Why is my Person w/ Dementia SLEEPING so much? || The "Why" Series

[@chellegriggs]

I'm binge watching your amazing videos. My husband is in stage six. I am his caregiver, with him 24/7. He sleeps most of the day. I just make sure he is warm and comfortable, and I change him as often as I can get him awake. I give him ensure drinks as often as he wakes up and he will eat oatmeal sometimes. His tastebuds are just about gone now..but he does still like the chocolate drinks. I am a Christian and believe and agree with everything you have said. I am just so glad I've found you now. This video was especially helpful for me. Much respect, 💕🙏

[@mudasirkhan7087]

Same thing happened with my mother

[@craigevanko908]

I just saw this and read this. would you please tell me where i can find the stages of dementia?

[@rickuyeda4818]

My Mom got Dementia at 90. She had been living with my sister since my Mom was the primary babysitter for my sister's kids. Matter of fact, I talked my Mom into selling her house and helping my sister to buy a home and living with them. When my Mom got Dementia, she dumped her into an Assisted Living Facility 3 blocks away from me. I visited my Mom every day until the end. She fell asleep watching TV and never woke up again. She spent a week in the Hospital and 1 day in Hospice Care when she passed. I was sitting with her at the time.

[@Linaema]

My mom is 76 and she just entered this stage. She only takes liquid and eats fruits. It was a sudden change. She was active, talking, walking,eating.Last week she started eating less and sleeping more. It’s almost like I am waiting for her to get back to herself but your description about the later stage of dementia describes exactly what is taking place with her right now. She has no pain and looks so peaceful when she’s sleeping. It’s been emotional. Thank you for sharing and caring.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

All my love. ♥️

[@sheilajames8863]

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[@tracyshingle-bratton3059]

I’m actually there now with you and it is so sad to watch

[@sarahcrain8083]

I remember my grandma saying, "Once a man twice a child". When talking about people losing their ability to remember.

[@dreamyx01]

My mother says this all the time. She was recently diagnosed.

[@tommaxwell429]

I'm living this with my wife for the past 12 years. Her doctor explained it very well like the movie, "The Amazing Life of Benjamin Buttons," in which Benjamin starts off an old man and then goes backwards through life. As people develop through the disease they work backwards losing first the memories, then the skills in the reverse order they learned as a child. They forget how to reason, how to move, how to speak, how to control their bowels and bladder, how to swallow, and then how to breathe. Think of the sequence in which your child developed and then take those steps in reverse, that is what to expect from your dementia loved one! I am clearly in stage 7 with my wife after 12 years. She sleeps 18+ hours a day. The best advice I can give to care givers is not to feel badly when your loved one cannot appreciate what you do for them. They can't help it! When you bust for them and in response, they say, "Who are you again?" understand they aren't being mean or unappreciative. When was the last time your 2 year old, 3 year old, or even 13 year old told you how much they appreciate what you did for them? Caring for dementia patients is a labor of love, but it is so worth it! There is a special place in heaven for those who care for their dementia parents or loved ones.

[@rondaleistiko1227]

As a caregiver I find myself needing more sleep I have to get up 3/4 times a night worried and stressed out. Have a great dog that wakes me up if she's gets up. Day's and night or mixed up.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Ronda, how's your day going with you?

[@eileenhawkins1474]

Thank you so much for this information. My husband has started sleeping a lot more and walking a lot more stooped over. It’s just so sad to watch someone you love decline so quickly. Again, thank you for being there for all us in this situation.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Eileen, how's your day going with you?

[@L.J.H.-sg6eb]

I wake my Mom up in the morning and at noon to take her medicine maybe with a biscuit or cornbread, then she wakes up around 1pm and stays up until 10pm. It works for us right now. These past couple of years I have realized I need to be ready for changes.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Absolutely! Transition through the journey is to be expected. Big hugs! Vicky

[@L.J.H.-sg6eb]

Thank you so much! I need to know there are others dealing with the same life changes. She has now been diagnosed with Lewy Body. Heavy times. God is so good!❤​@@DementiaWithGrace

[@L.J.H.-sg6eb]

So sorry I wanted to add that she eats apple sauce, oatmeal, yogurtsometimes, potato salad or mashed potatoes and green beans. The Ensure shakes are good with a little bit of banana. My comment was while ago. Now my mom is at the end stage and ready for Hospice. She knows who I am and her sister, Becky, but that is about it. Love and peace be with you, Vicky. Thank you so much for your informative and sweetly sincere educational videos. ❤

[@maryboggan8251]

My mother has Alzhiemers and fell at Christmas and broke her femur. We put her on hospice a month ago and she sleeps 22-23 hrs.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Mary, how's your day going with you?

[@jojo1234a]

This couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been backwatching your videos as I subscribed a few days ago when I found you, and you have made this so much easier. Xx

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Jojo that makes me so happy!! Thanks for commenting!!! Love and joy! Vicky

[@rdelamadrid]

I wish I'd known about Vicky 5 years ago when my mother was still alive. I'm glad you found her while her knowledge can still be of help to you. Nobody who treated my mother during the 10-12 years she had dementia ever explained to me what was going on with her in any kind of way that made sense to me. It seemed like her doctors were just guessing and giving generalized answers because they really didn't know. Vicky has cleared up so many doubts for me. A lot of times it has been more of "Well now I know that's NOT what it was" rather than, "Oh THAT'S what that was". But, even so, it's really helpful, isn't it? My best to you. I wish you peace.

[@blackbwoyinc77]

I look after my grandad he's 89 and has vascular dementia. He sleeps all the time now and its started to be much more lately . I do what I can and he seems happy

[@aridiyanti4747]

I have a similar situation with my dad. He is almost 90 and he sleeps so much. He uses a feeding tube. And he seems to be peaceful. Just continue what you are doing and give him all the love you can.

[@dewboy910]

The WORST case scenario is when they WILL NOT sleep! They can be bad for wondering around in the middle of the night. My mom went through that stage and it reeked havoc on me! I literally had to stay up all night. I would go to bed at around 4 am. The night time wondering is one of the worst to deal with IMO. The only problem with her sleeping too much is that it usually equates to a wet bed, which I have to change and wash sheets. If I don't change her diapers by 10:30 am, I run into more wet beds. If she wants to nap during the day, that's fine with me. She literally will work herself half to death relocating and packing items while she is awake. That is not good for either one of us. I HATE dementia!

[@GNeeNee]

I’ve been taking care of my grandmother with dementia who is 94 after my dad passed 2 yrs ago I became her sole caretaker/POA…I’ve found getting a mattress cover and just that alone for her to sleep on has been way easier than washing sheets for me! I can just spray disinfectant and wipe off

[@rhonaclark4745]

I hate it too

[@MaN-pw1bn]

Sounds like my mother, constantly moving the furniture/nick knacks in her bedroom - but especially active overnight doing this. She's finally starting to sleep more and do less of this but it is wild how much energy she has had at 86!

[@rhonaclark4745]

So do i

[@MaN-pw1bn]

Mine vacillates between sleeping a lot and night roaming. The nighttime roaming is definitely problematic, so I've tried to tucker her out more during the day by mandatory chair time and creating tasks for her. I've gotten to the point where I take all of her clothes out of the drawers/closet and put them in baskets and pretend that they've just been washed, and she has to fold them for the drawers and hang them for the closet. Then I have to work around the issue that she can't remember that they are hers...lol Every day is an adventure in navigating a damaged brain. The obsessive moving of personal effects/furniture and packing things was something we weren't expecting.

[@dkidder1367]

This was shocking to me. Mom was always pepped up for sunday dinner, but last time, she didn't want to be bothered, and i went home. It seemed abnormal, and now i found this. Good info. And, I was trying to get her moving. I guess that's wrong.

[@doggette2]

I so wish that I had your info when my other was still alive.It would have been alot less frustrating.I had never dealt with dementia before,and sometimes thought my mother was being hateful.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

doggette2 I hear that all the time. SHARE these videos with anyone who you know is dealing with dementia in their families. I am trying to help all who need this knowledge. ❤️❤️❤️

[@B_slides94]

I am 30 and have been taking care of my grandmother for a little over a year now. From what I have learned in your videos she seems to be in stage 6-7. She turned 83 in July and the pace of things seem so accelerated since that day. She talks of her childhood and her behavior is that of an adolescent more often than not. She is holding onto anything available when walking now, her speaking is slurred at times, and she can't convey a sentence that makes sense anymore really. She is speaking less and less. Her eyes seem so disconnected, like a blank gaze. Before this stage came, she was angry and combative all of the time. She has always been a very strong and independent woman who has taken care of herself. She was a psychologist, and an AA sponsor for 40+ years. She has tried so hard to fight this thinking she can work on it and fix it.. sad to watch. The past few weeks all she does is sleep. She will get up for food or to go to the bathroom which she is still able to manage on her own. She wears Depends and is not fully incontinent thus far. We are able to get her out sometimes and take her to AA to be with friends who she can still somewhat find familiar but can tell how exhausting it is for her. I'm here all of the time. I moved from FL to OH and put my life on hold to be here for her. I grew up with a struggling single mother and our grandparents were always there to support us never asking for anything in return. She asked me to do this for her 2 years ago not long after she was diagnosed. The first time she ever asked me for anything.. I couldn't say no to her. I didn't know how hard this would be or how to prepare myself. She trusted me to be her caregiver. I have an aide who comes for 4 hours a day 4 days a week so that I can take care of me too but it's still so hard and never seems like enough to be honest. Part of me wants to let go and move her to a care facility, but I think I would feel so guilty to give up on her especially in her current state. Your content is helpful and reading about what others experience in the comment section is just like as support group on its own. Thank you.

[@renus6015]

@@B_slides94 You are a good person. Keep going. I too lost my mum to vascular dementia on may 21st, 2024. It was so hard.

[@renus6015]

Exactly what happened to my mom before she passed away. Sleeping most of the times, tube fed. She had vascular dementia, diabetes, kidney failure, high bp, heart problems. Was very painful 😢

[@geegeeandlulu]

❤❤

[@johnniemiera3528]

❤

[@dovie127]

I love your videos Vicky. I know I tell you that all the time but I really do. You have a wealth of knowledge and I’m so thankful that you share so generously! Love ya!😘

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Dovie Tomplait thank you!! Love you too!! 😘❤️🥰

[@valoriegordon7362]

You are a blessing.❤️ My husband sleeps more but he's not at the end. He cares for himself, walks, paints, eats because he's hungry and drinks water, juice. He dances with me and talks with his Drs..He goes out with me when he feels like it with me on dates. But he's not end stage. What do u think is happening. Thanks so much.

[@LoriT541]

My husband too. There are some days he's awake all day, but difficult days he sleeps quite a bit.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Lori,how's your day going with you?​@@LoriT541

[@sandyj342]

You put it very gracefully so we can accept what is happening to our loved ones. God bless.

[@shantinu3059]

Thank you for this video. It helps lessen our concerns about our elderly.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Glad it was helpful!

[@tammyfernando6822]

Really helped me understand the process of dementia and sleep. Thank you.

[@suz0000]

Thank you so much for this! My mom is almost 91, has dementia and her sleep has increased so much. I was not sure if I should try to wake her or not. I had one family member that told me I absolutely should, but it just seems cruel, and didn’t feel right. I let her sleep but sometimes feel guilty, unsure if it’s the correct thing to do. Thank you for making me feel better!

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Suz, how's your day going with you?

[@nanolight4337]

Thank you!!! this removes guilt of am I a bad care giver if I just let her sleep. Some days my 84 yr old mom sleeps that 20 of 24 hours of the day. She does not want to drink anything and cannot hold her head up in a chair and when she is awake she has a neck that hurts. Seems the hands are drawing into the body too. Even when you try to arouse her, she falls back to sleep after speaking something strange no one understands. I will watch your video on the later stages. I don't expect her to live past another year 1/2. Afterall, this is not a life for her at all when she does not know us and does literally nothing.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Hey! Her neck may be stressed from drooping down. If you can somehow recline her in the chair,that will help. Also, she could qualify for Hospice Pallative Care, which is more for Stage 6/7, and not JUST for the end stages. You can call a local Hospice agency yourself and they will evaluate her. Then, she could qualify for a special recliner and/or hospital bed that would be more comfortable position. All my love. ❤️ Vicky

[@lizabethfeig1705]

I am going through the exact same thing with my mother ( as in she is doing the exact same things you described your mother doing...Also she is on hospice...) and I feel like the saddest person in the world...

[@777Rowen]

I’ve got a question, and maybe you’ve already made a video; but why do people with dementia rarely change their cloths often? Great video and great explanation.

[@jacquiepittet1757]

Sometimes it becomes a fabric sensitivity issue. It can be that they do not want to decide and choose other clothing. In short they do not want to have to think. Or they want your attention, to make you feel sorry for them or they just want you to argue about Something with them as you very likely normally would. ❤

[@jacquiepittet1757]

They have not forgotten how to push all the buttons.❤😂

[@BobBob-uv9fq]

I want my mum to pass away in her sleep

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I completely understand this Bob. You are definitely not alone.

[@beechannel27]

This video was comforting to me. My father is a stroke survivor and he sleeps a lot as well. We always wonder should we try to keep him awake more. Thanks for sharing.

[@Samanta71-ne4fs]

My mother is 95 and has been in a nursing home for a couple of months. she's noticably declining more rapidly now. She was wandering the halls, still able to get around some days and others she can hardly walk and can't always make it to the bathroom. My mother has been seeing more and more family members who have long ago passed away lately. She talks to them. She used to get up every day and put rollers in her hair and now she doesn't, some days she eats good, other days she sleeps and doesn't eat all day. She has fallen multiple times and I believe that one of the falls may have caused her to decline even faster. Is that possible? We have been trying to understand what stage she could be in because we have to worry about being able to afford the care she is getting in the nursing home, that sounds terrible but it is a reality that we must think about because we want her to have the best care possible. We had a hospice nurse come in to the nursing home to assess my mother and she is eligible for hospice care there and it is beginning tomorrow. We as her children pray that she passes peacefully in her sleep and wakes up on the other side and is so happy to be with her mother, brothers and sisters and my dad again.

[@edwardb7811]

Good points about sleep. My love one never used to take naps but seems to nod off a lot during the day.

[@WVMothman]

My mom went into gradual decline not long after my father passed away 3 years ago, at 84 years old she gave up the steps, I have to help her with bills, conversations are abrupt and limited, she still cooks. Naps frequently. No physician has ever gave her a diagnosis so I'm just sort of keeping an eye on her.

[@seebertha]

Yes, the doctors really do not say anything .

[@bonitaburroughs8673]

My mom is similar. 84. Dad died 2019.

[@joinpsye7045]

Thank you for me to understand. My mom is at that stage.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

All my love! ❤️🦩❤️🦩❤️

[@mariebauer2421]

Thank you so much for this video. It’s so helpful knowing this now and gives me peace. ❤

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I’m glad!!

[@gloriabess9891]

Thank you!

[@preciouskhumalo6979]

I really enjoy your videos and lm so much interested in learning much more from your videos as l would really love to help as much ppl as l can.please continue teaching us and giving us more information.

[@QueenAydelott]

Thanks

[@September_727]

I’m watching this because my mom has a thing where she sleeps all day and she won’t get up until my dad comes home from work which is a long time. She doesn’t wake up for anything. I have to survive on my own. I asked her to wake up and she doesn’t it’s really hurting me. She’s been doing this for years now. It’s not fair I only see everyone else’s Mom up except mine.

[@angelacahill9460]

Sounds like depression.

[@Benintende1952]

My husband can’t seem to fall asleep until 3 or 4 in the morning and then sleeps until noon. I’ve tried to recalibrate his sleep patterns by trying to get him up every day at the same time (10 AM) to see if it would help to readjust his sleep patterns but it doesn’t seem to work. Right now he’ll just watch tv but I worry that he might start doing dangerous things.

[@ossier2796]

I feel so guilty for being angry with my significant other for sleeping a lot or not changing or changing at 3am.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Caregiver guilt and overwhelm is real. Don’t beat yourself up about that! I’m sure you are doing the best you can! You want to know how I know? Because you’re on KZbin seeking advice and answers. 😘 If you want to join the caregiver group on Facebook, that’s where you’ll find similar struggles. Group members will “love you up” and share advice too. The link: m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace

[@KG-kl9gc]

From the GDS mom appears as a solid stage 6. She will sleep sometimes for 12-18 hours then be awake for as much. Then go days with short bursts of naps and a lot of awake time then flip that to short bursts of awake time to a lot of sleep time. I don't know how to handle this because it is so drastic and inconsistent.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Kip G. Grimes do you have a routine in place? A routine makes all the difference in YOUR Caregiver experience. Especially one thatbis flexible enough to account for the changes in wakefulness. I discuss it in a previous video, and the book teaches how to establish one. ❤️❤️❤️

[@rebeccagirson1087]

Thank you for this. This is exactly what I am witnessing, but the cognitive abilities are still there which makes me think the lack of energy is due to something else. Is it possible for the body to break down while the mind is still relatively intact? I look forward to learning more from you and have joined your FB group.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I saw where you joined!! Happy to have your experience represented!

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Rebecca, how's your day going with you?

[@jacsherman]

Great information, but the recording was really poor could hardly hear what you said even with the volume completely turned up

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Sorry about that! I actually forgot to wear my microphone for this video. It was made several years ago. I have improved my recording in subsequent videos! I was still learning… And forgetting some things. If you have any questions about the video, leave them here in the comments, and I will attempt to clarify. Thanks for watching and supporting! Vicky

[@bumble8588]

You are comforting and fabulous - what a calling. Thank YOU! You mention that the cause of the sleep is that their body is shutting down. Is it true its the body shutting down, or the brain shutting down? Thanks.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thank you for the compliment! We must remember that the brain controls the body. So in that way, it is the brain shutting down the body.... If that makes sense? I have had hospice professionals explain this phenomenon. Have you joined our group? We would love to have your experience represented! Link in comments!! We go LIVE each Thursday night to discuss!

[@lindabloomfield2262]

My 84 year dad w Alzheimer’s. He can sleep 18 hours. He doesn’t have and physical problems. Does this still mean in decline?

[@Kasperx138]

they are literally always in decline

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Linda, how's your day going with you?

[@malka8901]

So letting him sleep for however long is fine. I am helping a friend. I am retired nurse of dementia patients and he sleeps a lot. Just last week told her he needs hospice. He has lost over 50 lbs in last 1.5 years.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Yes. Just as newborns sleep most hours out of 24, Dementia patients will too. Hospice is a tremendous resource for late stages. Keep encouraging it.

[@malka8901]

Thank you.

[@malka8901]

Also another question, my friend’s husband has no appetite. Would explaining that his body is in the shutting down period, not to force him to eat? I want to be so kind to my friend.

[@pricillafontanez1541]

I love all the explanations on dementia. I have a concern. My mother has dementia and had a hip surgery. She is showing stage 6 and 7 symptoms and is taking physical therapy. She hurts so much and would like to know if she should be put through the agony. Apreciate your help on this concern.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I answered under another post of yours!! Hope it helps!!

[@sambsialia]

Sorry to be so late to finding your videos. Mom is 82 and swapping her days and nights now. She is now in rehab because we thought she was stroking a few weeks ago. We both working and cant afford to quit, cause we have a daughter in college. Mom has a bed in rehab and could possibly go into nursing care, buy we are considering bringing her home. She has a farm she wants my daughter to have, and we are trying to save . Should we attempt to bring her home and keep sending her to adult day care when I work days or is it time to surrender the farm to predator Medicaid and put her in? I cant loose my wife/family/life to injury and sleep deprivation.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Oh that’s such a hard decision. I know I am late to responding. If you don’t have an elder care attorney, they are worth their weight in gold if you have money, property involved. ❤️❤️❤️

[@marinaz1734]

Me too

[@boudewynwagener7653]

My mother in law (83) has changed day to night and night to day. She sleeps during the day, live in the dark and is active at night. At night she moves around hide things to accuse us in the morning of stealing. She is also aggressive and abusive. We accept this now as part of her condition. She has no idea what day of the week it is. When she cannot find the things she hides, or believes she has (like 10 blankets, lots of watches etc), she starts to whine like a baby and actually throw tantrums by beating doors and throwing things around. She also refuses to bath. Some days she refuses to eat and then goes into a mode of 'over eating'. She will make food just after we gave her her meals. She will make food in the middle of the night and deny any knowledge the next morning. She blames it on the rogue or the somebody living inside the house. She barricades doors with brooms and mops she takes out of the kitchen and drape is with bells to act as an alarm. In your opinion at what stage is she?

[@mariapuente2525]

I have a question what happens when they stop eating Do you force them at least with ensure??? Please help

[@HeatherJRedhead]

I’m in that situation with my Mum. She is eating and drinking very little. I feel totally helpless and unprepared.

[@pamelamccall5653]

Why is this such an issue? I would imagine that a person w dementia sleep to be in a dream world as their waking faculties decline.

[@SusanJackson-i2y]

They lose muscle tone, balance, interaction with other people for stimulation...chances to eat. I know I have to give I n and let my mother sleep eventually, but right now she's between stage 5/6 and being in bed until 4pm is causing her to lose muscle mass.

[@janalaufer6965]

Hello, I am really hoping to hear from one or all of you. I am currently selling my home in FL to get to my mom ( 84 ) in NY who has not been diagnosed but I am 1000000% positive she is in moderate dementia ( I will get her to doctor the minute I get there ) but what I want to know is this. Is it common that when you realize that you are starting this journey to be kind of all over the place where you KNOW your life is going to change a LOT, right along with your loved one and to have fears that you will come to a point that you physically won't be able to help them and are already hoping that you make the best decisions for them but are afraid maybe you won't? I am already thinking about how would I tell when she needs professional assistance, stuff like that. I would like to hear back that I am not alone as I begin this journey and that hopefully this is common for someone about to embark on this. I am leaving behind living close to my daughter, son-in-law and my 2 preciaous grandbabies to help my mom. I am gonna miss them so much!!! I am trying to be a good daughter right now! Guess I just want to know that others go through this as they embark. I am all my mama has. I love her! Is it just breathing through each step?

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Hey…it’s Vicky! It’s a lot right? So much uncertainty. You will have enough light for the step you’re on. Come join the group on Facebook. Copy and paste this comment and you will have 2 dozen responses in no time! People over there are in the trenches like you will be. YOU WILL BE UP TO THE TASK. ❤️❤️❤️ all my love! Group link: m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace

[@ernestheau9146]

Isn't it normal for older people to sleep longer, aside from whether or not the have dementia?

[@HeidiMelton-rr2fs]

Hello & God Bless. Plez post My Loved Doesn't sleep at all at night

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I’m so sorry for this! There are a few reasons this could happen: too little daylight exposure, especially in the early part of the day; too much caffeine too close to bedtime; and going to bed on an “empty” stomach. Solutions include: 1. Get them out in the sun before noon even just for 20 minutes. That helps keep the sleep hormones regulated 2. Optimally, limit caffeine to before lunch only; and get them on a toileting schedule. 30 minutes past each finished meal, take them to bathroom or encourage them to go…then toilet or remind every two hours…then one last trip to the bathroom before bed. 3. A snack of peanut butter and crackers and a glass of milk is a perfect choice bc it has protein, fats and carbs. A great solution now that it is summer, mix up a milkshake with a high protein product like Ensure or Premier protein and a little ice cream!

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I just discovered your channel this a.m. I am happy to have a place to ask my questions in between doctors appointments. My 79-year-old husband has been diagnosed with major neuro disease stage 4. He scored 24 on the FAST test. He is still up and around and active at this stage just super forgetfull. I had wondered about his loss of appetite and willingness to eat so any additional information on that would be helpful. ( I just cannot feed him Ensure because it tis filled with chemicals and soy.) MY QUESTION: My husband also has ADHD and this is getting MUCH MUCH worse as the years progress. How does dementia effect/influence ADHD? Do they work hand in hand? Does dementia effect the area of the brain that is effected by ADHD? Thank you.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Donna, how's your day going with you?

[@byungroberts7555]

My mother in law sleeps all the time and refuses to eat.. What should I do?

[@DementiaWithGrace]

If you don’t already have hospice in, I will give them a call. This is the point where they are especially beneficial to a family.

[@mariatravieso5226]

Grace my mom has COPD and Afib and las time she was in hospital she got Covid and shortly after getting out of the hospital on Sept 17th she has had delirium that does not go away. They did EEG and we are waiting to see neurologist Tuesday for results. I want to let you know that when she went to hospital they did CT scan of the brain and nothing bad was revealed but her cognitive function has declined. She no longer remembers when her birthday is. Days bavk she would tell you her bday. She also does not know where she is. She lives with my sister but I go see her often. Can Covid precipitate dementia? This us heartbreaking for me as i am very close to my mom and she has been a major support. She has been an incredible mother and this is tearing me inside. I see her head going down recently...this is a new thing.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Hi Maria! It’s not that “Covid“ can make dementia, worse, but any illness, fever, flu, any disease process can make dementia worse. There is hospital confusion, which is also a type of delirium. When a person is very sick, or has surgery, etc we often see the dementia deepen. And sometimes they do not “bounce back“. It is a frustrating situation, but do know that I have seen this happen, and it is just part of the dementia. If you do not have a group of folks that you can bounce things like this off of, please do come over to the group, when I say they are geniuses, I mean it! And it just helps to have someone who knows what you’re going through. Here’s the link. m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Oh, and I meant to say… My name is Vicky! It is Dementia with Grace because of the name of the book, this channel, the group! ❤️

[@mariatravieso5226]

Vicki she bounced back from delirium nicely after about a month thank God. It is so sad to see someone go through these mental challenges. I am grateful to God for this change.

[@lindabloomfield2262]

My mother is sleeping more but not dementia … Is this a sign of decline/dementia coming?

[@laurawalles5855]

I rather for them to sleep then wake up you can have time for yourself

[@DementiaWithGrace]

That makes sense! Rest for the caregiver helps the person being cared for!!

[@zoomgallygally]

My mum won't sleep enough, up all night and all day

[@DementiaWithGrace]

It is a difficult journey. Watch my video on PICEM. It may help you figure out if she has an unmet need that keeps her up.

[@mrrojas12]

How lomb does that stage last . Sleeping all day. It’s been a month.

[@CatherineBirch-m5r]

What a horrible way to go. I hated being a child and would do anything to avoid dementia because if your'e forced to est a disgusting meal, you won't voluntarily go back for second helpings.

cajnt hear you!!

[@JessicaSalasS]

I requested to join on facebook. my mother is bad… she isn’t the same and i want to help her

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I am so sorry I am just getting to this comment. I have had some health issues of my own. I hope that you have join the Facebook group. If you had any problem finding it search DementiaWithGrace on Facebook.

[@alanr4263]

My Mom is in a nursing home & she has dementia she sleeps alot.Is she on her way to passing away? Everything u said she's doing.My Mom was able to feed herself ice cream but food like dinner she can't.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Alan R Sleeping more and more happens as a person gets lower in the stages, but how rapid the decline is varies. Have you seen my video on end of life? Or Stage 7? They may be helpful.

[@alanr4263]

@@DementiaWithGrace thanx.Im gonna check it out.Since she's been going through this about 10years My Mom has had U.t.I alot. My Dad past Feb 17 2019 he & I & Family have been through alot.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Let me grab them for you! I meant to, and got busy! Just a second!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

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[@toryberch]

I am starting this process but I'm supposed to be in beginning phase if Lewy Body Dementia. I'm wondering if this is normal for Lewy and not Alzheimer's? I'm 58 and still very cognizant but I am struggling with attention loss,nightmares and forgetting and I'm 58

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Nightmares can be a side effect of memory, enhancing drugs, I don’t know if you are on any of those, but it would be worth a talk with your doctor if you are. All my love.

[@toryberch]

@@DementiaWithGrace I'm on Zolpidem but my Sleep Dr did say it was part of REM sleep behavior and Lewy Body

[@MindfulBG]

I have applied to join on Facebook with no luck, can you help? ☺️ and thanks 🙏

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Send me a PM to my personal Facebook account Vicky Noland Fitch and I will get you in! Sorry for any inconvenience!

[@johnbutcher1109]

@@DementiaWithGrace. How do I join your group? Facebook?

[@LS-mc2rv]

Well, the loss of appetite hasn’t came yet. It’s just the opposite They want to eat all the time.

[@teresa6775]

But are they actually 'asleep'. Dont think so.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Elaborate please?

[@carole4119]

Have no idea what stage.? Eventho this disease was my nursing specialty Myvhusband goes through periods Right now sundowning is watching train videos most the nite Not every nite. HE WOULD GO TO SLEEP AT 530..SLEEP ALL NITE ITS ALMOST DIFFERENT EVERY DAY. HE LOVES SITTING ON SCREENED PORCH. WHEN WARMER SO FAR IS STILL EATING REGULAR SOMETIMES IT WILL BE LESS HE HAD A NEUROLOGISTS DIAGNOSIS PARKINSON 2 YRS AGO SHE DISMISSED HIM SAYING HE HAD ALL SYMPTOMS. ??? HE WAS NEVER DIAGNOSED. HE JUST TURNED 84. HOPE I HAVE A FEW MORE YRS

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Bless you and him!

[@marydrummond8832]

Thank you for teaching us . Love your Flamingos🦩🦩🦩🦩 I also Love …. 🦩🦩🦩🦩 Have a Great Day .

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thank you! You too! 🦩

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