kann das so nachvollziehen. Ich bin super gerne allein daheim (bzw mit meinem Freund) und lese, schau Serien, hör Musik usw. Ich mache gerne "nichts Produktives", auch wenn ich regelmäßig Sport mache. Leider wird so ein Leben, wenn man nach nicht viel Großem strebt und ständig aktiv sein will, eher weniger anerkannt. Ich gehe super gerne mal auf Konzerte, Festivals, auch mal ne Party usw, aber dann brauche ich wieder Zeit für mich. Mit 18, 19 hatte ich auch mal eine krasse Partyphase, aber selbst dann brauchte ich am Tag danach einfach nur Ruhe, um meine Batterien aufzuladen. Und das mit dem Licht fühl ich, ich brauche immer "gemütliches Licht", hat mich damals im Büro immer gestresst, dass alle so helles Licht wollten. Bin gerade auf einem Surftrip und wir wohnen zu fünft zusammen. Nicht ideal für mich, aber hab es mir schlimmer vorgestellt. Heute hab ich aber zb so einen Tag, an dem ich einfach nur allein sein will, aber ständig ist irgendwo jemand.

@ubiquitousLeees Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for creating this space. It is so nice to hear about your experience, and how similar it is to mine. It took me so long to realize how quiet and solitary I really am, and I fought against it with all my might and it was exhausting to my entire being. I love to hear that I’m not so “other” after all. 🖤

@Rosencrantz748 Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said and presented! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@ryuuna2345 Жыл бұрын

I find pieces of myself in videos like yours and others within the spectrum. My family thought I had autism since I was little. My psychiatrist says it's not possible but I think I just got really good at masking in the past few years. Thank you for this video, your world is magical! If I knew you in person, I would love to be your friend ✨

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Maybe you can go to a different psychatrist oder therapist who is a specialist in the field and get a second opinion? From what I have learned, even some professionals still believe in certain autism/adhd/neurodiverse clishes and therefore can't fully see through certain masks. I wish you all the best on your path.

@annaluca29 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this - my family and friends all consider me on some specturm but I masked through my ASD "assessment" as these were strangers and I somehow saw it as a test. Instead of seeking second opinions I have simply concluded that autism diagnoses are based on characteristics of autistic boys in childhood and not adult women, and that what is most important for me is how I see myself, rather than an official label. The only downfall is I cannot say to employers that I have a diagnosed disability, which is why the diagnostic criteria for ASD are a real disservice to all autistic women who have not been diagnosed yet.

@ryuuna2345 Жыл бұрын

@@annaluca29 I'm still on the journey of understanding myself... I was a diagnosed schizophrenic for 8 years but now they found out it's not schizophrenia - I had one psychosis when I was bout 15 years but they say it was caused by environment, my sensitivity, social anxiety and puberty combined. Since I was always a bit strange and very sensitive, I wonder if I'm autistic and it played a role in my history. I learned to mask really well over the years after the psychosis to survive in society. I didn't even know what masking was but yeah. Now I can function but can't make real connections.

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

@@annaluca29 I feel you! Sounds so stressfull. :(

@rainbowstarks 4 ай бұрын

you've inspired my today to prioritise me inner world. thank you

@zeitgeistplaylists 3 ай бұрын

thank you so much. i'm 18 (hsp, adhd) and feel so bad about having not hung out with anyone for about 7 months, but this video makes me realize I'm not alone in the experience of living in solitude. i don't feel lonely or like I even want to hang out with anyone. of course, the idea seems so nice because in many films and tv shows it's displayed as a wonderful, easy, norm. but the reality is that it is so exhausting. my brain just can't keep up with even hanging out with one person; it gets overloaded with information everywhere in public. crowds and cars and so many noises, especially in the summertime-thats why I love winter because the snow makes everything so wonderful and quiet. there is a lot of pressure on me to go out and do new things and meet new people, and I just don't want to (even when I am around and talking to people, i feel incredibly detached, sometimes desiring to just be away from them if it is a surface level discussion), and that makes me feel like i'm wrong, or incorrect, in not desiring those situations and that i won't ever have any new friends or new experiences, which is just not true. it is a very uncertain time in my life, and i thank you for speaking your truth, because it is my truth as well.

@FaisalAhmed-kg6ep Жыл бұрын

Appreciate your openness and sharing your thoughts on many aspects. 🎉 Thoroughly enjoyed the video. First time I see you speak German though , are you German ?

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! Yes, I am german. :)

@ambergraef538 5 ай бұрын

It would be too overwhelming of a task to fully express how much of a gift it is to me to stumble on these videos of yours…and it would be equally impossible for me to explain the uncanniness of the timing…right when I’m at the cusp of finally giving myself permission to be my own “default human” … it may just save my life too. Thank you so much for speaking your experience of being highly sensitive and ND into this space. People like me desperately need to hear this 🙏🏻❤️ Every word felt like something I could (and have) said myself…the Rilke (already a favorite but I had never come across that one) quote made me cry. Bless you for your honesty, transparency and bravery…

@faerysoul 5 ай бұрын

Oh wow, that really moved me! It's really for people like you fI make videos for. I know what it is like to feel lost in this world. The thought of reaching people who might feel understood and supported by what I create is just so beautiful! Your comment made my day! I wish you all the BEST for your journey to happiness and self-discovery.

@ambergraef538 5 ай бұрын

You are succeeding! I mean it with all my heart. I’m fully 36 years old and have two kids of my own and have spent the last 2 years trying to rekindle my quiet, whimsical, and “too sensitive” soul so that I can give that to my kids. When I was little, I was the little girl who used to leave offerings for the faeries and have the most “overactive” imagination you could possibly have. It’s amazing to have come all this way in life believing that these attributes are liabilities to living “in the real world”. It has taken an almost total collapse of my body and spirit in the last few months for me to finally start taking seriously that they may actually be life saving gifts/strengths - but life saving gifts that we have to advocate for and do the hard work of finding a place for in our lives…despite what others may think and despite the fact that others will think we are being “weak” and unadapted. I’ve been mulling over all of this for months now, but the day that your video miraculously popped up in my feed, it had been a major turning point for me where I finally felt ready to full accept that there truly is nothing “wrong with me” (even when I really thought that I had accepted it for quite some time). Your videos arrived just in time to “put the cherry on top” of a very personal journey and to remind me that I’m not alone despite how often it feels that way! 🙏🏻

@DevilDears 5 ай бұрын

I relate to this so much! We should all be more comfortable following our own way of life instead of pressing ourselves into a different mold!

@ewamariamajdan6200 4 ай бұрын

I love November weather or when it rains in general. I found out recently that this affinity for rain has a label. I am a pluviophile. :) I suspect I am also on the spectrum. Maybe that's why I can relate to your stories so much. Thank you!

@otilijazilyte6476 Жыл бұрын

💟😇Super video und schön natur

@drmichellecook 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences and story. It's helpful to hear from other sensitive souls.

@_bouldering_3688 2 ай бұрын

Deine (Lese-) Stimme ist wunderschön

@ireneschoonwinkel Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed watching your video and listening to your thoughts. There is so much of what you are saying that resonates with me. Thank you so much for making this video and sharing your feelings and thoughts with the world. I hope you have an amazing quite cozy day. :)

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

I am so happy to reach other sensitive people like you and I also wish you a beautifull day!!

@ireneschoonwinkel Жыл бұрын

😊

@faeriesmak 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I really needed to see this today.

@filipinoblackpill6194 2 ай бұрын

What fabric of your clothes. I love cotton, want linen but its expensive, got two wool v neck. Natiral fibers are soothing to skin

@annaluca29 Жыл бұрын

Hi, thanks for this video. I am a 25 year old neurodivergent woman - I have been told by therapists they believe I am on the spectrum but when I was formally assessed for ASD I just missed the score to qualify - most likely due to my many years to develop excellent masking. I nonetheless consider myself on the spectrum and as you said it helps immensely to understand and accept oneself. When did you get diagnosed and did you have any missed opportunities for diagnosis in childhood?

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Hello dear, I am sorry to hear that you didn't check all the boxes for a formal diagnosis. Sometimes it's kind of astounding how well one can mask, isn't it? I am planning on making videos on my path in the next few weeks, where I will go more into depth. Lets just say that in my childhood, the idea that I could be neurodivergent crossed nobodys mind, because it wasn't a well known topic. For all people knew, I was just being "shy". :D haha

@cassielee1114 5 ай бұрын

Incredibly relatable. Off to watch more 😊

@faerysoul 5 ай бұрын

Enjoy!

@MStarks253 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love this ♥️

@faerysoul Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.

@adriang2011 Жыл бұрын

sheeees sp right!!!

@randomdude8327 Ай бұрын

This channel is so precious. There are many Autistic creators on youtube but they all paint a rather bleak picture of Autism ( unknowingly) but your channel really gave me hope that I can live Alone and be happy. Please never stop putting out these videos. Thank you. Btw what's that language you spoke ?

@faerysoul Ай бұрын

It's german. :) I'm not living alone though, I am in a relationship- and I'm still learning how to handle my struggles in a way so that I will hopefully require less help the more I learn. Kind of like a skill set in the Sims, I am working on figuring it all out for myself. That's at least my situation. Being able to finally create videos regularly is a biiiiig achievement for me, because I finally found out how to create in a way that is sustainable for me. But getting there was quite a journey! So I would say I definitely improved in many areas, but I'm still working on it. :) That's just my situation and if any of it speaks to you, then probably not without a reason. :) As they always say: Take what resonates and leave the rest. :)