Why MEN Today Expect A Woman To CHASE Them

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@DA-qw1ut]

A man should pursue! Periodt! Men are not the grand prize or god's gift to humanity. Men need to cut out the foolishness and just be gggay if they know they truly dont like women. It's simple.

[@eac-guy7272]

A 40 year old guy told me he wanted to be chased and wanted the woman to propose but he wants a virgin who wants to be a traditional wife. I just walked away. He's confused af

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@ДианаДиана-н6н]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@verondaagnew2240]

🤣🤣🤣

[@nursekillm]

Talk about an ick! 🤢 lol

[@KathrynPhx1]

😂 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@KUSHANDRA]

My ex boyfriend expected to be chased. Throughout out his childhood he grew around women who would take care of him and taught not to give anything in return. His father was absent primarily but I found out that the father expected his kids to chase him and contact him. I tried to teach him and make him realise, even proposed therapy but to no avail. Don't waste your time ladies and always look at their families first.

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

I’m glad he’s your ex lol… you don’t need that vibe. It’s been 40 plus years and my daddy is still the chaser with my mom. I never chased my husband and never will 😩

[@UniqueBreakfastTaco]

So, a man raised by women acts like a woman. Who could've expected that? XD

[@marthaleneteage986]

Just curious question-- is your ex African?

[@Zeebo216]

My family F’d up and I’m not nothing like them…

[@YASMINOGBU]

So true ❤️ thank you for sharing

[@Jakilyn]

Thank you for this!! Idk why so many men want to be chased. LADIES...if you chase a man, he will always be LOW EFFORT! You will be left unfulfilled 😢

[@garygreen7104]

He just explained why. Is there something missing for you with his explanation?

[@Jakilyn]

@garygreen7104 Are you void of kindness and just feel the need to snap at someone? OBVIOUSLY he explained some reasons but my comment was more of an expression of misunderstanding as to WHY men want to be chased in general. Now fuck off

[@SharonS-S]

Men don't appreciate anything that comes easy. Not chasing anyone. No, thank you.

[@lawrenceotiboateng525]

Then stay single

[@McOofy]

"IDK WhY So MaNy Men wANt to bE ChaSed?" Y'all pretend like you don't line up to be side chicks. Now, with the internet and increased awareness, even average men know that y'all are willing side chicks, so they won't chase. Pretty simple.

[@coolcat3452]

A guy that really liked me did it to me; disappeared for months thinking I would come running but started calling back after 6 months but was too late because I had moved on!! Begged begged & begged; but No thanks!!😂😂😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@rx4207]

I find that a lot of men these days are much more insecure than they used to be. Sure, nobody likes rejection, but to me, when men are soooo terrified to approach a woman in person, and they onlyyyy know how to talk to women online, that's a problem. The art of being able to read one another in person & picking up non-verbal cues is disappearing, the art of courting, the art of romance....oh it's definitely still out there, but you gotta look a lot harder, wade thru a lot more bs than is necessary. In my opinion, but anywayyyy....we all need to get out of our own way sometime. Myself included. Ijs🤔❤️☺️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@ShyBabyxoxo]

💯💯💯💯

[@Nopenottoday2480]

You are so true ❤

[@camirrahcharles2493]

This is so true yet no thanks to the Internet, folks don't know how to hold an actual conversation. Versus hitting enter, delete, swipe left or right. It's one main reason why I took myself off the market for good and these men now days are a true waste of time.

[@kiravampira1456]

They also seem oblivious to women's reactions at their (beyond annoying and almost *always* failed) attempts to be funny. How they keep trying to push their "humour", even if the other person is clearly showing that (s)he doesn't enjoy it, is beyond me.

[@SheritaLee-er4sp]

I once had a dude tell me,he was waiting for me to call him first, we both had each other's number. That was a big turn off for me. If you have to wait for someone else to do something and if you are not that confident to take the lead as a man, then it is not going to work for me. Im use to men taking the lead and making the effort when I show interest.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

Run.

[@irenedagostino9203]

I agree

[@kyleharr10]

She's missing the point

[@Knottyautumn]

I hope you left you would’ve been reaching out first for the whole relationship

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

Yes king. Older people always say, "you're so pretty you must have men hitting on you all the time" and im like.... "y'all know men don't pursue women anymore, right?" it's so annoying. this is the real problem with dating today. a guy and I will be staring each other down all night (at a bar, at a show, at the gym, etc) but they won't come up to me and then I leave going, "oh well". I understand I could go up to him, but why won't he come up to me? Men used to pursue. Now they expect women to pursue them. I hate that shit.

[@kiravampira1456]

You took the "words" right out of my "mouth", and this is *very* uncommon. I can count on the fingers of one hand the comments that I ever fully related to. The more aggressive than passive "Why don't *you* approach them, huh?" question is also beyond annoying. Because that's not our job. Full stop.

[@shayaeido8405]

This

[@georgeworshington4120]

@@kiravampira1456what is your job? Full stop. Also, if you aren’t a virgin you shouldn’t expect this treatment.

[@priyanshramnani1751]

Because we men are faced with so much legal trouble if the girl thinks of it as harassment

[@amyhartnett4374]

Call me old fashioned but if a woman needs to chase man, he isn’t really interested in you. You are not in the right box he put you in already.

[@karenmassey8354]

THIS 🎯

[@alexcoffman4837]

Not Always, but maybe mostly. Unless he is playing hard 2 get 4 real.

[@jan854]

Modern men think they are the prize... I have no issues showing a man I am interested in him, but he needs to make an effort especially in the beginning. I love being loving and special things someone I am interested especially if I care about them. Why can we both treat eachother like prizes?? It's called taking care of eachother ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@lawoman608]

I had a guy who always met me halfway and there was another guy who always wanted me to initiate, all contacts. It got old, because as a woman I do not like to be in the masculine energy all the time. It is not a question of who the prize is, it is a question of who the lady is, and that is me. lol :)

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@YASMINOGBU]

You go girl ❤️🥳

[@Jo.Raquel]

That goes for anyone. I’m always initiating it’s tiring.

[@SarahBaby03]

I’m crying he said have you ever heard of the sassy man apocalypse

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@kurosawagin]

I love Stephan's laugh its always genuine 😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@alexandria3304]

I decided to try a dating app and one time I talked to a guy for a little and decided to exchange numbers. This guy asked me for my social media info. When I told him I didn’t have Instagram he responded with “I don’t think you realize I’m looking for something serious. You not having social media is not what I’m looking for” 😂😂 this generation is so different when it comes to dating. To many games to many rules. To much insecurities to many people are controlling. I enjoy being single

[@prettybrwneyez7757]

What in the world?! Girl run 😂 Block that fool

[@oldaccount6122]

I went on a dating app too and when I was asked for my IG I gave it to them and then they didn’t take me seriously because I had 0 photos BUT I had highlights and I always upload stories. They didn’t understand that I value to be off social apps and to be more in the real life

[@jb-ze1yh]

the whole thing is toxic.. its rampant.. I think men and women need more self reflection and healing. true feminine and masculine dynamics don't need to chase or need to be caught. 99% of humans need more self development so they can actually be in healthy relationships. there is alot of narcissistic behavior and self worth issues in the current dating community.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@jb-ze1yh]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 more self reflection is needed as to why these dynamics occur and more discussion. Thanks for talking about this.

[@kwamd.1461]

💯💯yep, well said

[@Pheonix1111]

I agree with you Stephan 100%. Both the man and the woman are prizes for one another WHEN it is a relationship wherein both individuals are mutually and willingly coming together due to their true, healthy soulmate connection with one another. In my opinion, all other types of couples are a mismatch and a waste of time wherein no one wins and both hearts get unnecessarily broken. I wish people would stop playing games, using people, hurting someone’s heart, and RESPECT one another. God wants us to respect one another.

[@AndiAlexander1]

This is one your best videos ever! Sometimes I comment to disagree with your gender roles perspective, but here you made it clear that needing to chase indicates the person is not really interested, no matter the gender. Bravo.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@kimr1806]

It’s interesting that men want a woman to chase them and fear rejection, yet online or txt wise they have no problem telling you what they want to do your body…How is that not more scary than asking a woman to grab a coffee? We all crave physical touch, but that behavior takes initial attraction and demotes to the ick.

[@kiravampira1456]

Unfortunately it's not really fear. They just don't want to be rejected to their face, especially if there are more people watching, as the pride of most is more frail than a porcelain doll.

[@YASMINOGBU]

Your right! It’s just emotional immaturity

[@nathalie5238]

Horrible isn’t it!! With that behavior I start to believe the only reason for men to live is sex. How sad is this!!!

[@HazelDiamond]

I agree we shouldn’t be chasing anyone, if we both truly like each other chasing is unnecessary, that only shows it’s from fear or they’re playing mind games to try to draw you closer/simply not interested. Also people put way too much ego into relationships, it’s sad how materialistic and self entitled people are nowadays, it’s kinda ruining relationships because people only focus on what they get out of it and what they have to gain rather than just going in with the intention to love and be genuine with one another. I wouldn’t want to be with someone that settles for me because I check all his boxes, nah we need to settle for the type of love where they can’t imagine being without you regardless of your status, role in society, bank account, etc.

[@thatrugreallytiedtheroomto4537]

Amen to this 🙏❤️✨ it’s encouraging

[@blah581]

This

[@alitez960]

Absolutely

[@aliciaponder9004]

Yes

[@aliciaponder9004]

A bank account or status won't help if your sick or need help and if you need a companion

[@atongethompson9345]

I feel that it stated with some women who were really desperate started chasing men and egos went through the roof and men have become used to it.

[@atongethompson9345]

😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@YASMINOGBU]

Yer true

[@AF-gy7vu]

yes you are right all the men think that they are the prize is because of the feedback they see online but just like not all women are considered high value same for men. i never see REAL high value men say they are the prize, its only the low quality dudes that scream and shout that

[@kiravampira1456]

Seen the same. The lower the "quality", the louder they yelled how much of a prize tHeY aRe. If you have to *convince* the vast majority of people of your status, you don't have that status to begin with.

[@georgeworshington4120]

@@kiravampira1456and that’s why you’re single. You are a low value woman with high mileage.

[@lmusima3275]

Women attract men pursue, the women reciprocate and both cultivate a connection

[@goaro2007]

Exactly , need to be reciprocate.

[@atomicgeisha]

A man that doesn't court me doesn't get me.

[@lawrenceotiboateng525]

So be it

[@garden_dork]

Meow meow your future is meow

[@patdo4452]

Men do not have to chase anyone. However, a man should be able to take the first step. Once he showed his initial interest, both parties should put in mutual effort. If the woman shows no interest or is playing games, just move on. If you can not step up and be a leader, how do you expect me to follow you in marriage?!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right! Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤

[@adriennea8309]

The problem with many men is they have too many distractions and options. A traditional older woman like myself is not interested in a grown man's drama. Either he wants you or he doesn't. And if he doesn't then he should walk away and let the man through who does. If he feels like he's making a so called effort, he wants the wrong woman. If it's not mutual attraction it's the wrong connection. Period!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@drno1257]

Stop the cap! There is no traditional older woman you'd be snatched very young if you were actually traditional

[@adriennea8309]

​@drno1257 , correct! I was "snatched " at every young age 24, to be exact. My husband passed away several years ago. I have chosen not to remarry not because I don't want to but because it's increasingly difficult to find a mutual attraction.

[@adriennea8309]

​@@MeetStephanSpeakshello Stephan. I believe you sent me a direct link with your number (928) area code. How can I be sure this is you? I would love to chat with you about the above subject and hear the insight you have.

[@wattakesselly6463]

Checkmate!! People always NOT minding their business I see

[@jibarabicha4853]

Very helpful video Stephan! I also appreciated how you exposed the fact that some men seek women they aren’t all that into, because they are seeking certain benefits that come with a committed relationship with a woman. I loved this part because, women have been getting the reverse psychology that they are the ones mainly benefiting from a marriage, when men also benefit in many ways from a legal partnership and most don’t like to admit that. Thank you for being so straight up with us ladies and giving out the hard truths for this video ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@alanaedwards8117]

Thank you for posting this video! Was recently dating someone that checked several boxes for me. Potential for a relationship was there but he did not understand why the man should pursue the woman, etc. He felt that should not be the man's "job" to do this. I decided to part ways, unfortunately. It was nothing personal but his perspective helped me to realize that we had differences in core values. And he was not the person meant for me. He is still a great person, we are just on different dating journeys at the moment.

[@TheLavenderLover]

They've pulled testosterone out of the men in too many ways over the years. So much less from which to choose... and then there's the media brainwashing. smh

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@Victoriaistalented]

What’s crazy is I watch all your content right and read your books. I noticed with my background I will still run and chase until I’m tired and once I’m tired it’s like that person never existed.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

[@carolina7955]

True!!!!!

[@alitez960]

Thats because youre making it too easy,they don't see a challenge,stop chasing

[@aliciabarrington7778]

This is so exhausting 😢. Better I stay single yes.

[@gmeneese]

I recently had this experience with a guy that I have known for many years and the funny thing is one random day we were just talking and after several days of having small talk, he says " I don't chase women".....😐 I'm guessing he wanted me chase him.....NOT . Too funny

[@bananarae9207]

This is completely true and all I've come into contact with 🤦🏾‍♀️ such a shame that there aren't more men out there who want to pursue a woman. It'd make me chuckle if I wasn't single and looking for AN ACtual MAN 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@drno1257]

How old are you?? No man will pursue 30+ years old granny

[@Crgb777]

​@drno1257 you're broke. Get a job.

[@ΜαριαΤσακανικα-π3ω]

Y​@drno1257 you funny that's not true

[@alaalfa8839]

Maybe men expect women to pursue men..... because if they choose a woman by themselves, they dont want to be seen as a bad or responsible guy, or narcissist if the relationship does not work out.

[@zero1188]

To keep it simple, its not that men want to be chased, they just want the woman to show she is interested. Men typically go completely out their way to show the woman he is interested in. All he wants is reciprocation before going all in

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@jb-ze1yh]

Men and women have a right to reject someone in any stage of dating. Just because we show we are interested doesn’t mean the other person has to be interested in us. The entitlement of someone’s else’s attention, time and energy is a good place for a self reflection point. No one is entitled to anyone.. we need to learn that rejection in life is normal. Everyone isn’t for everyone. Just my opinion.

[@yllwtrose4526]

This is where common sense and using one's discernment comes into play. People if they care for one another will show interest. If they are not showing interest address it, if the response is a minimization of the concern or nonchalance then that is your answer. There should never be a point where anyone, man or woman is killing themselves to show affection or interest and the other individual shows none. That is just simple respect and a standard of morals. Lacking those attributes is a red flag. Doesn't mean they are bad people but may signal they are not the person for you.

[@thatrugreallytiedtheroomto4537]

@@yllwtrose4526 your comment is so well said. Thank you for your wisdom! It has helped me today 🕊

[@Fancypolkadots]

True hunters pride themselves off of getting what they want. 💅🏾 Bop me over the head (flatter me) and throw me over your shoulders sir! 😅 #Snatched

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

It’s been 40 plus years and my daddy is still the chaser with my mom. I never chased my husband and never will 😩

[@Mike-sj9si]

I came here after watching that Simon Biles husband interview and after a guy told my sister she "didn't value him" when she wouldn't sleep with him on the first date

[@Florida_gyrl]

Omg! YES Stephan! I have seen that men now are now looking for women to chase them. This is no lie! It IS happening! Very sad and disappointing this is where we have come to, but I’m just happy I’m not in a relationship with any man that refuses to put in the effort and thinks it’s my responsibility to do every thing for him. I’ll pass! And men chasing me - that’s a constant! Men chase me 24/7. It’s annoying no doubt but it just shows you how they feel about themselves and they obviously don’t feel that great if they feel like chasing is the answer. These guys are very insecure, codependent, have low self esteem….its all a turn off. Very sad they feel that way about themselves but they really need to work on themselves instead of chasing someone else and they are not in a good place to entertain a relationship.

[@tshegofatsoapplegreen5757]

You have solved a big mystery with that last point. We didn't understand why a man would chase after us for years, only to dissappoint us. It now makes sense...

[@HalfSweetness]

I loved all of what you spoke of, especially that last line. "Running towards each other...."etc ( that part) ❤ Of course, I agree with this discussion. 👍🏼 Vaild points, Stephan. 💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@HalfSweetness]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks you as well.😏

[@selenachronister9642]

You truly have a great way of making these complex topics easier to understand and implement. I'm ready to try again after putting in time for my own healing and I now see that expressing interest and chasing are NOT identical.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@memereal7807]

Stephan, all this foolishness needs to stop… I agree. We do not need to chase nobody. At a certain age, you will think people have grown up. If two people have a connection, then make a relationship happen….

[@camirrahcharles2493]

You said a mouthful right there. If you're still chasing folk in your late thirties, forties, and fifties; There has got to be a problem. I know for me I'm not chasing no one like a dog chasing someone for a bone. No thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@osamuyii]

Thank you Stephan. You were made for this ministry😊. God bless you ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@MzBrOdUs18]

Social media made men 10x more insecure and afraid to pursue women. Before it, men built up there confidence approaching and pursuing women. This new generation of men don’t exercise this as much so they try to reverse roles to avoid rejection. I have no problem showing a man I’m interested when he pursues but a lot would rather bait you into pursuing them. They want you to ask them out n make the plans..they want you to bring substance to the convo after texting you an emoji. last guy I dated was “shy” it was a big turn off I told him he wasn’t for me. 2 years later I bump into him and he’s complaining about dating & not getting any. So I say I’m sure you can get plenty of women. He’s handsome n the type most women would find attractive here he go “I’m shy” (sucks teeth) this man 40 years old. No confidence. Terrified of women like he’s in high school. It’s a shame.

[@vashtikelly6837]

Happy New Year Stephan❤❤❤ A MAN ISN'T A PRIZE BUT A BLESSING, BECAUSE MY LOVE ISN'T A GAME 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@TheRoadrunz]

Stephan this is absolutely my absolute favorite video on your channel… very very very well said….. worthy of the biggest STANDING OVATION 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much I appreciate that 🙏

[@marlight5750]

Why is it when a man starts to feel attraction towards a woman the man starts to act weird and distant?! I never can get past this point with a man because i reciprocate that energy back and ignore him too, after all that im the one who is a "bit**" it seems I am cursed with men, men only admire me from afar. I truly believe if a man is really into me he will make an effort to at least say "hi" or "good morning" after all the mind games ugh. My grandfather told us women to never chase or pursue a man because it will never work out. Good luck ladies!

[@Lonewolf1997dark]

Lol. There's a 1000 men in your dm saying good morning that you're ignoring. So why should any of us chase? Yall don't like it.

[@Gonehiking89]

In my experience a lot of men/women who aren't ready are going after people who have worked on themselves and are healed and whole, they don't want to do the work themselves but are upset if they're rejected. Who we're with in a relationship affects us in all aspects of our life, I've proven this, and I'm currently working on myself so I can be the best version of myself in a relationship and also healing my mind so I can be in the best position mentally when choosing a mate.

[@septembergray6746]

I think these type of men wanting a chase - are just freaking players. And chasing - I agree with you Stephan, neither of us should be chasing or acting like Prince-Asses! This trend is for the birds on all sides. Thank you!

[@jens8223]

Thank you Stephan for addressing all the bullshit narratives going around in theses ridiculous podcasts. Literally separating men and women and putting them against one another. You’re a real advocate for love. This is positivity I need. It’s sad that I actually have this male friend I have friendly debates with around these topics and this man’s brain is poisoned and he’s still single lol I try my best to speak sense into him because these podcasts don’t even talk about the average woman that’s out here! Tired of seeing these men putting women in a negative light

[@thelifeandbreathofsamantha9878]

Here’s my issue with the whole I am a prize thing. It comes from a place of extreme ego and there’s just no room for that in a long term connection. If you want to say, anything is the prize, the relationship, the connection which involves two people is the prize. But saying that there’s a prize at all makes it seem like there’s something to be won. And anytime there’s something to be one that implies competition in a competition always has the end, right? But love is a journey, so what happens when you supposedly win each other do you say OK that’s it what do we do now or do you take every day as a lesson and create a compassionate journey with each other?

[@yanamoore3028]

Great video. Bringing men and women closer together.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@MelindaBerney-eg5tb]

Always dropping truth bombs... always making me Crack up laughing while I learn. Here's hoping that you find the person to pour all of your amazingness into, you deserve it, Stephan!!!

[@JMeyer1112]

I think there alot more situations out where alot of males have bought into the manosphere ideology, like you said some are afraid to seem weak or vulnerable so even if they like the woman its all about gaining power leverage and juvenile manipulation tactics. I definitely try my best to steer clear of that energy. Steven this was a good video, the Sassy man Apocalypse is real but thank you helping the woman understand it on your end. ❤️

[@alitez960]

No woman should chase,if both connect,its natural

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Most definitely!

[@alitez960]

Another great post stephan

[@michaele5588]

Simone bile pursues his husband? lol

[@alitez960]

@@michaele5588 !!!!!!

[@minnaripatti-terho1275]

You are so right. Woman can have a education, job, incomes, kids on her own and raise them too. So real question is: what he can do to be a partner to her? Being one of her kid to raise or teenager to teach is not right answer. No woman needs or wants to chase a man just for to have another kid on the table to feed. She wants a partner and grow together.

[@positivel5530]

Okay it was one sided my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he couldn’t give me what I wanted. I reached back out and we got back together. This time he introduced me to his family and said he saw marrying me and fell in “love” with me. But things got difficult and we butted heads and argued for a month and then he said I’m not sure about you and I’m no longer in love with you. “ I was strong when you were uncertain, now I need you to be strong”. I need you to put in the effort, the next day he tells me he has gone cold and doesn’t feel heard or understood anymore. A month later he said he wanted out of the relationship and wasn’t sexually attracted to me anymore.

[@alldayeveryday20able]

I will show interest and even make the first move, but if he doesn't respond, I'm done, will never chase or try again. Most likely, those women that will chase you are not going to be your first choice so you will end up settling or single for the rest of your life.

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

When did our world become a hudge STADIUM ? Only games Agape love is never a marathon,it clicks and ignites Chasing is never an indication of love Lions chases it's prey and at times walks away Hi Stephan blessings to u

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@temekamays3041]

Right On! Well said! I ❤ your wisdom & knowledge from our Creator🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@vivianvennicia]

I been saying nobody is the prize. Both people can be the prize if they are sound in mind spirit heart and body. That ain't everybody.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@ericajones4625]

🔥🔥🔥 Yes EXACTLY 💯 Thank you for sharing

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 ❤️

[@claudiavalencia2322]

Great thoughts!! We need more of this!!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@nyasmith-assis5168]

17:00 So true! This right here is pure wisdom and so helpful.

[@melissa_rabbani]

I like your energy Stephan ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@stayitive4343]

'Chasing' vs reciprocating interest is like a cat chasing the lazer (gas) light and never catching any substance in that time. Sometimes what you think you 'caught' is a role in a game for attention/validation not a healthy mutual caring-respectful relationship.

[@EbonyEyes00]

It’s the way some guys approach women that causes us to reject them. 😢

[@verohb79]

The benefits is a good one. I think one guy who despite being overweight and alcoholic but having money and being popular, wants me to chase him so he can brag to common friends that I am after him and puff up his ego even more. Nope, I’m not interested in him with the way he is behaving, especially saying things like “I don’t date single mothers”, trying to manipulate me into thinking he is above me. What a jerk.

[@talexander2302]

I'm weak😂😂😂😂you had to laugh on that one...but thank you for speaking out on this "apocalypse "

[@Soulhearts4ever]

Dont live in fairytale land. If he is making you chase him that's called playing games. Lil boys play games, like hide & seek. grown men are up front about what they want. If you have to chase after anyone it is a sign that they are not ready to be in a relationship. They are scared of commitment or either they don't feel secure enough to be with you. If a woman meets a man and starts noticing red flags about him ( usually immature men) she starts pointing out things about him or his behavior. That's actually how running & chasing starts. One of the person in the relationship is not mature enough to handle the relationship so they run. Like fight or flight when a person is afraid of something or someone either they will fight or flight.

[@shantakoa8596]

Nope never heard of that😮but men do want to be chased especially the ones that cross my path 🤔🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@jacquelinebayonne1580]

Thank you for clarifying that issue.

[@shaunierockett4964]

He just honestly doesn’t care and not serious about the situation at hand, but will entertain you for sex purposes. Was just in a situation like this he begged to be given another chance and did the bare minimum with it, I had to go. Walked away after wasting time (literally) not in the business of wasting precious time at this big ole age!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@shaunierockett4964]

Thank you🙏🏾

[@J.Nycole]

I resonate so much with your mindset and videos. I pray I can see more men like this out in my reality. Thank you for sharing🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@jojomojo1844]

There’s no way on gods green earth I would persue a man.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@kiravampira1456]

Same here. If they are such "prizes" (they're obviously not), they can have other men compete for them.

[@rahmasamir909]

Yes I prefer to leave 😂

[@shanekaervin6733]

Agree 💯 It’s funny that a man would accept a woman chasing him, but when marriage comes into play he then wants to lead! How can a woman submit to a man who can’t even initiate being with her? ‼️ #crazy

[@deardiadem]

They can have themselves at this point. You want to be chased & submitted to in the same breath 😢.

[@kourtney101]

Bravo 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿. If there's a connection there's not a chase.

[@Jo.Raquel]

2:17 most definitely!

[@make_emfall_inlovee]

"The sassy man apocalypse" took me out 🤣🤣🤣

[@Lonewolf1997dark]

What is with this word "Sassy"? It's just a shaming tactic used by women. They use it because we refuse to be their footstool and they have a problem with it.

[@selah_j_19]

Great job with these very complicated subjects 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@selah_j_19]

💜

[@Miss.jounan]

Very interesting content! I’m writing with a guy who I’ve known for 2 years. We met in person and started out as very good friends (we live in two different countries now). He is great and honest. But, not the best when it comes to communication. Some days, I don’t hear from him, which makes me a bit uncomfortable as I don’t know if, he is serious, or not… why is it so hard to find someone trustworthy in today’s generation? Has everyone lost their values? 😢

[@rosewatersweettea]

You don’t hear from him because he expects you to reach out to him first.

[@SL1133DZ]

This was really good!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@cassybeauti]

Okkrrrrrr I see you changing up the background!🙌🏽

[@arleenruiz104]

The way I sighed when I saw this title 😩

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 ❤️

[@eclecticd9953]

I like this. It’s a clear affirmation I still need a lot of healing

[@goaro2007]

If you are not been reciprocated ........... don't chase.....run

[@ArielleLeBean]

Always on time, Stephan!

[@Medietos]

My very experienced family doctor told me that today's humans are more fragile, with less-self-esteem and stability. We also have worse quality food which is weakening. Also beverages, Red Bull f ex and all that coffee. A trauma/Attachment coach says that trauma will reverse our sex roles, gender-natural behaviours according to the male - respectively female hormones.John Gray explains it well too.

[@PREACHYPREI]

Honestly there's just so much brokenness out there but I don't have the time for it. Get therapy like the rest of us and put your best foot forward. Some of us are purpose driven and don't have time to play mommy, daddy, or the therapist. Try Jesus, please don't try me.... Cause Imma leave. 😂 Respectfully. Now when you're my husband that's another story. Imma put my man on my chest and work it out. I'll rock him if necessary too 😂

[@HamdallatAsalam]

😂😂😂😂

[@mariehaugland9996]

I have learned a lot from your videos, so thank you ❤ Love dating and understanding man better 🙌 im happily dating a man 🌹

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing ❤

[@sablekat1984]

Stop approaching women when you’re not healed and ready for a relationship!

[@jazzminejohnsonmba9131]

When he said that some men will put in effort and then say "It's your turn" gave me so much feminine energy. From a biblical perspective, "it's your turn" negates sacrifice. The purpose for relationships is to be a physical & spiritual reflection of the love Christ had for the church. (Eph 5) HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIFE EVEN AS CHRIST ALSO LOVE THE CHURCH, AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT", not He expected something in return. Men who think like this don't understand the assignment. Divorce rates are high, many don't know how to commit in relationships & prime example, worrying about reciprocity as a man.

[@ellebelle222]

Expressing interests and chasing are 2 different things. One comes from a self respecting place and condidence . The other does not.

[@THE_rare_N_Unique]

Sassy 💁‍♂️ azzez 😂 yas 👏 u always on point 😊

[@offairhead]

❤ so much good knowledge here!!!

[@jeanlouisedejesus1548]

this doesn't apply to all we got to realize that each of us had different cultural background. yes we are in modern times but for example me as a filipina we are not accustomed chasing men we let them do work of chasing us instead this likewise applies to high value woman. Chasing is ain't our thing. thank you stephen for your insightful videos!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@Liloleme6091]

Yes! We need each other!! 💞I agree we absolutely need to honor and respect each other as humans! We could both do better and try to be more open and understanding in that we are all just people with feelings and histories all trying to find love, support and kindness. We could all try and be more mindful, and understanding of each other and of ourselves ❤Thank you so much for your great content! I love how your balanced and fair in regards to both sexes.✨🕺💃🏻💞

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate that!

[@ayotfreda5536]

I like your videos Stephen, they are practical and balanced

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you. I appreciate that 🙏

[@pamelabrown2028]

I dont think most men want a woman that chases them, I think it should be equal effort from both parties ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@pameladjackson9088]

Great info ...Thank you for your insight .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@lynettepatrick1170]

Thatcould be anew book. Webalance each other". Love yourwork. Thankyou And ihave failed. But you are the most knowlwdgeable councellorive listened too. I have a few ofyour books andwill buy more .

[@KimberlyButler-tw8iy]

That is so so true couldn't put it know other way 💯❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@daishahall2139]

I think when women say we are the prize we are saying that we don’t pursue a man at first sight, we expect the man to “be brave” and make the first move. making the first move as a woman like asking a man on a date just isn’t feminine. But men are taking in the wrong direction thinking that we want them to chase us while we do 0 work as a woman because of their past trauma with women who used them. That is not what we mean when we say we are the prize.

[@allygirls1]

I agree. These kitties want to be treated like princesses. Time to man up!