Why I'm Against Cursing || Mayim Bialik

[@AdrianBigyes]

As Sheldon said, "You can hurt people just as well without them."

[@mainguyren]

No bus, no fuss, not a single cuss!

[@d.d.p.parker3671]

he also said no muss, no fuss, not a single cuss

[@PaolaRL]

“Language is special,language matters “........THANK YOU ❤️❤️❤️

[@sarahcaplan8350]

I’ve just had a Mayim marathon! I’ve watched the last 5 of your videos back to back. I admire how articulate you are. I wish I had the ability to put my words out there the way you do. I think you’re incredible. X

[@mariluwilhelm5742]

I had a Mayim Bialik marathon yesterday. Love her videos.

[@ir10031981]

oh crap! I need to take a s... never mind, I shouldn't swear! sorry ladies! I could sure use some pepto bismol right now.

[@kitkatxo]

Agreed! I can write or type anything with ease but omgosh do I struggle when speaking out loud! Frustrating and embarrassing. Especially if I get upset, its like there's something blocking me from being able to express myself and I never understood that.

[@Damian.D]

The world would be a more peaceful place with more mothers like you, dear Mayim! Thank you so much! 🤗

[@lookwhatyoumademedo1998]

I may repeat myself but I honestly could not be more grateful for the content you are posting Mayim!😊 Hilarious and yet profound! Please keep up the great work! P.S.: Can I hug you Mayim? You are too precious for this world.😇

[@MayimBialik]

Sending hugs :)

[@lookwhatyoumademedo1998]

Mayim Bialik This made my day.Thank you😇

[@joyspiridi2898]

I couldn't agree more. You are an intelligent, respectful and unique human being who challenges me and makes me realize that you can stand alone in a broken world. Thanks.

[@elenalove3791]

Gina 123 agree!!!!!!

[@Totomo]

Couldn’t agree more

[@performingartseducator]

I like the statement, “Language is special.” That simple statement landed in my soul for a good reason. This, I can use for my benefit.

[@irinakislitsina6747]

Thank you for bringing up this subject! I'm 20 and I'm the only one in my friend group that prefers not to curse out loud (even though I use it in my mind pretty regulaly). Everything has its place, time and purpose. So sad that young people get teased and bullied for NOT CURSING. Thanks for using your voice for bringing awareness to this pretty casual but interesting subject

[@Lostcause1974]

I agree completely! I feel the same goes for when someone says "I love you" all the time, to everyone, for any reason.

[@TheMoonlight2887]

Shelly's said it: "You can hurt people just as well without swear words... No muss, no fuss, not a single cuss!" 😂

[@sauliusltcool6902]

Shelly's? Only his mother calls him that, I think Sheldon is so much better

[@darlenesouthard4557]

Thank you!! This is spot on and I am going to share it with my 17-year-old so we can both think about it and help each other watch our words.

[@torishelton2829]

I completely agree and I’m 17! I find no need to curse ever...it just doesn’t help anything when you get down to it!

[@kristinstrickland1038]

Very wise.

[@thealyssab_]

Specific language is awesome! Thank you for articulating something I've been thinking about lately. I also hate the the phrase "I can't even" for the same reasons.

[@danpatrick24]

My parents never cursed when I was a child, and I think that’s ideal for children. I hope never to curse in front of my children.

[@aarongilmore1254]

It is so refreshing to me how honest you are in your videos. You don't pretend to have all the answers, but you have answers for you and share your perspective. This mix of honesty and sometimes humor, makers me come back to your videos. Thanks, Mayim

[@giventogrow8533]

No I think your spot on with this. At one point in my life I found myself cursing constantly. A bad habit I picked up from an ex. The words completely lost their intensity and meaning and It because harder to actually express my feelings. Now I am way more creative with my word choices though I do get a few raised eyebrows from time to time. :)

[@brandonstinson4988]

Cursing was designed as a defense mechanism to release stress when necessary and when people overuse it they get burnt out.

[@annf1801]

It wasn’t until I started counseling at a summer camp that I started to clean up my language. I realized that I was someone these kids looked up to. Putting aside the fact that swearing in front of an eight year old is pretty universally unacceptable, how would they think if they saw telling them how to live and not modeling it for myself?

[@sarabrowning6907]

Agreed. The mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Being selective and careful with our words not only shows respect to ourselves and others, it is a way to guard our hearts.

[@Labyriiiinth]

Congratulations Mayim! 400k subbies yay!! You deserve more!! ❤

[@desiderata333]

I think your perspective about cursing is spot on! We share that perspective. You’re adorable and hilarious. I am so enjoying your channel! Thank you very much. Hugs and may God bless you and your children always.

[@kbrown5523]

I was raised in a house where we couldn't swear, in my senior year I spent a lot of time at my boyfriend's house and they all swore freely. I loved my parents and was happy with them, but I much prefered the openess that flowed when speech wasn't restricted in that way. My daughter is 16 now and we're lose about it and she swears less than I did at that age when I wasn't around my parents. She can control it for work and school and it works for us, but that's just us. I 100% respect your perspective and it obviously works well for your family.

[@robmaxwell189]

Oh my goodness, I've felt this way for so long. Thank you for stepping up and sharing your thoughts on all of these issues

[@oliverxhmll]

When I curse it feels like I took the easy way to tell someone what I think of them/the situation. I feel like if I use better words and I'm just more eloquent the outcome is always better lol

[@danellehubert7603]

I love this! I’m in the same boat with the cursing, and I appreciate your way of stating the issue.

[@angelahampton3514]

I had a boss that hated swearing and yelled “no swearing” every time we did and I am so grateful to him. Best thing I stopped doing.

[@MonOrozco]

I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels like this, and recently due to all the freedom that is being given with words in radio and tv i have found myself sliding a little and letting bad words come out. You made me realize that i don’t have to give in and let some words be ok to say I have to be able to still stand my ground and say to the kids no bad words.

[@TeamJulene]

I would not put up with my kids swearing at me or anyone else. But saying f*ck when you stub your toe is perfectly acceptable. Its not directed towards anyone and doesnt hold a historical meaning directed at a minority group. Swearing actually helps reduce pain. I would not accept them saying slurs of any kind, including ones usually used for women.

[@sereneebaby]

TeamJulene same here! My little brother plays video games, and once in a while he’ll say fuck or shit. And also when he bangs into something, like you said. I’ve always taught him that he shouldn’t use swear words to insult someone, but if he’s alone in his room and not around other adults or kids, he won’t get in trouble.

[@maidenrohina]

That's what I was always taught, especially regarding the degrading words in addition growing up the thing my mum would always tell me is its the intention behind the word not the word itself that matters but that there are certain places that its not the best thing to do (ie. My grandparents house). I probably swear more then the average person but I can also probably count the number of times its been direct at someone on two hands.

[@zoesmybaby]

It can also become a habit like that. Let them stub their toe in front of the classroom. Then you realize that you have to limit it for kids all the time.

[@ucancallmetrish]

I agree wholeheartedly! I am raising both my boys with a strong attention to their emotional well being and psychological health. I’m so happy to see others interested in these topics you speak about openly and without care for judgment. Our children are our future and we need them to grow into well mannered people for the better of our society.

[@ChilledSir]

The intro is me on the inside 😂 but gotta keep a friendly calm outside

[@ncskitty]

Thank you so much for this video! Your view of swearing is very similar to mine! Your point about focusing on self care to decrease swearing makes so much sense because I notice I rarely swear when I’m doing well, but on bad depression/anxiety days the f word fills my brain and it’s so easy to mutter sh*t under my breath when anything goes wrong. I think swearing occasionally around kids is okay (not when it’s a habit though!) because it does show them that we’re all human and that it’s okay to slip up sometimes.

[@courtney2323]

I’m so bad about cursing. I go back and forth with how I feel about it. Interesting thoughts in this video thanks for sharing!

[@astigma]

Love this video. This is a topic that I'm currently struggling with both an adult and as a parent.

[@FriendlyNeighborhoodUnclePete]

Yor are 100% right on the money, I am a retired Master Chief in the Navy. We all know "curse like a Sailor". LOL. But you are correct on all your points. I do curse but not all the time and not when I am around ​strangers. Love the video and can't wait for the next one.

[@annbrooks8064]

Love your perspective. I have a degree in English, so words are my air! We are losing our beautiful language to "lazy linguistics." I'm with you 100%!!

[@JentasticVintage26]

I get annoyed because there are so many movies that we can't watch as a family because of all the cursing. Movies that would have been just as funny without all of the curse words. I wish the rest of Hollywood felt the way you do!

[@diannaperry8116]

Agreed!

[@cori8457]

So true!!!!!!

[@maddisonhadfield3758]

I totally agree! As a young woman living in Australia, swearing is so common place and you’re so right when you said they loose their punch if you say them so much. I feel into the trap of swearing too much and I look back on that time of my life and cringe! Don’t get me wrong I still swear when I think it’s necessary, but it’s not something I would ever want me kids to do. Great video 👍 you’re amazing!

[@allychu19]

Aaaah, I love your content so much! You have a completely different opinion than I do about so so many things, but you express it in such a cool, open minded and interesting way, I never miss a video. Keep up the great content Mayim, please! xx

[@MayimBialik]

I'm glad you stick around to listen to someone with different opinions than you! :) That's admirable, and I appreciate it.

[@janedickey6719]

You expressed this beautifully. I teach high school and actively teach my students to use academic language at school. We need to teach our kids that different language is appropriate in different circumstances. Love how you expeessed this.

[@lostinliterature1086]

I absolutely agree with you. With all of your reasons and a few Biblical ones as well. I'm sending this to my young adult children who think it is humorous to curse in front of me under the guise of "quoting".

[@Laly7]

You are right on point! My children are not allowed to curse! Totally agree, and thank you for this video. Don’t shift your perspective, otherwise your kids perspectives on this will also change. Thank you again!!

[@josephmascia9046]

We love you and thank you, so much, for reminding us that respect is still actually cool!

[@archibaldmountcatten1684]

I loved this video! I find that cursing makes you feel better in the moment, but worse in the long time. The constant use of negative words (including curse words) will subconsiously bring a lot of negativity to your brain and thus make you feel bad. It's okay to be mad when you stub your toe or someone is mean to you, but to use such strong, negative words to associate with the situation, will only make the situation bigger and let you linger longer in the negativety. Quitting cursing was really, really hard to do for me, as it had quietlu slipped in my language, but I'm glad I did it. I can let go of a negative situation faster, because I give it less power. Words have a lot of power and I feel people sometimes forget that..

[@Bailey_93]

As a childhood educator I think and hope for every parent to have this view! You views and how you deliver them are perfect!

[@thesecretsongbird554]

I'm glad that I came up to see this. This served as a wake up call for me to lessen the cursing that I do from time to time. I came up to the point that I use cursing words in moments that I don't really need to use them making it as normal words to use in conversations. I stopped being aware with what I say never knowing if it's inappropriate or not. My mind has been replenished because of this. I can't thank you enough for this wonderful content. You share your thoughts about things and it doesn't just pass our ears it is also absorbed by our hearts as well. Ps: I just want you to know that you're my inspiration why I will pursue a PhD in my field and I hope that you can send me inspiring words that I can live with in this wonderful journey to my dream career. Thank you so much, Mayim. You are certainly the best!

[@zanyunimo4255]

When I started middle school, my mum told me that she knew I was gonna start cursing and that she had a few ground rules; no one was permitted to direct swears at another person, and we weren't permitted to do it in the presence of teachers or grandparents. I didn't actually start cursing till around sophomore year though. By the time I started college, I was cursing like a sailor and the words had all but lost their meaning as the f-bomb became more of an adjective than anything else. I learned to curb my language when I nearly lost my job over it (I was working at a photo studio with loads of children around). I hadn't realized I was cursing because the words had lost their intensity. Now I will only curse in the presence of adults and only if the situation calls for it (ie: if I injure myself or the like). I still don't curse around my grandparents though XD I agree that words have power and if one uses them too frivolously, they lose their power and meaning.

[@naty51287]

I think EXACTLY like you!!!! I don't have kids yet, but as a teacher I always expect my students (preteens) to be respectful around me and their classmates.

[@butterflygold14]

It feels good to do it but I hate hearing it around my parents or other elders. It’s definitely a respect thing.

[@jessicammcmahon]

Hi Mayim it is so refreshing to listen to intelligent, open, witty and honest conversation. I love how you are not afraid to speak out about what is on your mind or break the barriers of silence that often surround taboo subjects. Your delivery is so down to earth and funny, which makes it so relatable to many of us. Whether it’s cursing, relationships, sex, divorce, mental health, life long regrets we have all either experienced this or know someone who has. I have admired you for a long time not just for your prowess in acting and comedy especially in the Big Bang theory but also for your achievements as a female neuroscientist in a very male dominated world. You are truly very talented, diligent, hard working individual. Plus not to forget you have also raised a gorgeous family. I love the photo of your two boys in the background and the rather well placed swear jar. Which to me looks very empty so you are doing better than me. I always look forward to your videos. Hugs and kisses Jessica.

[@Gamerthon98]

I'm someone who curses alot. It's a habit I had to pick up when I was about 12/13 to get bullies to back off and stop mocking my replacement words or phrases i'd say to them. Telling the techer didn't help either, so I cut to swearing because it was the only way they'd leave me alone. Then it sort of worked its way into my vocabulary more and more as my teenage years became more bumpy and my mental health and stress levels plumetted. I found it a good way to release all of the pent up emotions I couldn't share with anyone, and so I kept doing it....But somewhere along the line I forgot to stop. If I could go back now, I don't think i'd change it. And, of course I know where to filter myself around certain enviroments, like around my grandparents (who I live with, therefore I wouldn't swear in front of them), and around kids. But whilest i'm against the use of swearing among kids, but at the same time I can understand why certain teenagers (or just people in general) would choose to swear or curse. I guess what i'm trying to say is i'm indifferent on the topic. Some people choose to swear and curse, and some people choose not to. And either way, I think that's okay.

[@laurao8822]

This is the kind of content we need in the world. Such an unbelievably inspirational woman

[@freespirit_17]

😂 THE bleeping got to me.... Much needed the pick me up this morning... ☺ Thank you🌼🌸✌

[@wemompham3364]

So good to hear someone talk about this! My parents never cursed (led by their faith), I tried out cursing in some situations in my teens but it just wasn't "me" so I stopped and have never taken it up again. I don't even find the need to use curse words in bad situations, there are plenty of other ways to express myself. I have had the same feelings about the connection between loose cursing and the decline in social morals, it's hard to pinpoint the why of that connection but it exists. My oldest son/philosopher tried to convince me that they are just words but I don't buy it.

[@jackielinde7568]

*CORRECTION: OPEN A THESAURUS!* Dictionaries are great for finding the meaning of words. Thesauruses (Thesaurusi?) are great for finding synonym and antonym words of other words.

[@brandon3872]

Jack Linde I just looked it up (yes I really am that much of a nerd); the plural of thesaurus is 'thesauruses' or 'thesauri'. 🙂 📖📖

[@robadams8057]

Jason Leer bless you.

[@IceNixie0102]

Also, phooey is literally a substitute for fuck, like darn for damn or shoot for shit. Phooey is not a good example, if her rules are "no substitute words."

[@gsd715]

IceNixie0102 that's interesting any phooey because in Schutzhund dog training people say it as a way to tell a dog to knock something off without needing a full correction. In German pfui, phooey, (pronounced foo-ee) translates to "shame" as in "shame on you, you know better."

[@conzeh.2578]

gsd715 In german you say "pfui" when something is disgusting. It is not really defined as a swearword here more a signal word like "stop!". Mostly you use it with animals or small children its more a echoism than a word. I looked it up in my etymologist dictionary and its the sound when you spit out.

[@adinapeterson3929]

Loving this message. I have a 4 year old and swearing has not started yet but I’m sure it will come.

[@patriciamay4699]

I have to stop my game just to watch this. Hello notification squad!!! 💚

[@meng-hsienliu8198]

As a linguistics major, I appreciate your take on the language use and no, you are not off here. Your comments on the language use are quite spot-on. This video is both entertaining and informative! Keep up the great work, Mayim!!! Love your videos.

[@liamodonovan3437]

You have your standard's and you shouldn't have to change them just to suit soiecty

[@nikkid8834]

Standards*

[@Partimehero36]

Society exists as standards to which we all hold ourselves for the common good. We enforce these standards with laws when necessary to protect, not just society, but individuals. Her argument is for a return to the societal standard of speaking to one another with respect to sensitive language. If you disagree that it's necessary, that's one thing, but to state that we shouldn't have to change to fit into society is fallacy. We do it all the time and should, for the good of the whole.

[@Macheako]

Can't I say the same fuckin thing though? My standards are "Fuck yea, curse words!" and no matter what society says, I shouldn't have to change to suit anyone......right?

[@Partimehero36]

Matthew Morton, my thought is, cursing is a thing you do, not who you are. It offends some people, so I try not to do it until I know the people well enough to know whether they find it offensive. You'll never hurt or offend anyone by not cursing, so I try to live that way. That said, there are definitely places or times when I expect that the people around me will expect some cursing (at the bar, a concert, or when I cut my hand open with a kitchen knife) and I curse freely in those situations without feeling bad because the social norms allow for that behavior.

[@Macheako]

Paul Hartsell (just fyi my comment was to Liam O Donovan, but the chat system on KZbin sucks butt hole, so no worries man) I really don't know HOW to say what the hell it is I feel like I gotta say, so for the sake of us both not growing any younger, with all due respect man......the idea that words hurt people is bull shit. Now am I at least understanding of the idea that psychological trauma brings with it possible mental trauma brought on by a myriad of disparate factors? Actually, Yea. But Do I hold that YOUR mental health is in any way shape or form MY civic responsibility as a stranger in a common nation? Hell no. You seem like a nice person, so I'll try my best to not be my usual horrible self. But yea, unfortunately, I only see this coddling of people, in regards to "hurtful" words, unfortunately, as holding back pretty much all of humanity. Like, I don't wanna harp on this idea that it COULD be holding back all of mankind from progressing as Truth is the only path forward and ultimately, Truth isn't possible when you censor ideas for no REAL reason outside of "I don't personally like them". Which is why, if we're REALLYYYYYYYYYY [fuckin] bein honest here.......is the main reason why someone even WOULD have "a problem" with cuss words. Like, on one level, again, you're a really nice guy, and I'm a terrible human being, so take it for what it's worth, but it really is just like "gender-neutral dude......like......grow the fuck up". Words don't hurt people. At least, not the mere sound of them. It's much deeper than that. Being called fat don't mean shit, unless, well, you're really fat and it makes you feel ashamed like crazy. And fair enough, that pain IS, in some respects, "real". But let's also be really real, and acknowledge that much of that pain, though not always, but certainly in a lot of cases.....is your own damn fault. And you can't hold the pain you've created in your own life against another human being. Like, with all due respect man......that's just fucked up. If someone's gonna share your pain, you don't force them, period, that's all there is to it.

[@pallavivj79]

Thanks for the video Mayim. I don't like cursing either and I still get uncomfortable when someone curses around me. But it is so commonplace that I don't know how to shield myself from it. I do think language and words matter and I want to be conscious about what words I choose to use when I talk. So it's a thumbs up from me!

[@dawnspengler9357]

YAY! MY CHILDREN ARE 35 AND 40 AND STILL DON'T CURSE IN FRONT OF ME! RESPECTFUL!

[@LilySaintSin]

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[@jemma4012]

Love this video! I’m 20 and I don’t curse- in my head I do, but never out loud. As you said, and I completely agree, using curses as every other word in a sentence makes it lose its impact. So if I’m ever feeling really angry/upset/happy etc. and I curse, it’ll have more impact. At work all my colleagues swear all the time, and yes we’re all friends, but working in retail you never know if there’s little ears listening in! I think more people need to be aware of their surroundings and be more tuned in to what they’re saying. It’s all about respect as you said. Just today a group of boys no older that 10 came into the shop and started swearing at us, for no reason! I don’t understand their behaviour at all! And people like you teaching their kids to be respectful with their words and how they use them is what we need more of in this world! :)

[@shabytin]

Oh my. Can’t imagine you cursing. I don’t like to curse too but ugh sometimes it’s really hard to contain when people are being a pain in the a 🙊😂

[@thewaffleironn]

I think you're absolutely on point. I wonder, though, how this will change as your kids get older? Thinking from the perspective of a child, I remember reaching a point during college where I realized I consciously spoke differently around my parents (to avoid cursing) than I did around most other people in my life. After a while this started to feel disingenuous, like I was speaking to my boss, not someone who was close to me. I would prefer my kids be authentically themselves, hoping that by that point I have done a good enough job raising them that this won't ever infringe on respectfulness.

[@vampirecat11]

I totally agree with everything you said! I will raise my children with the same rules :)

[@kelseyjordan9913]

This is such a great video! I’ve always been a big user of cursing (wasn’t allowed when I was young), but don’t see the big deal of them now. They’re just words- it’s the power you give them. My husband does not like cursing in our home, and hates it especially now that we have a little one. This video has convinced me of the power they already have. Thanks for this lesson. I will be much more mindful around my daughter

[@rscampbell3]

Felt totally alone on that one. Thank you for posting this. I’m possibly the only Glaswegian who doesn’t like swearing - a place where the “C” word can be used as a term of endearment 😲

[@Elspm]

As another glaswegian, I really enjoy that the C word is used in endearment. So many words can be more scathing than swear words. But I still wouldn't swear easily in front of my children in the way I do with some of my friend groups - because the way I see it parents should not be like friends for their children, and so we do need to show different boundaries somehow. It was also a sign of a change in my relationship with my parents over time, if they swear in front of me now then it's like an acknowledgement of my adulthood. They still never use the c word in front of me though, and I don't think I would ever use it around my (future) weans. We all have to have our little secrets from our families.

[@annescholten9313]

I totally agree: words are energy, choose how to use the energy wisely! Great content as always, Mayim.

[@rgbcn]

Your home your rules. Agree with the respect, not with having to stop myself to curse in my controlled surroundings. I enjoy it in some moments and it’s a way to let frustration go with a word. So I will not stop, and in fact, I want the words written with the BANG they need like in old batman series when I curse, to give even more impact.

[@carasmussen27]

love your post. My daughter knows to not ever use the F word. She says the mild words damn or hell.

[@deemariedubois4916]

Regina rgbcn At one time I had 4 teens, 4 early twenties living in our home. Also two of my young grandkids were there hearing all of it. My 2 youngest teens were being exposed to swearing on a daily basis in spite of my protests and without even realizing they were doing it started dropping the f bomb to my dismay. I introduced the quarter jar. Every cuss word spoken allowed, you had to put a quarter in the jar. After months the huge jar was full but the swearing was finally cleared out of my home. We donated the money collected to our local food bank. A swear jar does work not so much for what it cost them but because it made them more conscious of how sloppy their language had become.

[@marykimble5214]

I completely agree! Well said! It saddens me how much cursing is acceptable on tv these days (during the day and not on cable channels). What is happening to our society?!

[@xondraluna9965]

Youre such a great human being. 💛💛💛💛💛 Ive always said cursing is just sentence enhancers. I mostly cure when im angry or in pain. Im pretty sure my pinky toe has caused me to curse more than anything else. I may also say the f word when im happy. Never around children though. Under my breath maybe but usually say fudge nuggets out loud

[@tamaradasilva9908]

Thank YOU so much! I'm so so sick of seeing curse words EVERYWHERE! In stores - in front of kids - Kids don't even know how to talk without cursing anymore - I thought I was just a grumpy old lady!

[@ohrats731]

Can you do an episode about kids respecting adults, especially their parents? I’m 23 but I still live with my mom. I’ve found that there’s a big disconnect between our generations and their concept of respect. It’s frustrating because my mom sees respect and love going hand in hand while I see respect as more of a feeling you have for an authority you don’t have a personal relationship with.

[@mininorphlett1310]

Oh honey you need to grow up and move out. Your parents will respect you for making that move.

[@ohrats731]

Mini Norphlett welcome to the 21st century. I sent myself to college and bought my own car. I have crippling debt. If I move out of my parents house right now I’ll become homeless in under a year. But sure, go ahead just assume I’m an idiot child afraid to let go of mommy’s skirts.

[@ohrats731]

Mini Norphlett also I don’t need my parents’ respect. I don’t get off on being respected. That’s why I want to open a discussion on why older generations are obsessed with being respected.

[@rennsea5865]

I'm a mum, and my way of "being respected" may be far different than the way that YOUR mum feels respected. I think that it boils down to relationship and communication. If you were my child, I would be fiercely proud of the fact that you put yourself through school and purchased your own vehicle. I wouldn't want you to move out if it resulted in homelessness within a year. The question is, what are you doing now that you have graduated? Are you working? Are you saving money to eventually move out? Do you help financially (if you CAN)? Do you help around the house (without whining or being nagged)? Those steps - in my opinion - are signs of respect and maturity. Do little things, even if you can't contribute financially. You would be amazed at how your view of your mum (and hers of you) will shift when you simply give her one less thing to do around the house. That aside - seriously. I'm not your mum, but I am still fiercely proud of the fact that you put yourself through college!

[@Pr0fessorScience]

I think, really, the main disconnect comes from the fact that we all, at times, use "respect" to mean two completely different things. Sometimes, when people say "respect," what they mean is the consideration and courtesy they have earned by virtue of their humanity, their actions, or their knowledge. If someone does something really brave or heroic, or if someone has a vast amount of practical knowledge in a certain field - these are worthwhile things, so we treat them with a certain amount of reverence. Or, on a more basic level, we respect the autonomy and humanity of the living people around us because we want our own autonomy and humanity respected in return. Other times, though, particularly when the respect is being demanded by virtue of authority, when people say "respect" they mean unquestioning fealty. This is blatant manipulation, and its intended goal is to chastise you into submission. See, in one scenario, "respect" is something that is earned by virtue of what you do - doing good works, sharing great knowledge, or just being alive and surviving. In the other scenario, "respect" is something that is demanded in order to maintain power. It is up to you to decide how to process these things. Personally, I am not comfortable with giving extra consideration to the desires of a person after they have demanded it through authority. To me this feels disingenuous and, in certain cases, outright dangerous. If you really love someone for who they are, it's pretty much impossible not to feel respect for the qualities you appreciate in them. But that is not the same as "respecting" the DEMANDS of a person you love. You may be living with your parents, but you are still an adult (or nearly one - in a couple years when your brain finishes fully developing, it'll probably make a big impact on how you process a lot of things; certainly did for me). You are allowed to sit down and have an adult conversation with your parents about expectations. You may have to compromise in certain areas, since you do need to live under their roof, but compromise is as much a part of being a functional adult as anything else. The main takeaway is this: you are allowed to critically evaluate the demands of authority figures, including your parents. You are allowed to determine, on your own, whether something that is being asked of you is reasonable or not. This is basic self-protection and it is an inherent right. Take care of yourself.

[@Opal-gs6rk]

Dear Dr. Bialik: thank you for your thoughtful commentary. I, too, am trying to maintain that line in the sand. Moreover, I appreciate your suggestion for the app. I will give it a try

[@NelSpringrose]

Stephen Fry has really interesting views on swearing and language. Would highly reccomend as further watching.

[@iteachmy3]

I love this! I too try really hard to never curse, but yes, it sometimes sneaks out. Glad I'm not alone, and neither are you.

[@annapalacio3513]

I couldn't agree with you more Mayim! I don't like to curse but I only do if I am mad or upset however for the most part I don't curse the majority of the time. People should use non vulgar words and to also respect others etc. by not cursing. Good points Mayim! I consider myself generation X however it's not acceptable to curse in public. I have made my own mistakes too with cursing, however, for the most part I don't like to curse!

[@elizabethd2468]

I love this!!! We don’t curse because there are better ways to express yourself. I feel like cursing is so overused these days and personally the amount I hear out and about to, especially when I am with my kids. I don’t want my children hearing those words. Especially since I have a child with speech delay who will spontaneously find a word to repeat.

[@Artechiza]

Everyone in my country should watch this video 😂 Greetings from Chile ✌🏻

[@leekitten]

You should write books on the types of topics that you cover regularly on your channel. I absolutely love the content you keep bringing out and have to say i agree with you everytime. I have been a big fan of you since your days on Blossom and love the person you have become and are still yet to be. Thank you for being you Mayim x

[@kaychareon1886]

I curse when it counts. People take heed bc I seldom do it.

[@eclecticmillennial4225]

Kay Chareon I'm the same way. Regardless of how often it may be used in media when people hear swears from people who seldom cus they say "Oh, wow. They almost never swear. They must really mean it."

[@tifKh]

Same.

[@melanies.6139]

The world needs more parents setting the right example as you do. Cursing less is a bad habit I need to work on. My dad never cursed and my mom rarely did- I certainly did not curse in front of them. Thanks for reminding me I need to work on this.

[@SpiralBreeze]

Didn't they just do a study that said people who curse more actually have more varied vocabulary? I definitely curse more when talking about my autoimmune. I'm 33, I still don't curse in front of my parents.

[@c.eb.1216]

No. Predictably, the people who had a larger vocabulary in general knew more swear words, but they weren't asked how often they actually used them. That doesn't seem very conclusive to me. Another study tried to link frequency of swearing with IQ and found no correlation, neither positive nor negative. Here's a fairly balanced article on it: sites.psu.edu/siowfa16/2016/10/18/does-being-a-pottymouth-mean-youre-dumber/

[@sandrapride1046]

I told my girls that the words you use show people how smart you are and how good your vocabulary is. I love hearing my daughter tell my grandchildren the same thing. This works for proper grammar as well as curse words.

[@ChyarasKiss]

The more we make words Taboo, the more people like to use them. As long as they are being used in the appropriate context I am all for cursing.

[@SynthApprentice]

Same here.

[@MoScoTob]

Loved you since Blossom! I remember wanting your confidence as a kid . . . and a friend named Six!

[@TomBelknapRoc]

Speaking as the North American Blasphemy Champion (Men's Heavyweight), I find nothing old fashioned about your rules. I'm also a parent and struggle mightily with not swearing around my kid, because however comfortable I am with "rough" language, I _feel_ it's inappropriateness when it comes out of my son's mouth. Like you, we try to laugh about it and show that language is important, but it's not a sign of a "failing character" or anything that extreme. To me, what we're really teaching our kids is a kind of modal language, which adjusts to the audience. There are many such examples, not all concerned with vulgarity. Technical writing, for example, teaches us that there are "high-tech", "low-tech" and "layman" audiences to which we need to speak in slightly different vocabularies. When speaking to the engineers at your company, you're free to speak in all tech, because those are "high-tech" or high knowledge audiences. However, when speaking to the CEO, he's "low-tech," because while we may hope he knows what his company sells, he's not expected to know every nook and cranny of the code. Appropriateness is kind of the modal language of vulgarity, where an audience deserving of special respect does not hear vulgarity and more-familiar and casual audiences hear the vulgarity. Examples of special respect audiences include your elder family members, possibly people at your job, customers, public safety officials and members of the clergy. I list them not because you couldn't have thought of them on your own, but to highlight that these really are special cases that need to be treated differently, irrespective of the mode of your speech. It is not, in fact, about vulgarity at all. Seen within this lens, you can understand why a comic actor like yourself or a naughty blogger like myself are OK with cursing in a comedy skit, but less OK with the POTUS speaking and acting in such vulgar ways: the office of the POTUS and the constituents he serves deserve a higher plane of language. He can f*bomb all he likes when he's away from the podium. But you would certainly not expect a cop to ask "what the fuck do you want?" These people occupy (in the case of Trump, feloniously) special positions of respect that require that both they AND you mind the vulgarity.

[@MayimBialik]

This is so eloquent. Thank you!!

[@TomBelknapRoc]

You are too kind. I'm honored you commented back!

[@xzonia1]

You expressed this so perfectly! This is how I feel about this issue too.

[@kaileyschronicles3497]

Love this video!! Sounds like you're a great mom :)

[@tashamoore9828]

A wonderful outlook on it!!!! I'm going through a hard time becoming an Interpreter for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing, because my teachers say- "if a Deaf person curses, you curse. Don't bleep it out." But now I can say- "But wouldn't it be better to broaden our lingiustic approach to swearing to do our best to accuratly convey the persons meaning as well as intent?" Thank you!

[@persephone_6152]

What I wouldn't give to hear the non bleeped out version of the intro! There's nothing quite like a well timed swear to add a bit of drama to a conversation but pick your audience and check your intentions. Language is fun and weird.

[@robinculp8037]

I just love this on so many levels. Too many individuals commonly disagree with my dislike of cursing around my tiny towns because, the most common excuse, "They're going to hear it either way, so what's the big deal?" It's such a comfort to know I'm not alone in this mindset. 💖

[@benjiskyler7836]

"I'm too old for this..." STUFF! He said STUFF!

[@WestparkRugrats]

Mayim, I completely agree! I hold my kids to the same value. Thank you for sharing.

[@Robothut]

I think Intention of meaning is more important than the words spoken. If some one say's "I Love You" but says it like "F You" the hurt is there and the meaning is there. I do not know that there are any curse words by them self. Sounds we make as Americans that might be curse words in another language or the other way around. No I think it comes down to the intention that person speaking gives too the words they are saying. Having said that. I think your probably right Mayim. Love your vid's.

[@sueanndeeble7851]

THANK YOU!! I could listen to you all day, and find your point of view, your humour, etc.. soo similar to my own I feel like if we ever met, we would be great friends. You however have a much better way of putting things than I do. I am so grateful for you and for these videos. xoxo

[@Belly.Magazine]

That was so #$%&'N well put!! Great vid ;)

[@hellkatkitty]

love the vid and am toats feeling ya. i have a chronic illness that comes with chronic pain, so sometimes my only relief is cursing the disease, the world, the person that can't drive, etc. studies show swearing helps with pain in very short bursts. so, i don't swear around people that don't like it, but it's luxurious to me. :)

[@lindseyw1983]

My boyfriend needs to watch this...he is the king of cursing.

[@jessicaantoinette5076]

Finally, I finally don't feel alone in this. My son is 13 years old and I try really really hard not to cuss in front of him, I do slip up once in awhile but I come back with a sorry or I will change the word up. When I change the word and we talk about cussing he gives me a hard eye roll, followed up with the long "Mooom, I know". Either way, I will never be okay with him cursing at me so why would I do that to him? I do feel like i'm a lone ranger with other parents but I stand my ground and say, we just express our feelings with other words. Call it old school, call me lame or uncool, either way I don't mind because I want my son to grow up with respect for others and I feel you are correct with the downfall of our future, once respect is gone what will our future look like? Thank you for posting issues that have a real impact and honestly are refreshing ! Cheers !

[@JustNeedaBeerandPark]

Im actually going to cut back on cursing myself.......

[@lyucky1]

I agree! Less so for cursing, but mainly because I don't have kids #never - and feel I curse the appropriate amount, which is to say, pretty infrequently, never on social media, and never in a professional setting - rarely everywhere else. Where I see the loosening of standards being more detrimental is spelling. When major newspapers and magazines say things like "he burst threw the door" ..... I just die a little inside. I think it's all part of the same fight for standards. Love your channel!

[@shanellewarner6873]

Mayim I'm in love with your channel and I agree with you on cursing . So to me when people curse it downgrades your vocabulary . I think as a culture we have lost the importance of vocabulary .

[@hollyriver22171]

I agree, though I recently read about some study apparently showing that people who curse frequently are actually smarter? I don't know what to believe anymore 😂

[@c.eb.1216]

Here's a pretty balanced overview of it: sites.psu.edu/siowfa16/2016/10/18/does-being-a-pottymouth-mean-youre-dumber/

[@YosemiteBunston]

Sounds like the dude in the link to the article is just trying find ways to valudate cursing as a valuabley Right to do so with discrediting by crediting its articles & testings as he she or he see's fit, "to me".... (?^?)>

[@rkbush27]

I swear more than I should but I agree with you 100%. We pick short cuts instead of listening and communicating with each other. I hate terms like 24/7, and always ask for clarification when someone uses the term with me. Instead of addressing why we are upset we swear and walk away without dealing with an issue that might be a simple misunderstanding. Swearing is a quick, cowardly war of not communicating or listening.