Why It's so Difficult to Find Love in Montreal

[@yushikuang7877]

Live more than 46 years in Montreal as immigrants even if spend my entire life there just because of my asian ethnicity. Québécois men are usually cool, nice, good sense of humour and prone gender equity in all aspects of life. This make them very easy to be approche but as they are raise in gender equity values… they expect a girl to be independent. If you go to meet his friends, don’t he will be intruduse to each of friends, bring you food, stay on your side so you don’t feel alone… no he will expect you to go around and introduce yourself, try to fit with his friends. In some culture it’s considered rude so why? 1) Because of gender equity and women shouldn’t be see like a week gender and need support from a man 2) Historical, France populate Quebec with “les filles du roi” . Those women are strong, can give birth to 13 kids, be pregnant again and take care of the farms chores. Québécoise has that attitude that I don’t need you, i can make my things happen, but I like you so you are the lucky man you can share my life. I see a lot of mixte couple and it still work well coz if have grewup here, you know what to expect… i agree gender equity kills some protective competences or “I’m the main bread earner” ego but I really believe Quebecois male do a lot more home chores and are more actively implicated on kids education than any other culture out there.

[@kaleeysmith8801]

are you asian male or female in quebec? don't asian males face hatred and racism in quebec like all western countries do against asian males?

[@myriam3029]

This is a really accurate resume

[@naoufaltakroumt6373]

use the term Equality instead of equity

[@Rankutubuki88]

Yes very accurate!

[@matthewlynch903]

The only reason its said that Montreal has a European vibe to it is due to speaking another language other than english. Many parts of Montreal look exactly like neighborhoods in NY City.

[@Solo_Wargame]

That's true...but you forgot to mention that Montreal has kept it's old city intact, which is extremely rare in North America but very common in the Europe. Also the mentality of the people is more laid back and talkative than the rest of America.

[@ericwarren2176]

Like French is supposed to be European but not English.

[@veroniquelauzon2801]

There are many similarities between Montreal and NewYork and I can imagine downtown Montreal looking like a small NewYork or perhaps a neighbourhood like the McGill campus being more Victorians-like style, I am sure there is something similar in New York. Same thing for the Mile-end as an ex-popular jewish neighbourhood now gentrified, Montreal having the largest Jewish community in North America after New York, it is easy to imagine a similar neighborhood in New York with incredible bagels and deli. However, as someone mention, there is no equivalent of the old Montreal in New York and I doubt that there is the equivalent of the Plateau either. As someone else mentioned, Montreal is more lay back. The work-life balance is quite different, there is less pressure for having a career, more room to enjoy the "dolce vita". I am from Montreal, living in France for the last four years, and I used to work for an American company based in Boston. I feel Montreal is somewhere in the middle but probably more North American than European.

[@tommyjacob5704]

mass immigration don't help too there is less than 46% of french queb in montreal now....in few years montreal will be like new york in every aspect

[@user-pe5qy1zw6y]

⁠@@tommyjacob5704 but many immigrants that came here integrated quite well in many ways

[@leloupdessteppes3228]

I've lived in Montreal for over 10 years, first as a student and then as a professional. Between 2010 and 2019, Montreal was a nice city to live in, but things have changed quite a bit since then. One of the main problems I experienced there is the inability to build anything long-term because everything feels temporary. Few people, especially immigrants, stay there permanently. While the Quebecois remain, there is an invisible barrier between them and foreigners. Quebecois people are quite closed in their private relationships. Due to historical reasons, theirs is a very isolated culture, making it extremely hard to integrate, almost clannish. The only way to truly fit in is to be born into a predominantly Quebecois environment outside the main cities. Quebecois people won't explain why they behave this way because they dislike conflict. As politically correct individuals, they aim to appear open-minded and friendly, a survival tactic from the days of English conquest and domination of their land. This façade also serves as a marketing strategy, as Montreal's economy heavily depends on immigration through student visas, university fees, housing, and renting. However, hidden forms of xenophobia and a refusal to intermix are prevalent. This creates a paradoxical situation where the friendliness experienced during the "honeymoon phase" of arrival fades, revealing a lack of concrete actions to foster real connections. Most foreigners and immigrants end up dating other immigrants, as very few feel truly at home in Montreal due to the inability to connect and integrate into the local culture. This leads to a cycle of people leaving and having to start anew repeatedly. Many people I've met were terribly lonely and depressed in Montreal. If you don't speak French, it's even worse, as you're considered an intruder and despised. Montreal presents a beautiful façade, appearing as a perfect mirage of the Canadian utopian dream of multiculturalism with a supposed "European touch." However, there is no real sense of culture and belonging. Even the Quebecois themselves are gradually being phased out of their metropolis, causing the French Canadian culture that once attracted so many people to slowly disappear and become mere folklore, similar to the Wendat Huron community near Quebec City. As a French Caribbean man who has dated Quebecois women, I observed that Quebecois women are often extremely masculine and out of shape. This isn't meant as a judgment, just an observation. Relationships are generally not deep, as there is a significant culture of drug consumption and hookup culture. My best experiences were with the Latin and Asian communities, where I built strong bonds and relationships. Overall, Montreal is a great place to live as a student and for short-term fun. But for anything else, it's best to move on.

[@turkai43]

Well said 👏👏👏👏

[@gianellab.4953]

Well you clearly have immigrants that stay here haha But I agree. As the daughter of immigrants, born and raised in Montreal, most of my friends are immigrants (or children of immigrants). I went to an international French school, so that did not set me up to a good start. But I had many hobbies, I joined the air cadets, I later worked with many Quebecers. Right now, I teach French and most of my colleagues are Québecois. Each time, it's the same thing. Everybody is always nice, but you never fit in. You're at the margins of their social sphere. I don't particularly mind because I have my friends and family, but it definitely does create a divide in the Montreal community and identity. Recently I had a conversation with a Quebecois complaining about things I just never had experienced (or noticed). That's because his Montreal and my Montreal are two different worlds. It's a shame.

[@obesia1873]

My experience as an immigrant is that many immigrants won't learn French and then complain that they aren't integrated. You kinda need to speak the local language if you want to participate in society and Montreal does have many bilingual people but it remains a mostly francophone city. Also, by not learning French, YOU signal to a quebecois friend or love interest that you arent here permanently or seriously intending to be a member of this beautiful society. I learned French and fully was able to integrate my Quebecois bf's family and friends circles and people are super welcoming. Your experience does not reflect everyone's and I think presenting your experience as a universal truth is a disservice and tells more about you than quebecois people who are indeed very welcoming and open to the world as proven by how multicultural it is as well as its great reputation worldwide compared to say Toronto.

[@YimingCai]

Thank you for being so frank!

[@ThePolimath]

Très vrai. On dit de Montréal qu’elle est constituée de « Deux solitudes » (anglais et français), mais maintenant il y a trois solitudes, avec les immigrants au milieu qui sont déchirés. Mais ça prend la curiosité de s’intéresser aux Québécois parce que bcp d’immigrants ne cherchent pas à nous connaître ni à faire eux-mêmes le pas tant désiré.

[@MadMaxJuggernaut]

Lived here for 26 years, I've had way more conversations with women randomly in public when I went on my euro trip (2018) for 2 weeks than most of my life in Montreal. I even have some friends that went on their first trips to Europe last month and they were definitely shocked at how right I was and it wasn't just because "You don't have game" but in fact it's "you don't have game for women in and around Montreal"

[@JJ-vp3bd]

Why is the dating scene lame in that city

[@MadMaxJuggernaut]

@@JJ-vp3bd if you don't look a certain way it's hard to get someone. So the whole be 6 feet tall, ripped AF is fairly true, even the fatter women want that. But when I went to Netherlands, Germany, Iceland, Switzerland and even Ukraine I had zero difficulty socializing with women. With guys it's a different thing because guys are usually down to chill with people

[@JJ-vp3bd]

@@MadMaxJuggernaut is it mainly a us western thing where people act like this

[@thebowandbullet]

People are overly hung up on gender roles. We can ALL be kind, romantic, strong, independent, career-driven, family-oriented, nurturing. None of those aren't gender-specific qualities; they're the qualities of a well-rounded, mature, mentally-healthy adult.

[@Mxlch999]

EXACTLY !!! a man doesnt have to be a damn gorrilla .. he can be sensitive , feminine , shy , anti socials etc

[@RyanPs3gamer123]

REJECT MODERNITY AND SEXUAL DEGENERACY, EMBRACE TRADITIONNALITY

[@savageindian8978]

True AF I want a female who understands that

[@ShivMathur]

That’s the reason for separations. Too much independence

[@Mxlch999]

@@ShivMathur its not the reasons its because its too easy now , womens can go from a man to another man under 24hrs .

[@lovepriestess144]

Having lived in Montreal for 8 years, I highly agree with the opinions that were expressed during the video. Coming from Greece, I felt that the dating scene in Mtl was WAY different than what I was used to. I was rarely pursued in person and the men I met through dating apps were flaky for the most part. I felt that men were more in their wounded feminine energy (being more passive, indecisive, flaky) while women had to be in their masculine energy (decision-making) more often. The polarities were reversed. The city didn't really agree with my energy, I prefer more traditional relationship values and I like to be in my feminine energy mostly 🌹

[@9y2bgy]

" I like to be in my feminine energy mostly" So, passive, indecisive, and flaky according to your own words?

[@lovepriestess144]

@@9y2bgy I was referring to wounded feminine energy traits above. I try to be in my healthy feminine and masculine energies (we all have both energies within). It's a delicate balance to achieve, there is lots of information online for research.

[@Indigenous_Briton.007]

I went to Canada, it's a whole new world, despite it is half Anglo. I am macho, so I repair the motors, carry bags, and haul sledges, but some women always got questions. The only feminine trait I have is being gentle to women and children, but I will never let go of my masculinity. An effeminate man with a beard isn't a good look.

[@lovepriestess144]

@Anglo-Mountaineer007 keep it up! These traits are super rare nowadays 👌🏻 Btw, embodiment of both energies when needed while sticking to one's core energy (in your case masculine) is super balanced. I love men who are connected to their emotions, vulnerability and gentleness while also being able to protect/provide/make decisions 😍

[@Indigenous_Briton.007]

@@lovepriestess144 well said, thank you for your understanding! :)

[@takanoritoriyama]

having been to eastern europe now I realize Canada has maybe the worst dating scene in ther world in terms of using dating apps and trying to get dates/ meeting girls

[@corriveau21]

I agree the dating scene in in Quebec is worst

[@nathalie_desrosiers]

The dating in USA is even worst. At least, in Quebec, there is no game playing. It is more straight forward.

[@41italia]

@@nathalie_desrosiers there is game playing in Quebec.

[@VladislavBabbitt]

@@corriveau21 What about the other provinces?

[@nathalie_desrosiers]

@@41italia Then this is new. I guess I'm too old to go back in the dating pool.

[@corriveau21]

all those women saying quebeker women are more direct and that they are the one doing the approch are lying don't beleive what you heard in this video

[@LeveritableSelecto]

Exactly..shit like that barely happens if never 😂 I never understood where does this myth come from. Let alone happening in a city such as Montreal that is an hardcore cockfest with so many girls that have such an inflated-ego and that are incredibly brainwashed by feminism. Sad to say but the old days of Montreal are way behind us..

[@dez7800]

I mean.. I think it's true, but only because I think it absolutely never happens in some countries. It still is quite rare for women to make the first move here, but it does happen, which is more than never.

[@bla-bla-bla...]

There is a historical explanation. From the beginning of this society, to the women deported from France was given the right to leave the man if she didn't like stay with. So, the women could change men many times. There were one women to forty men at the beginning so the social psihologie was shaped different then a society with continuity were the ratio was opposite 3 women for one man (men were dying in wars). In traditional societies women lived a competition for men, improving their cooking skills, their appearance, their clothes and hair, their art talents, their homes and so on. In quebec the women lived another fenomen, neglect for all this to hide themselves somehow from a men-hyperatention and hyper-sexual-exploitation and harassments. The first women hadn't the protection of their father/brothers like it's in a tradition of society with continuity. The free choices-women from beginning explains the today behavior and the quick changes of partners explains the missing of deep emotional reliance. The hyper-sexual-needs from that time explains the culture of nonexistence of art in the conquering the heart of women. The homosexuality also dates from that time, 50 years (so the entire generations) on thar lands, before receiving the "king's daughters" lived only men (phenomeun specific to the armies during the wars but that was for a concrete period of time not the giving birth to a society phenomen). The first women hadn't the education of their mothers for the domestic skills. So, here don't exist a continuity of traditianality in cooking recipes, in moral behavior, and so on. The brutality was an instrument of protection but also a behavor of their social class in France. That things from beginning were sent through generations because the children do that they saw at their parents. So, the descendants of those women are brutal, usually immoral and the intrigues in the back have the origins in the Salpetrie culture of 17th century. If in Acadie were deported the Bretogne women (fille a mariée) from France in a ethnic cleansing stratégie, in Quebec (not Montreal) were deported girls from the women prisons - hospitals this women with mental problems. This girls weren't orphans but adult women with strange/uncontrollable behavior. At that time, missing the knowledge of pshicologie, they were called "devil's women". The gens of that women, majority from Salpetrie prison, compose the 60% of Quebec society. In a normal society, the psychological problems can be in a proportion of 2%. If you collect this 2% and you send them in a virgin land and you create a new, those 2% will became at least 80% of genetically inherited mental problems/behavior in the new society. Montreal at that time was not inhabited. There were only the military, and peoples military protected (administration, aristocracy...). Montreal's social status began with the Irish settlement - survivors of Irish famine from 1850. The Irish identity of Montreal was erased by socio-political harassment of Duplessis regime. The north rive (the south are the descendants of the loyalists) is feels like a general mental deviated society. Unfortunately, that society brings a lot of space in the public services, so the chaos is everywhere: health, provincial roads, primary education (less secondary because there it's requested another intelectual level and time of preparation) and so on.

[@haikaikokoni369_]

You simply never encountered a direct QC woman before, and aren't within any circles of this type of woman.

[@zk9771]

It’s not only Montreal it’s all of Canada, the real reason is that all women want the 1% best of men.

[@000wanderlust]

Any research to support that? Because all around me and online I see women dating regular ass dudes. That goes for all genders and different types of relationships. It just seems like people who blame their dating woes on women wanting only the top 1% of men aren't taking responsibility for their own actions. Go outside, take a look around. You're really going to tell me that the ONLY guys who in relationships are the top 1%?

[@LeveritableSelecto]

Dating was something very fun in Montreal 20-25 years ago. Especially as an ethnic man. Since about 10-12 years from now on you feel that there was a sudden change that occured. The city is just not what it used to be and the girls are more than ever pickier, uninterested and just not really excited at the idea of meeting up like before. I directly put the blame on the whole social medias that have defragmented the society and at this point I may be wrong at judging Montreal when actually the entire West if not the whole world could probably be just the same if not much worse.

[@loyalfish2761]

20-25 years ago you were that much younger. Not calling you old but you know, dating when you're older IS tough.

[@LeveritableSelecto]

@@loyalfish2761 I'm just 32. I'm indeed old enough to remember that the 2000's time period was radically different from the 2010's decade but hey I think it's a worldwide thing

[@loyalfish2761]

​@@LeveritableSelecto You're so young man, enjoy it.

[@LeveritableSelecto]

@@loyalfish2761 Not so much. About to get married and have absolutely to get the ish together. But each phase of this life has its own flavour and charm lol

[@Zygmunt-Zen]

I grew up in Ottawa, lived 3 years in Toronto area in early 20s and hated it. Especially dating scene. Been in Montréal ever since. Married with kids. End of story.

[@veroniquelauzon2801]

I am a Montrealer living outside of Montreal for the moment and happily married for more than 20 years to a European. So, I have not dated in a while! This being said, what was said about casual relationship was already true at the time. I recall going to France for the first time when I was in my early twenties and being surprised by a French men who thought we were together because we kissed at a party...and I realized that I had to "break-up" with him when he held my hand the next day. In Montreal, the same kiss would have led to, perhaps, the person inviting me on a date if interested for more, but definitely not holding my hand the next day thinking that we are together. This experience plus the comments in this video make me realize that their may be more "casual" kissing and hooking up happening in Montreal than elsewhere. This being said, this does not mean that people are more afraid of relationships, we may just enjoy more (or being less socially constrained by the idea of) the "fooling around" while waiting for the right relationship. Québécois have the same average number of children than in comparable Western countries and a similar proportion of single-parents. This means that family compositions are similar, there are as many couples, etc. What differs though is that a majority of Québécois, men and women alike, do not consider the wedding institution to be relevant. Probably because of the anti-religion context that was described. I recall a survey performed perhaps 20 years ago where they asked teenage girls if they wanted to be married one day and have children. Their answers about wanting children was very similar than in the rest of Canada, US and Europe, but I think it was something like 60% of them who did not care about being married...but this did not mean they did not want to be in couple! It is just the marriage institution that was perceived as antiquated.

[@VladislavBabbitt]

Excellent post. You have understood the meaning of the "Quiet Revolution" in the 1960s. It was the rapid transition from the "Grande Noirceur" to the period of the 1970s. Quebec society rapidly caught up to the sex-crazed times of the 1970s and 1980s.

[@John055TO]

The ending "are you getting married then" was so funny.

[@VladislavBabbitt]

Marriage? This went out of date generations ago, LOL.

[@michaelmundy5754]

I'm pleasantly astonished seeing the change in Montreal - it was a delightful experience on prior visit but now motivates returning for an extended stay soon. Thank you for this timely release. 😊

[@VladislavBabbitt]

When was your first visit?

[@matteojaco8642]

YOU TOLD MEN THEY WERENT NEEDED ANYMORE

[@bazooextreme167]

exactly and now they’re mad😂😂

[@hershey5790]

@@matteojaco8642 To be fair, Quebec women always been independent, unlike French or American women pretending to be independent when they’re really shameless world-class gold diggers…

[@zavomika8306]

Il faut pas déranger les femmes il faut les laisser seule dans leur solitude chacun pour soi ✌️

[@kamwalker6296]

Toute des folles narcissiste anyway lol

[@R._L.]

🤭

[@Mxlch999]

pour ca je me tien loin des femmes , ca suffit sfaire briser lcoeur

[@tomserserick7738]

​@@kamwalker6296SORT DE CE VILLE, CE NEST PAS POUR DATING, TU AS COMPLETEMENT RAISON, CEST UNE VILLE SEULEMENT POUR EDUCATUON ET CONDO

[@kamwalker6296]

@@tomserserick7738 Je ne date pas c'est une perte de temps et d'argent

[@myriam3029]

This is a really good video. The background info about our relationship to religion was a really good add-on for the general public. Props! Sounds like the girl who kept trashing on poly people and the general dating scene has had some really bad experiences. I don't think it represents the dating scene for real though. I think it's important to keep in mind that the dating scene with francophone montrealers and anglophone montrealers are very different.

[@JAG214]

Why does it always have to be the men who have to make the woman happiest all the time for better or worst

[@rehmsmeyer]

Go to eastern Europe and it's the opposite.

[@vocativusss]

@@rehmsmeyer oh you can't be more wrong :)

[@toomuchinformation]

It isn't. Where did you get that idea from the video?

[@rehmsmeyer]

@@vocativusss Promise I know better than you do 😋

[@canchero724]

That's the message drilled into society by media and literature. Women's happiness is the goal and men are the heroes and saviours working their whole lives to make it happen. To break free from this mindset you need to seperate from tbe hive mind and you can imagine that the majority won't do that.

[@JacobW567]

The comparison is so true...although I live in Toronto, hell yes! It's stiff and so business oriented... Torontonians don't like to mingle (especially with anyone different from them) and communities end up staying closed : Whites hang out with whites, Indians with Indians, Chinese stay together...this is where you realize the "vivre ensemble" has failed...You may ask someone in the street for directions or in a grocery store and they are sort of distraught and you feel like you have disturbed them. Montreal is more open and friendly...Whenever I visit, I love the people!

[@MonaBradbury]

@@JacobW567 that’s all of Canada, not just Toronto. I’ve experienced that same awkward weirdness in Ottawa, Montreal, and even Halifax, having lived in all of them. I was raised in the UK

[@viktoriax8042]

visiting for pleasure and living are two different things. You have to live to understand the truth. Don't judge the book by its cover.

[@Solo_Wargame]

Feminism and liberal lifestyles have kinda ruined the dating scene in Montreal.

[@LeveritableSelecto]

It did indeed but many others factors such as mass-immigration, social medias and anti-procreation which are phenomenons that affect the whole West as well.

[@elieeisenberg4556]

It’s been like that for years. Maybe 30-40 years so idk how old you are but if you’re young then you’ve got no idea! :)

[@LeveritableSelecto]

@@elieeisenberg4556 i'm lived enough to remember that things weren't like that 20-25 years back. It got definitely worse overtime though.

[@b3lurxxxm3duza]

" québécois men are very funny" if you don't like sarcasm, yes. They all say they are sarcastic, but the latinos and Brits Will differ

[@karima_MK]

As a French, it was horribly difficult to meet someone in Montréal. I am quite shy when come the time to date. In France, I used to hang out alone so men weren't intimidated to come to me. But québécois don't help: no eye contact, no small talk. They never made me comfortable. My husband is from Venezuela and had the same issue with women. Cold harted women. Dating in Montreal is a disaster.

[@Neoteny374]

There's a well known popular consensus in the rest of Canada that Quebecois are a§§wholes, but its the women that are so danm hate full.

[@Imsemble]

Great conversations, thanks for this video! I do have to say however that this only represents the city of Montreal and that Québec as a whole is more traditional and more looking for serious relationships.

[@yiddena]

Yes, this doesn't surprise me!:)

[@karlsaleh4157]

In the days of the internet, I would say this is a very Quebec-wide thing and a very millenial-gen Z dynamic. The only places in Quebec where this dating culture wouldn't apply as much would be small towns where the dating pool is limited.

[@williamleblanc2623]

I'd say Québecers as whole tend to be more approachable than Montréalers.

[@rasara]

You can't be independent and in romantic relationship at the same time. True love is a beautifully dependent (!) soul-merging, none of these feminists will ever experience.

[@bloomsofoblivion]

As a woman, I strongly agree with this... I wish we lived in a different world. Today's world is hopeless on this matter.

[@Conquerer.D.K]

Montreal is really different from the rest of Quebec. Its almost as if its two different province. I think its important to make the distinction. Montreal is heavily multicultural while the rest of Quebec is mainly caucasian born and raise Quebecois.

[@user-kj1sy2zb2x]

Please do Toronto and Vancouver as well! ❤

[@VladislavBabbitt]

I would be interested in this as well.

[@D.E.E.P.Y.]

It's a pity online dating amplified the libertarian mindset, adding even more poly-partner relationships and indecisiveness. From very fresh experience confirming girls are just as guys going this route. Impossible to find anyone truly loving you back.

[@karima_MK]

Not everyone is a poly-fuck. I know many trustful women

[@ehjo4904]

Montreal c'est pas l'Europe

[@Thehealthoffworled]

Hi

[@hershey5790]

@@ehjo4904 No shit…

[@ClementZhouk]

one of the most real and inspirational work I’ve seen from you! bravo!. having lived decades in Toronto and now Quebec, I totally resonate with many of these insightful testaments.

[@loyalfish2761]

Montréalais depuis 20 ans. Dating in Montréal is hard because everyone is already in couple. Most people I know have always been in couple since cégep or university. If they were ever single, it was for like 20 minutes. People can't stand being single for any period or time around here. I would call our society very traditional but most people like to think of themselves as liberal and sprinkle a little polyamour here and there because it sounds better than 'my boyfriend is cheating on me'.

[@erzascarlet5078]

I 100% agree with the woman at 8:26

[@GustavoFerreira-rl8oo]

I find it curious how women complain about behavior and gender, they only seem to want the bonus, never the burden, of both roles (liberal and conservative).

[@smashmusique]

when talking about chivalry, it's almost alway about the man doing things for the woman... instead of both partners doing little things with attention for each other.

[@Milyme83]

Europeean vibe Montreal ?? I dont think so as a Montrealer all my life i went to Europe and there is a huge disconnection.

[@N_Loco_Parenthesis]

I'm still traumatised by the You Know You're Dating An Anglo-Canadian Woman When... video. And I'm not even Canadian.

[@PortfolioPL]

I just watched it based on your recommendation and OHH MY GOD! I value our woman 10 times more now, so all is good :)

[@leloupdessteppes3228]

@@N_Loco_Parenthesis Canada in general is a terrible place to foster deep and meaningful relationships, hence their terrible birth rate. It’s a postmodern nation with no identity, values and moral norms. They were raised sorely by the woke agenda since they were born.

[@chrystianaw8256]

Let me go look at it real quick lol

[@chesterfieldjones1055]

Great video. Very entertaining.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Happy you liked it 😊

[@Mark_72]

I’m so much happier single. We live in a lamentable time in history, a real clown world, where cognitive dissonance reign.

[@alejandramarquez6804]

We have no choice but be single.

[@alejandramarquez6804]

Of course feels the best option

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Thursday, Marina! As long as she's a good woman, laid back, and a feminine woman, it's good for me. Sending my love ❤ from Miami, Florida, USA 🇺🇲

[@robertoalmeida963]

Montreal is 99% a woke village

[@RebecaAiimee]

I might be generalizing or it might be based solely off of my experience but I find quebecois men to be very straight forward when they’re interested. They don’t play guessing games, no mixed signals: “I find you pretty, want to go for a drink sometime?”

[@thewewguy8t88]

Yeah but most of the the time women don't find me attractive.

[@hershey5790]

That’s the first time I’ve ever heard that… You must be giving them clear signals of interest for them to approach you. And also, the term "Québécois" is very vague. Are you talking about the "de souche" French speaking ones or the ones that may have different backgrounds or origins? I’m asking because I know countless anglos from the West Island, NDG, LaSalle etc that were born and raised in MTL as well as their parents and grandparents but doesn’t consider themselves Quebecois at all…

[@RebecaAiimee]

@@hershey5790 Talking about the quebecois de souche indeed, the white francophones.

[@hershey5790]

@@RebecaAiimee Well, that's news to me... Even French girls (from France) will tell you, Quebec men lack confidence and boldness but this can also differ depending on the age group. But hey, I respect your opinion based on your own experience…

[@Zoojeff]

​​​@@RebecaAiimeei think this is everywhere and not especialy in quebec and i think this is based on your experience too

[@matthewsmith908]

I would say Victoria BC is a fairly European city, has a strong British vibe, strong cycling culture etc, so Montreal isn't really the only European city in Canada

[@DHEspana]

As someone who's lived in both, Victoria isn't even close to Montreal in terms of being a "european" style city

[@matthewsmith908]

@@DHEspana yea it is, I grew up in the uk and victoria has a very, very strong uk feel and culture to it. Especially a southern coastal city vibe

[@mbeckford]

Victoria has some similarities, but the major thing lacking is diversity. Victoria is all white. MTL is cosmopolitan. Even Calgary is more diverse than Victoria. So the issue is even though it looks European, it somewhat the same socially (not entirely) shares same environmental values - but significantly lacks diversity. Paris, London, Berlin, Amsterdam,Rome, Vienna, Zurich and I could go on and on are all cosmopolitan: Victoria is not.

[@rhythmandacoustics]

@@mbeckford Nah lots of Asians in Victoria.

[@matthewsmith908]

@@mbeckford yea, so not sure if you've been to Europe but huge swathes of the continent are 99% white, it's not all large cities

[@MisyeDiVre]

Men who wear there hearts on their sleeves in Montreal are cruisin for a bruisin!

[@LadyGwynhwfar]

I never had trouble dating in Montreal, but there is a English man or French man divide…. two different cultural experiences.

[@VladislavBabbitt]

Do not forget: the French-speaking Québécois do not have the same mentality as people from France or other French-speaking regions of the world. They are seen as simple uneducated country people. They speak a simple country French. They have trouble reading and writing their own language, LOL.

[@ForeverNihil]

I never lived in Canada but I can speak from my prospective as an european person living in Europe. North America is historically and culturally a very individualistic society. This combined with the extrememe political correctness for sure does not help to bound mutual and genuine connections. Im not surprised people are lonely and cannot connect each other. How can you do this when you are self centered, cold and focus on materialistic things? How can you engage with another person if you are afraid to speak up and to say what you think?

[@YimingCai]

C'est bon ce video! Merci!

[@MsDeeVee]

We are the champions of unmarried couples. We commit to stay together and have kids but marriage is optional. We have to enhance the rights of unmarried couples a bit because of economic inequality. In the last decades, dating has become unromantic at best. Guys do not know how to behave so they act casual, as if they do not care, which is far from being the case. Women have become more indépendant but at the same time, they do want to commit into a long lasting relationship. The balance between work and family life in this century is hard to maintain. The next generation seems mixed up by their parent’s experience. Not easy. But more open, frank and vivre et laisser vivre. Plus there is a greater acceptance of gender fluidity, LGBTQ+ persons and different iterations or ideas of what is « being together » in 2024. I would not return to the ultra catholic Quebec of the ‘50’s. Never.

[@noveltyaddict]

no one cares bruh stfu

[@Zoojeff]

Yes but married is not require and we not live in disney land

[@forestmanification]

"Unmarried couple" just means a married couple that never had a conscious ceremony or asked anyone's permission for their relationship. If those "unmarried couples" married tomorrow, the next day nothing would change in their relationship, because they are already married.

[@viktoriax8042]

So you are saying that you prefer chaos. Very sad how people are transformed in Zoombee

[@PoppiesOfBlood]

Anyway now the governement considers you married when in a 2+ year relationship.

[@VrilDerzhava]

Nice to hear the young French guy talking about how he prefers traditional dating roles and behaviour. I was expecting the opposite.

[@thepilgrimofinfinity4830]

I hate Montreal, it's hell.

[@tonton6969]

why?

[@thepilgrimofinfinity4830]

@@tonton6969 it stinks, it's dirty, ugly, expensive... The city is in ruin and it's becoming dangerous.

[@user-pe5qy1zw6y]

@@thepilgrimofinfinity4830 most Canadian cities are becoming hellholes these days especially after covid

[@jvidechi]

​@@thepilgrimofinfinity4830 This is the description of any North American cities. Montréal was the last one to be still secure and peacefull. Unfortunatly, far-left mayor Plante and Trudeau's massive immigration (not good immigration but false refugies) the cities become a fucking shithole like every others cities in US/Can.

[@MonaBradbury]

@@thepilgrimofinfinity4830 👏🏼 agreed

[@davidlefranc6240]

Nah the true EU vibe is in old Quebec!

[@EstherC-gz7co]

Quebec City and Boston have a fantastic european vibe as well, even more than Montréal.

[@amusicated]

the dating scene here is rough... too many options and too many open relationships

[@vladimirbatroni8499]

Montreal is Cleveland with a French scarf. It's not European at all.

[@Clockwork.Lemon854]

😂

[@MonaBradbury]

@@vladimirbatroni8499 best description of Montreal ever! 😂

[@chrisclancy6756]

Not true. You’re either a prideful European or you’re from Montreal and just like shitting on your city

[@roseofjerichotours]

Lived most of my life in Montreal and standards here are very, very low. Because women’s expectations are low, men don’t even try very hard so low-hanging fruit gets picked quickly but if you’re educated, a working professional, forget it, the guys look for a sugar mommy. No one here is looking for anything long term, it’s all “situationships”

[@hershey5790]

I could never take these kinds of videos seriously without first being able to clearly define what a “Québécois” is. The term "Québécois" is very vague, because for most people, even if they deny it, being born and raised in Quebec is not enough to be considered a "Québécois". That's why they have a term called "Quebecois de souche"... Now, if that's the group you'd like to base your poll on, then your poll is going to shrink significantly because you have most of the province's Anglo-Saxons who do not really relate or identify with Quebec history or culture and some more extremists will categorically refuse to be called "Quebecois" regardless of if their great-grandparents were born and raised here. And there is also a large part of the population who were also born and raised here, but to immigrant parents. This shows how complex it is here... Generally, Anglo-Quebecers (of Italian, Irish, Greek, West Indian or Middle Eastern origin) are generally more direct and confident than Franco-Quebecers when it's about approaching women and most of the time, they will specifically address Anglo-Quebecois women. Franco-Quebecois women are generally more straightforward and will approach men who interest them without worry. They will mainly be Quebecois de souche or Quebecois of Haitian, French, Portuguese, African origin, etc. We really must keep in mind that the multicultural aspect of Montreal will have an impact on the way people interact. For example, I know that Quebecois of European or African descent will admit that they are not very comfortable being approached by women and that they prefer to approach them themselves because that is just not part of the culture they inherited from their immigrant parents and family…

[@jvidechi]

The term your looking for is Canadiens français du Québec (Quebec's french canadians) Thats 99% of time what "québécois" refer to, but I agree, it's a problem. Anybody can become Québécois on paper with the magic of RAMQ, but you cannot become Canadien français with some paperwork.

[@forestmanification]

Do you know what a Japanese is? Same thing for Quebecois, it's their ethnicity. These are just people in the streets of Montreal, may not even be residents.

[@hershey5790]

​@@forestmanification Don't beat around the bush sir. If by Quebecois you mean Pale white skin with straight hair that say ''Tabarnak'' from sun up to sun down, then just say that! I promise you, nobody is going to watch a video with strictly "Quebecois de souche'' in it, not even Quebecois de souche themselves 😂😂😂

[@forestmanification]

@@hershey5790 How is saying "it's an ethnicity" beating around the bush? You are tilted.

[@milksmoothie]

I love your videos❤

[@TheWeekendYogurt]

It’s called conjoin de fait. Seems like an awesome concept to me. Screw getting married, as a male having to pay for shit 24/7. I don’t see any of this as a problem.

[@walkinprogress88]

DATING APPS RUINED EVERYTHING! OUR GRAND PARENTS MEET IN REAL LIFE AND I AM SURE THERE WAS NO GHOSTING LOL. NOW SOCIETY HAS BECOME SO SEX ADDICTED IT'S SO SAD.

[@manny_freah5148]

Long story short you can easily find a serious relationship in montreal by meeting someone casually (bar, work, activities, etc) but the whole dating app scene is straight trash. You will have sex but forget anything serious. You're just a number waiting to be ditched and passed on the next one

[@hutlazzz]

lol you guys got sex using dating app ? only thing I got was bot

[@noveltyaddict]

you go to the bar for serious relationships? do you also go to Church for casual sex

[@michelleg7]

People really need to emotionally grow up at some point, its ridiculous people are in "open" relationships because of fears of rejection and vulnerability. Well guess what that is life, we don't stop living because not all people are interested in having relationships but can't be afraid of life either. We get rejections from all places, familiy at times, friends or even ex friends. Like come on this is ridiculous people can't just be normal about things anymore. Its always an extreme of one or the other.

[@vaelicusthepaladin]

This is not the reason 'open' relationship[s are on the rise. It's mainly the idea of women feeding their ego through an endless loops of sexual pursuit from men until they're like 29. Then they get 0 attention for anything more than a quick fling, not even 'open' relationship.

[@noveltyaddict]

i am not in an open relationship and never will be and i'll also probably not get married, i don't really care about either, why is either necessary? open relationships are for servile people and since they took Christianity out of marriage, marriage has the same moral weight as not being married

[@a.d8022]

Yeah dating in Mtl operates in the Grey

[@seanibbott4791]

I support gender equality, but if a guy wants to pay for a meal, for goodness sakes just let him give the nice gesture. In Québec they're way too by the book on splitting all expenses, sometimes us guys want to show our appreciation by treating our special person.

[@anuelcan-ny7zc]

Don't waste time ! Cub.✈️

[@elmundoderey2957]

At minute 5:34 regarding women approaching men, the guy said looking at his blonde...I HEARD THAT...as if confirming to her this hadn't happened to him, hahahahaha 😅

[@matthewbarry376]

Just to clarify the Irish getting married later is a historical trend that began after An Gorta Mór - aka the famine. Its got nothing to do with the Church. Its the result of a total collapse in the social structure of a country, and We've never recovered since.

[@VladislavBabbitt]

I see new couples forming here all the time. Does this mean it is love, or are these just casual flings?

[@MarwenTitouh]

I have been in montreal for a quite some time i find it very diffucult to have relationship even a date. I never had a single a woman here who is intressted in me even for a just fling 😂

[@LeveritableSelecto]

According to your nickname and the bit of your profile pic that I can see you must be either North african and/or middle-eastern. I'm really sad to tell you that these type of men are not very liked by most western women. If not actively hated. There are surely some exceptions to the rule but in the grand scheme of things these type of men are just not really desired.

[@Sameer2107]

7:48 some men....i like the way she put it

[@naoufaltakroumt6373]

9:10 What do you do in return

[@user-ji5zl3wy1j]

Be honest, love in Canada is 50 percent sharing that it, people here dont really in love for them is a 50 percent sharing and bed that it. Worst country to find a match.

[@derice7375]

Quebec women are not opened to date anyone,even you speak with them nicely.i mean ,as a black man i understand why ,because they dont feel safe and protect.at least try to be friendly with someone and start building your confidence if you really want someone to love you the same way.i used to live in montreal ,women dont like even men approach them,women would never exist without men.this is why most of women in quebec are single forever.

[@kamwalker6296]

Feminists

[@jvidechi]

Maybe you should change your approach technique...It cannot be alwals the others fault.

[@derice7375]

Well ,why many of them are single forever ,answer me before you point ,its men fault.they are too mean ,this is not men fault ​@@jvidechi

[@Zoojeff]

Not they not want men but They not want you what you dont understand?

[@hershey5790]

@@derice7375 Oh no, not the black card please sir… Montreal is the only place where I see the majority of black men dating white women. Black men don't even seem to be interested in black women... On the contrary, Quebec women are the most open-minded women in the entire Western Hemisphere when it comes to interracial dating... You might just be the problem sir...

[@LeHalazoone]

Its not easy to connect and talk to people, even dating is a desaster. Worst place to connect and have new friends in montreal... dont come here!

[@beang7045]

winter here is not that brutal, when compared to how brutal summers are getting with relentless heatwaves...

[@ryu_street_fighter561]

This isn't a Montreal problem... this is a CANADA problem... and Canadians are no longer having babies... I wonder why? I wonder what Canada will look like in 50 years. Hmmm?

[@ElvatoArgos]

Muslim and Brown. There you go

[@noveltyaddict]

@@ElvatoArgos they aren't even really reproducing after gen 1

[@forestmanification]

@@ElvatoArgos Indians fighting Pakistanis/Sikh and Chinese fighting Middle-Easterners.

[@user-ji5zl3wy1j]

I live here for almost 12 yrs, here in Canada they just want people who have good, job, fancy house and car, as soon as someone meet these criteria they are ready for marriage otherwise men and women here just sleep together then each week they find a new match, very worst mentality no love here only material make them in a false love. No values, only 99 percent sleep around.

[@becayebalde3820]

2:35 English may put this guy in jail one day 😂

[@IStayTrueToI]

Not worth it for the most part. The culture is rotting, in so many ways I can write multiple pages on it, unfortunately. Found the love of my life in the suburbs. She came up to me & asked me for my contact info. Yet, we are very traditional by modern standards. I would have left Quebec, if not for her. Now we are leaving together. This land is cursed & has been for over a century.

Women in Montreal are extremely rude, high maintenance and look down on ANY man that does not submit to their looooong list of DEMANDS (6'3" MINIMUM, etc). And, of course, they will never, ever "settle" for anything below Brad Pitt, even if they are land whales themselves. So men just stopped caring. I traveled to Europe and women are much, much, much, nicer (And slim) over there.

[@bla-bla-bla...]

It's wrong to think that the spirit of liberty of quebekers is related to the religion freedom. Firstly, in the memory of this society is the Duplessis's regim (man with a religious education from his English maternal lineage) who imposed a very religious politic; who imposed the marriage and brought the children from unmarried women (very many otherwise because the unmarriage have had already been a normality for this society for 3 centuries). From the beginning of this society the women had something that in a normal traditional society this couldn't exist. The king's daughters had an oficial right to choose the man. They even could choose him, to live with him some days and to leave him to check the living with another. So, the women could change many men in short time period. The women could be pregnant and "walk" between men giving to some the terminology - natural children. Why and how was posibil this phenomen 4 century ago? The explanation it's in the ratio of 1 women to 40 men at the beginning of deporting women and 1 women to 10 men at the final of this process of 10 years. If in the societies with continuity this ratio was opposite, because the men died in the wars and living without partner was a normality for women, in the quebec's society the official partener could share his woman with others. So, all this dinamic of women changing the parteners brought the status of "union the fait". The children did what they saw at their parents, so that behavior from the basement of society was sent in chan from generation to another, this society having an absolute isolation until the arriving of very big number of other europeans: Irish in 19c and Grec-Italians in 20c. The loyalists lived on rive-sud and there was a relatively social separation between french libertines quebekers and monarchists/deep religious english Americans. The situation of 1 to 10 men society shaped the psihologie of french society. The harassment and pedophilia is not an actual problem, but a culture from the genesis of this society. The couples were each partener had children from others was a general normality, so, the children abuse was much higher than in a traditional society because the natural-pshichological attitude for a child-"piece of you" is different than for the child of somebody else. So why here are so many reglementations the peoples from traditional societies never heard and couldn't imagine a society could need. You put the reglementations where and when the problem is met! In this society, from the beginning the women choosed the men. The men is waiting. But, in a camouflaged way the men apply the harassment. This problem brought the need of reglementations. The legal punishment of men of those situations brought another abuse: controlling the legal organs and the abusive diminishing women to "fool/ depressed" fake status. The harassment low prevention in Quebec "works legally" only in a corrupt manner - to diminish a man with fabricated (mise en scene) situation, organised with fake accusations of harassment. The real victims of harassment situations never could find the legal support. The instruments the society works do imposibil to find the truth.

[@bla-bla-bla...]

The genese of society also explains the missing on intergenerational responsibility. The children do what the parents do. The first arrived young women hadn't the elderly parents to care so this responsibility so deeply fixed in a traditional society is missing in Quebec. The English society was formed almost of 3 generations families, the French society by the aventurists and deported women with cutted relations with their families. This social anomaly became a social normality. The children have not an attachment to their parents, and the parents, with no support of their parents from the beginning, have not been given support to their children like that it's obligatory in a traditional society. Normally the parents support the children. Invest in their studies and that becomes a moral debt that children payback when the parents are old helping them. The Quebec society anomalie have the explanation at the genese. The young women with not support of parents, gave not a support to their children "putting them at the door" too early. Firstly because the peoples forming this society were from the very low social class, hating the aristocracy and illiteracy, secondary because at the young age was forced to be independent adults, this society it's deep uneducated, only she doesn't constientize that. The large gesticulations, incapacity to produce the complete phrases, the too loud speaking and so on, are explained with the conservation of medieval European behavior of very low social class in the isolated North Rive society. Montreal was shaped differently, but that uncisalated society, partially put control in all social provincial public services in Montreal too.

[@LoL-hc5mb]

As a newcomer, here is an advice to other newcomers to Canada, never date a Canadian if you want a committed relationship. Most of my white friends are divorced. Half of their property was taken by their ex wives.

[@darkkforest]

Not everyone is like this. Chill.

[@ngoctruongpaulnguyen6503]

You simply have to adjust to the society and set expectations early. Also set prenuptial contracts to protect assets. Canada is an immigrant country meaning that there will be a lot of cross-cultural relationships that need adjustments.

[@user-pe5qy1zw6y]

Quebecers want to make sure the other is the right one before going in full contract mode

[@forestmanification]

If that were true, that would mean most would be virgin before dating, which is false, which demonstrates your claim to be false.

[@duncanmac2195]

All the hot women left.

[@noveltyaddict]

you are talking about downtown montreal, normal people also left that place decades ago, there are many though in the adjacent districts

[@Rankutubuki88]

Lots of flings in this city.

[@roberts3965]

We are happy that we are not shit like Toronto

[@NidoZizi]

The women 3d min is awesome

[@MHXcreation]

I like (i dont) when she said (7:17) that there's a competition on who love's who first and if you share that feeling, YOU LOSE !!! .... "where's the good men?" >> Running from stupidity -_-!

[@noveltyaddict]

the competition is in these people's head only so is the award or the loss

[@noveltyaddict]

Quebec will be a Christian province if you want it or not, all these problems and economic and prowess, and demographic decline of Quebec is because of non Christians and atheists.

[@forestmanification]

🙏

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Love is a four letter word.😂

[@noveltyaddict]

Quebec will be a Christian province if you want it or not, we are not giving you a choice

[@frankisfrank69]

Must be a generational thing. It wasn't difficult at all to find love or friendship until social networking and gender hysteria started about 15 years ago. These last generations are screwed...

[@hershey5790]

We’re most likely from the same generation (millennials) and I can attest to the truth of your statement! I feel so bad for the young generation. I consider myself extremely lucky to have experienced Montreal in the late 90s and early 2000s as a youngster who was bar/club hopping every weekend and meeting/dating so many beautiful and SANE girls back then. Montreal was such a fun and vibrant place.

[@LeveritableSelecto]

​@@hershey5790Hey don't you mind giving us your current feelings about the city ? Don't you feel as if things have changed for the worst ? I've lived those times that you've mentionned (late 90's-early 2000's) althought I was very young back then, I truly feel as if things were more vibrants and overall just way more different that now where everything has been watered down. There is no such thing as dating since around 2012...

[@swandx]

I lived in Paris and now in Montréal. Both cities are equal but I will say is easy in MTL. For instance Paris dating by app 1 date a month, Montreal 3 dates and 2 ons in 2 weeks. A good thing is that girls in both cities are paying her part of the bill naturally and happily to doing it 😊

[@viktoriax8042]

Maybe you understand dating as meeting broken and depressed people, without values, and you call it a date just because you met them, okay. Perhaps that's what you call a date - meeting whatever

[@stevetortola1682]

Canada doesn't Care 💯🇨🇦👊

[@vocativusss]

TBH I've never heard a person in their ~30s, who say: dating is easy ;) it never was. But it's possible, and that is a good news :)

[@noveltyaddict]

who cares

[@amerikart-sb6hw]

Haha all the specialists said their opinions. Good luck

[@noveltyaddict]

i rather take a worldview and life advice from a rotting dying flopping fish then this video or others in the comments

[@obesia1873]

Québécois are beautiful people and it can be intimidating but it's true that it's a very feminist society and that men will give women the space to express their interest first, so you have to make the first move sometimes.

[@alexandresauve3181]

1:36 in so many ''clichés'' horrible

[@duncanmac2195]

Bad economy

[@llaneloc]

Too many moving parts to get a definite answer Not enough interviews with actual successfully-matched couples to give this any value Like asking a hundred people lost in the woods why is it so hard to be lost in the woods. Hahaha Love comes when you least expect it

[@billmacia4092]

Women wanted to be equal to men, but don't want to act or take masculine actions :|

[@Truename586]

Because Bret screwed bret

[@heriport6654]

Hard? Haha are you tripping? Montreal girls are better than in Toronto. If you want a nice cute one go rive sud to beloeil or so. Mais oue they very liberated facts.

[@forestmanification]

But if you want to treat them like a hoe, you want them to be "liberated" don't you? That's the whole point of women's "liberation".

[@pinkierural]

lots of covert misogyny.

[@hershey5790]

Yeah ok… I can see a whiny feminist when I read one… Go spend a week in Paris or anywhere in the states to really see what Misogyny is… You have no idea how lucky you are that Quebecois men are the softest most submissive men in the world and y’all still have a reason to complain…

[@LeveritableSelecto]

Explain

[@forestmanification]

Based!?

[@claudebuysse7482]

Canadian women are more independent than French...