Why I'm Not a Woman (featuring old pictures and art) 💅🏼👔🏈

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Artists in video (I tried my best to do the order of appearance! If an artist did not supply a link, I credited with a name. If you think I missed you or someone please let me know!!! Email [e-mail])
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Insta: @jaxk_blue
Michaela
“Girl” art:
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Ash
Kai Twitter: Kai2971
Daimerly IG: diamonddrawss
Rem Twitter: PixielArt
Jemma IG: the_doodle_dragon
Amy-Lee FB: amyleenyx
Simon IG: plant_5o
Luc DA: floramy
Kukui
Jordan
IG: rvryhg
Tallulah
Lola IG: lolamarie.doodles
Toni
Brennan IG: halt726_artstuff
Max IG: themaximusmonster
Kody IG: kodyavery.art
Alex YT: TheBlackAdder42
Cassie IG: still_in_the_making
Sydney IG: blluurredlines
Taya IG: hey_watch_me_grow
Julia IG: juliamakesvideos
Alex IG: entityofnobody
Noir
Claire IG: blacksummer_colouring
Mae IG: maemakesdoodles
Suzy IG: walrus_boondoggle
IG: pervert_co
Sakeri IG: sakeri.graphics
Jess
Skye
IG: vaclavness
Skriblz IG: skriblz_skrblz
Kenzie IG: somanywaystoskechbook
Grace
Grace
Katarine IG: katarineinis
Damien
Jess IG: jessfaithwallace
Justyna IG: justyna_the_rainbow_ballerina
Val IG: shadesoflife628
Shade IG: arctic_animation177
Michaela IG: mi.sunka
Anna IG: thinking_outside_da_box
Andi DA: captainkingbog
Tamara IG: scorpions_is_my_mind
Emery
Matthew IG: matty.p.studios
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[@HeyThere005]

Ahhhh, this was sure something! While it's not always 100% comfy to remember, I also have a fond place in my heart for side ponytail Ash :) How do you experiment with appearance? Also, please share an embarrassing fashion phase or dorky hairstyle you sported in your past to make me feel better. Thank you XP

[@ZeldaRoseSongbook]

Ash, thank you for being a voice for those nonbinaries who need it. I'm struggling to be more open with my own nonbinary nature; seeing you openly discuss your gender journey is inspiring!

[@HeyThere005]

Nakomis Brislin *sending love* 💙💙💙

[@ZeldaRoseSongbook]

@@HeyThere005 *sending love and happiness* 💛💜🖤😁

[@Weath3rreport]

Usually I play with how my hair looks, aswell as clothing,(I've totally been stealing clothes from people) and since i have short hair it makes it pretty easy for me to look like anybody😀

[@chai9302]

i had an emo hair style even tho i was not emo i had hair to shoulders and then i had hair in front of my face im so embarrassed looking back on my hair it was just ugh

[@MewWolf5]

You still had the side ponytail when I first started watching your videos.

[@yukinofairytail7137]

same ☺️

[@jenniferchristian8115]

Same!!

[@heythere6629]

i joined this ?f a n d o m? like 1 week ago

[@carlygee8866]

me too!

[@haileyjohnson9759]

Same♥️♥️

[@kyz0o]

“This girl is badass” Don’t you mean badAsh?

[@HeyThere005]

KeelynAD BAH! 😆

[@abigailboer2631]

lol

[@peridotasadeadbritishmonar7924]

Hello Hamiltrash 😄

[@Korns.Overthinking]

I get it 😏

[@kyz0o]

ImFromThePlanetPluto Hello! 💕😄

[@kayleespears7732]

I’m a female and I’ve always been one. I never understood what it felt like to not love who I am. My cousin is transgender and I wanted to understand him better. When I started watching you Ash you helped me understand him more! Thank you!

[@leahphilby5397]

Kaylee Spears you could say you are cis female

[@nerdyhamster3452]

Ash is not the common transgender person. Watch more people such as Kalvin Garrah or ty turner

[@lysmith3454]

If you're going to watch any trans KZbinrs, I wouldn't go for Kalvin. Go look at JammieDodger, he's a pretty chill dude with the same energy as Ash.

[@vermillion6805]

wh how do you know this person is a transtrender

[@ravenclawthestral3964]

{} get a life. Stop trying to invalidate others gender expressions and feelings.

[@rowanthehuman4403]

Ahh yes the three genders: Nail polish, button-up shirt, and football.

[@dvision4203]

I like the joke, but you can give off any vibe you want regardless of gender! ❤️

[@Sam-ic6cu]

My school dance is tomorrow (I’m female) And the theme is Dress your Best so I am going In a suit and tie BREAK THE GENDER RULES

[@sansgirlfriend]

Great!! 🤟❤️❤️

[@trinitylivingston1286]

You go girl! ❤❤

[@hermiesrokmysox]

That’s awesome, I’ve always really loved traditionally male fashion. It’s so flattering!

[@Sam-ic6cu]

Jillian L. I know right

[@kaylathomasson9619]

I'm nonbinary and mostly wore dress pants instead of dresses for those occasions!

[@likeMindpower]

I'd say your hair is "ash" blonde (insert finger guns here)

[@aWERFRGT6545BGFG]

I say ash brown

[@ameloc8356]

MissesKitty I agree

[@LifesGood22]

Dark Ash Blonde same as mine

[@ashlaughs790]

My hair is Ash blonde 1: My hair is Ash Blonde 2: Ash blonde is lighter

[@jude8067]

Mousy brown- I have the same color

[@pachoncita]

I'm bi, I'm married to a guy, I love gothic clothes and guys clothes. Sometimes I look super girly, and sometimes I look like a dude with boos lol. I'm so glad my husband loves all of me

[@hlpark]

I love that you said to "draw you as a girl" and still used gender neutral terms for almost every drawing

[@null3638]

Ash’s hair in this video is so cute. Ash is cute in general, but I’m digging this hair on them! I loved the “why I’m not a boy” video, so I’m so excited about this one.

[@Olivia-qz2tu]

10:35 you’re an.... Ashtronaut......

[@HeyThere005]

Bluebutterman ‘eeeeeeeyyyyy!!!

[@pixxi_]

I'm dead! 😂

[@savannahnolan1716]

Ash Hardell heyy I’m your biggest fan xxxx

[@HannahLeeKidder]

I remember ponytail/colorful sunglasses/ukulele/fake mustache baby Ash like it was yEsTeRdAy. You're so precious ilysm

[@RubberDuckKid]

I'm loving all the "you can dress as whatever" vibes you always give. I'm nonbinary (fem aligned) and I dress pretty femininity. Sometimes I feel weird-ish about that because sometimes it feels like anyone nonbinary at all has to be 100% androgynous, so that you for the positive reinforcement!

[@Special-mg5kh]

Ace of Cats tbh I really don’t understand this at all. If you are non-binary doesn’t that mean you don’t want to be identified as exclusively male or female. How can your opinion of what your gender is change overnight and day to day. I don’t even understand what an agendered person would be able to wear that would make them feel comfortable. I can understand not feeling like a male and feeling like a female, and vice versa, but I don’t understand changing genders everyday. You don’t have to change your gender or identify as something different to put on different clothes. just dress however you want to??? Not trying to be rude, seriously just trying to understand where you’re coming from.

[@MercurialMoon]

@@Special-mg5kh 1. non-binary isn't just agender. It's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't strictly woman or man. Some of them have no gender but a lot of them do have one, it's just not woman or man, or both at the same time. 2. gender identity and gender expression are two different things. Non-binary people can look feminine or masculine and that doesn't make them less non-binary. Like girls can wear boy clothes and vice versa but that doesn't mean they'd identify themselves as the opposite gender. Hope that makes sense.

[@savannahparker7961]

This is such a positive channel. I’m not trans or non binary at all but you’re so positive x

[@lee_likes_bees]

I agree, they always cheer me up.

[@jsbpdrama8456]

Same here, I'm not even apart of the LGBT+ community at all (besides supporting obviously) but Ash is just such a chill person, I could watch them all day!

[@amaliacollins5691]

Plus their message is so universal: be yourself, because who you are is valid. The things Ash teaches us about gender can be applied to so many other facets of life. That identities don't always fit cleanly into boxes, that it's okay to play around with your identity to figure it out. That it IS okay to fit cleanly into a box if that's what feels best for you. I could go on.

[@Levi-rl1yi]

With all due respect, but if you're trying to educate yourself on trans issues, please seek out a channel that's based on medical evidence and facts rather than this. I'm all for people being themselves, but this doesn't represent the actual transgender community in the slightest. Transgender literally means; when a person identifies with a different gender than their assigned sex. Medically, only 2 genders and sexes (unless you count intersex) are recognised aka none of the god knows how many tumblr genders. As a transgender man who's been diagnosed with dysphoria and has been through the majority of his transition, I'd simply like you to know that this does not mirror what trans is to 99% of the transgender community and I think it's important to keep that in mind ; ) Everything Ash is talking about has no medical or scientific evidence to show for it.

[@jsbpdrama8456]

Levi - I completely agree with you and have done a lot of my own research. I just like the atmosphere of their channel. 😊💕

[@PmpknHead]

I have drawn myself in the final stages of my transition. 🏳️‍⚧️ It made me so happy seeing an image of me with top surgery scars and short hair. I haven’t come out to my mom and I’m planning on doing it soon, since I want to start an official transition.

[@insidiousmischka]

Have you transitioned or grown out of this phase?

[@starsong9711]

I'm just now starting to express who I truly am. I've never liked my chest so I've finally started looking for ways to bind and it makes me more comftorble in my own skin, I'm not in a very accepting family so I can't get an actual binder. I've also asked my friends to refer to me as they/them and as Alex. I've been more comftorble with myself. It took me forever to come out to myself as non-binary/genderfluid, and then took me longer to ask my friends to refer to me with they/then pronouns and with a more gender nuteral name. I've been happier with mt self ever since, and I'm so luck to have such accepting friends and a teacher around me, wich from what I know is bi so yay.

[@youaregood9aj73]

ayy my fellow genderfluid peep. Hi!! I also have a very unaccepting family as well! I have wanted to wear a binder too bc I never liked my chest. Of course, my mother dislikes anyone under the trans umbrella so I couldn't get one. I told all of my friends to call my by my chosen gender neutral name which is Ro and I use all pronouns so they change on a day to day basis. I like to wear a bracelet to represent each set of pronouns and the great part is, my mother doesn't know what it means lol. pink= she/her green= they/them Blue=he/him. You are not alone on this journey and you have so many people out there to support you! hope you are stayin safe and healthy out there! -Ro

[@starsong9711]

@@youaregood9aj73 I’m glad you found a way to express yourself! You’re really sweet, I do apologize cause I’m not gender fluid an I have no idea why I put that I am >< hopefully one day you can get a binder, my step brother gave me his old one.

[@youaregood9aj73]

@@starsong9711 Yea its been rough but I found a way :p Awe thanks. I believe you should treat everyone with kindness and respect because you never know what someone is going through and one act of kindness could brighten someones day! :D in this world, we are all just figuring ourselves out. I am so happy that you found the strength to be who you truly are. Darn imma probably just save up to get myself a binder lol But until then i've just been wearing lots of layers. Do ya have any tips on how to bind without a binder perhaps? :)

[@starsong9711]

@@youaregood9aj73 something I did was take one sports bra put it on normally then take another one and put in on backwards, it helped a bit. I seen you can also make a binder out of an old pair of leggings. You can find videos on it!!

[@youaregood9aj73]

@@starsong9711 Oh my goodness those are great tips! Thank you so much!

[@nkelly5851]

Your editing is absolutely amazing as usual

[@HeyThere005]

Lydia Kelly oh I love that name and the reasoning for it!!

[@lightaflamethrower8573]

Casper is a cool name, and a friendly ghost!

[@sleepyaugust2182]

I like that name i just hope no one calls you casper the ghost...

[@strawberrycassette]

Casper is an awesome name :) it's my middle came (but with a K)

[@lenaemfs5347]

💜 and Cas is a nickname for a genderless angel! (On TV show supernatural)

[@noahgentili1433]

This vid: why I'm not a woman Me: because you just aren't. It just ain't you (edit: OH MY GAAAAWD ASH LIKED MY COMMENT!!!) (another edit: thx for all the likes)

[@unitedpundit7023]

panic at.the.shasha she’s a girl.

[@noahgentili1433]

@@unitedpundit7023 you know nobody asked you to be such a jerk. They are whatever they want to be. So f off and leave them alone

[@unitedpundit7023]

panic at.the.shasha so if I was 30 and I wanted to be 12 could I be. Then I could go out with 12 years olds and argue with the police and say that I’m 12 and not 30. Plus no one asked you to comment that shit in the first place

[@noahgentili1433]

@@unitedpundit7023 age and gender/pronouns are different

[@kittokattxx]

@@unitedpundit7023 comparing pedophilia to being transgender... you sound like a fun person to be around.

[@brandysims8575]

When I look at old pictures of myslef I just imagine my old self as a different person. It really helps me alot for some reason

[@silverquill101]

My brain automatically tried to gender you when I first saw you and it just came up blank so you're doing good

[@randompanperson8061]

Sounded like a girl, looked like a guy gave off the vibes of a non-bi!

[@briannalopes-amorim4583]

{} I hate people like you

[@emperortamarinfan]

{} you realize being both transgender and non-binary are completely scientifically proven, right??

[@dazthespaz69]

{} Ha, I'm sorry let me stop laughing. You are one pathetic loser.

[@dazthespaz69]

{} Actually honey, it is. You just don't understand basic knowledge. Don't worry, we will get you help. And non-binary is a thing, it means that you have no gender identity. Thank you for reading my rant of the day.😁

[@theorosef]

if you asked people to "draw you as nonbinary", i'd expect that a lot of people would just draw you as you currently are! interesting, but probably not super productive, haha

[@laterkater4213]

I love how many artists drew different types of girls, including cis and trans girls! They were all beautiful! ❤️

[@whitsolo1736]

I have a friend with your hair color. She calls it "squirrel"... as if squirrel is a color 🤣

[@RihannaIsInMyHeart]

Many Germans call this colour street-tyke-blonde :D

[@CoRLex-jh5vx]

Its totally squirrel tho your friend is a genius

[@emmakrumm6399]

Hungarian has a word for non brownary, It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes a specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. What a lenguage.

[@spegnagmaglorious3590]

"If hair is a spectrum I'm non-blondary" 👏👏👏👏

[@miamikyu]

this is amazing ash, it's great that you felt comfortable enough to share this on KZbin. we're all behind you xx

[@unitedpundit7023]

me_llamo_ mia I’m not.

[@miamikyu]

@@unitedpundit7023 ok fairs

[@abigailboer2631]

@@unitedpundit7023 why not

[@NikiPhilippart]

This doesn't have anything to do with the video (which was awesome) but I thought I'd mention that there is a non-binary person on Big Brother Canada which I thought was awesome since there is so little representation of non-gender confirming people in mainstream media!

[@HeyThere005]

Niki - oooooh I want to watch! What season???

[@NikiPhilippart]

@@HeyThere005 Season 7, it's airing right now :) Started last week.

[@natatellla]

I love how you gave lots of them little personalities! Just makes it so much more fun to watch and get intertwined to each “girl”

[@AP-pw2nk]

Ash:“Do I have blonde or brown hair i don’t know” Me: SAME LIKE WHAT COLOR IS IT!

[@alyssaconstable402]

sameeee some people say its blonde some people say it's brown. some people even say it's red. we have RAINBOW hair

[@emmakrumm6399]

Same hair colour over here, and this is what helps me: Hungarian has a proper word for non brownary. It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes this specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. Love that lenguage.

[@Christine_990]

I'm a lady, i express as a lady, hell I wish I could have better lady hair n makeup n slightly bigger chestbumps. I was born a lady n never had to question it. I think I'm lucky in some ways, to not struggle with identity & social pressure.. But I love watching your videos & I like seeing you happy & I love seeing the community & the art.. Idk. I'm just rambling thoughts I think. Love the video as always.

[@mimiwinkelman7623]

Me too

[@HeyThere005]

Lady Vertical you go lady!!!!! 💕💕💕

[@Christine_990]

@@HeyThere005 thank you Ash xoxo lots of love to you & Grace xox

[@natparlane9488]

Me too!!! I love seeing (and being) supportive cis people who are just amazing also!!!

[@acriticnamedpanem1141]

Saaaaaammmeeee

[@shayne_has_landed2511]

I think Ash’s hair is châtain, or “dark blond” when translated to English (I feel like French class is leaving an impactful change in my vocabulary...)

[@moncielvariable]

As a native French speaker, yes, "châtain".

[@cartoonminty560]

I'm going to learn French next year.

[@shayne_has_landed2511]

It’s a TON of fun

[@user-ve4cf2dn6n]

I had really long hair that went down to the back of my knees, and 3 week ago I decided to bite the bullet and cut it all of to a medium bob. And yes I donated it to charity to make weaves ☺️

[@jeanz638]

"There is no real way to look like a woman" Love yourself! you're so freakin' beautiful everyone! You got this.

[@hallwnby]

“It feels good... not to hide anymore” *smiles* ASHHH

[@thevoid8393]

The funny thing to me is my name is Grace and I have dysphoria like really bad and only one of my friends knows. (that friend is great)(10/10 person) but every time Ash says Grace i think someone is talking to me. i thought that was kinda funny.

[@HeyThere005]

Grace Null I feel the same way when people say my old name. I go on like high alert and am like, “WHAT WHO WHY WOULD SAY THAT....oh.”

[@sadisticsweet3140]

There's a girl in my class that has the same name as me and the teacher put us next to each other... Yay....

[@thevoid8393]

@@sadisticsweet3140 heck there are so many graces at my school. you never know who is talking to who. we all just have to wait for a last name.

[@shanies6477]

i feel like i’m the only straight and cis person watching ash’s videos. the main reason i do is because i genuinely like they’re personality. they’re so fun and bubbly. they also teach and inform me about gender and sexuality 💘💘

[@Radien]

What I get from those photos is that even when you were confused and uneasy and perhaps not entirely aware of your dysphoria, you still looked like you were a riot to be around!! ♥️

[@RaeDole]

I think that you have light brown hair

[@AliceDiableaux]

It's definitely dark blonde

[@alexanderhaynes8558]

Oh god-

[@joannamarierogue]

I agree.

[@freyjasvansdottir9904]

Yeah their hair is level 5 which is light brown as opposed to level 6 which is dark blond.

[@ncskitty]

My hair is about the same shade and I've always called it blonde (it used to be lighter when I was a kid)

[@kyliedroid]

Your hair looks to be a mix of level 5/6 which is literally lightest brown/darkest blonde. So... Both are correct! Haha!

[@mr.lookalike8666]

omg I jumped when I saw that pic with u in the purple dress.. Lepidopterophobia. Im afraid of butterflies XD

[@aimcomlah]

So you better-fly when you see a butterfly.

[@mr.lookalike8666]

@@aimcomlah Yes I should XD

[@randompanperson8061]

Oh bless your wholesome soul.

[@kerokeroppii]

honestly, same

[@stephaniejohnson2445]

I'm just getting into figuring myself out, and I really love the separation or gender identity and gender expression. it feels really nice to know I can be a girl and be more masculine presenting 💛💛

[@mothsterling8204]

“They must be gender queer because of the FLEG” midwestern accent gang ❤️

[@angairbender]

I have a question Ash. I really hope you read this!! Because you are pronoun indifferent, are there any situations where you feel misgendered? Great vid btw!

[@HeyThere005]

A W I will probably talk about this in a video soon, it’s a great question :)

[@angairbender]

Ash Hardell awesome! Curious because I’m not sure if I should identify as NB when I also don’t mind being called she. Just wanted to hear your take on it! Thanks for being so cool and open!!

[@sleepyaugust2182]

@@angairbender i would just do whatever you want so if you feel comfortable as female then identify as female and if you are uncomfortable then your probably non binary.

[@evag-s5177]

​@@angairbender I don't know about Ash, but I'm pronoun indifferent too and I don't feel misgendered when someone says "she," but I do when someone says "girl," "ma'am," "sister," "daughter," etc. As far as I'm concerned, being nonbinary is about not identifying strictly as male or female, not about what pronouns I identify with.

[@LeafyBoy155]

@@evag-s5177 oh my gosh EXACT SAME for me. I go by any pronouns, but I HATE it when someone calls me "girl", "daughter", etc. (all of your examples)

[@aWERFRGT6545BGFG]

But let me say that being feminine, wearing dresses, liking pink DOES and NEVER will determine if you're female or not As nonbinary but leaning only slightly to female. I hate being feminine..but I have a lot of friends that are girls that hate being feminine but they still say they are female...soo. Theirs no such thing as looking like a boy/girl. Ive worn neutral clothing since 5 and always tomboy clothes..but felt weird with being seen as male...or being male..

[@soda_fairy]

Incorrect there is such thing as looking male or female in the society we live in HOWEVER there's not hard lines on where you want to express yourself there

[@isi4556]

"🎶 I like this drawing and I feel like this drawing and I think this drawing is me🎶" love this😁 oh, and i'd like to thank you, ash, for your videos ( I love your videos😅). I really feel like you understand me/ my current situation. Thank you!😺

[@aliceangel3623]

i cut my hair like yours because it looks so good

[@tictachikes6156]

11:45 Ash comes out again!! Non-blondary/questioning 😂😂😂

[@emmae3219]

i love how supportive ash is of all of the artist. They always appreciate every single piece. so wholesome. so kind.

[@yuvalne]

Seeing you talking right next to your old photos make me so happy, because you look much happier and satisfied with yourself today than in in the photos. I'm so happy you found your good place.

[@pam1256]

That hair pun made me laugh so hard oh my god yes

[@aviezerscop401]

Guys, Ash isn't a woman... Ash is FABULOUS.

[@kyngdee3603]

Wrong ash is a women yet still fabulous

[@susanwilliams2392]

@@kyngdee3603 Sorry but Ash isn't even one woman, let alone multiple women. Why are you even here if you refuse to learn?

[@kyngdee3603]

@@susanwilliams2392 she is one woman

[@kyngdee3603]

Genetically speaking she is a female

[@kyngdee3603]

Her reproductive system produces eggs right

[@lildramatic4760]

blond(e) ash! as someone who has had their hair commented on by strangers for 30 years i appreciate how jarring it can be. i think i streak it pink to control what they see. i also use my hair to hide other things-wonky eye etc. i like mine long but due to the weird way my forehead looks in a regular ponytail i wore/wear A LOT of side ponys. also pigtails made on either side of the base of my skull with swoopy bangs i’m glad you found a happy hair place. you have hair that’s lovely long but being happy with it is even lovelier.

[@jennawelch9272]

I can not get over how amazing this is honestly. For you to be so comfortable in your own body. You're not just nonconforming to piss off the world it's just who you are... a beautiful person inside and out. Watching your videos has helped me a lot as I've started transitioning myself and I just can't thank you enough for being so amazing.

[@heta5190]

Coming from the land of blondes(Finland) I'd say you're definitely a brunette!

[@CaptainAce2187]

I subscribed and have been following since the side-ponytail and Beer & A Chat days. Great video, Ash!

[@e.s.lavall9219]

1) I really liked the point "They can't come out of the photo and make you look like that." I've only recently started being able to look at old pictures of me and remember how much fun I was having, intead of going "This GIRL isn't me, put it away!" 2) I have the same hair colour, I call it brown.

[@keybladewizard49]

The flower pictur at 10:05 seems to be expressing a fanfiction trope called Hanahaki, which is where flowers grow in the chest and on the body in response to unrequited love or unresolved feelings.

[@LaurenSchwartzbard]

Watching this video made me feel very empowered to just dress how I want to so thank you!

[@Breeeeee]

I love love love how you brought up Miss. Honey as if everyone has watched Matilda

[@uhoh9225]

Yh usually when I see old photos I feel that ‘um that isn’t me, and I knew it at the time but didn’t know how to express it in a way that made me comfortable’ feeling

[@ashtynstormes1734]

Seeing photos of pre-figured-out Ash makes me so sad because I can see the sadness in their eyes.

[@flootzavut30daychallenge]

I haven't watched an Ash video in ages and I'm watching this and going "why have you not watched more of these videos". Which is a long winded way of saying I'm so glad KZbin suggested one of your videos. I don't think I ever saw your with purple hair but you're super cute in pictures! That girl in the red dress looks amazing. That's fantastic art!

[@joannaarlene561]

I love all of your videos, thank you for uploading. you make my day when i watch your videos.

[@Meeko4eve39]

Honestly? Even just completely out of context and with no explanation or reasoning behind it for why you chose that haircut... That haircut just genuinely looks so good on you. I really like it a lot.

[@bean669]

Ash is such an inspiration to me. They have helped me figure out who i am and accept that i don’t need to label myself to feel comfy; i don’t need to explain myself to anyone and my happiness should be my main goal. a lot of the time i forget these things but Ash, along with their beautiful wife Grace have guided me along this journey. So thank you!!! 💖💖

[@lain2551]

I love you Ash

[@fakepastorbaconchickeneati8965]

No homo tho

[@llawlietis2thic2vent48]

I love you so much youyou taught me it's ok to be MASC or fem no matter your gender

[@mackiive4107]

panda trooper ew

[@sodapopbuchanan2835]

I've been following you since your side pony days, and Ash, you're the reason why i chopped off all my hair, watching your video about your hair really inspired me! Thank you for sharing your story and continuing to grow with us.

[@danifeller4578]

This video was really good for me. I am afab female, but I’m not ‘girly’. I cut my hair short, so a lot of people I know thought that it made me ‘not a girl’ it is something that I’m really insecure about. Hearing someone else say that I can have short hair, only wear jeans and hoodies, never wear makeup and still be a girl is really nice.

[@iGoBySinclair]

Dude... Love you're work & am CRAZY honored that you used Obsession

[@keegan9935]

I'm also nonbinary, and I used to have hair that was pretty long, below the shoulders. I decided a while ago to cut my hair much shorter, and it was the best decision I have ever made regarding my appearance (that and wearing a tie -- 10/10 would recommend)

[@austinmummey1465]

Lol no such thing as "non-binary

[@rachaelburt8330]

I went to the same school as Ash in Jr High, and High School. I wouldn't of called us friends, but we didn't hate each other. When we saw each other I would say that Ash was happy, and had it all together. Ash was in clubs, and smart, also had a lot of friends. True friends in my mind not the fakey friends that were a complete norm at our school. After listening to the videos that get posted is how you may think you know something about someone but you truly do not. You never know what someone is struggling with. It is a real eye opener. And I am soooo proud of Ash now. Be yourself. Love life, and Love fiercely.

[@emb63]

I've been watching since the side pony and honestly it makes me so happy to see how far you have come and how happy you are now

[@isabellagonzalez4622]

Ahhh I’m so happy that you used this song bc I love Sinclair, btw such a great vid ily💜

[@cordeliaistheone]

I realised I was non-binary in 2016 because of you and your book and I've come out to a lot of people this year and everyone's been really lovely. Thank you so much for all you've done for me and so many people you're such a wonderful human being 💜

[@AvoryFaucette]

I'm amused at how your smile in those photos is so often "I'M FINE EVERYTHING IS FINE OMG WHAT IS HAPPENING SOMEONE GET ME OUT OF HERE."

[@evag-s5177]

Watching you begin to express yourself authentically encouraged me to do the same. I remember watching the videos where you were contemplating cutting your hair and put a wig on, and then experimenting with my own hair and eventually cutting it. You have been a great inspiration to me, so thank you. Also, your hair is brown. Light brown, but brown.

[@natlock6206]

I love your videos❤️ also I can totally relate my hair literally never comes out of its ponytail

[@jamsammich6961]

Hi Ash! I just wanted to thank you. I remember adding you on TrevorSpace! Though I'm not trans or non-binary you helped me come out to my family as gay. So thank you, you've helped me grow into the person I am today. ❤

[@lunawolfheart336]

i was looking through my old Facebook photos when i had long hair i felt dysphoric but also it was fun to look back and see how far ive come in finding what i belived im my sexuality and gender

[@jayflight]

My first step was shaving half my head (I had longgg blue hair), and it felt really good. Once I got around go shaving all around the sides and cutting down the top, it felt really great! I fell way more in tune with myself now♡♡

[@Canemikat]

I'm a cis lady but lately i've been feeling the more masculine look lately. Button up shirts all the way kind of thing. Bow ties or necklaces. I was invited to a wedding and instead of a dress I decided to wear a blazer and pants and saddle shoes. I'm heteroflexible, and I only say this because its sort of expected that women express femininely to attract masculine men, but I don't feel that compulsion. I like men and I like expressing myself masculinely.

[@jadepaesk8369]

TheWonderGinger I feel the same, I think I’m more comfortable expressing myself masculinely but I’m still not brave enough to show it. If I was invited to a wedding I would probably miss it cause I’m not comfortable wearing dresses and I don’t have the courage to show up wearing a blazer :(

[@PrincessofKeys]

Honestly I never even thought of this before until now, never really think of the expectations society have for women...it makes me think

[@C_And_P]

Same. Phew. I'm not alone. I like men and I like expressing myself more masculine (although I am feminine sometimes) as well.

[@Teajay21]

Yep I'm experimenting with this too. I still have my more feminine go to's but I've started buying men's button ups in fun prints. Next step is to get a skinny tie.

[@eemiaa10]

The binary of hair commentary made me LOL!! 🤣🤣

[@blushface]

Your short hair fits you perfectly. I understand connecting to your hair as a visual identifier to hold to. authentic expression is one of the most important steps to truly living, imo.

[@BNF98]

I was not expecting the different end song!! I started singing the old one before it’d even started and then I had a v comical pause mid-word

[@leximontes6433]

7:15 made me giggle lol! I just wanted to say that I appreciate everything you do for the LGBTQ+ community. I am a supporter, not a part of it, but I think it is good for people to feel confident in there own unique body and mind! Love your videos!

[@dragonslayer1787]

Ash, where do you get the get the music in your intros is it a playlist or anything?

[@nelsalyy]

i just wanna say that i greatly appreciate your videos. i don’t have any of the same struggles but they’re so informative and they boost my mood TONS. you’re just so kind and calm...i wish you lots of success and happiness ❤️

[@annebutnotreally2209]

This makes me feel so much better about myself looking at all the art, I don't dress in a very girly manner and half of my interests are what people would refer to as masculine 'video games, playing in the woods, boxing etc.' (not to mention for a short while I had short hair, i'm hoping to get my hair cut soon) but looking at all of this, makes me feel okay.

[@unfortunatedisgrace246]

gosh i miss ash :(

[@Ruby-yb8kk]

Same

[@bionicbladderboo]

You are a wonderful human Ash. Thank you for sharing your journey, you’ve been such a beacon of light for the nonbinary and lgbtq community as a whole. Much love and solidarity to you 💛

[@jenjenjen2668]

You can tell before she was uncomfortable by the way she dressed and looked. But now you can tell she dresses comfortably the way she would want to be

[@ArielleDomantay]

I still remember watching your videos with your intro “Hey There *picture of you with glasses and side ponytail”

[@faith0676]

8:43 Love that “Hip leather things?!” -Ash

[@asmaali26]

As a person that respects LGBTQ and doesn't know a lot about it.. ..i just honestly love his personality..OVERALL

[@angelrose8340]

Ash uses they/them pronouns but your heart is in the right place

[@avam6080]

Angel Rose they are pronoun indifferent i though..?

[@jacquelineavery]

Skillshare is such a smart sponsorship for this channel. Every time I watch you I think about learning to edit, and then BAM here's a website where you can learn that!

[@katelynnstverak5666]

I’m a completely straight woman, and I was very conservative, that you’re born a girl and you stay a girl and marry a man. UNTIL, my mom married a man, and his son is having a lot of self identity problems. I think he’s scared of being judged. We would support him no matter what btw. But my step sister came out as Bi this past summer and I seriously credit my open mindedness to people like you. It opened up my mind and saw that not all people are the same and people in the LGBTQ+ are some of the most down to earth, AMAZING people ever. So thank you. ❤️

[@liampje9384]

You are so inspirational for so lots of teenagers❤️

[@btambo04]

hey ash, I'mma be honest- I thought you were ftm trans, not even non binary and I just began watching your videos. Anyway, I am also non binary! I haven't come out to anyone but friends, and I was wondering if you have any advice to kinda look like it more. my parents don't know so I still have my birth gender clothes, is there a way to use them to make myself kinda look less feminine(probably spelt wrong)? also do you have any specific pronouns you would like to go by?(I know you probably wont see this but anyone can help me with this) I go by max and they/them pronouns :) ~Max ♡

[@MarkusAldawn]

I think Ash said they're comfortable with whatever pronouns. If your parents see you as a girl, you probably have more wiggle room with clothing than if they saw you as a guy, because women's clothes are strange and non-standard for a guy, according to Le Bullshit Book of Gender Norms. I've got a friend who buys men's shirts just because they're a better selection for her, so maybe you can take comfort in a little bit of androgyneity from masculine clothing, which tends to be less gender-coded, while not having to make it super public? If that's not your thing, maybe some options common to guys and gals alike? Jeans are obviously different, but idk how much the difference is or how much you're trying to lean into androgyneity. I'm not an expert, and YMMV depending on how much control you have over buying your clothes and whether the selection available makes you feel comfortable, but even two hours and a changing room in a clothes shop can suss out what makes you the most comfy, and for free, as well. You could get a second opinion (in case you've lost your first! *fingerguns*). And if you see a piece of clothing you really like when shopping with parents that you think works really well for you and it happens to be a man's, they'll probably not care about its assigned gender too much? Might be a warning sign if they do, but idk. I'd like the record to reflect I'm still not an expert and if you burn down the mall using my advice, I accept no responsibility. Also Max is a kickass name! It can be short for Maxine (very feminine), or Maximilius (literally the most masculine name on the planet), or just be Max.

[@MarkusAldawn]

Forgot to say you're valid!

[@btambo04]

@@MarkusAldawn I just chose max because of the fact its gender neutral, but thank you for the advice! Its very much appreciated. I have a school dance in June so I have to wear a dress but it's not extremely like girly so I'm slowly stepping out of the closet I guess lmao

[@HitTheReplayButton]

So cool to look at everyone’s art and hear what you have to say, Ash! I hope you and everyone knows that there’s no need to explain “why” or “why” not you are a certain identity to anyone; you’re valid no matter what others might think or say. No one should be obligated to explain themselves if they are not comfortable or happy doing so!

[@film9491]

That's so cool you are paying the people that sent fan art! All of it was great!