[Take My Free Quiz]: What's the #1 Reason You're Single: bit.ly/youresinglequiz
@annettereid807728 күн бұрын
Yes
@Clementine.Pie.Am.IАй бұрын
Many men adore women like this at first, but over time, some men start feeling outshone by their woman and start trying to diminish her. Being confident enough to be unique is often a double-edged sword. Many people envy it and attack you for it.
@cheekytitaableАй бұрын
Omg this is so true. They start to get egotistical and cut you down so they can level-up, so to speak. This is so common it’s sad.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Yes… and the consciousness level of the man will determine if he lifts you up or tries to pull you down. Thanks for watching.
@alwayslearning957Ай бұрын
This is not an empowering belief to adopt. No-one who knows herself can be diminished by others, nor does she fear those who oppose her.
@patriciasaldanha7243Ай бұрын
Quiet confidence implies uplifting others ; not afraid of being vulnerable oneself and protecting vulnerability in others ; confidence is not arrogance .it does not diminish others .Above all it means one can make mistakes and one is ready to grow and act on these mistakes .
@tanyaflanders2196Ай бұрын
So true❤
@Mary_QQQАй бұрын
1 Turn on inner light/ lifeforce 2 Go all in on uniqueness 3 Sensuality 4 clear and committed about values 5 Artfully holding directness and kindness 6 Paced vulnerability 7 Courageously interdependent
@jijinoahoubusyness6795Ай бұрын
Thanks! I was looking for this! ❤
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@user-qt8sx1ck2cАй бұрын
I’ve been told many times I have these traits then they stop talking to me. I also don’t get approached by men I’m attracted to, only gross or old men
@beaj.h.1017Ай бұрын
@@user-qt8sx1ck2cthat's because those advices are slightly ideological....means; most people act like others do ( monkey princip, I guess;-) And at the end, there are few more important details, which play a role in the game. Or, better to say: in a more positive outcome of this game after all..
@MadhuwellnessАй бұрын
Kindness Self aware Honesty Taking care of themselves & others
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@user-xi2bf5bl4eАй бұрын
be proud, be yourself, be independent, and stop being delusional & pin all your hope on finding the perfect man to solve all your problems. Demand respect no matter what! The perfect guy will find you!
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@weekendnomad5038Ай бұрын
I agree with being clear about your values and don’t break them for a man ‼️‼️‼️
@bhagavatilad3268Ай бұрын
The problem with doing that is that people get jealous of the attention a man gives you and they sabotage you so that you never get to the relationship stage ever again it happened to me
@ladyofspaАй бұрын
Hunt alone...rather present your greatness alone..... likely your friends will change once you've done more advanced inner work.
@DS-pw1otАй бұрын
@@ladyofspaand don’t share anything about your interest with anyone. It’s a private matter ✅
@TreekneeeetАй бұрын
True. This happened to me. Stay away from jealous women, they are evil, really evil and insecure. And keep all your personal matters to yourself. No one should know your business.
@anitaostrander4301Ай бұрын
Clear about and committed to their values is huge. Too many women are not clear about their values and therefore instead of being committed, they succumb to pressure …immediately losing a man’s respect
@beaj.h.1017Ай бұрын
still need to add; that whether they were not prepared to stay together with those men's or the men's were not meant to be with them at the very beginning.
@Shawtymamma9015Ай бұрын
Be your yourself & the perfect guy will find you 🎉
@isabelleleymarie2074Ай бұрын
Unfortunately not!
@BernMendezАй бұрын
I agree, strategy is as important as being great : )
@petras.8543Ай бұрын
This applies to women as much as men. Men, PLEASE dare to be your vulnerable, unique self! We have too many out there who are completely unremarkable because they try to fit some stupid stereotype. Be curious, be honest about your opinions, be a lifelong learner, and don't try to turn a woman into someone different than who you fell in love with. Allow her to remain an individual so she doesn't think she must 'shrink' herself to fit some expectation, thus losing herself in the relationship. Sending so much love ❤
@daniellem.gibson465822 күн бұрын
Yes! You are so right. I’m looking for an authentic man.
@Susan-fg3nvАй бұрын
I liked a guy once just for him being him. He is a wonderful human being. I realized one day I need to love, like, and admire myself as I do him. I now listen and take heart and show up loving myself not trying to be loved. When a man critique my personal individuality I realize I am not the one for him. I would have been happy standing in sewage fixing a septic system for that man with no complaints. Just proud to be next to him in his presence. So now I know that is what I look for in another person. Someone who likes me for me
@beaj.h.1017Ай бұрын
hey Susan, this is the truthful comment and most logic conclusion you have come to and share here. I would only like to add, that you would still have to love & like him as much as he would like & love you;-) Otherwise, you again would not be truly happy. And BTW you make the point, that all advices are slightly ideologic and do only work in a perfect connection of two people who really did have the luck in life to find each other and the beautiful chance, they were presented with did not get waisted.
@melfrog5982Ай бұрын
I have been fiercely independent in the past. Feel it's something I had to learn through childhood that stayed with me. Since my break up with my abusive ex, I am learning to lean in and ask for help when needed and embrace help when offered. The first half of this vid I feel I am doing well. I have the right people around me to help me be uniquely me and express my needs, values and boundaries in healthy open ways.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Thank you for sharing this, for your courage to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, and for surrounding yourself with loving, healthy humans.
@SC-pm1pgАй бұрын
actual advice for once to be the best truthful version of yourself rather than manipulate someone with underhand tactics which is the clickbait 'advice' a lot of these other youtube 'relationship experts' promote-might be useful short term but will only cause problems down the line. Thankyou for this insight.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You’re most welcome. 🙏
@fleurrobert4513Ай бұрын
I use wheelchair and have bother knowing values and showing how I'm unique: excellent active listener, quirky sense of humour, deep empathy, great memory for trivia, interested in many topics for meaningful conversation, genuine smile ... however, people merely perceive an older woman in a wheelchair and, somehow, that equates to being incapable/unworthy
@reyesaguilar4775Ай бұрын
Sending u love❤❤❤
@jayneyost7110Ай бұрын
I know what you mean,I have back problems,alot of things wrong in the same area. Once they find out that I live with chronic pain and can't always get up and go like them, I'm history.I am not giving up, I am thinking now, I might have luck with someone that has some issues like me, because they will understand.Maybe, this can help you as well 🤔
@fleurrobert4513Ай бұрын
@@jayneyost7110 Is it not astonishing? When I was ambulant, with chronic pain, often no-one knew because I learnt to adapt myself to achieve tasks. Anybody can have injury or illness to become less able physically. When younger, men pointed out I was not very pretty; I'd respond with something like "beauty is skin deep" or even "true beauty is inside" - soon determined who wanted to know me for myself rather than the rather awful media expression "eye candy". If we live long enough, decades tend to affect appearance ... true love persists in my opinion when soul alignment occurs Wishing you very well in all aspects of life including meeting future partner
@JaneDoe-qi2gqАй бұрын
So far... Maybe join a group where you might meet other people with handicaps...or even volunteer to help like that.
@JaneDoe-qi2gqАй бұрын
I agree that looks shouldn't be a factor, but we all should strive to look our best. It's shows that you have self-respect and care for yourself to the best of your ability.
@laureleepoapst35978 күн бұрын
Truer words were never said. Thank you for this truth
@reemsaif3105Ай бұрын
Love that word Paced and shared vulnerability
@BernMendezАй бұрын
@@reemsaif3105 thank you Reem.
@entrepreneurialempressАй бұрын
I feel like I embody all of this but I can see how not pacing my vulnerability has been my downfall in the past. I genuinely believe every person we date or last experience changes us into the person we truly want to become.
@beaj.h.1017Ай бұрын
someone said - life is a journey, so enjoy and do not take everything too seriously;-) The world is full of cowards. There is no size, which fit all!
@entrepreneurialempressАй бұрын
@beaj.h.1017 yes currently working on this just living in the moment thank you 😊
@bloom7204Ай бұрын
As usual a fantastic video • thank you Bernardo 🙏🏼♥️
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You're so welcome!
@dariabogdan7884Ай бұрын
And that's the sad reality of life. There are more women than men who are willing to fulfil that role. So it's always the woman who has to stand out,has to work on herself and better herself. Why don't we think: if there are not enough men, how can we encourage and find a way for men to better themselves? Maybe make x10, x100, x1000 more engaging videos for the men so they just stumble across them? Just a thought...
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Well… while there are definitely many men working towards being better humans you, as a woman, have two solid options if you want a relationship with a man: 1) Wait for that change to take place which might mean not getting what you want this time around or 2) Standing out which incidentally isn’t to catch a guy but to be your best self. Both options have good and bad things you get to make the choice. :)
@panthelerАй бұрын
@@BernMendez absolutely, working on yourself is always beneficial, and should be for oneself first and foremost. Once you become a better version of yourself, you may attract someone suitable.
@shanbuchan7298Ай бұрын
Loved this video…you so easy to listen to.Your content is genuine and so beautifully placed on connecting with your truth 🤍 thank you for sharing.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You’re so welcome, Shan. Glad this was helpful.
@klesuo7 күн бұрын
Im glad I clicked on this. I wasn’t going to because of the title of the video but actually it was much more about personal growth than catching a man.
@fmss669417 күн бұрын
I’m 45 and I’m unabashedly myself. At work I’m well known for my character because I am confident in who I am and I do not need to please anyone but myself.
@BernMendez17 күн бұрын
Great to hear this 🙏😊
@Maria_PodestaАй бұрын
Loved this..solid, mature advise. Thank you...sending you love from RSA
@annaalm1814 күн бұрын
I just discovered your channel and I am thrilled! Amazing content, subscribed! I love the Concept of interdependence, never heard before. Thank you from my ❤!
@va9347Ай бұрын
I want a man who provides - this one guy who doesn’t believe in the same values has been dating me - even gave me a ring to try to manipulate me into becoming the person that he wants; i need to move on!
@BernMendezАй бұрын
What does the term "provides" mean to you in this context? : )
@lorettalewis42039 күн бұрын
Right on, very interdependent indeed.
@ballhawk387Ай бұрын
Right on. And these traits are not gender-specific; the difference being that women who men go for do so in a *feminine* way; whereas men who women fall for do so in a *masculine* way.
@joanna9856Ай бұрын
Beautiful message! Thank you ❤
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You are so welcome, Joanna.
@lorettalewis42039 күн бұрын
Ty for the clarity. On point.
@tara-30Ай бұрын
You are talking about valuable men looking in valuable women. 95 % out there don't have values. So, I guess you are doing this just for the 5% of valuable people out there.
@Jan-qv8kuАй бұрын
Thank you💛
@Sunny08meАй бұрын
Great video. Thank you so much.
@patriciasaldanha7243Ай бұрын
This is a lovely video ! Thank You ! 💮💝🌸👠
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You’re welcome.
@Concerned2012ParentАй бұрын
I love the quotes used in this video
@rokiroki36929 күн бұрын
Bernardo, I like your chanel and I like you too..😊 I bought a parfume today which express my unique sensuality the most... Thank you!
@BernMendez9 күн бұрын
Thank you for your kind words, and yes to you for doing what connects you to your senses :)
@inspired11Ай бұрын
Great video
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it :)
@TracyAtwood-ft8ov13 сағат бұрын
I’m a target. 😔 was. I was a target.
@relaxingnaturesounds2339Ай бұрын
You have clearly never been to a Walmart.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Huh??
@MonicaRodriguez-ip9gqАй бұрын
😂right
@muma6559Ай бұрын
Awesome, excellent. Great valuable advice
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Glad it was helpful : )
@Harry-o6gАй бұрын
This is all so true ❤
@annettemiller6931Ай бұрын
Love this ❤
@annabanzon31311 күн бұрын
Women who have high degrees n work hard in their careers.
@BernMendez10 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@user-qb1qi5ly6s9 күн бұрын
I'm seeing the word "perfect" man a lot in these comments. There is no perfect man or woman on earth. Perhaps looking for or expecting "perfection" is a lot of people's problem. Of course you'll end up disappointed if you're seeking something that doesn't exist. Love is accepting one's humanity...which is imperfect and flawed.
@janishaughton164Ай бұрын
Great video!
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it :)
@victoriagadd6831Ай бұрын
You are good
@catherinewest5609Ай бұрын
How long does it take to get the test results?
@BernMendezАй бұрын
You should get an email within the next 3-5 minutes, if you didn't please check your spam folder.
@hauwaabiri4970Ай бұрын
Nice video. Thank you for Sharing. I took the quiz but do not know what WDSG result means.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Check your email (or spam folder) for the result report :)
@mareewragg177Ай бұрын
OK, I am disliked for what I am - a stroke victim, this does not make me attractive.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
First off I'm deeply sorry you had a stroke. My only message is this: you are FAR MORE than a stroke victim, having had a stroke is a situation but doesn't define the totality of you. Is it harder to connect with someone? Absolutely, BUT it also weeds out anyone who is looking for a Barbie, superficial kind of connection. Your attractiveness is defined by many factors, including your confidence, your worth, your creativity, your connection with your emotions, your inner light, and your passion. Work on the things you have control over and don't let something that happened be the defining characteristic of you.
@venusis9117Ай бұрын
You can't desire to be wanted by a flaky psychopath.
@miriamrussell-brett643922 күн бұрын
Six senses.:..hear .. see..smell ... touch...taste...sex...sound speak...
@BernMendez18 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching Miriam : )
@nurseannesinspirationalwellnesАй бұрын
❤
@gracenurse3365Ай бұрын
So, we don’t need implants anymore?
@BernMendezАй бұрын
If implants make you happy, all the power to you. If implants are a way to "get men" then no, not needed for the type of guy you ultimately want who good be good for you.
@klh-arts9464Ай бұрын
Anything that would not be useful on deserted island is vanity.
@gracenurse3365Ай бұрын
@@klh-arts9464 But big implants could help you be spotted by telescope from the deck of a passing ship… or convince its sailors to rechart course and go out of their way to rescue you?
@barhawley123Ай бұрын
Not necessarily..There are plenty of men who prefer petite women with smaller ones..Also ..many focus on legs and booty..