Why Is Time So Slippery? Understanding Time Blindness in People with ADHD (with Ari Tuckman, Psy.D.)

In this hour-long ADDitude webinar from 10/4/22, Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., discusses the relationship between ADHD and time, including concepts such as temporal discounting and time horizon, and provides strategies for effective time management.
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[@karladolman9664]

Why do I keep thinking if I just learn more, get better, I can "get over it", logically I know my brain issues are life long and all I can do is manage it to the best of my ability but, I keep thinking I should be able to find the perfect way to "fix" me.

[@Mildred_McRaven]

Forgot how loooong the preamble is on these, quite ironic really… it makes the lining of my brain wince, but the content when it gets there is insightful. Perhaps you could signpost interested parties to go to bibliography/further info which could be placed at the end. Less painful! 😅

[@fradie_54]

1000 times yes!

[@valclowes5901]

I typically zap ahead with the 10-second feature, and if need be I'll zap back a few taps. Better than the tedious necessaries. I'm often a bit late if it's live, perfect. Fast 7.tap=1 min. Fast 4.tap=30 sec.

[@saransong5547]

@@valclowes5901 same!

[@kittyzilla3]

Im at 2:50 and i want to die of boredom 😂

[@mielimedina3146]

Haha yeah, I always fast forward to about 4 or 5 minutes in

[@sabinekoch3448]

This is extremely interesting ( I’m a teacher) but the presentation of this talk needs to be crisp and avoidant of comments like “well, you know ( sigh) it’s like ( hesitation / sigh) …” I flipped to the main points ( which were very good indeed) to avoid the waffle in between. Can’t image what someone with ADHD feels…

[@jacqueslee2592]

I know I have ADHD and experience this asymmetrical sense of time when I cannot watch the entire video and I am literally skipping parts lest I don't waste time but I end up wasting an hour that I could have used to watch this entire video. In that hour, I endlessly switched through tabs and other videos that I also did not watch completely.

[@Móhuàn8]

In your defense the guy spent 45 minutes saying things that needed no more than 7 minutes

[@veraroyen4986]

Starts at 12:00

[@TwinTalon01]

Starts at 4:10 Jesus lady, we’re ADD people, get on with it!!

[@alexandersheridan2179]

Thanks! I thought it was just gonna be 30 seconds or so, and I was already in an agitated state... Goooossss Fraaaabbaaaaa 👂🤏

[@KiwikimNZ]

My time management at work is excellent, because I have a structured job that revolves around takes at certain times and I excel at this. At home away from work I can not get it together I am always late. I set alarms and have reminders in my diary I check travel routes on gps to check the time it will take me to get somewhere yet I’m still disorganised and late in a panic all the time! I get so distracted getting ready that I loose track of time. Then I’m About to get in my car and I e list my keys! Every time 😊

[@punkisdad1607]

Love it. Putting something in a schedule is not a blood oath 😅

[@Jacqueline_Thijsen]

Tell that to my employer 😢 Scrum sucks.

[@JörgenHassler]

I have a the absolut opposite ADHD-related problem with time. The future is not the least bit fuzzy, it's crystal clear. As is the past. So I'm living in a constant now, which means that if something grabbs my attention I deal with it at once. If you tell me ¨that will happen three months from now" or "that happened 10 years ago¨ I understand what you mean on a cognitive level, but practically and emotionally you make no sense what so ever. What I refer to as time blindness is having not sense of time at all, period.

[@88happiness]

My struggle is estimating how long something will take. Customers ask for a time estimate and my mind goes blank. I don't want to go too short and be late, but going too long isn't good either. And if I have other jobs on the go too, then I have no idea. He answers it abit @50:15

[@tanchella]

I just repeat what my non-ADHD colleagues are saying. My biggest trouble is estimating travel time to work. For some reason I say shorter estimate (probably to please colleagues), then I have to run and apologise to everyone. Same happens every day. If anyone will advice me just to leave earlier, wake up later, check google maps... I will curse you with a spell of timeblinedness 😅

[@TheCebulon]

This sounds exactly like myself. Timetables do not work at all for me. I do not care about them. I even have a reminder every day „Cook food“, and it doesn’t work. I will say: let me finish this, it is only 5 minutes (which then will be 5 hours)

[@arabellacox]

I can turn up for appointments n meetings etc easy enough, I have no concept of time past, for example I could have sworn it gad been 6 months since I last saw my dentist; turns out he left the practice 2 years ago!

[@rebeccazegstroo6786]

Breaking a task down to what I need to do now works wonders. If something needs to be finished in 3 weeks, what is the third of it to be done this week, and what part of that should I do today? I always overestimate what I can do in an interval of time.

[@saransong5547]

This was very informative in giving me a lot of insight into why I have so much trouble with time. Thank you so much!

[@MR-yg5il]

Thank you for this content!

[@elanzaalberts9605]

Thank you for this insightful content!

[@jodibridgman7634]

I was enjoying your talk until the kale and exercise analogy. I am familiar with Barkely’s quote and the example you used is not my understanding of it. Eating kale and exercising is an actual willful choice. When Barkley talks about knowing what to do vs doing what you know, he is referring to an actual executive function issue and performance disorder, not an intentional choice. Honestly, a better example would be something like you know that you have to grab your keys before you walk out the door, but you still walk out the door without them.

[@autumngryffinnheart6374]

Thank you

[@stritbldel2382]

Thank you for your "time" and the insightful content..... Particularly liked your analogies re healthy eating - and how partners could rethink the issues to help themselves and their other half both get more out of life. Not sure if the latter is neural reprogramming or behavioral therapy with a carrot, but l believe it will work for a lot of people, certainly it would for me.

[@allasperans3984]

As an autistic with ADHD, plans ARE the blood contract and I get upset when I can't do it if I haven't given herself any other options😅 I am kinda good with scheduling (for a person for whom it's really hard), that's why I know that most advice about it here is not effective for me Otherwise, thank you

[@jeremys6631]

I had good grasp at this til 2020 and found out why I had under lying autoimmune disease called celiac. More or less I have 70% control of my ADHD. My health is good, now I just need to find new balance in life with both these things. Which I'm finding very hard to do ☹️

[@spocksdaughter9641]

Gut biome is the new frontier, for sure totally demands I respect it First, or my mind mood etc goes to Pot. Sleep is almost also my number one.

[@camellia8625]

Sounds hard. Hope you can manage to get the professional input you need for your celiac.

[@grahamr56]

4 minutes of intro waffle before the talk commences - not good for my ADHD brain.

[@saulgoodman6599]

Really good lecture but mic quality was bad.

[@healinspaces4u]

The intro is too long. Thank you for making the video though. Can I hear the content before committing to sign up?

[@braylenlandkey]

45:20 correct questions to ourselves.

[@braylenlandkey]

48:10 advices

[@wesleyedwards2764]

These webinars always seem a bit depressing. What a plethora of symptoms to simplify with a 3-4 letter acronym. I'm often curious if ADHD specialists have the disorder based on their understanding of the symptoms.

[@whoolawoop6817]

Some actually do...

[@ipattison]

At 27:27 By saying 'don't be resentful at the schedulers they are helping you get what you want done' I think he kinda misses the point. In the moment that is not actually what we want done. Otherwise we would do it.

[@wesleyedwards2764]

Exactly, but if we don't schedule it, then it will remain on the "to do" list forever. Full disclosure: I don't remember ever scheduling tasks and my "to do" list is just about too large and scary to contemplate.

[@chelebelle2223]

I don't know what's wrong with me, but I can't even stick to the schedule. It's a CATCH 22!

[@KimLostCatFinder]

great info but waited until 35 minutes for tis to do better?

[@soapylulu]

OMG. I quit after three minutes. Get to the guest speaker already. Do you know your audience?

[@killertofu88]

Just skip to the important part lol

[@MichaelBLive]

Eating healthy is WAY more important for healt AND to lose weight than calories OR exercise! And eat some kale sure, but no one food is magic. No one food is good to eat too much of.

[@katrianem2124]

Nope. Health foods are nutrient dense, and low calorie that’s all. That’s why it’s easier to lose weight eating salads than McDonald’s but if you eat 2000 calories of McDonald’s, it’s the same as 2000 calories of veg. If you want to improve your health - not your weight then healthy food matters.

[@ht7cs]

To whom it may concern, 54:20. Just saying. 😘

[@jonr6680]

Namechecking Barkley is good, but one thing HE has that this guy doesn't is clarity. Barkley presents as strikingly coherent beyond the norm and arguably the antithesis of ADHD. Whereas most other commentators or 'experts' are poor at presenting, woolly minded and incoherent. Basically phoning it in. Starting with Skype quality audio like the bottom of a well...🤪

[@wchen2340]

this. i was about to say about the same. but i got lost scrolling. thanks :-)

[@Mrhvac]

A 1-hour video for ADHD people? Are you kidding me? I'm looking for 4 to 5 minutes at the max. You lost me at why is.

[@Bizarro69]

4:08

[@holly7869]

My response to this endless advice of do this, not that, keep a list, is DON'T YOU THINK WE WOULD IF WE COULD??? Also, for someone who does as much public speaking as you, why haven't you figured out that each "um", "like", "you know" and "whatever" is distracting and unprofessional. "Being really consistent." Yeah, I'm working on that.

[@arabellacox]

Did you miss the bit where she said she has ADHD??!!

[@whoolawoop6817]

She does or he does? I actually missed it... My mind was wandering off after two minutes...

[@surpriseimblack]

It's only unprofessional if you're still in high school..

[@patriciajump9511]

You are making this all philosophical. Too philosophical. Listen, you put an $8 wall clock on the wall in every room, in the direction of your gaze. Also, I love allegory, I come up with allegories all the time. But if you try to teach me using "your" allegories, it may entertain me, but it likely won't teach me. I can only hold a certain number of items in my head at one time. Not enough room in there. So in my everyday life, I do not put everything away. A lot of things need to stay visible at all times as visual cues. If it's put away in the drawer, and I therefore have to stop to find it and get it out, that wastes a portion of the thinking space in my head. To do lists? I do not put them online. That is like putting them in the drawer. I re-write them - on paper - every single day. Divide page into four squares, each being a category. Catergories are 1.) Do at home - phone and online, 2.) Must use car - errands and shopping, 3.) "Soon," and 4.) "One day." Consequences? Don't motivate me. Rewards? That motivates me. Example: if I get ready for work early enough, I have time for a twenty minute walk before work. Also, if something really really matters, where someone will be hurt, left in danger, etc., then I will be on time. I just do it. I don't like this talk at all. You are brilliant, and I can't touch what you are accomplishing, but this talk is "foo foo," pretty to listen to, but not a lot of help, for me. But thank you anyway, and I know many are benefitting from this talk.

[@lisawhitehall1870]

Doesn't help to be blind in one eye..