Why I Never Wanted To Get Married *the truth about me*

[@Ekundert1300]

Holy shit to call yourself a loser…..that shocked me because every time I watch a video with you two is that you are both so funny, cool, bundled of energy, pretty/handsome and in my eyes a wonderful representation of a healthy couple ❤

[@joey_dice4508]

this is honestly one of the huge negatives of social media in general. its constantly planting unreal expectations in our heads. im glad jack took the time to make this video. i think most people know and understand this already, but its easy to forget and get lost in all the content. its funny too because ill be honest and say at first i didnt like these guys. but for some reason i always came back to watch, and this video confi rms why i like them. it shows a genuine attempt to help people, and people are drawn to authenticity. thats why i love them.

[@ruthtoner3936]

It’s a totally different life showing your life on video and the real life in between videos acting and real life, did we learn nothing from Robin Williams death, A clown hiding his tears from the world, Jack and anyone if you need help ask for it

[@josephdahdouh2725]

Just because you are a healthy couple doesn't make you be or not be a loser. Also, he did discuss how there are moments not on camera were they act aggressively at each other, and that isn't always displayed on camera for you to assume that they're a healthy couple is negligent of this fact.

[@josephdahdouh2725]

Idk who this dude in the video is, but I don't think pity or judgment(Shock) is a way to respond. I don't believe what he said was really shocking coming from someone who watches a lot of random strangers talk about their perspectives on their lives and how they think of themselves to be at different instances throughout life. It's very true that many people think of themselves as losers, and how can one not be when the expectations of society deem them as being perfect. If you keep telling me that I am perfect, but I feel like I am not, I will sense disappointment and feel that I am a loser. So, that's why I feel like saying I thought you were this, and now you're telling me that you're that... Shocking... to me feels like a judgment that can affect people who read it in either a negative or positive. Having that negative part in makes it to me unworthy of use. But, you probably didn't mean any harm, so good day. I am just explaining why it's inappropriate for society to mention judgments referring to someone's state out of view of half a life(i.e. through video) when you aren't really experiencing what they're experiencing in reality because you're misconception of them having a healthy relationship may be influential in more ways bad than good. Many couples on youtube end up caring more about the content they upload than they stick together to keep audiences entertained about the "healthy couple goals" that they portray to get cash, but end up breaking up as their relationship is built on the economy, capitalist system that KZbin promotes and that isn't a perfect way to build a life with someone. If this "couple goals" shit such as I am in America to live the "American dream" or this "fairy tail" isn't just ended then people will keep engaging in things that are bound to non exist. Basically, you are digging their own pit and downfall by socially upvoting a certain trend in behavior. Idk if you get what I am saying. But you as a commenter may have a great influence on not just the KZbinrs but also people who read your comment if they relate with the KZbinrs. Nothing in this world is perfect or identical to what is portrayed in any KZbin video, and assuming things about KZbinrs is more likely to be false than true. Nothing in this world should ever be shocking. Everything is possible. A representation of things is in more cases than not an end to many others. If I felt like you and everyone else felt like you that this couple was perfectly perfect, then many will fall delusional and break up with their current partners as it doesn't fall under the standards of perfect couple representation that you discussed. Just because one is pretty or handsome(as if they're each particularly sex-associated, and not repeated synonyms) doesn't make the couple healthy... It's like saying just because I own a lot of assets I have all the money in the world when really assets are sometimes hard to sell, and despite having them, I may be in dept and may have been jobless and without an income for a few months now. The standards or stereotypes of being a perfect couple thus lyes to be subjective in nature, and shouldn't be declared as one and only as you did would mean that an ugly couple isn't a perfect one. The person, I think named Jack also said that humans are all different and that things that work with him don't work with others. So, again the definition of losers is subjective, and can't be defined by one as the other perceives it. It is futile to stereotype, act shocked, or promote a single form of behavior as greatness because that means all couples must be one way, that losers or its sensation is shameful, and that all behaviors that relate to one's mental state in a perfect couple should remain perfect as if therapists aren't needed to maintain a perfect relationship. It does, therapy helps a relationship stay peaceful and one reason it does so is to remove the impression of feeling like a loser, but also maintain the fact that such a feeling is natural even in healthy relationships. That doesn't mean that sensing yourself as a loser directly infers that the relationship is unhealthy. To me the relationship seems standard, healthy or not is not my decision to make, but definitely better than some others. Him feeling like a loser relates to me, but that doesn't mean I will have no chance at a healthy relationship. Your correlation or cause effect is indirect, but pretty clear of you think about it deeply. Also, the reason I wanted to write all this was to practice my wpm speed on my device just cause It's been a while since I wrote this much anywhere really.

[@conorwilliam2558]

Not sure how you have not learned this yet maybe you are young but not everything is at it seems off camera as it is on

[@xiphumbra]

I'm a 40 year old guy, and for you to be as young as you are, you're wise beyond your years. Currently at a spot in my life where I feel a big change is needed, and you speaking about moving to be who you're meant to be really hit me. It actually made me tear up because I that's the current situation I'm in. It's risky to move from everything I've ever known, but I really feel it's worth it.

[@musickf]

As someone who did just want you're thinking of at the same age you are, it's worth it. I moved 12 hours from friends and family to begin the next chapter in my life. I'm a completely different person than I was even 3 years ago because of my experiences up here. I couldn't imagine living back in my home town, now. I love it here, even if the drivers are the worse in the country lol.

[@1GLDNLDY]

Go for it! Those tears are from the soul who knows.. I remember being 40, (25 + yrs ago) and you are capable of more than you know.

[@Maria-dn5df]

​@@GH-nl7dv Why does every dumb person have to miss the point of everything and ruin good things

[@jennicalyn3542]

Watching this again now, I saw your comment and was wondering if it happened? Did you do it? I hope so and I hope it brought new light to your life. I know it hasn't been a year and some stuff like this can take a long time but I hope you are doing well. 😊

[@antoineperron5091]

You guys are the best representation of a perfect couple because you're not perfect. I love seeing that chaotic but caring dynamic you share🥰 Perfection!

[@Saiyankev01]

Perfection is an opinion and ro me... perfection includes flaws, the right flaws that work well with how others and yourself react to those flaws, the right attitude can help a flaw create the better version of you you never thought could be. That's perfection.

[@joenysfraticelli9485]

Is really about true acceptance, is about letting the other be and working thru they're own struggles without putting pressure on the other but at the same time being truly there when the other 100% is just a 5% no judgment just being there. Is honesty is being free to be yourself in the shared space and feel safe about it. Is actually about real and pure love

[@AdmiralKarelia]

There's a phrase I heard some time ago that applies well here. "You don't have to be flawless to be perfect."

[@BostonBuzz]

Yea, but her constant fake laughing was really starting to get annoying.......

[@k7l3rworkman97]

This really hit home. I’m 30, been “broken” for three years after a 6 year relationship. I’ve been unemployed and living with my folks and have been working on myself as much as I can. At this point I’m well on my way to being independent again. Recently discovered your vids and haven’t been able to get enough of them. This one gave me some hope. Thank you Very much for this one, Jack.

[@Duenaysoe]

I’m going through that right now !

[@Gordep131tC4]

That's where I'm at. Thanks for the positivity ❤

[@ningthouningthoujam3373]

Dude don't overthink about it. It was never meant to be. I was in love with my college best friend for 4 years. We really like each other but didn't confess our feelings she was the one that got away. Now I was about to propose to my classmate she said a big no. Life doesn't go exactly as planned . Just be happy and yiu will attract the one that was meant to be with you

[@grimrecords19]

Me and my girl always joke about how similar we are to you guys. This just confirms it on a whole other level. Went from not trusting anyone to ready to sign my life over to the woman who makes me see my own worth everyday and loves me unconditionally. Appreciate the video, from all the Jack’s out there. ❤

[@michaelumbarger8738]

I’m going to take your girl

[@0v3rt0pp13]

@@michaelumbarger8738wtf

[@DarcyTheManstop]

@@michaelumbarger8738no you ain’t

[@ezyduzit423]

@@michaelumbarger8738me 3

[@sakura7310]

bro?@@michaelumbarger8738

[@ChromeReaper]

It takes alot of courage to do what you did here. You're a boss, Jack. Thank you for sharing this with us.

[@Jumpcutjack_YT]

From one Jack to another, thanks for opening up like this with us ❤️

[@meghanandjack]

Of course jack! :)

[@jamiegoupil]

@@meghanandjack thank you jack you made me feel better and you and Meghan are great ways to show respect and I also have to ignore the stress in my mental health because I want to show others om better than that

[@oxelss]

same

[@raymondjack]

My last name is does that still count? Edit: thanks to depression I don’t care about anything. I wish for the day someone comes into my life that makes me feel accepted and cared for like y’all have. The looks and ways y’all enjoy each others presence is the best present of all. P.s. can’t wait to see your family grow, then again who doesn’t say that to newly weds?

[@jookie4207]

Us Jacks need to stick together

[@emilyellerbe5363]

If you’re wondering if this video was meant for anyone specific, it absolutely 💯 was meant for me. Felt like you were talking straight into my soul. The moment you said “to anyone who thinks to themself “I need to change something in my life” and “I have to change something” it’s because you do” I instantly started bawling uncontrollably. I needed to hear that. The way you described yourself, is exactly like me it’s scary. I’ve been having relationship problems as a 25 year old unmarried woman and I’ve been “taking time for myself” and it feels like it’s just making things worse. You’re absolutely right and I thank you for this video. From one human to another Jack, you may have just turned my life around. “I really needed this” is an understatement. Thank you

[@dreamingofnorthernlights]

❤

[@DatNygma]

THIS particular comment made me cry. Wen u said he said "I have to change something, it's because u do". I felt it immediately. I KNOW I need to change, but its hard. Grew up VERY ruff n its difficult to dig down that deep to uncover wat u don't want to deal with. I don't know how I need to do it but I NEED to make the change. Diet, mindset, finances, etc. I need some work n some help. Hopefully this helps motivate me.

[@emilyellerbe5363]

@@DatNygma It means a lot to know my comment had an impact on someone. I wrote this comment 4 months ago… I still don’t exercise, I still procrastinate, I still struggle with depression and anxiety, I still eat fast food. But you know what? I DO stay busy working on things I’m passionate about. I DO spend more time with family than I used to. I DO stick up for myself a little more than before. I DO invest in friendships that I put on the back burner before. I DO eat less amounts of junk. I’m still not doing those things as well as I would like, but I’m doing them. I do what I can every day. Don’t be hard on yourself, because it IS hard. I didn’t even realize the extent of the changes I’ve made until I started replying to this comment. It’s easy to feel like your not making progress as time goes by, but looking back to 4 months ago, I absolutely am. Take it one step at a time. Make changes in small ways, because that will make it easier to make big changes in the long run. It’s worth it. I know I’ll get better, but I’m done putting unrealistic expectations on myself to change overnight. Do what you can, and trust the process. You’re going to be alright ❤️

[@j.esqo.official]

@@DatNygmaone step at a time my man. Pick the easiest one. Just start it. Form the habits. Then start a new one. Every time you see improvement in one it’ll get easier to keep going. Trust me in that, the first is the hardest.

[@luiscaballa3075]

I hope this gets viewed by enough of people, because this is not only some splendid relationship advice but also like a therapy session for those who feel unhappy about themselves. Thank you Jack !

[@shocksmtb7896]

I appreciate your channel so much, honestly I’m struggling a lot with depression and watching you guys laugh it out and be happy makes me see the brighter side of things. Keep posting content about mental health. It’s something none of us should be afraid to talk about. It’s our strongest self and we need to embrace it

[@rose.926]

You don't know how perfect the timing of this is, or how much this means to me. I've been going through a lot, and this helps me think of things in a new way.

[@alixiamorales]

same, thanks for the relatable comment

[@armani213]

Stay strong yall

[@BladeTheSuperior]

My issue in life is I still need that last push of change before I think the universe will allow me to meet the person I was ment to be with. I know I need to up the days I work and take leas time off. My issue is I take to much me time and then when I work hard I don't work hard enough days. My issue is opposite Jack's but this opened my eyes up. Thank God I'm still in my 20s and can change and meet my own meghan.

[@Nuze17]

This video just popped into my recommended the day after my court wedding. Your words echo a lot of our feelings as people and mirror a lot of our relationships. You're very brave for opening up like this dude and I hope your journey continues to go well. Much love

[@SirMattomaton]

"To become the version of yourself you want to be. It helps to get away from all those that know who you are currently." There is wisdom in those words Jack. I have certainly experienced this a few times in my life. It's absolutely true... But wow, I definitely *needed* to hear that truth being put into words like that. Thank you Jack. God bless you and Meghan in all the days of your lives, and beyond.

[@hfortenberry]

A 55-year old female here and I want to say that is fantastic advice! I'm like Meghan in that I need that break and it recharges me, probably because we're introverts and you start going downhill with too much time down because you're an extrovert and need interaction...just a guess. But everything you said is spot on. We are all so different and need different things. It's critical to ask your spouse how they feel and let them know how you feel and accept what each other says and respect it. And it definitely takes time to change but absolutely can be done and you will for sure be doing it your ENTIRE LIFE! I am changing as much now as I was in my twenties and it's fun!! Finally, you're spot on to say that each person knows deep down what they need to do. Look within. Meditation helps. Silence, slowing down, getting quiet and listening to your self is critical. It helps to go out into nature. Good luck everyone. Life is good and it can be good for you ALL! Love and Hugs!

[@caitlinholloway2627]

As a 33 yr old single mom stuck in a less than minimum wagè job and battling a plethura of mental and physical health issues, and recently lost a child, i understand, and am so proud of both of yall. You both have a great mindset, and yalls relationship may not be perfect, but its so healthy 💜. Thank you for sharing your struggle. I desperately just want a chance career wise, and for everything else im still so very lost. But it always makes me so happy to see yalls content and see an example of one of the healthiest relationships ive had the pleasure of witnessing.

[@Tea23145]

I wish you the best, remember your strength. You are enough.

[@caitlinholloway2627]

@@Tea23145 thank you, truly 💜 it always helps to hear this

[@juanalzate-aguilera9234]

Let me send you a hug. I hope things get better. You are a great human being.

[@caitlinholloway2627]

@@juanalzate-aguilera9234 Thank you so much, sending hugs back. I'm trying to be, feeling like i must have done something horrible though.

[@JoaquimPires646]

Olá. Li a tua história e fiquei muito comovido.

[@j.esqo.official]

Jack, this video hit me deep my man. I’ve also felt like I was alone in needing to get things done to recharge. I took a break from my passion and kept the monotonous job, repetitive routine, and day to day for a break. I was burnt out working 90 hour weeks to launch my businesses. So I’ve been on a break for 7 weeks and I’m like, I feel worse. One night back in my passion and I’m through the moon. I left my family to pursue my life and was lucky enough to have a woman who loved me enough to follow. Thank you for this. I needed to hear someone else say 99% of that video.

[@hannah17931]

My husband and I watch your shorts often. You two are hilarious and honestly I am glad you've posted this. Mental health and physical health is so important. I have to take charge on my mental health personally. Thank you for your openess. As online creators sometimes people expect you guys to act like robots but you're human too! Addressing that a change needs to be made is the first step in the right direction. Love to you both😊

[@Mattyjp28]

The message at the end is exactly what I needed to hear right now. It's a shame when certain people can't grow with you and you feel you have to leave them behind

[@Nemesystemic]

My dude, you're wholesome af. You earned yourself a subscribe. Keep having fun together, keep struggling together, keep finding new ways to love and fall in love with each other.

[@meganlouiseoregan397]

❤

[@berlinermami]

i just want to say: i am so proud of you!

[@spluv1]

Bro, it's so corny to say that i needed this, and that i felt like the video was speaking to me directly, bht that is exactly what this was. Im in a weird transition point in my life, and your final thoughts really resonated with me. Im so thankful that you spoke of how you felt like a loser, and that that only changed recently with taking your physical health into consideration. Thank you for the encouragement dude. Thank you and best wishes for your life :)

[@jocelynroque37]

“To become the version of yourself you want to be, it helps to get away from the people who know who you are currently.” I really needed to hear this. Thank you 😊

[@straightwhitemale5753]

I scrolled on to this comment the EXACT moment he said that. While I was reading this comment, he was saying it. Lol

[@mehhal1353]

What I got from the video is that Every human want to better himself but different people use different ways to do it and that's okay 👍

[@meghanandjack]

Exactly!

[@TheL3GiTGamer225]

Hearing you say taking breaks makes you feel worse really opened my eyes for myself and how I operate. I have always felt very stressed when I take a break or time off and I find that when I can find small wins it makes me feel more rested and confident I can take on the challenges in my life. I felt like a weirdo for not being able to enjoy rest.

[@abc.animal5143]

Your whole thing about improvement and change really hit me because it’s accurate. I have autism, ADHD, social anxiety, and a host of other things. I’ve had a lot of difficulty with making friends and in social situations. I was and still am sometimes bullied and treated in an almost condescending way. Also when you say “I have no friends”, everyone suddenly starts to care for the moment until the moment is over. I mean, I have friends but I’m just shy. But my disabilities don’t exactly make me the victim of my story (and I’d hate to use my disabilities as a crutch). I’d often make inappropriate jokes out of anxiety, in an attempt to make people laugh to hide my feelings. And I’d get too attached to people who showed me kindness and understanding (because I didn’t get a lot of that from folks at school, and I felt like I needed that validation because of my own lack of self respect), and it would only lead to making people uncomfortable. I was emotional intense to say the least. Looking back on it now, I regret many things. But the worst thing is, they always lied about how they were really feeling. Almost all high schoolers are like this, I swear. How am I supposed to learn and change if you won’t tell me the truth? Oh, you don’t wanna “hurt my feelings”? The truth hurts less that a lie. F*** my feelings. If it’s causing problems, be honest so I can fix it. I was in a bad place for a while. It wasn’t until more recently that I’ve become more self aware about these things, and for a while I kinda just felt terrible for my past actions. But if those people can’t just get over it and accept that people can change, that’s on them. I’ve had a lot of so-called “character development”, and while I may still regret some things, I’m glad to have learned. And when you learn, you never really lose. “You win or you learn.” (got that quote from KZbinr “Sebscreen”) I’ve been able to be more social and pursue activities I enjoy more now (theatre and singing), and I have more self respect now.

[@KnowledgeSeeker008]

Thank you for sharing. Best of luck to you.

[@svenjaschmidt2183]

I feel you 100%

[@Sncex]

hey man, im as certain as i can be without a diagnosis, but i think i have both autism, adhd and anxiety, im proper struggling atm with motivation and just... constantly feeling exhausted and only want to do my interests which is obviously going on my computer and doing anything and everything i can to keep myself occupied and focused, obviously theres the mental side of things and childhood stuff i still need to workout and unpack but rn i need to just be able to cope with the day, be able to do my daily tasks, its like all my senses are seeking for me to do something interesting that i like, ie gaming, reading manga or youtube and anime, i struggle to get myself to do tasks, i struggle to even stay sat downstairs watching tv with my gf, its like the entire time i have to force myself to stay there, otherwise ill just feel worse and worse as time goes on, i start to lose all my focus and struggle really bad just to look at or interact, i feel overwhelmed alot of the time, but i wouldnt say its in an obvious way such as i act out and stuff, its like i know overwhelmingly that im feeling this way and or experiencing this in the moment, but its like i try so hard to keep a relaxed face, or to look like im "okay and normal" , its kinda like trying to be competent and just completely lagging behind everyone .... and ill be honest, a few years back, most of my interests started to feel annoying to me, although i craved and still do, to do my hobbies, its like whilst im there in the room im comfortable and can relax, but i dont get the same drive for my hobbies anymore, but, i did get some earbuds and polarised glasses, and theyre helping quite abit and help me stay in those situations easier/longer, but still not as effective as i wish it could be lol

[@rileyandwinfree]

This video came out the day I got home from my honeymoon, and I am exactly this way. the timing could not have been more perfect. I appreciate you sharing such personal things with us, bc you certainly didn't have too. it has inspired me to strive to be better. we relate on so many levels its uncanny, seriously ty Jack. much love to you and your wife. this isn't the first time you have inspired me, but the first time I'm thanking you. so, thank you

[@rileywiebe3512]

Name twin

[@breab.5863]

I'm honestly in the process of going through that same thing and it helps so much to actually hear someone vocalize what's going on in my head.

[@rubiesofgold7698]

Just found this channel and one thing I noticed right away is your great personality. You remind me of the guys I grew up with in the 80s (I’m old). Your sense of humor is really valuable for anyone listening. Praying for you and your wife. We’re made to work so don’t feel guilty about not wanting breaks. But that’s great of you for understanding your wife needs the breaks. 🙏

[@thecurrentmoment]

You're not old, you're just a bit okder than me and im only 102 years old

[@vivisimonvi]

I'm almost twice your age but never took it to that next level with someone who I supposed to share a life with. I watch this channel partly as a reminder of the things I miss and to experience that feeling of young love again through watching you and Meghan interacting together. I've caused this person so much pain and it's a constant reminder even years later that I'm somehow a failure and now probably past that point of perhaps having that fulfilling life. I was honestly just scared that so much could go wrong, that I would never be up to the challenge of being a good husband or a good father, or that I would never have a great career, or I just might say the wrong things down the line that you don't come back from (if that makes sense). I wanted so many things to be "just right" before jumping in but I never reached that point, even today. I don't have any real advice unfortunately (nor do I dare pretend to have answers) but just wanted to share a bit here. I will say that love, like this (that I see from your videos), is quite rare in this world.

[@CuddleBear0310]

This is wholesome I never wanted to get married but now I’m engaged. It’s hard to admit stuff like this so thank you for opening up

[@bootlesswhale1318]

Bro, you’re not only looking great, but you’re doing great things for yourself and those around you. Keep it up. Truly inspiring!

[@lesbianismark]

The last bit about moving away from people that know the current you, I FEEL this. I wasn't able to start healing and changing until I was away from my family. It's hard to figure out what they say when I tell them I'm not moving back. You're doing amazing, thank you for this video; it's vulnerable and insightful and greatly appreciated.

[@andremotivation6561]

Absolutely, sometimes people who know you don't want you to change because it makes them feel better about their current circumstances.

[@samuelkrinninger3060]

Man the amount of times I needed to see this video. It takes a real one to express this. Im glad to see you two are so happy.

[@soccerbabe13129]

I love how honest and vulnerable you are being. You two are both extraordinary people and I love you both. ❤

[@virginia.malone]

I'm in such a similar boat (genuinely never thinking I was going to get married until I met my fiance, searching for what's going to make me proud of myself, and a health journey.) This is so impactful and I appreciate your transparency. It can be hard feeling like I'm alone on my journey (despite all the amazing people in my life,) amd this reminds me I'm not the only one. The struggle is worth it

[@tohileka]

When you heal, you compel others to do the same naturally. Thank you for sharing this brother it has helped me during a time where shit is literally hitting the fan. You’re awesome Jack, keep pushing on ✊

[@just.my.two.cents.]

This was a tough topic to cover, and Jack did it very eloquently, and without bashing his wife. Seeing the vulnerable, open side is rarely something we see from the husband's perspective on here and I wish we'd see it more often. Hope to see more of this "real" side of you Jack. We'd love to hear more about the relationship struggles you experience and what tools you use to get through them together! Like how you get through the fights, the frustrating moments that not many speak about but all happen to. Thanks for being a light! Love you both.

[@sarahjanise1970]

Thank you for being vulnerable enough to speak out. Manny people really don't know the reality of life past social media, so thank you for taking the time and speaking your truth. May you continue to be blessed on your journey.

[@HP_140]

You are so awesome man! There aren’t many people who are so honest in their videos, but it’s great to see these kind of videos

[@idioticgabe]

this, this is why they re my favorite social media couple. honest in and out the canera and transparent about the flaws that everybody has. nobody has a perfect relationship and the building makes them stronger 😊

[@lol------______..._____---912]

Jack you are NOT a loser you are full of life, a kind soul with a big heart, caring, and genuine and I'm thanking God that you have such a sweet, tender hearted soul like Meghan! God bless you both! ❤🙏🫶

[@shadowtemple7426]

Thank you jack. I resonate with this a lot. I had a similar experience that I started running and lost a bunch of weight a couple years ago and it was the best change ever. Making a change for yourself is like opening up a portal into a new and surprising reality. Its the best.

[@jesse2535]

I think the best part of a good relationship is when you both bring out the best of each other, where one improves the other just by being them selves aournd, not forcing it. The reason why "opposites attract" is because most people admire on others what they wish they were but feel they can't, and love is admiration at a start, which develops in to passion, and self improvement. We seek fullfillment and a sense of completion on a partner, it is the human nature.

[@y2ksurvivor]

Well said.

[@lessismore8533]

It’s not that I don’t believe in that “opposites attract “ thing but I don’t think it always what creates couples. Sometimes similarities actually do that

[@jesse2535]

similarities makes you relateble to the individual but having counter or unsimilar characteristics that one admires on the other can be a great thing for both parties.@@lessismore8533

[@DonDough1]

My wife and I wanted to start a channel or something like yours. Just showing our true goofiness and comedic opinions. You inspire me, Jack. I feel like such a loser, but I won't stop trying to feel better. The "time on" portion really spoke to me. Congrats to you Jack for admitting this to us. ❤

[@TOPLEVEL1]

I thought this was a prank for 1 million subs

[@meghanandjack]

Oh god no.

[@christianbrown1873]

Thank God. You almost made me cry🤧

[@mabyonedayicanbehappy]

It's still misleading click bait

[@PANDANINJANIKORASU]

​@@mabyonedayicanbehappynot really he's explaining how he was.

[@TOPLEVEL1]

​@@meghanandjacktbh everything is falling apart everything is gonna be alright

[@timothytice9992]

I started following your videos because I felt the real people behind the acting, the REAL Jack, the REAL Meghan, and the REAL couple. Keep being you and keep doing the videos that make me laugh so much🙂🥰🤣

[@evighxd]

i see myself in you a lot jack, taking time off things makes me worse, i’m a very very lazy person, if i chill, i hurt myself mentally, i share the same issues as you, and seeing you speak out and help me understand myself in a way i couldn’t figure out myself, really helped today, thankyou jack, much love. ❤

[@mundanedanny]

I was with my spouse for 13 years before we decided to get married. We had a small service with our parents.... then a huge party with the family. It wasn't super fancy; it didn't break the bank and it was for all OUR right reasons. There is no one equation that we all must abide to in life... I'm glad you and Meghan chose your own path and that you're ultimately happiest together. Its super sweet you both are open with your fans, really wish you both continued success!

[@Nonea350]

I also had to move away from my family to find myself and that is now a piece of advice that I give to all of my friends! Thanks for reminding us that we are all human, Jack!

[@balsavor1]

Jack, you said what I need to hear. It spoke to a lot of us out here. Thank you so much for this. I cannot say how much it means. We all love you guys. Tell Meghan she's lucky to have you, and you sir, are very lucky to have her. Much love to both of you.

[@iiWoof]

You should be incredibly proud. The self-awareness here is empowering. The first step is seeing what’s wrong and building yourself in a way you can be happy ✌🏻

[@tay_hay]

Jack, you make some great points that I think we all need to explore. It took the death of my father to make me stop and think about some things. I started doing personality tests and realizing more who I am and found I have spent years trying to fix things about myself that were just unique aspects of my personality and that it doesn't mean I'm flawed and that I can use those unique things as a strength. I just stated my journey, but I can already tell its going to be good. Anyway, I'm glad you put this out on the internet and I'm glad you were so honest with everyone to see that its ok and that its just a part of our human condition and that not everyone needs to fit in a box.

[@rossdavis428]

I appreciate your courage in sharing your feelings on this topic, Jack; it is a side of you that I right enjoyed experiencing. Learning how to love yourself and then learning how to convert that love for yourself into the love for others what I understand that life is all about. Thank you for showing me and everyone else on these social media platforms what that love looks like with yourself and Meghan.

[@tbonek9936]

I'm 24 and I feel like I'm going through a similar journey. I have been into self-improvement both mental and physical. I also feel like a loser deep down, but I know that it starts with me for who I am and how I look at myself. I'm glad to hear this.

[@luisfelipe2325]

Thanks Jack, currently going through the ringer. This helped. Thanks for being true! Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. 🙏🏽

[@SizzlingVibe]

I appreciate you talking about how being productive can help you recharge. I’m totally someone who’s normal function is “chill” so for me, balance is doing MORE. If I don’t have anything to do for too long I can get really low and depressed and anxious, or fall back into bad habits.

[@estherschaak9961]

Wow reading also all these comments just makes me so proud of yall out there and makes me feel less alone in this process. Proud of yall much love we can do it!!!!

[@Joobie_Joobie]

Hey Jack, I’m 16 and have just recently been watching your videos in the past 2 weeks or so and I’ve loved you guys. I know I’m young but I’ve struggled in a lot of the same ways you have and it’s really encouraging to me that someone out there kind of knows what I feel and what I go through every day. I 100% relate to the “having time on” aspect to recharge. I was in a really poor mental state 2 years ago and I’ve had to learn to adapt on how to not let myself get to me, because for me, I’m my own worst enemy at times. Just recently I got a job over the summer. I’ve done more around the house. I’ve exercised way more than I ever have before. I just wanted to let you know that your Testimony really spoke to me because I’m a lot like you in many ways. I know I’m one of probably a couple thousand comments and I know that you posted this video a while ago. But I hope that you can read this and be encouraged that what you did was really really cool, and also kind of important for me as a person to realize that I’m not the only one. Thanks Jack.

[@cottenberriies2750]

I’m so proud of you for trying to figure yourself out! And I know so many Will appreciate you for coming out about this so that they know there are others who feel the same as them! We can’t wait till you figure more out about yourself and we’ll all be here while you do so!

[@charliejones6482]

I’m literally going through everything you just talked about and it is tough, but listening to talk has helped me realise what I need to do, and I really appreciate that you made this video who dies it might change my life thank you, Jack 💛

[@flaviobarros8305]

Am proud of You Jack, This is brave and courageous ... You just helped thousands...and Thank You for being a REAL content creator who care for whats been passed to the viewers

[@Phoenix_2019]

This is awesome. Most of us men find it hard to just be vulnerable to ourselves let alone to the public. It's against our nature. But it's necessary, with vulnerability comes humility. And that is when a man can truly become the man he's called to be. So good job Jack. I'm proud of you and keep it up. Y'all are a couple that I desire to one day have in my own life.

[@MJ-ji6mv]

♡

[@JuBenjiiiii]

You could have just left out "It's against our nature." and it would have been okay/amazing... xc The rest is really cool It's just that one tiny sentence that really ruins it for me. No it's not against the nature to feel and to open up towards others. It's against what society want's men to do but nature actually doesn't set any rules and doesn't make recommendations for that. Thanks for reading and have an amazing day! :)

[@theincrediblefella7984]

​@@JuBenjiiiiithe "against our nature" isn't wrong, though. There is no reason to leave out the truth.

[@JuBenjiiiii]

@@theincrediblefella7984 if it would be the truth I'd absolutely agree. But what makes you think "men feeling and showing emotion to themselfs and to others" is against nature? Where does nature state that? (sorry about that last sentence. I know it's not helpful for the argument and can't really be answered but I just loved the sound of that sentence too much to bring myself to not include it. You can just ignore it.)

[@gillianwilliam5688]

Hmm 😊

[@Dcmilan6]

I needed to hear this. I just started a full fledged job after multiple years of studying. I have just been doubting myself and worried even though i know my stuff. I am in my mid 20s and it still feels like uncharted territory. It was lovely hearing another voice in my head like this. Thank you for sharing your story and it did help me a bit.. Hoping for the best!

[@lucianoum1]

That video meant a lot to me and i appreciate a lot the honesty. So many couples on the internet share an image that everything is perfect to the finest details and that makes a lot of people question their relationships and their lives, just like me and my girlfriend. I admire the energy of you guys a lot and it means a lot to know that even you guys have problems sometimes and are still figuring stuff out, that really opened my eyes. That video felt like a conversation and also like a hug from a friend, thank you Jack you are awesome.

[@livingtoaster1358]

This actually brought tears in my eyes everything you were talking about is how I've always felt in my life and last night that feeling came up again and I want to say thank you Jack

[@mysticgames3743]

I didn't know how much I needed to hear that, everything about this video resonated with me and it is definitely time to make that change and stop feeling like shit about myself. thanks for sharing this and letting us know not all we see is perfect.

[@chrisfrandsen1772]

Jack... That was truly beautiful. You don't know how much I needed to hear that right now. Everything you said is stuff I know but hearing it from someone else and not myself is a huge help. I'm proud of you for doing what you need to for you. Good luck!!!

[@claudiobeachball]

Great video Jack! You did more and tried more things than I did at your age. You are NOT a loser. I will say this. Geographic fixes in and of themselves don’t change everything. I’ve been there myself and I know others who have. It’s like the saying, “Wherever you go, there you are.” It’s about what you do with the “fresh start” that has the potential to be life-changing. You and Meghan are fun to watch, keep killing it!

[@Vermillionx]

We are all just people trying to do our best in a world where it's far too easy to do our worst. Thanks for sharing that with us.

[@VintageCR]

the thing is, doing our worst isn't rewarding. in any way or shape possible. it never will be. doing our best or close to it is rewarding. to both yourself and the people around you.

[@Bennett-xo6iu]

Every one is different.. im 42 and I still don't want to be married or have kids.. I just love the life that I have to where I can go out and do what I want and when I want without question. Just like the freedom I guess.

[@Falconn000]

It was really nice to see this. I love how you openly approached mental well-being and how you emphasised that what might work for you might not work for someone else. It also takes a lot of courage doing so, especially "putting the mask down" acknowledging the fact that the relationship is not perfect, unlike what many people think. This limbo we call life is made of choices and we always forget that everyone is in the exact same place as we are, trying to figure it out. It's all about being vulnerable and humble with others and especially oneself. Taking the title and the first subject you brought up, my girlfriend just like you has never wanted to marry until she met me. I, on the other hand, am not a believer of marriage but I know for a fact that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Everyone has their point of views, their beliefs and it's a matter of respecting and talking through them, once more, with others and especially with oneself. If at some point I might not understand what is going on and feel "lost", that is absolutely fine. I just need to figure it out and I will do so by working on myself. Just like you mentioned, once one does that, everything starts changing. It is known for a fact and has been studied that our perception of the world changes with our life experiences, so let's change those experiences for better ones. We get what we give and only by truly believing in ourselves so will others believe in us. Much love Jack!

[@1castellp]

I will never hear her tell me how funny that movie was. I'll never hear her say how much she liked that restaurant I took her to last week. I'll never feel the torment of an unresolved argument. I will never know what it's like to be loved for who I am, rather than what I can give. I'll never have to worry about what to surprise her with for our anniversary. I'll never have to worry about the doctor telling me to prepare for my last moments with her. If a track record is proof of the future, then I'll never have to wonder what it's like to love or lose. Yet, why do I journey through life with an emotional void subjected to an eternal longing for something that never existed to begin with?

[@jordanstevens3672]

Praying for you. My you and your woman of your dreams continue to have many blessings to come 🙏🏾

[@meghanandjack]

Thank you so much!

[@Jayd3dAng3L]

I needed to here everything you said in this video. I struggle with this on a daily basis and hearing how you have been able to overcome everything gives me hope that there's light at the end of the tunnel.

[@decisiveliberty]

If you haven't viewed Jack's full video above, do so before reading this... LOTS of words of wisdom from Jack today. take notes. Here's ours... - Jack started out right, trying to find out who he was. - NO ONE is a loser, God NEVER creates junk and the devil can only destroy things about you by getting you to listen to him (Eve did, look what happened) - NEVER look for the right person for you, instead look for the person that is right for your imperfections... - every spouse will have flaws and until you walk on water, focus on YOUR flaws not those of your spouse (they will be encouraged and empowered to change themselves in the process) - be righteous, avoid self-righteousness. Being right is not the answer either - look for what works... - spend some time alone every day to reassess and assess your own actions and what to do next... - qualify the voices you are listening to, even those between your ears - look at the 'shell game' and not the 'shells' of each day... - action, ANY action, will start the process you need to undertake for a better you, better future... and for Jack as well as Meghan - YOU BOTH ROCK!!! Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your lives with us... Something that totally relates to you both, more so Jack but definitely you both... kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXrEhWuAoZetpqs

[@saivillaq]

Thank you for these words, That is a super positive breakdown of everything right that I need to hear🙏🏼

[@cryppi1510]

Nice takes! Though, I'd like to point out that one of your points can lead to dangerous thinking " - every spouse will have flaws and until you walk on water, focus on YOUR flaws not those of your spouse" You might've meant small flaws, but the word "flaws" also clumps in many dangerous behaviors like aggression, lots of yelling, controlling, abuse, etc., so we have to be careful with the word use because it can mislead people for future relationships or even be the reason someone justifies staying in their current unhealthy one Be aware of signs of abuse and manipulation. Sometimes you can't reach peace until you cut that toxic person out of your life. One of my greatest teachers in life was in a bad marriage for 20+ years and she said her life turned for much better when she respected herself and did what she knew what was best for her instead of waiting and asking for her husband to change the awful habits and flaws he had. There are red flags, keep them in mind. Abusive relationships are no joke! Prioritize your mental health and the mental health of your children above all else.

[@decisiveliberty]

@@cryppi1510 - though good points you are talking about a HUGE minority. No one said anything about abandoning wisdom - which is what your reply seems to be indicating. All the suggestions are all from the Bible, have you read it recently?

[@ox_AriRox_ox]

Thanks so much for this, Jack. I love seeing y'alls relationship, but I appreciate you opening up like this. I am going through a big change in my life, Everyone around me has been telling me to take breaks and slow down. But taking too long of a break stresses me out and the way to recharge for me is to keep on pursuing my goals. I am glad you understand. I wish you all the best in your journey,

[@jokerquinnhahaiwest2475]

Thank you for your incredible transparency. You're an absolute inspiration Jack. Much love to you and Meghan.❤

[@shaynahope4670]

I can relate a lot. Thank’s for sharing Jack, I really appreciate it. You guys are so funny, watching your videos make me so much happier. You saved my life, thank you so much.❤

[@Beckle5555]

Its not everyday that someone gets real with us, thank you Jack, it honestly hit home for me.

[@humblestrange5608]

Thank you for this. I've been doing horrible and trying to take mental health breaks to solve my unhappiness. But I just got a job working hard every day and I'm thriving, saving money and getting things done. We all diff

[@illprogrammer]

Omg so much powerful message here Jack. Me and my girlfriend watch you guys all the time and I have to say most of your videos are mirrors of me and my girlfriend but this hit so home for me today. Crazy thing is I was supposed to hear this today. So much I have been through from year of trauma and abuse and so on and always thinking I'm a loser too. When to go through so much and help everyone out to keep them afloat and so many years I have forgotten myself. My girlfriend is exactly like Megan where she needs her mental day or it makes things worse for her the rest of the week. Me I feel like it helps if I keep moving and trying to make some progress. I thank you for sharing this and putting your heart out there for all of us, because like me which I know there are others we feel like we are alone out here going through these things. We appreciate all your hard work and sacrifices you guys do for this channel for amazing content and life lessons to learn and grow. Man to man I needed this so much. Filled with tears of release. Sometimes we just got to completely change the atmosphere in life. Thank you so much Jack!!!😢😢😢 God bless you guys and thanks for virtual hugs you have sent to us all. Your The Real MVP!!!

[@Hi_im_Lee_Know]

Thank you for this, I've been in denial about needing to do stuff to recharge. It's nice to hear that mental recharge isn't always just relaxing, since I've been told to just relax/take a break a lot and it doesn't work. Thank you so much Jack, this means the world to me.

[@fizzyeditz5371]

man you are such a unique and amazing person. Physical fitness is all I do to the extent I feel i'm kind of the opposite of you Ive always ignored my mental health and don't know how to work on myself in that way, everyone always told me to work on myself before you work with and on other people and i wish i never ignored that it couldve saved me from making mistaked I appreciate your honesty and your content. Thank you for this video too I know I need to change and I know where to start thank you. keep going and stay consitent remeber to take breaks and eat right or you wont see results that will make you happy as bad as taking time feels.

[@meghanandjack]

I really appreciate that! Thank you

[@GR4FF1T1]

I'm going through a lot of things lately and I gotta say, when I saw your video, it made me cry. You give such amazing advice that I really think could help me in my current situation. Thank you so much for making your videos and sharing this inspiring video in particular. I'm sure none of us will let your advice go to waste. I wish you the best.

[@flowerofthecross]

Thanks for the wisdom and motivation. I’ve been putting off getting back into working out lately and this video was just the kickstart I needed. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re doing great ❤️

[@Rawrlene91]

Wow I needed this. I needed to know that you guys aren’t perfect together and just working through it like the rest of us. Also feel the same that I need to make a major change and have had trouble with that. Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏼

[@shiro8183]

Well, I'm not an English person, i'm not even married, or anything like that, but I understand your message and I felt really hard the meaning behind it. I'm currently at a crossroad of my life. The biggest ever so far. And knowing that other people struggle but stay strong to become a better version of themselves give me courage. Praise be to God I randomly found this channel, both of you are inspirational Thank you

[@Ragdollmaster333]

This is my fourth time watching this today. I'm struggling with wanting to move out of state and better myself. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@chadwallace777]

Jack I truly found this inspiring.

[@marsupial9]

You 2 GET each other. It's SO obvious. You are both very lucky to have each other. Be glad you found HER while you were young and that your whole live's ahead of yourselves...together

[@Harry-cb6pj]

Subscribed for how real this guy is. Thanks for the advice and experience.

[@jaimebaker9722]

As a 21 year old feeling like I will never figure things out, this gave me so much comfort and perspective. Thank you, truly.

[@therealghostgirl]

I say this all the time, she is genuinely the kindest person I’ve ever seen on this platform. ❤

[@UmbralKitten]

4:54-6:12 I wholeheartily agree with everything said here. Iike Jack said about the last 6 months, I've been doing a lot of introspection over the past 3 years since covid hit. I spent the entire lockdown figuring out who I was and where I wanted to be and come new year I made it my resolution to do something about it. I started losing weight and I'm no longer embarrassed to wear literally anything. I worked on bettering my dental hygiene and whitening my teeth and I'm no longer embarrassed to smile. I worked on conquering my phobia of needles and I can actually get my blood drawn now. I got my wisdom teeth removed after putting them off for so many years. And most of all, I started transitioning after denying it for a decade. I've never been happier and everyone around me can see it. I smile more, I'm comfortable in my own skin and I'm capable of loving myself. you can do it too if you just take that first step.

[@mialin851]

I just wanted to say y’all both lift up my day.

[@Gunmar86]

I needed to hear this! I saw this on my feed and had to click it. This really hit home for me and where I felt my gods had forsaken me and left me to my weakness I realized that I forsook myself. Thanks for posting this and talking about it because I needed more then anything to hear someone say that and the gods guided me here. Best of luck my guy and I hope for you two a long and fulfilling marriage.

[@ggmochie2615]

This is one more reason why I'll say: marriages are miracles. i already knew that there was something like this, just because of how much Jack treasures Meghan and is such an understanding person. He said before that he doesn't think that he could ever find someone like Meghan. Super sweet, but it implied something about how awful or unconfident Jack felt before he met her. Both of them found something really special in each other. I'm so happy for these people I've never met irl haha. idk if this could ever happen for me. I've never been good enough. Sometimes it feels like life just won't let me be me. Instead of people telling me to take time off like Jack, I feel like people want me to be this way or that way. I think I could have had great success in life if I never had to change myself to fit others' tunes, but I can't seem to get back on that track anymore. The sense of "I won't make it" or "no one would want that or approve of that" is just ingrained into me too strongly and I can't believe in myself. I (figuratively) burned myself up at an early age trying to support someone who threatened suicide, and all I got out of it was major depression (that person is much more stable now though). I can't find the motivation or build up the habits that would lead me to the path that I want for myself, that I would design for myself. Like Jack, if I am not doing anything, then it isn't good; I don't get anxious, but my life gets stagnant and my bad habits get way worse. If I never had this depression, then I could instead use my free time to pursue a life and career I'm passionate about. But I just don't have that in me anymore. I'm smart and I'm kind, but I can't seem to do anything significant for my own sake. btw, can we get a Jack's therapy session series? encore! xD also, "give me something to do, and I will figure out the easiest and laziest way to go about that."

[@rocco1969]

Dude….. that was so real & honest… Much RESPECT….

[@oliversmith2]

Jack you are awesome! I'm sure making this took a lot of courage, and a lot of people who are struggling will appreciate you making this. Don't forget to get Meghan's birthday present.

[@harperclarke4160]

Awww Jack, this is so inspiring ❤ I think a lot can relate to this, specially life just happens to be a downer at some point but good changes with good people give us hope. Like you. ❤