Why it's so Difficult to Find Love in Barcelona

[@marcosrodes]

Barcelona local here. Now I live in Madrid. I travelled to more than 60 countries. What I can tell you, as a sort of summary, is that Barcelona to Spain is to what Dubai is to the Middle East. Barcelona is not “the real Spain”. Is just a playground for gringos, expats and digital nomads that want to experience the city short-term, for the most part. Catalans stay out from Barcelona centralized areas. Walking around Barcelona can feel that 70% of the people you cross are foreigners. It gets tiring at times, that vibe of feeling a local minority. But its a beautiful and fun city to experience, anyway. But not the most appealing place to settle down.

[@k91pl]

Spreading stereotypes 👎

[@ValeriaH-m8l]

I agree with that. I personally have lived in Madrid and I liked it a lot more, but it's because it was more authentic, local, Spanish, and foreigners who didn't adapt fully (fluent Spanish, adapt to the culture, etc) left pretty quickly because it wasn't set up for them the way Barcelona is. I would never live in Barcelona. I also just vibed with Madrid people so much more but I'm not super left wing so that might be why.

[@Thebluesky0311]

Sounds like your playing the victim card here. Barcelona is plenty of spain, and every big city is a playground! LOL

[@edefournas]

I agree ! I have been living and working in Barcelona for 4 years and it's a terrible city for long term or serious relationship. Here it's a city of butterflies 🦋 and ghosting. There are so many options and the expatriate life is huge in Barcelona. It's a city within the city. Many people feel alone in Barcelona despite the fact that they can meet or date a lot of people.

[@jakoflynn2560]

I settled and I loved it 7 years had great close friend group. But one of the deal breakers long term is to feel at home Catalans oblige you to learn Catalan. So the focus is on can you speak Catalan rather than are you a good person. With hindsight I would have learnt to speak Catalan just to make more of life there. Catalan women are money focused material cold and lack passion. That’s not an issue as there are plenty of amazing women from other cultures.

[@francescmoramarchal]

What an interesting piece of sociology in this video! After dating for more than 2 years with a French woman (I'm born and raised in Barcelona), what I can say is that I completely agree with what the American guy said about foreign people: They just hang out with people from their own countries, and as a result, their adaptation is zero. They're just creating their own ghettos here in Barcelona and trying to "squeeze" the benefits without making any effort to understand the culture… And obviously, this affects the personal relationships they have.

[@yasser7139]

Thank you so much for this insightful video! I’ve become a huge fan of your content. It’s not just educational; it’s incredibly eye-opening because it gives us a chance to see different parts of the world and learn about a variety of cultures. While it’s focused on dating culture, your videos offer much more there’s always something new to learn, and I truly appreciate the hard work you put into them. Regarding Barcelona, I don’t think the situation you described is exclusive to that city. In fact, cities like Montreal, New York, and Berlin seem to have similar dynamics. Open relationships and the desire to avoid commitment are becoming increasingly common in many large Western cities. It’s not just younger people in their 20s who are engaging in this lifestyle many people in their 30s and 40s are also embracing it. It seems that age is no longer a defining factor in these trends. Many people are still looking for stability and genuine connection, but others are trying to have the best of both worlds seeking love and sex without the responsibility of commitment. It’s a tricky balance, and I don’t think we can generalize too much. Even in a city like Barcelona, you’ll find all types of people: those looking for love, those seeking casual sex, some in open relationships, and others wanting commitment. Big cities offer a wide range of experiences and mindsets. It’s challenging for both men and women alike. Men also struggle with finding committed relationships. What saddens me, though, is that many people today seem to reject traditional values, viewing them as outdated or uncivilized. I disagree with that perspective. To me, traditional values aren’t about oppressing women or dominance; they’re about mutual respect, genuine love, and building a meaningful relationship not just about partying or casual sex. Personally, I’m not into the party scene, and I value deep conversations and authentic connections. However, it’s difficult to find like minded people who share these values. If you don’t drink, engage in casual sex, or follow the modern social trends, it can feel isolating, and people might even ghost you. But this issue isn’t unique to Barcelona it’s something that happens everywhere, unfortunately. At the end of the day, I believe in the freedom of choice. Everyone has the right to live their life as they see fit, but it’s definitely tough for those of us who prefer a more traditional approach to relationships. It’s a challenge, to say the least.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thank you for your sweet and thoughtful response! And I wholeheartedly agree with what you wrote. Couldn't have put it better -- Marina

[@Kabirio93]

I also dont drink and I absolutely hate parties. I really feel you

[@ingridgg93]

I honestly believe the big problem with modern dating is this hook up culture that has been extended worldwide, not only in Barcelona. As a Catalan who's been living in Bcn for +10 years and dated guys from multiple nationalities, I can really affirm is not "a Barcelona thing", it's a deeper social and cultural problem. We are living in the era of fast-love, making no f* effort, treating people like objects, and connecting with others in a superficial level. (Also, this "casual sex culture thing" is more of a men's game, a lot of times related to their need of validation, poor values and weak self-steem.)

[@maurogalarza4041]

Hook up culture >>>

[@jeanlundi2141]

Lol I was with you until you said it's more of a men's game. You haven't been paying attention. Unless Barcelona girls are totally different from everywhere else in Europe.

[@bikefax8177]

You missed the point about men. Watch Fresh and Fit to get a better idea

[@Kabirio93]

Everyone needs validation. Humans are made for validation each other. If a woman accept hook up also her self esteem is "low". Its not about men only. Both men and women can have "poor values" or actually "no values" at all (which is very frequent.)

[@ValeriaH-m8l]

Yeah it's a worldwide problem for sure. I personally think women need to stop being so casual about sex though. I know it's not totally our faults but we shouldn't be going around having sex with everyone and anyone just to have a good time. I'm super conservative with that but I know so many girls who have sex on the first date with EVERYONE they date, so of course men now expect that. And I do not have sex on the first date, I need much more and exclusivity is required. So when you operate like that in a world full of women who don't value their bodies at all, how the hell are women like us supposed to compete with that? Then these people end up in dysfunctional relationships that break up anyway and you have tons of damaged people. I personally do not have an interest in dating people like that, so there's less options. Barcelona is a hedonist's paradise too though. There's an element of your environment impacting you. My hometown in Canada is conservative (no, I don't mean alt-right, I mean the true sense of conservative). I don't fully agree with everything and I hate some of the way people can be too judgmental, but one good thing is that the men pursue women for serious relationships. They know they can't just text a girl and get sex, because most women respect themselves a bit more than that. Really, we all shape things. We women have an impact on men too. I get so frustrated with women who think "I can just do anything, they should still respect me" - that's not the point. Yes, do what you want, but realize you're ruining it for other women.

[@larsegholmfischmann6594]

I like to study sexology, couple- and dating science, and most studies show that a bit less than half of all people are non-monogamous in some way (gender non-specific). So, in a culture such as the ones in Berlin and Barcelona where everybody appear to engage in non-commiting relationships, some people will struggle/suffer. Then, I really have to stop and ask: when is freedom NOT freedom? Eg. we misconstrue hedonism and freedom by equating it to impulsive indulgence, which is not good for us all the time.

[@michaelmundy5754]

Thank you for this eye opener. I'm no stranger to Europe but still I found this to be a "WoW" experience.

[@bledarhazizaj8306]

p.s. in barcelona guys split the bill because they go out with around 10/15 ladies per month 😁. Imagine what financial tragedy would be for them to pay for all the ladies they go out with? 😁 they also pay a rent!

[@bikefax8177]

Where do they meet these ladies

[@takamonia8204]

@@bikefax8177tinder probably.

[@marcopolo1765]

@@bikefax8177 approaching in the streets. I was there at the beginning of this year, I stayed for 2 weeks and dated 9 girls. So yes, the restaurant bills are going to be considerably expensive after so many dates. 😂😂

[@harryofbc9942]

Great video Marina! More from Netherlands please

[@jordivilaaulina5945]

Barcelona ther's nothing to do with catalans it's a city apart where there are a lot of people with diferent backgrounds and mix of cultures, majority of catalans we are not that way, actually we are shy people and not so open minded at the first time, so we dont fit in the tipical stereotype of spanish person, that's more in the south. Stope using Barcelona as an example of spain.

[@ValeriaH-m8l]

I agree. The Catalans in the video are the most well-adjusted people in the video... and I always hear internationals in Barcelona complain about how Catalans are closed off to them. Of course they are lol. I don't blame them! So many insane internationals go to live in Barcelona. It's similar to where I live, how a lot of the foreign nationals are often not well-adjusted people, or only moved for economic gain (and therefore don't care at all about their community or the impact they have on it) or are bringing their dysfunctional cultural mindsets in. I think a lot of people in the world are tired of the constant change and "newness" of all these cultures. People generally want to be around people with similar values. Barcelona folks who are from Catalonia are probably just tired of it.

[@punchtravelchannel]

Really nice and informative video. I've visited Barcelona for the past three summers. It was so nice to see familiar streets in La Ribera, and El Born district. Oh you're making me miss it there so much. Barcelona kind of sounds like my home town NYC, where people are spoiled for choice. NYC however does not have any many transient people in the main dating pool. Thank you for the walk down memory lane. I'm going to look at my photos and vides and reminisce.

[@neoreign]

You need a whole episode with the French guy alone lol my guy!!

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

He was such a great representation of the city 😁

[@yenifa5925]

Classic lol

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

LMAO! That girl at beginning was right about run away from “go with the flow” people because when that French dude came on, looking like a vagrant yet talking like hes a catch I couldn’t stop laughing when he’s like yeah he goes with the flow 😂. Tbh most don’t seem happy with the situation there, it all seems like chaos lol.

[@TarotlogicallySpeaking]

Lmao! That man has definitely ruined somebody’s life romantically FOR SURE!

[@napster1987]

Here in Barcelona, Madrid and the rest of province of Spain, the most of people is really opened and no conservative. Amazing

[@kerlipeterson]

I wonder why most visitors of this shop are not much older than 30 is because something inside you changes normally around that time of your life - and probably it is for the better. :) ;)

[@graphicdesignmadrid1880]

funny thing , because apparently people say we Spaniards are womanizers , Then they come here and realize that people are respectful towards women. Sadly, they confuse us with latinos. and we are really different.

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Friday Marina ❤! Finding love in general is tough nowadays

[@noaharocha6674]

As a foreigner it would be hard to get together with a local Barcelona woman all because of other foreigners that are not from Spain that live there. Sad the way how things change in that way.

[@adamtash2891]

yeah exactly...ive been as an american for 5 years and 1 catalan friend...they AVOID ME...(and i have plenty of friends)

[@adamtash2891]

80% of catalan women will only date catalan men...so any foreigner here can only go for expats or tourists.....which makes it way harder for that group

[@exoticindiaa]

Rich man is everyone’s type, you are wrong. I have even see Iraqi, Afghan women marrying outside

[@osagiee.guobadia-secondytc4624]

Well in Brooklyn, New York. Every person is single to not fall in love. It takes some space and time when it comes to like meeting with people who are different and the time to just get to know each other before we date. Aquarians like myself can just have some work to do. No peer pressure necessarily. 😀♒️

[@oliverfa08]

Summing it all up: a liberal progressive country/place is not for a traditional conservative family, much less for love, it is for fun and entertainment.

[@Kabirio93]

I think there is nothing in the middle. For example I really like traditional relationships but I dont believe in marriage and I dont want kids. Usually is either you want JUST to have fun (liberal) or either is VERY conservative (kids+marriage).

[@michelleg7]

@@Kabirio93 wanting marriage or wanting no commitment is neither conservative or liberal it's everyone's personal choice to have what they want, if you don't want marriage great don't get married don't want kids then don't have them. But for me I like and would love to get married. I want the security for legal purposes but I am very liberal too.

[@RobbieFlores]

Great video, fan of the channel. One request, can you make a video about Slovenian dating culture? I’m very curious what it’s like there.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Unfortunately I am not in Europe at the moment and decided not to go to Slovenia. I did make a few videos on Hungary and Croatia which might be faaairly similar in many ways

[@AlexAlex-m7v]

Some serious crumpet in Slovenia, actually.

[@raymondmuench3266]

I loved the Frenchman’s Gallic shrug. Marvelous

[@gibememoni]

he could not be any more french

[@Charl_es19]

Western Europe: progressive, Eastern Europe: conservative.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

It depends. Portugal is much more conservative than Spain for ex but overall you are right

[@Damian12312]

If you think about Poland then forget, women are not conservative. They even don't how to cook simple meal. They speak about communication but doesn't know how to communicate 😄

[@lissandrafreljord7913]

More like Western Europe: liberal. I never understood why people use the word progressive and liberal like they are interchangeable, when they don't necessarily mean the same thing.

[@neoreign]

@@lissandrafreljord7913 Breathe, you'll be okay.

[@francescoromito198]

@@neoreignnot cool your gaslighting

[@terryschima4964]

Interesting. Good to know. But the only thing I want to see in Barcelona is La Sagrada Familia.

[@davidsmerkler]

Hey Marina. Congratulations on your video. Very realistic view of some of Barcelona. I have lived here for over 36 years now. I think I can truthfully say that Spain and most of the Barcelona metropolitan region is fairly conservative and traditional (not religous conservative, but conservatism born out of an originally religous culture.) What most visitors do not realise is that they are visiting a part of Barcelona which is only a fraction of the metropolitan area and this part (although it has grown in size) is essentially a playground for visitors. Barcelona's old city and some other areas are just a playground where you can buy drugs, alcohol and sexual services at very cheap prices. Barcelona and its politics is incredibly woke. The lack of seriousness in relationships does not extend to most of the locals. It is the laid back, woke, playground atmosphere that makes it this way. However, I don't think it is necessarily unique, just overwhelming in those parts of Barcelona where the population is transient. I think most major cities struggle with this situation. It's a combination of people not living in communities, "wokism", false ideas about feminism and consumerism which has transformed into an "instant gratification" culture. One can instantly gratify oneself with shopping, food, drugs and sex and this is what is happening in many parts of the world. This in turn produces addictions and compulsive behaviour.... I think that just means more lonely people in our big cities... Looking forward to anybody's comments. Kind regards.

[@Kabirio93]

Am I the only one that does not want a marriage but I just want a relationship? ahah it seems like people either wanna f**k around or super strict demanding marriage, kids and babies LOOOOL.

[@mickydee1289]

you are not the only one. I also just want a relationship. No marriage, no Babies.

[@alexandrejuve1305]

wasted

[@Dounia8686]

It’s actually difficult to find love everywhere in the world.

[@Frivals]

🙄All those women want the top 3% of men and they cry that those men don't want to commit for them! Only foolish couldn't understand this basic mathematics.

[@gibememoni]

Only in cities. In small towns people get married and have kids at 25 tops, spend the rest of their life together.

[@TheOnlyTaps]

Great watch as always 🫡

[@karelp5358]

Have you noticed that this only happens in places where there are endless options? Do you know why?

[@Србомбоница86]

Spain is the most liberal country EVER ,trust me , literally the most feminist and pro lgbt as well,I remember in the 90s I thought they were conservative 😂boy was I wrong

[@ContrarianExpatriate]

That is not liberal darling. That is woke progressivism.

[@stijn4771]

In the big cities here in Spain they are very open. However, in the countryside there is still a lot of hostility towards the lgbtq community, to the point where they beat up gay people and the police don't even do anything :/

[@neoreign]

@@ContrarianExpatriate Bingo.

[@Србомбоница86]

@@ContrarianExpatriate for me it very liberal

[@arctic5177]

@@ContrarianExpatriate You don't even know what woke means.

[@gewglesux]

"It's difficult to find love- full stop"

[@jfvb84]

The guy min. 7.42 talking about family and flow come on. Who are you kidding?

[@sergeigen1]

not even himself lol, that guy just look like an ultra clown.

[@MegaMayday16]

Adrien with his open shirt looks like a French Casanova already 😂

[@qero1987]

great content

[@milksmoothie]

The quality of your videos is getting even better! You do such a good job❤ it's so interesting and entertaining.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thank you!!

[@kbbarton1]

Yikes, that place is definitely not for me! Need something real.

[@jakoflynn2560]

You gotta be reasonably attractive I’m not sure that’s the sample cohort to reflect the more optimistic end of the dating market

[@einunbekannter498]

From all the videos I've watched from you (and I've been following your channel since 2021), THIS is truly the 1st and only one where I can say: "I didn't enjoy watching it." After this video I got the impression that Barcelona is messed up when it's about dating and relationships with true and real commitment. In the end where you said it's getting harder for the people over 30 or 35 to find something serious eventually, to me it's like karma or the consequences of your own actions. And then the stupid reason: "People come and go from different places and countries. And like around 25% are foreigners of the barcelonian population." So what? You got foreigners in different countries too and I don't think it's that hard to find out whether they're tourists or residents. If you know, then don't stick to the tourists if you don't like it. And the last point you mentioned about the commitment-problem in the end of the video: Yes, how can I be sure that such a person is still capable of committing to me? After already not being able to see committing as an option in their 20s and not having/wanting sth. serious? I'm so glad that I grew up in a conservative environment. Because if being liberal means things like those in your video, then I don't want to be any part of it.

[@SylvestarMakinda]

Something meaningful ,, am out of Barcelona daam

[@henri191]

"They end up in a threesome relationship" 😂

[@petrzalkai]

It’s like they don’t grow up and just keep living like college students. I would get tired of that probably

[@Radrives]

The french guy is a real flâneur

[@rublo1]

Have you do done Paris ??

[@ValeriaH-m8l]

I visited Barcelona this year as I had a job offer there & I immediately declined once I went to visit. The vibe of the city is just off. It's literally built for tourists at this point (I feel bad for Catalan people), you see all the international people from a certain region of the world going in to buy everything. I did once live in another city in Spain and had a great time but it was far more local-oriented, you're forced to speak Spanish, and it's more conservative so it's not so hedonistic. I could never live in Barcelona. Maybe 30 years ago since I heard it was great back then, but globalization has really ruined a lot of places. It's similar here in Vancouver... with all the foreigners moving here and confusing the culture, it's ruining dating even more. The reality is, people generally want to date people of similar understandings to them, that often means growing up in the same country or with similar values and it's much harder to find likeminded people when there's a lot of "multiculturalism" (but specifically when it's people who grew up in different countries, because if you have more ethnicities it's really not an issue if everyone grows up similarly in the same sort of area, kind of like how NYC thrives but Canadian cities don't as much, because Americans make you become American first... as Canadians, we should really start adopting this mindset because you can't have divided people live in the same place for too long, it doesn't work). I would not recommend Barcelona to any women who want a real relationship!

[@AbidiArief]

Hi good morning nice to meet you i m abidi from Indonesia greeting where are you from?

[@geeceepromo]

Barcelona was mad fun. I completely contributed to the transient vibe.

[@ibizawavey8630]

This is the problem with people from the west. You keep playing spin the bottle in your twenties then you get to your thirties and are scrambling like a quarterback in the 4th quarter?? why leave it to your 4th quarter, find someone in your 20s when all the options are there and settle down.

[@anetak.9494]

That is clearly not the problem. There is a lot of people in their 20s who also find it incredibly difficult to meet someone for something serious. And even in my late 30s I still habe plentyful options. The options are just as freedom loving and don't want to settle for anything serious.

[@Justaperson717]

It's not about Barcelona (or every other city). Men don't want to marry because it's a huge risk for them, and plus nowadays you can have a great life without marrying, and women want to marry, but only want to choose from a small group of men ("top candidates" who can always replace an "annoying" woman with another better version).

[@TheSuaveMaster]

Amen!

[@redleeks6253]

​@@TheSuaveMaster So why are gay marriages more than double than lesbian marriages? In every country where marriage is legal?

[@Max-om5gh]

Whilst here in London it looks like Pakistan and the Middle East.

[@Ufu4847]

And India.

[@exoticindiaa]

Except indians, these Paki women only marry Pakis because of their so called “Halal” culture

[@Milkapril]

Look my trini friend

[@sebastianf6499]

I’m curious what is dating like for gay men and other individuals in the LGBT community. “Straight dating” is completely different from the dating experiences from those like me in the LGBT community.

[@Србомбоница86]

Gay men have a lot more sex ,thats it ,more conservative gays in west are quite lonely since they are not in to casul sex like most gay men are

[@HonestTalksWithLucas]

gay dating in Barcelona is even worse.

[@ricorock6762]

Much worse! I mean, if you are not into commitment, then this is your playground.

[@jaspreetmanchanda7043]

🤟🏻

[@adamtash2891]

can you please interview me for this video lol

[@OscarOrtiz-w2h]

Wow

[@tpop3723]

The std rates must be off the charts there.

[@N_Loco_Parenthesis]

A 'threesome relationship'? So, a menage a trois?

[@rjflores438]

Again women are not realising that they are choosing the small percentage of men that have options with other women.

[@anetak.9494]

Where do they do that? God forbid we have to have some kind of chemistry with the guy too. I personally would not want to be with a guy with poor body hygiene, fat and crooked teeth just to not stay alone. I have to find him attractive.

[@diofromyozgat]

Thats all man😂not small percentage of them...

[@PaulaOx]

Small percentage. Most of the men there are average 😂😂 So many average men thinking they are adonisis

[@karelp5358]

Finally someone addresses the elephant in the room. The funny thing is that no one mentions this because more than half of men are invisible to women. And the men they want can of course be with many women, and why not?

[@anetak.9494]

@karelp5358 God forbid women have preferences and standards and these men behave in a way which is attractive to women. Those invisible men are invisible for a reason. And not the reason you might think because of your redpill manosphere propaganda. For a woman, the goal is not to find just any man to not be alone. Women want to find a partner that will complement their life. And if there is only 5% of men with emotional intelligence, I gladly go for only this 5%.

[@Highwayzero]

Open sex relationship with others ? Sick !

[@santostv.]

I thought most catalans only dated other catalans, at least is what I heard, yes people say Spanish women are easier than Portuguese women still didn’t know polyamorous relationships were common there, seems like the Japanese where going to “the ladies” isn’t cheating.

[@dreampopwavestudiob7282]

I used to love Barcelona as a kid after the Summer Olympics. I'm 42 now still living in the USA. What I assumed was nice art, apts, and seafood has changed. Some people I met from that area have a very dislike for the Latinos here I have no idea why. Probably they assume they are better than us and we are darker. The women were act5ually nice the guys not so much extremely nasty attitudes Barcelona = people who couldn't afford Italy hahahahaha

[@veis]

Barcelona hasn't been getting a good rep lately. Sad

[@AmorFati-n6q]

@@veis I was there in 2016 and it wasn't a very welcoming place. I did not like what I saw, at all. They're at least 200 years behind North America but with better nightlife. That's it

[@veis]

@@AmorFati-n6q very good feedback. Thank you!!

[@Србомбоница86]

​@@AmorFati-n6qCatalans are strange people

[@ren21uu]

I'm a woman and I think so too. The men are a little like incels

[@MegaMayday16]

BSo maybe instead of dating let's interview mother s who gave birth one or two years ago just to understand how in this dystopian times homo sapiens do even procreate. Under which circumstances they got pregnant how is the relationship ,marriage situation if any and how is the family and support background. I feel like we just like to look at dating like watching the flowes without taking into consideration the fruit. By now we should know that it got too easy to fulfill wishes ( feeling loved having stability having support family) outside of relationships ( by friendships food delivery services and so one). Lets try to discover if the last realm of procreation ( sperm plus egg cell) and raising up kids does somehow involve two persons still ( mum dad partner partner or what ever). If thats also kot happening we can probably just check ✔️ the box and understand that everything is just hedonism and fulfilling desires and hoping that the newest ai shit us satisfying enough to replace that

[@arslansultanbekov]

Barcelona is ruined.

[@rokasdobrovolskis]

Watch "Europa the last battle" 12h documentary.

[@takamonia8204]

I wonder what veneric diseases think about love life in Brn😂

[@fol6154]

Was in Barcelona a few years back. Nothing to see there. Period!

[@jakoflynn2560]

Se puede ligar se puede encontrar alguien

[@rafae5902]

It's kinda funny being a feminist and at the same time wanting serious commitment from men and a family.

[@diofromyozgat]

Why?

[@rafae5902]

@@diofromyozgat Well, feminists will say it's about equality, but when you see the laws being created in favor of women and only women, it becomes clear that, at least in a societal level, feminism only benefits women and in many cases it comes to the expense of making things harder for men. What it creates is polarization, division and mistrust between sexes. Now, tell me, isn't that the best possible recipe to worse relationships between both sexes and therefore less commitment and less family stuff? Many feminists will also say that it's "fine" and that's how it's supposed to be and that's men's fault. Feminism is about separation, not union.

[@gardeniabrune2125]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@rafae5902that’s because for all of history women have not been even close to equal to men societally. Even today the pay gap is severe, and when women have a child, their career suffers while men’s will do better because they are seen as more ‘reliable.’ So of course laws will be made to help ease this gap, this is the road to equality. Seeing it as just ‘making it harder for men’ is really just allowing women to slowly have the same opportunities that men do. Being a feminist is wanting women to be able to make their own choices about whether they should marry or have kids or stick to a career for life, and to take away the societal stigmas that make these choices harder. Equality is the goal, and unity will come, but it’s difficult for many men to acknowledge that as women have more rights and opportunities similar to their own, they have to share the playing field.

[@rafae5902]

@@gardeniabrune2125 While I don't agree with everything you wrote, the only thing that REALLY bothers me are the law changes concerning violence/rape/harassment men > women and how sexist and unfair they are. I think we all agree that no one should be considered guilty without proof, but somehow, magically, logic gets throw through the window when it comes to men and women interactions being regulated by law in feminist countries. No matter how much you try to push this unfair agenda, it will not solve the problem and will only generate backlash because of its unfairness.

[@JuanNunez-qo6ii]

Woke craziness

[@Kailotus-tg9nk]

1nc3l spotted, opinion rejected.

[@AlexAlex-m7v]

Caution: A video on Patriki St, Moscow by night may grieviously harm the woke lot.

[@julius_nuernberger]

Haram.

[@Frivals]

18:16 "people who struggle the most are women over 30 years old" what???🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🙄 You forgot that 90% of men don't get any woman at any age? All those women want the top 3% of men and they cry that those men don't want to commit for them! You have 10 years speaking about relationships but still didn't understand this basic dynamic??🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🙄

[@marcopolo1765]

If you ask these women, who are these men who don't want a serious commitment, you will realize that it is always the same man profile: "6 pack, 6 foot, 6 figures..." And what's the reason these guys don't want commitment? The answer is simple: because they don't need it! Why commit to a single woman when there are dozens of others offering them everything? If these women who complain about men's lack of commitment would look at “normal guys” and give them a chance, they would see that there are many guys who want and seek serious relationships. The current situation is the result of female hypergamous behavior, where women only desire the top 3% of men.

[@particleinthewave8378]

Las Vegas is very similar in that it’s not easy to date here. Lots of visitors, lots of options/distractions and few commitments

[@Frivals]

13:55 🤮🤮🤮🤮👎🤬😨🤯

[@michelleg7]

Jeez, I just don't get the appeal of Barcelona. There is sooo many place in Spain and every tourist goes there its over done. I would like to explore Toledo, Pamplona, Galicia and Granada. Go look at Tarragona or Zaragoza instead of Barcelona. But Spanish men are not exactly known for initiating interest and just coming up to a woman. And many young Spaniards still live at home so don't be surprised they don't live on their own. The over tourism needs to stop there so the citizens can live in lower rent homes and there needs to be laws around Airbnbs and not people getting thrown out of their homes by landlords so they get turned into them.

[@elkrim8936]

"Spain, Spain, Spain.." "Here in Spain blah, blah" "Women in Spain, men in Spain". Catalonia is NOT neither "Spain" nor "France" and we Catalans are NOT "Spanish" nor "French"! Full stop. Just as Irish are not English, Ukrainians are not Russians, Japanese are not Chinese..and so on. Please put that in your head and your mind. Thanks 🍋🍅🍋🍅🍋🍅🍋🍅🍋

[@lxportugal9343]

Got it 👍 😁

[@jaorXLUZ]

Catalonia is a Spanish region, Castilian is the language most commonly used in Catalonia, and in the last regional elections only 42% of Catalans voted for separatist options. The nationalist stories about Catalonia not being Spain, or about Catalans not being Spanish, are increasingly losing ground. Furthermore, it would not even make sense to say that Catalans who have Catalan as their mother tongue (many, but not the majority) are not Spanish, because there is no ethnolinguistic criterion to determine whether someone is Spanish or not, but rather it is based on Spanish citizenship, but that is another debate. Catalonia is legally Spain, Catalans (from Catalonia, I do not include here the people from French Roussillon) are legally Spanish, the majority of Catalans feel Spanish, and the majority language is the same as in the rest of Spain, despite the autonomous education system. Then..."blanco y en botella".

[@Apadelapa]

¿No gobierna el Partido Socialista Obrero Español en Cataluña? ¿No dice Reino de España en tu DNI?

[@michelleg7]

@@elkrim8936 whatever, the history of Catalonia shows it always was a Spanish territory a principality that was under Aragon. Catalans are not any more special then galicians, valencians or asturians. The people who are different are the Basque so sit on that for a while and stop whining

[@Utubedeletescomments]

Dating is not hard for women , they just all want the same guys.

[@MooseWombleMole]

It's the same problem as everywhere, women have endless options, they can't get a guy to commit because they want the most popular men. These men don't have to commit because they're getting what they want out of the relationship, and there's nothing that sets these women apart from the majority for them to want to date them longer term. Women can get a casual relationship with the most desirable men, but the men looking for a serious relationship they don't deem worthy, they don't even realise what's happening because these men are invisible to them. Interview these men and you'll get a very different story.

[@Utubedeletescomments]

@@MooseWombleMole As a man that's been with MANY women from MANY different countries , everything you say is true.

[@ddrid854]

Yes 80% of men are invisible to women that keep dating and switching men from the top 20%

[@anetak.9494]

​@MooseWombleMole absolutely not true. Women go for the average guy and he will fail her just as much.

[@diofromyozgat]

Thats not true at all lol. Its like saying man only like/go for blondes with big breasts

[@impoor7982]

Who wants to have a 1 week friend ...

[@elperro3056]

Spain going to shit

[@thomaspugh9969]

You can thank feminism for this.

[@michelleg7]

@@thomaspugh9969 wtf? That's ridiculous

[@rublo1]

Splitting the bill over a drink or coffee 😂😂😂 boy bye

[@michaelr2454]

Sodom and Gomorrah? 🤔

[@tobiasgoldman]

I have so little interest in going to Barcelona. Sorry guys.

[@Bharat_darshan00]

We need more places like this, we are close to 2025 yet we have a conservative mindset about these basic things called love and relationships. Just let people live their lives, let them go wherever they want , stop putting cultural and social boundations

[@anetak.9494]

Nope. Actually a lot of women are opting out from dating entirely because they are fed up with this development.

[@canchero724]

Have you tried living there? It's hell to build a relationship of any kind platonic or non platonic when people are this carefree about everything. If you're a person who needs genuine connection with other people, it's not a great place

[@einunbekannter498]

A year has nothing to do with anything. As I said before, if liberal/progressive means "relationships" like the ones here in the video, then I'd choose to be conservative every time. And to me polyamorism is cheating through the back door. And by the way, yes, I let such people live their lifes. But I DON'T HAVE TO clap the hands for that or celebrating it. Because for me that's messed up what's going on in Barcelona according to this video.

[@michelleg7]

@@einunbekannter498 no liberal does not mean having relationships like this! This type of behavior means no people want to do the work it takes to have a relationship, which is pure laziness and fear of being vulnerable and don't want to get hurt.