Why Men Don’t Want To Get Married Anymore

[@smokingcrab2290]

I got married and I was thrilled. I wrapped my whole entire life around my wife and her happiness and she gave me nothing but contempt in return. She was the most useless combative woman and turned into someone I never fell in love with. I tried so hard to make it work and all she did was leave so finally I had to let her go. Deep down I still wish I could have worked because I gave her so much of me. Turns out I was worshipping a false god. It was a soul death. Her leaving me cut me in half and idk how I'll ever heal. I don't think I want a wedding ever again. I'm living the American nightmare now. And I have a son in the middle. I've been gaslit by everyone that it esd all my fault but I know it wasn't. I know it was 90% her and 10% me. I did my best and she gave me her worst.

[@georgeelder8415]

Love yourself first...

[@herethere5637]

What are you stupid?! Of course nobody can understand you. Nobody can EVER understand you! The only one who can ever understand you is yourself. Only you can understand yourself. You have to take care of yourself.

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

For a relationship to work long term a woman needs to be into you much more than you are in her. Otherwise you have nothing. The strategy you employed has a very low success rate. Healthy long-term relationships are reciprocal. You cannot negotiate to desire. When you give a woman too much underserved attention it ruins her character. Men like you create the monsters of entitlement women that abound today knowingly or not the result is the same

[@nocturnalrecluse1216]

You're better off without that harpy sucking what's left of your soul. Live for your son and yourself now.

[@Powerhaus88]

Women are like that, if you give them only love and affection they will think you're her only option, and they'll immediately start thinking that they can do better and their hypergamy will kick into overdrive. Women need to be treated with the hot/cold approach, sometimes kind, sometimes no fucks given, and never be predictable about it. Is it fun? No. Is it healthy? Hell no. But are women sane? Fuck no.

[@troydunn8463]

"A lot of women do still want to get married" True. I've met several, but how many of them want to BE married? In other words: a lot of women want to be happy, yet they demand someone else make them happy...or else he will have hell to pay. That is just not how it works. A person that wants to be happy will: * stop blaming others * stop entitlement and embrace gratitude * stop projecting or any other canabalistic behaviours to feed their own ego at the expense of their good feelings towards others Etc So...not many women want to be happy.

[@thystaff742]

No, they don't want to be wives.

[@StijnLampo]

This is actually the first time I've seen Lin without makeup on, and natural hair color, in a different camera angle. She still looks good!

[@burgerchris1]

The level of abandonment you feel from women today in relationships is not worth the pain.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Utter abandonment

[@djaeger-k5m]

Everything you contribute to the relationship is regulated by law, but nothing about what the woman should contribute is regulated by law

[@MarkLetexier]

At least this young lady is listening , and not just making up what women think men think.applause to her.

[@thystaff742]

Just another grifter like pearl things.

[@SomeCanine]

As someone who has been through the family court wringer for 18 years, there is absolutely nothing on this planet that could entice me to get married or have another child in a western country ever again. Life on the line, I would refuse. It was absolute torture. Women don't know what it's like because they only have to do a few court dates and the pickup/dropoffs. They don't have to do all the extra court mandated nonsense with the threat of jail time. They don't have to do the forced therapy, child psychologist sessions, child first sessions, parenting classes, driving, paying child support, alimony, getting constantly lied about in the courts, being refused to spend time with your child on nearly every holiday, having your ex change your children's names on all of their paperwork and activities, dealing with schools who won't talk to you because they normally deal with the other parent, having the ex change your pickup and dropoff on a whim, having to pickup/dropoff at a police station, and much more. I say all that and I haven't even gotten to the personal stuff. You have no idea how bad it gets. If you involve the government, someone's life is ruined. This is why men don't get married anymore.

[@giovanim9338]

A simple answer would be "cause the bliss-to-hassle ratio is very low", so it's better not to invest on a broken company.

[@JDHarsh]

The artist is often their own biggest critic- don’t stress about the way you talk, I think you convey your thoughts very well!

[@gunsrulecommiesdrool]

I'm glad you changed your hair color. But even when your hair was purple I still listened to you

[@LinWatchorn]

Thank you!

[@SecretMarsupial]

Ditto. Just want to say the new look is awesome.

[@DoctorGhostFang]

Men are supposed to spend their hard earned money on one more person (without any real reason) and if he doesn't do it, society considers him selfish? That's interesting. I think you forgot "peace".

[@MarkMcCullough-y5s]

Our gynocentric society will forgive a man for being single if he gives all his earnings away to feminist causes and lives in a van by the river.

[@johnnk3256]

I'll try to keep it simple. Marriage is not just something that we do in church, not anymore. It's a contract, dictated by the state. And here's the problem with the 'contract' as it exists these days. Men are held accountable if the contract is broken or not, but women are not. In any marriage, men are expected to bring 'protection and provision'. And women are expected to bring 'warmth and s3x'. Women want what men can give. And men want the women can give. This is what makes the marriage work. Guess what the state can enforce? The state can enforce the man to protect and provide for the woman. But it cannot enforce the woman to be warm, or to be nice, or to be kind, or to give s3x. It's a one-sided deal. The state can only enforce the man's obligations to the marriage, not the woman's. And this is why we stay risk-averse in this contract. Why would I enter a contract that will hold me accountable either way, but not my wife? See the problem???

[@Kinohki]

Kudos to you for trying to better yourself, Lin. Keep up the good work. Glad to see there are some women that acknowledge what men are going through. I'm a 40 year old man and honestly I don't really see any benefit to getting married at all but I wouldn't be lying if I said i didn't want someone to take care of to kind of give me a reason to make my money.

[@snowyowlz5992]

Not just divorce, long term caregiver followed by becoming a widower. Worn out; not to be repeated. Time for rebuilding.

[@sodone466]

"There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it." Getting married for a man, is like building a house on someone else's land.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Some states have what's called a covenant marriage where you cannot divorce unless there's adultery or physical abuse. This is the best way to go, and then make her sign an iron clad prenup and of she won't then let her go.

[@SomeCanine]

@@smokingcrab2290 The problem with that is she can just file for divorce in another state.

[@Pikawarps]

@@smokingcrab2290you can’t win, so it’s not even worth playing. I want a family, but experience has shown me it’s not worth the risk

[@SMoore26]

Wanting to "get" married vs wanting to "be" married are two different mindsets.

[@megaman23XX]

Thanks for the livestream!

[@cyrusfreeman9972]

No fault divorce needs to end. Actually, the state needs to end any involvement with marriage.

[@smokingcrab2290]

And asset division

[@djaeger-k5m]

No fault divorce ending won’t help, false cases will rise crazily… just look at eastern countries like India

[@EZgoing14901]

I was in Utah back in the 70's... It is very beautiful as you said...

[@christopherblatny-rr6ft]

I cant talk and walk on the phone without puffing,so i dont know how your doing it. I can walk and talk normally as long as im not on the phone,go figure.

[@Zikeee-12]

No make up? That’s awesome! Natural beauty is where it’s at. I say this respectfully too. I live women who are comfortable in their natural skin.

[@openexhaustmodels5139]

You are doing really well, always great advice and people need to hear your videos👍

[@Just_Call_Me_Tim]

You did fine with the stream. It's supposed to be really candid and less of a scripted feel! No worries! And I don't know what people are talking about regarding a speech impediment. I don't hear anything off with how you talk. As for the topic: The papers were signed yesterday. We get along just fine, if not better now. Think I'll risk this again? Not likely. I spent 14 years with her trying to build something, and it fell apart anyway. I'll be 40 in April. If I had another go and it only lasted 14 years, I'd absolutely never bother again.

[@bvbjb]

GREAT video!!! Thank you for sharing. :)!!

[@garthwood5104]

Having trouble getting the words out is actually quite common. I have a specialized form of it, called "nounal amnesia," which was made much worse by a certain neurological drug I had to take for several years and which played havoc with my memory. Gets worse when I'm tired or hungry (or both!). You're doing fine.

[@birdofpassage9875]

This isn't really the topic I think about, watch or discuss. The third point of not really seeing the point does connect with me. I'd be happy to provide to a family but we're in somewhat of an era of empowerment and unique ideas on how we live our lives. I respect, even an inspired by ideas but ideas do eventually come to a head and that multiplies for each person, including a child, you have in your life and, economically, I can't afford more obligations than I currently have. Quite honestly I haven't even pursued love interest but I've not been against it. I do the best I can to make my coworkers'lives easier and make their jobs more enjoyable including corny/bad jokes whatever their gender and that's provided me with enough connection so far.

[@jerryc5743]

2:37 - also, when it comes to finances, women say “my money is my money and his money is my money”. No thanks.

[@Pete-uv4bu]

Thank you.

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

FWIW: Lin, I have recorded still photos and brief videos while on both my _Elliptical Exercise Machine_ and my _NordicTrack Ski Machine,_ so it ain't just you...😊 *EDIT→* At about 06:00 in this video: *_"...sometimes I have trouble getting the words out."_* *IT AIN'T JUST YOU, LIN!*

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

For a relationship to work in these modern times a woman needs to be into you much more than you are into her. The problem of course is social media and dating apps have skewed the calibration for most women of what they think their actual level is. The men they are really into are not good long term relationship material but they will keep trying and become bitter. Than she "settles" for a guy thats actually on her level. But she will never be into him to the degree that she needs to be for a lasting relationship. To fix problems you need honesty and transparency. Men have some level of culpability for the current state of marriage. That said however the Lion's share of this is on women. You're never going to have complete buy-in from either side but it doesn't need to be. It just needs to be the majority. The scale at which women have strayed is the issue but this probably needs to get a lot uglier before it gets better.

[@brandonlamb9067]

If you do your best to be mindful of the ways your own actions affect others while juggling your own responsibilities and wants in life that’s all the rest of us can ask for. So many problems can be avoided following that one single rule

[@Mandilore89]

Family courts infantilize women but are also enablers of dark toxic behaviors too.

[@sakrulz]

I grew up in the panhandle of Idaho, I've lived in a lot of different regions of the US, and I've lived in two different countries both drastically different than the other (Germany and Korea). You have the dame neutral tone and inflection i would expect from someone in the Utah/Idaho/Wyoming/Montana/Washington/Oregon areas.

[@Left-2-stray]

Hey, I made that mistake once. & I learned my lesson

[@marecare77]

The concept of marrige was suited 4 1920 not 2020ies, from a mens point a view.

[@cgoamericanpublicrecording2717]

I'm from Utah to good job on the live also it's really hard to find someone to connect with. Dating in Utah is a pain in the ass I just about had it and it's not worth 99.1% of woman never respond back it's a waste of time I don't blame mgtow also getting married is a trap it's not worth it specially nowadays.

[@rogersepeda]

When the woman benefits more from a divorce than the man, I don’t blame men being hesitant getting married. It’s like a bad ROI. You break your back trying to support your family while the wife goes out and cheats and she gets the kids and half your stuff.

[@thystaff742]

Not just married, but dating in general. I haven't dated in over 10 years. There's no point.

[@SuperSuperspoof]

Love to see you chat with The Dadvocate or Emily King

[@johnk5503]

The return on investment is just not there for men

[@prepertruckin8525]

⭕️ men, DO NOT sign that paper, DO NOT get married. IT'S NOT WORTH IT. you lose all your sh!t, and kids if you have one. you can be and do everything you want to as a SINGLE MAN. but the moment you sign that contract, you willfully GIVE everything you have and WILL HAVE for the next 20 years of your life. DON'T DO IT !

[@anthonyjordanmoviesandmore2470]

I haven't even been divorced just a bad breakup and I have no intention of dating again not like women value me as worth much to begin with especially being on disability which I did not ask for

[@lamoynebillups3665]

Find me the situation at 40 that there hasn't been anyone interested to be in a long relationship with me. And at this point in my life I'm not really looking to get married to be honest with you. I've also seen colleagues and friends you put to the ringer and divorce open to hell dealing with a spouse that's unreasonable

[@AdrianColley]

You don't have to be perfect to go on a podcast. No matter how good you are, it will never be enough for a lot of nasty commenters. Don't raise your blood pressure worrying about how Internet strangers will judge you.

[@AreWeThereYet-2025]

How many divorces do women think is normal and ok? If you are paying 1/2 your income on child support. How can you marry another who likely has more kids to support.

[@garthwood5104]

I'll keep saying this: women, once married, do *not* have the "option" of just making the man pay for everything unless the women don't work at all. It's called "matrimonial property." The courts couldn't give a rat's ass that a woman wants to keep "her" money to have fun with, or stack, or whatever. His debts are your debts and vice versa. Get over it. Does no one go to premarital counselling anymore?

[@bertmunoz7100]

How about not trying to do the two things at the same time. When you exercise is better to focus on your exercise. Even if a man has not been married before. Why would he marry today? Modern women have boiled everything down to NUMBERS (6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures). Anyone who can live up to this "STANDARD" knows he is just going to be use for what he has. Considering that the average relationship last eight years. The one's who CAN NOT why would they bother? To be reminded every day what they are not?

[@nittani.]

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