Why I Don't Want to Travel Anymore | Black Women Travel Abroad | Solo Travel Burnout

[@StephaniePerry]

#replaygang You're not alone in this. I want to be home with my own coffee mugs and my own art on the walls. (Now to get a home.) As long as it's not in the United States.

[@cmos2010]

What she said!

[@teresagusler3137]

Ditto!!

[@swmthomas5066]

Missing in a lot of these discussions is the fact that a lot of wanderlust is fueled by a person's desire to escape something in their current reality and at some point, the person realizes that being in another place is not the panacea it seems to be. This is why some of the content encouraging women to run from their present lives and move abroad is actually dangerous. It plays on that desire for escape and in many instances, sells these women a curated glimpse at a life abroad with fantasy experiences that the content creators often pay for with money earned from workshops, coaching sessions and retreats, etc. The truth is day-to-day life overseas is usually quite similar to day-to-day life in one's home country with additional challenges of language & cultural differences, etc once you've done the touristy things. Being in a new place can help if you are in need of a fresh start but it does not guarantee it - it will still be up to you to make the same changes that you needed to make back home.

[@tracywalker244]

This right here 💯

[@cathylake9072]

It is allot cheaper to live a better life in a developing country. But you have to weigh out the safety risks and the annoyance/ stress of constantly being begged for money and having your head on a swivel. But where can you get a safe apartment in a gated 247 secured building with a pool for $250 a month in the U.S.???? Or $100 to $600 a month for a live in nanny, cleaner/ cook?

[@sararichardson737]

I did a lot of travel from 1999-2007 mostly South African. I’m a Brit, Londoner. I then fell in love with a little house in a quiet beach town in Mexico staying 6months UK, 6 months Mexico. I stayed nearly 4 yrs straight during the Covid era and got my residency. London is my base, Mexico is my home, India my workplace. That’s it, no more wandering for me.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for sharing

[@Radicalstories92]

Oh you just gave me an idea.I work in Asia but it is work,I have a home in home country but I do not feel like living there full time.I will look for a third place in Northern America or Europe❤❤❤

[@noelleturner3019]

Oh Adalia, I so feel you. I thought I was the only one! I've traveled, I've lived abroad, and now I just want to sit in my house and just be. I love my time at home now.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad to see it's not just me 😁

[@trace3254]

Me too!!! I am so there Just getting use to feeling this way. Now with all these comments.. And not feeling off about it. I'm good.

[@ariamason9324]

A lot of people just travel to flex on the gram but they aren't really enjoying the moment. They just want to let others know there're in another country.

[@tessjones5987]

72 here. I like living in two places. I like the familiar. 4 months one place. 8 months somewhere I am really happpy.

[@LaketaSmith]

that's the way I'm looking to organize my life. Still figuring out where my 4 months place will be.

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

❤❤❤

[@delle3955]

This sounds phenomenal!❤😊

[@sincerelysandi]

@tessjones5987 that sounds great! How is tha achieveable?❤

[@Yogaplantgirl]

This is my plan also. Good on ya👏🏾

[@ebonywinn50]

I’m not as traveled as some of you ladies are, but I still feel drained from it. I am a cancer survivor and my body is still playing catch up so I really like chilling at home with people I love. My goal is to put a tiny house on my land and just enjoy gardening and throwing gathering at the house. I’ll travel here and there, but I like simple relaxation.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

This!

[@Shelby-s2w]

I experienced the same burnout, but i realized it was mostly due to dealing with the headache of air travel (people, customs, jet lag, etc). So i dialed it way back and only travel internationally once per year. But i really love road trips now because i can take my time and enjoy the space and privacy of my own vehicle. I also love seeing the natural beauty of the states that you usually dont see on a plane. But my favorite part is checking out the small towns in between because there are a lot of hidden gems out there. The only thing i dont like is packing up lol so im really considering getting an RV so that i can keep all of my stuff with me.

[@encouragingthesaints]

This is why I've wanted to do a world cruise - because you can enjoy various ports without the airport security hassle.

[@encouragingthesaints]

Also, when traveling, we often searched "Diners, Drive-ins, and dives" for whatever city we were in to experience the local eats instead of the chain restaurants

[@aintnobodycomingtoseeyouotis]

Travel is exhausting and stressful. I’m a flight attendant and I try to give grace to passengers and coworkers because it can wear you out (especially if things go left). With that said, I haven’t felt homesick and much like you Adalia I was never that kid. I’m very grateful to be able to go all over the world for “free”. I can choose adventure or lay by the pool/order room service on my layovers. So I look at it like I get to take a vaycay a few times a month.

[@kimberlycrockett]

Hi Adalia, you are not alone. I've lived abroad for 13 years and though I haven't traveled nearly as much as you, it just doesn't excite me the way it used to. Now when I travel, I find that I spend more on upgrades trying to make the experience more enjoyable and sometimes it's just not worth it. I love living abroad but now all I want to do is set up a comfy home and get somewhere and sit down!

[@ebonywinn50]

Yes!!! If I can make my home comfy and full of snacks, that's where I like to be :)

[@kimberlycrockett]

@@ebonywinn50 Yes, the snacks! They are a must 😄

[@trace3254]

@@kimberlycrockett Yes!! And sheets and towels and cutlery that 100 other folks haven't used. Wow! Didn't know there were so many of us out here feeling this. Now, I have my peeps I can be honest with.

[@kimberlycrockett]

@@trace3254 Yes!! I'm so glad Adalia brought up this topic because I've been feeling this way for a few years now. Traveling is cool sometimes, but I just want my own stuff. I want to cook with my own pot and dry off with my own towel. I'm just being real. 😂

[@londieb.9362]

I love your honesty! Traveling can be exhausting not to mention you’ve already done a tremendous amount of traveling. Maybe it’s time to embrace staying home.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I think it is

[@trace3254]

@@AdaliaAborisade I think it is too. And...dare I really take a chance and say...going out on a limb here ladies....and maybe just maybe find LOVE! There I said it. Find even strong LIKE. Someone to care and share with. I know the ladies have each other....but I ain't talking about that.

[@queenadventures4258]

Unfortunately, having a man or a life partner may not happen with everyone, nor will it solve all of ypur problems. How about just living your life and letting it unfold naturally, whatever that may look like.

[@MorKing86]

I haven't traveled out of the country since 2018. I had 2 trips planned for 2020, which were canceled due to COVID, then I quit my job in 2021, then started my current job in 2023, so I'm still financially recovering. Idk when I'll be able to travel again, but part of me is kind of dreading it because I'm tired of traveling solo. I don't have many friends to begin with, and I'm the only single one. It'd be nice to go somewhere with a man for once.

[@tracywalker244]

There are so many groups out there now with sisters traveling solo together 😊

[@JaeSwift10JamellaSwift]

You sound like an introvert. We like to be at home. I love to travel still, but my limit to be away is 4 days. I start to miss my pets.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I'm an introverted introvert so that tracks

[@travelerawakenings8477]

I am an introvert also, but I live to travel for about 4 months a year.

[@summertime8199]

Introvert here as well. I am so introverted that I don’t even like to travel with anyone. I love my alone time to do what I desire.

[@travelerawakenings8477]

@summertime8199 Haha, me too. I love to travel alone. Sone people think it is boring. I live it. I am so introverted when I am around too many people too often, I got depressed lol. I found out nit long ago that I am sn what they called " Hypersensitive personality person"

[@margaretw5848]

So glad to hear someone else who has the freedom, doesn’t have a ‘must see’ list

[@TamaraNJones]

I believe this applies more to those who don’t travel using the “slow travel” method. Having a home base but traveling to new places and stay for a while 1-2 months with no strict itinerary.

[@IamMoniqueWhite]

The way I'm starting to dread packing as much as unpacking, I might be getting burned out, too. 😫

[@The-eclecticplace]

Gurl! That started with me in mid 50’s. It gets to be too much, the changing planes, the people… it seems like the hustle that never stops. So when you’re home it’s calming, peaceful, and you move when you get ready. I am in my 70s now, but I am planning on moving to Panama beginning of 25. I then plan to travel, but not consistently. I want ease, and up-and-down in airplanes with a whole Lotta. Stupid people won’t be that for me. Take care of yourself rest and you don’t have to say yes.

[@trace3254]

Wow! You guys have validated my "secret feelings". And, have helped me begin to hone in on what I really want to do next. I've been saying I want to go to KL Malasia. The thought of that 20+ travel time.....turns me off. I'm 75. Do I really want to give that amount of time to a flight!

[@The-eclecticplace]

20+ hours, Wow! You may want to have someone to travel with you for communication, as it might make the time seem a bit shorter. However, they will have to follow your agenda or split up and do your own thing. Happy Blessed Living 💃🏽

[@donnahogan2999]

Great message. Yes. The world has changed and like you, I’m sooooo glad we got to see it when things were lighter and people enjoyed connections. Keep sharing 😘

[@marilynpeoples5099]

I’m in total agreement with you, Adalia, on so many points.

[@patrisio3]

I'm travel fatigued to the nth degree. After hitting all of my 75 bucket list items on 6 continents and 50 states, I need rest. I have no desire to go anywhere. The experiences (airports, buses, trains, planes, hotels, sites, people, food, etc.) were very memorable, but time for rest now. My signs that I am tired: 1) I am starting to get lazy and forgetful when I plan trips and itineraries, 2) saying to myself "I wish I were back at home in my bed watching TV and eating a bowl of ice cream" when I'm riding in a plane, train, or bus, 3) people are more excited about my upcoming trips than I am, 4) I get more excitement over getting a great airfare price than I am over the actual trip, 5) my favorite thing to do nowadays in Vegas is go to CVS to people-watch, buy snacks, and go back to my hotel room to eat my snacks and watch TV.

[@aintnobodycomingtoseeyouotis]

Replay Gang Picky Girl Nation Stan 🎊 A few minutes in and I feel you Adalia. I travel for work and when I’m off I don’t want to see an airport 😅

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

❤❤❤

[@MJ-yo8rn]

Good for you Adalia, check travel off your bucket list! Leisure , rest , ease, doing whatever whenever are always on the bucket list ! 🎉🎉🎉

[@AdaliaAborisade]

thanks!

[@edithdonaldson9483]

I think that once we find the place or places that feed our body & soul, yes we don’t want/need anything else. The gift is life! Life is the goal 🙌🏾💞✨🦋

[@deeinkc]

Thanks for this discussion. I have not traveled anywhere near as much as you have, and I'm burned out with it. I only want to do short trips, if that these days.

[@janicetribueburnette5893]

My favorite place is now home; it is the best place in the world.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@brooklynqueen7089]

Those of us who are introverts seem to become more introverted as we become older. Also during the Age of Aquarius introverts are happiest at home. However your lack of enthusiasm for travel is likely due to (a) the stress of moving (b) you’re leaving CDMX during dry season when the weather is the best.

[@Hello_Pri]

I think it’s wonderful that you can do what makes you happy and content and change in whatever way you want to make that happen. I agree with what some others said, sounds like you found a beautiful place to call home for you and Mia ❤ Great conversation!

[@CuratedVibes]

I quit my corporate job, sold it all and bought a 1 way ticket to Thailand in 2016. I spent the last 7 years living abroad in 11 different countries. I eventually got burnt out and settled in Mexico the last 3 years. Now, I take small trips to various cities but I don't have the desire to travel overseas or be on a plane longer than 3 hrs.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I struggle even with short flights now. Another reason I'm doubtful I'll get back to Asia anytime soon.

[@ready4jc]

The act of traveling itself is exhausting. If we can just get there without the travel part. But doing in country trips all over Mexico would be cool. It wouldn't be as time-consuming. But is nothing like sleeping in your own bed surrounded by your own crap. 😊

[@ready4jc]

I also hate planning trips. It's the main reason I bought a bus to convert.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I really need teleportation to become a thing

[@meliw4142]

I remember traveling 14 hours home (south/east coast USA) over the holidays. When I returned home (Mexico), I stayed in the house for 2-weeks, just going to the neighborhood store. The constant time zone changes and weather extremes, I've had enough!!! I am not giving up traveling, but I am taking a break.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tdmcclai]

You're traveling for work now so it's not the same. When you're doing it nonstop you start to feel like a stranger in your own town.

[@kli9005]

This is the point! I love to travel but it is also not my job so I am able to enjoy it. Whenever I have spoken to people who travel a lot as a part of their job, they do not seem to enjoy it.

[@sharonlaudat3297]

You've done what you wanted to do. So you just want to sit down. Living your life on your terms.

[@adriennetravels]

As someone who traveled a lot from 2020 to 2022 both domestic and international, I think I am a little burnt out from traveling, not really from visiting countries, but the hassle of traveling and the amount of people I tend to encounter now that traveling has returned to normal. I miss the days of the pandemic when the planes weren't filled, tours were mostly private and inexpensive because 1 person was better than no one, and the likelihood of me running into an American was very slim. I got so used to going places and not seeing many tourists or being the only person. I miss staying at a hotel and being one of less than 5 guests. Now that travel has returned, it is overwhelming for me. I am going to keep traveling, but I am going to start to go to places that are less popular tourist destinations. I also have been feeling like I want to travel slower and stay longer in places when I go. I guess when I'm in a place that feels peaceful, I just want to enjoy it, and not rush off to the next destination.

[@bmizrahi1782]

What are you running from?

[@tdmcclai]

I slept in an airport on my first solo trip and never again. One lonely night in the freezing cold Miami airport was enough for me.

[@tiffanievendryes]

Not MIA airport! 😮 it’s so big there

[@braidslikebrandy]

Miami is a horrible airport in terms of comfort and service

[@tdmcclai]

@@braidslikebrandy well this was in 2003 so I don't know how it compares to today. All I remember is the cold air, hard seats, and lack of food.

[@Nikitta43]

I love MIA so many restaurants and stores. I was there this month. They also have an American Express lounge. I think it is one of the better airports.

[@ariamason9324]

But why did you sleep there

[@rethalogan6556]

Wandering to nesting is absolutely normal, especially after multiple/abundant travel. Energy expenditure is also part of the equation :) I just got back from Dubai, exhausted!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Very true!

[@courtneyl1424]

Watching on the replay!! I just lovvvvve your videos!!! It sounds like your love of travel didn’t go away - you are just going through an evolution.😊

[@ayozola]

Hey Sis, I hear you. Nothing wrong with striking a balance. Listen to your inner voice..Crucial. Nothing set in stone. No rationale needed. Balance..inner wisdom..you are guided. Live in the moment for awhile, i.e. all planning aside. Blow.. Be.. Happy Birthday!😊

[@lorriholden2181]

The ebbs and flow of life...

[@indigoarcher]

Hi Adalia. I’ve been abroad since 2016. Worked in Kuwait and traveled a lot precovid and loved it. Now I’m in Shanghai and I have lost my zest for travel. Im an educator. When I was I. Kuwait I stayed gone every break. Now, I’ve had three breaks and I’ve stayed in Shanghai. I will only travel right now when I’m headed home for summer and that will be in business class. The hustle doesn’t excite me anymore. Never thought I would say that.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I was the same way when I lived in Kuwait 🤣. Yeah, I NEVER thought I'd utter these words 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@provide7]

I totally understand, sister. It's not the same as 10 years ago. It's exhausting, to many people, dangerous, and since I eat very healthy, my food choices is very limited, like literally. The last staw for me was me returning home from a retreat, I somehow got lost trying to get home, and I felt so alone, afraid, and anxious. When I tell you I cried, I cried. Thank God a nice gentleman helped me and gave me directions. I could'nt wait to get home, I feel safe, calm and happy staying in my comfy home. Not to mention, saving money & use it for things that matter. This is a crazy world we live in. I have no trust in it anymore. I am in my happy place. Be safe ladies.

[@lostcausel3929]

I have traveled a lot and i always like spending one or three days in any given place. I don’t like long stays. However, now I would like to find my forever home outside of the US. Hopping around isn’t something I want to do long term. Finding two countries I love and setting up home in each would be great.

[@Aba_Ifeoma]

Hey Adalia! Catching the replay.

[@mritter1178]

As we age there is a shift that happens without our permission. We then change our focus and mindset. What our bodies can and can not do is another thing that takes over. I think we slow everything down to get still. We are now looking for home.❤

[@elenawalker517]

This is my last night working for a few days I’m heading to your website, I’m tired of fence sitting I’m ready to change my life, EVEN THOUGH IT SCARED ME!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Definitely reach out and we'll get you where you want to be

[@travelerawakenings8477]

I won't never say that I don't want to travel " anymore " until I can't. I may find myself in a period when I don't feel like to travel, but it maybe a break, not the end.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I get it

[@nicolelouis8968]

I loved travelling and I like to go with the flow and slow, experiencing the culture, color and flavors. But travel has become overwhelming, too expensive, corporate and complicated since covid. I agree it's become exhausting. I miss the way it was. Am annoyed how it has changed so much but can't take the BS of it.

[@ariamason9324]

I traveled in my youth, now i want to relax and travel when necessary

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@rosalindhb]

You do you. Your getting older and you've traveled alot. That's the problem I have now. Everytime I go somewhere all I can think about is being in my own bed and missing my dogs. To the point where I don't enjoy the trip or leave early to go home. The money spent sometimes is not worth it. Also, travel now is such a hassle, sometimes takes the joy out sometimes. Maybe you just do one or two trips a year. I'm sure your doggy will be happy your home more.

[@trace3254]

Yep!!!!

[@cheryldurham6021]

#replay. Interesting topic. I have always loved traveling. Covid, craziness of others and travel industry debacles has dampened my interest. I am truly trying to find my way back. Understand everything you stated. Stillness, in itself, gives way for adventure.

[@trace3254]

So you've just validated my feelings. I couldn't understand why that fire in my gut at the thought of an airport, a new place, new sights just wasn't there . Been traveling most of my adult life and.living for years here and there Now I just want to travel easy plant some roots, build a real home, take some classes, build community....and get a pet!!!! Thanks so much Picky Girl.

[@notthatvashti8127]

Love your thought of living with intention. Life is so finite, willy nilly or off the cuff has never been my thing. I'm a super planner. I have been invited on a trip to Alaska, but the thought of the fifteen- hour plus travel time from where I currently am makes me so uncomfortable. And as you mentioned, the hassle, some of the people, and the costs can be prohibitive also. I like my own stuff, my own bed, and my own place. The introversion in me keeps me still often. Best wishes!!

[@IV719]

Funny, I just said the same to my son. When I lived in the States, I wanted to travel all the time. Now I’ve been in MX for five years, and I am a homebody and love it! I thought I was the only one. I have found my peace, and I’m not chasing that anymore. I have been to a lot of places, and it’s no longer a priority. Not to say I won’t travel again, but like you, there has been a shift and I’ve embraced it.

[@NicoleJButler]

I strongly suspect that you're just TIRED. Be as still as possible for a while, and you'll feel the tug of wanderlust again. BTW, that blouse is EVERYTHING! 😍

[@dorrissmith1427]

Traveling has changed, the cost like you said, lay overs, airline customer service, loss luggage and the quality of people with multiple issues sitting next to you.

[@bothsideswhy9006]

I sat next to a chronic farter on an 8-hour flight back to the States, I also was in the middle seat- it was awful.

[@eleisha5054]

😂😂😂😂

[@sandrasgotvoice]

Like Dionne said (hey VO sis!), sounds like you need a travel sabbatical. You have more than enough experiences to still give amazing advice/suggestions to anyone looking at moving abroad. Maybe those few weeks off in summer will do it for you? Congratulations!🥳🎉I think you've found your place in this world, and you're comfortable there. Everything you need is there. Nothing wrong with wanting to stay home. There's no place like🏚

[@treasured_remembrance]

Not here yet but this perspective makes so much sense. I imagine being in a place where you feel at peace and you have more quality lessons the need “to get away.” I actually aspire to the feeling.

[@gregorriusadolphus2729]

I've got that same license plate; it says my name though haha. I was feeling "bad" about NOT wanting to travel as much this year. Last year, I may have overdid it.....I bounced around from the US to Mexico, back home to TX, then out to Brazil, back home, a few days later off to Montreal...back home..then to Tokyo...then back home...took a few months off during the summer, then in September went to Spain and Turkey, back home, the next month, to Cali to drive the PCH...back home...then to Italy in December. I've been meaning to plan another exploratory trip to Mexico City this month; it's barely a two hour flight from San Antonio...but I am TIRED LOL. And content sitting in my house for the moment...which is verey "out of character" for me as well.

[@tracywalker244]

Wow if I did all that traveling I be wanting to sit at home too.

[@ceruleanelectricthrone485]

Plenty of Beautiful places to travel right here in the USA

[@dwalker6868]

I feel you I’m going on my final dream trip and any other trips will be far in between besides traveling around in Mexico home sweet home for me

[@whoisthearenee]

Not me just realizing I hadn’t subscribed to you after all this time. 🥴 But I just did-no worries! ❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for subbing!

[@angelasamuel1169]

You my “friend” have the 7-year itch. This is not solely related to marriages. Enjoy the break, your new accommodations in MXC, and your excitement for travel will return.

[@trace3254]

You can still travel....just not the same way. Get your home, woman!!! You deserve it.

[@marilynpeoples5099]

Yes, this happened to me as well. I’ve been “ traveling “ for eight years. So this winter, while in perfect weathered Cuernavaca, which I had been looking forward to, I got homesick… to the point of crying while taking to my family back in the states. I was shocked…

[@deborahjohnson-hall3342]

How blessed you are to have been able to travel at will, get it out of your system and find your own travel-home time balance. I want to not live 24/7 in the U.S. (my sanity IS at stake), travel more but still want sense of safety, comfort and community. Not interested being a nomad without roots. I want to spread out my roots a little and see what else will grow. Maybe it’s time to share your experiences in how you’re building community where you are. “Lifeing” in a foreign land. That would be enlightening and helpful since that’s really what a lot of people who move abroad also struggle with. Thanks for the wonderful travelogues and BGM inspiration. Looking forward to seeing your next you!

[@lkreeldeevah]

"The juice isn't worth the squeeze" lol! I am 37yrs old and have been travelling since 18months old, solo travelling since 17yrs old and lived abroad etc. I have often said that; airports, transportation, airline customer service, accommodation bookings etc are PURE HEADACHE. I love going around the world, exploring different cultures, learning history and languages but the actual TRAVEL part is wayyy too much hassle. 9/11 and the pandemic added to the stress and it is not necessarily worth-it, especially if you are going abroad to RELAX. When I expressed this in recent years, almost no-one agreed and now that travelling has become trendy and social media appealing, I feel that most people uploading their travel experiences make it out like it's such a breeze where the airport experiences in particular are all smooth sailing🤨I was beginning to think that I just attracted bad luck when travelling...Give me silence, warmth and serenity at home with all my favourite things and I'm good 😉

[@EightPaws_N_TwoFeet]

For 2025 or sooner, I would love for you to talk about pet care and socialization. I'm planning on moving near Chapala after the US elections when everyone loses their minds, and I'll be bringing two large pups with me. A friend will be bringing her cat

[@professlch6347]

I love this suggestion and I don't have pets!

[@TheVtaylor123]

Omg! I feel everything you're saying. I use to love traveling but now at the ripe age of 59 years old soon to be 60 I am not hyped. The last trip was to Italy (I love Italy) but the flight was so long and exhausting. I have decided to take short trips and put off longer trips to every other year.

[@SomethingNewAMBW]

I'm an introvert and alone time is what I love, my social meter caps out pretty quickly....UNLESS I really vibe with you.

[@doni4150]

Two/Three day trips are my max. I am fortunate to currently work part-time for a major airline.

[@glamazini]

I'm just watching this but I guess I've been travel burned out for years. I traveled a lot from birth to through my 30s. It all feels exhausting to me so I don't do it as much anymore. Honestly, I'm more into road trips lately.

[@travelerawakenings8477]

The way you explained you used to travel is very exhausting. I wouldn't be able to do that. Up to last year, i used to leave for two months traveling, or taking three trips of one month a year. Then from May 2023 to now, I felt i didn't want to go anywhere. I spent almost a year i didn't go anywhere, then last week, out of the blue, i found myself book a plane ticket to Cambodia. What? I couldn't believe i did that. I had 24 hrs to cancel the plane tichet and get a refund. I didn't cancel. So, i am going to do a tour of 7 countries in Asia. All my travels are comfort in 3 to 4 stars hotels. If i have to have a layover of 12 hours, i slways make sure i book an hotel room. I love to travrl, but i try to avoid hassle.

[@gretchenking5952]

As much as I love to travel, I feel a little burned out as well. In 2022 I went to London and Edinburgh, and last year in 2023, I was in Rotterdam and Amsterdam. I had planned to go to Dublin and Savannah this year, but now have decided to push Dublin back to 2025. I may still get to Savannah before the end of the year, but that will/would be my only trip for pleasure this year. I agree, travel is a hassle now and next year you will need a VISA to go to Europe so that's another hoop to jump through.

[@MT-yx5cu]

Really? A VISA just to visit Europe?

[@gretchenking5952]

@@MT-yx5cu Yep, starting in January 2025. It was supposed to begin this year but was pushed nack. The fee will be nominal though.

[@MT-yx5cu]

@@gretchenking5952 wow. Where do I find information on this? I honestly don't even know what a VISA is lol

[@shesssosavvy]

Well, you have been my inspo to get up and GO! I took 2.5 solo trips last yr....2 completely solo, 1 with my daughter on her work trip, so i was mostly alone. I loved it and was sooo excited to get through the holidays so i could get going again. Funny though, it's the end of February, and i'on feel like it! Lol! I had to chuckle thinking about it like, dang, i just got started, I can't be burned out already. Now, i want to be home?!?🫠 Now that I've got the courage and the resources!!! I've looked at flights...accommodations and booked nothing! I did, however, redecorate my bedroom🥴 🛌 So maybe it's something in the air right now... I'm Midwest, it's winter, so maybe that's the reason.

[@YasmineBedward]

I went through this and it lasted 3 years. I’m back on the road again but I remember loving the feeling of being grounded for a while

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@alwaysinpursuit]

Thanks for this topic. While I am not fully traveling yet, I've often wondered if I should keep a homebase (outside of the US) or not, but yalls explanations and reality give the conversation more depth and clarity for me.

[@Silverbackugx]

Hello..Im a brother from North Carolina, Ive been living in Uganda for the last three years...sigh..Im over it, the lack of infrastructure has finally just grinded me into frustratingly throwing in the towel. Im moving to Mexico. I got more information from only one of your videos than I could gather about Uganda after three years of living here...and everybody speaks english...thank you for what you do.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

you're welcome!

[@ValarieCrudup-pv1di]

Sounds like you have found Fullfillment in the simple things in life at this stage of your journey… embrace it Beautiful.

[@jaderoyale-brown]

#replaygang I really enjoyed this video. I didn’t realize your bday was in March, are you a Pisces? I look forward to traveling to Mexico 🤗

[@mjaye1712]

#replay I understand where you are coming from. It sounds like you are going through an identity shift, and that whatever it will be moving forward is going to be very different from what it has been. Shifts can be awkward. They can leave us with questions that take us by surprise. It's not easy to leave behind something that was so integral to our identity, and was a reliable source of pleasure.

[@marilynpeoples5099]

I’m 74, I’m just dreaming about staying “ above ground “ 😂

[@sandrarobinson4448]

Travel is wonderful! Travel days suck.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

That part!!!

[@treasured_remembrance]

This is what I tell people and the reason I don’t make plans the first two days I’m in a place. Once I have some time to sleep and get a good meal I feel ready to get around at a slow pace.

[@kjwking3923]

WOW, you've been going HAM (hard as a mug - in the vernacular of my sons,lol) with the traveling. Just reading your itinerary for this year makes me exhausted. And we can all agree that air travel will just work your nerves sometimes. Can anything be canceled or postponed? Have you had a good thorough physical lately, w blood work etc? Just to be certain that's not a driver of the way you feel. Highly suggest booking a rest session with Octavia Raheem. I like that you are recognizing your feelings and honoring yourself by considering making some changes. Looking forward to hearing about your deep dive in rediscovering self and home.❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Can't cancel anything but definitely taking it easy in the second half of the year

[@FunandBudget]

I definitely experience travel burn out...usually around the end of the year. I take a month or two of not traveling and discover my desire to be out in them streets is revived...lol

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I'm definitely looking forward to my break this summer

[@summertime8199]

This is how I feel right now. The enthusiasm has worn off. I’d normally pack 3-4 days out, but not anymore. I’m packing right now for a vacation trip to leave tomorrow and there’s no real excitement anymore. I am exhausted by airports, waking up early for excursions, and the thought of returning from vacation and inundated with tons of work emails is just too much. I am over it. Travel burnout is real.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Yep. I'm learning to be selective and weigh the pros and cons.

[@trace3254]

@@AdaliaAborisade Also want to share that I've never been a person who wanted to cruise. Those cruises are starting to look real good to me now! Checking into repositioning cruises now. Also, may try an all inclusive too. Did one years ago in Jamaica. Didn't leave the resort. I was okay with it as I was on my honeymoon and I had lived and worked in Jamaica and been maybe 35 times!!! So, didn't feel a need to explore. It was heaven.

[@summertime8199]

@@trace3254 it’s funny you mention cruises. I had put off cruising until the latter part of my life. I figured I would do a lot of land travel until I retire and then focus on cruises. However, cruising is looking pretty relaxing right about now.

[@trace3254]

​@summertime8199 I think Picky Girl hit on something. Hey, Picky Girl how about a.Cruise Meet-up for those of us weary, seasoned, tired of packing folks!!!

[@nishal.5007]

Good morning!

[@gloriacurrie4046]

I love visiting my grandkids in Argentina but I dread the long flight and layovers.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I struggled on that flight to BA. Luckily, it's direct from Mexico City.

[@aj68725]

Oh, Geography Teacher! 😊my subject… many places I want to/have visit (ed) were influenced by my studies too…long trips have never been my thing…I’ve been travelling frequently to the USA and Europe with the kids before each of them was 6 months- 2 weeks is the ideal vacation for me. Now I travel on my own and with whichever child wants to join me🙄😂…10 days away is enough for me. 🙂

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

I went to Spain in January, ended up with the flu, and I was laid up in my hotel room

[@tracywalker244]

Oh no . I hope you made home okay.

[@paul734]

I traveled heavy internationally the last two years and recently took a five month break from it due to travel burn out. Got into cycling during my travel break. It got so weird that i would forget what country i was in lol. One time I was in Lisbon and thought i was in Colombia.

[@elvdell5582]

I used to want to expat completely i.e. find a better less expensive country to live in. My goal was always early retirement and that travel. I can tell you now, now that I have settled into early retirement, all of that travel is looking less appealing to me. I took one trip to Africa and had an experience similar to you and thought... yeah this IS a hassle. And when you are abroad you don't have all of the comforts you are used to. I always thought I could learn to live without, and I have for up to a month, but I'm planning my first 3 months excursion and I'm very leery. 3 months without all of MY stuff. MY computer, and MY 25" wide screen monitor which is where I consume all my multimedia, my plants need looking after. These are small things, but they are things I am used to. Ideally, I like what someone else said, X number of months in one place and X number of months somewhere I am REALLY happy. So really my journey is looking for that second place. But I don't know. I agree with you. Above all we are allowed to change our minds. I've already traveled a LOT, and I've always loved it, I've been looking forward to travelling in retirement. Now that I'm here... hmnnnn......

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for sharing

[@ltiya75islearning82]

I don’t like traveling anymore. Mainly air travel because it’s exhausting! But my ultimate dream is to vacation somewhere for a month via VRBO, Airbnb, or whatever. That is how I want to spend my retirement.

[@professlch6347]

Though I think you're a bit burned out (understandably!)? I appreciate what you're exploring here. The best part of having a home you enjoy is that you actually want to be in it. A LOT. It is a source of immense pleasure. When you return from the next set of trips and get a breather? You'll curate more carefully. Travel for travel's sake is not the move if you are good 'n' grown. #NewRules

[@denisejo10462]

If you decide to go live while doing one of your sewing projects, that will give me all the motivation I need to break out my sewing machine! #Iwanttolaydown

[@nishal.5007]

Sounds good❤

[@GeaDonnaMoore-h9s]

The destination is the goal, having to travel and all that is included in that in lies the problem, plus we can never ever pack enough of anything for the place we travel to, to be like home. If one finds satisfaction in living a few months in one place and some months in another in my opinion it may be good or fine today ( if so please enjoy it) but I think even that will get old. Singers, actors, musicians, public speakers, and athletes all travel the whole wide world, but I hear them say, "I can't wait to get back home." It's the travel that makes you tired , frustrated and drained, not the destination.

[@MelissaFortune]

Lol no ma'am you are not alone in this. Like yeah I'm Chillin I'm trying to see where my next place will be but not in terms of a trip but I feel like it's time for me to relocate and maybe settle down in my maybe next permanent spot so yeah definitely travel burnout

[@AdaliaAborisade]

The power of the pivot 🙌🏾

[@braidslikebrandy]

I love travel but it seems like these days you never get where you need to be on time and that is stressful and makes the experience daunting. The waiting and stress of airports is deterring. Then the staff have the nerve to treat you poorly. I don’t tend to travel far unless I can find a straight flight. If not, I’m not interested.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I feel you on this!

[@greatnation4328]

Your current feelings towards travelling are normal. In addition you are yet to fully understand yourself. The stress of unpredictable surprises sprung up by airlines has reduced the excitement of travelling more often for me. Female solo travelling requires a mindset particularly as age advances.

[@monsieurnoir207]

I'm a sexagenarian and I love traveling. Currently, I'm in the Guyana, Suriname and French Guiana region. On Tuesday, I'll be in the French West Indies and UK territory of Anguilla. I won't do another thirty day cruise to the French Polynesian area I've visited all seven continents. I love you too.

[@DreamAboutMe823]

I have never really traveled and I thought that I was weird for never really wanting to. I feel like I have seen everything. (Maybe in past lives)

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I'm a big fan of doing the things you want to and avoiding the things you don't.

[@tracywalker244]

I use to love doing all the planning etc but after traveling with a group who does all the planning I doubt if I can go back to doing all that myself.

[@trace3254]

Yep... Me too!!!!!! All the planning is no fun anymore Just exhausted.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

That's the thing, I don't love the planning anymore