WHY I WENT SOBER | 4 years alcohol-free | benefits, tips & why it's the best decision I've ever made

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[@xCiaraLouisexx]

I spoke to my therapist about alcohol and she said alcohol is often a social lubricant but when you interact with people without alcohol it might be awkward at first but it will be more authentic to you. I’ve been sober nearly a month now and I don’t miss it as much as I thought! As you said my sleep has never been better ☺️

[@StephElswood]

Congratulations on 1 month! that’s amazing 🙏🏻

[@shandelchallice4598]

Thank you so much for this video! I am 114 days sober today and the list of benefits I've found is endless. I am so much better without alcohol! I literally sacrifice everything when I drink, and I gain everything when I'm sober. ❤so nice to know there's so many people out there who feel the same.

[@AndyMorrisArt]

You are inspiring. I just stopped 4 days ago and I still feel like crap. I look forward to one day having 4 years. Congratulations on your success!

[@StephElswood]

Keep going ! You’re doing amazing ❤️

[@NotAboveAnything]

Update?

[@AdrianaKupresak]

How do you feel now? You've just passed PAWS ahhh which is a nightmare but worth overcoming!

[@danilaroche1156]

It takes time. I know for me when I healed from childhood/adult trauma, I didn't desire alcohol as much. The closer I get to the Lord Jesus, the more peace & joy I feel. Don't give up. I'll pray for you! Promise.

[@CindyWisconsinGirl-mp1jm]

1.5 years sober & I can relate to all of the benefits - sleep, lower blood pressure, more vitality, more peace, better boundaries, and getting to know myself on a deeper level. Thanks for your honest sharing.

[@Mikey4808]

I'm 3 months sober today. So proud of myself. Feeling great. I was tired of always overdoing it every time I drank. I just didn't have a "stop" button as soon as I took that first sip. I had no self-control. So the solution was to cut alcohol out completely. It wasn't easy for the first few weeks, but it gets better as time goes on. I don't plan on touching alcohol ever again.

[@AdrianaKupresak]

I was exactly the same, there was no inbetween. Eight years sober yesterday and don't even think about a drink anymore. Keep going x

[@0nlyvan]

that was me!!! 0 self control and bad drinker i’m 2 months sober today😅

[@LuLuBeeBah]

Wish I had made these decisions at your age. I decided to stop in my 40's (didn't drink when I was pregnant in my 30's). Your clear skin and your lovely personality and confidence is an absolute advert for not drinking!

[@StephElswood]

Aw thank you so much ❤️glad to hear that you’ve made this decision for yourself too! Xxx

[@Rcs2018]

One of my colleagues is also sober, and every year during our company retreat we are the two not drinking. We have truly an awesome time with the group AND we are the only two getting up early the next day to hit the gym without a struggle. We love it! The sober community is great, I agree with you!

[@ItsjustMarc]

I just came across your video. Excellent for you!! I’ve been trying real hard this past year. I’ve had a few slip ups, but when I have a period of being sober, my life is awesome!! People, even old drinking buddies, like me a lot better when sober, because it’s nearly killed me a couple times and they knew I had a serious problem. I would never wish anyone being an alcoholic, it’s a living hell, even when sober. But we’re trying again, and it needs to take this time… I don’t have many more “lives” left with it.

[@StephElswood]

Hey Marc. Thanks so much for watching ❤️ sending you love and luck for your journey. I think your awareness of your issues with alcohol is a huge first step. Please keep us updated with how you get on! I have full faith that this will be the time you stick with it 🤞🏻 xxx

[@karam8990]

I’m really glad your video popped up on my feed today. I drank this past Saturday and have been feeling anxious and down from it for the past two days. I’ve been wanting to stop drinking for a while; I don’t drink everyday, but when I do drink I tend to binge which leaves me with horrible hangxiety and feeling ill. This has been the encouragement I need to start my journey again. Thank you for sharing 🤗❤️

[@lesleesoto1052]

I've never suffered from alcoholism, but I always knew it made me feel sluggish. 98% of the time when I drink I never get drunk, but regardless of whether I'm tipsy or wasted, I always circle back to three things. 1.) This wasn't worth the dehydration. 2.) This really doesn't taste that good. 3.) I'd rather have more control over myself and my wallet than do this again. Drinking makes me feel bloated. Sluggish. Dehydrated. Unmotivated. Inflamed. I have scoliosis and an injured hamstring, so any kind of inflammation is awful for my health. Aside from drinking on occasions, such as a new brewery opening up, I don't want to drink again. I like exploring this new community. I think it's time to get (mostly) sober. Thank you for this vid!

[@elijahdunmore7526]

HI STEPH CONGRATULATION ON STAYING SOBER FOR 4 YEARS STEPH I HAVE BEEN SOBER GOING ON 4 YEARS THIS 2024 I NEVER FELT BETTER THANKS FOR SHARING STEPH HAVE A GREAT 2024🙏🏾❤️

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much! Congratulations!!

[@susankilian9116]

Love this. I've just entered my 4th week of being sober. It is difficult at times, as I'v had a lot of stress. I would love the chill of the first beer because it chills me out, but it never ends there 😊 and my God, my hangovers are horrific 🤢 🤮 all day laid in bed. But now I have my energy back and coping with the stress. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Good luck everyone 💪 ❤

[@stephenmaher2265]

What a Great video and the message came out in such a positive manner! Thanks for all the tips. Love the matching S mug and beautiful necklace! Have a great evening🫶

[@JadeAshly]

I’ve been trying to be a fully sober person since 2018, and I haven’t managed to make it the full year since starting somewhere after new years and usually giving in sometime around this time of year. This video helped me refresh some of the reasons why I choose to stop. Thank you

[@StephElswood]

Good luck with your journey and I’m here if you have any questions xx

[@kevinandalicia8701]

Thanks for sharing this. I am alcohol free, but I don’t like what it can do to people, and I don’t like the message that we need the poison to celebrate, have fun, relax. So thank you very much. I especially like that you saw how it effected your core values.

[@StephElswood]

Thanks for watching!

[@maenad1231]

Turned 29 several weeks ago, now 5+ years w/o a sip of alcohol. Age 23,24 and to a lesser extent 25,26 (entire mid twenties) is when I started getting super health conscious and changing my habits wanting to take care of myself Btw “sober” is probably gonna contributed to be associated with former substance use disorder - including alcoholism. “Non-Drinker”, “Teetotal/er” “Abstinent/Abstainer” doesn’t have the same connotation

[@Hazel-j9y]

Great video, I’m 4 months sober and I’ve enjoyed watching this video for tips and benefits! Xx

[@StephElswood]

Glad it was helpful! Good luck with your journey. 4 months is amazing!

[@cecilialapolli5188]

Steph thank you so much for sharing this. I'm from California but live in Palma de Mallorca - drinking culture is huge here and I've been getting closer and closer to finally getting rid of this habit that destroys my mental and physical health. I appreciate you sharing, it's inspiring

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much for watching❤️ gosh I can imagine. Good for you for question it all though! Good luck with your journey and always here if you have any questions! X

[@natalie9746]

thank you for this video Steph! this is exactly how I feel when I drink. I wasn't necessarily reliant on it day to day, but definitely relied on it way too much in social situations and then it became a bad habit where I spent 50% of my week drunk, 40% hungover and actually only 10% of the week feeling good! I set myself a challenge to give up alcohol for a whole year which I did from Oct 2020 - Oct 2021. Then when I came back to drinking, I did so a lot more consciously and without binge drinking. However I have had some nights recently where I've drank way too much and it just throws me off balance for days after, and to me that is just not worth it. So I'm considering giving up again, if I can't just have 1-2 drinks without getting carried away or influenced by social pressure! It's a tricky one because I'm trying to steer away from the all-or-nothing mindset but maybe that's the only way for me! Anyways again, thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure it will be a positive influence on many 🫶

[@StephElswood]

Hey Natalie. Thank you for being so open and honest ❤️ I think if you’re not reliant on it, then it’s definitely worth taking some time to work out what works for you and your lifestyle long term. I know it’s hard in regard to the “all or nothing” mindset, so just keep asking yourself questions, questioning the pressure from society and as long as your decisions are always conscious and YOUR decisions then that’s ok! Go easy on yourself. Sending love always xxxx

[@katyl9179]

Hey Steph. We’ve chatted before, and I’m so thankful you replied and are a very real influencer. I stopped drinking nearly 4 years now at the age of 22! I had recently finished university which I hated, I hated drinking (I did it) but I couldn’t make enough excuses to try get out of it. I hated feeling hungover, I was very introverted deep down and hated the feeling of lack of control, however I tried to be someone different for the whole three years. Now as someone sober, I have never been happier. I have never missed drinking and enjoy the time I have to myself. I feel sorry for the person I was at uni that I couldn’t be myself. Now I am very honest I don’t drink to everyone I meet, no one ever really challenges me and I never feel embarrassed. Thank you for normalising this because when I was at university I would have been so happy to see someone speaking out.

[@StephElswood]

Hi Katy❤️ I hope you’re well. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate you sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear that uni was difficult for you and I can definitely relate to a lot of your story. My advice to you is yes, look back and send your past self love, but also if you can, be grateful for those years. I have made so many mistakes throughout my life and lived inauthentically to myself because it was easier to fit in. And I think as much as you may see it as wasted years or regret it, it’s part of you and your story. You tried something you didn’t like to discover a lifestyle you love and that’s wonderful. Sometimes we have to go through down patches to really experience the beautiful highs that follow. I’m so glad you’ve found sobriety now though! And to have the confidence to do that at 22 is amazing and I hope you’re proud of yourself ❤️ sending you so much love xxxx

[@dwshbag]

Thank you Steph. I’m 48 and have grown up in an environment where drinking alcohol is considered the norm. I could relate to so much of your video. I would love to quit alcohol, but I’m so scared of the backlash from my friends. I know that sounds silly, but the majority of my social life revolves around meeting friends in a pub. But I’ve simply grown out of it and absolutely hate drinking by now. I just need that confidence to face that initial backlash when I say I don’t want to drink. Your video gave me a lot of confidence to take this step. Thank you 😊

[@natalieclark8368]

Love this Steph, so much truth in what you say, alcohol impacts us so much yet it’s praised and encouraged to drink it. As I’ve got older I’ve realised I very much enjoy one drink but that’s about it…and I’m so happy with that 😊 xx

[@StephElswood]

Thank you for watching ❤️ and yes that sounds like the perfect solution. Buzzing for you🥰❤️ xxx

[@leisawalston7515]

What a beautiful person you are !!! I'm only 2 weeks in and feeling amazing!!! I can totally relate in all you have spoken about. ❤

[@bridgetthompson6926]

I can relate to 100% of this!❤ Removing alcohol was a transformative step in my wellness journey. You are an inspiration 🎉

[@andrewseeker6970]

I completely enjoyed every second of your video. You did an amazing job in front of the camera, absolute natural. Thank you for sharing your view, I am on day 2, going for 17days (no reason for the number just picked it). Love from across the pond Florida☀️

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much for watching. Good luck in your journey!

[@waynegoodman3345]

I gave up drinking a couple of months ago even though was never a alcoholic or even a heavy drinker it still definitely does something to your mind and you often don't realise it.I found myself being more anxious and grumpy last few years think drinking increases anxiety I am 100% better last couple of months alone. Like I say even a moderate amount of drinking alcohol rewires your brain.

[@danilaroche1156]

I drink moderately &.find it still affects me. No hangovers but a tendency towards anxiety & depression. My goal is 100% sobriety.

[@ryan62082]

21 days sober today . I really miss whisky . Having 2 younger kids and my father dying in his early 50s I had to stop. Hoping it gets easier.

[@AdrianaKupresak]

It does, keep going xx

[@caitlynscelfo9169]

On this New Years Day This video was a blessing for me ❤️ thank you so much and I am now blessed to be a subscriber. Thank you Steph and I am Looking forward to the journey in 2024.

[@victoriae1838]

love this. Thank you for continuing to inspire and giving others a community they have been desperately looking for. I have never had a problem with alcohol, and therefore I have struggled to find someone talking about their experience without being a recovering alcoholic. So thank you. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@StephElswood]

Aw thank you 🥹 I honestly love this community so so much! Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment xxx

[@dintleseseane]

"I love the cult!" 😂😂 I also love the cult... and am enjoying being a part of it ❤

[@abbysweeting]

Love this video, Steph! I've been alcohol free for a similar amount of time as you. I was never a big drinker, I just found I wasn't gaining anything from drinking so I might as well stop. The hardest thing I found was other people's opinions and assumptions. The eyebrow raise and accompanying suggestion that I must be pregnant 🙄 Like you say though, it does get easier, other people's opinions don't matter, and I find it really empowering when I stick to my guns 🩷 Carouse sounds amazing, I'll check it out! Have a fabulous weekend!x

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much for watching and for sharing this. Congratulations on being alcohol free too😍 I’m really hoping the comments stop soon as people start to understand and respect the choice to reduce alcohol. Sending you lots of love ❤️

[@cryptoramz]

That's inspiring ! Congrats :) 3 months sober here !

[@TheKaurajuoma]

Estrella Damm is my go to Estrella Damm non-alcoholic beer. Good video! These type of videos keeps me going through my early days of sobriety.

[@ashchaya7676]

9:15 "... just to show up as who I am..." It's amazing how I can watch dozens of vids like these and still find an absolute GEM of a comment sometimes. I'm almost shocked at how relatable I find that comment. Thank you for this. EDIT: 13:42 This one too! It felt like I was using a cheat code the first time I went out completely sober. Plus you know if any adverse situation arises you're going to handle it the best out of everyone there. EDIT 2: 18:13 Ginger beer with lime, YES! Virgin kamakaze. Love these.

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much for watching 🥹

[@jemimahvaz]

Wow such an amazing motivational Video Steph! Thank you so Much for sharing your Experience with us. I can relate so much to all those feelings. And Yes an alcohol free life is the best life. ❤

[@redgey5163]

Great video. I (finally!!!) finished Allen Carrs' book on controlling alcohol. I've been convinced. I stopped here and there in the past but this time I'm relaxed and excited about the future of not drinking. Once you see the trap that alcohol is everything will change. And for any of you reading this, who struggle with alcohol. I've been drinking in a culturally Irish fashion for 2 decades, and I completely stopped two weeks ago. I'm done. It is possible. Change your mindset. Highly recommend a BBC doc called The Wet House (here on YT) if you want to have the bejesus scared out of you for where alcohol can take people.

[@jendots10]

Thank you for speaking about celebrating the little milestones. I am not fully sober but have stopped drinking during the week and really try to only drink 1 or 2 drinks in a day if I do. So many of your reasons for going sober are the same reasons I’ve stepped back a lot from alcohol. I don’t know if I’ll ever be fully sober, but hearing your story still helps me on my own journey. ❤

[@StephElswood]

You don’t need to label yourself at all ❤️ just keep doing what’s right for you. Always here if you have any questions! X

[@danilaroche1156]

Love this video. Your an inspiration. Bravo!

[@harold6863]

Thank you for the advice. I have now taken a firm stance with people that try and twist my arm to drink. I just cut them out as if they were true friends they would be supportive. I would rather be a hermit and feel this good than have a bunch of false ‘friends’!

[@raybiru]

First 3 rounds on a night out, you may get by using cranberry+soda. But late night shot-rounds (coupled with screams and group hugs), each one of these, are the ones difficult to pass ... by late night, your good friends have already changed their personality (thanks to the many alcohol molecules in their system), and now is the time for real-test -- say NO -- join into the group-hug with your shotglass raised high... nobody cares what's in your shotglass ... the friends who do care about you, are not going to mind. And tomorrow morning, after they rise from their hangover, they will remain your friends.

[@amyrobb9506]

Awk Steph I just love this for you! I've been sober around 10 years and feel I'm still able to be the life and soul of the party without drink anyway without it and miss NADA! Always the first one up on the dance floor unashamedly! Also had what feels like a past life doing all the party holidays with my friends and going out 3 nights a week while holding down jobs and uni I've got all that outta my system and much better for it! Lotsa love and respect for you always my queeen xxx

[@StephElswood]

Aw you just have the best energy Amy 😍 thank you for sharing!! Lots of love and respect for you too beautiful girl ❤️

[@boomerbri1]

I love you!. I'm just starting my alcohol free life. It's not easy. The DT's are hurting me. Don't know if I can make it.

[@DutteH96]

Thank you for this video Steph! And for being an inspiration 🙏

[@StephElswood]

Thank you so much for watching and for such a lovely comment!

[@JazzyArtKL]

When your friends say "don't be boring", they have a problem. It's time to let them go. They are not friends, they are drinking mates. I know, because I lost my "mate" to alcoholism last week. I'm 50 and done with alcohol for life after this.

[@danilaroche1156]

These are not friends.

[@jeanavery4451]

May I ask how long it took for your sleep cycle to get better after becoming sober? I’m only on day 2, and that’s the part that scares me, sleep. Last night was only night #1 and my sleep was HORRIBLE. When will it get better? I am excited to stay sober so thank you for this video. I wish I had figured that out at your age. It’s mostly the socialization aspect of it for me. I just know I have to stay away from those places for a while until I feel more confident with myself to say no, and mean it. That’ll take awhile. Love these tips. ❤️❤️

[@valentinav5275]

I am 2.5 months in and my sleep is still adjusting. However, I am also making other radical changes like eating clean, mostly plant based, and I am going through a spiritual awakening so that affects it, too.. I also had to just not go out until I knew I could say no. I hope your sleep has improved by now :)

[@jeanavery4451]

@ thank you so much! I honestly had to start over after falling off the wagon during the holidays. I picked myself back up and I’m 16 days sober today. I also joined an 8 week Winter Shred program (fitness), so that’s really helping me stay sober and it’s motivating me. ❤️

[@AWFULWORKPLACES]

Steph We noticed youtubers over 100,000 subs lack heart and passion but you GF , love your Subscribers, its Beautiful Keep up the hard Work

[@StephElswood]

Thank you ❤️

[@AddictedtoSobriety_]

Sooooooo nice to see sober creator!

[@rhondaatwell5603]

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It’s very helpful as I’m just beginning my sober curious journey - 1 week in! 🎉 and I feel great! Is your non- alcoholic drink available in Canada? I would love to try both of them ❤

[@sallgal]

this video is so helpful, thank you!

[@wicklawalker9495]

This is so interesting. It sounds like you were drinking a lot. I love a glass of wine, especially when relaxing with friends and family with a nice meal. However more than two glasses changes the enjoyment. Good job on making people think about alcohol consumption but, not everyone needs to go teetotal ❤

[@StephElswood]

Hi there. Thank you for your comment. Im glad you’ve found something that works for you ❤️ I did say multiple times in this video that people don’t need to go teetotal and that my intention was never for that to be the message of this video so I hope that’s not how it came across. I also mention that I never got really drunk but consumed alcohol regularly. So not sure why it sounds like I was drinking a lot. Thanks for watching though Xx

[@lauraturford]

Good morning, HAPPY SATURDAY ❤❤ i hardly drink these days, actually can't remember when i last had any alcohol btw 👍😊xx

[@StephElswood]

Morning! Aw I always look forward to your comments! Oh really!! I think it’s becoming more and more common not to drink❤️ xxx

[@lauraturford]

@StephElswood going for an early birthday meal with my parents & best friend tonight & im driving us as i know im not bothered bout having a drink!! Well i look forward to watching ur Saturday video every week, always such great content & think todays is so good to hear how ur journey being sober has been & the advice/tips u shared xxx

[@StephElswood]

@@lauraturford aw happy early birthday! I hope you have a wonderful meal with everyone. Thank you for watching every Saturday. Really appreciate it❤️❤️❤️

[@lauraturford]

@StephElswood big thanks Steph 🥰 hope u have the best weekend 💓 xx

[@StephElswood]

@@lauraturford thank you beautiful 😘

[@Mikey4808]

Passed the 6 month mark the other day. Feeling great. I've unintentionally lost weight as well (6kg/13lbs). I don't intend on drinking again. Alcohol is wasteful. Waste of time, health and money. A pointless pursuit.

[@hero2006]

Respect. Happy New Year.

[@kennethabarca4284]

Thanks for your helpful video I just have a couple of weekends without drinking and for that reason, I find your video important because I had the tendency to think that by drinking one or two days a week was OK and without harm but you clarify that that is not necessarily the case. Thanks again

[@StephElswood]

Thank you for watching. I’m so glad it was helpful ❤️

[@leriekova]

People pushing you to have a drink or calling you ‘boring’ for being sober are just being triggered by you and your choice. You’re a mirror to them, in which they see themselves and their issue with alcohol..and most often than not it’s uncomfortable.

[@StephElswood]

Couldn’t agree more ❤️ thank you for sharing x

[@btown8210]

Lovely video, resonate with a lot of what you’ve said. Thanks!

[@StephElswood]

You are so welcome xxx

[@leannthornton4924]

Thank you for this video!! I’ve been looking for someone like you!! I’m not an alcoholic but I am “sober curious” for health reasons. Also, I do say I’m going to stop but then go eat Mexican with friends and I can’t turn down a margarita!

[@StephElswood]

Thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful ❤️ x

[@WhiteCraftsTV]

Hi there, do you have any stockist for your carouse drinks. We're in Wales and wanted to get some in for Christmas 😬left it a bit late for postage 🙄 thank you Kelly

[@StephElswood]

Hey! So sorry but unfortunately we aren’t in retailers yet but hopefully soon!! We currently have a Boxing Day offer on though with 20% off ❤️

[@Perryscope123]

Hi Steph, thanks for sharing and inspiring others to see the benefits of a sober lifestyle. Imagine how much more functional our society would be if the majority of adults chose sobriety over alcohol: Less crime, less hospital admissions, better social care, a more productive economy the list goes on. Binge drinking is so outdated and overrated

[@JoeWalker254]

Iam 2 weeks sober hope i gat this

[@VIDSTORAGE]

Congratulations it is good to stay sober and be clear headed, females are harmed easier than males who drink, my sister died from pancreatic cancer and I am sure that is what caused her to get cancer and I still drink beer but stay away from whisky or any strong distilled spirits strait or cowboy shots or making mixed drinks with spirits... A boy I grew up around the older generation whisky heads that were functional but were total slosh heavy weekend drinkers that would go to work on time... I noticed the whisky heads started dying out pretty fast with liver and intestinal problems and heart troubles , the beer drinkers stayed much healthier unless they were obese and too much beer drinking is no excuse either because it is alcoholism as well.....

[@charleslyall4911]

Well done to everyone ❤👍🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@parasjoshi570]

Thanks Steph for sharing your experiences. It gives me a great reason to not drink again.

[@StephElswood]

You're so welcome! ❤️

[@mkf628]

I'm 45 min sober, best decision EVER.

[@kapitanold]

❤❤❤❤❤ good job 😊 👍🏿👏🏿

[@BrendanMahoney-jk7nu]

I stopped alcohol & soda & tea 9 months ago. I drink hot water & lemon juice instead of tea. I feel great. I sleep MUCH better & my boss likes my work & I am NOT mouthing off to other people. I am 61 good civil service job w/benefits. Too old to get another job. I was at my retirement board & they say I can work till 67. My boss likes my work so much I can work until I want !!!

[@melissaarchila5602]

I have three weeks and I’m struggling

[@cleveland216..]

This is my first day not drinking or smoking anymore 👍🏾

[@AdrianaKupresak]

Congratulations 🙌🏼

[@girldriver8709]

What is the sugar count on these drinks?

[@benmoradi]

Love this! This message is so inspiring. I just started my channel to spread the same message and hopefully help others struggling with sobriety.

[@rodb66]

Along with getting a good undisturbed night's sleep, you have a lot more time and energy not having to recover from a drunk.

[@StephElswood]

🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@kekauliked]

Do you ship to the US?

[@jerrysullivan9659]

2/5/84❤❤

[@sportsman4545]

Ive been working on it and tracking for a year. Ive cut my alcohol in half but still occassionally binge. Ive decided time to quit and just cutting back wasnt enoigh. When you cut back, you really notice the impact when you binge and I guess Im just tired of that anxiety filled shame filled dayafter.

[@kathleendowner6503]

You look fantastic well done

[@StephElswood]

Thank you x

[@mikepiccolo32]

​@@StephElswoodI came across your video this morning and it really helped alot.Im sober now after years of being smashed.I was in the same rut as you about 3 days a week i was gassedI now lift weights and ride a bike.You are both beautiful and smart and really cool.

[@danilaroche1156]

My alcoholic sister refuses to get help. She's overweight, anxious and going bald! She's not that old and she has high blood pressure. She is MISERABLE. Again she wont get any help so I had to pull away for now. She gets violent when drinking!

[@PatrickFletcher]

Day 3 ... 😉

[@jackfrost9433]

Oat milk coffee would send me back to the bottle

[@StephElswood]

That’s cool x

[@markg.4246]

The first thing I noticed was your use of the word "sober", instead of "not drinking". Gold Star, Steph! KZbin is overrun with videos talking about "Not drinking", or "Quitting drinking", or "Moderating drinking". That kind of approach is the biggest roadblock to true sobriety. The majority of people posting their "Stop drinking" videos, with their fifteen minutes of "dry time", have no clue what they're talking about. They falsely believe that getting sober is an intellectual issue. It isn't. Some of the most intelligent people in the world have died drunk, because they thought they could fix a sick mind and body, with a sick mind and body. The other important aspect you mentioned, is getting to know who we are, shortcomings, character defects, and all. If I don't, can't, or won't look at my liabilities, how am I supposed to get where I want to go. Which goes back to "not drinking". People will foolishly believe that if they just "don't drink", everything will be fine. No self appraisal is needed. Right?...WRONG! I sincerely wish you all the best, as we travel the road of "Happy Destiny"! Mark

[@SankofaAncestorShrine]

I've been a bartender for a while and can't imagine being weirded out by someone who wanted an alcohol free cocktail or something in a gin cup. Very common, NBD.

[@Kingoroo]

you are pretty

[@StephElswood]

Thank you

[@danilaroche1156]

She is and she has class. I get so sick of young women on youtube dropping 4 bombs left and right. She's a lady.

[@Fit-s5j]

The only thing I disagree with are mock tails. They are too carby and have too much crap in them. I like club soda with a lime. Who wants to get fat after quitting alcohol? Lol

[@StephElswood]

If you’re drinking them everyday, yeah perhaps not a good idea. But for special occasions there’s nothing wrong with them in moderation and we shouldn’t fear carbs x

[@gavigaviman]

I wish i met you drunk before 😁 just kidding, good job, keep it up

[@StephElswood]

Haha thank you!

[@LV-jh4zt]

Being sober is attractive. I think drunk people are sad. 🙁

[@AWFULWORKPLACES]

Love your Hair and Mug GF

[@StephElswood]

Thanks

[@StephElswood]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Progressivelyyou]

I went to a work event one time... A colleague offered a drink, I said no thanks, I'm not drinking for the moment, to which he replied: Arent you vegan too? I said yes. He replied: So you're vegan AND you don't drink... You seem quite boring, I'll go hang out over there, and he left. Um? Sir? Lol

[@Healingandchoices]

That heart racing thing....ugh

[@antonellapautasso8646]

Thank you but you speak too fast....

[@StephElswood]

@@antonellapautasso8646 you can slow down playback speed on KZbin now x

[@suzanbandyk4485]

Stop playing with your hair

[@StephElswood]

@@suzanbandyk4485 no x

[@b-live2854]

Great video but my gosh slow down when you speak it’s hard to understand at times

[@StephElswood]

Noted! That’s the first time I’ve been told that so will try to slow down x

[@danilaroche1156]

​I talk fast & am very lively. Speaking slower is attractive I might add.

[@alchemizetoinfinity]

"I'm not an alcoholic, but I loved getting black out drunk every weekend."

[@StephElswood]

I didnt say that 😂

[@dwdrumshdmotorcyclesvirgom7379]

My god please slow down your speaking! You need to learn to relax while telling your story!

[@StephElswood]

@@dwdrumshdmotorcyclesvirgom7379 KZbin has a setting where you can slow down videos. Use that x

[@indy500tabasco8]

i got Copy and Paste addiction

[@StephElswood]

What’s that mean xoxo

[@julianparrett9005]

Can I have a date with you ? I don’t drink alcohol!