Why Millennials Aren't Getting Married & Having Kids

[@mutterdrachen33]

I can barely take care of myself, why would I want to take care of another person.

[@kentang1528]

I feel the same way as you...

[@victorialondon664]

Exactly !!! Same here

[@latinsho11]

Exactly, and kids/spouses are just parasites they suck all the energy, time and money out of you. The more people in your life you need to worry about, the more responsibility, and more responsibility = more stress on your life

[@MichaelMyers9092_]

😂😂😂😂 same here I'm in single and no kids and can barely pay my rent!

[@landofashley]

More ppl should think like this!

[@thewarrior6784]

I'm a millenial. And I swore to myself, as long as I'm not GENUINELY happy and financially secure, I will not have kids. I don't want them to suffer BECAUSE OF ME, like what happened to me with my parents.

[@ChurlzVA]

SAME. I hated coming back home and seeing my parents stressed out and taking their anger on me. As much as I hate being single, it's better to be that than have a child that would later resent you in the future.

[@thewarrior6784]

@@ChurlzVA EXACTLY! You get it! It's good to see I'm not the only one who understands something as basic as this!

[@ChurlzVA]

@@thewarrior6784 Trust me, there's unfortunately a lot of us. :( Ah well, therapy helps lol

[@thewarrior6784]

@@ChurlzVA but the positive side is that with or without kids, we break the cycle of perpetual problems being passed down from one generation to the next. That to me is a good thing regardless of how it's done.

[@ChurlzVA]

@@thewarrior6784 A-fucking-men.

[@tybarker5038]

I feel like most of us come from broken families and overall marriage just seems like a bad deal.

[@dominikaszymaszek45]

So true! Happy marriages are so rare

[@ExoticalT369]

Real talk. ❤️👏

[@sinestatus]

Having children is not a duty; it is an option. I'm a childfree man. I work as a teacher, I love children, but I would never have my own children. I'm perfectly happy childfree. I have plenty of time to do everything I want to do and I am rarely stressed.

[@Kim-vs4vb]

Same story as me, I'm so peaceful and happy , I would like to have a partner but no kids, my sister had 1 that looks just like me and of which I took care of her through her pregnancy and the first 6 years of my niece life day n night, the feeds, cleaning, bathing, ect routine, like she is my kid anyways, but I discovered as I always knew from young it isn't for me, glad I had that " mother experience " but I found no happiness and no fulfillment from it. I felt sad, depressed and worthless, stuck and miserable, had a very real conversation with my parents about it, I was 27. My parents always said if they had my opportunities and were living in these times they would have never gotten married or had kids, can't blame them, when I look back at the super hardships they and us kids went through.

[@sinestatus]

@@Kim-vs4vb At the end of the day you have to be consistent with your essence. There is a lot of social conditioning that drives us to do things that we don't want to do. But if you can be stronger than that and listen to your inner voice, then you will make the right decisions.

[@QilinRider21]

Hear hear!!! 🍻

[@superpippo88]

You are not stressed because of your work

[@sinestatus]

@@superpippo88 Children are stressing too.

[@jamesa9004]

Married for 10 years. Divorce graped. Then under the custody lawsuit for 15 years. It was not worth it. If the younger generation is avoiding marriage, then they are smarter than my generation.

[@davidodimayo9265]

James A I am never getting married.

[@delmanpronto9374]

please share your message good Sir. You are saving lives.

[@Br00ke291]

Yeah. I also find no interest in men and could care less about having kids. Btw I don’t like girls either 😂

[@delmanpronto9374]

@@Br00ke291 women like you are a blessing.

[@SeIfishmachines]

@@Br00ke291 ur aromatic? Aromatic means no romantic feelings like me

[@guitarman813]

Even as a 32-year old, I have no interest in getting married let alone having kids. The latter two just contain too much drama, expense and responsibility that I simply don't want. I'm happy being single but if the right person came along, then I would consider dating and possibly having a relationship with them. But I draw the line there!

[@flofisezer7306]

signing a marriage contract is the worst decision a man will ever make in this day and age

[@elizabethacosta1667]

I'm the same. Never dated, never had kids. But I adore my students, I try my best to be a positive influence in their lives, especially in this uncertain time. Yet... I get the occasional woman in my family, it's never the men oddly enough, telling me how selfish I am for not dropping my career of guiding abd nurturing the next generation to focus on creating my own biological kids.

[@baldwin5510]

@@elizabethacosta1667 no one should tell you how to live your life. Do you

[@binaboop1]

I always find it a better path to be in a relationship I CHOOSE to be in, and continue to choose. Not being STUCK in a marriage after it goes bad.

[@ameygade1977]

Same here bro, I am 28

[@Agnethatheredhairkid]

Born 1959 so far from being a millennial but I actually agree with them for once. I decided at the age of 8 I wasn't having children and decided at the age of 22 that I wasn't getting married. Now 63 and still single and childless. Best decisions I ever made.

[@Jay-vr9ir]

Same here , also born in 59 and agree with everything , that you have mentioned .

[@mjohnson1741]

Awesome, to have some older folks rep!

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Yes, I'm Gen X and I did want a husband and kids. So, that's what I did. But I've always understood different humans have different dreams and NEEDS from life. I'm always happy for ppl when they get to live the lives they want. My two Gen Z kids have never wanted their own kids and I'm kind of relieved. (My children also have high functioning autism so they have a few extra challenges in their lives to deal with).

[@Agnethatheredhairkid]

@@Lokian_Mermaid I, too, am on the autism spectrum (diagnosed at 57) so I get you. Take care, my friend.

[@Granked]

nice u been a coward all ur life the word easy was ur trophy ;)

[@kvjqxzz5905]

Good summary. I also think that this generation has seen their parents and their generation doing very badly in marriage, and they then start to figure out in their teenage years that there should be a better way.

[@ConorSantry]

Yes, for sure, I mentioned this in point number 5 when I spoke about divorce.

[@GruesomePizza1992]

Yea, I lived with both my parents.. Might as well not have. Between witnessing my parents divorce while i was 19 and my interactions with women have left me jaded I suppose toward relationships.

[@7lol2007]

so true! My parents had ugly divorce but they loved each other. I told my mom before, I am never getting married. I will have partner in life but not a husband. I eventually meet my husband playing games together. He was my best friend for a while. I never thought I would meet someone who is so compatible with me. We see each other 24/7 both work from home and married for 5 years I still wake up smiling at him. I lived two exs before him and I never wanted to marry them they were just companion.

[@Feliciatanktop]

Yup, I don’t know anyone with happily married parents. We all grew up hearing our parents saying “we can’t afford that because you cost so much! I could’ve followed my dreams but I had kids!” idk why they’re surprised we don’t want kids and some people don’t even want marriage (like me)

[@flofisezer7306]

signing a marriage contract is the worst decision a man will ever make in this day and age

[@4n6wizard]

My wife and I we don’t have kids and is pretty awesome. We can wake up late on weekends, stay at home, go out and come home late without been worry about anyone, we do not have to be obligate to become friends with the neighbors that have kids 😂🤣🤣

[@unladpinoytv]

@Ted Rocka damnnnn RIGHT!!!

[@nq3526]

Love that

[@QilinRider21]

100%

[@hulCAWmanianUniverse]

Man i want a woman who don't want kids too.

[@QilinRider21]

@@hulCAWmanianUniverse they're out there

[@preethyawesome8278]

I'm 34 and I have seen the way my parents fight and quite frankly, I really don't want to get entangled in that sort of situation. I am the kind of person who would much rather focus on aspects such as career development, travelling the world and just enjoying life. Marriage and kids are definitely not for me. Plus, the world isn't exactly conducive to raising children.

[@Ascendify5]

im 27 i also think same like. u😊

[@DaggerJay9]

I'm 26 and I feel same the way.

[@araventerpriseservicespllc289]

Check out Deborrah cooper on KZbin. She's got a ton of videos on this and other related topics. But she's not for the faint of heart

[@marilynyoh7951]

I hadl step parents. I'm tired of living in a family. It's Toxic.

[@sierraross7613]

I’m 24 and I feel the same way!!! 👏🏽

[@6lu5ky86]

35, never married, no children. I'm really fine with this.

[@scorpionqueen66]

Same here, but I'm 56, single and childfree as well!!! I have absolutely no problem with that or regrets about my PERSONAL choices!!!

[@gizralnork]

You forgot to include that some millennials have to support their retired parents.. financially and emotionally speaking. Making it even more bothersome to add more variables in the complicated life.

[@Samsaraindo]

That happened to me. It was crippling

[@dannysze8183]

single is not bad. I have seen my brother and sister in law. having kids is expensive and time consuming. you might raise a kid who doesn't care about you when you are old. if you save the money and time, you can live comfortably in a senior home when you grow old.

[@whocanitbenow13]

I’m a 40 year old millennial and have never regretted being a bachelorette. Marriage isn’t the end of all problems as people make it out to be.

[@danidiaz2377]

for most women its when the problems start, men feel like they have us trapped and start abusing us and cheating normally after kids and marrige

[@SteveB88]

I’m 34 and every guy I’ve ever talked to that has kids has always said to keep your zipper up. They can’t all be lying…..

[@alucardvekkia3966]

I'm 23, and I honestly can't see myself getting out of my parents' house anytime soon (in my defense, I pay rent, help them with stuff).

[@MrSym519]

Me too

[@forgedwithsteel]

I am 21 and i feel like a parasite 😂

[@everafter2611]

I haven't paid rent in a long time. I do help care for the cats and clean the kitchen but that's it. :/ I've actually been told I try to do too much for the cats but I don't really do anything else...

[@alucardvekkia3966]

@@everafter2611 i get you, and it sounds like you have great parents. you can try doing one new thing every day to help them more, good luck bro 💪🏾

[@TheGoldenPlatoon757]

@@forgedwithsteel How? It's not like you asked them to conceive you into existence.

[@TheDoug88las]

The world is a freaking dumpster fire... You have to be a sadistic monster to bring kids into this Twilight Zone world we live in now.

[@felipesotomayor42096]

Why u have a Pinochet picture on?

[@TheDoug88las]

@@felipesotomayor42096 because I hate communists

[@babym7484]

I hear that!

[@otvoreniUM]

Finally some truth spoken.

[@menartd2618]

@@babym7484 That profile pic matches your comment.

[@wealthyblacksoutherners2616]

People waste so much time on dating, marriage or career. Just get any job, don't matter. Relax, chill out and enjoy life.

[@shan4655]

Well said

[@erikbudrow1255]

I wish I could live like this... I can't justify spending so much of my time doing a job that means nothing to me, then having no time to do the things I love...

[@wealthyblacksoutherners2616]

@@erikbudrow1255 Then you will try to force a woman you really like to be like you.

[@erikbudrow1255]

@@wealthyblacksoutherners2616 How do you figure that? Honest question.

[@bensonodhiambo2224]

i like your outlook of life

[@Rorschach97]

Getting married and having kids is overrated anyway.

[@briancalifornia1]

It's also very expensive have to work harder spend less time with friends and hobbies

[@sonderexpeditions]

I can afford kids as I'm debt free and an engineer. However, not sure I want that life. It looks scary.

[@corylemons7242]

Let’s have a kid 😂😘

[@b-41subject57]

@@corylemons7242 you single bruh?

[@corylemons7242]

@@b-41subject57 I am 😂

[@scorpionqueen66]

I was born in 1966, I'm hardly a millennial, but I'm a single and childfree woman who doesn't regret my choices to be childfree and single, and I enjoy my peaceful and quiet life!!! No regrets whatsoever!!!

[@ExoticalT369]

Your entire reply is relatable. 👑👏

[@Melly16yr10]

Yeah this is very true, what he said. Weddings are expensive, Jobs don't pay enough, Rent is through the roof these days. no joke. Kids are a big resposibility. Yeah the risks of marriage are to big most of the time. My mother got a divorce from my abusive step dad and is now struggling finacially. All because that dickhead took all her savings and spent it on himself.

[@KizombaFusion]

I think you forgot to mention the Paradox of Choice: Nowadays it's so easy to get dates and get into relationships that makes it difficult to settle down with one person as we tend to wonder if there was an even better choice / match.

[@dorout1]

That is clearly not a 'we' thing. That is a modern women thing. Divorce statistics and facts support that truth.

[@adamromero]

Thats really only true of women. Getting a date for the average man is not easy.

[@morenasilvaoficial]

When I think about having children, I immediately get tired. When I look to my sister with only one child, looking much more older than she is, basically living to her child and husband I get sad...Different people, different ways of being happy! Get marry and have children is not an obligation.

[@alyssajones4368]

I love my singleness/childless lifestyle. I'm too career-oriented anyways.

[@4n6wizard]

Nicholas O'Brien there are women that do not feel or wants to be mothers, for example my wife, she never want it to have kids and she was honest from the first time we met, which it was awesome because I told her I didn’t want kids either. We are on our late 30s and we do not feel any regret or we haven’t talk about haven’t kids since we got married. So yes Alyssa you can fight biology 😉

[@alyssajones4368]

@@4n6wizard Props to you and your wife for being honest with each other from the get-go about not wanting kids. And thanks for that, I read his comment but never replied because I have no reason to respond to trolls on KZbin. Waste of precious time and energy 😎

[@marypatton1122]

Me too!

[@alyssajones4368]

@@marypatton1122 Yeah! 🙌🏽

[@alyssajones4368]

@Del Bonte 👍🏼

[@roythousand13]

Childfree Life is the life for me!

[@hugh2hoob668]

Cause our parents were such fuck ups we saw how bad marriage is so we avoid it at all costs

[@QilinRider21]

Tell it brother!! PREACH THE TRUTH!!!

[@jjbb84x]

1) We can't afford it. 2) We're all toxic, broken messes 3) We've seen too many other people touch the stove: we know it burns! We ALL fall into at least one of these categories. And of course, some of us are brave/dumb enough to go for it anyway....

[@lorelei23]

I'm just too depressed lol. I have to work on myself before I even think about bringing life into this world.

[@M3lCHOR]

Don’t bring a kid here if you have mental disorders. Your offspring could be born with a neurological deficit.

[@TheOmahaIntrovert]

I don't like lumping myself in the millennial category because there's usually a negative stigma attached, but alas, I am a millennial. #2 definitely applies to me! My health/fitness and music are super integral to my daily life. Might be considered selfish, but I don't want kids eating up all my time/money. I like my "me" time! Always a risk of divorce from marriage. It is a big fear of many. Great video, Conor!

[@TheKCaryer]

beware of the wall in your 30's

[@jail182000]

Good for you. It is a 99% chance you’d be the one to initiate divorce. You’re beautiful, men=horny won’t divorce you. But good luck with life. Hey are you in a band?

[@Killerkeller-r6j]

The Omaha Introvert ya your right no need for it anymore. I like my “me” time also.

[@LewisBrain]

I have issues getting out and meeting new people anyway. Those I have met in work ect want to play happy familys. I want a stead realtionship and job. I might want children one day but I need someone with life goals like me. I want to kick start my career in the ambulance service. Do a degree. Them emergrate once finding somone.

[@kellykizer6718]

Your honest is so rare but by what you say even if you had a good man you'd be a terrible mother with all your me time talk good choice for you not to be a mother your definitely not mother material or maternal.

[@patricksaxon3983]

You don't have to complete a marriage by having children. It cost money to have children, patience and tollorance.

[@johngalt6838]

What's the point of marriage?

[@GO-cz7cl]

@@johngalt6838 not be alone?

[@johngalt6838]

@@GO-cz7cl most are unhappy and 50% don't last.

[@briancalifornia1]

@@GO-cz7cl Just because you're not married doesn't mean you're alone people have friends and family. The benefit of not being married is you have the freedom to do what you want spend more time with friends family and hobbies.

[@lutherjohnson8205]

@@GO-cz7cl Most people in marriages after a while feel alone. Being alone and being lonely are 2 totally different situations.

[@axelink8283]

My reason is shit is getting harder and I can barely survive just rent is high as hell specially here in NYC.

[@muffs55mercury61]

All this and don't let your parents pressure or bully you into having kids. You do not owe them grandchildren. And having kids because your friends or relatives do is a very bad choice.

[@charmander777]

back in our parents time, graduating from university often means landing a job that keeps you employed for life. nowadays, millennials often work contract jobs and so have a high sense of job insecurity. add to that, an oversupply of degree holders which has diluted the value of degrees (especially liberal arts degrees), student loan debt you mentioned, high housing costs due to speculation in major cities like Vancouver are just some of the reasons.

[@665Kattt]

I don't value the concept of marriage; it seems outdated to me. I never wanted kids so I'm happy. I believe the more free you are the more happy you will be. Statistics from child-free people support this.

[@twiston43]

Answer: Broke and living in a messed up world caused by the Baby-Boomer generation.

[@Tiffanynyc2323]

Exactly I hate them

[@leonx9381]

I agree!!!

[@Doughboy842]

Yup. Sad and very true

[@mjohnson1741]

🎤

[@fuxyews2177]

I'm 31 and I'd never get married and have children, and I've actively decided that im happier being a bachelor than I've ever been in any relationship. Mgtow for life, in effect. I could explain my issues with modern women, relationships and marriage... But everyone reading this would already know everything I'd say...

[@hugh2hoob668]

@Free Agent Gaming yeah milennials arent dumb we saw our parents awful marriages and were not falling for it

[@indiaxlovee]

fux yews nah you just can’t get a good woman 😂 there are plenty of them, they just don’t want you

[@CarlosGarcia-zt3mr]

@n cw Men have nothing to gain from getting married and having kids.

[@kariminalo979]

Get an African/Asian trad wife, they might scream at you and so on but they don't get triggered and end up caring at the end of the day despite all the drama.

[@yonatanmakara6856]

@@hugh2hoob668 i agree. My parents fight argue for stupid things. Like father comes in after cleaning the yard or something chores. My mother just looks and gets mad at him cuz he droping dirt on the floor. He said he clean it up but she makes a bug fuss sbout and whole arguement begins

[@mw9688]

I’m not angry at my parents for bringing me into existence....but I am not having kids. I honestly think bringing someone into existence is the most irresponsible and selfish thing a person can do these days. Honestly...I think half the boomers shouldn’t of had children.....let’s flip a coin....I don’t even care if my folks would’ve been in that half. Would be my problem if I wasn’t here.

[@b-41subject57]

Someone will suffer. I will not have kids to spare them the undeniable torment and suffering that will take place in the future. It might not (and hopefully wont) happen during our lifetime, but your kid, or your childs kids will likely face some HARD times. Only a cruel person would place a child into this asylum we call earth.

[@Doidao-xx5vf]

Fuck that having kids is taking away your freedom I’m spending money on myself not on some brats

[@everafter2611]

Does anybody not notice the prices of everything is skyhigh? Why would we want to have kids when everything is skyhigh? How do you expect us to raise our children when we have nothing? God this makes me emotional. I think about my cats and I feel terrible because I can't afford their medical bills. Oh and the increase of men killing their girlfriends/ wives or women killing their men? The increase is so bad that it makes me not want to date or even have sex. There are other reasons of course but these are the main reasons

[@geoffreyharris5931]

There are too many people in this crowded and expensive world.

[@dougn2350]

Exactly

[@haleefit1]

This is great , I am very individualistic. I’m also scared marriage & having children feels Like a trap .

[@cascadianseagull]

Because it is

[@CT-pv9gu]

Can anyone blame us????

[@Melly16yr10]

Nope not really

[@periottt6896]

Yeah that one old uncle or aunt

[@Stuke51]

Children are expensive and a lot of us have had the idea instilled by boomers that we have to go to college and rack up asinine amounts of debt. 4/10 of my friends are over 100-200K in student loan debt.

[@ichoosemysanity6467]

They paid between 2 and 8 thousand for a bachelor's degree which they could pay off while in college and end up owing literally 25% to 50% of the debt after graduating.

[@bubbercakes528]

I’m so proud of anyone who admits they cannot afford children and then chooses not to. So many feel they must have children and have a right to have children when they cannot take care of them. This is abusive to the children they have. The world is overpopulated anyway.

[@brianna_lynch]

I’m open to getting married, but I don’t want children.

[@Kim-vs4vb]

Me too

[@JoshMcSwain]

Yep

[@hulCAWmanianUniverse]

Same here Brotha.

[@haltdieklappe7972]

Sorry to burst your bubble but zoomers look at the mess that is the millennial generations and are not making the same mistakes. I’m 20 but plan on having lots of kids

[@hulCAWmanianUniverse]

@@haltdieklappe7972 nobody's bursting anyone's bubble, you want to have lots of kids? By all means go ahead. Some of us just aren't parents by nature and can't handle that responsibility, but you seem like ready for parenthood. So by all means nobody's stopping you.

[@jn8922]

I would love to have a family. I didn't have one so imagining cooking dinner for them, and cleaning up after them and watching them grow does tug at my heart strings. A happy loving home with a hive of activity and laughter sounds wonderful (even if there's stress, arguing, crying and the other realities that come with kids). However, I'm not a human factory - I'm not going to push out humans to serve the machine of society. When I look at the world, us ordinary folks are just numbers in a database to feed the machine. Human out - work- consume - pay to be alive and then die (which isn't even free because you have to pay tax until your last breathe). Why would I make humans just so I feel loved and then put them out into an ugly world where they will struggle more than I did? This world isn't good enough for my children so I'm not bringing them to this planet.

[@Anarchizer]

Well... forget about it. We are all fucked.

[@christins.1481]

Smart! A mother said to have children because you want to give love not to be loved.

[@pangkoulee7648]

Sad truth.

[@deadreckoning6288]

That is an honorable choice. I decided the same many years ago. Saw the handwriting on the wall and decided this world wasn't good enough to bring a child into it. Maybe I'd feel different if I had been born in another country but western society is an evil and anti human system.

[@HotBoxnChevys]

I never wanted to be here in the first place, why the hell would i want anyone else to suffer the way i did? Id much rather just stay away from this prism. "I know that feelin' like it's in my family tree"

[@balikbayan832]

You got all the points. That's why I'm still single. If you ask me i focus on become wealthy person. Finding true love or a wife is my least priority. My siblings have their own family and i am the only one single. I am the youngest. Being single person at age 39, i sometimes got bullied and many unpleasant jokes come the mouth of people around me. They say maybe what i am looking for is man not a woman, don't look for a beautiful girl to marry, you should marry now so when you grow old your wife will take care of you, etc. This never ending question why you are not married i always encountered whenever i meet new people. I hope that people respect single person whatever their reason. I am tired explaining. They just don't understand.

[@HaleySmith]

I personally wanted to get married to my husband but we eloped in a small background ceremony and I hired my dress. It cost us barely anything to do it and we are blissfully happy. I love my married life and the fact that I got to change my last name from Smith to Sywak 😂 As for children we've decided we don't want them, there are a number of different reasons why we have decided this and it took us a long time to actually come to a decision but ultimately we want to own property, grow our own food and start an animal sanctuary. I want to write novels, pursue my creative art and be able to travel on a whim and children just don't come into that vision. I fully respect people who want children though, my best friend is a mum of 2 and she absolutely thrives on it, she was always meant to be a mother.

[@reefalkaud4980]

I strongly support you in your decision to not have any children because I never had any children and I don't want any ever whether now or in the future. But most of my sisters are married and do have children surely that's their personal choice. Also, most of my cousins in fact some of them are even much younger than I am are married and have children and that's entirely and absolutely up to them. Everybody has the right to choose in things such as these. Another thing is having children is not just a game you try and that you get bored of and then you try it again. Having children is a serious matter which will change your life forever and if you are not responsible enough or if you can't take care of them or shall neglect them especially if you cannot afford them at all my recommendation or advice in this case don't have children particularly if they will cause for you grief or suffering.

[@Floralcami]

I couldn't agree more! Great to hear there are others out there who feels the same.

[@AmberyTear]

You're wiser than most people out there.

[@sandrasultan190]

And once you get old you realize your husband actually had kids outside the marriage or wants kids when you the wife can no longer bare children 🤨

[@isaacsac5]

Note: lesbian women are not financially reliant on men.

[@MrUnknownuser164]

They're reliant on the government. Which do you think is worse?

[@MrUnknownuser164]

@Renata Rosagov not really, I'm just making a general statement. Leftists are so dependent on support from the state.

[@selenamayfield5165]

Which is why I'm glad I'm not straight

[@Feliciatanktop]

@@MrUnknownuser164 why are you assuming all lesbians are liberal? Or that even all liberals rely on the government? Also isn’t the point of having a good government is one you can RELY on?

[@MrUnknownuser164]

@@Feliciatanktop Obviously there are exceptions. I'm just saying that a big part of the Liberal agenda is increased awareness of the LGBTQ community. Not all Lesbians are Liberal, but a significant part of them are. Also, another part of the Liberal agenda is the increased presence of the State, whether that be through welfare, affirmative action, educational support, etc. For the last point, the role of government is only to be responsible for whatever the individual cannot do, whether that be the national law, declaring war, etc. Social welfare should be the responsibility of the people and not the government.

[@tidy]

People need to think twice before having kids. I don't understand why people feel the need to have children at all.

[@DaggerJay9]

I rather just be alone than be unhappy with being married and have kids let alone dealing with divorce and stuff that's gonna destroy my mental health. On top of that my parents were constantly fighting eachother because my dad can't keep being faithful to her. They are still married but not together. So yeah I have no expectations from men since I'm not into them either. People might think oh " it's phase you'll change your mind in years later" I said nope it won't change anything even if I'm getting older. I'm 26 and still figuring how to survive on my own.

[@scorpionqueen66]

Amen and FACTS!!!

[@MiaCarter7]

Adding on to the “because of women”…a lot of women are also tired of being mistreated and aren’t risking it by dating men.

[@housesing]

I’m in my 60’s, never had kids. No regrets. Population way to big! Too expensive to bring kids into the world.

[@cascadianseagull]

Many of these millennials are still living off of with their elderly parents. I say this as a millennial.

[@Killerkeller-r6j]

If I’m going to be honest no one females/ or males gain anything from marriage or relationship or sex. I’m actually happy with the age I’m born from cause I don’t need to be forced to marriage or anything. I’d rather make money do what I love and die. Sex, relationships, and marrige is keeping us all from the truth it’s all lust and not really love at all.

[@crack0797]

Mgtow is peace.

[@blupyxi5669]

You said it. Have a great life. Goodbye

[@mxws4782]

This is spot on.

[@chelseashamim9148]

Gen z here. Im asexual so dating would be hard and I'm focusing on my career

[@Lioness_Es]

There isn't a thing wrong with that and don't let anyone tell you different.

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

Single childfree life rocks, that's why. I want to continue traveling and really don't have time for the family thing. I can tell you what I WOULD like though, MORE MONEY!

[@Me97202]

_Not_ having children is the _best_ decision I ever made.

[@Doughboy842]

Just look at the crappy dystopian world we live in. Who wants to have kids in a world like this? That and the world is bit over populated as it is.

[@debrameyer1125]

To everyone, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Live and enjoy your life the way you want to. Never let anyone live your life for you, be happy on your own terms. I want that for all of you.

[@kisms8590]

The clarity by which you describe this social trend is outstanding.

[@Lisa-di1wi]

I was born in 1957, and I'm a Baby Boomer. I have never been married. I don't have any kids. And I don't regret it one bit. I was raised in a family of eight kids. Six brothers, one sister, and myself. Four of my brothers are mentally handicapped. But sadly, one of them passed away back in July of 2000. I used to babysit my youngest handicapped brother out in the back of my parents' house when I was a teenager. Because of my family life growing up, and what the Catholic Church teaches us about sex, marriage, family, and relationships, I decided not to get married and have kids. I just love my independence and my freedom. I wanted to work and travel instead. I didn't want to come home to a nagging husband and a bunch of noisy kids. Plus, I didn't have to deal with a bunch of crying and colicky babies, changing poopy diapers, temper tantrums, childcare issues, the kids having problems in school where I have to have teacher conferences, and so forth. I don't have patience with children. And I could go to jail for what I'd do to them. Besides my Catholic upbringing and my family life growing up as well, there are way too many divorces in this country; especially if there's children involved. There are way too many custody battles and arguments over visitation rights. And sadly, these kids today are being brought up in a single-parent household. Even if you get divorced, you still have to pay alimony and child support. And if you don't pay, you'll get hauled off to jail right there. Let's face it. Getting married and having kids is not for everybody. In fact, being single and childfree is a gift. After all, St. Paul says that the single person pleases The Lord while the married person pleases the spouse. I just didn't want to be tied down to a husband and kids, and I don't regret this decision one bit at all.

[@bmanagement4657]

Married with a vasectomy, no kids ever. Once born the child isnt ours anyways so we'll enjoy this adult playground without babies. 10 yrs relationship, 5 yrs married, it's quite great. She pursued me for a year. My wife definitely married down, but seems quite into it. I was surrounded by divorce as a child.

[@bmanagement4657]

@Thanos yeah I was in a relationship and didn't flirt with her, but she kept coming around until my previous relationship naturally fizzled out. Still going strong.

[@Xarkom89]

There's nearly 8 billion of us. The world is FINITE and had finite space. Maybe pump the breaks on the kids.

[@SvengelskaBlondie]

Problem is the third world didn't get the memo, China and India alone are like 3 billion people (funny how 3rd world countries can't stop shitting out more kids).

[@terrasamiddha7024]

Amazing, smart and wise people in the world who become childfree. Childfree is a way to get freedom life. less from suffering.

[@dominiqueharry7436]

You can be a parent and become wise as well.

[@shondathomas7825]

I'm 42 years old and I've been divorced for 13 years. I definitely have no interest in getting remarried. I spent my 20s seeing about a husband and my child. Now that my daughter is almost an adult, it's my time now. To be able just be free and do what I want.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

My boomer dad is out of touch. He says everyone he knows is married and has kids.

[@QilinRider21]

Yeah everyone HE knows.

[@clanaoaarmyofallah2557]

Hes not out if touch millennials are, he is normall.

[@not-even-german4892]

He knows NONE

[@daniellenothmann7534]

I'd like to get married... but I don't want kids and I'm open to the possibility of a relationship that is long term and committed ❤

[@tcampbell1676]

I'm 30 never married nor had children and I do not want children out of wedlock right now I'm focused on career and myself.

[@Alexs23743]

Hi, I'm from the future. You can now add inflation, Covid-19 shenanigans, and the apparent degeneration of public education to this video's list of reasons.

[@theabandonlandscape5579]

I am 37 years old and since I've been 18 I've been dating, nothing but a complete waste of my f****** time. Every girlfriend I've ever had has lied to me about something been cheated on a few times and to be honest with you I just don't give a f*** about getting married or having kids. The amount of effort that takes to get one date that actually shows up it's just not worth it to me

[@Universitas_Salvat]

Same age, and I agree with you.

[@mzla7789]

Staying childfree bc why would I want to clean up after little people and a grown man? preparing breakfast, lunch, and dinner for everyone everyday for for at least 18 years sounds an impossible task. I often get food delivered and rarely cook. Between work and the gym, my life's already hectic, let alone take care of other people. On top of that, there's post partum depression, the physiological changes in a woman's body (aka getting fat, hair loss, gestational Diebetes, pre-eclampsia, saggy boobs, pains of breast feeding, going through a C-SECTION, ("why would I want my body be cut open?" huh-hell to the no!), the hormone surge, loss of freedom, loss of sense of self, loss of sleep, constant worries, sabotage your career to stay home and care for the baby. It's a loss-loss situation for women. Unless she's super rich....then maybe its worth it. In my case, I will NEVER ever want to have children. If ever I will fall head over heels with someone who later on wants to have kids, I will gladly break it off; he aint the one :) I noticed a lot of women are coming out on social media saying they regret being a mom, thank you for being honest!......you have opened my eyes. Now, Im just gonna work and travel. bye.

[@stillsearchin3457]

I live my life for me and pursue what makes me happy and fulfilled. I could care less about getting married and especially having children. Got a vasectomy last year, I don't like the normal life script. I don't see myself fitting into this box..

[@kentang1528]

Everything is costly and expensive especially in a place like Singapore...where the rising cost of living is getting worse each year. So i dont want any of my future kid to suffer and go through all the bullshit i am going through in life now

[@kentang1528]

I might as well die and never existed in the first place...so much better than getting sick and frail and weak in old age...it is bullshit...you are NEVER EVER FREE from the horrible matrix till the day you die...

[@b-41subject57]

@@kentang1528 as sad as that sounds, its the truth.

[@matt.stevick]

November 1982. Great parents and family and upbringing in most regards, I was lucky. Never wanted a kid, I knew it. Thank God I stuck to my feelings and was not pressured into it.

[@matt.stevick]

My adopted dog, Scottie, he is God. :)

[@BeetsArt]

Spot on! All facts stated are true

[@davidodimayo9265]

I have been repeating what you have been saying to people for years. Very well presented video, wish our government understood this.

[@PatronHall]

All of these reasons are true but you're missing some big ones. Life as a single man is greater now than it's ever been. A best case scenario man--in shape, well off, tall etc--would be MUCH better off not getting married, unless he really wants kids. It's overstated how much men want kids. People forget just how many pregnancies were unwanted back in the day. The more marrying age rises, the further you get away from the age where men are dominated by their sex drive. MGTOW often only look at bad marriages/divorces and say "I don't want that." This is obvious. Thing is, if you look at the good marriages, that's not necessarily better than a great single life. When a man finds himself and is doing well, he gains his own form of selectiveness that has the same effect of hypergamy. "If my life is already great, how do YOU add to it?" he can ask of women. Only a VERY few women will provide an answer that makes him go as far to give her a KEY to his HOUSE and the ability to ruin his peace.

[@ConorSantry]

Much of what you said is covered by the second point I made, i.e. individualism. I mentioned that an individualistic person's priorities include things like self-fulfillment, health & wellbeing, and self-actualization. It's by focusing on these that make a single man's life great (and allow him to reach the stage where hypergamy works in his favour).

[@janesmith7744]

But then again ... if I’m this great, beautiful, accomplishment single woman ... why would I want the key to YOUR apartment ... and not someone else’s apartment ... 🤔

[@K4113B4113]

Haha well hopefully because you love being around each other and you can grow as people together. But with a big “I’m so good I’m so successful I’m so beautiful” ego I can imagine that it would be more difficult wether that’s a male or a female ego.

[@deemad2180]

Less stress and the exit costs once married are extremely high.

[@swavekbu4959]

My German Shepherd is my child, and I couldn't be happier. I find humanity to be one big joke, so it makes much more sense caring for another species I have more respect and admiration for.

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

No better dog for loyalty 🥰

[@deadreckoning6288]

Yes, I have a rather low opinion of humanity. Look what they've done to this planet for fk sake. It's irresponsible to bring a child into it unless you have the pieces in place for a human to thrive.

[@qanye]

*1. waste of money* *2. waste of time*

[@MysticMediaYT]

Mgtow leads to a better life.

[@savagesweetheart90]

Raising ONE child between the ages 0-18 costs about $320,000 and just one year of raising one child costs about $18,000 (US) Yea, I'll pass. I'd rather use that money for something else instead of being in debt for the rest of my life. Also, kind of hard to buy a house or anything in this economy. Edit: This does NOT include college

[@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz]

Divorce was very high in 90s-2000s. This has an effect on children’s view on marriage. Many millennials grew up witnessing “multiple” failed marriages and feminist ideology

[@Schwabian]

To narcissistic to have children.. and flat out taking care of themselves.. most have major mental health issues

[@Lioness_Es]

Generations before us have royally f*** this place up! I don't even want to be here most of the time. I will not inflict that upon a poor, innocent child!

[@b-41subject57]

absolutely! Im happy to see comments like this. This world is so F**** up and filled with more bad than good. Why on earth would a sane person want to bring an innocent life into this asylum we call earth? It has to be the cruelest thing to do. My life isnt bad at all, but i realize that earth and its inhabitants have so many issues, that its plain irresponsible to bring a child onto this planet knowing our history, and whats currently going on. Peace and love, and enjoy!

[@essnjora9904]

I really love the way you are explaining things. Very easy to follow, and you get to the point 😊😊.

[@nompilokhanyile8100]

I think I want kids but they just seem like a luxury that only rich people can have now. I always had this dream that if I had kids I wouldn't have them out of wedlock, in a stable home with both parents playing their part. But marriage is so scary. I've never witnessed a healthy happy marriage growing up until now. All I've seen is just toxic unhappy people just waiting for the other one in the marriage to die or couples who've now divorced. And yet they still groom us to be wives one day. Like??? Why would you want me to go through that too?

[@god563616]

Millennial here. People tend to forget the economy is NOT AS FREINDLY AND FLOURISHING as it was as our parents the Baby boomers. Look at the inflation, College debt, Housing market crisis, pandemic every other day issues. A lot of us lost jobs we were working for years to decades during Covid and mentally are tired after the pandemic. Who is really thinking about a family right now? And I am shocked to hear most women want a BILLIONAIRE if that's suppose to be a high standard male. I am someone who lived off a trust fund for almost a decade. I can tell you ALL MEN ARE THE SAME whether you have more money or not. Women want Men who are emotionally available that value them as a woman and not as just an object. That's pretty simple to me.

[@DylanGonzales-gr8nu]

Not all men are the same lol. Stop assuming shit.

[@7lol2007]

My parents had ugly divorce but they loved each other. I told my mom before, I am never getting married. Unless I find someone who I am compatible with I won't marry. I don't need a better husband I just need someone who fits me. It won't be easy. I will have partners in life but not a husband. I eventually meet my husband playing games together. He was my best friend for a while. I never thought I would meet someone who is so compatible with me. We see each other 24/7 both work from home and married for 5 years I still wake up smiling at him. I lived two exs before him and I never wanted to marry them they were just companion.

[@Europa1749]

Not having kids means you can really build up a substantial nest egg for when you're older. You will be able to afford the best care, which includes a top notch senior facility where everything will be taken care of for you. Your meals will be in a beautiful large dining room with people your own age you can chat with. There will be fun activities all week. They will drive you to your appointments. You'll meet lots of people there and make friends. Your apartment will be tastefully decorated and your sanctuary.

[@tej6176]

Its also the combination of nowadays you HAVE to both work to be able to buy the house you can raise kids in and live a comfertable life. Also people dont believe in spending their lives forever with the same person, cause people go through different stages in life and it could or could not be that the same person changes the same way. It can be the case you spend a lifetime with the same person, but if it doesent millenials accept that people can be very diverse and everybody has his own path in life. While back in the days you just worked together in marriage untill the end of times as long as they could. Also i think more people accepted a loveless or sexless marriage and stayed together for financial and more economical reasons. Nowadays for people quality and enjoying life is more important, so when they feel unhappy they leave a partner sooner then back in the days. There was also a shame on a divorce, or a failure stigma. This is luckily not seen like that anymore, its just like "our lives didnt match anymore", or the road we want to go in our lives doesnt match up anymore etc etc. I would say millenials are much more flexible in their minds then the older generation. Millenials also switch jobs more easily. And i think big reason, life is expensive for the millenial and raising kids and marriage just doesent look fun to them because of the responsebility of financially taking care of kids, and working hard but not having enough relax time. So they rather choose a single life with some partners and some traveling and friends, that looks more fun nd appealing to them. Financial costs are so high basicly a millenial struggles to pay everything for themself, so imagine having kids.

[@flofisezer7306]

signing a marriage contract is the worst decision a man will ever make in this day and age

[@docsheed6533]

@ damn right!!!

[@briancalifornia1]

It's playing Russian roulette Divorce is suicidal

[@lumpyspaceloki5075]

Having standards isnt having a too high standard. It's called boundaries

[@alphabravo9999]

Im earning more than what my parents has earned and im 26. Its not just about financial security. Its about the world being ran by lunatics that affects younger generation's family plans. And bec our grandparents already populated the world so much. Even our boomer parents has less children compared to their parents.

[@sirrat7164]

I just wanted to enjoy life I chose never to have kids or get married never regretted one moment I get into a relationship every 10 years and realize why I'm single single life is much easier

[@VhsFrank]

Born in 1996. My life got turned upside down (in a bad way) by Sept 2006 my childhood was over' at 9 years old. I never got to finish the rest of my kid years before 13. All I seem to care about is old stuff from the past. And like old couples will say' never be in a rush to get married. Being married is a big responsibility. And having kids' It's hard work.

[@michaeltran7785]

I have never heard anyone put this issue into words the way that you did. Bravo!