Why Men Feel a DEEP Emotional Connection with Women Who Create Space

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Brian Nox

Brian Nox

Күн бұрын

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@sidekickster8917
@sidekickster8917 Жыл бұрын
It's healthier if BOTH men & women have their own space, their own friends, things to do away from each other. It's actually strengthening
@maloxi1472
@maloxi1472 8 ай бұрын
…unless he's a cheater or she's a hoe; but then again, the whole charade wouldn't qualify as "healthy" from the get-go.
@Marianismacias
@Marianismacias 4 ай бұрын
Yeah, we women teach men to relate with others, men teach women have their own space, relationships are for growth
@RedWaterGlow
@RedWaterGlow 3 ай бұрын
@@Marianismacias Wonderful words
@Iamam313
@Iamam313 9 ай бұрын
If I see a dude physically distancing himself from me after sex then my feeling for him will drop to zero really fast...you can't act cold after such an intimate thing and expect the other person to still feel the same, I don't need to be told twice I'm not wanted
@EE-kt8sh
@EE-kt8sh 3 ай бұрын
Then you want a relationship with women. Go find one
@estherharing7430
@estherharing7430 2 ай бұрын
Don't give your body to a man that doesn't love you in the first place.
@Iamam313
@Iamam313 2 ай бұрын
@@estherharing7430 you realize men lie to get in your pants right? he may appear to be the worlds greatest man in appearances for months or even years and then once he got what he wanted he switches up on you instantly. There is no way to know for sure, it's always a gamble and I'm done gambling
@Iamam313
@Iamam313 2 ай бұрын
@@estherharing7430 so remain a virgin :)) cuz men don't love women
@sept2866
@sept2866 Ай бұрын
​@estherharing7430 Ageed! So many bitter women on the comment sections on dating advice when they may be adding to their own struggles. Use your head before giving in to someone.
@dreambig7425
@dreambig7425 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for making this. Guys need to talk about this more. Seriously. Men are confusing as hell and a man pulling away hurts badly. To make matters worse, they don’t communicate what’s going on.
@yojankicks
@yojankicks 11 ай бұрын
I need a man that can accept that i am clingy. If he complains, then i will.not hesitate to walk away. I have a lot to offer as a woman. All or nothing if he can't provide or satisfy my clinginess then go find someone else or be alone. That's my piece.
@crystaldunson9578
@crystaldunson9578 11 ай бұрын
😊Amen!
@tathjianaislas3246
@tathjianaislas3246 11 ай бұрын
I agree strongly
@tigerpaws111
@tigerpaws111 10 ай бұрын
Most of this is subconcious so most aren't aware or they don't know how a woman feels from her perspective because they aren't women and don't have anything to compare it to as they have always delt with things that way. Understanding how both genders work really helps. But both partners need to have the knowledge to make it work and communicate with each other and sadly a lot don't. It does get better with age and experience I feel though. Some men never grow up 😂
@begr_wiedererkennungswert
@begr_wiedererkennungswert Жыл бұрын
Over the years I became so good at giving more space that I don't expect anything at all anymore.
@aeiou0123
@aeiou0123 11 ай бұрын
Same here
@begr_wiedererkennungswert
@begr_wiedererkennungswert 11 ай бұрын
@@aeiou0123 ❤
@begr_wiedererkennungswert
@begr_wiedererkennungswert 11 ай бұрын
@@smoothtruth ❤
@a.d.b535
@a.d.b535 11 ай бұрын
Me too although my space and friends were frowned on.
@0lovelybelle0
@0lovelybelle0 11 ай бұрын
Yep
@IevaKambarovaite
@IevaKambarovaite Жыл бұрын
Distance does wonders. That's why women need to have girfriends and a support system they can talk to about what bothers them. You can't just be dumping everything on a man.. He can't be your therapist, your girfriend, your lover, your support system, your playmate etc,
@brittany.sherell
@brittany.sherell 11 ай бұрын
Yeah but if you clock out the ONE time I come to you and I never dump then you might be a little avoidant or just don’t like me.
@audreyandrea460
@audreyandrea460 11 ай бұрын
You can’t use your girlfriends or female family members to discuss *him* or your relationship, though. If you are sitting around complaining about him to other people, it’s time to end things.
@Heyu7her3
@Heyu7her3 9 ай бұрын
Men are the ones that do that. Women have all that already... _well, the ones that don't dump their single friends & relatives once they're coupled..._ They're expecting to be confided in & treated like they're in a relationship by their man.
@Lucien234-i2z
@Lucien234-i2z 7 ай бұрын
You shouldn't talk about your relationship issues to other people! First rule of marriage!!
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 6 ай бұрын
Then why need a man if he is not the rock that provides time and attention? Sure he will not be there 24/7. But when you need him, he has to be there. Just dont over do it. But a loving man knows how to provide attention when the woman needs it.
@moni855
@moni855 11 ай бұрын
I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. I didn’t realize he needed space. I am pretty much an anxious person and love being around him. I noticed over the summer that he started pulling away at times and said it wasn’t me. Until recently, I didn’t realize that space was his way of recharging. I am still learning how to give him space without feeling sad or anxious 😬
@AudreyLuerding
@AudreyLuerding 11 ай бұрын
Its completely normal to have an anxious attachment style. Im the same way a lot of people experience this. The best piece of advice i can give is to find things to do without him before he has to ask for space. It is a game changer. I love him actually texting me and trying to figure out what i’m doing instead of texting him and blowing up his phone. It helps keep the spark alive in a relationship for sure. I hang with friends, family, get my nails done, workout, etc and its perfect for giving him space to strengthen the relationship.
@triadholisticliving2369
@triadholisticliving2369 10 ай бұрын
@@AudreyLuerdinglove this!
@tigerpaws111
@tigerpaws111 10 ай бұрын
I struggle with this in realtionships too! I found focusing on hobbys, health or meeting up with other friends really distracts me from those feelings and before I knew it they would be showering me with love and affection. Make your life not all about them! If a man made their life all about me I'd be kinda freaked out tbh and not be attracted to them (I've had a few male friends give me the ick by doing this) Knowing what that's like has also helped!
@Heyu7her3
@Heyu7her3 9 ай бұрын
HE NEEDS TO COMMUNICATE THAT WITH YOU INSTEAD OF KEEPING YOU GUESSING.
@mgn1621
@mgn1621 8 ай бұрын
@@AudreyLuerding its not normal, but it is common. its a result of lack of healthy upbringing. Best thing to do is heal and become more secure attachment.
@milakociecka6846
@milakociecka6846 Жыл бұрын
it would be helpful to add for how long period of time should a woman tolerate that man needs space. I was ignored and/or treated poorly for the whole two months of his new work. so if he was not worry to put himself in the position to lose me, I don't believe it was ever love from his side.
@mundoomundoo1371
@mundoomundoo1371 11 ай бұрын
Dump him and move on , he will come back when he feel this
@iwantabiscuitplz
@iwantabiscuitplz 11 ай бұрын
@@mundoomundoo1371 agreed. and when he comes back....don't take him back
@paolanamuncura8879
@paolanamuncura8879 6 күн бұрын
Agreed! He probably met a new coworker
@krazykirl1129
@krazykirl1129 11 ай бұрын
Space is good to process things, sometimes, if you have all the information you need, but there needs to be a team effort as well. People keep saying men are different. Actually they're not. What you're mentioning here are different levels of communication that are lacking in the skills it takes to have a relationship. A team player doesn't need space, they need good communication skills. Being in a relationship is a team effort. Imagine being in a relationship and every time there's an issue you need space? If it's a massive problem then that person needs more space. No, they need solutions and commitment.
@truerosie
@truerosie 3 ай бұрын
No. Space is essential for everyone. So are communication and relationship skills. I'm a woman and if I don't have space I'm out of the relationship, it's like air to me and to many other people.
@a.d.b535
@a.d.b535 2 ай бұрын
Yep, it's messed up.
@ba8501
@ba8501 11 ай бұрын
I am a woman and I need my space. I don't need to be up in a man's face twenty-four-seven. I am glad if he wants space. In fact, I encourage it. I have come to understand that men are fundamentally different. Some physical/emotional distance is good. If you leave them be they will open up when they are ready.
@sept2866
@sept2866 Ай бұрын
Very wise !
@SearchIndex
@SearchIndex Жыл бұрын
When a boy chews his arm off for space to get away from you to go chase trash, suddenly telling you in no uncertain terms that you are weak, boring, didn’t touch his heart, and didn’t make him feel special -that’s a sign to say “Take all the space you need” and emotionally disconnect because you weren’t miss right you were miss right now …he’ll be back, but the lights are on and nobody’s home 😂
@Bethpaintsyes
@Bethpaintsyes 11 ай бұрын
Right? Love this!
@staywellandstrong4199
@staywellandstrong4199 11 ай бұрын
Perhaps his maturity and standards haven't developed quality enough to join you on the High Road, where Love.Honor.Cherish thrives. Continue to Enjoy seeing that which assures your spirit ~ and honoring who you choose to be for yourself and others.
@ireefree2024
@ireefree2024 11 ай бұрын
You're writing about boys as written by you. That's the difference. Brian is talking about man and a healthy distance what is something totally different. I'm happy married because my husband is a man, not a boy. He's by my side in good and bad times. And he discusses also the things that bother him. But he needs space for his hobbies aswell as I need space for myself. First thing is to sorted out all boys and get a real man. Personally I need to heal first and stop running after the wrong guys. Have boundaries and keep them.
@SearchIndex
@SearchIndex 11 ай бұрын
@@ireefree2024 Congratulations on your satisfactorily-yoked match. ❤ Yes, I know what Brian was talking about. I was utilizing comic relief tongue-in-cheek humor, while telling a blunt truth about a common reason “space” becomes an issue if ‘reasonable passion’ was never mutual, or was lost
@sept2866
@sept2866 2 ай бұрын
Wow, lots of bitter responses here😮
@doris-ct9bt
@doris-ct9bt 11 ай бұрын
My ex-boy friend could not understand space. He got so angry because I wasn't around enough. He had a lot of time in his hands and I am busy because of financial responsibilities (mortgage, utilities, etc.) We are no longer together and he found himself a rebound only a few months after we broke up.
@EdelweisSusie
@EdelweisSusie Жыл бұрын
Why are there no videos for MEN to learn how to be with a woman and not screw up relationships so that 50% end in divorce???? Am sick of hearing how to keep a man - time for roles to be reversed.
@dibelgelo
@dibelgelo Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. And I don't get why women are so obsessed with relationships. Women who are financially independent and don't need a man to survive at that.
@oprrator
@oprrator 11 ай бұрын
There are, but the algorithm will show those more to men on here than women lol. Also women outnumber men by a LOT so especially since we “expire” at a certain age while they look better, (I’m assuming you’re both also western women) men are leaving the North America in droves to marry eastern women that are traditional and men are now considered the prize -_-
@sarahhunter8997
@sarahhunter8997 11 ай бұрын
Men do not care. Women do. That’s why.
@iwantabiscuitplz
@iwantabiscuitplz 11 ай бұрын
This!!!!!
@carly8056
@carly8056 11 ай бұрын
THIS should be the top comment. THANK YOU. 🔥🔥🔥
@mayyu4178
@mayyu4178 10 ай бұрын
Wanting him but not needing him ❤ great quote
@cherrylane79
@cherrylane79 11 ай бұрын
People are different, some are not interested in a relationship or need time to reload their social battery. Also some women can need some alone time, not just some men.
@marvel4528
@marvel4528 11 ай бұрын
When someone ignores you for weeks at the time but has plenty of time for Instagram, well this is very disrespectful and it feels like they don't care for me or my messages...Gradually I have lost desire to share and talk to them anymore. Now, I am going against my nature and change my texting habits so he can get plenty of space, not sure this creates any connection though 😢
@tathjianaislas3246
@tathjianaislas3246 10 ай бұрын
I feel like you know the answer already but every one is different… if you know the person you are talking to then … that’s all I can say :)
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 6 ай бұрын
1 week of no contact is ghosting. If a guy does that to me, i call him out on it. Or not responding anymore hahaha 😂
@MyMuse1111
@MyMuse1111 4 ай бұрын
They come back?
@JoannaCubana
@JoannaCubana Ай бұрын
Girl, he isn't interested ❤
@waterlilynymph
@waterlilynymph 7 ай бұрын
What if the guy does not ask for space, but has been slower to respond to texts and honestly you just feels he is going through something and you offer space first? Then go no contact.
@Braveh3artGirl
@Braveh3artGirl 7 ай бұрын
Match what he’s doing and also give the love to yourself and your life ❤
@a.d.b535
@a.d.b535 2 ай бұрын
He said he needed space, going on 2 weeks, and accompanied by removing our photo from his side table. I backed off and dating another man.
@suebrown7386
@suebrown7386 11 ай бұрын
...evaluate his maturity level ... DONT give him money ...don’t let him drive your car ...test him, give space early on...if he starts with accusations, get rid of him (quietly)...he’s a narc ...guys need a couple years after divorce, otherwise you’re a rebound ...guys who complain have options and you are just the therapist, mommy, cook, mechanic, courier.... ...give him space and get gone he just did you a favor 😘🤠
@jessicafb5398
@jessicafb5398 7 ай бұрын
Space is the opposite of emotional connection. A certain amount of space is healthy in a relationship. Too little space, and people will feel smothered and a loss of independence. Too much space and there will be a lack of connection. An avoidant man will crave too much space. The key is to date a securely attached man and not date an avoidant man. And also to become securely attached oneself. Also, a partner should be able to communicate their needs to each other. If either partner needs more space, they should communicate this to their partner, rather than just pulling away and not saying anything. Again, the later would be considered an avoidant attachment behavior, and would decrease feelings of safety and security in a relationship. Space is healthy. Too much space creates disconnection.
@brittnyy113
@brittnyy113 Жыл бұрын
WOW!! I needed this! Going through this right now.... my guy has been more distant and shutting down with me after sex and whenever a new stressor arises.... causing me to push more into him and want to love him more. But that's not working. Currently Giving him lots of space and hoping he works on his issues effectively ❤
@kimlarge4077
@kimlarge4077 11 ай бұрын
Yes, leave him alone. Go radio silence on his ass. He WILL come back. This is hard to do but act like you don't care, it works in a way for him to realize he misses you and loves you. Plus, he will think you are making memories with another man. He won't like that and will come to you. Don't stress girl. He will come back to you. A girlfriend doesn't need to be doing a wife's work on a girlfriend pay.
@ba8501
@ba8501 11 ай бұрын
Yes, I agree definitely do the opposite. Focus on yourself and do your own thing. Don't even mention any of those issues. Just carry on as normal, like you don't really care about it. He will come back around. Don't push it. It will make him run further away from you.
@iwantabiscuitplz
@iwantabiscuitplz 11 ай бұрын
I wouldn't be able to put up with that behaviour. Props to you for being able to handle it, but I do think he needs to deal with his problems in a way that doesn't hurt you. You sound like a loving and caring partner who tends to his needs, and you deserve to have your needs met too. Just my two cents
@Lindartist
@Lindartist 5 ай бұрын
Spot on as usual. I see space for the guy as his way of processing the relationship. And I use that time for a little me staycation or vacation.
@rickmoody9258
@rickmoody9258 6 ай бұрын
As someone who has been married for over a decade, I can say that the general assumptions that women are clingy and need constant interaction is inaccurate. As the female who needs ample space and that gets anxiety from the thought of excessive attention, I can say that not all women fit into a singular personality type. In addition, two people that enjoy space can also be problematic. I struggle connecting and expressing emotion so it is odd having a male counterpart requesting affection. 😂
@sagenosnibor9173
@sagenosnibor9173 5 ай бұрын
I'm built the same way. I need to pull away to recharge!
@Bluesmoke4200
@Bluesmoke4200 5 ай бұрын
Wow i have needed this in my life. Brian understands and explains conplex things so well
@Hesteforstanddk
@Hesteforstanddk 9 ай бұрын
2 things are not addressed here. Being clingy is not a decision or a strategy. It comes from an empty and very lonely sensation. Usually from childhood neglect or trauma. It might be uncontrollable. I have trained myself to not showing when I feel the urge to cling. I have never given up my own stuff for any man. He hears more from me when I feel good than when I want to cling. However he senses it anyway an pulls back. Without being able to tell why. Another thing is that clingy (ambivalent attachment style) tend to like avoidant men and vice versa. This reinforces the pattern. If i was able to stop being clingy or feeling the urge to cling i would probably attract non-avoidant men. So just tell me how to stop the need for clinging. Instead of just saying i should stop it. I can stop the actions. According to men I have been with i do this very well but I have not yet been able to remove the urge.
@quietreader4190
@quietreader4190 9 ай бұрын
I have the same attachment style you do it sounds like (anxious), from childhood neglect... not intentional neglect however there was just certain situations going on around me and certain people that took higher priority that my own needs. Despite all of that, and knowing what caused my childhood issues the anxious stuff is something I still deal with. It all goes back to childhood, and what you were exposed to and how your parents and/or caregivers responded to and met (or in our cases did not meet) your needs and how you were treated as a child. The urge to cling stems from your parents not being at all available to meet your needs, to maybe being available and not being available to meet your needs and its deeply wounding to us as children and the trauma from that becomes deeply ingrained within us. There is no easy fix to that, in fact its something we will deal with for the rest of our lives. With therapy and/or self-help you can do a lot though, but it will take time and willpower to face what you went through as a child, and learn healthy ways to cope and manage your anxious attachment style. I didn't ever go to the therapist but I've done a lot of self work over the last 10 years. As I said, its something we will deal with for the rest of our lives. The urge to cling is the worst to deal with, because it comes from the abandonment we felt as children and the fact we could never trust our parents and/or caregivers to be there when we needed them to be so we formed this need to cling to them to show them that we were there in a bid for attention, love, and care. There is a lot of stuff you can do to help manage your anxious attachment style as you might learn, and it may include learning about inner child work and re-parenting techniques. When you feel the urge to cling, that's a trauma response coming from your inner child and it's your inner child screaming for the attention that our parents/caregivers didn't give us, so now its up to us as adults to deal with the mess through self help and/or therapy, which may include learning about our inner child and finding ways to soothe them through re-parenting techniques. I know you can work through it, and find ways to manage your anxious attachment style just like I have. What effected us in childhood wounded us deeply, it's unfortunately something you and your brain cannot forget and it became basically wired into our brains to react in certain ways and one of those ways is "the urge to cling".
@wintershu3422
@wintershu3422 5 ай бұрын
Give him space...until it becomes not prioritising him, and so reason to breakup. I'm not suggesting all guys are jerks like that, but it does happen.
@christinegeltner9729
@christinegeltner9729 Жыл бұрын
Brilliant. Needed to hear this so much. I'm with an Attachment Avoidant. It's only now I'm learning to not take his lack of emotional connectio n personally. Thank you. I will keep playing this until it really sinks in. You are a gem, Brian.
@Ytdeletesallmycomments
@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын
They need an unhealthy kinda space. Space is puahing you away and the beginning of the end or a horrible situationship that will leave you mentally drained. Good luck.😂
@laurajamil8943
@laurajamil8943 11 ай бұрын
​@@Ytdeletesallmycommentswell said
@verycherry4459
@verycherry4459 8 ай бұрын
I NEEDED to hear this today. Thank you.
@amandaboado7057
@amandaboado7057 8 ай бұрын
Women need space from everyone else aswell to keep themselves grounded from all the demands people put on you including your partner.
@fleurmanlaw
@fleurmanlaw 11 ай бұрын
Me and my boyfriend always go together to play tennis but I give him space to play with his friends first then afterward he will play with me. We also go fishing, I stay in the same spot and I let him move around and walk down the river. We also go hiking and biking with our friends and I let him be the leader and he will wait for me 😅 because I'm very slow.
@juicyj2837
@juicyj2837 7 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for these videos because I would have never grasped this concept
@sept2866
@sept2866 Ай бұрын
Love how you dig for scientific along with experiential information on the differences between men and women Brian!
@myzgod
@myzgod 6 ай бұрын
I wish God made nothing like relationships. We all just live our purposes out and we go when it’s done. This love element is just some sort of work on its own. For me, I’m learning to emotionally detach cause I’m a clingy person.
@staywellandstrong4199
@staywellandstrong4199 11 ай бұрын
I've been developing the skill of subtlely & creatively providing exactly that. Until recently, I had No idea (aka 'was it something I did?') Thank you for the many tips RE this key subject. It's healthy-boundaries powerful. Many thanks, with deep gratitude.
@angelabell7254
@angelabell7254 3 ай бұрын
Space is the place ❤❤❤ It's so much better.
@tathjianaislas3246
@tathjianaislas3246 11 ай бұрын
I wanna show him how to. Express his emotions and cope better with it … a lot of men were not taught and I give myself, my friends and loved ones space always ❤❤❤❤
@clairexxx0405
@clairexxx0405 Жыл бұрын
Thank you again for all your wonderful advice it's always much needed... and absolutely men and women think so very different about so many things, space is very important as is communication which is always better when theres room to think and clarify emotions that both people are feeling. Thank you for staying to the end of the video too 😁👌
@MarinaM-o6p
@MarinaM-o6p 8 ай бұрын
I create so much space that the man can hear crickets and not me 😂
@barbarabreaux8341
@barbarabreaux8341 10 ай бұрын
Lol! I give all the space, which he can keep it because I am used to it! No need to further the relationship 😂
@isabelbetancourt1095
@isabelbetancourt1095 Жыл бұрын
“I need to manifest better” 👌🏻
@evergreen3843
@evergreen3843 2 ай бұрын
Also women need space!
@rednvocal
@rednvocal 11 ай бұрын
I am a woman, and I need a lot of space, and I am a people person!
@enryiggins2878
@enryiggins2878 4 ай бұрын
Thank you, Heath. I appreciate your time and information.
@tamaratzarina7183
@tamaratzarina7183 Жыл бұрын
Brian, Great video! Thanks 🙏
@lovethmoses2512
@lovethmoses2512 Жыл бұрын
I like the plot twist at the beginning 😂😂
@adeleneguzzo7468
@adeleneguzzo7468 Жыл бұрын
Yes indeed..if you just treat some one the way you want to be treated then all works out great....never assume is what my man taught me from day one and believe it ...that many just ASSUME ...without knowing the whole reason or asking first...if they don't understand a communication or action.MAGIC HAPPENS if you just love unconditionally and love th person for who they are...NOT ...who you want then to be and if you must try to change them...( you may be with the wrong person?❤😢😂
@p4piscesp4peace24
@p4piscesp4peace24 Ай бұрын
Oh God, I met a man who created such a safe space for me at work, I have never seen a better gentleman like him, I would want to marry him, but our connection ended abruptly, I know he still has some things for me in his mind so do I, but office politics and my anger issues affected my connection with him, unspoken, unexpressed but a subtle thing which I we both felt, it was the most beautiful thing I ever experienced... only God can help us get back together,
@PJ-xl5hs
@PJ-xl5hs 11 ай бұрын
This is good Brian!! Nice work!
@mundoomundoo1371
@mundoomundoo1371 11 ай бұрын
How long the average period of space should be ? Especially at the beginning of any relationship?
@tess7798
@tess7798 8 ай бұрын
I’ll meet him at the fridge !! Love this !
@flutenanyidk1806
@flutenanyidk1806 11 ай бұрын
Yeah… I tried to create plenty of alone time for him… I stopped texting him more than like 3 times a day throughout his entire 12 hour shift, and we only see each other on average once a week, and he’s expressed that talk to me more can be overwhelming for him. I expect my partner to call me for at least 5 minutes every day.
@ScorpioKay1027
@ScorpioKay1027 11 ай бұрын
He doesn't sound invested or single 😮
@RedHybiscus
@RedHybiscus 5 ай бұрын
If he says he needs space - he means I want to move on
@truerosie
@truerosie 3 ай бұрын
Not always. Didn't you listen to the video at all?
@RedHybiscus
@RedHybiscus 3 ай бұрын
@@truerosieI said that after he ended a relationship after 6 months and a couple episodes of “needing space” or needing quiet time so I was not happy - however I do still stand by that statement
@elinek5470
@elinek5470 Жыл бұрын
You are funny. Really recognize the Dutch humour 😋
@maiiabdou
@maiiabdou 10 ай бұрын
Wow! Thank you❤❤❤
@kigozinoor4259
@kigozinoor4259 11 ай бұрын
Need to watch this really thank u
@gloriapenny7740
@gloriapenny7740 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian.
@susanroby1010
@susanroby1010 11 ай бұрын
I know a married couple that do EVERYTHING together. They do not have any space. They love it that way. They have lost many friends because the friends want to do a friend visit and can't. They are older, but not real old, seems like they should need a little space.
@lolasaysyes
@lolasaysyes 10 ай бұрын
I know people like this too, young couples in their 30s who have been together since college. Relationships like that can become very codependent because you literally grow up and become an adult with someone at your side. They don’t know what it’s like to grow up on your own so their sense of individualism is less developed. But even if it seems unhealthy to an observer, it seems natural to them, and it makes them happy 🤷🏻‍♀️
@ebony2413
@ebony2413 Жыл бұрын
Thank you greatly for this invaluable information.
@utatu3j
@utatu3j Жыл бұрын
Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.
@selenachronister9642
@selenachronister9642 6 ай бұрын
Introvert here and I agree with all of this
@jdprettynails
@jdprettynails 5 ай бұрын
I give them all the space they want….in the meantime I’m feeling hurt and neglected.
@carolinesposto2946
@carolinesposto2946 11 ай бұрын
Excellent!
@ellaella2885
@ellaella2885 11 ай бұрын
Brian thank you so much . Be blessed
@Moluccanmama
@Moluccanmama 11 ай бұрын
Haha, short attention span!! Great advice. Thank you ❤
@nauctavia
@nauctavia Жыл бұрын
how can we tell the difference between his needing space is about needing to recharge, or when its because he feels "suffocated"? how much time for space until it becomes a red flag?
@KVG822
@KVG822 11 ай бұрын
Just leave him alone
@truerosie
@truerosie 3 ай бұрын
There's no definite time, each couple needs to work that out. If he needs so much space that you disconnect, you might be incompatible, or he may be playing the field and not really available for a 1:1 relationship. If he feels suffocated, he has gone past the recharge point and there may be harsh words. You can always ask him. I'm the one who needs space in my relationships.
@SK43996
@SK43996 7 күн бұрын
I’m a woman and I love to have space a lot more than my husband does.
@traceyallen2903
@traceyallen2903 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately for us my bf needed space which I gave him by the way to txt women and pleasure himself now he has all the space n time he needs to do whatever he likes.
@truerosie
@truerosie 3 ай бұрын
I'm guessing you don't have a relationship anymore then. Space to text other women is not what Brian is talking about, that only happens when he doesn't want to commit to you or anyone else. Better off without him.
@yvonnejapin6403
@yvonnejapin6403 5 ай бұрын
I need this now juju 😢thank you
@elainedavies4539
@elainedavies4539 11 ай бұрын
So true especially when there are relationship problems.. I swear a lot of men are very selfish though and utilise the time to ‘do their own thing’ so capitalise on this.Can be annoying 😏
@airbullet9331
@airbullet9331 11 ай бұрын
Same thing with me/us women!
@kelligray1848
@kelligray1848 8 ай бұрын
This is soooooo true.
@kalpanagupta816
@kalpanagupta816 11 ай бұрын
omg i soo needed this!❤
@patty518
@patty518 4 ай бұрын
Babies always communicate better than most adults. They do not hide their needs, wants, or emotions, and they don't care who might get bothered by it or who may be around.
@SarahGraceL
@SarahGraceL 11 ай бұрын
And if they cheated on their wife or spouse to get that emotional connection, they are still wrong and broken.
@irenemwangi1126
@irenemwangi1126 11 ай бұрын
Very interesting anology brain . You are so right. Bless you for sharing
@niceworkabc
@niceworkabc 11 ай бұрын
I feel that you've had multiple requests from men to explain this to the women in their lives 😂
@lowbrowrodeo
@lowbrowrodeo 5 ай бұрын
I had a clingy boyfriend. I started going to yoga classes because I wanted to have something for myself. He joined the yoga class.
@marias6170
@marias6170 6 ай бұрын
Going thru this now not even sure why he said I need time & think I’m sticking to NC he has messaged a few times I don’t even see him that much during the week.. we’ve been together over a 1 1/2 yr
@lovethmoses2512
@lovethmoses2512 Жыл бұрын
I love you sir thank you so much for this!
@rashkehof2458
@rashkehof2458 11 ай бұрын
What about husbands who are needy and clingy??
@truerosie
@truerosie 3 ай бұрын
Then you need space! Ask for it before you are going nuts.
@nophera1
@nophera1 11 ай бұрын
Excellent
@cecilyalidya2452
@cecilyalidya2452 10 ай бұрын
Hi Brian, I wanted to say thank you for all your great information, but I can't find your "thanks" KZbin button.
@zmariawang
@zmariawang Ай бұрын
If the space is "involuntarily" or "subconsciously" created by my partner because of his fear or insecurity? Leaving him stuck there perhaps does no good... What is your advice in this situation?
@Ziggimomspal68
@Ziggimomspal68 Жыл бұрын
Excellent
@shinefia5987
@shinefia5987 14 күн бұрын
Why does the women always to be the one to understand and be patient and to worry bout his emotions
@zathenhcambidestem-iliv2464
@zathenhcambidestem-iliv2464 11 ай бұрын
Ok valid points, however we are not all one or all other,I like to heal alone, do shadow work alone, branch out and meet new groups, make alliances, have new experiences, songwrite/chsannel alone. I am neither an intorvert, nor a physical man. I actually don't like being smothered, not keen on neediness, clingy men, I am not a a man, I am straight.and a female. Your advice also applys to those inbetweens. We humans are evolving into new humans, where we are embracing our multi-dimensional, Star origins, we are not just a flesh suite, with programmed states of consciousness, conditioned mindsets. We my friend are remembering we are everything, and all. So just because I like alone time, I am physically a women, straight in sexuallity, I am neither an intorvert or extrovert, I am both. Lets end sterotyping!
@rachell1094
@rachell1094 11 ай бұрын
before you get the "space" thing/time, give me the trust first haha
@grabbelton
@grabbelton 3 ай бұрын
He needs etc what about our needs?
@22lanisha
@22lanisha 8 күн бұрын
@@grabbelton The topic here was on a man’s needs not both.
@keyawnaparks5983
@keyawnaparks5983 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! 😊
@viviennethorpe1035
@viviennethorpe1035 Жыл бұрын
Brilliant...sooooo correct 😊
@samanthalee2748
@samanthalee2748 11 ай бұрын
i gave more space and he cheated everyone he asked for it. then after purposing and taking the kid i’d be her step mom he cheated and dumped me. move that woman in two weeks later. 😢
@Linoynooy
@Linoynooy 5 ай бұрын
You are the best
@piggiesmalls4
@piggiesmalls4 5 ай бұрын
As a woman I value my space too.. and encourage the men to do their own thing as much as possible so that I can have my space 😂 but is there such thing as giving a man too much space? Don’t men like to feel needed?
@TanyaJackson-z5m
@TanyaJackson-z5m 8 ай бұрын
I'm a woman and feel attracted to a trangendered female....I just prefer feminine traits as men abused me my entire life....space is nice in a relationship....it creates more room for a deeper emotional connection...I felt I was once gay...then dated several guys who were bullies...I'm a bit embarrassed how my preferences have changed but I see the importance of an emotional connection as the sex never created that in my past 2 relationships....sex can't be everything then....but I guess it also has it's time and purpose
@John83118
@John83118 10 ай бұрын
This content is a treasure trove of new insights. Reading a book with similar topics expanded my mental and emotional horizons. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
@Reginavici1234
@Reginavici1234 7 ай бұрын
A very helpful video 😂 only it was there an year ago could have saved my relationship but it's okay I learnt it the hard way and also he cheated at the end.
@jaynedapoz3788
@jaynedapoz3788 11 ай бұрын
I gave him space and he got back with his old girlfriend, so....
@dlyfieee
@dlyfieee 11 ай бұрын
That's okay. You should know your worth.
@yojankicks
@yojankicks 11 ай бұрын
I am clingiy he even said during his visit for 15 days, he said i am apuppy dog and needy and clingy so i told him let us just break up if you find me cli gy. But he refused to break up. I want to be a roind wuth my man if i need to , if he cant address tuat part of me i rather be alone!. On to next..
@VTrangPham
@VTrangPham Жыл бұрын
Nuh
@mgn1621
@mgn1621 8 ай бұрын
Most men have avoid attachment style.
@comtaar2245
@comtaar2245 Жыл бұрын
A man who needs space also needs a rocket or space shuttle.
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