Why Men Fall DEEPLY For Women Who Do This (And It’s Not Sex)

[@BernMendez]

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[@annettereid8077]

Yes

[@Clementine.Pie.Am.I]

Many men adore women like this at first, but over time, some men start feeling outshone by their woman and start trying to diminish her. Being confident enough to be unique is often a double-edged sword. Many people envy it and attack you for it.

[@cheekytitaable]

Omg this is so true. They start to get egotistical and cut you down so they can level-up, so to speak. This is so common it’s sad.

[@BernMendez]

Yes… and the consciousness level of the man will determine if he lifts you up or tries to pull you down. Thanks for watching.

[@alwayslearning957]

This is not an empowering belief to adopt. No-one who knows herself can be diminished by others, nor does she fear those who oppose her.

[@patriciasaldanha7243]

Quiet confidence implies uplifting others ; not afraid of being vulnerable oneself and protecting vulnerability in others ; confidence is not arrogance .it does not diminish others .Above all it means one can make mistakes and one is ready to grow and act on these mistakes .

[@tanyaflanders2196]

So true❤

[@Mary_QQQ]

1 Turn on inner light/ lifeforce 2 Go all in on uniqueness 3 Sensuality 4 clear and committed about values 5 Artfully holding directness and kindness 6 Paced vulnerability 7 Courageously interdependent

[@jijinoahoubusyness6795]

Thanks! I was looking for this! ❤

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching!

[@user-qt8sx1ck2c]

I’ve been told many times I have these traits then they stop talking to me. I also don’t get approached by men I’m attracted to, only gross or old men

[@beaj.h.1017]

@@user-qt8sx1ck2cthat's because those advices are slightly ideological....means; most people act like others do ( monkey princip, I guess;-) And at the end, there are few more important details, which play a role in the game. Or, better to say: in a more positive outcome of this game after all..

[@Madhuwellness]

Kindness Self aware Honesty Taking care of themselves & others

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching.

[@user-xi2bf5bl4e]

be proud, be yourself, be independent, and stop being delusional & pin all your hope on finding the perfect man to solve all your problems. Demand respect no matter what! The perfect guy will find you!

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching.

[@weekendnomad5038]

I agree with being clear about your values and don’t break them for a man ‼️‼️‼️

[@bhagavatilad3268]

The problem with doing that is that people get jealous of the attention a man gives you and they sabotage you so that you never get to the relationship stage ever again it happened to me

[@ladyofspa]

Hunt alone...rather present your greatness alone..... likely your friends will change once you've done more advanced inner work.

[@DS-pw1ot]

@@ladyofspaand don’t share anything about your interest with anyone. It’s a private matter ✅

[@Treekneeeet]

True. This happened to me. Stay away from jealous women, they are evil, really evil and insecure. And keep all your personal matters to yourself. No one should know your business.

[@anitaostrander4301]

Clear about and committed to their values is huge. Too many women are not clear about their values and therefore instead of being committed, they succumb to pressure …immediately losing a man’s respect

[@beaj.h.1017]

still need to add; that whether they were not prepared to stay together with those men's or the men's were not meant to be with them at the very beginning.

[@Shawtymamma9015]

Be your yourself & the perfect guy will find you 🎉

[@isabelleleymarie2074]

Unfortunately not!

[@BernMendez]

I agree, strategy is as important as being great : )

[@petras.8543]

This applies to women as much as men. Men, PLEASE dare to be your vulnerable, unique self! We have too many out there who are completely unremarkable because they try to fit some stupid stereotype. Be curious, be honest about your opinions, be a lifelong learner, and don't try to turn a woman into someone different than who you fell in love with. Allow her to remain an individual so she doesn't think she must 'shrink' herself to fit some expectation, thus losing herself in the relationship. Sending so much love ❤

[@daniellem.gibson4658]

Yes! You are so right. I’m looking for an authentic man.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

I liked a guy once just for him being him. He is a wonderful human being. I realized one day I need to love, like, and admire myself as I do him. I now listen and take heart and show up loving myself not trying to be loved. When a man critique my personal individuality I realize I am not the one for him. I would have been happy standing in sewage fixing a septic system for that man with no complaints. Just proud to be next to him in his presence. So now I know that is what I look for in another person. Someone who likes me for me

[@beaj.h.1017]

hey Susan, this is the truthful comment and most logic conclusion you have come to and share here. I would only like to add, that you would still have to love & like him as much as he would like & love you;-) Otherwise, you again would not be truly happy. And BTW you make the point, that all advices are slightly ideologic and do only work in a perfect connection of two people who really did have the luck in life to find each other and the beautiful chance, they were presented with did not get waisted.

[@melfrog5982]

I have been fiercely independent in the past. Feel it's something I had to learn through childhood that stayed with me. Since my break up with my abusive ex, I am learning to lean in and ask for help when needed and embrace help when offered. The first half of this vid I feel I am doing well. I have the right people around me to help me be uniquely me and express my needs, values and boundaries in healthy open ways.

[@BernMendez]

Thank you for sharing this, for your courage to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, and for surrounding yourself with loving, healthy humans.

[@SC-pm1pg]

actual advice for once to be the best truthful version of yourself rather than manipulate someone with underhand tactics which is the clickbait 'advice' a lot of these other youtube 'relationship experts' promote-might be useful short term but will only cause problems down the line. Thankyou for this insight.

[@BernMendez]

You’re most welcome. 🙏

[@fleurrobert4513]

I use wheelchair and have bother knowing values and showing how I'm unique: excellent active listener, quirky sense of humour, deep empathy, great memory for trivia, interested in many topics for meaningful conversation, genuine smile ... however, people merely perceive an older woman in a wheelchair and, somehow, that equates to being incapable/unworthy

[@reyesaguilar4775]

Sending u love❤❤❤

[@jayneyost7110]

I know what you mean,I have back problems,alot of things wrong in the same area. Once they find out that I live with chronic pain and can't always get up and go like them, I'm history.I am not giving up, I am thinking now, I might have luck with someone that has some issues like me, because they will understand.Maybe, this can help you as well 🤔

[@fleurrobert4513]

@@jayneyost7110 Is it not astonishing? When I was ambulant, with chronic pain, often no-one knew because I learnt to adapt myself to achieve tasks. Anybody can have injury or illness to become less able physically. When younger, men pointed out I was not very pretty; I'd respond with something like "beauty is skin deep" or even "true beauty is inside" - soon determined who wanted to know me for myself rather than the rather awful media expression "eye candy". If we live long enough, decades tend to affect appearance ... true love persists in my opinion when soul alignment occurs Wishing you very well in all aspects of life including meeting future partner

[@JaneDoe-qi2gq]

So far... Maybe join a group where you might meet other people with handicaps...or even volunteer to help like that.

[@JaneDoe-qi2gq]

I agree that looks shouldn't be a factor, but we all should strive to look our best. It's shows that you have self-respect and care for yourself to the best of your ability.

[@laureleepoapst3597]

Truer words were never said. Thank you for this truth

[@reemsaif3105]

Love that word Paced and shared vulnerability

[@BernMendez]

@@reemsaif3105 thank you Reem.

[@entrepreneurialempress]

I feel like I embody all of this but I can see how not pacing my vulnerability has been my downfall in the past. I genuinely believe every person we date or last experience changes us into the person we truly want to become.

[@beaj.h.1017]

someone said - life is a journey, so enjoy and do not take everything too seriously;-) The world is full of cowards. There is no size, which fit all!

[@entrepreneurialempress]

@beaj.h.1017 yes currently working on this just living in the moment thank you 😊

[@bloom7204]

As usual a fantastic video • thank you Bernardo 🙏🏼♥️

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome!

[@dariabogdan7884]

And that's the sad reality of life. There are more women than men who are willing to fulfil that role. So it's always the woman who has to stand out,has to work on herself and better herself. Why don't we think: if there are not enough men, how can we encourage and find a way for men to better themselves? Maybe make x10, x100, x1000 more engaging videos for the men so they just stumble across them? Just a thought...

[@BernMendez]

Well… while there are definitely many men working towards being better humans you, as a woman, have two solid options if you want a relationship with a man: 1) Wait for that change to take place which might mean not getting what you want this time around or 2) Standing out which incidentally isn’t to catch a guy but to be your best self. Both options have good and bad things you get to make the choice. :)

[@pantheler]

@@BernMendez absolutely, working on yourself is always beneficial, and should be for oneself first and foremost. Once you become a better version of yourself, you may attract someone suitable.

[@shanbuchan7298]

Loved this video…you so easy to listen to.Your content is genuine and so beautifully placed on connecting with your truth 🤍 thank you for sharing.

[@BernMendez]

You’re so welcome, Shan. Glad this was helpful.

[@klesuo]

Im glad I clicked on this. I wasn’t going to because of the title of the video but actually it was much more about personal growth than catching a man.

[@fmss6694]

I’m 45 and I’m unabashedly myself. At work I’m well known for my character because I am confident in who I am and I do not need to please anyone but myself.

[@BernMendez]

Great to hear this 🙏😊

[@Maria_Podesta]

Loved this..solid, mature advise. Thank you...sending you love from RSA

[@annaalm18]

I just discovered your channel and I am thrilled! Amazing content, subscribed! I love the Concept of interdependence, never heard before. Thank you from my ❤!

[@va9347]

I want a man who provides - this one guy who doesn’t believe in the same values has been dating me - even gave me a ring to try to manipulate me into becoming the person that he wants; i need to move on!

[@BernMendez]

What does the term "provides" mean to you in this context? : )

[@lorettalewis4203]

Right on, very interdependent indeed.

[@ballhawk387]

Right on. And these traits are not gender-specific; the difference being that women who men go for do so in a *feminine* way; whereas men who women fall for do so in a *masculine* way.

[@joanna9856]

Beautiful message! Thank you ❤

[@BernMendez]

You are so welcome, Joanna.

[@lorettalewis4203]

Ty for the clarity. On point.

[@tara-30]

You are talking about valuable men looking in valuable women. 95 % out there don't have values. So, I guess you are doing this just for the 5% of valuable people out there.

[@Jan-qv8ku]

Thank you💛

[@Sunny08me]

Great video. Thank you so much.

[@patriciasaldanha7243]

This is a lovely video ! Thank You ! 💮💝🌸👠

[@BernMendez]

You’re welcome.

[@Concerned2012Parent]

I love the quotes used in this video

[@rokiroki3692]

Bernardo, I like your chanel and I like you too..😊 I bought a parfume today which express my unique sensuality the most... Thank you!

[@BernMendez]

Thank you for your kind words, and yes to you for doing what connects you to your senses :)

[@inspired11]

Great video

[@BernMendez]

Glad you enjoyed it :)

[@TracyAtwood-ft8ov]

I’m a target. 😔 was. I was a target.

[@relaxingnaturesounds2339]

You have clearly never been to a Walmart.

[@BernMendez]

Huh??

[@MonicaRodriguez-ip9gq]

😂right

[@muma6559]

Awesome, excellent. Great valuable advice

[@BernMendez]

Glad it was helpful : )

[@Harry-o6g]

This is all so true ❤

[@annettemiller6931]

Love this ❤

[@annabanzon313]

Women who have high degrees n work hard in their careers.

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching.

[@user-qb1qi5ly6s]

I'm seeing the word "perfect" man a lot in these comments. There is no perfect man or woman on earth. Perhaps looking for or expecting "perfection" is a lot of people's problem. Of course you'll end up disappointed if you're seeking something that doesn't exist. Love is accepting one's humanity...which is imperfect and flawed.

[@janishaughton164]

Great video!

[@BernMendez]

Glad you enjoyed it :)

[@victoriagadd6831]

You are good

[@catherinewest5609]

How long does it take to get the test results?

[@BernMendez]

You should get an email within the next 3-5 minutes, if you didn't please check your spam folder.

[@hauwaabiri4970]

Nice video. Thank you for Sharing. I took the quiz but do not know what WDSG result means.

[@BernMendez]

Check your email (or spam folder) for the result report :)

[@mareewragg177]

OK, I am disliked for what I am - a stroke victim, this does not make me attractive.

[@BernMendez]

First off I'm deeply sorry you had a stroke. My only message is this: you are FAR MORE than a stroke victim, having had a stroke is a situation but doesn't define the totality of you. Is it harder to connect with someone? Absolutely, BUT it also weeds out anyone who is looking for a Barbie, superficial kind of connection. Your attractiveness is defined by many factors, including your confidence, your worth, your creativity, your connection with your emotions, your inner light, and your passion. Work on the things you have control over and don't let something that happened be the defining characteristic of you.

[@venusis9117]

You can't desire to be wanted by a flaky psychopath.

[@miriamrussell-brett6439]

Six senses.:..hear .. see..smell ... touch...taste...sex...sound speak...

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching Miriam : )

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

❤

[@gracenurse3365]

So, we don’t need implants anymore?

[@BernMendez]

If implants make you happy, all the power to you. If implants are a way to "get men" then no, not needed for the type of guy you ultimately want who good be good for you.

[@klh-arts9464]

Anything that would not be useful on deserted island is vanity.

[@gracenurse3365]

@@klh-arts9464 But big implants could help you be spotted by telescope from the deck of a passing ship… or convince its sailors to rechart course and go out of their way to rescue you?

[@barhawley123]

Not necessarily..There are plenty of men who prefer petite women with smaller ones..Also ..many focus on legs and booty..

[@user-cf6hn5tp4j]

Good advice